Going through the breakup for the first time and not getting closure is horrible right now I don’t know what to do she ended it on the reason is there’s days where she feel ready and days where she isn’t ready yet I personally don’t know what to do because she hasn’t done anything wrong but I’m just broken
It's been over 2 months it was the first relationship where I felt like I truly loved the other person and felt it back. But she ended it seemingly out of the blue so I never got "real" closure. I will be honest it was horrible for those first few weeks but it's gotten better and will for everyone. But every once and a while I get those random memories or see an old picture I didn't delete or she post something that sets me back. But I will get through it and so will everyone else going through a hard time like this
I thought she was gonna be with me forever, I thought I knew the real her and I do but there’s a side of her that’s new and I don’t recognize anymore. Outside factors have dug her in a hole and her past is still leaving her hurt without her realizing it sometimes. I will never fully understand her past but I always tried to be there for her but when I was changing for the better and needed her most she left me all alone. I don’t fully understand how someone can flip a switch and change in the matter of days and hours but I know God is redirecting me to a place of self love and value. I have nothing but love for this girl and I hope she heals and grows to be the great woman she is and maybe just maybe we may cross paths again. I love you with all of my heart Mack and I hope someday we can tell ours kids our story and how great God is but for now, I have to let you go….
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Sometimes people take those that love them most for granted. I know the pain and confusion are real and it takes time to heal and move on. But allow yourself that time and don't be ashamed. Losing a love is a big deal. You're clearly a special person to be able to love unconditionally and I get the feeling you'll be the one that's happiest in the future. Unless she's lucky enough win you back, some day. Regardless, one day you'll be happy and so thankful, you'll see. God bless. ❤
Thank you. We can find closure in the way a person mistreated us - this is all the closure we need. We don’t need to speak to them because no amount of speaking will change anything or make a person feel better when it’s clear they didn’t want to be with us.
sometimes the best decision is hardest choice, sometimes leaving is the only choice there is. I loved her still today it's been 5 months since we broke up. But ya know I had to do this for both of our peace of mind. Don't wanna bother her, I love her so much that I'm willing to let her go for her to be happy, I love her so much that I'm willing to leave her life for her and me to have both peace of mind.
This is another case of the logic/emotion gap. I logically have closure because I have self love and value myself. I know that somebody out there is better suited to me. But emotionally...the sting is still there, some days more than others. It's only been three months. Closure can definitely be differentiated into the logical and the emotional, and some people struggle with one more than the other, one to varying degrees at different times, etc.
Right. Logically, I can think of how this was never going to work out, how we were both flawed, it was a bad time in our lives, etc. but it doesn’t change the hurt, the longing, the what ifs, the guilt of things I could’ve or should’ve said and done. We’re emotional beings, we need to feel loved and accepted, and when that’s gone with no explanation it all goes inward into self hate. There’s really no answer except staying busy and trying to work on yourself, don’t even date other people because you’ll just find yourself comparing them to your ex and feel worse. That’s just my experience.
@@3mi3mi Love this comment. I fall off the wagon at times, so to speak, thinking that making "progress" means I won't be bothered by things, won't be emotional. Not so. But I do think progress can be a greater sense of resilience, and confidence that we can get through tough times. Like you said, staying busy, working on yourself...If there's a quick fix, I haven't found it.
I cried so much after hearing this. My bf broke up with me on Christmas Day (sucks ik) and he was saying that he wasn't really ready for a relationship and he said he was really in a dark place and just wants to be left alone, he wasnt talking to his family either. I, as a friend and person, supported him even told him that im still there for him even as a friend. I still love him even now. I miss him so much my chest literally hurts as I can feel the pain squeezing me from within. I miss him. I did love him even if he didn't choose me everyday. I was trying to find closure which he couldnt give me because he was that selfish he didnt want to talk about it. I was praying every day to God for him to help me understand my pain, and then I stumbled upon this video. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. Next time I come back to the thought that i wasnt enough and "its because of me thats why he broke up with me' I'll go back to this video. You are literally godsend to me. T___T
That’s the same with my ex gf but I feel she is so confused and hurt from her past and I don’t know man it’s so hard this is the first girl I’ve actually truely loved
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i needed this so much. my ex gf broke up with me a month ago and it was very abrupt and it all happened very quick and i had no say in anything. she was the first significant other to tell me they love me and she’s the first person i’ve fallen in love with. i didn’t get a lot of closure and it’s been making it so hard to move on or to do anything because i’m so overwhelmed with feelings of grief and anxiety and depression and i just feel empty inside. thank you joey.
She felt like she was the one, the time spent felt amazing, but her path was different and ended it with no real closure, leaving me broken, confused and full of self blame. I loved her with all my heart and it felt the same, but I had no idea she unhappy as she never communicated anything, thought we were grooving and moving forward. Now I'm down 25lbs in a month, looking forward to a new career and just bettering myself, but still want her with me. I wish her the happiness I couldn't give her and if our paths cross again, hope we can become stronger. If not, I will become stronger and find my happiness. I love you. Hope you're safe and doing well.
