Examples are given of what makes a good confession and several examples of how not to go to confession. Given by St. Martha RCIA team for sacramental preparation.
Thank you very much, very helpful video, very useful information...Would be nice if priests would explain these things in church more often...God bless you all...
What a great video ‼️❤️✝️ Thanks father for the surgical break down as to what’s REALLY going on in a confessor’s world ‼️This has helped me a great deal in my own effort to “ name and tame” all the sins of my life. God bless u 🙏🏼✝️💜💜💜
This was such an amazing video. We are taught as children how to make a confession, but as we get older we still tend to make our confessions as a child. I never thought that just having a conversation from the heart was an actual confession. Thanks so much for doing this.
this is such a great helpful video.. I want to share about the victim/scrupulous thing is from judgemental and abusive people without healthy counseling or healing... i promise.... we get so hung up on it. i grew up being nitpicked for every little thing by my parents and always being forced to apologize and I was physically abused for it, even tho my folks never admitted their own faults. Scapegoat kids bear the guilt and judgement . i was about 5yers old, sleeping on couch at a party full of drunk people, and apearently I woke up to being punch in the face by my father while he screamed at me to get my thumb out of my mouth. i was humiliated and wet myself on those people's couch. That was 40 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday. I know other people like me and we drive people nuts, but also we have a flashing red light **EASY TARGET ** As I recently started back to confession and communion a few months ago (and Im on the spectrum) I struggle with what is and is NOT a sin because people get in my buisness A lot... I have already been harrassed for taking communion even tho I met with the priest TWICE and communion TWICE and was absolved.... SO iM TRYING TO BE GOOD... BUT ITS NEVER GOOD ENOUGH.... YIKES But I dont want to be like this, I promise. This is a friendly helpful video that gives me some perspective to contemplate on and pray about.
@Patricia, I am too and I've been obsessing of how to get the words out to the priest, but after watching several videos of different priests and most especially this video with Msgr. Borski, I'm more at ease. I go to confession tomorrow for the first time in over 3 decades. I'm looking forward to freeing my soul and starting a new life! I don't know if you wrote this in 2013, but I'm writing in May of 2020.
@richard, hey! I did it! I was a little anxious, but Father put me right at ease. We had to do it in the corner of the parking lot of the Church and there was a screen up. He welcomed me back to the Church. Walking back to my car, I felt like jumping up and clicking my heels, (if I could), LOL. It's a big weight off of my shoulders! Please don't hesitate going. God and the priests are happy for us! Has it been a while for you? I jotted down notes so I wouldn't forget anything. Thanks for your interest Richard. We're on the same journey!
I am writing a story, for my own amusement, in which (in a small episode) a Catholic character confesses. This video is very helpful in getting the details as correct as a non-Catholic is likely to manage.
This just came up in TH-cam Suggestions for the Season of Lent 2018. It's brilliant! I've listened to talks on how to make a good Confession, but had never seen Confession modeled. Feedback: It's helpful to see the modeling, because taking the notes (mentally or in writing) from a talk means having to carry it all in mind and try to remember all the "Do's & Don't do's" while participating in the Sacrament. By listening to others model it, it's easier to take away what applies personally, and then to internalize it and "own it," to be able to put it into practice. And in the end, instead of repeating all the instructions to memorize them, I'm contemplating the beautiful message of God's grace, giving thanks for His love and mercy, and for His gift to us of the priesthood, because through His priests, He heals us.
Act of Contrition 7: Father of mercy, like the prodigal son I return to you and say: "I have sinned against you and am no longer worthy to be called your son." Christ Jesus, Savior of the world, I pray with the repentant thief to whom you promised Paradise: "Lord, remember me in your kingdom." Holy Spirit, fountain of love, I call on you with trust: "Purify my heart, and help me to walk as a child of light."r😇🙏🏻us
It's so much better in Latin in a confessional. It is a solemn rite which really makes you focus on the gravity of your sins and your need for God's grace. When you hear the priest absolve your sins with, "Ego te absolvo", you are left with no doubt that the priest has the power to forgive sins.
These are great examples of what not to do. I've heard other priests say that it's okay to give a tiny bit of background information when it comes to confessing a mortal sin. It would be extremely hard to just say the 'word' that you did without prefacing it, so it doesn't sound like you decided to do this sin on a whim. It's not making excuses or not taking responsibility, but sharing the circumstances surrounding the decision that you made. How do you feel about it?
