for me..whats hard to accept is the fact that they might have blocked/deleted my number i still care about her because she has some family issues and i pray to god i get the opportunity to help her even in a future relationship but the fact that she might have deleted my number is hard to swallow
I’m one of the odd people that got to experience real love very early in life. I was with one person from the time I was 13 until almost 22. There were many MANY ups and downs during our almost 10 years together, extreme highs and extreme lows, but I felt that I had the person I was going to be with forever, because we were able to work through almost anything life through at us and we fought through… until one day he didn’t want to anymore. He left saying he needed to “work on himself” and 2 months later was with someone new. I was devastated. I truly had never experienced such dark emotions and heartache. The first year after it happened I was lost and had no idea who I was or what my life was supposed to look like without him. It wasn’t until year 2 post break up that I put in the work to find myself and truly become happy, just by myself. I learned SO much throughout the process and at the end of year 2 I was genuinely happy. I’m in year 3, still single, just turned 25 and I can honestly say I have never been more content. In these past 3 years I got an Aussie named Miller who is my absolute best friend 🥰, bought my first car, live in a beautiful apartment and live my life to the fullest daily. I take care of my body and mind and even on the days when I’m down, I know I have so much to be grateful for in this life. Yes, I get lonely sometimes but I’ve learned how to sit with those emotions and I know those feelings are not forever. When God is willing to allow me to meet the right person I know it will work out because I’ve invested the time in myself to make a relationship the best it can be. So if anyone is in the heartbreak boat right now just hold tight, it does get better!! Just focus on loving you and everything else will fall into place ❤️
I wasn't with a guy like that as long but he was my first love and I was with him for a year and half we had ups and downs really badly. He eventually decided he wanted to give up cause stuff built up and I hadn't realized it did. Anyways I went into a really unhealthy cycle I had already been in for many years of just dating guy after guy instead of facing it head on. after my most recent break up last Wensday My previous first love is now basically reminding me that I need to be on my own and work on myself. That I need to face all this pain head on. It's difficult, very difficult. There are days I'm a complete mess. It's really hard to give it all to God and try and keep a daily schedule going of taking care of myself and doing all the stuff my parents want me to do on a daily basis while getting ready for the school year. Just trying to remember that it will get better and I CAN be happy on my own. 🥲
Kind of shakes you in a profound way and helps you realize how much you actually may have been unsatisfied with your life before… brings you closer to doing and being the things you ACTUALLY want. Like I big WHACK to your soul… getting you closer to YOU.
Yes. Getting over my last break up, that now happend 3.5 months ago, I found myself. I learned to love and care for myself, to rely on myself. I learned to be kind to myself and always put my needs first. I learned that in the end I am the only person I can truly depend on. I became my own best friend. I am not completely over it yet, but I found so much strength inside of me that I am forever greatful for. I know that whatever life throws at me, I will be able to handle it. If I can survive being blindsided by the woman I wanted to marry, I can survive anything. If you are reading this and currently heartbroken, just know that you will get through this and that you are much stronger than you think you are. I was so devastated at first, I felt like dying, but instead I found myself again. Know that in healing you will change and grow - and I think that is so beautiful. It is not the end of the world, even though it might seem like it is. If I got though it, so will you!
She may be, but trust me friend: You are whole as you are. She could be at your life but she's not right now. And that's okay! Unfortunately, bad things happen to everyone. I'm sorry for your loss, and wish you the best. The pain, It'll pass. Get yourself some time to grieve, and a bit of space for both of you. A great thing to overcome is to pursue who you are right now, to fill that empty void. Because the feeling is terrible
mine broke up with me almost a week ago, i feel lost and empty as well. i feel completely broken inside because i lost myself in him. i just want you to know you aren't alone.
I’m absolutely devastated right now, 3rd break up and never gets easier, 2nd long term relationship… but these videos on your channel truly are just helping calm me down, everything about it with your voice, music in the background, the intro, everything makes me just aspire to not BE like you, but just do what you do, you just look organized and self respected. Thank you, genuinely.
For me it's just so hard to find the right person to even start to love, especially with the modern talking stages and the overusing of important words like I love you. I just want to find someone who I can actually and truthfully give my whole heart too I know this sounds bad but it's just hard to commit to talking to someone for me and it's either me being someone who needs more attention or just me not finding the right person. (I just want to avoid a forced marriage like the ones my parents had)
I just lost the love of my life. She was my everything. She wasn’t perfect, but that was what made her perfect. She was so beautiful and her personality was too. I loved her for who she was and I loved her family. She broke things with me after a wonderful 1 year and 1 month. We planned our future together, she was my biggest emotional support. She was the woman of my dreams. Like sure we weren’t perfect, but that’s what made us perfect in my eyes. We were having a bit of a tough time near the end and she decided that she just couldn’t do it anymore. I wasn’t enough to make her stay. She said that it was the right person wrong time. But to me if it’s the right person then time doesn’t matter. I told her that I’d always love her, and she said the same back. I told her that maybe someday we could try again and she told me that I shouldn’t hope for it. That’s when I realised that I may have actually lost her. She told me she still wants to be friends, but idk how I can trust what she says anymore. The break up was today. I hope that one day I am able to do the things I love without the memory of her coming back to me.
I’m really sorry to hear that man. I know that feeling. The imperfections made everything perfect. But we have to understand that if it is the right person than time should not be an issue. She chose to leave and she made the decision not to have you there. She was the one that truly was in the loss because she lost someone who truly loved and cared for her. Not you! Follow your passions/hobbies and most of all love yourself and know you are enough!
i feel the same, but it was my ex who lost me for a cheaper version of me, at least he was brave enough to let me go when all this time he told me i was the woman he was gonna marry someday. it still hurts after almost 2 months of no contact, but i know it'll get better, and im working on myself everyday.
