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While I'm watching this I just got a text telling me to not forget the ten bottles of water. I send her a list of things she needs to buy when she goes to the city so she won't forget. Lol. She always asks if I took my medicine everyday. And what did I bring for lunch and what will I make for dinner. Did I put the chickens away? If I ask her how her day was I always get the same response. Just ok.
The wonderful mega-keeper Pea took it to the next level yet again at 09:22. "My Droogs" ... is a reference from the 1972 film "A Clockwork Orange". The lingo used in that film was a made-up form of 'pig-Russian' -- that is to say, 'mangled' Russian. However 'Droog' is a direct unaltered lift from Russian and it means 'friend' (sorry, I'm Kiwi and don't have a cyrillic keyboard set up, so can't easily type the word in the proper cyrillic alphabet) .
Most Filipina behaviors are great. But some behaviors are not. Calling a bad behavior, like deceit or tampo, "culture" should not be a free pass. A couple should be clear up front what behaviors are or are not okay. Great video!
Nice introduction to the codebook but why do i have the idea there's a lot more in the book. So a simple question, where to get the complete codebook ? Great videa Pea, the jokes at the end are fantastic.👍😊
What I find so endearing is the "bahala ka na (it's up to you) ". This is one of the biggest misque(s) in cross cultural. (Perhaps all cross gender). Trust me, it ain't up to you - just try what you think without putting what she wants first and find out.
I've already had that talk with my Filipina ldr about tampo. I told her the second time that it was a game that I wasn't going to play! If she has a problem she better state it so we can resolve it. After her trying to ignore me after I repeatedly called her, I calmly told her that there would be no relationship if she kept doing it. After 2 days of no calls she was calling and begging for me to forgive her.
In short, you don't accept who she is. Seems to me a flawed basis to build your relationship. "Accept me who I am" has a broad meaning for a Filipino and means also that she doesn't like you to "change" her.
Playing along with temper tantrums or putting up with deceit is not a good way to build a relationship. A lot of bad behaviors are being excused as "Filipino culture." I am sure that a Filipina would not want us behaving the way that they sometimes do and call it "American culture."
As an American guy married to a Filipina for 13 years I can say I’ve learned a lot. And as I’ve been with her for so long we have both adapted and accept each other for who we are. It’s just hard in the beginning until you begin to relax and be confident in your relationship. Great info as always pea 👍
Once again, you are so "on target" Pea! This video should be required viewing by all foreigners. I have experienced every scenario you discussed here, and it was a steep and costly, confusing and sometimes painful learning curve! But once you crack the code, you can apply it in every relationship you encounter here..personal, social,even business dealings. And again your presentation is so professional and entertaining!!
Foreigners will try hard to adapt to Filipino culture. But, at the same time, it's also the Filipina's responsibility to also adapt to your foreigner's culture as well. This is not a one way street and the "tampo" treatment, if it goes on for too long, will only end in travesty for the relationship.
Pea, just found this site and its helped me. My net girl for over 2 yrs. Thinking a true philapina woman is what I'm looking for. A real woman is all I want. My time is running out. I'm 55
Just last night, after 15 years of marriage, I pointed out to my wife I never know if I'm getting the real reason or what I call the good enough reason. She answered "it's complicated ". There is an exception though, but only if it involves my family or friends, many of whom she doesn't like. To be fair, she's generally right.
Great.smart.accurate. I am verry old and you have put into words many things that I have been thinking.IF I ever meet you I want to give you a big hugg. You have brought to ligt so many things. Cant get enoughf. Outstanding
“My droogs” - !! Thank you, this coming shortly after the tongue joke just made my day. I don’t even know why, but using that expression in the middle of everything else? Chef’s kiss, you are in your own league.
After a couple of years of dating online in the Philippines. I learned that everyone has their own warning signs. I definitely recommend learning your partner before making an advancement. Great video as always.
Definitely like the "simple" label. I'm extremely low maintenance, and prefer the person I am with to be as well. Being fancy and dressed up on occasion is fun, but day to day I prefer to be just me. I was fortunate that my former girlfriend was very upfront with me about what she liked and did not like. I think that is why we got along so well: Similar tastes. That thoughtfulness or attention to another female is going to be a real sticking spot for me. I was raised to be chivalrous toward women...any woman. I think communication up front is going to have to be key in defusing that issue (I hope). "But is she cute?" Too funny! You are a treasure, Miss Pea! Thank you for doing this video!
The same rules apply, in general, to Chinese and I suspect to all SE Asian cultures. My ex-wife is Chinese and I was often amused when she, her son, or her friends said "yes" to an Australian who assumed it meant, "yes". I learned that all it means is "Yes, I heard you make a sound, and I have learned that if I say 'yes', you will stop talking eventually, and I can get on with my life."
Ex-wife? Would you say bringing her to Australia (the west) contributed to your marriage ending? I’m asking because I’ve been hearing that if you marry a Filipina don’t bring her home to the west. Instead you should stay in the Philippines.
@@prepperjonpnw6482 ive heard that too... several places and it makes sense tbh....why settle for one good man when you can have as many as you want...
