working out and meditation along with listening to music before going to work, eating healthy and going to bed early but I still feel drained, extremely low and sometimes lack of motivation. I used to love my job but ever since it all started... i dread going and thinking what way am I going to be treated today with the anxiety coming on as I walk to those doors. I sometimes notice that i get pains in my stomach some mornings and feeling like I'm about to get sick
I am being abused at my job by a supervisor and a co workers and it's taking a toll. I want to quit but I cannot because of my income review for my apartment is going right now and so. Yeah, my co worker attacks me everyday and then says I am the problem. And everyone caters to her which makes no sense. I feel like if I acted that way I would be fired . it's causing me to feel very degraded and sad. I wish people would document abuse more. Mine is hard because of the way she attacks me. Yells and gets aggressive toward me over stuff I didn't do. I thought tha ignoring the bullying would work but it just made her more aggressive. I think she wanted a reaction. Thank you for sharing Micheal.
I know I'm late to the game but what helps me with emotional abusers is I learn how to emotional detach from people who are abusive when they see me not acknowledging them or talking to them and even saying a word not even looking at them that actually helps a lot
In my case, it made the female turn into an obsessed and angry/violent entity. It was super creepy & unsettling to experience. I ended up resigning & immediately contacted a labor law firm. They’re taking care of my case. May God bless us survivors ❤
I am going through it I took off today because I was almost in tears yesterday. I was called the help by my manager. And just her putting me down constantly her hovering on me. I am in healthcare. Abuse and Retaliation a real thing in the workforce.
Sorry bit late. I am also in healthcare. Literally been bullied, scrutinised, micromanaged even for doing a good job but supervisor creating issues when there are literally none. I end up crying and then told to have some self awareness about how my tears make people feel
I was also in healthcare lol. And I had this overweight bully who would throw away my personal stationary out of spite. Stalk me during my breaks, accuse me of being anorexic, and call me stupid loudly if I made a minor mistake. She started to actively sabotage my work and try to humiliate me in front of others. She was genuinely deranged and it saddens me that there are people that awful in the world
Dude, everything you said in this video was correct to a T with my job. I work in the veterinary medicine field and my last job was so toxic, I would have panic attacks almost everyday. Leave balling every week and just feel so unappreciated. So god bless you man!
Thanks for sharing! I really needed to hear this. I currently work at my dream job for an amazing company but the management is very toxic. Its starting to really affect my mental health after years of being there.
I got bullied so badly by a woman at my last job. She ruined it for me. I liked my work. But she would throw away my personal stationary and harass me, try to humiliate, and sabotage my work constantly. She was deranged
I was verbal abused and inappropriately touched by a shiftleader name Sang Fox. I left the toxic after 7 years, I got a new job and my life has gotten better. I'm still dealing with minor PTSD from previous job.
@@michaelmirrorcle9779 I feel a lot more happier at my new job however though my former creepy coworker is possibly stalking me after I get off from work to catch the bus. The thing is though he works at my old job Air Force Dining Facility and I work at Madigan Army Medical center. So I don't why he's taking a vanpool all the way down to the Army base to catch the next bus.
Is this enough to leave my job? "If you don't think this applies to you.. it does" "Your time off may be declined" "No pressure (sarcastically)" "That's a good point thank you but here's why that concerns me" "Can I see everyone's calendar" "Mental health days need scheduled in advance" "Respond to emails within 7 minutes" "I need to apologize for extending too much grace" "Tell me whenever you take a break" Oh and I told my manager about my burnout last week, and she told me to watch a couple puppy videos before getting back to work
Omg that is insane. I hope you're able to successfully transition into another position that's way better for your sanity. Ugh I'm sorry you're dealing with that.
Thank you for bringing this out in this way because no one act like they don't understand or you being negative or super sensitive. I left a government job and they were in my personal life and used it against me. I can't see myself working anywhere because I stayed at a place too long. I did all the complaint channels and it ended up managment was encouged the emplloyees and led person supervisors to be intimidating and conniving and nit-picking at you. I can't get mental help because in my state, this is not a mental condition that needs therapy. sucks , I know
I know exactly how this feels, only they fired me over something that wasn't that bad, but I found out were trying to find anything to get rid of the older ones so they didn't have to pay them as much and could hire new people for less pay and I made a small mistake and they jumped on the chance. I'm glad they did fire me, toxic city, only wish I'd been the one to quit, kind of felt like I got screwed after someone said they cared and they left a penny on the night table, like they used my good nature and my helping abilities and I got nothing in the end. I'm happy in my new job though, realized what a crap hole that place was and being happy and knowing if they keep hiring crappy people because they are cheap, quality will go down and State will nail them. They no longer have any power over me and that is the best feeling ever.