I suppose I’m just writing this to scream into the void. My boyfriend of one year left me and it’s hit me hard. He didn’t say it in person, he did it over text. Just a week prior to that text he was talking about marriage and kids and a future. And then he left. He said that he was just too busy with college and no longer has time for the relationship, whereas I know he dropped his hardest classes and spent most of his time in his dorm playing video games. I thought I was going to marry that man, I had given him so much of my time and effort and now I realise that it was never being reciprocated. When we did things together, he was always texting his friends. When we went on a vacation together, he ignored me for hours and played video games even though I was in the same room as him and took time off to go on the trip. When I broke down crying and told him I was struggling with my depression worse than I had in over a year, he told me that he didn’t think he could be there for me. While I was blinded by his sweet words, I didn’t see how shallow he really was though the relationship. I didn’t see that he never was truly there for me even though I was there for him at a drop of a hat. Now I’m trying to move on. It’s only been a few days. I find myself crying a lot, but I don’t know what for really, because I always feel angry and betrayed by him. I’m trying to find who I was before the relationship, but I’m floundering because of all these built up frustrations and emotions. I’m not really proud of myself. I went head over heels for the first person to show a hint of interest in me (didn’t help that I had a crush on him while we were in middle and high school together). But I didn’t take the time to see if that person was really there for me. I’m heeling, I really am. For now, I think if I focus on myself, I’ll learn that I’m the only one who can love me how I need.
I am floored. How much of it resonates with me. First few lines I thought someone wrote my story. We are 30. We talked about marriage, a home, doing things together. Last to last week we fought over "I don't eat fruits", and now I am 10days into this breakup. We weren't the best match on the planet. But had he been clearer, I would have tried. I would have tried to do it for both of us. But now, there's nothing. Only pain. But it's all good. He didn't explain it all. I wish him well, and I will heal too. Thank you for loving me, boo. I loved you too.
Thank you Joey ! I’m trying to process a breakup from a year ago. Together for 7 years and cheated on me. I finally felt okay until his new gf moved nextdoor this week, and seeing his car every day is breaking my heart. Since then i realize I’m not over him. But thats okay.. I know i’ll be fine and I deserve a lot better
If she moved next to you to piss you off don’t let it get to you. the more you let it go the more she won’t want to be there move on and work on what makes you happy
We had a messy and complicated break up 5 months ago. It still hurts today and has left me confused. But I'm realizing that my self doubts and questioning isn't going to bring me the closure I need. I did nothing wrong. I loved someone who could never really be loved. And they chose not to be there for me after. It hurts because I thought they'd never be the person to do this to me but this video has really opened my eyes. All our dark moments were actually dark. My mind has tricked me into replaying them minute by minute to analyze everything for what I could've possibly done wrong. They told me in the beginning they were going to leave but, if they had truly cared for me, then they wouldn't have gone down that path to begin with
I'm about 5 months in and i still feel the pain so often. Thank you for your videos, they did help calm me and look on the bright side. I will be re-playing these videos for myself whenever i feel like i'm sinking again.
When someone that you truly love and supposedly loves you ,leaves you regardless of the reason ,the situation and the conditions ,make it about you,focus on you ,be there for you, think about you ,feel the pain for you ... if there is any time to be your main concern it would be this time ,you loved from the heart and it was genuine, ik but you need to slowly understand that the person is gone and it's you in your life for yourself once again and you are worthy and capable so good luck🦋
Thanks Joey, I had my first break up a few years ago and couldn't explain in words what went through my mind. My ex blocked me on everything and never told me a reason why. If this video was created back then it would have stopped a lot of spiraling but this was a great thing
Thank you so much this helped so much to see a different perspective ❤❤❤ keep on making these beautiful and amazing videos they help a lot of people just like me when I never thought that I could be happy again or when I didn’t know how I was going to come out of this deep and dark hole
I finally got my closure… she said needed space… and went M.I.A on me.. I sent her a “I miss you” text.. and finally got her attention.. she said she had already told me she didn’t want to talk to me.. which wasn’t the case.. and that she can’t have me sending her text because she’s already with someone else.. so that’s my closure.. it wasn’t me.. she was already distracted with some else.. 1.5yrs of connection and communication.. gonna be a tough time for me. Wish me luck.
thank you, truly thank you. we have been broken up for two and a half months and for the most part i moved on, it was a short time but truly changed me. it ended as friends but he turned around and decided to be a child and i need closure, until this video. it gave me what i need to fully move on and be with myself and to whoever comes next
I used to think that i wish i never met you, but thats not true. It was words from a broken heart. We ended terribly, but genuinely, thank you Alexis. Ive learned a lot about how to love, how I like to be loved. The things I value in a relationship, what I’m looking for in a partner. Its been a wild 4 years and I’m proud of how far you’ve grown as an individual. I wish the best for you and I hope you find peace in your life.
It's okay if we don't get a closure but as human beings we shouldn't get insulted or broken down by these cheap people. Even I'm going through a lot rn, and I can't see really clearly what am I doing? But I still believe we can get the love we dream too. I want to let go this self demon. Amen!!!💜
My ex promised me a closure convo when I’d got back from vacation but he never texted me. We separated badly so I longed for that conversation. Now I have to move on without closure. But this video helped a lot. The lack of love really is closure. The lack of care is closure.
You're an angel, man! Thank you so much for these videos. The pain I'm going through right now is unbearable, but your videos are really comforting! Thank you so much!
i keep asking myself why did he leave. was i not enough? was i too much. was i too difficult to love? not only did i lose my boyfriend, but my best friend too.
