I get that men’s sense of security comes from financial success but to say that it’s the women ,who are being physically and emotionally neglected and having to do all the chores and childcare etc…. ,that must just accept the situation and be more supportive and accepting of the situation is just completely one sided! Why must a women’s well-being have to suffer because a man has issues with the need for financial success? What about a woman’s needs? They’re not important? What a man wants and needs takes priority over a woman’s? I don’t think so! A partnership is 50/50. You support each other. A woman’s life is not less valuable than a man’s. Yes, a woman should support a man while he works and tries to make a success of himself but he also needs to support his woman by showing her affection and making some time for her and his kids. It’s all about COMPROMISE! Why must the woman arrange a surprise date? Why can’t the man do it? She doesn’t know when he has a moment in his busy schedule because he never has time for her. It doesn’t actually take that much to keep a woman happy, yet men always think it does. Just show your woman some attention a few times a week. Make her feel special and thought of. Kiss her, tell her you love her, ask her how she is. Tell her she’s beautiful. Initiate intimacy a couple of times a month . Make a her a coffee, take her out for a quick lunch where you can chat about other things rather than work. Have a laugh together. Just look into her eyes to let her know that you know she still exists. A woman will always give the world back to her man for the little things he does in return that make her feel special. We don’t appreciate feeling like mothers and servants to our husbands. Doing their laundry, food shopping, childcare, cooking and cleaning all the time whilst we ALSO work! No! Your advice about how men are feeling is right, but to expect women ,who are unhappy due to neglect, to be submissive and give the very things to her husband that he himself is starving her of, is just a joke. Any other man who comes along and shows a neglected wife some attention will risk losing her through an affair. And why not? Just as a man has a need for financial success to make him feel more of a man, a woman has need to feel beautiful, sexy, loved and desired. So why aren’t our husbands giving us what we need? Men need to compromise also if they want a happy and loyal wife. It is not a woman’s duty to sacrifice her happiness for a man. And a man shouldn’t expect her to. Wives are not servants. They are life PARTNERS. I love my husband and I appreciate all the hard work he’s doing. I really do! I even help him with his business and encourage him. I show him affection and make sure he has a good diet and so on. But there is a point when men start to just expect this from their wives all the time and exploit it. They don’t even think about what they could be doing for their wives to support them in their roles or to show their appreciation for their support. For women it becomes a thankless task and we become bored and tired and then resentful. Men quite easily become all too consumed with their needs only. They seem to lose the capacity to think beyond themselves and their work. Instead of expecting women to be submissive in order to make a man feel powerful , maybe it’s about time men started addressing their issues and insecurities also instead of just telling women to go and sort out theirs . A successful partnership is when partners work as a team together!
I agree 🙁 & I get it if maybe he does financially support you fully but in this day & age that's rare... women are working as well. & to give affection & support when he's not putting any effort in is like rewarding bad behavior... ugh what happened to men who knew how to treat women in relationships 😕
If you are raising children, you need your spouse home an adequate amount of time because you need help and you need family time. You can’t say “wife, just make yourself more busy so you don’t notice his absence…” we ARE busy and we need him there to be with the family because in part, we are too busy. We want him there with us.
Exactly, it's not a dating relationship where everyone stays on their own home, his advice misses the part of shared home duties and most importantly, emotional needs that a wife/husband
This does not work. I tried all of these things with my husband and all he did was take what I gave him but he still continued to neglect my emotional needs. I've run out of energy now, I feel like it's one sided and I'm chasing after him. I'm withdrawing now and focusing on myself.
These tips are sexist and wife blaming. The fact of the matter is if the husband is a workaholic, that is selfish behavior, and can sometimes lead to emotional abuse. I’m saying this as a mental health counselor. Under no circumstance is it the wife’s responsibility to convince her husband that they are worth it. If you are going through this, this is what you should do: Step 1: Respectfully and lovingly express your concerns to your husband, and ask for what you need. Step 2: If step 1 doesn’t work, you should reach out to his male friend or relative to sternly (with love) give him advice, to wake him up. This is for him to see that if he doesn’t change his behavior l, he’s going to lose his family. Step 3: If that doesn’t work, then marriage counseling must begin. Your spouse should always be the most important person in your life, then kids, then work, then social life, etc.