I've been distance dating a Filipina for a year and a half, and I've noticed a number of these behaviors in her. I'm happy to say I correctly guessed the subtext in most of the situations, but I'm grateful for learning things like what "fancy" means to people there, because I never would have known otherwise. Edit: Also, you look good in that police outfit 🙂 Not as good as my Filipina would, though. Her hair is longer, and she's taller than you are, and she has a straighter nose. (Does that pass the test?)
Great video miss Pea. After all these years I’m still dealing with the code book. Problem is when I think I have it figured out it changes. The one thing that never changes is never look at another woman or let another woman flirt with you. I guarantee you even if she is not around that other woman will tell on you. But filipinas are not the only ones with a code book. Maybe it’s a woman thing.
Whoa!! Thank you so much for talking about this. I was not aware of the things you mentioned. One thing I cannot and will not tolerate is a woman who says one thing and means something else.
Useful information and counterintuitive to what we'd expect from many Western women. Thank you. I've encountered the jealous Filipina and the tampo. Neither are to be underestimated.
I wish you had told me all this years ago, but thanks for finally clearing this up. Now I know. Thanks for all your hard work. These are very professionally created and executed. Great job!!!! I can hardly wait for my next lesson 😌
And one more thing , a Filipina I’ve met here in America seems more than friendly , using a side hug but her hand brushes across my butt . Flirt or friendly ? My problem & hers is she’s married !
I find after you explain things 3 times they get it. My second wife was from Argentina and she believed in saying yes to everything. She told me it was easy to say no later but harder to retract an initial no.
Hahaha TRUE!! Good video I've been to the Philippines 9xs, for a total of about 16-17 months. I go for my work. MY experience besides for MOST of what u said I noticed Filipinos give u information without actually giving u Information!!! Hahaha Makes me scratch my head!!! Also, they're the only ones who answer a question with another question!! Hahaha 1st time there and going thru this is an experience u need to see Hahaha Have fun all!!!
Pea, where the hell were you when I met my Filipina ten years ago, or even 8 years ago when we got married? Most of these situations and codes have happened and I had to learn the hard way. Hardest for me to learn, and still an occasional problem, is the "last question is all she saw"... and worse, I'll go to the trouble of sending multiple messages of things I'm working on and asking questions, but all are ignored except the last one. I still screw that one up all the time, but at least when she doesn't see them I have an understanding of the reason, even though it doesn't make sense. Keep teaching Pea, I'm all ears.
Be very careful what you say! It can flip on you in a heartbeat and you'll be fighting to save the relationship! Happened to me a couple times. Some words between the two countries have completely different meanings!
Pea, I laughed when you said, “I hope you enjoyed our session today” because you sounded like a therapist. But then, you are in some ways as you guide us in the right direction!
Pea , you’ve hit the nail on the head you seem to know why a lot of men will or will not a person of color I treat people the way they treat me. I also know it’s the way people of color treat others and for the same reasons I’ve told you many times about things you always answer back with a smile I would never have thought you were a province girl. But like so many there they refuse to intigrate into society you’ve learned this to better your channel. Allow me to explain. Your sisters need to slow their roll if they want to experience the west. The filapina/ o people are some of the brightest and best but your cities are molded after ours. You continue to mold your people and I’ll do the same. I know about TAMPO AND WHY. I dropped out of school to help my parents. I use to be more tolerant of people that I’m like a willow so I appreciate people like yourself so I learn your culture. I’d love to marry a filapina since ww2 you’ve been mistreated. We get that. Here , if someone poached a persons spouse you get dumped. I recently found out my land is worth 20 times what I paid for it. Just under $1,000,000. For that kind of money I’ll buy my filapina a nice home in the west. I will also teach her our ways and protect her.
I finally met a Filipina here in Georgia. She is a single mom. She is amazing and we soon will travel to the Philippines together with her son. I have never been as happy. Keep up the great work Pea! We even watch your channel together.
Advanced user here, 5 years married.... we even still love each other; that said your helpful to understand the fundamentals and the Whyyyy.... Good on you.
This is a great video on Philippine dating, very informative but I suspect there is much more that lies beneath the surface to this iceberg and I hope you will do a few more video's on this subject.
You are adorable. I have to admit I love your voice. I could listen to you for hours. I enjoy your intelligent upbeat approach to complicated issues. I wish you and your family all the best.
This was a great episode Pea! It does clarify some things I've run into during our time together. She hates it when I ask who she's chatting with or so. "Are you checking on me?" But when I get a message from some random person she'll ask "who's that?" It's so funny because she says she not the jealous type... 🤣🤣 One thing I am grateful for is that she learned how to say no in the 24 years she's lived here in the Netherlands. She practices it on me daily! 😂🤣
Very sorry for the late comment on this video. I have been busy finishing my book. SO what you are saying is that when you say you don't love me!!! You actually love me LOL. You are by far the best vlogger i have watched over the last 4 years regarding the Philippines. You certainly outdistance your counterparts. Keep up the great work and I really love your game show
The phone call from the boyfriend in which he explains there's only one female at his place of work and she's a real dog, followed by "woof woof", had me in tears. Filipina Pea, you are the best!