@@dreamypurrz you’re going to be ok. It takes some time but you just gotta always remember that it’s their loss and they’ll try to come back to you when they realise they’ll never be able to find someone better
You should look into the "anxious attachment style". I found that learning about this and realizing this in myself has really helped. Learning how to surrender it and take the best parts and say goodbye to the unhealthy parts. Then you won't lose yourself again :) They will see you, for you.
My 6 months relationship just ended yesterday and it sucks. I feel like dying, I feel suffocated. It was a healthy breakup but knowing that we won't be together anymore makes me feel so bad. It sucks.
Mine ended today. She was my dream girl who I wanted for so long. She became my best friend, and we talked about the future together. Today she sent me a text and said it's over and she needs space away from me. How is it I'm supposed to be the person closest to her, she shut me out and pushed me away. I'm so broken and hurt, she won't even see me face to face, I don't know what to do
Wow man your videos are extremely helpful right now. Broke up with my ex a month ago and totally relapsed, wanted her back but she had already moved on from me and is seeing someone else now. I need to remember I ended it for a reason, and I wrote down so many valuable things from this video. Thanks so much
I recently got out of a pretty toxic long distance relationship, and the only reason I stayed with her (which I shouldn't have) was that she was the ONLY person I was talking to at the time. I was completely alone and clung to her companionship to feel better. After the breakup it just magnified how lonely and isolated I was in life. 2 months of feeling meloncholy and aimless later, I decided to treat myself as if I was my best friend! Like someone you wanted the best for and to see them go on and do great things. As shitty as the breakup was, im glad that it taught me that it's alright to love yourself amd be happy with what u have. Life's too short for me to let one breakup mess it all up.
I am experiencing a major heartbreak and a break up now. But little do I know, it is the reason why I am finally moving out of my parents' place and getting a new job. It resulted to me being in a better place and I feel better about myself.
About an hour ago I just watched the person I loved more than anything ever just walk out the door for the last time. I am in excruciating pain. I thought she was the one. I feel like I’m dreaming, soon to wake up. But it’s real and I can barely cope. I trust that things will work out, not gonna let this ruin me
I really needed to hear this, just lost myself for 5.5 years, i am sad and i love her, but i lost myself, gained 80lbs , and was never happy or contend, inoove this message you made me think more clear,
going through my first heartbreak right now bc he lost feelings and it’s the worst thing i’ve ever felt, but i’m trying day by day to get back to myself. it’s just painful bc we started as friends and he became even closer of one during the relationship so i feel i lost two people. though this time has opened my eyes to how i went into it hollowed out emotionally and couldn’t give everything i am, just sucks lol gonna work harder to find that again to do better next time.
I’m so sorry :( it’s been 3 weeks since I broke up. I was in the same situation as you. Let me tell you though… time really does heal. Time won’t stop for us so the only thing to do is to keep moving forward. It’s ok to have moments though where you feel like you’re doing okay now but out of nowhere it just hits you again. I’m still really going through it. But I don’t wake up thinking about him constantly anymore. Baby steps! You got this ❤️
Going through a break up for the first time and I've had my ups and downs and truthfully just want better for myself. I am trying to find my old self and bring out myself from that relationship too at the same time when I reality I think I just need to get out of the old and into a new and better self. ❤️
That's called co-dependency - a mental issue where we derive our sense of self-worth from external validation from another person, group of people or an environment (i.e. work). Also going through the journey of managing my co-dependency tendencies with my therapist 🙌
I feel like the same thing can work for all kinds of grief. Recently a friend of mine passed and I was heartbroken but in a different way. I didn’t do anything for 2 weeks but after his memorial service and grieving with friends that knew him later that day, a week later I started doing a new routine. I polished up my resume, started to look for new work…something I actually wanted to do, and got back into making art again. I started working on my self again. I realized life was too short to be miserable doing stuff I didn’t like and complaining about it from time to time. Then it dawned on me this is how I am after breakups too. It’s that grief that is awful but helps you be human in a way too.
A friend of mine told me I was the only person he knows that looked happier and healthier after a 'break up' and I was going through a divorce. So there's that. Not that it wasn't painful, it was absolutely awful, but I finally had the chance to be myself and explore who I really am, something I wasn't able to do while married, and that's the most important thing.
Love this Joey! We must never forget who we are or who we are meant to be. After all the right relationship isn’t brittle. Who truly loves us will never leave, actually they will work to stay.
Going to a break up with my Fiancee, we both realised like we actually didn't belong together after all these years. But man does it hurt breaking up when you both still love each other, but we know its best for us. She meant everything to me, but still there was something missing, something i cant describe. Thanks for this video, these help alot.
This hit home, I’ve never really understood what it meant to reclaim yourself after a breakup and I still haven’t but I have an idea and that idea helps me process it in a much healthier way. I’ve recently found out that Im codependent on whoever I’m with meaning I’m not necessarily giving them my full self I would just rather have someone there for self validation. I never knew what it meant to truly love myself, until recently when I just got out of a relationship with a narcissist I wondered why I tolerated what I had, my therapist helped me discover this, and it was an eye opening moment that I feel the way I do after a breakup because I’ve not been able to truly get to know myself. So in essence I’m utilizing your meanings behind the breakup and what I can gain from it because in all honesty I didn’t lose anything in this past one just a liar, cheater, abuser, manipulator, gaslighter, and overall negative person.
