I swing between Imposter Syndrome and what I call Anti-Imposter Syndrome: I'm confident in my ability to Do The Thing, but not confident in my ability to prove to other people that I can Do The Thing.
I went through this with my first "real" job at the psychiatric hospital after I got my bachelors degree, I thought it was based on luck and not actual accomplishments. GREAT VIDEO!
@Kati Morton This couldn't have come at a better time. I started my new job two months ago. I'm a disabled veteran, and only have 5 years experience in the field. The guy I replaced did it for decades, he was amazing, and when I took over and he left, I just kept waiting for the other foot to drop, for someone to realize I'm a sham. I broke down about it yesterday after working a 13 hour shift trying to get things done, I just couldn't understand why my coworkers are so nice to me, even though I'm so slow. It helps to know I'm not alone.
You always judge yourself harsher than the people around you do. So the guy did it for 10 years.Doesn't mean he was better at it than you or as clever , intelligent , practical and self aware as you. So you are slower.Probably means you are more diligent than he was. Don't work yourself to exhaustion .No one works well when tired.Take a break every couple of hours. You will be amazed at how more productive you become. Go home on time.You work to live.Not live to work. Overtime should be done at the beginning of the day .Not when you're exhausted at the end of it.
I experience imposter syndrome a lot. At work, family gatherings, school, with friends, and even in romantic relationships. I didn't know that this feeling had a name. I am so glad to finally put a name to it, knowing that I am not alone and can actually combat it. My next research would be to find ways to use it to my advantage. Thank you so much for such an insightful full video
Yessss. Thank you for making this. As trainees in a PsyD program, this is something that my friends and I struggle with big time on a daily basis. I was actually just talking to my supervisor about it today. It can get in the way of my relationships with my clients too because, in that moment, it can take some of my authenticity out of the room because, even for a minute, I’m more concerned about being perceived as competent than actively listening to what the client is saying and focusing on helping them feel seen and heard. It’s something that I definitely work hard on keeping it in check, but it takes a little extra self-compassion to do so on certain days because it can be so insidiously cyclical in the way it works and the mental acrobatics that I feel we are almost more susceptible to as people who are trained in the study of human behavior lol
Your videos are so informative & well done. I *love* learning & hearing about anything having to do w the brain & disorders etc, it's truly enlightening & fascinating. You're so well spoken & thorough, while still to the point. A lot of ur videos are helpful for me personally, or help me understand how to work w someone I love that experiences these things. As a parent it's really important for me to do better & be better, continue accepting my faults & making changes in life to do tings different bc my son *not* being like me/dealing with & processing trauma w no coping skills, as a grown adult. I wish my parents cared & there were things like this back in the day, but I'm so grateful it exists today. Thank you!
I am a gay man who has been a French teacher for five years now. Despite having studied the language for 8 years before getting into the field, living in France, and having a Canadian-French family, this is still something I struggle with at work every day. I feel like I’m always being tested on my knowledge of the subject from everyone around me, even though I know I’ve passed fluency tests and certifications to get the job that I have. Thank you for making a video on this topic and I’ll be sure to take this advice to heart :)
I actually like the new background for your Videos and even more I like not only you but that your Videos provide some real value and information. Not like a lot of other TH-cam Videos these days. Keep it up, Kati. :)
Just came home from my first day at work since my promotion and this video couldn’t be more fitting to my situation. Thank you so much for this video and for all of your help and guidance. You’re an amazing person helping so many!
Kati Morton oh they will! I start my first post bachelor job as an activity therapist next week. I will have this video in mind that first day for sure.
The reason I love your videos is because I am always trying to better myself and you make psychology easy to understand. When I see something that applies to me I can work on it. I don't see self diagnosis as a problem until medication enters the mix. I read comments about self diagnosing and I honestly don't get it. I don't need anyone to tell me I am depressed or that I have issues with my long deceased schizophrenic mother to see and learn from other people and how they deal effectively with their problems or to get free advice from a professional.
Starting a business is a challenge but I underestimated my personal growth during the process a lot. Right now I struggle more that I probably ever have and this Impostor Phenomenon is not helping at all. I’m glad that this feeling is a real thing and I’m not alone with my experience.
It really resonated with me at the end when you said we don't have to be at our worst to seek help. I do often think, "Well, I've been through worse and survived, so I guess I can get through this too." That's very useful to bear in mind that sometimes getting help is the right choice even if you're not at worst or unable to cope.
I was feeling like this until i got my autism etc diagnoses this spring. I was terrified that People would find out how "wrong" i was and spent all my time trying to fit in by making list on things that seem ok to talk about and i was scared to talk in case i would say something wierd, and i Only laught when other did since i rearly got the joke. My mantra was to say as little as possible and try to mimic people around me. When I got a job i worked and pushed myself to the point that it almosed killed me, and now i have to live with cronic pain and memorie loss and black outs , but even tho i had panic attack and keept throwing up and faint/collapse i didnt slow down because i was so scared to be useless and that others would know that i was to "weak" to do this simple things that was expekted of me. Now im Mutch happier when i know why i work the way i do, even if im a little sad that i had to push myself so far to get something that was not possible for me.
I actually didn't realize this was something I struggle with until I watched this video. I'm a musician, and i've been deaf for my whole life. I went to a performing arts school and excelled in the programs I auditioned for, and am currently excelling in higher music programs in a college with a fantastic music department. Being deaf has made me doubt all my achievements and progress ever since I first picked up the clarinet in 6th grade, and I don't have any way of dealing with it because I didn't even realize that it was more than 'just a musician thing'. I really appreciate this video, and I appreciate the advice you gave. I think it's about time I start dealing with this issue instead of ignoring it. Thank you for making me realize that.
