Why Does Heartbreak Hurt So Much… ⎮ Personal Healing Journey ⎮ Life Unfiltered
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Welcome to Life Unfiltered! 🫂 Here, I share real stories, lessons, and insights on life, growth, and resilience. I have gone through a really hard breakup and I'm taking one day at a time. Expect content about overcoming challenges, finding purpose, and learning from mistakes. ❤️🩹 Join me as we navigate life together, unfiltered and authentic!
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Please never entertain the thought of "leaving this world" That is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Following your healing journey!
I remember crying so hard that I could not take in a breath. The pain was so bad that I begged God to let me go. Instead, he held me up. Keep with God knowing he will lead you out of the darkness you are feeling.
Leonardo, I for one, am so very proud of you for allowing us into your world of pain and heartache. I believe talking through what you're dealing with, with all of us, has been so therapeutic for you, a journal of sorts. For those who are going through a break-up of any kind can surely benefit from your pearls of wisdom and the scriptures you share with us. Thank you! Keep pushing forward. There is light at the end of the tunnel. ❤🙏
Leonardo I experienced this type of heartbreak so many years ago. I never thought I would find love again. I could not imagine life without this person whom I have given myself completely to. But guess what, I worked on myself, pulled myself together and several years later I met the love of my life… I wasn’t looking, it just happened. I believe in my heart that the same will happen to you and one day in the future you will look back and see how much you have grown. Heartache is really a bitch but once you heal life will be amazing again❤. I’m loving your content and I’m loving watching you evolve. Hang in there!
Grieving someone who is still alive is one of the most difficult and dark things I have ever walked through in my life. If I did not have God, I don’t even want to think about where I’d be. Please remember that your identity is in Christ and it can be found in him. Don’t give up and keep searching for him whole heartedly.
I am going through this right now. I assume I will be going through it the rest of my life. I have learned to put them in the back of my mind. They come to me in me in my dreams. Nobody cares or understands
@@Just.DI care about you. I understand. I think that's why I care. Unless you've been there, you don't get it. Jesus loves you so much my friend. I'm praying for you now.🙏❤🕊
watching from germany. going through the same pain, heartbroken and shattered into a million pieces. i do want to leave this world as of now because it all hurts so much, yet i remember your words and try to take you as an example, that all of this pain is part of a process, and that we can overcome this horrible sadness! thank you for sharing your journey!
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Just remember this is temporary. It takes time to heal. In time you might be able to look at the relationship and be glad it ended, or even if you don't see any major faults, this person wasn't right for you or you would still be together.
Take care of yourself, go out with friends and family, even if you don't feel like it.
I have experienced what you’re going through a few times such as a cheating spouse and also the death of my son, and believe me, asking God for help makes all the difference. It does get better with time! I will continue to pray for you that you will continue to have the true peace and the joy of God in your heart🙏🏻❣️
Leonardo, I’m now an older lady, but I do remember my heart being broken and it is going to take time to heal. God has plans for you dear, so carry on reading His word and we will continue praying for comfort and peace. God bless you 🙏🏻
When I heard the man I very much loved in Finland was engaged to be married, maybe 3-4 years after he walked out... it was as though my heart was shattered again. Years later, I'm now at peace with it. Your day of peace will come; just one moment at a time.❤
I experienced heartbreak myself. Especially the first love was really hard. When we truly love we're vulnerable. We open up, trust and sometimes we get hurt. But it gets better. God is with you and love's you. He's with all of us. He keeps us going through all the different kinds of emotions. The good and the bad ones. What would light be without darkness. Keep on going, you're an amazing talented young man. And good times will come again.
I understand and agree-I’ve said to friends that divorce is worst death-I’ve experienced both! My husband left for someone else after 30 + years-it wasn’t what I wanted.
My heart was broken twice. I loved with no boundaries and unconditional and both abused it and abandoned me. 16 years and 12 years. I hate remembering my life with them. They still walk on this earth enjoying life and I went with mine alone .
Then I met my husband at 55 and he didn’t break my heart, I gave it to him. He made me believe that I can love and trust again and I did but After 15 years he crossed over. I held his hand till his last breath with my heart. Remembering our life together for me is
more painful than remembering the other 2who broke my heart. I guess as you get older you see things differently, for me anyway. God was with me all those times and only when my husband crossed over did I realize that.