It's almost been a month since he broke up with me. I can still remember the intensity of the pain i felt everyday after it happened. things are much better now but i just can't seem to forget him. Maybe because i was so broken when I first met him and he made me realise I'm worthy of being loved. I need to accept the fact that he left me when I needed him the most in my life and i did my best in putting efforts and it was him who gave up on us not me and that is enough closure i need to move on...
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He played hot and cold with me for weeks, then told me I was manipulative and abusive because of my mental health and disorders, and then he yelled at me for like 40 minutes to shift the blame on me before disappearing from my life. It was a freshman relationship. He was my best friend. What the hell.
This is to the woman I dated: I thought she would be the right one. She was already there when I was a teenager and she appeared 15 years later as an adult, with a child from another man. We loved us, we had amazing memories, she left again.... inthe arms of another guy.... Deception and hurt I am, as after my 10 year relationship with my previous ex , I didn't believed in love anymore... and now I'm completely disappointed... Hope she is happy now.
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Thank you Joey, I needed this. It was so sudden for me. She was so sweet and lovey dovey to me the night before, the next morning I woke up to an argument and a break up. No answers, nothing. I’m still trying to make sense of it all.
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Who was able to mend back my broken relationship. He can bring your ex back
Recently when I was writing... something came to the surface which really made me realise things differently, so the thought was that less contact and less frequencies of contact isn't inconsistent, its still consistent, as the other person knows where they stand with you.
We broke up 4 days ago and he instantly became ice-cold and distant and said he needed to block me. It's very hard for me right now not knowing why and how he can be like this. He told me that every other conversation would be like a knife to his heart.
@Joey sincerely and genuinely thank you for aiming to help so many souls on both the emotional and the mental levels to get through so much, it's truly noble and the most beautiful 🦋✨
I just buried those questions under a solid rock coz before I used to keep on getting back to him then I figured he was just taking pleasure out of my vulnerability while I was dating other lady (ig I was other lady) but I figured he was narcissist( diagnosed by my therapist) he used to gaslight, manipulate me and condition to the level that I was justifying his emotionally abusive behaviour even during intimate time . Although it did left a lot of scars that I’m working on and Hey , Joe you have been a great help ❤️ I can never imagine blocking him But I did (and didn’t unblocked him and it’s been 2 months )and I won’t never let anyone change my mind for love and guys . It’s just I haven’t been lucky yet (and I don’t even care if I never found one coz I got my own reasons to love and serve)
i just want to thank you for your content you have just helped me through my first actual heartbreak and that means the world to me so keep doing what your doing
Brother ... You r an anger to me ... Believe me I don't have any money for the treatment of my depression after a very harsh and a very hurtful break up ... Like the day before I had my breakup, the girl and I were watching a film and we're enjoying very much ... And suddenly she left me ... But thank you soo much for these videos ... My parents won't support me ... But you brother you helped and currently helping me a lot ... Thank you soo much ...
Thank you for that Video, it made me think a different way about my breakup a few years ago. I'm single eversince. I still think about it some times and it makes me wonder everytime... but just that you pointed it out, the way he mistreated me should be closure for me and I will make it my closure now.
Hey Joey you have helped me a lot man like you have made me open my eyes and move on and I would like to say thank you it still hurts and it will keep hurting for a while but you have helped me know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and thank you
My beautiful relationship of 5 yrs ended in such an ugly way few days back i never would have guessed. I didnt get the closure i needed either and every morning i wake up it feels unreal. Why waste a person's time love everything for 5 yrs if u know ur gonna end up choosing your family in the end. People are cruel beings Joey
It's worse when they ghost you, but you still have to see them and talk to them. Anyways, imo if you really need that closure go talk to them if you still can. You won't get much of it. But in the worse case, you are going to finally have a reason to hate them. Most ppl tell you to just suck it up and move on, but not everyone can do that or should do that. Also that idea feeds into making you egotistical as a way to cope. Just do whatever you think is right for you, and don't let random ppl tell you what to do or how you should feel.
Just broke up with my 8 years gf, which i thought i would get married to, ready to die and do anything for her, lost the closest friend ive ever had, lost the only person i have ever loved, she moved on after at this point and it hurts, a lot. Nor did i get any closure on why we really broke up. I went and send her a mail, which might be a mistake, because it really feels unbearable at that point. Im at the point where i dont know what to do or what to feel, and i would be okay if i lose her as my gf, but i just want her as a friend. To whoever is going through something familiar, stay hopeful. We know how painful it can get, much love to you internet friends
I packed my stuff, left a note, left the house and we've been No Contact for 80 days. I have no reason to reach out and I don't think she'll risk it herself.
I feel so empty its scary i feel like i am 10thousand feet under water I hope my heart get better on day. To anyone who is still hearting remember as long as you are alive you will be fine I promise❤
She didn't even give me a simple good bye before she left, the lack of proper closure made it extra hard to move on. Sorry to everyone dealing with this, regardless of who you are, you don't deserve to have these things haunt your lives. Just know that it gets better with time, be patient and kind with yourself, it might take months or even years, but eventually you will be better ❤
I feel my constant obsession for closure is tied directly to my need to see Justice in order for meaning to exist, in and of itself. Without both, or either, I get a steady burning feeling of anger and righteous indignation. Think "The Book of Job" but much less severe.
The person who I thought was the love of my life left me 2 days ago and I've found myself as a stand still. They let me believe that everything was still okay then sprung upon me that for the past few weeks they had stopped loving me and would just be better off as friends. They're making a mutual friend keep tabs on me but this indirect kindness is making it so much harder. Kind of makes you wish they just did something dickish to make me hate them.