Man I don’t think any video has ever been so relatable. I am finishing up graduate school to become a social worker and I have been struggling a lot with feeling like a fraud like I haven’t learned enough and won’t know what I’m doing once the time comes to actually be a social worker. Your video really helps!
Your videos are such an amazing resource for both personal and educational lives! You have helped me with my personal struggles and with class. Thank you for being you!
Thanks Kati! I started my first job as a counsellor and I felt the exact same way. Riding the ups and downs while remaining grounded. The biggest take away: continuously reaching out. I have recieved so much empowerment and reinforcement of resiliency. Getting happy with work now!
I have struggled with imposter syndrome before, especially when challenged by a subordinate. My depression and anxiety disorder only makes it worse. But when I go back to my leadership skills I've learn, either through life or military experience, I usually find an answer for the negativity. It's finding the courage to face my emotional issues that's the hard part. Great video. I always find your videos useful in my emotional growth. Thank you.
I'm in a chemistry PhD program and I CONSTANTLY feel like I got in by accident and that I'm not qualified to be here. Sometimes to the point where I come up with backup plans for if/when I fail out. Trying hard to fight it and just do my best!
I’m in the same position and I have a constant thought that I only got in because I did research with a certain professor at my school, and with my first year being rocky only enforced this. (I’m also in a chemistry PhD program)
Hey, I tell myself this all the time, but if you made it through, you made it through! Also it's a cliche saying, but I also like "What do you call a chemist who graduated last in their class? Doctor."
Yeah, I just keep on telling myself, if you made it this you can surpass this point, and that there is a reason why you were put on this project. I also heard there are no 'honors' in grad school, because the PhD is an honor.
I was suffering from this mental condition for a very long period of time but then i finally got to know what is it called as and just by knowing the name of my condition I am feeling so much better. Its good to know that there are people like me who struggle with this condition on everyday basis and we all are fighting against it. Maybe it wouldn't be an easy thing but we will get through this together with enough help. It's a process and we should trust our process always
Thank you for this it has given me a lot of comfort to know that other people experience this as well, and that there is a way to overcome this in general
So much yes. Growing up not knowing about my learning disability left me constantly worried my teachers and classmates would find out the "truth", that I wasn't actually smart...that I just worked really hard and had help. It is draining to always have your guard up because of being worried someone would find out you were a "fraud". It still impacts me today but I'm working on it.
I am SO happy I came across your channel and landed on this video! I've been wanting to address my issues, and how I'm overcoming them, on my channel. You have inspired me that I'm not alone. My husband and I actually divorced in 2015 due to my struggle with this. When we met he had three boys, nearly my age, and I had two little ones. We adopted six more beginning 2 years after we were married. I homeschooled, did foster care, helped run our business, dealt with kids with serious issues, basically I tried to hold everything together and was so afraid people would figure out I just wasn't good enough. I imploded. I began cutting and didn't know why. I wanted to flee, and didn't know why. I loved my husband. From the outside we had the perfect life, only I was dying inside. In 2013 I left. The claws at my back were so severe I couldn't let people see I was falling apart. Uh, hello......didn't stop to think people would think that because Moms just don't leave. You've inspired me to tell my story, my real, uncensored story, on my channel. You hit on so many things I've struggled with through the years. In the last couple of years it's all making sense. My husband and I remarried in July of 2017 and in April of this year, 2018, celebrated our 30 year anniversary. I've kind of hinted around on my channel about life as it was, and the aftermath, but haven't really addressed it. I hit a trigger tonight which led me to search out PTSD, panic attacks, etc., and ended up here. A friend suggested I film during a panic attack and for some reason tonight I did. You've given me the strength to begin to tell my story, the real story. Tomorrow I will look at the footage I have of tonight and attempt to put together a video of the during, the triggers, and how I made it through, not only the panic attack, but also going through hell and back. Thank you for your "nudge." Teri
My therapist told me that I always associate my failure as my fault entirely and my successes as luck or because I have help. It really struck me because I didn't even realise I do that all the time. Thanks Kati for the great video as always.
I just discovered you today! Can't stop listening to your vids. They have so much good info, and I really do trust what you are saying.They really got me through my day.So thank you and is it possible to make a video about tactile hallucinations, and what are the worst cases you've dealt with as a therapist. I need more info than just bugs crawling on people.
I am very happy that my therapist I’ve given me books of introduction of psychoanalysis. It’s very exciting that how I can control the irrational thoughts and mind. I have been applying and I notice that I can improve my productivity and avoid my anxiety, depression and complex-PTSD
Thanks, Kati! This is the story of my life. I grew up as a low-income kid in a single parent household to an Asian immigrate mother. I'm starting to learn to accept that I have worked hard, being the first person in my family to go to college and graduate while paid for all schooling. I find that I have to keep reminding myself of these things to verse the feeling of being an imposter and those negative talk.
When you said you may be the only gay man, i almost cried these videos about imposter syndrome really strike a cord even though im one of the first in my family to graduate, as a african american gay minority, i constantly fight a sense of this. These always hit me in my heart. Thank you Kati.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I know my own Imposter Monster shows up each time I stretch so I've learned to see it as a talisman for growth. It is so good to share our experiences to normalize the experience because it's so common. I love your videos. So approachable.
I have never had the information in a video speak to me more than in this one. You’ve completely described my childhood and exactly how I’ve been feeling my whole life. Time to make some changes! Thanks for sharing your video 🥰
Great video Kati! I struggle with this now as a professional. I have worked at the same company for 11 years and am now an equal to the person who I worked for at the young age of 16. I sit in meetings with some of the highest employees of the company (a large company) and I have definitely felt like an imposter a lot over the past couple years. Its so helpful just to know that this is a "thing" and i'm not the only one who struggles.