@@csa7189 I never tried face~to~face, but I'd like to try it...maybe. I'm at a crossroads right now with all the talk about Catholicism being an evil, fake religion with more emphasis on the pope being the head of the Church. In my mind, God is the head and I don't understand why we have to confess through a priest. I have a close relationship with my Father and He knows me better than anyone else.
One of the priests I go to Confession to, does not let me say the Act of Contrition in the confessional. He says to say it when I pray my penance. This leaves me feeling awful. Are priests allowed to do this?
Cradle Catholics don't know how lucky they are! RCIA class I went to presupposed we understood what sin is as well as which kind of sin it is. Where can I find a definition of what 'bad behavior', to use a general word is what kind of sin? How can I become more sensitive to things I should mention in confession? I try to forget things that will cause tension so I won't have seizures. This makes it hard, if not impossible to remember things I should confess. Any suggestions here?
This is late; but, if you still need help. Usually, there is a little booklet with a list of things that help you in your exam of conscience. Ask a priest or a faithful fellow Catholic. God bless you!
We must continually seek to improve our conscience by _self reflection and true repentance_. If you go to confession, dig as deep as you can, and remember that no sin is too great to be confessed, you will be able to reach the innermost parts of your soul. If you can dig deep enough to truly come to God sinful and sorrowful, and leave, forgiven and filled with grace, you will begin to see the world more perfectly in the likeness of him who dwells within you, Christ. God Bless!
I read in a video and saw the priest say that you have to confess every number of how many times you’ve done the act if not your confession is invalid I don’t think other than me trying at this point to make a better confession I’ve ever had anything close to that the priest was kind and I told him it was a long time but I don’t know if my words were exactly correct all I know is that I was extremely sorry but because I don’t have the exact numbers down and I am writing them down now do I have to do it all over again I have done two confessions explaining more but these are sins that we already talked about but I don’t know if I did it correctly it’s kind of hard for me to write words down on paper and at this point confession isn’t even comfortable for either oneMore concerned about the priest comfort because of accessibility he has to make a large sacrifice to hear my confession
I would go to another priest. Some are better than others in understanding that the importance in confession, is that you are humbling yourself before God, and you want the gift of healing through forgiveness. Your memory may not be perfect, and you can say that also, but you say that you are there, because you are sorry for the wrongness in what you did to yourself and God. God is very merciful, that is why He appeared to St.Faustina. Do not allow a poor confessor to turn you away, from your God given right, to receive this very importance sacrament. You can also say, what priests sometimes say to me, “Forgive me Lord for any and all past sins,”, and I add that I place all my sins , and any hurt I have caused others on the foot of the cross of Jesus Christ, so that He May cleanse my soul, protect,, and seal it with His Precious Blood.Confession is a form of exorcism. Go to confession at least once a month, even to confess venial sins. The graces you receive are needed. Try to go to adoration. Look up the tremendous graces you add to your life. God bless all who read this. We don’t know when God will take us, but WE NEED TO BE READY.
@@Mary-my8vo Thanks I’ve been brushing up using a catechism and it kind of helped and now what I do is a right down to the best of my ability and I mark that I want the priest to ask a question when they don’t understand
Perhaps somewhat helpful but this trivialized version of the types of sins a person would commit over a 3 month or six month period only contributed to discouraging people with grave sins from wanting to go to confession
The lady who was in a hurry...hopefully she was not in mortal sin! Maybe also say that if you have any mortal sin on your soul you should confess this now!