just had a breakup with my first ever boyfriend. we were in ldr. the worst part ? even though we dated for a year, we couldn't save enough money to meet each other. His family is so fucked up that he's down with depression now. It fucked up our relationship and I had to let that man go. I've never been this hurt
This happened to me too we are in a long distance and we broke up once and then after 4 months(april) we started talking again it was going good so far but i can't meet him and i want to i just wanna be near him and its impossible with us going to colleges in different places its just so hard to let someone u love go , i can't keep up with long distance anymore and i also dont want to let him go
@@aditilahre9659 i can relate so much to this. Its all so sad and confusing because somewhere you know that its necessary to let the man go but in your heart he's all you've ever wanted. It sucks legit
Just happened to me. Was in a ldr and he dumped me last month in the beginning of June. I didn't see it until now, he was super emotionally abusive. Him dumping me was the best thing he did for me. Last month, I couldn't see it. I cried every day and now I am better. It does get easier
I feel this. I got dumped and blocked yesterday from my first real relationship. It was ldr as well. This isn’t the first time they dumped me but we did get back together for a short bit but it still didn’t work out. I feel lost and alone. They sent me one last long message then blocked me. Got rid of everything that we had. I’m in pain rn but I know I’ll heal overtime. Hope you guys are doing much better now ❤
Breakups can be a blessing in disguise! It's not always meant for makeup, but rather it ends in order for you to wake up! So instead of trying to fix something that is broken, start over to create something that you will attract better. 💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
One thing that I learned is that not every person who is single is going to end up with someone and not every couple that you see is going to last together. So when you find yourself dealt with a bad hand of cards where you're either getting nowhere with dating/ relationships or your relationship is not in a great place, you have to utilize your time and energy wisely.
My ex come back to me few days ago❤ I got help from a relationship Restorer Dr Ezekiel who was able to mend back my broken 💔 relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for second chance.He can bring your ex back.
Just had a break up, 7 years and one day she sends me a zoom meeting link and through zoom tells that she doesnt want to be together anymore, and that is not the way anymore. So, after 7 years, of trying, of giving, the person you almost consider as close as family just vanishes, just goes away and never to be seen anymore. I just cant stop thinking that I wasted my time, I just cant stop thinking that the risk to benefit ratio its not even close of being worth it in a relationship.
You are an amazing human being Joey and a real role model for men so that they express themselves and emotions and more importantly know how to deal with them so they step into their best version of themselves no matter what it looks like as long as they're not harming anyone verbally or physically.
i don’t even know what’s going on, i’m just so in love with her and she broke it off, and the only person i would go to was her when i’m sad, i’m not as close with a lot of friends anymore because of all i gave for this girl, she’s perfect in every way and i can’t get over her, food has no taste and drinking my favorite coffee makes me cry because it’s her favorite coffee too
My LDR bf of 3.5 years broke up with me saying he met a girl at work he really liked, and that he wanted to be honest with his feelings and end our relationship. I was heartbroken when he told me this cuz even though we didn't get to meet much during our relationship because of covid, he had become one of the people I trusted most and whom I never thought would just leave me for another girl. It was hard for me to accept this reality, but as time passed by I was able to look back at our relationship more clearly: he was really not the right person for me, and to be honest, I was not the partner he needed at this stage of his life (I'm in my early 20s and he's in his early 30s). We were good friends before we dated but we definitely didn't make a "good couple" mainly because we were simply not in the same stage of our lives and didn't know how to be there for each other. I see now that this break up is exactly what I needed and I am happy that I can pursue what I want more bravely and freely now.
I believe that wrong time can occur if you are in a depression. Even the right person would have left. I looked for connection but I had to fix myself first in order to have a healthy relationship.
Hey, it's me again.... Back then, when you released the other video you mentioned, about you wearing a white hoodie and drinking coffee, I was going through my first breakup. I must say, watch this was fel refreshing. It might be a weird way of describing it but I understand what you are talking about. I remember I started going to the gym and I got ripped too. However, I discovered I did it for the wrong reasons and I won't lie that when I discovered that, my motivation went down. Months later, I went back to the gym but for myself. No more revenge phase. We as human being are interesting individuals. At the end of the day, letting the emotions flow is what help us healing
Thank you so much for posting this Joey. It is so beautiful and you seem like you understand exactly what I am going through. I also feel inspired by reading other people’s comments on this video. One day, I will have the love I deserve with the right person. Even if that isn’t the case, I will always have myself. ♥️
The hardest thing is when someone that used to love you just change in a way that you don't expect and you feel like you don't know them anymore That's how I'm feeling now but i love her and i break up with her now I'll be the one that feels more pain
Therapies? = maybe, Joey Kidney's videos? =Hell yes. Just kidding, a little... In all seriousness, Joey has always helped me so much throughout time. I've been a fan of his for so so long that I lost count of the years (probably since he started TH-cam back in the day with daily vlogs and the talk about what he looked for in a girl video) and honestly I feel like I've grown with him. I haven't literally been through a breakup but I've definitely felt it, even if I wasn't actually with that person as a couple. You still feel it and I could absolutely agree on what Joey told us in this video. You learn to love yourself more and to truly comprehend yourself better, become the best versions of yourself after going through that 'revenge' phase. So thank you Joey, for putting in this video what I couldn't express in my heart.
first long term relationship ended today fully. we were together for nearly 3 years from when we were 18 to 21. She said she feels the relationship ran it’s course and i don’t feel the same. But i feel okay. I feel i’ve gotten mentally and emotionally stronger the past few months and while i know there’s going to be a grieving process especially with seasonal depression, i just feel okay. I also feel like i have lost myself in her.
Relationships are pointless. There's always someone who's a better fit for you partner. And that someone better is literally a swipe or click away. You best bet is to just stay single and focus on yourself.
It's the calm after the storm, I can say that after some time, and with the help of ur vids😅, I have begun to find the things that I used to love and the things that made me me.
I managed to move on from my first love after a year of battle back in 2016 and found someone new which i thought that person surely a better one but look at me now, watching a random motivational video about breakup :) but still i have to fight again to deal with this heartache
I feel for you. but it’s worth asking why we lose ourselves when we’re with someone? It’s like we’re blaming the relationship for changing, breaking, or inhibiting us… but it simply served its purpose, and we control the outcomes during, before, and after the relationship. If a relationship never made you feel good enough to work on yourself while you were in it, maybe there was a factor within yourself that needed something different, or maybe they just weren’t the one. I think it’s just unfair to pin it all on a relationship. If you didn’t change for the better while you were in it, that’s all on you since our partners did not make us lose ourselves- we did that all on our own because we focused too much on making the relationship complete us, when we can be two complete people just vibing together. I understand what you mean when you say that breakups are better than being in a relationship, since it allows you to realign with who you are. But it just sounds a little like you’re downplaying how much a relationship can also feel good and help you grow(unless that person was toxic of course).