I ended things with someone I cared about because he slowly became distant and I broke my ankle and he didn’t care at all and that ontop of other things is why I couldn’t keep trying…
I’m the one that left. But I was falling apart. I was stressed daily. I was so nervous to talk to her. I felt unwanted and unappreciated. And I still feel shame. It was and continues to be a very weird battle.
Thank you Joey, it’s hard very hard because she made all my stress go away. I lost my car because her friend decided to drink. I took it as a cue that she was “the one”. Then one day she proceed to hang out with a guy who she had controversial history. After that she acted completely differently then I looked like a fool and did some dumb things. Now I feel at complete fault when I know I was just hurt trying to understand why. I’ll never get serious answers to anything but maybe that’s for the better.
I was the one who left the relationship. It was so hard because the love I have for him was so much bigger than the love I have for myself - even now when I think about our relationship which was a toxic one at the end, I only think about his smile, the way he was holding me during a sleep, the way he was looking at me. It was so hard to leave, because I love him so much but I was in so much pain because he never prioritize me. I hurt him a lot after the breakup. I blocked him and tried to move on as fast as possible because I couldn't stand the fact I'm still in love with him - it's been six months now. He has a new girlfriend and finally starting to be happy again after me. But I feel like at the end of the day I was the one who hurt him more than he hurt me, I feel like I'm the bad guy. I'm in so much pain and I don't know how to move on and forgive myself.
@@annakratochvilova7392 When you truly love someone, he/she will always be part of you. Just always remember that you deserve better and you deserve to let go all the things that are hurting you. 🤍
To Glenn Sullano - I love you with all of my life and I still do. I missed you and will forever misses you. I left because I needed to. I was draining and I have nothing but remorse for myself. I wish I could reach out to you, I WANTED TO but I can’t because we both know I’m gonna be stuck and back to zero again. All I wanted for you to do is to say you need me as much as I need you, to say iloveyou, and you’re afraid to lose me and I wait and still waiting . I love you forever palalabss ko ☹️☹️
This is me right now and it's soul destroying. Together for months, the last time we saw one another was the first time we said I love you. It was magic. Then she goes on a holiday ( obvs must have met someone else) comes home, goes cold, I hear less and less, get the "its not for me anymore text" and blocked. No chance to ask why the change of heart. From I love you to blocked in a matter of days. The lack of closure and unanswered questions are utterly tormenting. If you ever break up with your partner, PLEASE give them a solid WHY. Ok you are leaving, I can accept that, but WHY??? Tell me that and I can heal. But without it, I can only wonder....what happened? But she closed the door, like you say, maybe that's all I really need to know.
The sad news is, we don't get the closure we need, when we want it the most.
truly poetic
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Going through the breakup for the first time and not getting closure is horrible right now I don’t know what to do she ended it on the reason is there’s days where she feel ready and days where she isn’t ready yet I personally don’t know what to do because she hasn’t done anything wrong but I’m just broken
@@Jameshurst2003 How are you now 2 months later?
I don’t need closure. Him choosing everyday to keep me out of his life is closure.
then why did you watch this video then?
1.5yrs later and that closure still hurts I miss her 💔
It's been over 2 months it was the first relationship where I felt like I truly loved the other person and felt it back. But she ended it seemingly out of the blue so I never got "real" closure. I will be honest it was horrible for those first few weeks but it's gotten better and will for everyone. But every once and a while I get those random memories or see an old picture I didn't delete or she post something that sets me back. But I will get through it and so will everyone else going through a hard time like this
Bro, just don't stalk her on social. Mute or block for your own sake.
“Disinterest is closure”. That was a lightbulb moment. Thank you
I thought she was gonna be with me forever, I thought I knew the real her and I do but there’s a side of her that’s new and I don’t recognize anymore. Outside factors have dug her in a hole and her past is still leaving her hurt without her realizing it sometimes. I will never fully understand her past but I always tried to be there for her but when I was changing for the better and needed her most she left me all alone. I don’t fully understand how someone can flip a switch and change in the matter of days and hours but I know God is redirecting me to a place of self love and value. I have nothing but love for this girl and I hope she heals and grows to be the great woman she is and maybe just maybe we may cross paths again. I love you with all of my heart Mack and I hope someday we can tell ours kids our story and how great God is but for now, I have to let you go….
The planets movements change us so we can start going away from the same energies as they move... Age of Aquarius is changing everything... To bring in twin flames
Exactly , people change with time
Beautifully expressed. Flip it to Tanya and you have me.
Sometimes people take those that love them most for granted. I know the pain and confusion are real and it takes time to heal and move on. But allow yourself that time and don't be ashamed. Losing a love is a big deal. You're clearly a special person to be able to love unconditionally and I get the feeling you'll be the one that's happiest in the future. Unless she's lucky enough win you back, some day. Regardless, one day you'll be happy and so thankful, you'll see. God bless. ❤
@@LLulu145 right back at you, God bless ❤️
Thank you. We can find closure in the way a person mistreated us - this is all the closure we need. We don’t need to speak to them because no amount of speaking will change anything or make a person feel better when it’s clear they didn’t want to be with us.
This really intrigues me how we went from everything to nothing. No communication. I hope you will achieve all your goals and stay happy.