Hey Pea, The best way to deal with a Filipina in tampo mode is to laugh at her and make fun of her for acting like a child. I used to lock her out of the house and I wouldn’t let her back in until she knew how to behave. She must understand this is totally unacceptable behaviour and cannot be used to get what she wants. As a husband you cannot be held hostage every time she decides to be moody. If you don’t break this habit at the start, she will use it to manipulate you for the rest of your life. Can you imagine if we did it to them? Ask yourself how would Filipinas react if the husband was always doing tampo? The reason for this: It goes back to the girls childhood. As the girls are growing up and especially if they look cute when they are very young, everyone they know tells them “you look so cute and you are so pretty” so they never really experience any rejection or they are never corrected when wrong, so they don’t know what it’s like to be criticised or told off so they grow up in this false world of pretence and superficial comments as one Filipina tells another how pretty they are. So when they get married and enter the real world of living they completely go into meltdown at the first mention of criticism or objection. Compare this to the west, where from a young age we are all taught the right way to behave, Preparing us for adult hood. As always it starts in the home! Hope that’s helpful !! Alan
As for myself and most other men I know reading isn’t high on our priority list especially when it involves reading between lines. Relationship either find a balance between both parties involved or get over inflated by issues and burst. Both people must work together to communicate and find understanding. So Filipina’s can’t put people from outside their culture into their “it’s always worked before” and that’s how it will be just as a foreigner can’t expect someone from another culture to understand them implicitly because that’s how it is back home. We can have miss communication with people we have known for years so expectations of completely understanding and or reading someone from another world, without a bit of work, is expecting a lot.
Pea, I hope you realize that many things you say sound pretty discouraging for us, LOL. It's like, guys, hands of Filipinas. You will never be happy in a marriage, because we are simply not compatible. We won't answer most of your questions, and you will never know what happens next. However, I really appreciate your honesty and straightforwardness.
Hey Pea, another great video, very useful knowing the "code", I now understand my Filipina a little better thanks to your explanations. Your delivery is skilful and polished yet down to earth, and very witty. Humor and the subtleties of language between cultures are hard , sometimes almost impossible to translate, but you do an extremely impressive job at it!
Plenty of great tips today Pea and really had to reach for my heart pills seeing your police uniform in the conclusion OMG.. lol. Love your work and hope all is well. Best wishes from cold Melbourne this morning
Humm " want to take a shower with me?"my favourite Phil question first asked 10 years ago in antipolo and she still brings it up today :remember I asked u???cant remember what I said then?now just"oh thanks for asking"she is so proud of herself........love the sweet dimension of Phil.thinking!.....so sad I can't leave Thailand to take that shower now!
There's nothing simple about a Filipina lady, they could be good or they could be shady. I learn about texting two questions long ago, the first one is useless and that I know. I sure wish I started with your code book, it would have been so much easier than the way I took. thank you for everything that you do, you're an amazing woman and so beautiful too! (Ricky)===:::
Your code book gives non-Filipinas a great insight into how your people speak. I wish I had known all the things you mentioned before I got married to ONE and regretted it a few years later. What I would say to non-Filipinos is just leave those strange people alone and find someone in your own category and understanding as they turn the English language upside down. I warn you.
It's crazy at times, but if you think about it, it's a great way of "courting"... Making it through the "She's a perfect angel" stage that all stupid creatures (men) go through is the first step... But, if you can suffer through the ensuing work, frustration, acceptance, and the learning process of cohabitating with her while she's dealt with the same confusion brought on by our western traits without wanting to jump in front of a Jeepney, and you STILL love the hell out of her after all of that... There's a pretty good chance that you've found the one. 😉
What?! You mean you figured her out already? I've been married to my Filipina for 10 years and I still haven't figured out what she means when she says "What". I keep repeating myself and keep getting the same answer....
Yes, please, more of this kind of detail on the thought process of a Filipina. More videos, even have another Filipina to corroborate. If I took the rule book and used it the same way myself when dealing with my Filipina, how do you think she would respond?
Good evening Pea. As always looking gorgeous. Beautiful dress looks great on you and gorgeous hair. Very interesting video. Hope you have a great weekend 🌹 😍 😍 ❤️ ❤️ 😘😘💋💋
Thank you for teaching me properly how to understand my future filpina pea as my asawa so I will not offend her and make sure she's is very happy and loved. Great Video ❤
Hello Pea, great video. Excellent video. The story with the dog made me burst out laughing. I listened carefully, at the end I wondered: Isn't it a bit too complicated to have a Filipinas girlfriend? Maybe you should make a video about the positives point of a Filipinas girlfriend. Because after watching your video I think it makes sense to stay single. Your video provides a better understanding of why Filipino men are who they are. Very good video thanks a lot :)
Your videos are so informative yet funnier than hell. This one is no exception. In my girlfriend's family, it's all women, 4 in total, and not much of an obligation financially speaking, which I expect aa coming. I'm kinda wondering why the male population either dies off or is non-existent. Perhaps a video for future consideration? Anyhow, i enjoy every moment you speak. 😂
"Even with the code book, sometimes you just have to read between the lines." That especially applies when your significant other is flashing you her extended index finger, middle finger, and ring finger - with her thumb and her pinky finger curled up...
I have been married to my Filipina for 3 years now. I have learned that she is really easy to make jealous, and works hard to make noticing other ladies very hard. I am looking forward to spending the next 30 years with her.
On 3) It's fine. My rule is always to believe her when she says that, and never ask any followup questions. This often leads to sweet, blissful tampo that may last days.