I didn’t get break up with. I decided to leave. It’s been about two months I left a 7 year emotional abusive relationship and I couldn’t be happier now that I’m single. It sucked to walk away but it’s what’s best for me. I’m growing everyday and learning everyday to love myself and I’m single. AND I’m okay with that :) it’s the best decision I’ve made. Thank you for your video ❤️
My first breakup was with someone I was with for 7 years and moving on was painful but easier because they were a horrible human and I had so much anger fueling me. This time around I’m going through a breakup with someone I was with for 4 months and it feels so much harder because I have so much compassion for them and truly don’t think they are a bad person even though they ended it. Nothing seems exciting and I feel numb. I have everything I want in life and just wanted to share it with them.
man it hurts so much, after nearly 8 months together she decided to end it agter swearing to be together forever no matter what but she left ! its my fault, im the bad person, i control, gaslight, manipulate, guilt trip according to her and thats valid enough ! imagining that through her eyes would hurt ofc ! but i was just trying to express my feelings ! just as she did but in the end it was me unable to control my feelings.
After a painful breakup post-Valentine's Day, I felt shattered. But I'm rebuilding and healing. She wasn't the one; tough truth, but necessary. Hang in there, you're not alone. Update: Nearly four weeks later, met someone amazing. Life's short, so heal, then get back in the game. Stay strong, my friends.
If you lose yourself in a relationship, that is an individual problem that keeps reoccurring within you. I am in a long term relationship, and we both love, support, and accept one another completely. We have gone out and I've been all dolled up and he's in sweats, or going to the store with me in a robe and I think its cute and hilarious. We are wholeheartedly ourselves and accept that. He has only helped me reach my full potential as an independent woman, and I have helped him as well. When you're in a healthy, joyful, interdependent partnership, you will not feel this way. Do not let this beautiful filmed video romanticize emotional pain for you, instead get to know yourself, and steadily learn to love that person, and if you desire love, be discerning, transparent, and trusting.
After year one I was no longer the man she met and fell in love with. I was really depressed barely kept a job rarely had sex. Two years later(now) I’m just getting back to it but she couldn’t wait any longer. I am trying to find peace in working on me and believing I’ll be the man I want to be and our love will be renewed
Lol BARS 😂 .. those were bars and I’m taking notes!! 🥸🤓 👌🏽 This is one of those videos that you watch, love ❤️ and save for that one day you may need to watch again. This was like an open mic 🎤 type a vibe! Loved it! Ty & Aloha 🤙🏽 from Hawai’i 🧘🏽♀️🧉✨
But that heartbreak is nothing if you didnt felt love for that person. You need to truly love that person to experience a true heartbreak. Then it will be your decision if you get back up and make a breakthrough or stay and be trapped in the past.
No need to get her back. I already accepted when she ghosted me, she already is gone. Moving on and staying with my path is my decision. If ever she comes back, I dont know. A possibility is just a possibility until it happens, In that way I dont need to think about it unless it happens.
im that type of person who dont forgive about yourself in relationship thats why my ex broke up w me. cus im to strongly focus in myself in relationship am i weird?
@Anne Hey Anne. Thank you. I am okay with letting him go. I am trying to forgive myself for hurting him and move on. It just gets hard to do sometimes.
Dude, are you still milking the breakup? Day-ung. I guess if it's the only way for you to eat and the chick's love it...the sad music and even sadder espresso machine is classic. Next time, take some footage of you walking away in the snow...head down!
The hardest thing is to give up the urge to fight for them, and to start fighting for yourself instead.
omg yes - it is almost impossible but it is amazing when you realize that you are fine on your own
Especially when they’re not fighting for you or reciprocating interested
@@joeykidney but how do you know you are fine on your own. Its just so lonely
omg, this line defines me... The idea of giving up our dreams and future plans is so f hard to accept...
for me..whats hard to accept is the fact that they might have blocked/deleted my number
i still care about her because she has some family issues and i pray to god i get the opportunity to help her
even in a future relationship
but the fact that she might have deleted my number is hard to swallow
I’m one of the odd people that got to experience real love very early in life. I was with one person from the time I was 13 until almost 22. There were many MANY ups and downs during our almost 10 years together, extreme highs and extreme lows, but I felt that I had the person I was going to be with forever, because we were able to work through almost anything life through at us and we fought through… until one day he didn’t want to anymore. He left saying he needed to “work on himself” and 2 months later was with someone new. I was devastated. I truly had never experienced such dark emotions and heartache. The first year after it happened I was lost and had no idea who I was or what my life was supposed to look like without him. It wasn’t until year 2 post break up that I put in the work to find myself and truly become happy, just by myself. I learned SO much throughout the process and at the end of year 2 I was genuinely happy. I’m in year 3, still single, just turned 25 and I can honestly say I have never been more content. In these past 3 years I got an Aussie named Miller who is my absolute best friend 🥰, bought my first car, live in a beautiful apartment and live my life to the fullest daily. I take care of my body and mind and even on the days when I’m down, I know I have so much to be grateful for in this life. Yes, I get lonely sometimes but I’ve learned how to sit with those emotions and I know those feelings are not forever. When God is willing to allow me to meet the right person I know it will work out because I’ve invested the time in myself to make a relationship the best it can be. So if anyone is in the heartbreak boat right now just hold tight, it does get better!! Just focus on loving you and everything else will fall into place ❤️
Thank you for your beautiful story, i appreciate that.