I found your channel through the Shane series but I just wanted to say thanks for this particular video! I go to veterinary school and remember feeling this exact way as soon as I got through orientation. The part about being told something will be twice as hard for you and feeling like an imposter once you get there is definitely true because we were all told “it’s even harder to get into vet school than medical school” so I personally felt that maybe I just got lucky and was given a spot in the class without truly deserving it. We talk about imposter syndrome a lot but this video really helps explain it in a simple way. I think I’ll send it to our administration so maybe they can show it at future orientations!
Thank you Kati! I just started a Clinical Psychology PhD program and am coming straight from undergrad. Most of my cohort is older than I and has more experience than I do. This makes it very easy for me to feel like I don’t belong here, that I’m not prepared, or like I won’t be taken seriously. I’ve heard of imposter syndrome before, but this video was a helpful reminder and was very encouraging. Thank you for all you do! It is very cool and inspirational to hear so much about your knowledge and experience as a therapist, especially since providing therapy is the part of graduate school that I am most nervous about.
I made a USA high performance volleyball team this summer. One of the top teams in the country for my age group. But I would always tell myself “I don’t deserve this” “am I really good enough to be here?” “What if the coaches regret picking me” thanks a lot for the help Kati! :)
I have experienced this before when I was able to get this job despite not being able to go to college. I felt I shouldnt be there, and that I'm not of capable knowing that most of my coleague have bachelor's degree and whathaveyou. And that thinking kinda hinders me to want more and to get a higher position. I just want to be stagnant. Until my boss gave me no option and gave me a higher position I didnt want to apply for, and I never knew I could do it, but I did. Self-talk really helps. Up to now, I'm still struggling to believe I am capable but remembering people who believed in me really help to boost confidence and belief in myself. So thank you so much for this... I never knew I needed this til now.
i'm 67 years old and can't remember ever not feeling like I was in way over my head and was going to be found out any minute. Except, that is, for a few state legislative sessions where I worked as a committee secretary and actually felt like I was doing a good job, even though I was working about 70 or 80 hours a week to do it. After a few sessions, though, I developed an essential tremor and couldn't work on the computer (still can't) without experiencing double vision and had to quit that job. So now I'm right back to feeling in over my head. My mother died last year and named me as her successor trustee. I am completely overwhelmed and don't see what to do about it. After watching this video, the only thing in my life that could possibly be a factor is that up through my first 2 hears at college my mother always told me how smart I was, how talented and capable I was, and that I had to tell my father about every accomplishment. I hated doing that because he would say that was nice, but that it didn't mean anything and that it was unbecoming to "toot my own horn." He told me I would never think anything, say anything, or do anything that hadn't been thought, said, or done thousands of times before. Oh, well. Yes, I have experienced this, but, in 67 years, have not been able to overcome it. I'll read the comments to see if anyone has any suggestions I can use. Thanks.
I know this video is over a year old but it's still relevant today. Going through this right now and trying to find the courage to change my career path. I had never thought about the minority aspect or the strict parents aspect of imposter syndrome. Great video!
Thanks for another great video Kati! For the 2 years since I graduated college I've struggled with not feeling qualified enough to get a full time job. This video reminds me I'm not alone in this.
Thank you so much for this video. I struggle a lot with impostor syndrome and anxiety with my art. It mostly comes from a place of “is what I’m doing right?” And “am I working hard enough?” I feel like it would help me a lot if I could reach out to other artists but this also gives me anxiety.
Hey Katie! I was wondering if you could do a video about medications: pros, cons, if they’re right for you, and how to bring them up with your therapist. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this! I just graduated a couple of months ago with a Computer Science degree and started working right out of school and I feel like I have *no* idea what I'm doing! You talking about when you started in your field resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing your experiences! :)
Timely video for me! I'm starting as a professor in a week but I've never given a class, and I feel like I will fail to teach. But I guess I could keep working on the lessons plan and see how that works! It's true that they wouldn't have hired me if they thought I couldn't do it. And also in therapy I've been working on acknowledging my accomplishments and efforts, but it hadn't hit me that this feeling now for the new job had to do with it. Thank you, Katie.
Thank you Kati for another informative video. I have been in the working world for 30 years and there are still times I feel like an imposter. It usually happens when I stretch myself and try to do something I haven't done before. It has happened when I've worked with companies that I highly respect. I suggest that people shouldn't be too afraid of feeling like an imposter. It's likely you are just stretching yourself toward something new. The suggestions you make in this video to review how you got to this point are excellent. Great job!
Omg that is totally me! I remember thinking to myself in high school that my history teacher thought I was a terrible student, when in fact I was a good student. When I started my career as a newspaper reporter, I was extremely insecure about the quality of my articles. I had doubts about my talent for the first two years. It's only recently that I felt proud and had higher self-esteem. 💕
I've defo felt this at many times in my life. The first time I felt this was when I played hockey with guys..as there was no girl league offered...I overcome that feeling by being the most valuable player and captain of all the teams I played with. But that feeling carries such dread with it. Excellent video.
Awesome video! Gave me a clear understanding of exactly what imposter syndrome is. I've heard of the term but now have a stronger understanding of it! Being a business owner, entrepreneur etc. requires have strong belief and confidence in yourself and constant battle of falling and getting back up. Although I always get back up because I've fallen so much I think I don't belong where I'm at-"Imposter Syndrome"- I for sure struggle with it! I usually find my way to getting past it but it's good to know more about it because I can identify it now and combat it!
Hey Kati I totally have this issue since I am post graduate and my line of work except the best of me. I am being honest here I never thought this is an issue until now thanks to you. Keep up the good work 👍👍
I had no idea this syndrome even existed until my therapist mentioned it in my last session. Thank you for covering this katy. Great timing and so informative as always 😊
I can really relate! I've been sober for ten years, august 1st, but have never been to an aa meeting. I was transfered from the child/youth psychiatry on my 18th birthday to a youth clinic with the main goal of recovering from a frenzy of abuse, neglect, disorders and trauma. And now it just feels like they would judge me and question me for not going!