Excellent as always. One phrase my new Filipina wife would say (more than 20 years in the rear view mirror now!) whenever I asked her opinion was "I don't know to you." Drove me nuts. I already knew what I thought, I wanted to know what she thought. It is still difficult after all these years of her living in the U.S. to pin her down on anything. I think part of this has to do with her being devout in her faith and not putting her own views out there, but it's also clearly part of her culture and makeup.
😂 Hello Pea. OMG 😂. You are so right with everything you say here 😂 I’ve experienced it ALL 😂 Funny video and I wish I’d found you last year. I love you so much sister. Keep up with these outstanding amazing videos. Really hope you get to 100k bananas soon. You are the BEST 😊👍
my philipina and I have video called almost every day for 3 years and haven't had hardly any arguments. By listening and watching your videos I understand her better now. Oh my philipina doesn't want me to chat her relatives hahaha she said all are not good
Oh I can relate to that part of Filipinos not being capable of admitting they don't know how to point you in direction you are asking about. I almost miss my plane from Manila to Cebu because of that 😂😂😂
Things that I love about you: Smart,very intelligent Beautiful sexy body Lovely long hair Exotic skin color (true pinay beauty)... What I don't like about you?? I rather keep it to myself but keep it up,great job lady
Well Pea as i was watching this video i can't stop laughing coz i really am like that specially when im mad or jealous i would divert what i meant to say instead of stopping him from talking with friends while im hanging on i would say go on and keep on talking to your friends i'll be fine but after that he would not hear a word from me😂🤪🤪
This was a great video, again. LOL. And so true. And at breakup time, well, that "turn on your head" thing must be universal. My ex gf keeps saying to me "That's not what I said". hahaha. Carly Simon has a great song: "It happens every time" that captures that. But when a Filipina says it, she is just 10X more beautiful!
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While I'm watching this I just got a text telling me to not forget the ten bottles of water. I send her a list of things she needs to buy when she goes to the city so she won't forget. Lol. She always asks if I took my medicine everyday. And what did I bring for lunch and what will I make for dinner. Did I put the chickens away? If I ask her how her day was I always get the same response. Just ok.
5k views in 3 hrs! Good for you Pea!
Thank you I sincerely enjoy watching all of your videos. You are very informative and humorous in the way you present all of your information
Hi pea....check your email
Hey Pea, I’m really going to need you to send me that code book.
If the Filipina says "42", you know she's read Douglas Adams and is a keeper. 😍
The wonderful mega-keeper Pea took it to the next level yet again at 09:22. "My Droogs" ... is a reference from the 1972 film "A Clockwork Orange". The lingo used in that film was a made-up form of 'pig-Russian' -- that is to say, 'mangled' Russian. However 'Droog' is a direct unaltered lift from Russian and it means 'friend' (sorry, I'm Kiwi and don't have a cyrillic keyboard set up, so can't easily type the word in the proper cyrillic alphabet) .
Most Filipina behaviors are great. But some behaviors are not. Calling a bad behavior, like deceit or tampo, "culture" should not be a free pass. A couple should be clear up front what behaviors are or are not okay. Great video!
Wise men speak when they have something to say, fools because they have to say something, Filipina because they love you 😍
Awwww, how sweet! And often true 😂
Except that she doesn't talk during tampo, but THAT means she loves you, too.
what a beautiful story and a load of bollocks
@@SoloPilot6 yes indeed 👍
Or when there is something she wants/needs (which you will find out much later).
As I often say to her " It's like we're from two different countries!" Thanks Pea
Lol that’s 😆 funny, I know what you mean
Nice introduction to the codebook but why do i have the idea there's a lot more in the book. So a simple question, where to get the complete codebook ? Great videa Pea, the jokes at the end are fantastic.👍😊
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What I find so endearing is the "bahala ka na (it's up to you) ". This is one of the biggest misque(s) in cross cultural. (Perhaps all cross gender). Trust me, it ain't up to you - just try what you think without putting what she wants first and find out.
I've already had that talk with my Filipina ldr about tampo. I told her the second time that it was a game that I wasn't going to play! If she has a problem she better state it so we can resolve it. After her trying to ignore me after I repeatedly called her, I calmly told her that there would be no relationship if she kept doing it. After 2 days of no calls she was calling and begging for me to forgive her.
In short, you don't accept who she is. Seems to me a flawed basis to build your relationship. "Accept me who I am" has a broad meaning for a Filipino and means also that she doesn't like you to "change" her.
to me tampo is childish thing to do..
Playing along with temper tantrums or putting up with deceit is not a good way to build a relationship. A lot of bad behaviors are being excused as "Filipino culture." I am sure that a Filipina would not want us behaving the way that they sometimes do and call it "American culture."
As an American guy married to a Filipina for 13 years I can say I’ve learned a lot. And as I’ve been with her for so long we have both adapted and accept each other for who we are. It’s just hard in the beginning until you begin to relax and be confident in your relationship. Great info as always pea 👍
So......neither one of yous speak the same language ? No communications ? Hrrrrrrrrr I guess that would be big problem !
Do you live in the Philippines or the west?
Once again, you are so "on target" Pea! This video should be required viewing by all foreigners. I have experienced every scenario you discussed here, and it was a steep and costly, confusing and sometimes painful learning curve! But once you crack the code, you can apply it in every relationship you encounter here..personal, social,even
business dealings. And again your presentation is so professional and entertaining!!
