That video just blew me away. People pay psychologists for this stuff! Your voice is so calm and firm, Erin, and so inspirational. It's so evident you want to help your viewers, not just pass on fashion advice...although we love that as well! One of the biggies to me is the comparison game. It can be toxic. We are all too hard on ourselves and it thwarts who we really are. This video is a breakthrough in your direction as an influencer. Bravo!
1.Don’t wear clothes that you don’t love 2.Don’t forget about your basics 3.Don’t be afraid to take risks 4.Don’t play the comparison game 5.Don’t question your worthiness 6.Don’t berate your body 7.Don’t live in darkness 8.Don’t be invisible 9.Don’t play small 10.Don’t give up You’re welcome, but still watch the video. It’s highly informative 😊
I will embrace the DON’Ts !!! Exactly what I needed to hear this morning! I’m 65 and got rid of 45 pounds last year. I say “rid of” instead of “lost” because I never want to find those unwanted fat pounds again!! New goals this year to work on muscle tone. I’m trying to embrace the loose skin….The loose skin makes me much happier than the overweight feelings ever did. I’m loving the JOY back in my life ❤
Awesome! I’m kind of in the same place. I’ve recently lost 30 lbs and have 20 to go. I used to be so fit. Long distance runner, etc. But, after 3 major surgeries in 2 yrs, that all changed. Still, I’ve decided I’m going to stay around long enough for my grandkids to make me a great-grandma.😄 Keep up with the journey!
Congratulations ❤ loose skin is just a reminder of how far you’ve come! Fasting for autophagy can help your skin, but also, shopping for new flattering clothing pieces will be fun too.
My goal was to be a published author. Several years of rejections nearly killed me, but I decided that getting my work out there was more important, so I self published digitally. I just released my third book and I’m working on my fourth. Maybe I’ll never quit my day job for it, but I’m more fulfilled just writing and putting it out there. My advice? Go. Do. Don’t be afraid.
I love this! I am in my 60s and one of the few regrets I have is that I didn't feel worthy, didn't believe I was attractive, often compared myself to others, and took more notice of what I didn't have instead of the many blessings I do have. I wasn't LIVING I am sad for the time I wasted not seeing the abundance, wonder, and joy ripe for our enjoyment. When I went through menopause, all that junk started burning off, and I did start a blog and am doing things I never dreamed I would. This is such an important message. So many women over fifty feel invisible--following these tips will help us step forward and be the women we have always dreamed we would be. It's time.
Great video! I just turned 44, and am trying to figure out who I am, especially style-wise! Most of my 30s were spent dealing with a major life-changing illness, and my style went out the window! I used to love fashion and felt it was my form of self-expression. Now that I'm on the other side of my illness, I feel like I need to reclaim myself. 2023 will be my year of re-discovery! Especially my style! Thanks for these wonderful tips!
I’ll soon turn 46.. 44 turning 45, after a decade of unknown illness that caused many issues including morbid obesity, I finally got a medical diagnosis that allowed me to lose 100 lbs… I’m now also rediscovering myself again! Actually 2022 I was doing so, and a broken ankle recent months gave me a weight regain set back.. I’m reinventing AGAIN! Starting from scratch in PT and fashion and my body…. GO FOR IT!! GRAB THIS GREAT OPPORTUNITY YOU HAVE! I will say for me, my journey to find myself like you’re describing had its moments of frustrations and fears, but also so much excitement and empowerment! Congrats!! Cheering you on!!
Your makeup and "look" today is just so pretty and flattering on you! My favourite take-away from this video is DON'T wear any clothing items that you don't love or feel confident in...soooo true. I'm going to try my best to take this valuable advice. xo
Dang, Erin....you hit the ball out of the park with this video! Your pearls of wisdom hit home with this 63 year-old! Thank you, sweetie!! Happy New Year!!
I’m so so grateful for this video. I’m 77 and up until I was well into my 60s I was always self confident. My teeth are crooked and as a young girl they weren’t that bad and it never bothered me to smile,now as age has made things look worse,somewhere along my journey I’ve lost myself. I was a hairdresser for 56 years absolutely loved my trade. I retired at 73 and my life has been upside down. Bags under the eyes,etc. I’ve never looked my age I always looked years younger and then the comparison thing happened. Bless you I’ve always loved fashion and style and a little edgy too. So thankyou for helping me today cause I’m worth it♥️🙏🏻👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Thanks for all the great advice. Being age 70, I have found that we are what we tell ourselves we are. So, lets tell ourselves all good things. And I think we are what we choose, so let's choose happy.
Erin! You’re so amazing and inspiring! I have been a stay a home mom of 5 for about 13 years and have definitely lost myself. This last year I decided it’s time to find me again. I ran a marathon and started school for real estate. I’m studying for my exam now and I am inspired by this. It’s my year! 🎉
Congratulations!! Mom here too and work from home. Two kids now but I’ve started weight lifting and lost all weight and built muscle. We can do it!!!! We choose our hard!!
Yes,yes,yes. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else. I'm 57 and I'm working toward loving myself. It is very easy to tell someone else I love them but I can't say I love myself. That is extremely sad. I grew up with a lot of abuse and have trouble feeling like I deserve nice things or love. I really feel that not having good self esteem is at the root of many problems in society. I really appreciate how much you stress things like this on your channel. Thank you!!!❤️
Thank you!! You are a beautiful, positive light in this world. I needed to hear all of those "don'ts", especially stopping negative self-talk and criticizing every glance in the mirror. Thank YOU for taking risks and playing big, so we can all benefit from your content! You give us a lot to think about, whether it's fashion or motivation. What a blessing! 💖
Oh I would love that! I always feel that I think "It's not going to look good on me". I'm not in a good place in my life. I'm turning 50 in a few months. I want to feel that though I have a few kilos extra can look good.
She’s not plus size though and I’ve not seen her use models, other than herself, so it would be rather difficult. There are many plus size influencers out there though.
Erin your radiant presence is becoming more visible as you unfold into this beautiful current version of yourself & it's so magnetic. So many great points here, at tip to add to the helpful points you made in the video is that this is the perfect time of year to write down all the specific goals in mind. For me this includes shedding some extra energy I've been carrying around since the pandemic, so important for me was to come to a place where my weight/looks do not define me as the last couple yrs have been difficult and a great opportunity to grow spiritually & as a person as a whole. Tips- getting rid of unused old stuff to make way for more life has been my number ONE tip, (one I wish I had done sooner), going through my closet and remove all the clothes that do not fit, & realizing all those clothes looking back at me for the last few years has been a real drag. Now the most beloved garments reside in the guest room closet that I can revisit later. I too have been practicing being a light, smiling at strangers, letting my divine light radiate out and moving away from outfits & behaviors where I have been "hiding". Thanks so much for your authenticity, 💐💛
I’m a 57 year old “former” hottie. It’s hard bc when I was younger it was effortless or seemed that way. You get older and you feel the same but you do not get the same reaction from others. It took awhile to realize it. Then you/I kinda felt like an old dented car that you don’t feel deserves a nice wash and wax. I’m going to take all these donts to heart. I’ll be checking back. Thank you for your honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share with us all. 🥰
Thank you for this message this morning. I just turned 52 and have lost 85 pounds in the last year (reversed type II diabetes) and am feeling better than I ever have. Still, I look in the mirror and catch myself picking at the negative things: extra skin, a bulge here or there, and focusing on the fact that I still have 40 pounds to lose instead of celebrating how awesome I look! I wish it was easier to focus on the positive things! As I watched your video this morning during my run, it reminded me of all of the positive I have in my life. Thank you for that!! 🥰
Love your comment and resonated with me. Last year turning 45, after a decade of unknown weight gain insanity fluctuations, I was finally diagnosed Insulin Resistant… I’m not yet diabetic, I’m told I will become type 2 if I didn’t lose the weight and follow lifestyle changes. I was down 100 lbs in 9 months, then a broken ankle has me currently up 20 lbs again since I went from working out and having become a runner, to finally out of a 24/7 cast 1 week ago. All the negatives you mention.. I’m saying them to myself too! Those same things! And YES!! I need to flip back to my celebratory mindset too when I catch myself being my self destructive body critic! This video, your comment, hearing these things.. it’s like somehow I have this notion I’m the only person thinking and doing such things. Ty for the inspiration, mind boost, sharing your story.. and most of all, CONGRATS on your progress!
Not falling for becoming invisible really speaks to me at 55. And I love your thoughts on redefining the social norms/narratives about women over 40-100 and beyond. I talk to my teen girls about not letting negative social norms/narratives discourage them. But I don’t do the same for myself. Thank you!💜
This was so empowering! I really appreciate how you talk about the connection between style, fashion AND mental health and self-love. You're practically the only style expert I will watch anymore because you teach that a beautiful inside is the most important step to great style. Love the Busbee Team!