Jesus, when he had cried again with a loud voice, yielded up the ghost. And, behold, the veil of the temple was rent in twain from the top to the bottom; and the earth did quake, and the rocks rent; Matthew 27:50-51 KJV When Jesus Christ died on the cross. He tore down the veil in the temple that separated us from God. And only the priest could go in and pray to God for us. Because Jesus Christ has torn the veil spiritually we can go to Jesus Christ ourselves. No need for a confess to priest anymore. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:7-9 KJV
Why does the priest who listens to the sinner’s sins during confessional ask for a donation in exchange for expiation? Why does the priest sometimes ask for double the donation in exchange for the sinner being able to have a future sin forgiven or expiated? Just last week there was a story in Utah of a 26 year old admitting to murdering an elderly couple and stealing their credit cards during a confessional. The Priest during confessional asked for a $1,000 donation by credit card in exchange for forgiving the sin of murder & theft. Isn’t this an abuse of a confessional? During the confessional the priest asked for an additional $1,000 just in case the sinner wanted to repeat the crime with a second victim. 54644
WE CONFESS OUR SIN TO JESUS CHRIST THERE IS NO MAN on earth who is holly we have all signed And come short of the GLORY OF GOD We were all born in sin shaped in iniquity come into the world speaking lies that is GODS WORD HE ALSO SAID CALL NO MAN ON EARTH YOUR FATHER this is speaking in spiritual reference 😢
I wish that my RCIA would have been so humorous and informative at the same time.
Thank you very much, very helpful video, very useful information...Would be nice if priests would explain these things in church more often...God bless you all...
I confess I started out as a scrupulous penitent. I thank the Sacrament for pointing it out and pointing me in the direction of healing.
This is sick
What a great video ‼️❤️✝️ Thanks father for the surgical break down as to what’s REALLY going on in a confessor’s world ‼️This has helped me a great deal in my own effort to “ name and tame” all the sins of my life. God bless u
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My God...
One the best videos I have ever watched
God bless you Msgr
God bless the organizers
Thanks to this channel.
This was such an amazing video. We are taught as children how to make a confession, but as we get older we still tend to make our confessions as a child. I never thought that just having a conversation from the heart was an actual confession. Thanks so much for doing this.
Chlder how-to make a cofetion
this is such a great helpful video.. I want to share about the victim/scrupulous thing is from judgemental and abusive people without healthy counseling or healing... i promise.... we get so hung up on it. i grew up being nitpicked for every little thing by my parents and always being forced to apologize and I was physically abused for it, even tho my folks never admitted their own faults. Scapegoat kids bear the guilt and judgement . i was about 5yers old, sleeping on couch at a party full of drunk people, and apearently I woke up to being punch in the face by my father while he screamed at me to get my thumb out of my mouth. i was humiliated and wet myself on those people's couch. That was 40 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday. I know other people like me and we drive people nuts, but also we have a flashing red light **EASY TARGET ** As I recently started back to confession and communion a few months ago (and Im on the spectrum) I struggle with what is and is NOT a sin because people get in my buisness A lot... I have already been harrassed for taking communion even tho I met with the priest TWICE and communion TWICE and was absolved.... SO iM TRYING TO BE GOOD... BUT ITS NEVER GOOD ENOUGH.... YIKES But I dont want to be like this, I promise. This is a friendly helpful video that gives me some perspective to contemplate on and pray about.
This was extremely funny and helpful at the same time. Great video!
It's hard to own and acknowledge that we did wrong, but thanks to this example, is good to know we(me) fall in all this categories.
I have returned to the Church after many decades away. This was a great blessing to me. Thanks and God bless you for producing it.!
@Patricia, I am too and I've been obsessing of how to get the words out to the priest, but after watching several videos of different priests and most especially this video with Msgr. Borski, I'm more at ease. I go to confession tomorrow for the first time in over 3 decades. I'm looking forward to freeing my soul and starting a new life! I don't know if you wrote this in 2013, but I'm writing in May of 2020.
@@lindahandley5267 I wrote it in 2019. I think it's been around for a while.... good for us. Welcome home! I'm sure you're going to be blessed. 🙏❤
@Patricia, yes, good for us! I feel that I will be blessed. I'll let you know how it went when I get back home!
@@lindahandley5267 Yes, please share. I may do this soon myself. I will pray that God will touch your heart in a very deep way.
@richard, hey! I did it! I was a little anxious, but Father put me right at ease. We had to do it in the corner of the parking lot of the Church and there was a screen up. He welcomed me back to the Church. Walking back to my car, I felt like jumping up and clicking my heels, (if I could), LOL. It's a big weight off of my shoulders! Please don't hesitate going. God and the priests are happy for us! Has it been a while for you? I jotted down notes so I wouldn't forget anything. Thanks for your interest Richard. We're on the same journey!
I am writing a story, for my own amusement, in which (in a small episode) a Catholic character confesses. This video is very helpful in getting the details as correct as a non-Catholic is likely to manage.