Thank uuuu for your beautiful words 🥺❤
She just increase my spiritual vibes thank you for making my year 💙blessing to you 💙🇳🇵
I wasn't with a guy like that as long but he was my first love and I was with him for a year and half we had ups and downs really badly. He eventually decided he wanted to give up cause stuff built up and I hadn't realized it did. Anyways I went into a really unhealthy cycle I had already been in for many years of just dating guy after guy instead of facing it head on. after my most recent break up last Wensday My previous first love is now basically reminding me that I need to be on my own and work on myself. That I need to face all this pain head on. It's difficult, very difficult. There are days I'm a complete mess. It's really hard to give it all to God and try and keep a daily schedule going of taking care of myself and doing all the stuff my parents want me to do on a daily basis while getting ready for the school year. Just trying to remember that it will get better and I CAN be happy on my own. 🥲
@@katelynclark5607 i hope tht you'll be better sooner. You deserve your own happiness
I actually became who I wanted after my break up
love that for you
I feel this so much. I look back to where I wanted to be 2-3 years ago. And I’m here, I made it and I’m finally starting to be happy.
Kind of shakes you in a profound way and helps you realize how much you actually may have been unsatisfied with your life before… brings you closer to doing and being the things you ACTUALLY want. Like I big WHACK to your soul… getting you closer to YOU.
Yes. Getting over my last break up, that now happend 3.5 months ago, I found myself. I learned to love and care for myself, to rely on myself. I learned to be kind to myself and always put my needs first. I learned that in the end I am the only person I can truly depend on. I became my own best friend. I am not completely over it yet, but I found so much strength inside of me that I am forever greatful for. I know that whatever life throws at me, I will be able to handle it. If I can survive being blindsided by the woman I wanted to marry, I can survive anything.
If you are reading this and currently heartbroken, just know that you will get through this and that you are much stronger than you think you are. I was so devastated at first, I felt like dying, but instead I found myself again. Know that in healing you will change and grow - and I think that is so beautiful. It is not the end of the world, even though it might seem like it is. If I got though it, so will you!
I’m going through the same thing right now and it’s so hard. Thank you for saying this
@@leesharg how are you now? Same fuckin situation right now i dont know what to do
Broke up yesterday, absolutely devastated. I feel lost and empty, I am in denial, and I don't know what to do. She's the love of my life
She may be, but trust me friend: You are whole as you are. She could be at your life but she's not right now. And that's okay!
Unfortunately, bad things happen to everyone. I'm sorry for your loss, and wish you the best. The pain, It'll pass. Get yourself some time to grieve, and a bit of space for both of you. A great thing to overcome is to pursue who you are right now, to fill that empty void. Because the feeling is terrible
mine broke up with me almost a week ago, i feel lost and empty as well. i feel completely broken inside because i lost myself in him. i just want you to know you aren't alone.
How are you doing after a year?
@@gabrielleosborn6348you doing better now? A year later?
I’m absolutely devastated right now, 3rd break up and never gets easier, 2nd long term relationship… but these videos on your channel truly are just helping calm me down, everything about it with your voice, music in the background, the intro, everything makes me just aspire to not BE like you, but just do what you do, you just look organized and self respected. Thank you, genuinely.
For me it's just so hard to find the right person to even start to love, especially with the modern talking stages and the overusing of important words like I love you. I just want to find someone who I can actually and truthfully give my whole heart too I know this sounds bad but it's just hard to commit to talking to someone for me and it's either me being someone who needs more attention or just me not finding the right person. (I just want to avoid a forced marriage like the ones my parents had)
this was beautifully said. So true that heartbreak is one of the best catalysts for self-growth
I just lost the love of my life. She was my everything. She wasn’t perfect, but that was what made her perfect. She was so beautiful and her personality was too. I loved her for who she was and I loved her family. She broke things with me after a wonderful 1 year and 1 month. We planned our future together, she was my biggest emotional support. She was the woman of my dreams. Like sure we weren’t perfect, but that’s what made us perfect in my eyes. We were having a bit of a tough time near the end and she decided that she just couldn’t do it anymore. I wasn’t enough to make her stay. She said that it was the right person wrong time. But to me if it’s the right person then time doesn’t matter. I told her that I’d always love her, and she said the same back. I told her that maybe someday we could try again and she told me that I shouldn’t hope for it. That’s when I realised that I may have actually lost her. She told me she still wants to be friends, but idk how I can trust what she says anymore. The break up was today. I hope that one day I am able to do the things I love without the memory of her coming back to me.
I’m really sorry to hear that man. I know that feeling. The imperfections made everything perfect. But we have to understand that if it is the right person than time should not be an issue. She chose to leave and she made the decision not to have you there. She was the one that truly was in the loss because she lost someone who truly loved and cared for her. Not you! Follow your passions/hobbies and most of all love yourself and know you are enough!
i feel the same, but it was my ex who lost me for a cheaper version of me, at least he was brave enough to let me go when all this time he told me i was the woman he was gonna marry someday. it still hurts after almost 2 months of no contact, but i know it'll get better, and im working on myself everyday.
@@afranks4384 thank you man! Yeah turns out she was cheating and argh I’m doing much better than before tho
@@dreamypurrz you’re going to be ok. It takes some time but you just gotta always remember that it’s their loss and they’ll try to come back to you when they realise they’ll never be able to find someone better
You should look into the "anxious attachment style". I found that learning about this and realizing this in myself has really helped. Learning how to surrender it and take the best parts and say goodbye to the unhealthy parts. Then you won't lose yourself again :) They will see you, for you.
My 6 months relationship just ended yesterday and it sucks. I feel like dying, I feel suffocated. It was a healthy breakup but knowing that we won't be together anymore makes me feel so bad. It sucks.
Hey, how are you doing 1 month down the track?
Mine ended today. She was my dream girl who I wanted for so long. She became my best friend, and we talked about the future together. Today she sent me a text and said it's over and she needs space away from me. How is it I'm supposed to be the person closest to her, she shut me out and pushed me away. I'm so broken and hurt, she won't even see me face to face, I don't know what to do
Wow man your videos are extremely helpful right now. Broke up with my ex a month ago and totally relapsed, wanted her back but she had already moved on from me and is seeing someone else now. I need to remember I ended it for a reason, and I wrote down so many valuable things from this video. Thanks so much
I recently got out of a pretty toxic long distance relationship, and the only reason I stayed with her (which I shouldn't have) was that she was the ONLY person I was talking to at the time. I was completely alone and clung to her companionship to feel better. After the breakup it just magnified how lonely and isolated I was in life. 2 months of feeling meloncholy and aimless later, I decided to treat myself as if I was my best friend! Like someone you wanted the best for and to see them go on and do great things. As shitty as the breakup was, im glad that it taught me that it's alright to love yourself amd be happy with what u have. Life's too short for me to let one breakup mess it all up.