Wow, I never realised this was a thing. It's something I felt all through my sporting life. But you just gave it a name and validation. Thank you Kati xx.
Sooo relate to this feeling when starting as a therapist! What helped me was that we had lots of supervised placements in our training (mostly groups as it was Dramatherapy, so in the beginning the supervisor was literally with you in the session kinda co-facilitating) and also just reminding myself that we all have to grow into new roles - no one knows everything from the beginning 😅
Good words Katie! Reviewing your own personal self-talk can reveal in fact that you have been lying to yourself about yourself, which is extremely unhealthy...
Thanks for explaining this so well & clearly. I think making lists and focussing on our achievements and qualities everyday is a really good plan as well as getting help from a professional or even talking to someone in your social circle whom you trust will help.
I struggle with this especially in my job, it kind of helps that someone I really respect and look up to where I work experiences it too and as much as it sucks that she feels it too it’s helpful that someone gets it
Wow!! I needed this! I’m in the process of applying to grad school and already having those feelings of fraud🤦🏻♀️ “what makes me think I can do this?” “I’m not fit to do this!”....
I thought it was just me with this problem! Thank you for making this video and sharing your personal experience with feeling thos way. I really struggled with this after graduating from college and starting my first teaching job.
Thank you Kati. A lot of my anxiety in social situations and work are because i feel like an imposter among them. It's holding me back so bad. It's a topic i could bring up in therapy this week. Thanks for the enlightenment x
Love your videos! They are so interesting, educational and positive. I love you made this video as well! I remember being told “why would they hire you?” And saying that I’ve accomplished nothing in my entire life. Thankfully I knew it wasn’t true and I spoke up against it. Age doesn’t always determine who is right.
I'm halfway through my university degree and I definitely have imposter syndrome. I always knew what it was and I thought I might have it but it wasn't until this video that I've accepted it. I have such a strong feeling of denial of my achievements in school and place so much of them on luck. In this new school year I'm really gonna take time to face on my imposter syndrome head on and be proud of all my achievements. Thanks Kati
Well yesterday I got told I had improved amazingly in my job and I didn't see it so I stressed all night and couldn't sleep. Now I feel like I have to work extra hard to actually meet the level of ability that others say they can see, because I can't see it.
I went to graduate school at 26 in another country, while almost everyone was my age. I already had a 3 years old daughter and a full time job. I graduated within three semesters with honours and struggled all the way through school with that. I felt like no one wants to be my friend because I'm gonna make people feel bad and they will know that I'm anxious almost all the time so I shut myself away and it cause a lot of stress for me. I hope no one has such an ordeal.
I have found that, at least at my university (Australia), your counselling and disability service may be able to link you in with mentoring or peer groups - I went in and within a week I had a specialist mentor and access to social groups, quiet spaces on campus, and supportive people who understood what I was experiencing. It may be worth looking into, especially if you're just beginning university or college, or really anytime! I'm in my final year of undergraduate, so don't feel you shouldn't need these kinds of supports.
Thank you for this! I am currently in my mental health counseling practicum and I suffer from imposter-syndrome thoughts daily. This video was helpful.
I noticed when i was Younger and especially when learning from older teachers Mentors Profs etc IT looked Like Magic what they did, and they seemed so grandiose. Once J started teaching or showing what I learned IT was fun but I never felt Like being this amazing creature
Brilliant! Great timing as always, (how dare you unmask me!) Thank you for sharing your own examples, that adds so much to the message and means an awful lot. I'm going to share this with everyone in my course. You are the best! xoxoxoxoxo
Kati, wanted to stop by and let you know I'm uploading a video you gave me the courage to forward with from watching your video. I'll link to your channel. Thank you again. Teri
I can’t believe I’ve experienced this my whole life and today at age 45 I’m just finding out this is a legitimate and common experience! I have also experienced many recurring nightmares because of it, where I am uncovered as a fraud in my job and don’t actually know anything at all about medicine. I’m shocked that I’ve stumbled across this today!
Wow thank you for this. Sent this to many of my friends because it's so relevant so thank you!!
I swing between Imposter Syndrome and what I call Anti-Imposter Syndrome: I'm confident in my ability to Do The Thing, but not confident in my ability to prove to other people that I can Do The Thing.
That's me
BRUH I feel that so hard
Make a video about the problem with self-diagnosing
lis yessss
Thats a real good idea and an interesting topic.
doesn't she already has one?
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I went through this with my first "real" job at the psychiatric hospital after I got my bachelors degree, I thought it was based on luck and not actual accomplishments. GREAT VIDEO!
Anna Campbell Great to see you here in the comments. Love your channel!
@Kati Morton This couldn't have come at a better time. I started my new job two months ago. I'm a disabled veteran, and only have 5 years experience in the field.
The guy I replaced did it for decades, he was amazing, and when I took over and he left, I just kept waiting for the other foot to drop, for someone to realize I'm a sham.
I broke down about it yesterday after working a 13 hour shift trying to get things done, I just couldn't understand why my coworkers are so nice to me, even though I'm so slow.
It helps to know I'm not alone.
You definitely aren't alone!!! I also hope some of the tools and tips I offered are helpful :) xoxo
You always judge yourself harsher than the people around you do.
So the guy did it for 10 years.Doesn't mean he was better at it than you or as clever , intelligent , practical and self aware as you.
So you are slower.Probably means you are more diligent than he was.
Don't work yourself to exhaustion .No one works well when tired.Take a break every couple of hours.
You will be amazed at how more productive you become.
Go home on time.You work to live.Not live to work.
Overtime should be done at the beginning of the day .Not when you're exhausted at the end of it.
I experience imposter syndrome a lot. At work, family gatherings, school, with friends, and even in romantic relationships.