I Feel like Running to Confession Right now 😏🙏🕊🧎🏻♀️
Watching this in 2016. This was a great help...
This just came up in TH-cam Suggestions for the Season of Lent 2018. It's brilliant! I've listened to talks on how to make a good Confession, but had never seen Confession modeled. Feedback: It's helpful to see the modeling, because taking the notes (mentally or in writing) from a talk means having to carry it all in mind and try to remember all the "Do's & Don't do's" while participating in the Sacrament. By listening to others model it, it's easier to take away what applies personally, and then to internalize it and "own it," to be able to put it into practice. And in the end, instead of repeating all the instructions to memorize them, I'm contemplating the beautiful message of God's grace, giving thanks for His love and mercy, and for His gift to us of the priesthood, because through His priests, He heals us.
I love this, thank you! :)
This is very helpful, thankyou.
very much benefiting thankyou
Tomorrow that I will be going for baptism
i love that one person laughing
Watching in Lent 2022 💕
Act of Contrition 7:
Father of mercy,
like the prodigal son
I return to you and say:
"I have sinned against you
and am no longer worthy to be called your son."
Christ Jesus, Savior of the world,
I pray with the repentant thief
to whom you promised Paradise:
"Lord, remember me in your kingdom."
Holy Spirit, fountain of love,
I call on you with trust:
"Purify my heart,
and help me to walk as a child of light."r😇🙏🏻us
That's a nice one.
Beautiful.
It's so much better in Latin in a confessional. It is a solemn rite which really makes you focus on the gravity of your sins and your need for God's grace. When you hear the priest absolve your sins with, "Ego te absolvo", you are left with no doubt that the priest has the power to forgive sins.
god bless
FEAST of Great Mercy Sunday plenary indulgence LIFETIME PUNISHMENTS REMITTED and FORGIVENESS of sins ✝️🇻🇦Second Sunday in EASTER ✝️
These are great examples of what not to do. I've heard other priests say that it's okay to give a tiny bit of background information when it comes to confessing a mortal sin. It would be extremely hard to just say the 'word' that you did without prefacing it, so it doesn't sound like you decided to do this sin on a whim. It's not making excuses or not taking responsibility, but sharing the circumstances surrounding the decision that you made. How do you feel about it?
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It's true same thoughts here. Confession is not a very easy thing to do though it may look simple.
@@csa7189 I never tried face~to~face, but I'd like to try it...maybe. I'm at a crossroads right now with all the talk about Catholicism being an evil, fake religion with more emphasis on the pope being the head of the Church. In my mind, God is the head and I don't understand why we have to confess through a priest. I have a close relationship with my Father and He knows me better than anyone else.
Thanks. My confession is all not valid, the sins were too general.
God bless.
One of the priests I go to Confession to, does not let me say the Act of Contrition in the confessional. He says to say it when I pray my penance. This leaves me feeling awful. Are priests allowed to do this?
The priest may have you say the Act of Contrition during penance. This is done typically when there are a lot of people and limited time.
Cradle Catholics don't know how lucky they are! RCIA class I went to presupposed we understood what sin is as well as which kind of sin it is. Where can I find a definition of what 'bad behavior', to use a general word is what kind of sin? How can I become more sensitive to things I should mention in confession? I try to forget things that will cause tension so I won't have seizures. This makes it hard, if not impossible to remember things I should confess. Any suggestions here?
This is late; but, if you still need help. Usually, there is a little booklet with a list of things that help you in your exam of conscience. Ask a priest or a faithful fellow Catholic. God bless you!
We must continually seek to improve our conscience by _self reflection and true repentance_. If you go to confession, dig as deep as you can, and remember that no sin is too great to be confessed, you will be able to reach the innermost parts of your soul. If you can dig deep enough to truly come to God sinful and sorrowful, and leave, forgiven and filled with grace, you will begin to see the world more perfectly in the likeness of him who dwells within you, Christ. God Bless!