My goal this year (again) is to surround myself with more good people and to keep putting myself out there even when it is uncomfortable. It worked so well last year. I can’t help but smile thinking about how great last year was. Thank you for this helpful video
Your words are so important! We need to hear this! Yes you hit the nail on the head... I am currently working with a beautiful 18 yr young lady. The amount of insecurities I hear her talk about as she compares herself to people on the internet is truly heartbreaking!! I am praying for her and I hope I can help her understand how beautiful she is! I talked to her about how we are all individuals and the world would be a boring place if we were all the same! When I think of this it brings tears to my eyes! I have three Granddaughters and four Grandsons and I want them to be healthy and happy! Yes we all have stuff we are insecure about! My New Year's resolution is to give more compliments and watch people's faces light up! Remember Your opinion of me is none of my business!! This is by far my favorite video..Thank you Erin!!
Thank you so much for this amazing, AMAZING pep talk to start the year! Such fantastic advice, and so much heart, I teared up a couple of times. I'm 49 years old and so much of what you said resonates deeply with me. I am so rooting for your yacht birthday (and mine too!) 💞💞💞
Thank You! I took notes. You said a lot of things a lot of us need to hear. I was gonna pay a life coach $3000 but I watched this video instead. At 55 I feel old and frumpy and invisible at times. I'm going on a cruise in 2 weeks and I have been working on my wardrobe options. Thank you so much for the encouragement! I want to feel pretty and comfortable in my clothes. I'm going on vacation, the last thing I want is frumpy. I love wearing pretty clothes and shoes and am chunky, so it takes a lot to get to that comfort spot. My mom told me once I only need a few outfits to wear on vacation- I laughed. YOU only need a few outfits, I need as many as it takes to feel fresh and pretty! OK, I'm big on wearing flowers in my hair, that's my secret to sending joy to the world.
Erin you are so right regarding the visibility. When you age you become invisible and you don’t want to be visible because you don’t like your image for plenty of reasons and you hide yourself or you think that you do no deserve to have beautiful clothes or too visible clothes. Thank you!
Happy 2023 Erin & Everyone 🥂✨ As a child, School Shopping w/my mother refined & defined my personal style... She'd tell me " You have expensive feet" AA/AAA width... Mass produced footwear mostly begins w/medium width... 'High End' footwear was more accommodating... Clothes shopping equally challenging... Most pcs had to be custom fit... I still hear Nadines' voice (my mom) asking " Where are you going to wear 'such-n-such' "... Alterations included in pricier departments... 'Price per wear' is a phrase I learned from TH-cam... I've lived a "Champagne Taste on a Beer Budget" lifestyle, dressing high/low for 5 decades now... I truly appreciate the perspective you have been sharing w/our community... Feeling like the Star of ones Life can be a Challenge... But, Oh So Worth It 💗🧡💛💜
I have always admired well dressed women but never imagined myself as one. I wore hand-me-downs and whatever cheap clothes my family could afford. I had no idea about fashion. Thanks to your videos I have learned some wonderful and useful tips. I recently purchased a beautiful blue blazer which I wore over my blue striped shirt with some Kut from the kloth jeans, in not a style I would have bought before I watched your video. I wore some shiny booties in a cool saddle tan color and added a bold, large link necklace. I went to the mall to exchange some too small shoes and I noticed several women give me "that" look and once-over. I felt like a success. I knew that I had created a super outfit. Thank you so much. Just beginning but definitely finding my style
Erin, you are SO right with this message. I just upgraded my sneakers to the white leather Sam Edelmans and they are so comfortable right from the box and they make me feel and look great! I struggle so much with footwear, so, I used your recommendation and I am so glad that I did! I am making an intention to speak up more in group conversations. I put that into practice recently, letting the group know that "the good ol' days" were NOT GOOD for everyone. Let's keep the momentum going! Thank you for your positivity. Happy New Year!
Hi Julia! I see that you liked the white sneakers that Erin recommended and I love that idea. I am trying to find which ones those were and see several different styles. Do you know the name/which ones they were in that line? Thank you so much if you don’t mind!
I can't express how happy I am to find you. Not only are you beautiful on the outside, but on the inside as well. I've been watching alot of style videos lately in search of ideas, but none have gone beyond simply telling me to buy clothes from expensive and trendy stores. When I go out and be with people one thing I always keep in mind. Messages that the Universe wants for me come from people. Not trees, rocks, etc. People. I never know if the most significant message I must hear will come from the produce person at the market, the man who pumps my gas at the gas station, the bank teller.....It saddens me to realize how many people think these people are unimportant or even worst, just existing to serve their needs. THE MOST SIGNIFICANT interaction of my day may come from a seemingly unimportant vehicle. The Universe works in unexpected and miraculous ways...if you remain open. And remember that YOU may be the most significant person someone else meets in their day. Be the light...yes, yes, yes!!! I look forward to exploring more videos by you!! Thank you!
This was so lovely 🧡 I love when you said,” you are a snowflake”. I think so many need to hear all of this. I have told you before that I am a Holistic Master Esthetician of almost 40 years and I share this because I see things and hear things everyday that break my heart. I am to old I am not pretty I have wrinkles I am not worthy We have got to share more of this… you are a special snowflake! Do not change your face yourself for ridiculous beauty standards set by social media, a beauty industry and marketing. I am almost 57 and accepting this process of age is key. I had to change how I ate. I had to work out more. I had to take even better care of my skin and muscles of my face. But inevitably it’s about self love and not wanting to be someone else or 20 or look like everyone else. I am a creator here and I also needed to hear this. The beauty channels are a tough space and it can be very hard to stay the course of natural and real. Yes BE THE LIGHT! Always turn around and bring another women up not down. Thank you. Blessings to you and everyone here, YOU ARE ENOUGH 🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa
Love this video!!! When I felt insecure after my baby I compared myself. Now I have two kids and extremely fit. Size 0 116 pounds and a pro out almost daily. I chose my hard! No longer comparing or feel insecure! We need to take care of our bodies! Nobody else will and especially in regard to health. You are worthy!!
Thank you for sharing these 10 don'ts, Erin! Style is about so much more than the clothes we wear... how we show up for ourselves plays a huge role in how we show up in the world. Thanks again for such awesome advice.
Yes on smiling. People are constantly telling me I draw people to me because I always look so radiantly happy...well it is genuine. I TOO am an introvert but have pushed myself to take social risks to speak first, engage in long conversation, etc. Very recently I lost my beloved mate of 41 yrs. 5 mos ago, BUT I choose to remember how happy we were. I already got waaayyy more than my share of joy, adventure, and love in this life....all I have to do is look around me at all the beauty in my life and I smile. Mynhappimess and joy thst I had before he died have returned. I will ALWAYS love him,,always wish he were here but also I WILL be happy it is HIS legacy. He GAVE me this happiness and I owe it to him to not let it slip away.
I am so sorry for the loss of your husband...What a truly beautiful outlook you have on the time you had with him, though! I'm honored to read your story and I can feel the love you have for him. Thank you so much for sharing this here with me. xo
Dear Erin, that was just AMAZING!!!!! I started this "TRIP"/"PROCESS" three decades ago... still working on it, every single day. There are still small steps to do every single day and I LOVE doing these steps. It´s FUN, It´s LIBERATING! I feel my best in my 52. Still have days I do not feel as comfy as I wish, but the working on all these 10 things is definitely worth it! THANK YOU SO SO MUCH for making this amazing video! Love you ❄
Hi Erin ♥️ I love the emphasis on self-love and wellbeing in this video. Well done. I hope many new viewers will watch it, it is so relevant. For me, the part about appreciating your body no matter what is what I must work on most.
Thank you, this is absolutely beautiful 💜 I feel like I stopped living after I turned 40 😢. Now I’m almost 50, and I have started a self care journey, looking at life differently, I have started online courses to further my career. Thank you! This message resonates with me at this time in my life!! And yes!! Let’s stop the disappearance of women after 40!! This is an amazing time, it’s time to take our lives back! ❤
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much! I love that we can all support each other in supporting ourselves and "not playing small." 2023 is OUR YEAR! (And 2024 will be too.)
One of the reasons I follow you is that I find you very authentic. Although that's a rather catch phrase way of putting it, I find even your earlier videos show your personality and your passion quite clearly; and that you yourself have not changed or morphed into what is on trend or stylish, or what you (or others) think your followers want. And...... it is awesome that you are confident enough to take us on your journey through your ups and downs. I follow very few people, but your style, personality and honesty resonate with me.
These are great life tips! I try to always dress in clothes that I like, and not blend in most of the time, and yes, it is uncomfortable to get all eyes on you because you’re not sure if they’re silently judging you but once in a while, I have another female in my age bracket complimenting what I’m wearing, and I think to myself good I encouraged her to step out of her shell as well. It is all about empowering other women I wish more of our female counterparts would see it that way.
Yes this wonderful when a woman comes up,to me and asks where I buy my clothes. I buy vintage inexpensive specialty items and mix with the basics items that look BEST on me.