I didn't know that this feeling had a name. I am so glad to finally put a name to it, knowing that I am not alone and can actually combat it. My next research would be to find ways to use it to my advantage. Thank you so much for such an insightful full video
I am so pleased you’ve made a video covering this. I really suffer with this and it’s awful.
I hope some of the tools and tips I offered are helpful :) xoxo
Yessss. Thank you for making this. As trainees in a PsyD program, this is something that my friends and I struggle with big time on a daily basis. I was actually just talking to my supervisor about it today. It can get in the way of my relationships with my clients too because, in that moment, it can take some of my authenticity out of the room because, even for a minute, I’m more concerned about being perceived as competent than actively listening to what the client is saying and focusing on helping them feel seen and heard. It’s something that I definitely work hard on keeping it in check, but it takes a little extra self-compassion to do so on certain days because it can be so insidiously cyclical in the way it works and the mental acrobatics that I feel we are almost more susceptible to as people who are trained in the study of human behavior lol
Beautifully put.
Your videos are so informative & well done. I *love* learning & hearing about anything having to do w the brain & disorders etc, it's truly enlightening & fascinating. You're so well spoken & thorough, while still to the point. A lot of ur videos are helpful for me personally, or help me understand how to work w someone I love that experiences these things. As a parent it's really important for me to do better & be better, continue accepting my faults & making changes in life to do tings different bc my son *not* being like me/dealing with & processing trauma w no coping skills, as a grown adult. I wish my parents cared & there were things like this back in the day, but I'm so grateful it exists today. Thank you!
Awe thank you so much for this sweet comment Jennie :) And your son is so lucky to have you as his mom :) xox
Well this video hits home pretty hard. Starting a new very high position job tomorrow and have those same feelings.
Good luck! I’m sure you will kick butt!
I hope some of the tips I offered are helpful :) xoxo You got this!!! xoxo
I am a gay man who has been a French teacher for five years now. Despite having studied the language for 8 years before getting into the field, living in France, and having a Canadian-French family, this is still something I struggle with at work every day. I feel like I’m always being tested on my knowledge of the subject from everyone around me, even though I know I’ve passed fluency tests and certifications to get the job that I have. Thank you for making a video on this topic and I’ll be sure to take this advice to heart :)
I actually like the new background for your Videos and even more I like not only you but that your Videos provide some real value and information. Not like a lot of other TH-cam Videos these days. Keep it up, Kati. :)
Thanks!!!! xoxo
Maybe a Beach Theme as Background or something like that would be a good idea for the next Video. I guess its easily possible with green Screen?
I miss the meditating frog...lol
Just came home from my first day at work since my promotion and this video couldn’t be more fitting to my situation. Thank you so much for this video and for all of your help and guidance. You’re an amazing person helping so many!
I struggle with this so much!! I never knew there was a name for it!
I hope some of the tools and tips I offered are helpful!! xoxo
Kati Morton oh they will! I start my first post bachelor job as an activity therapist next week. I will have this video in mind that first day for sure.
Yes! As a grad student I need to reminding myself of this.
Spending a counseling session with you will always make someone feel better. You have a heart and a true rarity, empathy.
you’re videos help so many of us so much, im so glad you make these. i hope you know how amazing you are 💗
Awe thanks for the sweet comment :) xoxo
The reason I love your videos is because I am always trying to better myself and you make psychology easy to understand. When I see something that applies to me I can work on it. I don't see self diagnosis as a problem until medication enters the mix. I read comments about self diagnosing and I honestly don't get it. I don't need anyone to tell me I am depressed or that I have issues with my long deceased schizophrenic mother to see and learn from other people and how they deal effectively with their problems or to get free advice from a professional.
Starting a business is a challenge but I underestimated my personal growth during the process a lot. Right now I struggle more that I probably ever have and this Impostor Phenomenon is not helping at all. I’m glad that this feeling is a real thing and I’m not alone with my experience.
It really resonated with me at the end when you said we don't have to be at our worst to seek help. I do often think, "Well, I've been through worse and survived, so I guess I can get through this too." That's very useful to bear in mind that sometimes getting help is the right choice even if you're not at worst or unable to cope.
You bring up great points about how parenting influences us.
I was feeling like this until i got my autism etc diagnoses this spring. I was terrified that People would find out how "wrong" i was and spent all my time trying to fit in by making list on things that seem ok to talk about and i was scared to talk in case i would say something wierd, and i Only laught when other did since i rearly got the joke. My mantra was to say as little as possible and try to mimic people around me. When I got a job i worked and pushed myself to the point that it almosed killed me, and now i have to live with cronic pain and memorie loss and black outs , but even tho i had panic attack and keept throwing up and faint/collapse i didnt slow down because i was so scared to be useless and that others would know that i was to "weak" to do this simple things that was expekted of me. Now im Mutch happier when i know why i work the way i do, even if im a little sad that i had to push myself so far to get something that was not possible for me.
Sandra Ahlin Check out Kati’s video on females w/ autism! It really helped me!
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I actually didn't realize this was something I struggle with until I watched this video. I'm a musician, and i've been deaf for my whole life. I went to a performing arts school and excelled in the programs I auditioned for, and am currently excelling in higher music programs in a college with a fantastic music department. Being deaf has made me doubt all my achievements and progress ever since I first picked up the clarinet in 6th grade, and I don't have any way of dealing with it because I didn't even realize that it was more than 'just a musician thing'. I really appreciate this video, and I appreciate the advice you gave. I think it's about time I start dealing with this issue instead of ignoring it. Thank you for making me realize that.
Man I don’t think any video has ever been so relatable. I am finishing up graduate school to become a social worker and I have been struggling a lot with feeling like a fraud like I haven’t learned enough and won’t know what I’m doing once the time comes to actually be a social worker. Your video really helps!