First time I arrived in Philippines in the 1970s I understood everything. Not so sure 🤣 now
Foreigners will try hard to adapt to Filipino culture. But, at the same time, it's also the Filipina's responsibility to also adapt to your foreigner's culture as well. This is not a one way street and the "tampo" treatment, if it goes on for too long, will only end in travesty for the relationship.
Your first two, "I'm just a simpler person" and "Accept me for who I am" always puzzled me. Thanks Pea!
Pea, just found this site and its helped me.
My net girl for over 2 yrs. Thinking a true philapina woman is what I'm looking for.
A real woman is all I want. My time is running out. I'm 55
Just last night, after 15 years of marriage, I pointed out to my wife I never know if I'm getting the real reason or what I call the good enough reason. She answered "it's complicated ". There is an exception though, but only if it involves my family or friends, many of whom she doesn't like. To be fair, she's generally right.
I’m going to send this to the Filipina I just met..I’m sure she will love this 😎😎😎
Well…that didn’t last long 😔 almost got taken by a scammer.. back to the drawing board.
“All fair in love and war” wow you know more about us than most of us in our own country. Damn you’re good.
Well constructed and, as usual, very well executed. 100,000 is just around the corner. 🤞👍
Great.smart.accurate. I am verry old and you have put into words many things that I have been thinking.IF I ever meet you I want to give you a big hugg. You have brought to ligt so many things.
Cant get enoughf.
Outstanding
“My droogs” - !! Thank you, this coming shortly after the tongue joke just made my day. I don’t even know why, but using that expression in the middle of everything else? Chef’s kiss, you are in your own league.
After a couple of years of dating online in the Philippines. I learned that everyone has their own warning signs. I definitely recommend learning your partner before making an advancement. Great video as always.
" Dating " involves meeting a person and spending time together
I have seen so many profiles that say " accept me for who i am " now i know what it means .
There's my favourite youtuber in the Philippines. Ms Pea in da house🔥🔥🔥
Awww thanks Mahad! That’s so nice of you 👍😊
Definitely like the "simple" label. I'm extremely low maintenance, and prefer the person I am with to be as well. Being fancy and dressed up on occasion is fun, but day to day I prefer to be just me.
I was fortunate that my former girlfriend was very upfront with me about what she liked and did not like. I think that is why we got along so well: Similar tastes.
That thoughtfulness or attention to another female is going to be a real sticking spot for me. I was raised to be chivalrous toward women...any woman. I think communication up front is going to have to be key in defusing that issue (I hope).
"But is she cute?" Too funny! You are a treasure, Miss Pea! Thank you for doing this video!
The same rules apply, in general, to Chinese and I suspect to all SE Asian cultures.
My ex-wife is Chinese and I was often amused when she, her son, or her friends said "yes" to an Australian who assumed it meant, "yes". I learned that all it means is "Yes, I heard you make a sound, and I have learned that if I say 'yes', you will stop talking eventually, and I can get on with my life."
Ex-wife? Would you say bringing her to Australia (the west) contributed to your marriage ending? I’m asking because I’ve been hearing that if you marry a Filipina don’t bring her home to the west. Instead you should stay in the Philippines.
@@prepperjonpnw6482 ive heard that too... several places and it makes sense tbh....why settle for one good man when you can have as many as you want...
I've been distance dating a Filipina for a year and a half, and I've noticed a number of these behaviors in her. I'm happy to say I correctly guessed the subtext in most of the situations, but I'm grateful for learning things like what "fancy" means to people there, because I never would have known otherwise.
Edit: Also, you look good in that police outfit 🙂
Not as good as my Filipina would, though. Her hair is longer, and she's taller than you are, and she has a straighter nose. (Does that pass the test?)
I love a "simple" woman they are the best
Great video miss Pea. After all these years I’m still dealing with the code book. Problem is when I think I have it figured out it changes. The one thing that never changes is never look at another woman or let another woman flirt with you. I guarantee you even if she is not around that other woman will tell on you. But filipinas are not the only ones with a code book. Maybe it’s a woman thing.
Whoa!! Thank you so much for talking about this. I was not aware of the things you mentioned. One thing I cannot and will not tolerate is a woman who says one thing and means something else.
Useful information and counterintuitive to what we'd expect from many Western women. Thank you. I've encountered the jealous Filipina and the tampo. Neither are to be underestimated.
Makes me wish ALL women came with a code book.
I wish you had told me all this years ago, but thanks for finally clearing this up. Now I know. Thanks for all your hard work. These are very professionally created and executed. Great job!!!! I can hardly wait for my next lesson 😌
So many times you have opened my eyes to the wonderful Philippine culture , I wished I knew these things 5 years ago , still learning 🙏
And one more thing , a Filipina I’ve met here in America seems more than friendly , using a side hug but her hand brushes across my butt . Flirt or friendly ?
My problem & hers is she’s married !
I find after you explain things 3 times they get it. My second wife was from Argentina and she believed in saying yes to everything. She told me it was easy to say no later but harder to retract an initial no.
Hahaha
TRUE!! Good video
I've been to the Philippines 9xs, for a total of about 16-17 months. I go for my work. MY experience besides for MOST of what u said I noticed Filipinos give u information without actually giving u Information!!! Hahaha
Makes me scratch my head!!!