I am experiencing a major heartbreak and a break up now. But little do I know, it is the reason why I am finally moving out of my parents' place and getting a new job. It resulted to me being in a better place and I feel better about myself.
About an hour ago I just watched the person I loved more than anything ever just walk out the door for the last time. I am in excruciating pain. I thought she was the one. I feel like I’m dreaming, soon to wake up. But it’s real and I can barely cope. I trust that things will work out, not gonna let this ruin me
I really needed to hear this, just lost myself for 5.5 years, i am sad and i love her, but i lost myself, gained 80lbs , and was never happy or contend, inoove this message you made me think more clear,
So happy for you☺️
As they say, time does heal everything!
going through my first heartbreak right now bc he lost feelings and it’s the worst thing i’ve ever felt, but i’m trying day by day to get back to myself. it’s just painful bc we started as friends and he became even closer of one during the relationship so i feel i lost two people. though this time has opened my eyes to how i went into it hollowed out emotionally and couldn’t give everything i am, just sucks lol gonna work harder to find that again to do better next time.
I’m so sorry :( it’s been 3 weeks since I broke up. I was in the same situation as you. Let me tell you though… time really does heal. Time won’t stop for us so the only thing to do is to keep moving forward. It’s ok to have moments though where you feel like you’re doing okay now but out of nowhere it just hits you again. I’m still really going through it. But I don’t wake up thinking about him constantly anymore. Baby steps! You got this ❤️
Me too. I notice a little bit of progress but it still hurts.
I went thru something similar as you. How have you been doing?
@@weebywo6501 how you feeling now?
@@siddhantramteke3834 amazing. It feels so nice being single lol
Wow this is exactly what I needed. Thank you
Going through a break up for the first time and I've had my ups and downs and truthfully just want better for myself. I am trying to find my old self and bring out myself from that relationship too at the same time when I reality I think I just need to get out of the old and into a new and better self. ❤️
Always love your videos, they help me look at things differently and make me feel better every time. Thank you for being you Joey!
thank you so much for watching & being here
I've learned so much from my break up. It made me realise and learn to love , care and respect myself.
That's called co-dependency - a mental issue where we derive our sense of self-worth from external validation from another person, group of people or an environment (i.e. work). Also going through the journey of managing my co-dependency tendencies with my therapist 🙌
I feel like the same thing can work for all kinds of grief. Recently a friend of mine passed and I was heartbroken but in a different way. I didn’t do anything for 2 weeks but after his memorial service and grieving with friends that knew him later that day, a week later I started doing a new routine. I polished up my resume, started to look for new work…something I actually wanted to do, and got back into making art again. I started working on my self again. I realized life was too short to be miserable doing stuff I didn’t like and complaining about it from time to time. Then it dawned on me this is how I am after breakups too. It’s that grief that is awful but helps you be human in a way too.
I don't know how long I'm with this channel... just want to say love you !!!
A friend of mine told me I was the only person he knows that looked happier and healthier after a 'break up' and I was going through a divorce. So there's that. Not that it wasn't painful, it was absolutely awful, but I finally had the chance to be myself and explore who I really am, something I wasn't able to do while married, and that's the most important thing.
Dear Joey, you spoke from my soul and my own experience. Thank you for such great positive vibe. You left me speechless... :)
Love this Joey! We must never forget who we are or who we are meant to be. After all the right relationship isn’t brittle. Who truly loves us will never leave, actually they will work to stay.
Going to a break up with my Fiancee, we both realised like we actually didn't belong together after all these years. But man does it hurt breaking up when you both still love each other, but we know its best for us. She meant everything to me, but still there was something missing, something i cant describe. Thanks for this video, these help alot.
This hit home, I’ve never really understood what it meant to reclaim yourself after a breakup and I still haven’t but I have an idea and that idea helps me process it in a much healthier way. I’ve recently found out that Im codependent on whoever I’m with meaning I’m not necessarily giving them my full self I would just rather have someone there for self validation. I never knew what it meant to truly love myself, until recently when I just got out of a relationship with a narcissist I wondered why I tolerated what I had, my therapist helped me discover this, and it was an eye opening moment that I feel the way I do after a breakup because I’ve not been able to truly get to know myself. So in essence I’m utilizing your meanings behind the breakup and what I can gain from it because in all honesty I didn’t lose anything in this past one just a liar, cheater, abuser, manipulator, gaslighter, and overall negative person.
just had a breakup with my first ever boyfriend. we were in ldr. the worst part ? even though we dated for a year, we couldn't save enough money to meet each other. His family is so fucked up that he's down with depression now. It fucked up our relationship and I had to let that man go. I've never been this hurt
Stay strong Aditi and I'll suggest uh baat krlo
This happened to me too we are in a long distance and we broke up once and then after 4 months(april) we started talking again it was going good so far but i can't meet him and i want to i just wanna be near him and its impossible with us going to colleges in different places its just so hard to let someone u love go , i can't keep up with long distance anymore and i also dont want to let him go
@@aditilahre9659 i can relate so much to this. Its all so sad and confusing because somewhere you know that its necessary to let the man go but in your heart he's all you've ever wanted. It sucks legit
Just happened to me. Was in a ldr and he dumped me last month in the beginning of June. I didn't see it until now, he was super emotionally abusive. Him dumping me was the best thing he did for me. Last month, I couldn't see it. I cried every day and now I am better. It does get easier
I feel this. I got dumped and blocked yesterday from my first real relationship. It was ldr as well. This isn’t the first time they dumped me but we did get back together for a short bit but it still didn’t work out. I feel lost and alone. They sent me one last long message then blocked me. Got rid of everything that we had. I’m in pain rn but I know I’ll heal overtime. Hope you guys are doing much better now ❤
Breakups can be a blessing in disguise! It's not always meant for makeup, but rather it ends in order for you to wake up! So instead of trying to fix something that is broken, start over to create something that you will attract better.