"they didn't love you, otherwise they would be here"
sometimes the best decision is hardest choice, sometimes leaving is the only choice there is. I loved her still today it's been 5 months since we broke up. But ya know I had to do this for both of our peace of mind. Don't wanna bother her, I love her so much that I'm willing to let her go for her to be happy, I love her so much that I'm willing to leave her life for her and me to have both peace of mind.
May I know why u separated from her what was the hard choice @@erjohn5404
This is another case of the logic/emotion gap. I logically have closure because I have self love and value myself. I know that somebody out there is better suited to me.
But emotionally...the sting is still there, some days more than others. It's only been three months.
Closure can definitely be differentiated into the logical and the emotional, and some people struggle with one more than the other, one to varying degrees at different times, etc.
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate🥰🥰
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Right. Logically, I can think of how this was never going to work out, how we were both flawed, it was a bad time in our lives, etc. but it doesn’t change the hurt, the longing, the what ifs, the guilt of things I could’ve or should’ve said and done. We’re emotional beings, we need to feel loved and accepted, and when that’s gone with no explanation it all goes inward into self hate. There’s really no answer except staying busy and trying to work on yourself, don’t even date other people because you’ll just find yourself comparing them to your ex and feel worse. That’s just my experience.
@@3mi3mi Love this comment. I fall off the wagon at times, so to speak, thinking that making "progress" means I won't be bothered by things, won't be emotional. Not so. But I do think progress can be a greater sense of resilience, and confidence that we can get through tough times. Like you said, staying busy, working on yourself...If there's a quick fix, I haven't found it.
i am having issues 4 years later...
I cried so much after hearing this. My bf broke up with me on Christmas Day (sucks ik) and he was saying that he wasn't really ready for a relationship and he said he was really in a dark place and just wants to be left alone, he wasnt talking to his family either. I, as a friend and person, supported him even told him that im still there for him even as a friend. I still love him even now. I miss him so much my chest literally hurts as I can feel the pain squeezing me from within. I miss him. I did love him even if he didn't choose me everyday. I was trying to find closure which he couldnt give me because he was that selfish he didnt want to talk about it.
I was praying every day to God for him to help me understand my pain, and then I stumbled upon this video.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. Next time I come back to the thought that i wasnt enough and "its because of me thats why he broke up with me' I'll go back to this video. You are literally godsend to me. T___T
That’s the same with my ex gf but I feel she is so confused and hurt from her past and I don’t know man it’s so hard this is the first girl I’ve actually truely loved
@@lukewilkins1190 I know of a man| who can bring your ex back to you he fixed my relationship and my ex is back to me and we are living happily like never before
@@lukewilkins1190 What sA pp him☝
I know of a man| who can bring your ex back to you he fixed my relationship and my ex is back to me and we are living happily like never before
What sA pp him☝
i needed this so much. my ex gf broke up with me a month ago and it was very abrupt and it all happened very quick and i had no say in anything. she was the first significant other to tell me they love me and she’s the first person i’ve fallen in love with. i didn’t get a lot of closure and it’s been making it so hard to move on or to do anything because i’m so overwhelmed with feelings of grief and anxiety and depression and i just feel empty inside. thank you joey.
I can relate to you word by word this exact same thing happened to me and I've been feeling the same way. Are you okay now??
I’m dealing with the same exact thing a divorce after 30 years and I’m in a state of confusion, depression
Im in the same state still it is so hard… i dont really know what happened exactly
Closure is often times the thing we give to ourselves, FOR ourselves. ✨
She felt like she was the one, the time spent felt amazing, but her path was different and ended it with no real closure, leaving me broken, confused and full of self blame. I loved her with all my heart and it felt the same, but I had no idea she unhappy as she never communicated anything, thought we were grooving and moving forward. Now I'm down 25lbs in a month, looking forward to a new career and just bettering myself, but still want her with me. I wish her the happiness I couldn't give her and if our paths cross again, hope we can become stronger. If not, I will become stronger and find my happiness. I love you. Hope you're safe and doing well.
I suppose I’m just writing this to scream into the void.
My boyfriend of one year left me and it’s hit me hard. He didn’t say it in person, he did it over text. Just a week prior to that text he was talking about marriage and kids and a future. And then he left. He said that he was just too busy with college and no longer has time for the relationship, whereas I know he dropped his hardest classes and spent most of his time in his dorm playing video games. I thought I was going to marry that man, I had given him so much of my time and effort and now I realise that it was never being reciprocated. When we did things together, he was always texting his friends. When we went on a vacation together, he ignored me for hours and played video games even though I was in the same room as him and took time off to go on the trip. When I broke down crying and told him I was struggling with my depression worse than I had in over a year, he told me that he didn’t think he could be there for me. While I was blinded by his sweet words, I didn’t see how shallow he really was though the relationship. I didn’t see that he never was truly there for me even though I was there for him at a drop of a hat.
Now I’m trying to move on. It’s only been a few days. I find myself crying a lot, but I don’t know what for really, because I always feel angry and betrayed by him. I’m trying to find who I was before the relationship, but I’m floundering because of all these built up frustrations and emotions.
I’m not really proud of myself. I went head over heels for the first person to show a hint of interest in me (didn’t help that I had a crush on him while we were in middle and high school together). But I didn’t take the time to see if that person was really there for me.
I’m heeling, I really am. For now, I think if I focus on myself, I’ll learn that I’m the only one who can love me how I need.