Also, they're the only ones who answer a question with another question!! Hahaha
1st time there and going thru this is an experience u need to see
Hahaha
Have fun all!!!
Pea, where the hell were you when I met my Filipina ten years ago, or even 8 years ago when we got married? Most of these situations and codes have happened and I had to learn the hard way. Hardest for me to learn, and still an occasional problem, is the "last question is all she saw"... and worse, I'll go to the trouble of sending multiple messages of things I'm working on and asking questions, but all are ignored except the last one. I still screw that one up all the time, but at least when she doesn't see them I have an understanding of the reason, even though it doesn't make sense. Keep teaching Pea, I'm all ears.
where was she ten years ago? mmmm... middle school, I'd guess.
I've already experienced a lot of this and I haven't even arrived yet! Amazing. No reservations about machine gun questions.
It can't get better than this . Who know a Philipina better than a Philipina ? A lesson for all expats University Level.
You're right.. I took her everywhere, she always found her way back..
I've been talking to my Filipina for 11 months now and I'm still trying to figure out the code. I need a printed copy.
You'll want the revised and updated 500 page version, lol.
😁😁😁
"I love you" means "I'm tenderizing your wallet".
Be very careful what you say! It can flip on you in a heartbeat and you'll be fighting to save the relationship! Happened to me a couple times. Some words between the two countries have completely different meanings!
😂 LoL … never published, rewatch 👍
tv station should be pick up. excellent journalism.. natural talent
Looking forward to Part 2 (and 3 and 4 and 5 and...) 😄
Just brilliant, I get some of it. Wa helpful.
Congratulation for Philippines first GOLD at the OLYMIPIC.
Pea, I laughed when you said, “I hope you enjoyed our session today” because you sounded like a therapist. But then, you are in some ways as you guide us in the right direction!
Pea , you’ve hit the nail on the head you seem to know why a lot of men will or will not a person of color I treat people the way they treat me. I also know it’s the way people of color treat others and for the same reasons I’ve told you many times about things you always answer back with a smile I would never have thought you were a province girl. But like so many there they refuse to intigrate
into society you’ve learned this to better your channel. Allow me to explain. Your sisters need to slow their roll if they want to experience the west. The filapina/ o people are some of the brightest and best but your cities are molded after ours. You continue to mold your people and I’ll do the same. I know about TAMPO AND WHY. I dropped out of school to help my parents. I use to be more tolerant of people that I’m like a willow so I appreciate people like yourself so I learn your culture. I’d love to marry a filapina since ww2 you’ve been mistreated. We get that. Here , if someone poached a persons spouse you get dumped. I recently found out my land is worth 20 times what I paid for it. Just under $1,000,000. For that kind of money I’ll buy my filapina a nice home in the west. I will also teach her our ways and protect her.
I've learned so much from you to better my relationship with my Filipina. Thank you!
I finally met a Filipina here in Georgia. She is a single mom. She is amazing and we soon will travel to the Philippines together with her son. I have never been as happy.
Keep up the great work Pea! We even watch your channel together.
Advanced user here, 5 years married.... we even still love each other; that said your helpful to understand the fundamentals and the Whyyyy.... Good on you.
This is a great video on Philippine dating, very informative but I suspect there is much more that lies beneath the surface to this iceberg and I hope you will do a few more video's on this subject.
You are adorable. I have to admit I love your voice. I could listen to you for hours. I enjoy your intelligent upbeat approach to complicated issues. I wish you and your family all the best.
This was a great episode Pea! It does clarify some things I've run into during our time together. She hates it when I ask who she's chatting with or so. "Are you checking on me?" But when I get a message from some random person she'll ask "who's that?" It's so funny because she says she not the jealous type... 🤣🤣 One thing I am grateful for is that she learned how to say no in the 24 years she's lived here in the Netherlands. She practices it on me daily! 😂🤣
no no no yep shes becoming a western woman haha
Very sorry for the late comment on this video. I have been busy finishing my book. SO what you are saying is that when you say you don't love me!!! You actually love me LOL. You are by far the best vlogger i have watched over the last 4 years regarding the Philippines. You certainly outdistance your counterparts. Keep up the great work and I really love your game show
Show attention to any of her friends, and that friend becomes a "snake" in her mind.
LMAO!
Omg you are a genius!! My Filipina always says don’t forget to take your lunch to me and I’m like huh?? Thank you for the knowledge!!
One of my favourite videos you’ve done. I like the strategy of going to have drinks with my friends.
The phone call from the boyfriend in which he explains there's only one female at his place of work and she's a real dog, followed by "woof woof", had me in tears. Filipina Pea, you are the best!
I'm so glad I found your site Pea. You are so smart and informative and helpful. Great job as usual. Love ya
I am married to a Vietnamese lady and she works according to the same rule book. Great video thanks 😊
well .. they are Asian 😁
Such a beautiful woman! Intelligent and beautiful!
Intelligent yes 100 %
I don't know what you mean by beautiful
My Filipina isn’t even aware that I watch your TH-cam Channel , just playing it Safe , Your Great Pea , thank you for the insight.
You forgot one of the most dangerous codes. When your Filipina replies to your question with "...up to you" 🤣
English.........up to you....means just that.....accept it ! And move on !