I know the metal genre is not for everyone, but metal is my heart song and it’s honestly so comforting for me (I am of course selective in my taste, as with any genre, so I certainly don’t resonate with every single metal band/song/album out there). The lyrics and instrumentals I listen to are very empowering. ❤️ It always helps me through difficulties in life, and it supports my strength and passion for life everyday. 😊 I really love and appreciate all of your points! ❤ You’re a beautiful person and your positivity, encouragement, creativity, authenticity, and humility is always a breath of fresh air! 🤗😘
I so appreciate you today in this video because I am having my off and emotional day and YOU came through to remind me to be visible, shine through, smile and be bold with my colors! Literally, I felt within this past week that I need to wear more colors and less black so I don’t absorb the negativity. THANK YOU, THANK YOU for being you and where your beautiful mindset is to penetrate through MEE! I am more positive but we have our days of blahh and you really picked me up today! LOVE it! Sending you much love and kindness! ❤❤❤
Hi Erin, I think I was supposed to find your video today- thank you universe! I’m 61 & care for my 90 year old Dad who is in hospital right now. I’ve been looking after everyone else for soooo long that my needs are buried down deep to the point that I have no idea what they are anymore. I’m a bit sad & lost inside, but you have inspired me to think about myself & what I really want, so thank you sincerely. I always enjoy your fashion & beauty input , today however, please know you have literally made a difference. Bravo 👏😊
Wow! I am humbled by your comment... and honored to be even a small part of your journey. SO glad this was inspiring for you at just the perfect time... Thank you so much for sharing that with me, Cathy. xo
Have always felt too old for this or that since I was 15, but I did it anyway. Yet, I continue to feel too old for dressing as I want. So thank you for your words that motivate me to do it anyway. Bless you. Keep shining - you are beautiful!
Loved this video tremendously.I wish you could be a mentor to everyone including children.You are just so wise,mindful,beautiful,intelligent and your kindness towards others is so beautiful! Thank you for being such an important influence in my life.❤😊
Oh, you just said it all. I'm in that moment in life that "it's now or never" and I want so much... to travel, to walk along the beach, read more, laugh more, love more... Forget the pains of the past and feel free to live today. Love you ⚘️
You are absolutely gorgeous! I adore you and your videos are spot on. I am 71 yrs young and I feel like I am just now growing up.i love life and having fun even when pain makes me feel like a wreck. I wish for this and that but it doesn't consume my thoughts, today my wonderful husband and I are celebrating the 54th anniversary of our first date.we celebrate and laugh over the silliest things and it makes the day smoother.pure love and how lucky we are. He is always telling me how beautiful I am. I have learned to say thank you honey which was hard. All of are worth having love life and sheer happiness I wish I could have you each in my home for a loud, laughing good time.i wish for you all the best .BTW this is my first time to post but I've been here for a very long time. hugs
I am SO glad you are here and truly appreciate your genuine support. Thanks for taking the time to leave such a beautiful and heartfelt comment. LOVE hearing a bit about you and your dear husband. Enjoy your special day! xo
Thank you dear,I appreciate your kindness and time. I did receive a reply by email by one of your team.i think it was before we went back to Italy to visit family.. maybe 2019 but I'm not sure. I appreciated it.. you're truly a lovely spirit and I know your family especially your husband adores you. .you mean a lot to all of us. have a joyous day. Be well and take care of yourself..sherry
THANK YOU I needed this today! I was about to go down the rabbit hole of self doubt. Now it is all about being thankful for what I have and looking forward to more happiness.
I am so glad you got to see this video at just the right time. You deserve that happiness today and always, Carol! Sending you the biggest virtual hug! xo
Oh Erin, I have to write more comments: I saw your video about our inner goddesses before and it is absolutely my passion I think more and more. I told it a friend and while she read it she starts to glow - so I think it is also mine. THIS comment is about „nor be afraid“ and to buy something… the events will come. Like magic (manifestation magic) I‘m invited to an event I dreamed of. Now I’m looking for an outfit for the party. I thought „oh, but I cannot wear it anywhere else“… now I’m get excited. You are so right. The events will find me to wear it! ❤
Well done, Erin! This message should be listened to often by anyone in search of thier misplaced bliss. Thank you for such a thoughtful and thorough video❤
Such great tips! I think one of the best things about growing older is that I can look back on my life and see ways in which I've become a better person over time. I'm more patient, kinder, less judgmental etc. Thanks for the pep talk! I intend to re-watch and take your advice to heart to see if there are things I could improve right now. Thanks for uplifting other women. We all need it!
My goal for 2023 is to make my business thrive! And dressing to make myself feel great will help me achieve that goal. Even if no one sees me in my fabulous outfits, it will make me feel more confident and ready to tackle anything.
Thank you Erin, outstanding video this week, I am guilty of all 10, especially body shaming! Your words really resonated with me and have given me the inspiration I really needed. I want to be an interior decorator but have never had the confidence, at 59 and an empty nester, I often feel insignificant, your video really made my day.💗💗Amy
I am so glad this was inspiring for you, Amy! Thanks so much for sharing your story and your dream here. Writing it down and sharing with others helps to make it into a reality! xo
OMG !! I can't imagine how much simple, deep and honest you were in this video. and for sure this video will effect my 2023 in a better way...Thank you so much for this real, deep content.
I love what you said about how your dream may not look how you imagined but not to give it up. I would add, when you do achieve things, let that sink in rather than minimizing the win because it’s not exactly as you planned it. For YEARS I wanted to be a novelist because I thought that was my path toward escaping the office and making a living on my own terms as a writer. Now I am an independent science and technical writer making more money, earning more appreciation, and learning more than I ever did in any “regular” job. Even so, it took probably three or four years to recognize, hey, I actually DID achieve my dream. It’s not conventionally exciting or romantic, but it is liberating and thrilling for me-and that counts a heck of a lot more than impressing anyone with my job description.
I feel like I just got a Big Pep Talk…. which I need…. Been there do that w/ All 10 of these Don’t’s…. I’m 67 & wish I would have gotten out of a not so good marriage yrs ago but here I am trying to find new ways to find happiness everyday…. U r helping all of us women to have more Confidence in ourselves & takes some risks we might not have 👍😊
I am 47 and I have a 17 year old daughter. I have shared with her many times that I believe confidence and self love are the most important foundations for a fantastic outfit. Then, we build it out from there! If the outfit doesn’t make you want to strut, put it back on the rack!I plan to share your video with her as you have shared this message so eloquently! Thank you for reminding me to continue to revisit this both for myself and my daughter!
As AMERICANS, Canadians, etc etc we have SO SO much more than than so many on this planet. THIS is what we learn from travel. Not to beautiful European cities so much, but to rural Central America, South America, Africa and so any places. Not trying to guilt anyone here. I LIVE in Central America now in retirement and it takes a long time to adjust. At first we feel almost ill when we see extreme poverty, then if we are lucky enough to get to know the PEOPLE in these siuations we develop deep respect for them...their struggles yes, are more than ours, but what matters MOST to them are their families..there are many good and joyous poor people. They dont crave what we crave because they have not had it...they dont yearn for.it. They look forward to holidays MORE than we do and what they have they are thankful for. And they really know how to treasure beauty in their life. There is nothing to get one's head on straight about material things like spending some time in such a place. I love beautiful things as much as anyone and I am not ashamed of having them...but I love these indigenous people around me as well. I have a joyous life. But as a clinical psychologist I know that people who seem to have more, dont necessarily have that joy...it comes from within and people who have it radiate a light that cannot be bought.
Erin, I looooove the way you empower women, with all of your videos, but this is the most empowering one! As for me, I got my master's degree in my 40s, I'm past 50 and in my PhD training, I stay away from gossiping, and love complimenting on others, especially women, and watch them react to it (most of the time they look for excuses and cannot accept compliments, I mean at all). I'm trying to continue to live by the other rules you mentioned.
I loved this❤️ Style for your spirit as well as your mind. Thank you💕. Today I decided to do a challenge to not complain for a month, just because I'm curious. I have two quotes I go by, “I follow my yes” and “the lightness of life” Seeing the beautiful things, and being the light, as you said. My biggest dream for this year is to get my business to grow. My second dream is to spend one month in Paris this summer. I'm also going to manifest the man of my dreams. I'm so ready to dream big and be that woman I saw in my meditation that was my future self, and she was amazing.
Erin, This is one of the best videos I've ever seen.!! Many women are struggling with just paying the bills and maybe health or family issues. For them going to Paris for a year may not be realistic and many may have to continue to struggle but ofcourse they can still do or not do many of the things you said. Can you do a second part of this video on ways women can do some of the things you suggested but on a limited income. (especially visible clothes on a small income)
Thank you so much for your sweet words. We all have our own unique desires and goals. As far as finding clothing you love on a limited budget... I'd suggest shopping second hand, looking for high quality brands and staying very diligent on only buying things you truly LOVE and feel great in, that will last. SO glad you enjoyed this video and I'm SO glad you are here! xo
Erin this video was such a loving, beautiful gift. Sharing your own self doubts is an honest vulnerable lesson for many people. From this end, we may think that you’ve got it all, but we’ve all weaknesses and strengths, as you’ve shared. We can stand together, without judging and create more loving energy to create a better future.🙏🏼❤
Erin, you are so wise. I hope you realize how you are helping so many of us. Thank you for doing this. It is so nice to know we can learn so much from you 💕
Your different approach…talking to us…you have made me feel so much better and I love your channel. Do you ever show items that are similar and yet cheaper? It would help me on a budget.