He disrespected you and didn’t match your energy. It’s hard but find some who does and they will make you 100 times more happier than he did
I am floored. How much of it resonates with me. First few lines I thought someone wrote my story. We are 30. We talked about marriage, a home, doing things together. Last to last week we fought over "I don't eat fruits", and now I am 10days into this breakup. We weren't the best match on the planet. But had he been clearer, I would have tried. I would have tried to do it for both of us. But now, there's nothing. Only pain. But it's all good. He didn't explain it all. I wish him well, and I will heal too. Thank you for loving me, boo. I loved you too.
You made this at the right time man
i gotchu
Thank you Joey ! I’m trying to process a breakup from a year ago. Together for 7 years and cheated on me. I finally felt okay until his new gf moved nextdoor this week, and seeing his car every day is breaking my heart. Since then i realize I’m not over him. But thats okay.. I know i’ll be fine and I deserve a lot better
If she moved next to you to piss you off don’t let it get to you. the more you let it go the more she won’t want to be there move on and work on what makes you happy
That terrible I can't imagine how painful that must be for you what a jerk... Have you two made any eye contact? Because that will tell you alot
Sorry you have to see the new gf. That's got to sting... Like how does he have the nerve to set foot there?
We had a messy and complicated break up 5 months ago. It still hurts today and has left me confused. But I'm realizing that my self doubts and questioning isn't going to bring me the closure I need. I did nothing wrong. I loved someone who could never really be loved. And they chose not to be there for me after. It hurts because I thought they'd never be the person to do this to me but this video has really opened my eyes. All our dark moments were actually dark. My mind has tricked me into replaying them minute by minute to analyze everything for what I could've possibly done wrong.
They told me in the beginning they were going to leave but, if they had truly cared for me, then they wouldn't have gone down that path to begin with
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It is so painful i felt everything u said… i went through the same… almost 2 months and i am still confused and i just finished a big cry 😢
I've watched hundreds of how to let go videos. This is the BEST. It makes sense now.
I'm about 5 months in and i still feel the pain so often. Thank you for your videos, they did help calm me and look on the bright side. I will be re-playing these videos for myself whenever i feel like i'm sinking again.
Thank you, Joey♡. I really needed this. Not because of a breakup but because of a best friend I love more then a friend leaved.
well i am glad it helped nonetheless :)
Same thing happened with me 🥺
Awe, I'm sorry❤️. It sucks
Same here
Start loving YOU
living for YOU
When someone that you truly love and supposedly loves you ,leaves you regardless of the reason ,the situation and the conditions ,make it about you,focus on you ,be there for you, think about you ,feel the pain for you ... if there is any time to be your main concern it would be this time ,you loved from the heart and it was genuine, ik but you need to slowly understand that the person is gone and it's you in your life for yourself once again and you are worthy and capable so good luck🦋
Thanks Joey, I had my first break up a few years ago and couldn't explain in words what went through my mind. My ex blocked me on everything and never told me a reason why. If this video was created back then it would have stopped a lot of spiraling but this was a great thing
Thank you so much this helped so much to see a different perspective ❤❤❤ keep on making these beautiful and amazing videos they help a lot of people just like me when I never thought that I could be happy again or when I didn’t know how I was going to come out of this deep and dark hole
Sad when someone takes your heart and walks away. The heartlessness of people, man. That's why I choose to be alone.
I finally got my closure… she said needed space… and went M.I.A on me.. I sent her a “I miss you” text.. and finally got her attention.. she said she had already told me she didn’t want to talk to me.. which wasn’t the case.. and that she can’t have me sending her text because she’s already with someone else.. so that’s my closure.. it wasn’t me.. she was already distracted with some else.. 1.5yrs of connection and communication.. gonna be a tough time for me. Wish me luck.
The way I sobbed watching this. I needed this. Thank you
thank you, truly thank you. we have been broken up for two and a half months and for the most part i moved on, it was a short time but truly changed me. it ended as friends but he turned around and decided to be a child and i need closure, until this video. it gave me what i need to fully move on and be with myself and to whoever comes next
sucks when they promise
I used to think that i wish i never met you, but thats not true. It was words from a broken heart. We ended terribly, but genuinely, thank you Alexis. Ive learned a lot about how to love, how I like to be loved. The things I value in a relationship, what I’m looking for in a partner. Its been a wild 4 years and I’m proud of how far you’ve grown as an individual. I wish the best for you and I hope you find peace in your life.
It's okay if we don't get a closure but as human beings we shouldn't get insulted or broken down by these cheap people. Even I'm going through a lot rn, and I can't see really clearly what am I doing? But I still believe we can get the love we dream too. I want to let go this self demon. Amen!!!💜
No Closure. My son estranged me. Thank you for the video. Heartbreaking!
In the end when you said ‘if no one said it to you lately im proud of you’ I cried
Thank you for the most amazing 11 months of my life i will miss her.
My ex promised me a closure convo when I’d got back from vacation but he never texted me. We separated badly so I longed for that conversation. Now I have to move on without closure. But this video helped a lot. The lack of love really is closure. The lack of care is closure.
You're an angel, man! Thank you so much for these videos. The pain I'm going through right now is unbearable, but your videos are really comforting! Thank you so much!
Your voice is a therapy 🤍
i keep asking myself why did he leave. was i not enough? was i too much. was i too difficult to love? not only did i lose my boyfriend, but my best friend too.