Dude, thank you for sharing that. I want to send you virtual hugs. I hear ya man. I am going through this and I have reached my breaking point. I too have checked out. Ugh. Now comes the hard point of looking for work.
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾 I work in retail and I feel emotionally and professionally abuse by the bad management in the company I work for … Imygonna live the job without finding anything else cause is causing a lot of distress and insomnia for me at the moment. Mediocre managers are the sickness of workplaces environments. God bless you all 🙏🏾
I never worked in my life. But felt with abused most my life. And cause of this I never worked. I was scared of being abused. I find it hard for me to concentrate and deal with people when I'm abused.
Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to send my resignation letter sometime soon. I had/have a boss that is trying to make the job horrible for me too. Overworking, no support, gaslighting / manipulation, scapegoating ….
My last job was a restaurant and my boss (the owner) was awful for my mental health. It took one final breakdown for my therapist to say "yeah.... you need a new job." Thats when i was like "oh damn.... this is really real and its REALLY bad." 6months later i am so good! I still have aftershock like ptsd from her but i am much better off now.
Thank you for sharing your story, it’s really helpful. I didn’t think a workplace could effect my life that much but it really did. The thing that caused a really bad experience for me was that my boss was very presuasive, she somehow make mistakes however she wants and when she’s confronted she kisses ass till she gets away with the, the manager of the company is a really shitty boss, he promotes people who kiss his ass all the time, and I’m the kind of person who can’t fake my personality, I’m very honest but that didn’t actually make it easier for me. I talked to the HR about her but it’s crazy how she gets away with the things she do and she convinces herself that she’s actually doing what’s good for me and she’s very kind and generous. She’s the fucking worst! I’m leaving in two months and I can’t wait for that moment to come and I booked with a therapist because this job damaged me at a time when I was trying to be the best version of myself and heal mentally from childhood abuse, this actually just made things worse for me... Thank you and I’m sending you love ❤️
I'm so glad you're leaving that dysfunctional workplace. And I'm happy you're going to therapy to unpack all that trauma. It's gonna be a difficult but rewarding journey for you. Glad my video could help in a small way.
I work in retail in the Bakery its ALWAYS hat one female coworker who thinks your boss! telling the manager about not getting the job done!! And having to Just to talk to you. I can't stand some female coworkers some of them sneaky asf! I'm learning how not to take things personally or letting my emotions get the best of it me. It's hard lol. Sad reality is that it's mostly the adults who takes advantage of the young ones.
Post covid companies seem to hire then throw a lot of extra duties for the same salary once in. I have been at mine for 9 mths now and they have me doing 3 diff roles for a very low salary, in IT. Yeah, it has taken a toll on my health. Start looking while employed, my advice. It takes months to find new jobs usually. Stay blessed friends. 😎👍
Wow! You stayed in that job for nine years. You are very strong. I’m glad your story has a happy ending. I just started a new job and have to deal with some toxic coworkers. It’s very stressful. Most of the staff are very nice but I’m like I just started this job and have to deal with this crap.
I believe you. I went through a similar situation (link is in my profile). What I fail to understand is if discrimination against someone at work due to Hard work or intelectual differences is considered discrimination by law.
Only recently at my workplace a common bully (who threatens, curses, verbally abuses etc) randomly out of nowhere lashed out with insults at me just because I asked for something. The reaction was so uncalled for. I decided to take it to HR because it was just so wrong on every level. I just hope they make the right decision. I've only been at the place a year.
@@edeloleary2093 bless you x I've just started speaking back as I'm spoken to. Not the best strategy as it can escalate the situation but being nice hasn't worked either. I guess I'm still learning how to deal with assholes ☹️
I tried that before... i was asked by the boss why I treat her that way and nobody else... i was gonna say because nobody treats me like that but I didn't.. unfortunately people like that will never change
Now no one is going back to work and they are all crying about it. Quit your job. Live what’s left of the only short life you get. There is no afterlife and you are wasting time
I'm on my 9th year now & you're describing my experience - I just hired a career counsillor/coach - I'm getting out I used to have a manager like the one you described, when she "retired" I refused to attend the going away gig - when people asked my only answer was, "I don't lie". This was a great vid! 😁 thanks for the hope 🙏
None of us are imagining these things. There really are assholes in every workplace. But people are right- I think detaching totally is the best approach. And if forced to interact short, assertive, non- emotional responses and leave their presence .