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Lord knows mine was lol
One thing that I learned is that not every person who is single is going to end up with someone and not every couple that you see is going to last together. So when you find yourself dealt with a bad hand of cards where you're either getting nowhere with dating/ relationships or your relationship is not in a great place, you have to utilize your time and energy wisely.
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Just had a break up, 7 years and one day she sends me a zoom meeting link and through zoom tells that she doesnt want to be together anymore, and that is not the way anymore. So, after 7 years, of trying, of giving, the person you almost consider as close as family just vanishes, just goes away and never to be seen anymore. I just cant stop thinking that I wasted my time, I just cant stop thinking that the risk to benefit ratio its not even close of being worth it in a relationship.
Waiting for your new podcast..
Thank You for everything and hope you have a lovely time in new your house..
Take care Joey..
new podcast coming shortly! I have been moving and travelling, but I will get back to the routine shortly
I can't believe I've been watching you since I was like 11 and now I'm 21(9yrs 😹). Love your channel and what you stand for in general 😊✨💗
You are an amazing human being Joey and a real role model for men so that they express themselves and emotions and more importantly know how to deal with them so they step into their best version of themselves no matter what it looks like as long as they're not harming anyone verbally or physically.
i don’t even know what’s going on, i’m just so in love with her and she broke it off, and the only person i would go to was her when i’m sad, i’m not as close with a lot of friends anymore because of all i gave for this girl, she’s perfect in every way and i can’t get over her, food has no taste and drinking my favorite coffee makes me cry because it’s her favorite coffee too
I love this so much.. thank you Joey 🥹
breakup videos are some of the best tbh 💙💙💙
i needed this today Joey. thank you! love you❤️
My LDR bf of 3.5 years broke up with me saying he met a girl at work he really liked, and that he wanted to be honest with his feelings and end our relationship. I was heartbroken when he told me this cuz even though we didn't get to meet much during our relationship because of covid, he had become one of the people I trusted most and whom I never thought would just leave me for another girl. It was hard for me to accept this reality, but as time passed by I was able to look back at our relationship more clearly: he was really not the right person for me, and to be honest, I was not the partner he needed at this stage of his life (I'm in my early 20s and he's in his early 30s). We were good friends before we dated but we definitely didn't make a "good couple" mainly because we were simply not in the same stage of our lives and didn't know how to be there for each other. I see now that this break up is exactly what I needed and I am happy that I can pursue what I want more bravely and freely now.
So true , I lost part of myself in my last relationship , I'm at last 💔 getting myself back that I lost
Thank you so much for this
One thing that keeps me going is that, I can always love her, I don't have to stop doing that no matter what. I wish her the best life has to offer.
I believe that wrong time can occur if you are in a depression. Even the right person would have left. I looked for connection but I had to fix myself first in order to have a healthy relationship.
Hey, it's me again....
Back then, when you released the other video you mentioned, about you wearing a white hoodie and drinking coffee, I was going through my first breakup.
I must say, watch this was fel refreshing. It might be a weird way of describing it but I understand what you are talking about. I remember I started going to the gym and I got ripped too. However, I discovered I did it for the wrong reasons and I won't lie that when I discovered that, my motivation went down.
Months later, I went back to the gym but for myself. No more revenge phase.
We as human being are interesting individuals. At the end of the day, letting the emotions flow is what help us healing
Thank you so much for posting this Joey. It is so beautiful and you seem like you understand exactly what I am going through. I also feel inspired by reading other people’s comments on this video. One day, I will have the love I deserve with the right person. Even if that isn’t the case, I will always have myself. ♥️
The hardest thing is when someone that used to love you just change in a way that you don't expect and you feel like you don't know them anymore
That's how I'm feeling now but i love her and i break up with her now I'll be the one that feels more pain
@James kane Thanks bro
Joey if your reading this, I'm proud of you :) good to see a new video from you♡
I wish we were friends. Love your videos and your advice truly makes me feel that much better.
You're a great person and I thank you for that.
Therapies? = maybe, Joey Kidney's videos? =Hell yes. Just kidding, a little... In all seriousness, Joey has always helped me so much throughout time. I've been a fan of his for so so long that I lost count of the years (probably since he started TH-cam back in the day with daily vlogs and the talk about what he looked for in a girl video) and honestly I feel like I've grown with him. I haven't literally been through a breakup but I've definitely felt it, even if I wasn't actually with that person as a couple. You still feel it and I could absolutely agree on what Joey told us in this video. You learn to love yourself more and to truly comprehend yourself better, become the best versions of yourself after going through that 'revenge' phase. So thank you Joey, for putting in this video what I couldn't express in my heart.
After my break up, I don't know how to trust anymore.
me too but it’ll be ok you’ll get through it have faith
That was me for a short time
first long term relationship ended today fully. we were together for nearly 3 years from when we were 18 to 21. She said she feels the relationship ran it’s course and i don’t feel the same. But i feel okay. I feel i’ve gotten mentally and emotionally stronger the past few months and while i know there’s going to be a grieving process especially with seasonal depression, i just feel okay. I also feel like i have lost myself in her.
Relationships are pointless. There's always someone who's a better fit for you partner. And that someone better is literally a swipe or click away. You best bet is to just stay single and focus on yourself.
Facts
It's the calm after the storm, I can say that after some time, and with the help of ur vids😅, I have begun to find the things that I used to love and the things that made me me.