I pray the broken can be fixed and it will. Nothing is perfect in life. Only God.
Keep standing, moving and smiling. Keep the faith.
I love your moments and I know it will touch others hearts.
Believe ❤ Emma b
P.S. I’m working on HATING and FORGIVING them with Gods help some day. I’m getting better a bit on it but don’t really care to.
My focus is Keep Standing and Moving. ❤️🙏
You have A great girft to self reflect your emotions. I have watched this video several times, and each time i receive something new
Absolutely, the pain of heartbreak is catastrophic. (I've also been through it a number of times). At 70, I can say life is very hard at times. Thankfully I passed through each painful phase to other happier phases. Your sorrow is so deep it almost becomes you Leo, but you are not your suffering Your soul is watching your suffering. That is who you are. You will go on to heal, you will folliw your own path, you will confort, counsel and mentor others who experience heartbreak and loss, with compassion and sincerity. You haven't failed in my eyes, you just were dealt something and that's just what hapoebs in life. Is there anything I can say or dobfor you?
Thank you for open your heart for us, your testimony help anyone who is through the same in life. Greetings from México!
It's one of the hardest painful things I went through! but u will come out stronger, confident, more at peace. It will become easier to live with. You don't stop loving them, it becomes easier to live with.
And yes for me also it did feel like a death in a way.
The day will come when you wake up one morning,and this feeling comes over you.. and you know everything is going to be ok. Keep smiling. 1 life, don't let it take to much from you. Never stop dreaming 😊
Death is permanent I have suffered more heartache losing my parents than losing anyone I dated or married. Someday you will meet someone new and you will thank God for unanswered prayers.
May you continue on your healing journey dear, sweet Leonardo 🍀
It's the grief for the wishes, hopes and dreams that died...
You’re doing great, Leonardo. You are seeing the beauty around you. Remember and have faith that “This too shall pass.” 🙏 Keep focused on things YOU enjoy and on your goals so your life is beautiful. Set thought boundaries: Avoid rumination and negative self-talk by setting boundaries around your thoughts and focusing on positive aspects of your life. Your heart will lift! Cultivate new connections: Reconnect with old friends, join a club or class, or volunteer to meet new people and build a sense of community. Keep busy to distract yourself from negative thoughts.
Please don’t rely on TH-cam as your source of financial stability. You’ll feel desperate and worried all the time. Financial security will help rebuild your self-confidence and make you feel so free!
Thank you so much for sharing, you speak from the ❤️continuing to 🙏🏼 from Canada 🇨🇦 Blessings
Hang in there, Leo, you can get through this!! 💪 🙏
You are getting there Leonardo you are super strong you can do it remember not only you , you have to go through this pain many ppl been through this kind of pain including me but keep trusting in God your shiny day will come your happiness will come unexpectedly
Cheers
you did not fail,the world is now black,but things happen for a reason,stay beautiful the way you are,step by step Leonardo ❤
You are so worthy! ❤
When I lost the true love of my life 17 yrs ago he died 2 days before Christmas.... I went through of the darkest years 4 to be exact.... I've not been with anyone since.... My boys we're young and prior to the loss of him I had been in a accident and loss my leg.... It's good now but my ❤ heart still aches at this time of year..... ❤💔💕 God is good ❤
Just know that you are truly not the only one going through a terrible divorce. The pain is out of this world, and just remember God is giving you something better.
I helped my son go through this same thing. As a believer in Christ, he clung to the cross. It is years later now and he found his way. It was a journey of body, mind and soul. You are fearfully created.
You ll never forget your first love, but life goes on. Keep moving, do not stuck in the past. You ll find the one. Dont let yourself melt in missery.
My heart hurts for you, Leo!! One question that keeps coming up in my thoughts is "Do you know why she actually left?" Maybe you don't, but it's really hard to understand for so many of us, as it seemed to all be going so well. Then, out of the blue, she just left. That makes it even more difficult, I'm sure. Anyway, I continue to hold you up in prayer, brother!!! Blessings to you!!!!
He said that he thought they would get through it just like they had before, so I assume there were ongoing problems that weren't able to be resolved.