I don’t even get treated like I’m human at these jobs and at home as well.. they’ll have unrealistic expectations like( lifting heavy items then mean mug me and call me lazy when I can’t) then when I tell people how I feel about their attitudes towards me i get told I’m being petty or it’s not that serious. Just like at home when I’m tired from having a long day and just want to rest but my family only calls me to move my car but I’m too tired to get up.😢 I’ll get called a “lazy bitch” or they’ll ignore me for weeks on end if I don’t do that one thing. From being abused so much I’m now wanting revenge on people that did me nasty. And it’s crazy how managers will fire me before I get the opportunity to even quit because I didn’t meet their unexpected expectations. If I speak up about how I feel they swear it’s so funny. Anywayysss so I’m leaving for the army soon.🫡
I feel emotionally exhausted and burnt out so much, I really want to quit but having a really hard time finding another job
I work as a waitress
@@edeloleary2093 I used to work in hospitality so i know the strain is intense. Do you have any self-care strategies that you use to decompress?
working out and meditation along with listening to music before going to work, eating healthy and going to bed early but I still feel drained, extremely low and sometimes lack of motivation. I used to love my job but ever since it all started... i dread going and thinking what way am I going to be treated today with the anxiety coming on as I walk to those doors. I sometimes notice that i get pains in my stomach some mornings and feeling like I'm about to get sick
Thank you for sharing this video :)
I am being abused at my job by a supervisor and a co workers and it's taking a toll. I want to quit but I cannot because of my income review for my apartment is going right now and so. Yeah, my co worker attacks me everyday and then says I am the problem. And everyone caters to her which makes no sense. I feel like if I acted that way I would be fired . it's causing me to feel very degraded and sad. I wish people would document abuse more. Mine is hard because of the way she attacks me. Yells and gets aggressive toward me over stuff I didn't do. I thought tha ignoring the bullying would work but it just made her more aggressive. I think she wanted a reaction. Thank you for sharing Micheal.
My heart goes to you.
I know I'm late to the game but what helps me with emotional abusers is I learn how to emotional detach from people who are abusive when they see me not acknowledging them or talking to them and even saying a word not even looking at them that actually helps a lot
Thankyou!!! Very much
In my case, it made the female turn into an obsessed and angry/violent entity. It was super creepy & unsettling to experience.
I ended up resigning & immediately contacted a labor law firm. They’re taking care of my case.
May God bless us survivors ❤
I am going through it I took off today because I was almost in tears yesterday. I was called the help by my manager. And just her putting me down constantly her hovering on me. I am in healthcare. Abuse and Retaliation a real thing in the workforce.
Sorry bit late. I am also in healthcare. Literally been bullied, scrutinised, micromanaged even for doing a good job but supervisor creating issues when there are literally none. I end up crying and then told to have some self awareness about how my tears make people feel
I was also in healthcare lol. And I had this overweight bully who would throw away my personal stationary out of spite. Stalk me during my breaks, accuse me of being anorexic, and call me stupid loudly if I made a minor mistake. She started to actively sabotage my work and try to humiliate me in front of others. She was genuinely deranged and it saddens me that there are people that awful in the world
Dude, everything you said in this video was correct to a T with my job. I work in the veterinary medicine field and my last job was so toxic, I would have panic attacks almost everyday. Leave balling every week and just feel so unappreciated. So god bless you man!
I'm glad you're away from that work environment. It can really be demoralizing.
Thanks for sharing! I really needed to hear this. I currently work at my dream job for an amazing company but the management is very toxic. Its starting to really affect my mental health after years of being there.
thanks for sharing this, i been going thru it myself. very relatable.
I got bullied so badly by a woman at my last job. She ruined it for me. I liked my work. But she would throw away my personal stationary and harass me, try to humiliate, and sabotage my work constantly. She was deranged
This video was so helpful. It's easy to feel alone when you're in this situation.
I wish I could feel better at my job
I was verbal abused and inappropriately touched by a shiftleader name Sang Fox. I left the toxic after 7 years, I got a new job and my life has gotten better. I'm still dealing with minor PTSD from previous job.