I needed this advice ten years ago. My husband’s priorities: Work, Social life, Wife, and kids. One day after years of being hyper focus I told him to change his priorities, or I’ll change our relationship. We are still fine-tuning priorities, but at least they are in the correct order. Thank you.
my bf and I recently had a baby. hes been working a lot to get a better position but its like hes barely home and its gotten to the point where I get annoyed when he has to work weekends and overtime. I know I am wrong, but this is my first baby. being the only one with the baby majority of the time is really hard and its hard to not get upset 😢
I would recommend communicating that need in a way that he will understand. Often time, we fall into a pattern of "nagging" our partners which results in them detaching even more. If you feel you have tried everything and they still refuses to invest time in the relationship, I would recommend taking a step back a re-evaluating. - Coach Danny
I lived a double standard. When I use to work my husband demanded that the limite he got home I no longer took any work calls but now that he runs his business he working 24/7 but really it’s more like work 15% and socializing the rest.
Number 1 is key! Thank you! I stopped working recently and I need a passion project to give me that level of confidence and contribution to the world to balance with my VERY busy husband
My husband is a workaholic. I also earn well so I just go on holiday with my friends instead if he’s too busy. I feel he is ambitious because he doesn’t want me to out earn him. He’s freelance and I’m working for big tech. Our relationship is sad though because we’re not doing couple things. His fault for being a boring shit. What about the man changing his own negative mindset? What if he can’t be successful because the woman is able to earn more? Shouldn’t he accept his role as the homemaker?
Hi I'm a wife and me and my husband have not have intimate for almost 3 months now. I don't believe he is cheating but I don't know what can be causing this issue
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@Dunmer Doomer I have but the answers are not answers he give answers like if you don't want me to hold the car just say so or if you call and I don't pick up right away that means I'm cheating I'm not your little kid... you know answers which are not answers but yet phone is with him 24/7 as though he is afraid to put it down. We do not go out as much, we have not been sexually active for 3 to 4 months etc.. The only reason why I leave room for benefit of the doubt is just because if I do call he does answer majority of the time and 90% of the time he tells me where he is going. So do I think he is sleeping around NO do I think he is talking to someone else YES
This video is saying just accept it and get on with it.. but there's no consideration for families where the wife/partner is going non stop 24/7 with kids whilst trying to pursue HER goals too 🤔
My husband rarely at home not because he want to be workaholic and he knows I get lonely at home alone. It just his work place demand him to overwork. Sometimes I feel bad for complaining about such thing as many people are jobless because of corona, but not allowed to take his days off is ridiculous. He is a human, even machine can get over heated if get overworked. He even get into an argument with his manager once because being forced to work at his supposedly day off.
I am in a relationship that my partner works too much. I stopped asking for time and started doing things with people who have time for me. I am not waiting around for scraps of time. If the relationship falls apart, so be it at this point.
To me I would rather him work than be a bumb and broke! My husband over works and when he’s home he’s tired and I’m fine with that. He is hyper focused on his work and business and it motivated me. We are a team and I would rather be doing hard work than not. Our home is beautiful and we have a dog and my dog keeps me company when I’m not working! Lol
Im going to guess you guys havent been together long. Im 10 years in of a workaholic husband and its taken its toll. I married for companionship not stuff.
@@yom12345 wrong. We have been together for 21 years. And we were homeless before living in hotels riding bikes and then continued to work and work together and built our beautiful life we have now! Amazing right. How much you would never know just by reading a text.
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I am a man here and this is true. Completely base my success on the money made. All of my friends feel the same way. When the money isn't there, the wife makes a point to let me know. When I work to much she lets me know that as well. Women literally do not know what they want!! LOL
I get that men’s sense of security comes from financial success but to say that it’s the women ,who are being physically and emotionally neglected and having to do all the chores and childcare etc…. ,that must just accept the situation and be more supportive and accepting of the situation is just completely one sided! Why must a women’s well-being have to suffer because a man has issues with the need for financial success?
What about a woman’s needs? They’re not important? What a man wants and needs takes priority over a woman’s? I don’t think so!
A partnership is 50/50. You support each other. A woman’s life is not less valuable than a man’s. Yes, a woman should support a man while he works and tries to make a success of himself but he also needs to support his woman by showing her affection and making some time for her and his kids. It’s all about COMPROMISE!
Why must the woman arrange a surprise date? Why can’t the man do it? She doesn’t know when he has a moment in his busy schedule because he never has time for her.
It doesn’t actually take that much to keep a woman happy, yet men always think it does. Just show your woman some attention a few times a week. Make her feel special and thought of. Kiss her, tell her you love her, ask her how she is. Tell her she’s beautiful. Initiate intimacy a couple of times a month . Make a her a coffee, take her out for a quick lunch where you can chat about other things rather than work. Have a laugh together.
Just look into her eyes to let her know that you know she still exists.
A woman will always give the world back to her man for the little things he does in return that make her feel special.
We don’t appreciate feeling like mothers and servants to our husbands. Doing their laundry, food shopping, childcare, cooking and cleaning all the time whilst we ALSO work!