Thanks, I absolutely love your videos♥︎
Barsss yeah Breakups do teach you hard stuffs.🙌🏻
I managed to move on from my first love after a year of battle back in 2016 and found someone new which i thought that person surely a better one but look at me now, watching a random motivational video about breakup :) but still i have to fight again to deal with this heartache
I feel for you. but it’s worth asking why we lose ourselves when we’re with someone? It’s like we’re blaming the relationship for changing, breaking, or inhibiting us… but it simply served its purpose, and we control the outcomes during, before, and after the relationship. If a relationship never made you feel good enough to work on yourself while you were in it, maybe there was a factor within yourself that needed something different, or maybe they just weren’t the one. I think it’s just unfair to pin it all on a relationship. If you didn’t change for the better while you were in it, that’s all on you since our partners did not make us lose ourselves- we did that all on our own because we focused too much on making the relationship complete us, when we can be two complete people just vibing together.
I understand what you mean when you say that breakups are better than being in a relationship, since it allows you to realign with who you are. But it just sounds a little like you’re downplaying how much a relationship can also feel good and help you grow(unless that person was toxic of course).
Love the positive message here ☝🏻
I didn’t get break up with. I decided to leave. It’s been about two months I left a 7 year emotional abusive relationship and I couldn’t be happier now that I’m single. It sucked to walk away but it’s what’s best for me. I’m growing everyday and learning everyday to love myself and I’m single. AND I’m okay with that :) it’s the best decision I’ve made. Thank you for your video ❤️
Another video back up!!! Yay!!!
So many heartbroken people here why don't we start dating each other
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My first breakup was with someone I was with for 7 years and moving on was painful but easier because they were a horrible human and I had so much anger fueling me.
This time around I’m going through a breakup with someone I was with for 4 months and it feels so much harder because I have so much compassion for them and truly don’t think they are a bad person even though they ended it.
Nothing seems exciting and I feel numb. I have everything I want in life and just wanted to share it with them.
It's the worst feeling ever I literally feel ao lost nothing can take her out of my head
man it hurts so much, after nearly 8 months together she decided to end it agter swearing to be together forever no matter what but she left ! its my fault, im the bad person, i control, gaslight, manipulate, guilt trip according to her and thats valid enough ! imagining that through her eyes would hurt ofc ! but i was just trying to express my feelings ! just as she did but in the end it was me unable to control my feelings.
im only 14, we couldn’t even reach her birthday which was 3 months away.
i just lost her , im losing myself trying to get someone that doesnt want me back , 4 years just like that. this is so hard.. cheers to day 1 !
Right video right time
After a painful breakup post-Valentine's Day, I felt shattered. But I'm rebuilding and healing. She wasn't the one; tough truth, but necessary. Hang in there, you're not alone. Update: Nearly four weeks later, met someone amazing. Life's short, so heal, then get back in the game. Stay strong, my friends.
We broke up about an hour ago..
I feel emptiness, numbness and denial
If you lose yourself in a relationship, that is an individual problem that keeps reoccurring within you. I am in a long term relationship, and we both love, support, and accept one another completely. We have gone out and I've been all dolled up and he's in sweats, or going to the store with me in a robe and I think its cute and hilarious. We are wholeheartedly ourselves and accept that. He has only helped me reach my full potential as an independent woman, and I have helped him as well. When you're in a healthy, joyful, interdependent partnership, you will not feel this way. Do not let this beautiful filmed video romanticize emotional pain for you, instead get to know yourself, and steadily learn to love that person, and if you desire love, be discerning, transparent, and trusting.
1:10 love this
After year one I was no longer the man she met and fell in love with. I was really depressed barely kept a job rarely had sex. Two years later(now) I’m just getting back to it but she couldn’t wait any longer. I am trying to find peace in working on me and believing I’ll be the man I want to be and our love will be renewed
Thanks, love ur video
I have given up on love.. it's much more easier and peaceful that way
I wish I were the person that can keep him. I hate myself for not being that person.
nothing to say but thank you brother!
Lol BARS 😂 .. those were bars and I’m taking notes!! 🥸🤓 👌🏽 This is one of those videos that you watch, love ❤️ and save for that one day you may need to watch again. This was like an open mic 🎤 type a vibe! Loved it! Ty & Aloha 🤙🏽 from Hawai’i 🧘🏽♀️🧉✨
I didn’t know I could feel like this
This video was very refreshing to watch! Great content!
insightful
You don’t know who you are. How can you give up yourself to satisfy the other if you don’t know who you are?
You're saving me Joey
But that heartbreak is nothing if you didnt felt love for that person. You need to truly love that person to experience a true heartbreak. Then it will be your decision if you get back up and make a breakthrough or stay and be trapped in the past.
No need to get her back. I already accepted when she ghosted me, she already is gone. Moving on and staying with my path is my decision. If ever she comes back, I dont know. A possibility is just a possibility until it happens, In that way I dont need to think about it unless it happens.
Where did you go joey? I need you, we need you
This is fire
i don’t know much about you…but you seem to have a good heart!
that's a talk from experience really I get it
Does it apply to friendship too?
hell yeah. I recently broke up with a friend and feel absolutely destroyed.
im that type of person who dont forgive about yourself in relationship thats why my ex broke up w me. cus im to strongly focus in myself in relationship am i weird?
Okay
time for me to go ham in the gym 😁
So many things have improved since i left.. just still sucks man
She blocked me Sunday and yesterday she told me she wants to move on 🥺
It's almost 6 month but i cant move on 😭😭😭
Wait Joey your married now! How did I miss this?
very cute, thank you.
Lovely
It's not that break ups are better than a relationship, instead, breaking up a toxic relationship is better
How does one cope with a breakup that was entirely their fault.
@Anne Hey Anne. Thank you. I am okay with letting him go. I am trying to forgive myself for hurting him and move on. It just gets hard to do sometimes.
Dude, are you still milking the breakup? Day-ung. I guess if it's the only way for you to eat and the chick's love it...the sad music and even sadder espresso machine is classic. Next time, take some footage of you walking away in the snow...head down!
You raise an interesting and well founded topic, but the 30 second add in a 5min video is kinda too much