That's horrible! But I'm glad you're in a new job.
@@michaelmirrorcle9779 I feel a lot more happier at my new job however though my former creepy coworker is possibly stalking me after I get off from work to catch the bus. The thing is though he works at my old job Air Force Dining Facility and I work at Madigan Army Medical center. So I don't why he's taking a vanpool all the way down to the Army base to catch the next bus.
Yeah that sounds suspicious af. May need to get someone involved.
@@michaelmirrorcle9779 crazy thing is he's doesn't get off until 20:30 and I don't get off until 3:00.
Im a rollercoaster junkie and I can confirm that putting in a letter of resignation is even more thrilling
It's a dopamine rush like none other.
Is this enough to leave my job?
"If you don't think this applies to you.. it does"
"Your time off may be declined"
"No pressure (sarcastically)"
"That's a good point thank you but here's why that concerns me"
"Can I see everyone's calendar"
"Mental health days need scheduled in advance"
"Respond to emails within 7 minutes"
"I need to apologize for extending too much grace"
"Tell me whenever you take a break"
Oh and I told my manager about my burnout last week, and she told me to watch a couple puppy videos before getting back to work
Omg that is insane. I hope you're able to successfully transition into another position that's way better for your sanity. Ugh I'm sorry you're dealing with that.
Thank you for bringing this out in this way because no one act like they don't understand or you being negative or super sensitive. I left a government job and they were in my personal life and used it against me. I can't see myself working anywhere because I stayed at a place too long. I did all the complaint channels and it ended up managment was encouged the emplloyees and led person supervisors to be intimidating and conniving and nit-picking at you. I can't get mental help because in my state, this is not a mental condition that needs therapy. sucks , I know
I know exactly how this feels, only they fired me over something that wasn't that bad, but I found out were trying to find anything to get rid of the older ones so they didn't have to pay them as much and could hire new people for less pay and I made a small mistake and they jumped on the chance. I'm glad they did fire me, toxic city, only wish I'd been the one to quit, kind of felt like I got screwed after someone said they cared and they left a penny on the night table, like they used my good nature and my helping abilities and I got nothing in the end. I'm happy in my new job though, realized what a crap hole that place was and being happy and knowing if they keep hiring crappy people because they are cheap, quality will go down and State will nail them. They no longer have any power over me and that is the best feeling ever.
Me too! Blessing in disguise!
Am currently going through it right now. Got medications on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety. its hell
I'm sorry your workplace is so toxic. Hopefully you have some ways cope until you can get out that place
@@michaelmirrorcle9779 thanks hopefully the medications and alcohol will help
@@dooshimagames I hope u r doin better.
Dude, thank you for sharing that. I want to send you virtual hugs. I hear ya man. I am going through this and I have reached my breaking point. I too have checked out. Ugh. Now comes the hard point of looking for work.
I needed this. Everything you're saying, I'm going through it now brother. I'm so drained.
Do we have the same boss
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾
I work in retail and I feel emotionally and professionally abuse by the bad management in the company I work for …
Imygonna live the job without finding anything else cause is causing a lot of distress and insomnia for me at the moment.
Mediocre managers are the sickness of workplaces environments.
God bless you all 🙏🏾
I never worked in my life. But felt with abused most my life. And cause of this I never worked. I was scared of being abused. I find it hard for me to concentrate and deal with people when I'm abused.
Do what you gotta do to take the best care of you.
Same here. You are my hero.
Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to send my resignation letter sometime soon. I had/have a boss that is trying to make the job horrible for me too. Overworking, no support, gaslighting / manipulation, scapegoating ….
You speak it how it is.
My last job was a restaurant and my boss (the owner) was awful for my mental health. It took one final breakdown for my therapist to say "yeah.... you need a new job." Thats when i was like "oh damn.... this is really real and its REALLY bad." 6months later i am so good! I still have aftershock like ptsd from her but i am much better off now.
I've heard horror stories about working in restaurants. A lot of people I know can't watch The Bear because it's triggering.
Thank you for sharing your story, it’s really helpful.