Closure is also when they look at you and tell you “I’m not in love with you”.
omg im crying. this is what I needed now. thank you
It's almost been a month since he broke up with me. I can still remember the intensity of the pain i felt everyday after it happened. things are much better now but i just can't seem to forget him. Maybe because i was so broken when I first met him and he made me realise I'm worthy of being loved. I need to accept the fact that he left me when I needed him the most in my life and i did my best in putting efforts and it was him who gave up on us not me and that is enough closure i need to move on...
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OMG when you said you were proud of us at the end
So much truth in here. Lots of ❤to all of us dealing with the pain. We’ll get through this and come out smiling
“We had a person change entirely” 😭😭😭
Ppl change in minutes first they want u then they pull u away
I didn't grow up with the concept of 'closure', so there wasn't a problem of looking for or seeking closure.
This is so calming.
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He played hot and cold with me for weeks, then told me I was manipulative and abusive because of my mental health and disorders, and then he yelled at me for like 40 minutes to shift the blame on me before disappearing from my life. It was a freshman relationship. He was my best friend. What the hell.
This is to the woman I dated:
I thought she would be the right one. She was already there when I was a teenager and she appeared 15 years later as an adult, with a child from another man.
We loved us, we had amazing memories, she left again.... inthe arms of another guy....
Deception and hurt I am, as after my 10 year relationship with my previous ex , I didn't believed in love anymore... and now I'm completely disappointed...
Hope she is happy now.
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Thank you Joey, I needed this. It was so sudden for me. She was so sweet and lovey dovey to me the night before, the next morning I woke up to an argument and a break up. No answers, nothing. I’m still trying to make sense of it all.
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Who was able to mend back my broken relationship. He can bring your ex back
He helped me not quite long. and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's
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Recently when I was writing... something came to the surface which really made me realise things differently, so the thought was that less contact and less frequencies of contact isn't inconsistent, its still consistent, as the other person knows where they stand with you.
We broke up 4 days ago and he instantly became ice-cold and distant and said he needed to block me. It's very hard for me right now not knowing why and how he can be like this. He told me that every other conversation would be like a knife to his heart.
@Joey sincerely and genuinely thank you for aiming to help so many souls on both the emotional and the mental levels to get through so much, it's truly noble and the most beautiful 🦋✨
I don’t think I’ve watched one of your videos without crying thinking about her. Thank you man.
Thank you, this video is really helpful and affirming. Recently broke up from a nearly 5 year long distance relationship.
You always know what's on my mind❤️❤️
Thank you soo much Joey... Seriously thanks you
Thank you so so so much,Joey
Disinterest is closure and I've learned it the hard way man
Thank you so much ❤️
Joey bro I know odds are you will never see this but damn man your legit saving me with these videos
I see ya :) don’t worry
we even have the same name! I’m Italian too
@@joeykidney oh shit man hell yea !! Giuseppe my Paisano!
@@joeykidney but legit thank you for your videos. Especially this one. It’s so hard especially without closure but you helped me man
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I end up loving a person for who I think they can be if they do what I think they should.
You taught me to love, filled the void in my heart just to throw me away. How could you be so cruel and treat me like I was expendable?
I just buried those questions under a solid rock coz before I used to keep on getting back to him then I figured he was just taking pleasure out of my vulnerability while I was dating other lady (ig I was other lady) but I figured he was narcissist( diagnosed by my therapist) he used to gaslight, manipulate me and condition to the level that I was justifying his emotionally abusive behaviour even during intimate time . Although it did left a lot of scars that I’m working on and Hey , Joe you have been a great help ❤️ I can never imagine blocking him
But I did (and didn’t unblocked him and it’s been 2 months )and I won’t never let anyone change my mind for love and guys . It’s just I haven’t been lucky yet (and I don’t even care if I never found one coz I got my own reasons to love and serve)
You just saved my life! Literally♡😢😢
Thank you, i was starting to feel lost in life
Wao! Thank You Joey :) I guess this is what everyone should listen to atleast once.
you're like therapist to me thank you for the video
i just want to thank you for your content you have just helped me through my first actual heartbreak and that means the world to me so keep doing what your doing
Nice sharing 🤗
Well again on the exact time i need it ,it been a year now nd i really needed this tysm 🥺❤nd ys again lovedd it
always here to help! or at least try
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Thank you.
Brother ... You r an anger to me ... Believe me I don't have any money for the treatment of my depression after a very harsh and a very hurtful break up ... Like the day before I had my breakup, the girl and I were watching a film and we're enjoying very much ... And suddenly she left me ... But thank you soo much for these videos ... My parents won't support me ... But you brother you helped and currently helping me a lot ... Thank you soo much ...
Thank you for that Video, it made me think a different way about my breakup a few years ago. I'm single eversince. I still think about it some times and it makes me wonder everytime... but just that you pointed it out, the way he mistreated me should be closure for me and I will make it my closure now.
Hey Joey you have helped me a lot man like you have made me open my eyes and move on and I would like to say thank you it still hurts and it will keep hurting for a while but you have helped me know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and thank you
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Thank you Joey. You have been such help over the last few years. ❤
My beautiful relationship of 5 yrs ended in such an ugly way few days back i never would have guessed. I didnt get the closure i needed either and every morning i wake up it feels unreal. Why waste a person's time love everything for 5 yrs if u know ur gonna end up choosing your family in the end. People are cruel beings Joey
Powerful. Thank you.