Thanks for reaching out, Helen! We always work hard to provide options for less in each video's description box. You'll see the exact item and then underneath it a link for "Similar For Less". We do this on each blog post as well and offer exclusive looks for less each Friday on the site as well (BusbeeStyle.com). I hope this helps! xo
Good morning beautiful! I've committed to 2023 to band all things that make me look and feel frumptastic. I'm learning to accept what the plastic surgeon was able to rebuilt after the double. Are they what I had before, No. Do they look like what I had before, No. But, I can still wear most clothes and I look good enough in them to pass and that is enough. I'm down from a size 16 to a 12 and the journey continues. Thanks for your shared struggles and your genuine and heartfelt encouragement.
This is so empowering! I know it's geared toward those 40 and up, but I think my 13 year old will benefit from your wisdom. I realized a lot of what you said that is happening at 40 also happens at 13 (body changing, not feeling comfortable in your skin, etc). Thank you for sharing your pearls.
I so loved this video. You touched on a lot of things that I consider important with regard to what you said on "comparing yourself to others" and "questioning your worthiness". I have felt that I've missed the mark in certain areas of my life...my body isn't quite where I want it to be...my bank account isn't quite where I want it to be...my relationship isn't quite where I want it to be...I don't have the family I've always dreamed of...etc., and I appreciate your passion and emotion on this subject. Thank you for making this video. I'm a subscriber and I haven't watched you in a while, but today it must have been meant for me to turn on your channel, I'm getting back on my "worthiness" game and loving where I am at this age in my life. I AM WORTHY...thank you 🥰!
I'm so glad this video resonates with you, Sheila... You are worthy! I'm humbled to hear the impact that this has had on you. Thank you for taking the time to share this with me! So glad you're here. xo
The comparison don’t was so important! We are all beautiful and unique. I know it’s human nature to compare, but it truly is the thief of joy. As I’ve gotten older I realize I don’t have the time or energy to compare. I love me and that’s good enough. Thank you Erin, you’re amazing and beautiful just the way you are.💜
Thank you so much for your message of positivity this morning. It really made me realize how bad I feel when I am constantly bombarded with angry videos about things that don't mean that much to me - like why am I inviting in this energy?! I very much believe in the law of attraction and now see how the content I consume can tie into that in a big way (I always forget about that snowflake experiment but its always so powerful in context when someone like you reminds me!). Also THANK YOU SO MUCH for your words about worthiness!!! We are all divine and worthy of happiness, joy and abundance! Have a blessed year and look forward to watching more of your videos!! ❤
Bravo Erin, this is a very inspiring video and one that should be viewed by every woman ALIVE!!!!!. You hit a home run, a touchdown, a Goalllllllllllllll. Viva Erin
Wow. Powerful. Emotional. Thank you. ❤❤❤ For my 50th I wanted to go to London by myself and look for historical artifacts in the Thames and see the sights and then meet my BFF for the rest of the trip around southern England. Despite being a mom of two, wife, small business owner. Despite a global pandemic…I did it. It was the most thrilling thing that I’ve ever personally done just for me. I just know we will see you on that yacht in those flowing fabrics. And you will be glorious 😉 ❤
Dear Erin, thanks for this great video. I'll try to follow your wonderful advices especially the don'ts: I'll not berate my body. Since I lost a lot of weight, I didn't know that lost weight has body side effects besides changing your entire wardrobe. It changes my self-conscious areas in my body. For example, from my tummy to my arms and legs. But, with your advice I'll look myself with more love. I'll try not to try to be invisible. I always enjoy being a discret person; however, mostly, it's interpreted as siliness or weakness by loquacious people, for instance. Also, I always love dressing in black, but now that I'm building a new wardrobe, I'm incorporating some bold color😉 I'll not give up. I'm embracing new projects and challenges. I'm studying to get my third degree in my lifetime. Also, after this difficult time for all of us. I want, and I will travel more with my husband this year. Thank you for encouraging us to don't give up. Yes, we need to feel good as you beautifully said: "We're going to look and feel freaking amazing." I wish you only happiness, love, health, and success in this new 2023. Big hug, dear Erin⚘️
Wishing you only the best on this journey! Thank you SO much for taking the time to share your own struggles and intentions for loving yourself more this year! xo
What a great video. Thank you for spreading your light in this world ❤ Boundary Boss and The Way of Integrity were two books that really got to the heart of my issues and continued my journey of healing.
My Childhood, Ultimate Dream just came true at 55!!! So Erin is 100% right. It can happen, you have believe it will happen. I was cast in a Professional Ballet, The Nutcracker as the Russian Mother. I was on stage for 45min dancing with Pro dancers in a huge beautiful theatre with a Orchestra Playing. I cannot tell you the magic of living in that dream and being awake. I truly believe that everyone can have their dreams realized. Keep Dreaming Ladies. Lots of Love. Erin, Yoga Burn is Fantastic!!!😊💝💝💝
What a beautiful message. In some way you inspire me. I'm going 45 in July and last year I've started to study in the university and that made me feel stronger and confident.
I love how all of this is beauty from the inside, and taking care of our spirit. I'm turning 48 in 2 weeks so now I'm also thinking about how I'd like to spend my 50th. Can't wait to see you celebrating on your yacht! Cheers to our midlife awakening!
I'm sitting watching this with tears running down my face. I have a chronic kidney condition which resulted in me back on a lot of medication back in October, as I relapsed. This has resulted in me gaining a lot of weight in a short period of time, along with the standard steroid side effects. This has had a major effect on how I feel and the change in my appearance is so noticeable that I am in self imposed hiding.... I know that what you say is 100% true and to be honest, it's what I need to hear today, but I need to be ready, mentally and physically. I want to feel like me again, so when the meds are significantly reduced and I am getting to a place where I'm ready to move forward, I'm going to come back and watch this video again. I won't give up, but right now I just need to take a step back refocus and get ready to move forward.
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That video just blew me away. People pay psychologists for this stuff! Your voice is so calm and firm, Erin, and so inspirational. It's so evident you want to help your viewers, not just pass on fashion advice...although we love that as well! One of the biggies to me is the comparison game. It can be toxic. We are all too hard on ourselves and it thwarts who we really are. This video is a breakthrough in your direction as an influencer. Bravo!
Thank you SO much for your support. Truly appreciate you more than you know, Carol! xo
💯%! I have watched you since 2018, and you keep improving. ❤❤❤❤❤
I was thinking the same thing about your voice. So pleasant…soothing and calming. Really enjoyed this video! 😊💖
I agree 100%❤
1.Don’t wear clothes that you don’t love
2.Don’t forget about your basics
3.Don’t be afraid to take risks
4.Don’t play the comparison game
5.Don’t question your worthiness
6.Don’t berate your body
7.Don’t live in darkness
8.Don’t be invisible
9.Don’t play small
10.Don’t give up
You’re welcome, but still watch the video. It’s highly informative 😊
Thanks so much for watching! xo
Happy New Year!
Thank you for summarizing. Of course I’m watching the whole thing.
I really needed reading this list spelled out while I was listening 🫶🏻
Definitely saving this video to rewatch and mentally reset as needed …. That will be Frequently 🫢😎💜
I will embrace the DON’Ts !!! Exactly what I needed to hear this morning! I’m 65 and got rid of 45 pounds last year. I say “rid of” instead of “lost” because I never want to find those unwanted fat pounds again!! New goals this year to work on muscle tone. I’m trying to embrace the loose skin….The loose skin makes me much happier than the overweight feelings ever did. I’m loving the JOY back in my life ❤
Awesome! I’m kind of in the same place. I’ve recently lost 30 lbs and have 20 to go. I used to be so fit. Long distance runner, etc. But, after 3 major surgeries in 2 yrs, that all changed. Still, I’ve decided I’m going to stay around long enough for my grandkids to make me a great-grandma.😄 Keep up with the journey!
I'm with you, Cindy! Got rid of 85 pounds this year and am trying to embrace the skin - hoping weight training will help!!
Love this ❤ and congrats on such a a great accomplishment
Congratulations ❤ loose skin is just a reminder of how far you’ve come! Fasting for autophagy can help your skin, but also, shopping for new flattering clothing pieces will be fun too.
Congratulations! ❤❤
My goal was to be a published author. Several years of rejections nearly killed me, but I decided that getting my work out there was more important, so I self published digitally. I just released my third book and I’m working on my fourth. Maybe I’ll never quit my day job for it, but I’m more fulfilled just writing and putting it out there. My advice? Go. Do. Don’t be afraid.
You will be a published author. That is my goal too, yet I've not even tried. Your message is inspiring.
Truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing! xo
Thank you for sharing. I don’t even know where to start… I want to write a book for those suffering with ocd and pure o. Glad you made it happen
I love this! I am in my 60s and one of the few regrets I have is that I didn't feel worthy, didn't believe I was attractive, often compared myself to others, and took more notice of what I didn't have instead of the many blessings I do have. I wasn't LIVING I am sad for the time I wasted not seeing the abundance, wonder, and joy ripe for our enjoyment. When I went through menopause, all that junk started burning off, and I did start a blog and am doing things I never dreamed I would. This is such an important message. So many women over fifty feel invisible--following these tips will help us step forward and be the women we have always dreamed we would be. It's time.