No! Your advice about how men are feeling is right, but to expect women ,who are unhappy due to neglect, to be submissive and give the very things to her husband that he himself is starving her of, is just a joke.
Any other man who comes along and shows a neglected wife some attention will risk losing her through an affair. And why not? Just as a man has a need for financial success to make him feel more of a man, a woman has need to feel beautiful, sexy, loved and desired. So why aren’t our husbands giving us what we need?
Men need to compromise also if they want a happy and loyal wife. It is not a woman’s duty to sacrifice her happiness for a man. And a man shouldn’t expect her to. Wives are not servants. They are life PARTNERS.
I love my husband and I appreciate all the hard work he’s doing. I really do! I even help him with his business and encourage him. I show him affection and make sure he has a good diet and so on.
But there is a point when men start to just expect this from their wives all the time and exploit it. They don’t even think about what they could be doing for their wives to support them in their roles or to show their appreciation for their support. For women it becomes a thankless task and we become bored and tired and then resentful.
Men quite easily become all too consumed with their needs only. They seem to lose the capacity to think beyond themselves and their work. Instead of expecting women to be submissive in order to make a man feel powerful , maybe it’s about time men started addressing their issues and insecurities also instead of just telling women to go and sort out theirs .
A successful partnership is when partners work as a team together!
Love your post! Couldn't agree more
Thank you for this! Men have their needs but we also do!!!
OMG THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I HAVE BEEN FEELING LATELY WITH MY SPOUSE!!!
I get give and take, but where is his accountability? If he’s not doing anything to make our time special when he’s not working, then why should I?
Literally couldn't agree more.
100% I feel like this video is about how a woman should support a man that doesn't put any effort in?
Sounds like you’re with the wrong guy girlfriend.
I agree 🙁 & I get it if maybe he does financially support you fully but in this day & age that's rare... women are working as well. & to give affection & support when he's not putting any effort in is like rewarding bad behavior... ugh what happened to men who knew how to treat women in relationships 😕
If he doesnt have time for you he should make the little time special. If he doesnt, just leave!,
Work can be an IDOL no different to any other addiction - addiction to anything causes pain for others You are in relationship with
My workaholic husband would agree with all this.
But I feel like the other spouse still loses because they should have to give to. Its not onesided.
If you are raising children, you need your spouse home an adequate amount of time because you need help and you need family time. You can’t say “wife, just make yourself more busy so you don’t notice his absence…” we ARE busy and we need him there to be with the family because in part, we are too busy. We want him there with us.
Exactly, it's not a dating relationship where everyone stays on their own home, his advice misses the part of shared home duties and most importantly, emotional needs that a wife/husband
This does not work. I tried all of these things with my husband and all he did was take what I gave him but he still continued to neglect my emotional needs. I've run out of energy now, I feel like it's one sided and I'm chasing after him. I'm withdrawing now and focusing on myself.
Can you do a video for men , how to prioritize their woman when they are a workaholic ? Happy wife happy life
Thank you for reaching out. We will work on that in our upcoming videos!
Coach Danny
These tips are sexist and wife blaming. The fact of the matter is if the husband is a workaholic, that is selfish behavior, and can sometimes lead to emotional abuse. I’m saying this as a mental health counselor. Under no circumstance is it the wife’s responsibility to convince her husband that they are worth it. If you are going through this, this is what you should do:
Step 1: Respectfully and lovingly express your concerns to your husband, and ask for what you need. Step 2: If step 1 doesn’t work, you should reach out to his male friend or relative to sternly (with love) give him advice, to wake him up. This is for him to see that if he doesn’t change his behavior l, he’s going to lose his family.
Step 3: If that doesn’t work, then marriage counseling must begin.
Your spouse should always be the most important person in your life, then kids, then work, then social life, etc.
I needed this advice ten years ago. My husband’s priorities: Work, Social life, Wife, and kids. One day after years of being hyper focus I told him to change his priorities, or I’ll change our relationship. We are still fine-tuning priorities, but at least they are in the correct order. Thank you.
my bf and I recently had a baby. hes been working a lot to get a better position but its like hes barely home and its gotten to the point where I get annoyed when he has to work weekends and overtime. I know I am wrong, but this is my first baby. being the only one with the baby majority of the time is really hard and its hard to not get upset 😢
I know what you mean I have a 7 month old and she goes to work with me everyday
you are not wrong! he SHOULD be making time for both of you esp with a new baby, otherwise its not a home.
Some men can’t be helped no matter what you do
How do I have a successful relationship if the other person doesn’t have any time for me? That isn’t a relationship.