I needed this but honestly your videos always come at the right time
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Thanks bro I really needed this
It's worse when they ghost you, but you still have to see them and talk to them. Anyways, imo if you really need that closure go talk to them if you still can. You won't get much of it. But in the worse case, you are going to finally have a reason to hate them. Most ppl tell you to just suck it up and move on, but not everyone can do that or should do that. Also that idea feeds into making you egotistical as a way to cope. Just do whatever you think is right for you, and don't let random ppl tell you what to do or how you should feel.
Thank you for this video it genuinely helps understand how one feels like how I’m feeling right now. It’s realistic and to the point have good day.
Just broke up with my 8 years gf, which i thought i would get married to, ready to die and do anything for her, lost the closest friend ive ever had, lost the only person i have ever loved, she moved on after at this point and it hurts, a lot. Nor did i get any closure on why we really broke up.
I went and send her a mail, which might be a mistake, because it really feels unbearable at that point.
Im at the point where i dont know what to do or what to feel, and i would be okay if i lose her as my gf, but i just want her as a friend.
To whoever is going through something familiar, stay hopeful. We know how painful it can get, much love to you internet friends
Me too, after break up she behaves as if we didn't know each at all. It hurts.
Thank you brother
7 years of past and entire future ,
As every dream of future included her.. plus i am guilty of pushing her away.
Realising he left without giving me closure is closure enough for me.
I packed my stuff, left a note, left the house and we've been No Contact for 80 days. I have no reason to reach out and I don't think she'll risk it herself.
Thank you for the video. I’m trying so hard!
I needed closure so bad because this hole in my chest is getting bigger and bigger
I feel so empty its scary i feel like i am 10thousand feet under water I hope my heart get better on day. To anyone who is still hearting remember as long as you are alive you will be fine I promise❤
She didn't even give me a simple good bye before she left, the lack of proper closure made it extra hard to move on.
Sorry to everyone dealing with this, regardless of who you are, you don't deserve to have these things haunt your lives. Just know that it gets better with time, be patient and kind with yourself, it might take months or even years, but eventually you will be better ❤
Thank you higher power for my last partner leaving me!
I feel my constant obsession for closure is tied directly to my need to see Justice in order for meaning to exist, in and of itself. Without both, or either, I get a steady burning feeling of anger and righteous indignation. Think "The Book of Job" but much less severe.
The person who I thought was the love of my life left me 2 days ago and I've found myself as a stand still. They let me believe that everything was still okay then sprung upon me that for the past few weeks they had stopped loving me and would just be better off as friends. They're making a mutual friend keep tabs on me but this indirect kindness is making it so much harder. Kind of makes you wish they just did something dickish to make me hate them.
I get crushed when male or female friendships die bc ...they tend to crash and burn so I'm looking at myself. Dang!
I ended things with someone I cared about because he slowly became distant and I broke my ankle and he didn’t care at all and that ontop of other things is why I couldn’t keep trying…
I’m the one that left. But I was falling apart. I was stressed daily. I was so nervous to talk to her. I felt unwanted and unappreciated. And I still feel shame. It was and continues to be a very weird battle.
Thank you Joey, it’s hard very hard because she made all my stress go away. I lost my car because her friend decided to drink. I took it as a cue that she was “the one”. Then one day she proceed to hang out with a guy who she had controversial history. After that she acted completely differently then I looked like a fool and did some dumb things. Now I feel at complete fault when I know I was just hurt trying to understand why. I’ll never get serious answers to anything but maybe that’s for the better.
I was the one who left the relationship. It was so hard because the love I have for him was so much bigger than the love I have for myself - even now when I think about our relationship which was a toxic one at the end, I only think about his smile, the way he was holding me during a sleep, the way he was looking at me. It was so hard to leave, because I love him so much but I was in so much pain because he never prioritize me. I hurt him a lot after the breakup. I blocked him and tried to move on as fast as possible because I couldn't stand the fact I'm still in love with him - it's been six months now. He has a new girlfriend and finally starting to be happy again after me. But I feel like at the end of the day I was the one who hurt him more than he hurt me, I feel like I'm the bad guy. I'm in so much pain and I don't know how to move on and forgive myself.
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Can I offer you a hug? (:
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I feel like crap every time I think of an old girlfriend from college ... from 35 years ago!
To Glenn Sullano - I love you with all of my life and I still do. I missed you and will forever misses you. I left because I needed to. I was draining and I have nothing but remorse for myself. I wish I could reach out to you, I WANTED TO but I can’t because we both know I’m gonna be stuck and back to zero again. All I wanted for you to do is to say you need me as much as I need you, to say iloveyou, and you’re afraid to lose me and I wait and still waiting . I love you forever palalabss ko ☹️☹️
This is me right now and it's soul destroying. Together for months, the last time we saw one another was the first time we said I love you. It was magic. Then she goes on a holiday ( obvs must have met someone else) comes home, goes cold, I hear less and less, get the "its not for me anymore text" and blocked. No chance to ask why the change of heart. From I love you to blocked in a matter of days. The lack of closure and unanswered questions are utterly tormenting. If you ever break up with your partner, PLEASE give them a solid WHY. Ok you are leaving, I can accept that, but WHY??? Tell me that and I can heal. But without it, I can only wonder....what happened? But she closed the door, like you say, maybe that's all I really need to know.