So well said! It IS time!! Let the Midlife Awakening begin! 🥰
This was so well said. I hear this every day from clients. You are enough 🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa
Great video! I just turned 44, and am trying to figure out who I am, especially style-wise! Most of my 30s were spent dealing with a major life-changing illness, and my style went out the window! I used to love fashion and felt it was my form of self-expression. Now that I'm on the other side of my illness, I feel like I need to reclaim myself. 2023 will be my year of re-discovery! Especially my style! Thanks for these wonderful tips!
Congratulations to you on being at the other side of your illness. I am SO excited for you and for what is to come in your life! xo
@@BusbeeStyle Thank you SO much.💕
I’ll soon turn 46.. 44 turning 45, after a decade of unknown illness that caused many issues including morbid obesity, I finally got a medical diagnosis that allowed me to lose 100 lbs… I’m now also rediscovering myself again! Actually 2022 I was doing so, and a broken ankle recent months gave me a weight regain set back.. I’m reinventing AGAIN! Starting from scratch in PT and fashion and my body…. GO FOR IT!! GRAB THIS GREAT OPPORTUNITY YOU HAVE! I will say for me, my journey to find myself like you’re describing had its moments of frustrations and fears, but also so much excitement and empowerment! Congrats!! Cheering you on!!
Your makeup and "look" today is just so pretty and flattering on you! My favourite take-away from this video is DON'T wear any clothing items that you don't love or feel confident in...soooo true. I'm going to try my best to take this valuable advice. xo
Dang, Erin....you hit the ball out of the park with this video! Your pearls of wisdom hit home with this 63 year-old! Thank you, sweetie!! Happy New Year!!
I’m so so grateful for this video. I’m 77 and up until I was well into my 60s I was always self confident. My teeth are crooked and as a young girl they weren’t that bad and it never bothered me to smile,now as age has made things look worse,somewhere along my journey I’ve lost myself. I was a hairdresser for 56 years absolutely loved my trade. I retired at 73 and my life has been upside down. Bags under the eyes,etc. I’ve never looked my age I always looked years younger and then the comparison thing happened. Bless you I’ve always loved fashion and style and a little edgy too. So thankyou for helping me today cause I’m worth it♥️🙏🏻👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
You ARE worth it! I am so glad this video resonates with you, and I hope you rebuild your self confidence and self-love. I'm SO glad you are here! xo
I’m so there with you! Where did all these wrinkles come from?!
Thanks for all the great advice. Being age 70, I have found that we are what we tell ourselves we are. So, lets tell ourselves all good things. And I think we are what we choose, so let's choose happy.
Erin! You’re so amazing and inspiring! I have been a stay a home mom of 5 for about 13 years and have definitely lost myself. This last year I decided it’s time to find me again. I ran a marathon and started school for real estate. I’m studying for my exam now and I am inspired by this. It’s my year! 🎉
You got this, Jennifer! This IS your year! xo
I'm right there with you ! Stay at home mum for almost 10 years and preparing for my real estate exam ! You got this ! You're amazing!
Congratulations!! Mom here too and work from home. Two kids now but I’ve started weight lifting and lost all weight and built muscle. We can do it!!!! We choose our hard!!
I should listen this on repeat 3 times every morning. Thank you, Erin! Have a great year!
Yes,yes,yes. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else. I'm 57 and I'm working toward loving myself. It is very easy to tell someone else I love them but I can't say I love myself. That is extremely sad. I grew up with a lot of abuse and have trouble feeling like I deserve nice things or love. I really feel that not having good self esteem is at the root of many problems in society. I really appreciate how much you stress things like this on your channel. Thank you!!!❤️
Thank you!! You are a beautiful, positive light in this world. I needed to hear all of those "don'ts", especially stopping negative self-talk and criticizing every glance in the mirror. Thank YOU for taking risks and playing big, so we can all benefit from your content! You give us a lot to think about, whether it's fashion or motivation. What a blessing! 💖
It would be amazing if you could style some plus size outfits 14-16 that would be so helpful ❤️❤️❤️
Actually average US size for women is 16-18, ten years ago it was 14-16. But yes agree only it’s not plus size.
Yass 👍
Oh I would love that! I always feel that I think "It's not going to look good on me". I'm not in a good place in my life. I'm turning 50 in a few months. I want to feel that though I have a few kilos extra can look good.
She’s not plus size though and I’ve not seen her use models, other than herself, so it would be rather difficult. There are many plus size influencers out there though.
And for those of us over 60, even though you are far from that age🤭
Erin your radiant presence is becoming more visible as you unfold into this beautiful current version of yourself & it's so magnetic. So many great points here, at tip to add to the helpful points you made in the video is that this is the perfect time of year to write down all the specific goals in mind. For me this includes shedding some extra energy I've been carrying around since the pandemic, so important for me was to come to a place where my weight/looks do not define me as the last couple yrs have been difficult and a great opportunity to grow spiritually & as a person as a whole.
Tips- getting rid of unused old stuff to make way for more life has been my number ONE tip, (one I wish I had done sooner), going through my closet and remove all the clothes that do not fit, & realizing all those clothes looking back at me for the last few years has been a real drag. Now the most beloved garments reside in the guest room closet that I can revisit later. I too have been practicing being a light, smiling at strangers, letting my divine light radiate out and moving away from outfits & behaviors where I have been "hiding".
Thanks so much for your authenticity, 💐💛
I choose to have a radiant presence in my world!
I’m a 57 year old “former” hottie. It’s hard bc when I was younger it was effortless or seemed that way. You get older and you feel the same but you do not get the same reaction from others. It took awhile to realize it. Then you/I kinda felt like an old dented car that you don’t feel deserves a nice wash and wax. I’m going to take all these donts to heart. I’ll be checking back. Thank you for your honesty, vulnerability, and willingness to share with us all. 🥰
Thank you for this message this morning. I just turned 52 and have lost 85 pounds in the last year (reversed type II diabetes) and am feeling better than I ever have. Still, I look in the mirror and catch myself picking at the negative things: extra skin, a bulge here or there, and focusing on the fact that I still have 40 pounds to lose instead of celebrating how awesome I look! I wish it was easier to focus on the positive things! As I watched your video this morning during my run, it reminded me of all of the positive I have in my life. Thank you for that!! 🥰
You have an amazing body, an amazing mind, and an amazing heart.
You should be so proud of yourself! 💜 Happy Birthday to you! I just had a birthday myself and turned 55. Wishing you all the best!
Love your comment and resonated with me. Last year turning 45, after a decade of unknown weight gain insanity fluctuations, I was finally diagnosed Insulin Resistant… I’m not yet diabetic, I’m told I will become type 2 if I didn’t lose the weight and follow lifestyle changes. I was down 100 lbs in 9 months, then a broken ankle has me currently up 20 lbs again since I went from working out and having become a runner, to finally out of a 24/7 cast 1 week ago. All the negatives you mention.. I’m saying them to myself too! Those same things! And YES!! I need to flip back to my celebratory mindset too when I catch myself being my self destructive body critic! This video, your comment, hearing these things.. it’s like somehow I have this notion I’m the only person thinking and doing such things. Ty for the inspiration, mind boost, sharing your story.. and most of all, CONGRATS on your progress!
Not falling for becoming invisible really speaks to me at 55. And I love your thoughts on redefining the social norms/narratives about women over 40-100 and beyond. I talk to my teen girls about not letting negative social norms/narratives discourage them. But I don’t do the same for myself. Thank you!💜
I like your comment. I'm turning 50 in March. I want to be invisible. Thank you for being courageous and You look beautiful.
I completely understand you . I wish I still had my mom to ask questions about life at different ages .
This was so empowering! I really appreciate how you talk about the connection between style, fashion AND mental health and self-love. You're practically the only style expert I will watch anymore because you teach that a beautiful inside is the most important step to great style. Love the Busbee Team!
We all love YOU right back! SO glad you are here and finding my message speak to you. xo
My goal this year (again) is to surround myself with more good people and to keep putting myself out there even when it is uncomfortable. It worked so well last year. I can’t help but smile thinking about how great last year was. Thank you for this helpful video
Yeah... I will be saying this year.
It is so nice to hear your thoughts. Thank you for sharing.❤️
Your words are so important! We need to hear this! Yes you hit the nail on the head... I am currently working with a beautiful 18 yr young lady. The amount of insecurities I hear her talk about as she compares herself to people on the internet is truly heartbreaking!!
I am praying for her and I hope I can help her understand how beautiful she is! I talked to her about how we are all individuals and the world would be a boring place if we were all the same! When I think of this it brings tears to my eyes! I have three Granddaughters and four Grandsons and I want them to be healthy and happy! Yes we all have stuff we are insecure about!
My New Year's resolution is to give more compliments and watch people's faces light up! Remember Your opinion of me is none of my business!! This is by far my favorite video..Thank you Erin!!
Thank you so much for this amazing, AMAZING pep talk to start the year! Such fantastic advice, and so much heart, I teared up a couple of times. I'm 49 years old and so much of what you said resonates deeply with me. I am so rooting for your yacht birthday (and mine too!) 💞💞💞
YES!!! Love it - rooting yours on too! Thanks so much for being here. I'm honored to be even a small part of your journey. xo
Very inspiring! "don't play small" love it!