@@jerrylansbury9558 chill Jerry. It's not that deep. Stop telling people to "move on". But then again "it's up to you". 😂
Or in Filipino …Bahalaka
That's all women...
That is VERY much a Thai expression.
Hey Pea, The best way to deal with a Filipina in tampo mode is to laugh at her and make fun of her for acting like a child. I used to lock her out of the house and I wouldn’t let her back in until she knew how to behave. She must understand this is totally unacceptable behaviour and cannot be used to get what she wants. As a husband you cannot be held hostage every time she decides to be moody. If you don’t break this habit at the start, she will use it to manipulate you for the rest of your life. Can you imagine if we did it to them? Ask yourself how would Filipinas react if the husband was always doing tampo? The reason for this: It goes back to the girls childhood. As the girls are growing up and especially if they look cute when they are very young, everyone they know tells them “you look so cute and you are so pretty” so they never really experience any rejection or they are never corrected when wrong, so they don’t know what it’s like to be criticised or told off so they grow up in this false world of pretence and superficial comments as one Filipina tells another how pretty they are. So when they get married and enter the real world of living they completely go into meltdown at the first mention of criticism or objection. Compare this to the west, where from a young age we are all taught the right way to behave, Preparing us for adult hood. As always it starts in the home! Hope that’s helpful !! Alan
As for myself and most other men I know reading isn’t high on our priority list especially when it involves reading between lines.
Relationship either find a balance between both parties involved or get over inflated by issues and burst.
Both people must work together to communicate and find understanding. So Filipina’s can’t put people from outside their culture into their “it’s always worked before” and that’s how it will be just as a foreigner can’t expect someone from another culture to understand them implicitly because that’s how it is back home.
We can have miss communication with people we have known for years so expectations of completely understanding and or reading someone from another world, without a bit of work, is expecting a lot.
Pea, I hope you realize that many things you say sound pretty discouraging for us, LOL. It's like, guys, hands of Filipinas. You will never be happy in a marriage, because we are simply not compatible. We won't answer most of your questions, and you will never know what happens next. However, I really appreciate your honesty and straightforwardness.
Pea will have over 100K subscribers before years end I'd bet money on it!
She does. You win
Hey Pea, another great video, very useful knowing the "code", I now understand my Filipina a little better thanks to your explanations. Your delivery is skilful and polished yet down to earth, and very witty. Humor and the subtleties of language between cultures are hard , sometimes almost impossible to translate, but you do an extremely impressive job at it!
Plenty of great tips today Pea and really had to reach for my heart pills seeing your police uniform in the conclusion OMG.. lol. Love your work and hope all is well. Best wishes from cold Melbourne this morning
Humm " want to take a shower with me?"my favourite Phil question first asked 10 years ago in antipolo and she still brings it up today :remember I asked u???cant remember what I said then?now just"oh thanks for asking"she is so proud of herself........love the sweet dimension of Phil.thinking!.....so sad I can't leave Thailand to take that shower now!
Your making great content. Keep up the great work.
Thanks so much, Garth 👍😊
There's nothing simple about a Filipina lady, they could be good or they could be shady. I learn about texting two questions long ago, the first one is useless and that I know. I sure wish I started with your code book, it would have been so much easier than the way I took. thank you for everything that you do, you're an amazing woman and so beautiful too! (Ricky)===:::
Hahahahaha
That was one of your best, Ricky! 😂
I really like your 'pun humor' I find it apPEAsing! 🤣🤣🤣
"apPEAsing" it's PeaFect 🤣
Your code book gives non-Filipinas a great insight into how your people speak. I wish I had known all the things you mentioned before I got married to ONE and regretted it a few years later. What I would say to non-Filipinos is just leave those strange people alone and find someone in your own category and understanding as they turn the English language upside down. I warn you.
It took me so long to learn how to understand my Filipino girl, omg it was so frustrating 🤣
Hahahahaha
It can be a real adventure, yup 👍😂
It's crazy at times, but if you think about it, it's a great way of "courting"...
Making it through the "She's a perfect angel" stage that all stupid creatures (men) go through is the first step...
But, if you can suffer through the ensuing work, frustration, acceptance, and the learning process of cohabitating with her while she's dealt with the same confusion brought on by our western traits without wanting to jump in front of a Jeepney, and you STILL love the hell out of her after all of that... There's a pretty good chance that you've found the one. 😉
What?! You mean you figured her out already? I've been married to my Filipina for 10 years and I still haven't figured out what she means when she says "What". I keep repeating myself and keep getting the same answer....
Every point, completely spot on . . . . especially your initial afterward phone call. Perfect!
Yes, please, more of this kind of detail on the thought process of a Filipina. More videos, even have another Filipina to corroborate. If I took the rule book and used it the same way myself when dealing with my Filipina, how do you think she would respond?
Rule 1: don't tolerate lying.
All right. I was speeding again 🤣.
Great job Pea helping out the guyz who haven't experienced the P.I. yet.
Good evening Pea. As always looking gorgeous. Beautiful dress looks great on you and gorgeous hair. Very interesting video. Hope you have a great weekend 🌹 😍 😍 ❤️ ❤️ 😘😘💋💋
I sure would love to have a great weekend - thanks 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea Pea you truly have many beautiful outfits
@@gregrodrigues5453 Dollar store the whole outfit was less than a $1. Pea is cheap gives away all her money!