Your videos are such an amazing resource for both personal and educational lives! You have helped me with my personal struggles and with class. Thank you for being you!
Awe you are so welcome!!! Happy to help!! xox
Thanks Kati! I started my first job as a counsellor and I felt the exact same way. Riding the ups and downs while remaining grounded. The biggest take away: continuously reaching out. I have recieved so much empowerment and reinforcement of resiliency. Getting happy with work now!
I love that your videos don't have background music. It really helps me focus and feel calm while watching. Thank you for all your videos! ❤
I have struggled with imposter syndrome before, especially when challenged by a subordinate. My depression and anxiety disorder only makes it worse. But when I go back to my leadership skills I've learn, either through life or military experience, I usually find an answer for the negativity. It's finding the courage to face my emotional issues that's the hard part.
Great video. I always find your videos useful in my emotional growth. Thank you.
I love how Katie says welcome. It's cute ad friendly and quirky at the same time.
Your channel is such a positive influence.
I'm in a chemistry PhD program and I CONSTANTLY feel like I got in by accident and that I'm not qualified to be here. Sometimes to the point where I come up with backup plans for if/when I fail out. Trying hard to fight it and just do my best!
I’m in the same position and I have a constant thought that I only got in because I did research with a certain professor at my school, and with my first year being rocky only enforced this. (I’m also in a chemistry PhD program)
Hey, I tell myself this all the time, but if you made it through, you made it through! Also it's a cliche saying, but I also like "What do you call a chemist who graduated last in their class? Doctor."
Yes! It can be so hard!!! I hope some of my tips and tools are helpful when you need it :) xoxo
Yeah, I just keep on telling myself, if you made it this you can surpass this point, and that there is a reason why you were put on this project. I also heard there are no 'honors' in grad school, because the PhD is an honor.
What do you want to do with your chemistry doctorate?
I was suffering from this mental condition for a very long period of time but then i finally got to know what is it called as and just by knowing the name of my condition I am feeling so much better. Its good to know that there are people like me who struggle with this condition on everyday basis and we all are fighting against it. Maybe it wouldn't be an easy thing but we will get through this together with enough help. It's a process and we should trust our process always
Thank you for this it has given me a lot of comfort to know that other people experience this as well, and that there is a way to overcome this in general
I like finally that you put text on this video that we can read while you’re stating it.
So much yes. Growing up not knowing about my learning disability left me constantly worried my teachers and classmates would find out the "truth", that I wasn't actually smart...that I just worked really hard and had help. It is draining to always have your guard up because of being worried someone would find out you were a "fraud". It still impacts me today but I'm working on it.
I am SO happy I came across your channel and landed on this video! I've been wanting to address my issues, and how I'm overcoming them, on my channel. You have inspired me that I'm not alone. My husband and I actually divorced in 2015 due to my struggle with this. When we met he had three boys, nearly my age, and I had two little ones. We adopted six more beginning 2 years after we were married. I homeschooled, did foster care, helped run our business, dealt with kids with serious issues, basically I tried to hold everything together and was so afraid people would figure out I just wasn't good enough. I imploded. I began cutting and didn't know why. I wanted to flee, and didn't know why. I loved my husband. From the outside we had the perfect life, only I was dying inside. In 2013 I left. The claws at my back were so severe I couldn't let people see I was falling apart. Uh, hello......didn't stop to think people would think that because Moms just don't leave. You've inspired me to tell my story, my real, uncensored story, on my channel. You hit on so many things I've struggled with through the years. In the last couple of years it's all making sense. My husband and I remarried in July of 2017 and in April of this year, 2018, celebrated our 30 year anniversary. I've kind of hinted around on my channel about life as it was, and the aftermath, but haven't really addressed it. I hit a trigger tonight which led me to search out PTSD, panic attacks, etc., and ended up here. A friend suggested I film during a panic attack and for some reason tonight I did. You've given me the strength to begin to tell my story, the real story. Tomorrow I will look at the footage I have of tonight and attempt to put together a video of the during, the triggers, and how I made it through, not only the panic attack, but also going through hell and back. Thank you for your "nudge." Teri
My therapist told me that I always associate my failure as my fault entirely and my successes as luck or because I have help. It really struck me because I didn't even realise I do that all the time. Thanks Kati for the great video as always.
I just discovered you today! Can't stop listening to your vids. They have so much good info, and I really do trust what you are saying.They really got me through my day.So thank you and is it possible to make a video about tactile hallucinations, and what are the worst cases you've dealt with as a therapist. I need more info than just bugs crawling on people.
I am very happy that my therapist I’ve given me books of introduction of psychoanalysis. It’s very exciting that how I can control the irrational thoughts and mind. I have been applying and I notice that I can improve my productivity and avoid my anxiety, depression and complex-PTSD
Thanks, Kati! This is the story of my life.
I grew up as a low-income kid in a single parent household to an Asian immigrate mother.
I'm starting to learn to accept that I have worked hard, being the first person in my family to go to college and graduate while paid for all schooling.
I find that I have to keep reminding myself of these things to verse the feeling of being an imposter and those negative talk.
When you said you may be the only gay man, i almost cried these videos about imposter syndrome really strike a cord even though im one of the first in my family to graduate, as a african american gay minority, i constantly fight a sense of this. These always hit me in my heart. Thank you Kati.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I know my own Imposter Monster shows up each time I stretch so I've learned to see it as a talisman for growth. It is so good to share our experiences to normalize the experience because it's so common. I love your videos. So approachable.
Kati is the littest therapist out there, what an icon
This. Is. Me. Thank you so much for this ❤️
You are so welcome :) xoxox
I have never had the information in a video speak to me more than in this one. You’ve completely described my childhood and exactly how I’ve been feeling my whole life. Time to make some changes! Thanks for sharing your video 🥰
Great video Kati! I struggle with this now as a professional. I have worked at the same company for 11 years and am now an equal to the person who I worked for at the young age of 16. I sit in meetings with some of the highest employees of the company (a large company) and I have definitely felt like an imposter a lot over the past couple years. Its so helpful just to know that this is a "thing" and i'm not the only one who struggles.