Thank You! I took notes.
You said a lot of things a lot of us need to hear.
I was gonna pay a life coach $3000 but I watched this video instead.
At 55 I feel old and frumpy and invisible at times.
I'm going on a cruise in 2 weeks and I have been working on my wardrobe options.
Thank you so much for the encouragement!
I want to feel pretty and comfortable in my clothes.
I'm going on vacation, the last thing I want is frumpy.
I love wearing pretty clothes and shoes and am chunky, so it takes a lot to get to that comfort spot.
My mom told me once I only need a few outfits to wear on vacation- I laughed.
YOU only need a few outfits, I need as many as it takes to feel fresh and pretty!
OK, I'm big on wearing flowers in my hair, that's my secret to sending joy to the world.
Erin you are so right regarding the visibility. When you age you become invisible and you don’t want to be visible because you don’t like your image for plenty of reasons and you hide yourself or you think that you do no deserve to have beautiful clothes or too visible clothes. Thank you!
Happy 2023 Erin & Everyone 🥂✨ As a child, School Shopping w/my mother refined & defined my personal style... She'd tell me " You have expensive feet" AA/AAA width... Mass produced footwear mostly begins w/medium width... 'High End' footwear was more accommodating... Clothes shopping equally challenging... Most pcs had to be custom fit... I still hear Nadines' voice (my mom) asking " Where are you going to wear 'such-n-such' "... Alterations included in pricier departments... 'Price per wear' is a phrase I learned from TH-cam... I've lived a
"Champagne Taste on a Beer Budget" lifestyle, dressing high/low for 5 decades now... I truly appreciate the perspective you have been sharing w/our community... Feeling like the Star of ones Life can be a Challenge... But, Oh So Worth It 💗🧡💛💜
I have always admired well dressed women but never imagined myself as one. I wore hand-me-downs and whatever cheap clothes my family could afford. I had no idea about fashion. Thanks to your videos I have learned some wonderful and useful tips. I recently purchased a beautiful blue blazer which I wore over my blue striped shirt with some Kut from the kloth jeans, in not a style I would have bought before I watched your video. I wore some shiny booties in a cool saddle tan color and added a bold, large link necklace. I went to the mall to exchange some too small shoes and I noticed several women give me "that" look and once-over. I felt like a success. I knew that I had created a super outfit. Thank you so much. Just beginning but definitely finding my style
Your best video ever! I am 70 and we all need that encouragement. Thank you
Erin, you are SO right with this message. I just upgraded my sneakers to the white leather Sam Edelmans and they are so comfortable right from the box and they make me feel and look great! I struggle so much with footwear, so, I used your recommendation and I am so glad that I did! I am making an intention to speak up more in group conversations. I put that into practice recently, letting the group know that "the good ol' days" were NOT GOOD for everyone. Let's keep the momentum going! Thank you for your positivity. Happy New Year!
LOVE it! What a difference new sneakers can make. Thanks for sharing, Julia! xo
Hi Julia! I see that you liked the white sneakers that Erin recommended and I love that idea. I am trying to find which ones those were and see several different styles. Do you know the name/which ones they were in that line? Thank you so much if you don’t mind!
I can't express how happy I am to find you. Not only are you beautiful on the outside, but on the inside as well. I've been watching alot of style videos lately in search of ideas, but none have gone beyond simply telling me to buy clothes from expensive and trendy stores. When I go out and be with people one thing I always keep in mind. Messages that the Universe wants for me come from people. Not trees, rocks, etc. People. I never know if the most significant message I must hear will come from the produce person at the market, the man who pumps my gas at the gas station, the bank teller.....It saddens me to realize how many people think these people are unimportant or even worst, just existing to serve their needs. THE MOST SIGNIFICANT interaction of my day may come from a seemingly unimportant vehicle. The Universe works in unexpected and miraculous ways...if you remain open. And remember that YOU may be the most significant person someone else meets in their day. Be the light...yes, yes, yes!!! I look forward to exploring more videos by you!! Thank you!
Well I am SO glad you are here! Welcome to an amazing community of women. Thanks so much for watching and sharing this lovely reminder. xo
This was so lovely 🧡
I love when you said,” you are a snowflake”.
I think so many need to hear all of this. I have told you before that I am a Holistic Master Esthetician of almost 40 years and I share this because I see things and hear things everyday that break my heart.
I am to old
I am not pretty
I have wrinkles
I am not worthy
We have got to share more of this… you are a special snowflake! Do not change your face yourself for ridiculous beauty standards set by social media, a beauty industry and marketing.
I am almost 57 and accepting this process of age is key. I had to change how I ate. I had to work out more. I had to take even better care of my skin and muscles of my face. But inevitably it’s about self love and not wanting to be someone else or 20 or look like everyone else.
I am a creator here and I also needed to hear this. The beauty channels are a tough space and it can be very hard to stay the course of natural and real.
Yes BE THE LIGHT! Always turn around and bring another women up not down.
Thank you. Blessings to you and everyone here, YOU ARE ENOUGH 🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa
Love this video!!! When I felt insecure after my baby I compared myself. Now I have two kids and extremely fit. Size 0 116 pounds and a pro out almost daily. I chose my hard! No longer comparing or feel insecure! We need to take care of our bodies! Nobody else will and especially in regard to health. You are worthy!!
Thank you for sharing these 10 don'ts, Erin! Style is about so much more than the clothes we wear... how we show up for ourselves plays a huge role in how we show up in the world. Thanks again for such awesome advice.
Yes on smiling. People are constantly telling me I draw people to me because I always look so radiantly happy...well it is genuine. I TOO am an introvert but have pushed myself to take social risks to speak first, engage in long conversation, etc. Very recently I lost my beloved mate of 41 yrs. 5 mos ago, BUT I choose to remember how happy we were. I already got waaayyy more than my share of joy, adventure, and love in this life....all I have to do is look around me at all the beauty in my life and I smile. Mynhappimess and joy thst I had before he died have returned. I will ALWAYS love him,,always wish he were here but also I WILL be happy it is HIS legacy. He GAVE me this happiness and I owe it to him to not let it slip away.
I am so sorry for the loss of your husband...What a truly beautiful outlook you have on the time you had with him, though! I'm honored to read your story and I can feel the love you have for him. Thank you so much for sharing this here with me. xo
You are my very favorite person on the internet. Thank you for these bits to percolate and reflect on.
Dear Erin, that was just AMAZING!!!!! I started this "TRIP"/"PROCESS" three decades ago... still working on it, every single day. There are still small steps to do every single day and I
LOVE doing these steps. It´s FUN, It´s LIBERATING! I feel my best in my 52. Still have days I do not feel as comfy as I wish, but the working on all these 10 things is definitely worth it! THANK YOU SO SO MUCH for making this amazing video! Love you ❄
This is awesome, so good to hear that ❤️
Hi Erin ♥️
I love the emphasis on self-love and wellbeing in this video. Well done. I hope many new viewers will watch it, it is so relevant. For me, the part about appreciating your body no matter what is what I must work on most.
I hear you. It is so important to love ourselves and our body, to love ourselves as we are, beautiful and brilliant!❤️
I love myself❤️
Thank you, this is absolutely beautiful 💜 I feel like I stopped living after I turned 40 😢. Now I’m almost 50, and I have started a self care journey, looking at life differently, I have started online courses to further my career. Thank you! This message resonates with me at this time in my life!! And yes!! Let’s stop the disappearance of women after 40!! This is an amazing time, it’s time to take our lives back! ❤
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much! I love that we can all support each other in supporting ourselves and "not playing small." 2023 is OUR YEAR! (And 2024 will be too.)
One of the reasons I follow you is that I find you very authentic. Although that's a rather catch phrase way of putting it, I find even your earlier videos show your personality and your passion quite clearly; and that you yourself have not changed or morphed into what is on trend or stylish, or what you (or others) think your followers want. And...... it is awesome that you are confident enough to take us on your journey through your ups and downs. I follow very few people, but your style, personality and honesty resonate with me.
These are great life tips! I try to always dress in clothes that I like, and not blend in most of the time, and yes, it is uncomfortable to get all eyes on you because you’re not sure if they’re silently judging you but once in a while, I have another female in my age bracket complimenting what I’m wearing, and I think to myself good I encouraged her to step out of her shell as well. It is all about empowering other women I wish more of our female counterparts would see it that way.
Yes this wonderful when a woman comes up,to me and asks where I buy my clothes. I buy vintage inexpensive specialty items and mix with the basics items that look BEST on me.