I read in a video and saw the priest say that you have to confess every number of how many times you’ve done the act if not your confession is invalid I don’t think other than me trying at this point to make a better confession I’ve ever had anything close to that the priest was kind and I told him it was a long time but I don’t know if my words were exactly correct all I know is that I was extremely sorry but because I don’t have the exact numbers down and I am writing them down now do I have to do it all over again I have done two confessions explaining more but these are sins that we already talked about but I don’t know if I did it correctly it’s kind of hard for me to write words down on paper and at this point confession isn’t even comfortable for either oneMore concerned about the priest comfort because of accessibility he has to make a large sacrifice to hear my confession
Trust in God!! Do not worry! Ask Our Lady to guide you if you are unsure! :)
I would go to another priest. Some are better than others in understanding that the importance in confession, is that you are humbling yourself before God, and you want the gift of healing through forgiveness. Your memory may not be perfect, and you can say that also, but you say that you are there, because you are sorry for the wrongness in what you did to yourself and God. God is very merciful, that is why He appeared to St.Faustina. Do not allow a poor confessor to turn you away, from your God given right, to receive this very importance sacrament. You can also say, what priests sometimes say to me, “Forgive me Lord for any and all past sins,”, and I add that I place all my sins , and any hurt I have caused others on the foot of the cross of Jesus Christ, so that He May cleanse my soul, protect,, and seal it with His Precious Blood.Confession is a form of exorcism. Go to confession at least once a month, even to confess venial sins. The graces you receive are needed. Try to go to adoration. Look up the tremendous graces you add to your life. God bless all who read this. We don’t know when God will take us, but WE NEED TO BE READY.
@@Mary-my8vo Thanks I’ve been brushing up using a catechism and it kind of helped and now what I do is a right down to the best of my ability and I mark that I want the priest to ask a question when they don’t understand
Perhaps somewhat helpful but this trivialized version of the types of sins a person would commit over a 3 month or six month period only contributed to discouraging people with grave sins from wanting to go to confession
The lady who was in a hurry...hopefully she was not in mortal sin! Maybe also say that if you have any mortal sin on your soul you should confess this now!
Mark 2:1-12
why did one lady say, "for these and all the sins of MY PAST LIFE"??? did i hear correctly?
She likely meant the sins of her former, non-Catholic life. We’re born again through the sacraments of baptism and confirmation after all.
@@Charles-jj2su that makes sense! but would only be a case, i imagine, for a first confession.
I was thinking you tell yr own sins not yr husband and only father hear that not the parishioners
2019
we see
Jesus, when he had cried again with a loud voice, yielded up the ghost. And, behold, the veil of the temple was rent in twain from the top to the bottom; and the earth did quake, and the rocks rent;
Matthew 27:50-51 KJV
When Jesus Christ died on the cross. He tore down the veil in the temple that separated us from God. And only the priest could go in and pray to God for us. Because Jesus Christ has torn the veil spiritually we can go to Jesus Christ ourselves. No need for a confess to priest anymore.
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:7-9 KJV
More traditional:
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i am sorry fr that wowmen
I thought that when you go to confession, you can only tell ur sins to father. Not everyone else.
These don't count because they're demonstrations.
Hope you got it
For penance would a priest ever ask someone to go to a person they wronged and apologize or make amends?
Yes. Priests could but more often they will ask you to do something nice for a person or pray for them
Maybe if the priest knows it will help both of you, something like that would be from a priest who really knows you.
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Why does the priest who listens to the sinner’s sins during confessional ask for a donation in exchange for expiation? Why does the priest sometimes ask for double the donation in exchange for the sinner being able to have a future sin forgiven or expiated?
Just last week there was a story in Utah of a 26 year old admitting to murdering an elderly couple and stealing their credit cards during a confessional. The Priest during confessional asked for a $1,000 donation by credit card in exchange for forgiving the sin of murder & theft.
Isn’t this an abuse of a confessional?
During the confessional the priest asked for an additional $1,000 just in case the sinner wanted to repeat the crime with a second victim.
54644
That would most definitely be a great abuse of the sacrament of confession
WE CONFESS OUR SIN TO JESUS CHRIST THERE IS NO MAN on earth who is holly we have all signed And come short of the GLORY OF GOD
We were all born in sin shaped in iniquity come into the world speaking lies that is GODS WORD
HE ALSO SAID CALL NO MAN ON EARTH YOUR FATHER this is speaking in spiritual reference 😢
Gross rationalize Put the blame on the "MEN" they are a good scapegoat!
Is the old boy in the sexy dress playing with himself