Thanks! I truly appreciate all of your advice. ❤
And thank you so very much for the tip ❤️❤️❤️
Never ask a filipino more than one question. Also applies to emails to banks and organisations.
Thank you for teaching me properly how to understand my future filpina pea as my asawa so I will not offend her and make sure she's is very happy and loved. Great Video ❤
Hello Pea, great video. Excellent video. The story with the dog made me burst out laughing. I listened carefully, at the end I wondered: Isn't it a bit too complicated to have a Filipinas girlfriend?
Maybe you should make a video about the positives point of a Filipinas girlfriend. Because after watching your video I think it makes sense to stay single. Your video provides a better understanding of why Filipino men are who they are.
Very good video
thanks a lot :)
Thanks for opening my eyes.
I don't throw things in a woman face but some have done it to me. Thanks for the advice pea
Isnt that true for all women? (Not saying what they mean).
Anyway, great explanation. All recognizable. Not just in dating but in regular contact
All women use ‘code’, but a Filipinas is culturally different in some ways 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea oh yes.. and it's a very thick book
Salamat Pea , the torch 🔦 you Carry lighting the way is appreciated so much .. pagpalain ka mahal na ginang .
Yes Pea, I did finally figure out the one question at at time thing😂
Me too. Sometimes even that one question gets ignored, or is it "overlooked".
Your videos are so informative yet funnier than hell. This one is no exception. In my girlfriend's family, it's all women, 4 in total, and not much of an obligation financially speaking, which I expect aa coming. I'm kinda wondering why the male population either dies off or is non-existent. Perhaps a video for future consideration? Anyhow, i enjoy every moment you speak. 😂
"Even with the code book, sometimes you just have to read between the lines." That especially applies when your significant other is flashing you her extended index finger, middle finger, and ring finger - with her thumb and her pinky finger curled up...
Hahahahaha
The Pinay flip off?
Two of those fingers are decoys!
That’s the salute we used in Boy Scouts!
I have been married to my Filipina for 3 years now. I have learned that she is really easy to make jealous, and works hard to make noticing other ladies very hard. I am looking forward to spending the next 30 years with her.
1) Don't forget your lunch. 2) I just want you to be smile 3) It's fine 4) Please never left me 5) I am here always
Very accurate.
On 3) It's fine. My rule is always to believe her when she says that, and never ask any followup questions. This often leads to sweet, blissful tampo that may last days.
Excellent as always. One phrase my new Filipina wife would say (more than 20 years in the rear view mirror now!) whenever I asked her opinion was "I don't know to you." Drove me nuts. I already knew what I thought, I wanted to know what she thought. It is still difficult after all these years of her living in the U.S. to pin her down on anything. I think part of this has to do with her being devout in her faith and not putting her own views out there, but it's also clearly part of her culture and makeup.
😂 Hello Pea. OMG 😂. You are so right with everything you say here 😂 I’ve experienced it ALL 😂 Funny video and I wish I’d found you last year. I love you so much sister. Keep up with these outstanding amazing videos. Really hope you get to 100k bananas soon. You are the BEST 😊👍
Prof. Pea, your hard work is always appreciated. "Keep on keeping on!"
Filipina only saying yes explains why there are so many teenage mom's.
Hahahahaha
Thank you for the information.
I owe someone a big apology because I have been ignorant to certain moves.
I appreciate your advice
Omg, what she says and what she means can be two completely diffrent things. I think she spoke ailen sometimes!
I’m sorry we’re so confusing! I’ve learned to be more precise when speaking to a westerner 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea well, im sure a Filipina like you--a unicorn of sorts--is very precise 😊
my philipina and I have video called almost every day for 3 years and haven't had hardly any arguments. By listening and watching your videos I understand her better now. Oh my philipina doesn't want me to chat her relatives hahaha she said all are not good
Oh I can relate to that part of Filipinos not being capable of admitting they don't know how to point you in direction you are asking about. I almost miss my plane from Manila to Cebu because of that 😂😂😂
Ohhh noooo! 😂
@@TheFilipinaPea thanks to cab driver recognizing moment of urgency, it all ended well 😁
Things that I love about you:
Smart,very intelligent
Beautiful sexy body
Lovely long hair
Exotic skin color (true pinay beauty)...
What I don't like about you??
I rather keep it to myself but keep it up,great job lady
We need more advanced techniques, please, and all information is appreciated. Lol
Brilliant video, just what I needed for the moments of confusion with my gorgeous Filipina, and yep it’s my fault for not knowing this prior.
My friend love TAMPO,.. he’s married to Philippine girl and the only time he can relax, no nagging and get good sleep is when she’s in TAMPO 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks Pea! That was the video I needed to see to confirm that I won’t be going to the Philippines. There is thousands of them here anyway.
Well Pea as i was watching this video i can't stop laughing coz i really am like that specially when im mad or jealous i would divert what i meant to say instead of stopping him from talking with friends while im hanging on i would say go on and keep on talking to your friends i'll be fine but after that he would not hear a word from me😂🤪🤪
This was a great video, again. LOL. And so true. And at breakup time, well, that "turn on your head" thing must be universal. My ex gf keeps saying to me "That's not what I said". hahaha. Carly Simon has a great song: "It happens every time" that captures that. But when a Filipina says it, she is just 10X more beautiful!