This is awesome and my belief that we need to dress to express our pets and dress to make us feel happy, dresses to please ourselves not othes
I know the metal genre is not for everyone, but metal is my heart song and it’s honestly so comforting for me (I am of course selective in my taste, as with any genre, so I certainly don’t resonate with every single metal band/song/album out there). The lyrics and instrumentals I listen to are very empowering. ❤️ It always helps me through difficulties in life, and it supports my strength and passion for life everyday. 😊
I really love and appreciate all of your points! ❤ You’re a beautiful person and your positivity, encouragement, creativity, authenticity, and humility is always a breath of fresh air! 🤗😘
I so appreciate you today in this video because I am having my off and emotional day and YOU came through to remind me to be visible, shine through, smile and be bold with my colors! Literally, I felt within this past week that I need to wear more colors and less black so I don’t absorb the negativity. THANK YOU, THANK YOU for being you and where your beautiful mindset is to penetrate through MEE! I am more positive but we have our days of blahh and you really picked me up today! LOVE it! Sending you much love and kindness! ❤❤❤
I am so glad this video came at just the right time for you. Sending light and love your way! xo
I love the way you are so real. Your voice is so calming and relatable.
I appreciate the authenticity of Erin. I’m way older and learn so much from this channel. Thanks for not trying turn every video into a commercial.
Thank you SO much for your sweet words and support. I'm lucky to have amazing women like you here in my corner! xo
"Comparison is the thief of joy," Wow! Thank you for all these powerful, beautiful messages!
That beautiful sweater is calling my name, and your makeup today is the best I’ve seen you use! Great message
Thank you, Erin, for your kindness and positive message for women❤️ Stay in the light!
I have been following you for 3 years now. I love this message. For me, this is your best ever. Please keep it up. We need your positive outlook ❤
Soooo beautiful Erin!!! Thank you!! You are changing our world and. we all see it and feel it❤
Hi Erin, I think I was supposed to find your video today- thank you universe! I’m 61 & care for my 90 year old Dad who is in hospital right now. I’ve been looking after everyone else for soooo long that my needs are buried down deep to the point that I have no idea what they are anymore. I’m a bit sad & lost inside, but you have inspired me to think about myself & what I really want, so thank you sincerely. I always enjoy your fashion & beauty input , today however, please know you have literally made a difference. Bravo 👏😊
Wow! I am humbled by your comment... and honored to be even a small part of your journey. SO glad this was inspiring for you at just the perfect time... Thank you so much for sharing that with me, Cathy. xo
Have always felt too old for this or that since I was 15, but I did it anyway. Yet, I continue to feel too old for dressing as I want. So thank you for your words that motivate me to do it anyway. Bless you. Keep shining - you are beautiful!
I think you are lovely, genuine and real on the inside and it reflects in your beautiful outside! ❤️
Loved this video tremendously.I wish you could be a mentor to everyone including children.You are just so wise,mindful,beautiful,intelligent and your kindness towards others is so beautiful! Thank you for being such an important influence in my life.❤😊
Oh, you just said it all.
I'm in that moment in life that "it's now or never" and I want so much... to travel, to walk along the beach, read more, laugh more, love more... Forget the pains of the past and feel free to live today.
Love you ⚘️
Loved this video. At 65 you reminded me that I can still dream and have goals. Thanks. One dream is to learn more jewelry techniques.
Wonderful! I am so glad this video spoke to you and I am SO glad you are working towards your dreams and goals. xo
Your thoughts on worthiness and our uniqueness are beautiful. Thank you for being so encouraging.
You are absolutely gorgeous! I adore you and your videos are spot on. I am 71 yrs young and I feel like I am just now growing up.i love life and having fun even when pain makes me feel like a wreck. I wish for this and that but it doesn't consume my thoughts, today my wonderful husband and I are celebrating the 54th anniversary of our first date.we celebrate and laugh over the silliest things and it makes the day smoother.pure love and how lucky we are. He is always telling me how beautiful I am. I have learned to say thank you honey which was hard. All of are worth having love life and sheer happiness I wish I could have you each in my home for a loud, laughing good time.i wish for you all the best .BTW this is my first time to post but I've been here for a very long time. hugs
I am SO glad you are here and truly appreciate your genuine support. Thanks for taking the time to leave such a beautiful and heartfelt comment. LOVE hearing a bit about you and your dear husband. Enjoy your special day! xo
Thank you dear,I appreciate your kindness and time. I did receive a reply by email by one of your team.i think it was before we went back to Italy to visit family.. maybe 2019 but I'm not sure. I appreciated it.. you're truly a lovely spirit and I know your family especially your husband adores you. .you mean a lot to all of us. have a joyous day. Be well and take care of yourself..sherry
THANK YOU I needed this today! I was about to go down the rabbit hole of self doubt. Now it is all about being thankful for what I have and looking forward to more happiness.
I am so glad you got to see this video at just the right time. You deserve that happiness today and always, Carol! Sending you the biggest virtual hug! xo
Oh Erin, I have to write more comments: I saw your video about our inner goddesses before and it is absolutely my passion I think more and more.
I told it a friend and while she read it she starts to glow - so I think it is also mine.
THIS comment is about „nor be afraid“ and to buy something… the events will come. Like magic (manifestation magic) I‘m invited to an event I dreamed of. Now I’m looking for an outfit for the party. I thought „oh, but I cannot wear it anywhere else“… now I’m get excited. You are so right. The events will find me to wear it! ❤
Love to hear that... thanks so much for sharing! xo
I just watched this at 4:30 am after an entire night of insomnia due to workplace stress burnout. I NEEDED this video. THANK YOU ❤
Well done, Erin! This message should be listened to often by anyone in search of thier misplaced bliss. Thank you for such a thoughtful and thorough video❤
Such great tips! I think one of the best things about growing older is that I can look back on my life and see ways in which I've become a better person over time. I'm more patient, kinder, less judgmental etc. Thanks for the pep talk! I intend to re-watch and take your advice to heart to see if there are things I could improve right now. Thanks for uplifting other women. We all need it!
My goal for 2023 is to make my business thrive! And dressing to make myself feel great will help me achieve that goal. Even if no one sees me in my fabulous outfits, it will make me feel more confident and ready to tackle anything.
Thank you Erin, outstanding video this week, I am guilty of all 10, especially body shaming! Your words really resonated with me and have given me the inspiration I really needed. I want to be an interior decorator but have never had the confidence, at 59 and an empty nester, I often feel insignificant, your video really made my day.💗💗Amy
I am so glad this was inspiring for you, Amy! Thanks so much for sharing your story and your dream here. Writing it down and sharing with others helps to make it into a reality! xo
We love our body. It is out temple🙏❤️🤍🧡
OMG !! I can't imagine how much simple, deep and honest you were in this video. and for sure this video will effect my 2023 in a better way...Thank you so much for this real, deep content.
I love what you said about how your dream may not look how you imagined but not to give it up. I would add, when you do achieve things, let that sink in rather than minimizing the win because it’s not exactly as you planned it. For YEARS I wanted to be a novelist because I thought that was my path toward escaping the office and making a living on my own terms as a writer. Now I am an independent science and technical writer making more money, earning more appreciation, and learning more than I ever did in any “regular” job. Even so, it took probably three or four years to recognize, hey, I actually DID achieve my dream. It’s not conventionally exciting or romantic, but it is liberating and thrilling for me-and that counts a heck of a lot more than impressing anyone with my job description.
I feel like I just got a Big Pep Talk…. which I need…. Been there do that w/ All 10 of these Don’t’s…. I’m 67 & wish I would have gotten out of a not so good marriage yrs ago but here I am trying to find new ways to find happiness everyday…. U r helping all of us women to have more Confidence in ourselves & takes some risks we might not have 👍😊
I am 47 and I have a 17 year old daughter. I have shared with her many times that I believe confidence and self love are the most important foundations for a fantastic outfit. Then, we build it out from there! If the outfit doesn’t make you want to strut, put it back on the rack!I plan to share your video with her as you have shared this message so eloquently! Thank you for reminding me to continue to revisit this both for myself and my daughter!
Absolutely LOVED reading your comment. I'm so glad this video resonates with you and hope it is helpful for your sweet girl as well. xo
I’m so much like you, thank you ❤ no need to fight with others, just stay light but be quiet in the right time, it’s not worth it to lose your temper
As AMERICANS, Canadians, etc etc we have SO SO much more than than so many on this planet. THIS is what we learn from travel. Not to beautiful European cities so much, but to rural Central America, South America, Africa and so any places. Not trying to guilt anyone here.
I LIVE in Central America now in retirement and it takes a long time to adjust. At first we feel almost ill when we see extreme poverty, then if we are lucky enough to get to know the PEOPLE in these siuations we develop deep respect for them...their struggles yes, are more than ours, but what matters MOST to them are their families..there are many good and joyous poor people. They dont crave what we crave because they have not had it...they dont yearn for.it. They look forward to holidays MORE than we do and what they have they are thankful for. And they really know how to treasure beauty in their life.
There is nothing to get one's head on straight about material things like spending some time in such a place.
I love beautiful things as much as anyone and I am not ashamed of having them...but I love these indigenous people around me as well. I have a joyous life. But as a clinical psychologist I know that people who seem to have more, dont necessarily have that joy...it comes from within and people who have it radiate a light that cannot be bought.
Erin, I looooove the way you empower women, with all of your videos, but this is the most empowering one! As for me, I got my master's degree in my 40s, I'm past 50 and in my PhD training, I stay away from gossiping, and love complimenting on others, especially women, and watch them react to it (most of the time they look for excuses and cannot accept compliments, I mean at all). I'm trying to continue to live by the other rules you mentioned.