I found your channel through the Shane series but I just wanted to say thanks for this particular video! I go to veterinary school and remember feeling this exact way as soon as I got through orientation. The part about being told something will be twice as hard for you and feeling like an imposter once you get there is definitely true because we were all told “it’s even harder to get into vet school than medical school” so I personally felt that maybe I just got lucky and was given a spot in the class without truly deserving it. We talk about imposter syndrome a lot but this video really helps explain it in a simple way. I think I’ll send it to our administration so maybe they can show it at future orientations!
Thank you Kati! I just started a Clinical Psychology PhD program and am coming straight from undergrad. Most of my cohort is older than I and has more experience than I do. This makes it very easy for me to feel like I don’t belong here, that I’m not prepared, or like I won’t be taken seriously. I’ve heard of imposter syndrome before, but this video was a helpful reminder and was very encouraging. Thank you for all you do! It is very cool and inspirational to hear so much about your knowledge and experience as a therapist, especially since providing therapy is the part of graduate school that I am most nervous about.
I made a USA high performance volleyball team this summer. One of the top teams in the country for my age group. But I would always tell myself “I don’t deserve this” “am I really good enough to be here?” “What if the coaches regret picking me” thanks a lot for the help Kati! :)
¡Gracias!
I have experienced this before when I was able to get this job despite not being able to go to college. I felt I shouldnt be there, and that I'm not of capable knowing that most of my coleague have bachelor's degree and whathaveyou. And that thinking kinda hinders me to want more and to get a higher position. I just want to be stagnant. Until my boss gave me no option and gave me a higher position I didnt want to apply for, and I never knew I could do it, but I did.
Self-talk really helps. Up to now, I'm still struggling to believe I am capable but remembering people who believed in me really help to boost confidence and belief in myself. So thank you so much for this... I never knew I needed this til now.
i'm 67 years old and can't remember ever not feeling like I was in way over my head and was going to be found out any minute. Except, that is, for a few state legislative sessions where I worked as a committee secretary and actually felt like I was doing a good job, even though I was working about 70 or 80 hours a week to do it. After a few sessions, though, I developed an essential tremor and couldn't work on the computer (still can't) without experiencing double vision and had to quit that job. So now I'm right back to feeling in over my head. My mother died last year and named me as her successor trustee. I am completely overwhelmed and don't see what to do about it. After watching this video, the only thing in my life that could possibly be a factor is that up through my first 2 hears at college my mother always told me how smart I was, how talented and capable I was, and that I had to tell my father about every accomplishment. I hated doing that because he would say that was nice, but that it didn't mean anything and that it was unbecoming to "toot my own horn." He told me I would never think anything, say anything, or do anything that hadn't been thought, said, or done thousands of times before. Oh, well. Yes, I have experienced this, but, in 67 years, have not been able to overcome it. I'll read the comments to see if anyone has any suggestions I can use. Thanks.
i struggle with low self esteem so this happens to me a lot jobs parties family etc......
I know this video is over a year old but it's still relevant today. Going through this right now and trying to find the courage to change my career path. I had never thought about the minority aspect or the strict parents aspect of imposter syndrome. Great video!
Thanks for another great video Kati! For the 2 years since I graduated college I've struggled with not feeling qualified enough to get a full time job. This video reminds me I'm not alone in this.
Thank you so much for this video. I struggle a lot with impostor syndrome and anxiety with my art. It mostly comes from a place of “is what I’m doing right?” And “am I working hard enough?” I feel like it would help me a lot if I could reach out to other artists but this also gives me anxiety.
Hey Katie! I was wondering if you could do a video about medications: pros, cons, if they’re right for you, and how to bring them up with your therapist. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this! I just graduated a couple of months ago with a Computer Science degree and started working right out of school and I feel like I have *no* idea what I'm doing! You talking about when you started in your field resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing your experiences! :)
Wow... I'm constantly trying to prove to myself and others that I deserve my degree and that I am smart enough. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Timely video for me! I'm starting as a professor in a week but I've never given a class, and I feel like I will fail to teach. But I guess I could keep working on the lessons plan and see how that works! It's true that they wouldn't have hired me if they thought I couldn't do it. And also in therapy I've been working on acknowledging my accomplishments and efforts, but it hadn't hit me that this feeling now for the new job had to do with it.
Thank you, Katie.
Thank you Kati for another informative video. I have been in the working world for 30 years and there are still times I feel like an imposter. It usually happens when I stretch myself and try to do something I haven't done before. It has happened when I've worked with companies that I highly respect. I suggest that people shouldn't be too afraid of feeling like an imposter. It's likely you are just stretching yourself toward something new. The suggestions you make in this video to review how you got to this point are excellent. Great job!
Omg that is totally me! I remember thinking to myself in high school that my history teacher thought I was a terrible student, when in fact I was a good student. When I started my career as a newspaper reporter, I was extremely insecure about the quality of my articles. I had doubts about my talent for the first two years. It's only recently that I felt proud and had higher self-esteem. 💕
Great video! LOVE the thumbnail! I cracked up when I saw it, (which prompted concern looks from my coworkers).
I've defo felt this at many times in my life.
The first time I felt this was when I played hockey with guys..as there was no girl league offered...I overcome that feeling by being the most valuable player and captain of all the teams I played with.
But that feeling carries such dread with it.
Excellent video.