I didn’t think a workplace could effect my life that much but it really did. The thing that caused a really bad experience for me was that my boss was very presuasive, she somehow make mistakes however she wants and when she’s confronted she kisses ass till she gets away with the, the manager of the company is a really shitty boss, he promotes people who kiss his ass all the time, and I’m the kind of person who can’t fake my personality, I’m very honest but that didn’t actually make it easier for me. I talked to the HR about her but it’s crazy how she gets away with the things she do and she convinces herself that she’s actually doing what’s good for me and she’s very kind and generous. She’s the fucking worst! I’m leaving in two months and I can’t wait for that moment to come and I booked with a therapist because this job damaged me at a time when I was trying to be the best version of myself and heal mentally from childhood abuse, this actually just made things worse for me...
Thank you and I’m sending you love ❤️
I'm so glad you're leaving that dysfunctional workplace. And I'm happy you're going to therapy to unpack all that trauma. It's gonna be a difficult but rewarding journey for you. Glad my video could help in a small way.
I work in retail in the Bakery its ALWAYS hat one female coworker who thinks your boss! telling the manager about not getting the job done!! And having to Just to talk to you. I can't stand some female coworkers some of them sneaky asf! I'm learning how not to take things personally or letting my emotions get the best of it me. It's hard lol. Sad reality is that it's mostly the adults who takes advantage of the young ones.
I really think the females are the worst. Yes there’s a few male bad actors but way more females.
Post covid companies seem to hire then throw a lot of extra duties for the same salary once in.
I have been at mine for 9 mths now and they have me doing 3 diff roles for a very low salary, in IT.
Yeah, it has taken a toll on my health.
Start looking while employed, my advice.
It takes months to find new jobs usually.
Stay blessed friends.
😎👍
Wow! You stayed in that job for nine years. You are very strong. I’m glad your story has a happy ending.
I just started a new job and have to deal with some toxic coworkers. It’s very stressful. Most of the staff are very nice but I’m like I just started this job and have to deal with this crap.
I believe you. I went through a similar situation (link is in my profile). What I fail to understand is if discrimination against someone at work due to Hard work or intelectual differences is considered discrimination by law.
Only recently at my workplace a common bully (who threatens, curses, verbally abuses etc) randomly out of nowhere lashed out with insults at me just because I asked for something. The reaction was so uncalled for. I decided to take it to HR because it was just so wrong on every level. I just hope they make the right decision. I've only been at the place a year.
The same :( I literally cannot handle it anymore been feeling worthless and depressed with no energy to do anything after work
@@edeloleary2093 bless you x I've just started speaking back as I'm spoken to. Not the best strategy as it can escalate the situation but being nice hasn't worked either. I guess I'm still learning how to deal with assholes ☹️
I tried that before... i was asked by the boss why I treat her that way and nobody else... i was gonna say because nobody treats me like that but I didn't.. unfortunately people like that will never change
@@mazzymaz6158 I'm still learning also
8:11 i had the same feeling. I felt like heaven.
Now no one is going back to work and they are all crying about it.
Quit your job. Live what’s left of the only short life you get. There is no afterlife and you are wasting time
This made me laugh so hard 🤣 because working in ATL I have dealt with the worst MANAGEMENT. PPL will literally drain you 😒 🙄
I'm on my 9th year now & you're describing my experience - I just hired a career counsillor/coach - I'm getting out
I used to have a manager like the one you described, when she "retired" I refused to attend the going away gig - when people asked my only answer was, "I don't lie".
This was a great vid! 😁 thanks for the hope 🙏
That's awesome!
None of us are imagining these things. There really are assholes in every workplace. But people are right- I think detaching totally is the best approach. And if forced to interact short, assertive, non- emotional responses and leave their presence .
You know what helps a lot is not giving a fuck, doing your job and minding your business. Learned that over time ❤️🥰💕
I don’t even get treated like I’m human at these jobs and at home as well.. they’ll have unrealistic expectations like( lifting heavy items then mean mug me and call me lazy when I can’t) then when I tell people how I feel about their attitudes towards me i get told I’m being petty or it’s not that serious. Just like at home when I’m tired from having a long day and just want to rest but my family only calls me to move my car but I’m too tired to get up.😢 I’ll get called a “lazy bitch” or they’ll ignore me for weeks on end if I don’t do that one thing. From being abused so much I’m now wanting revenge on people that did me nasty. And it’s crazy how managers will fire me before I get the opportunity to even quit because I didn’t meet their unexpected expectations. If I speak up about how I feel they swear it’s so funny. Anywayysss so I’m leaving for the army soon.🫡
Unrealistic expectations*
Ain't no different in the army sand dynamics. It's human behavior by large