I loved this❤️ Style for your spirit as well as your mind. Thank you💕.
Today I decided to do a challenge to not complain for a month, just because I'm curious.
I have two quotes I go by, “I follow my yes” and “the lightness of life”
Seeing the beautiful things, and being the light, as you said.
My biggest dream for this year is to get my business to grow.
My second dream is to spend one month in Paris this summer.
I'm also going to manifest the man of my dreams.
I'm so ready to dream big and be that woman I saw in my meditation that was my future self, and she was amazing.
Wishing you nothing but the best! Thank you for sharing your dreams and desires. This is your year! xo
Erin, This is one of the best videos I've ever seen.!! Many women are struggling with just paying the bills and maybe health or family issues. For them going to Paris for a year may not be realistic and many may have to continue to struggle but ofcourse they can still do or not do many of the things you said. Can you do a second part of this video on ways women can do some of the things you suggested but on a limited income. (especially visible clothes on a small income)
Thank you so much for your sweet words. We all have our own unique desires and goals. As far as finding clothing you love on a limited budget... I'd suggest shopping second hand, looking for high quality brands and staying very diligent on only buying things you truly LOVE and feel great in, that will last. SO glad you enjoyed this video and I'm SO glad you are here! xo
Erin this video was such a loving, beautiful gift. Sharing your own self doubts is an honest vulnerable lesson for many people. From this end, we may think that you’ve got it all, but we’ve all weaknesses and strengths, as you’ve shared. We can stand together, without judging and create more loving energy to create a better future.🙏🏼❤
Erin, you are so wise. I hope you realize how you are helping so many of us. Thank you for doing this. It is so nice to know we can learn so much from you 💕
Your different approach…talking to us…you have made me feel so much better and I love your channel. Do you ever show items that are similar and yet cheaper? It would help me on a budget.
Thanks for reaching out, Helen! We always work hard to provide options for less in each video's description box. You'll see the exact item and then underneath it a link for "Similar For Less". We do this on each blog post as well and offer exclusive looks for less each Friday on the site as well (BusbeeStyle.com). I hope this helps! xo
Good morning beautiful! I've committed to 2023 to band all things that make me look and feel frumptastic. I'm learning to accept what the plastic surgeon was able to rebuilt after the double. Are they what I had before, No. Do they look like what I had before, No. But, I can still wear most clothes and I look good enough in them to pass and that is enough. I'm down from a size 16 to a 12 and the journey continues. Thanks for your shared struggles and your genuine and heartfelt encouragement.
This is so empowering! I know it's geared toward those 40 and up, but I think my 13 year old will benefit from your wisdom. I realized a lot of what you said that is happening at 40 also happens at 13 (body changing, not feeling comfortable in your skin, etc). Thank you for sharing your pearls.
Yes, absolutely! I hope this is helpful for your daughter too... Thanks so much for watching! xo
I so loved this video. You touched on a lot of things that I consider important with regard to what you said on "comparing yourself to others" and "questioning your worthiness". I have felt that I've missed the mark in certain areas of my life...my body isn't quite where I want it to be...my bank account isn't quite where I want it to be...my relationship isn't quite where I want it to be...I don't have the family I've always dreamed of...etc., and I appreciate your passion and emotion on this subject. Thank you for making this video. I'm a subscriber and I haven't watched you in a while, but today it must have been meant for me to turn on your channel, I'm getting back on my "worthiness" game and loving where I am at this age in my life. I AM WORTHY...thank you 🥰!
I'm so glad this video resonates with you, Sheila... You are worthy! I'm humbled to hear the impact that this has had on you. Thank you for taking the time to share this with me! So glad you're here. xo
The comparison don’t was so important! We are all beautiful and unique. I know it’s human nature to compare, but it truly is the thief of joy. As I’ve gotten older I realize I don’t have the time or energy to compare. I love me and that’s good enough. Thank you Erin, you’re amazing and beautiful just the way you are.💜
Thank you so much for your message of positivity this morning. It really made me realize how bad I feel when I am constantly bombarded with angry videos about things that don't mean that much to me - like why am I inviting in this energy?! I very much believe in the law of attraction and now see how the content I consume can tie into that in a big way (I always forget about that snowflake experiment but its always so powerful in context when someone like you reminds me!).
Also THANK YOU SO MUCH for your words about worthiness!!! We are all divine and worthy of happiness, joy and abundance! Have a blessed year and look forward to watching more of your videos!! ❤
It really is so important to be cautious to what we let in. Thanks so much for sharing your own experiences with this. xo
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You are inspiring! I’m 73 and totally pumped by you❤️. Jill
Bravo Erin, this is a very inspiring video and one that should be viewed by every woman ALIVE!!!!!. You hit a home run, a touchdown, a Goalllllllllllllll. Viva Erin
Thanks for this. It‘s so important and we need to hear it more often, so that we don’t forget about in our daily life. 💕
Great message!
I'm so glad this one resonates with you! xo
I absolutely LOVED this video so inspiring Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us ❤️
Wow. Powerful. Emotional. Thank you. ❤❤❤ For my 50th I wanted to go to London by myself and look for historical artifacts in the Thames and see the sights and then meet my BFF for the rest of the trip around southern England. Despite being a mom of two, wife, small business owner. Despite a global pandemic…I did it. It was the most thrilling thing that I’ve ever personally done just for me. I just know we will see you on that yacht in those flowing fabrics. And you will be glorious 😉 ❤
Wow! Truly amazing and inspiring. LOVE that you did that for yourself! xo
"Be in the light" wow this simplicity resonates with me and will take this with me. Thank you for the gentle reminder 😊
You're so welcome. Thanks so much for watching! xo
At 80, this is a great moto to live by!
Dear Erin, thanks for this great video.
I'll try to follow your wonderful advices especially the don'ts:
I'll not berate my body. Since I lost a lot of weight, I didn't know that lost weight has body side effects besides changing your entire wardrobe. It changes my self-conscious areas in my body.
For example, from my tummy to my arms and legs. But, with your advice I'll look myself with more love.
I'll try not to try to be invisible.
I always enjoy being a discret person; however, mostly, it's interpreted as siliness or weakness by loquacious people, for instance.
Also, I always love dressing in black, but now that I'm building a new wardrobe, I'm incorporating some bold color😉
I'll not give up. I'm embracing new projects and challenges. I'm studying to get my third degree in my lifetime.
Also, after this difficult time for all of us. I want, and I will travel more with my husband this year.
Thank you for encouraging us to don't give up.
Yes, we need to feel good as you beautifully said: "We're going to look and feel freaking amazing."
I wish you only happiness, love, health, and success in this new 2023.
Big hug, dear Erin⚘️
Wishing you only the best on this journey! Thank you SO much for taking the time to share your own struggles and intentions for loving yourself more this year! xo
What a great video. Thank you for spreading your light in this world ❤ Boundary Boss and The Way of Integrity were two books that really got to the heart of my issues and continued my journey of healing.
My Childhood, Ultimate Dream just came true at 55!!! So Erin is 100% right. It can happen, you have believe it will happen. I was cast in a Professional Ballet, The Nutcracker as the Russian Mother. I was on stage for 45min dancing with Pro dancers in a huge beautiful theatre with a Orchestra Playing. I cannot tell you the magic of living in that dream and being awake. I truly believe that everyone can have their dreams realized. Keep Dreaming Ladies. Lots of Love. Erin, Yoga Burn is Fantastic!!!😊💝💝💝
We live like in WW3 era, I need light and kindness, you just lifted me up, thank you sweet and beautiful lady 🙏💛
What a beautiful message. In some way you inspire me. I'm going 45 in July and last year I've started to study in the university and that made me feel stronger and confident.
I love how all of this is beauty from the inside, and taking care of our spirit. I'm turning 48 in 2 weeks so now I'm also thinking about how I'd like to spend my 50th. Can't wait to see you celebrating on your yacht! Cheers to our midlife awakening!
Thanks Erin 😊 its like having a personal cheerleader listening to your videos! ❤️
Erin…you are so insightful and inspiring! Thank you for this amazing video to kick off 2023!
This is the best soft and powerful motivational video I've ever watched. Thank you for sharing your light Erin.
You're so welcome! SO glad this resonates with you, Elle. xo
Wow! I don’t have any words. Just thank you so much! I feel a lot of positive changes coming on. So excited!
I'm sitting watching this with tears running down my face. I have a chronic kidney condition which resulted in me back on a lot of medication back in October, as I relapsed. This has resulted in me gaining a lot of weight in a short period of time, along with the standard steroid side effects. This has had a major effect on how I feel and the change in my appearance is so noticeable that I am in self imposed hiding.... I know that what you say is 100% true and to be honest, it's what I need to hear today, but I need to be ready, mentally and physically. I want to feel like me again, so when the meds are significantly reduced and I am getting to a place where I'm ready to move forward, I'm going to come back and watch this video again. I won't give up, but right now I just need to take a step back refocus and get ready to move forward.
One step, one day at a time. Right now you need to focus on building strength and getting healthy! The rest can begin once you feel better.
Acknowledging that the path is there is a good start. Take good care of yourself and you'll get there.