I would recommend communicating that need in a way that he will understand. Often time, we fall into a pattern of "nagging" our partners which results in them detaching even more. If you feel you have tried everything and they still refuses to invest time in the relationship, I would recommend taking a step back a re-evaluating.
- Coach Danny
@@HappilyCommitted Thanks
I would just work to much and give him a dose of his own medicine. Equality and equality. Plenty men out there
My workaholic husband wouldnt even notice Im gone.
I lived a double standard. When I use to work my husband demanded that the limite he got home I no longer took any work calls but now that he runs his business he working 24/7 but really it’s more like work 15% and socializing the rest.
Number 1 is key! Thank you! I stopped working recently and I need a passion project to give me that level of confidence and contribution to the world to balance with my VERY busy husband
Why do I have to do all of this ? What is he contributing 🙄
I feel like maybe he should just work less?🤣
My husband is a workaholic. I also earn well so I just go on holiday with my friends instead if he’s too busy. I feel he is ambitious because he doesn’t want me to out earn him. He’s freelance and I’m working for big tech. Our relationship is sad though because we’re not doing couple things. His fault for being a boring shit. What about the man changing his own negative mindset? What if he can’t be successful because the woman is able to earn more? Shouldn’t he accept his role as the homemaker?
Hi I'm a wife and me and my husband have not have intimate for almost 3 months now. I don't believe he is cheating but I don't know what can be causing this issue
Thank you for reaching out. I understand what you're going through. ⭐ Want To Tell Us More About What You Are Going Through? Call Our Hotline Now 👇:786.635.8373
Coach Alex
@Dunmer Doomer I have but the answers are not answers he give answers like if you don't want me to hold the car just say so or if you call and I don't pick up right away that means I'm cheating I'm not your little kid... you know answers which are not answers but yet phone is with him 24/7 as though he is afraid to put it down. We do not go out as much, we have not been sexually active for 3 to 4 months etc.. The only reason why I leave room for benefit of the doubt is just because if I do call he does answer majority of the time and 90% of the time he tells me where he is going. So do I think he is sleeping around NO do I think he is talking to someone else YES
@Dunmer Doomer yeah I suppose you're right
Depends on his age.
Depends on his health.
Depends on his stress level.
Could be drifting away from you so do things to increase your closeness.
This video is saying just accept it and get on with it.. but there's no consideration for families where the wife/partner is going non stop 24/7 with kids whilst trying to pursue HER goals too 🤔
My husband rarely at home not because he want to be workaholic and he knows I get lonely at home alone. It just his work place demand him to overwork.
Sometimes I feel bad for complaining about such thing as many people are jobless because of corona, but not allowed to take his days off is ridiculous. He is a human, even machine can get over heated if get overworked. He even get into an argument with his manager once because being forced to work at his supposedly day off.
This is all well and good but it all seems like playing to his ego... I don't see how this helps anyone but the husband.
I am in a relationship that my partner works too much. I stopped asking for time and started doing things with people who have time for me. I am not waiting around for scraps of time. If the relationship falls apart, so be it at this point.
Wonderfully said ✅💗
This video has really helped me.
I'm glad the video was helpful for you, Aso.
Coach Danny
To me I would rather him work than be a bumb and broke! My husband over works and when he’s home he’s tired and I’m fine with that. He is hyper focused on his work and business and it motivated me. We are a team and I would rather be doing hard work than not. Our home is beautiful and we have a dog and my dog keeps me company when I’m not working! Lol
Just check up on him okay don't be a materialistic woman
@@JIN-fn9gi Good advice but you never really know who the person is behind the post.
@@prissypacheco2860 i guess we never know
Im going to guess you guys havent been together long. Im 10 years in of a workaholic husband and its taken its toll.
I married for companionship not stuff.
@@yom12345 wrong. We have been together for 21 years. And we were homeless before living in hotels riding bikes and then continued to work and work together and built our beautiful life we have now!
Amazing right. How much you would never know just by reading a text.
My boyfriend works too much 😏😐😐 and we are in ldr (two countries) First comment🔥
same here LOL 😂
@@Sunshine-nj8cd it's toxic😶😶
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Thanks a lot for such helpful information 😊😊😊
You're welcome.
Coach Danny
I wish I could do hobbies to distract myself or invest myself but having to take care of a baby makes it hard.
This is so masculine coded 🙄
You must be kidding
I am a man here and this is true. Completely base my success on the money made. All of my friends feel the same way. When the money isn't there, the wife makes a point to let me know. When I work to much she lets me know that as well. Women literally do not know what they want!! LOL
It’s called a happy medium. Workaholism is an addiction just like any other one and an easy one to hide behind.
So reward him for emotional and narcissistic abuse? This is victim blaming
Yikes