Awesome video! Gave me a clear understanding of exactly what imposter syndrome is. I've heard of the term but now have a stronger understanding of it! Being a business owner, entrepreneur etc. requires have strong belief and confidence in yourself and constant battle of falling and getting back up. Although I always get back up because I've fallen so much I think I don't belong where I'm at-"Imposter Syndrome"- I for sure struggle with it! I usually find my way to getting past it but it's good to know more about it because I can identify it now and combat it!
Hey Kati I totally have this issue since I am post graduate and my line of work except the best of me.
I am being honest here I never thought this is an issue until now thanks to you.
Keep up the good work 👍👍
I had no idea this syndrome even existed until my therapist mentioned it in my last session. Thank you for covering this katy. Great timing and so informative as always 😊
I can really relate! I've been sober for ten years, august 1st, but have never been to an aa meeting. I was transfered from the child/youth psychiatry on my 18th birthday to a youth clinic with the main goal of recovering from a frenzy of abuse, neglect, disorders and trauma. And now it just feels like they would judge me and question me for not going!
I'm so happy I stumbled on this, im beside myself, I really needed this
Kati is very chill here!
Watching your videos reminds me to keep a positive mindset about myself! Thank you so much!
Wow, I never realised this was a thing. It's something I felt all through my sporting life. But you just gave it a name and validation. Thank you Kati xx.
So crazy I literally just looked yesterday to see if you had done this topic. Grad school is definitely getting the best of me.
Sooo relate to this feeling when starting as a therapist! What helped me was that we had lots of supervised placements in our training (mostly groups as it was Dramatherapy, so in the beginning the supervisor was literally with you in the session kinda co-facilitating) and also just reminding myself that we all have to grow into new roles - no one knows everything from the beginning 😅
Good words Katie! Reviewing your own personal self-talk can reveal in fact that you have been lying to yourself about yourself, which is extremely unhealthy...
Thanks for explaining this so well & clearly. I think making lists and focussing on our achievements and qualities everyday is a really good plan as well as getting help from a professional or even talking to someone in your social circle whom you trust will help.
I'm starting grad school in a few weeks and this video came at just the right time! Thank you for another informative session!
I struggle with this especially in my job, it kind of helps that someone I really respect and look up to where I work experiences it too and as much as it sucks that she feels it too it’s helpful that someone gets it
I'm in tears watching this video😢thank you so much❤️
Wow!! I needed this! I’m in the process of applying to grad school and already having those feelings of fraud🤦🏻♀️ “what makes me think I can do this?” “I’m not fit to do this!”....
I thought it was just me with this problem! Thank you for making this video and sharing your personal experience with feeling thos way. I really struggled with this after graduating from college and starting my first teaching job.
Thank you Kati. A lot of my anxiety in social situations and work are because i feel like an imposter among them. It's holding me back so bad. It's a topic i could bring up in therapy this week. Thanks for the enlightenment x
Love your videos! They are so interesting, educational and positive.
I love you made this video as well! I remember being told “why would they hire you?” And saying that I’ve accomplished nothing in my entire life. Thankfully I knew it wasn’t true and I spoke up against it. Age doesn’t always determine who is right.
I'm halfway through my university degree and I definitely have imposter syndrome. I always knew what it was and I thought I might have it but it wasn't until this video that I've accepted it. I have such a strong feeling of denial of my achievements in school and place so much of them on luck. In this new school year I'm really gonna take time to face on my imposter syndrome head on and be proud of all my achievements. Thanks Kati
I'm finishing up my first semester as a social work student in grad school, and I'm feeling this frequently!
Kati I have had this a few times. I find self doubting thoughts accompanies it. Positive thinking and assertiveness training can help.
Well yesterday I got told I had improved amazingly in my job and I didn't see it so I stressed all night and couldn't sleep. Now I feel like I have to work extra hard to actually meet the level of ability that others say they can see, because I can't see it.
Thanks Kati. My therapist just told me she senses I have imposter syndrome. All seems so clear now!
I went to graduate school at 26 in another country, while almost everyone was my age. I already had a 3 years old daughter and a full time job. I graduated within three semesters with honours and struggled all the way through school with that. I felt like no one wants to be my friend because I'm gonna make people feel bad and they will know that I'm anxious almost all the time so I shut myself away and it cause a lot of stress for me. I hope no one has such an ordeal.
I have found that, at least at my university (Australia), your counselling and disability service may be able to link you in with mentoring or peer groups - I went in and within a week I had a specialist mentor and access to social groups, quiet spaces on campus, and supportive people who understood what I was experiencing. It may be worth looking into, especially if you're just beginning university or college, or really anytime! I'm in my final year of undergraduate, so don't feel you shouldn't need these kinds of supports.
😍 new background. Also your voice quality is amazing. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you for this! I am currently in my mental health counseling practicum and I suffer from imposter-syndrome thoughts daily. This video was helpful.
I noticed when i was Younger and especially when learning from older teachers Mentors Profs etc IT looked Like Magic what they did, and they seemed so grandiose. Once J started teaching or showing what I learned IT was fun but I never felt Like being this amazing creature
Fabulous video. Thank you so much for sharing from your personal experience!
This says so much and I've never even heard about imposter syndrome it's crazy
Brilliant! Great timing as always, (how dare you unmask me!) Thank you for sharing your own examples, that adds so much to the message and means an awful lot. I'm going to share this with everyone in my course. You are the best! xoxoxoxoxo
i’m crying this is exactly how i feel
Youre such a awesome psych!!cheers for your knowledge my friend!!😊
Kati, wanted to stop by and let you know I'm uploading a video you gave me the courage to forward with from watching your video. I'll link to your channel. Thank you again. Teri
I can’t believe I’ve experienced this my whole life and today at age 45 I’m just finding out this is a legitimate and common experience! I have also experienced many recurring nightmares because of it, where I am uncovered as a fraud in my job and don’t actually know anything at all about medicine. I’m shocked that I’ve stumbled across this today!
sus! 😳