Have you talked to your dad. He has been going through the same thing. Because you're mother did him wrong. Im so proud of you for taking and opening up. Because you could be helping others hun. And its helping you. And keep reading the word of God. He will help you before anyone else will. Love you young man Hugs ❤
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What do u mean he’s mother did her husband wrong .i know they are seperated …..a lot went wrong there it’s so confusing …she’s no longer in the vlogs so much of a coverup
A broken heart is so many things. Loss of love, loss of joy, loss of hope and peace. It leads to horrible physical pain, sleepless nights or deep sleep with nightmares. And so many other painful symptoms. Just remember, Leonardo, that God is your permanent heart owner. He will make your hurting heart all well again, He will. Just collapse into His loving arms and rest. Then watch as He heals you. He is already working on it and is standing at the end of your healing journey, smiling at your new found joy, peace, contentment, and love. ❤
Take this time to build yourself up and be the best version of yourself, and be a provider as well. Then you will be in an emotional, financial, spiritual and physical space to accept the love of another and to reciprocate fully should the opportunity present itself. You won't meet anyone else until you are whole and productive again. Spend a few months grieving, but don't dwell daily on the heartbreak. Face it, and then let it go. You are still in a bargaining and denial and anger phase with yourself and others. You have to work through these phases until you can accept the truth, and move on with it, stronger than before. With acceptance comes the opportunity for growth.
Being made one then being separated is painful. How does your heart even beat. When it beat as one with another. You walked in the same path the same way. Then they go away from you. You trusted they were with you. Healing will be long. It’s been 20 years my heart still love them. But now I pray blessings for them. The pain from the heartbreak is just a part of my history my story. It made me who I am today. In away it was a blessing. God let Job lose it all. Blessed him with more.
They say that the grief is more bearable if the other person dies , exactly as you mentioned about the heartbreak ... Leo - whrn it gets hard - just breath and keep swimmin' ... and be kind to yourself ... ❤
Still praying for you! I know exactly what you're going through and only Jesus helped! ❤
I’m still having a hard time believing this is your reality, Leonardo. She is believing and following lies… Bless you for drawing nearer and nearer to the Lord. That can only bring good things 🙌🙏🏻❤️
"she is believing and following lies"???
@ - if she left her husband, it would appear so.
@LorieLee7 but what "lies" are you refearing to?? "she believes in lies"???
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can see how you might be lost. But, this is such a good time to find yourself. Yourself apart from anyone else. You are more than just her husband. You are a wonderful person with a purpose all your own and I am hoping you will find tour way. Don't give up dear brother in Christ.
Going through the same thing, your videos are relatable and helpful. (:
Heartache is hard but you will get through it. Look back on it as a learning experience and just a chapter in your life. People grow apart or issues become to big for 1 or both people to deal with. You spent 6 or more years with your wife, so it is a huge adjustment to be without her. I think the fact that you are holding on to some hope you might reconcile is making it harder for you to move on.
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I feel the same ... My boyfriend left me after 13 years, without real explanation. Whole my world has crashed, and every corner of my existance is remaining something about him...yeas, I'm grieving for someones who is still and I can't stand an idea that he will be with someone else
You are a sweet person with a lot of heart. America. 🌹🇺🇸🇺🇲🇺🇸🇺🇲🇺🇲
Thank you very much, Leonardo for being vulnerable and for your honesty. Your videos are helping me a lot as I'm going through a heartbreak myself. Your trust in God and your hopeful attitude inspire me a lot. Your situation is a lot harder than mine, but as a highly sensitive person, the pain is excruciating and can't even look at the pictures of me and ex. I don't even want to remember the memories with him, which brings a lot of sadness. However, I've learned that God closed the door for a reason. I am also growing closer to God through daily prayer and reading the Bible. He has a bigger plan for us, and He will make that happen in His perfect timing ☺️ I am looking forward to your videos to see how God works on you and your life! God bless you from Japan!
Ultimately everything will be ok! God bless x
Oh young man i feel for you.
Try to think that now there will be a space in your life for the right one for you when God sends her your way.
Dont go looking forward or backwards. Live your best life anf see what God sends.
Gotta say Leonardo you've never looked more handsome❤😊 im sure good things are ahead of you. Just keep going and keep your intentions pure🎉
I hope you can come to Australia soon Leonardo 🙏❤️
I understand that feeling, I had a trauma 18 years ago, I remember myself before that and I ache for her sometimes
Married young and you both spent months apart from each other. Prayers for you both.
You are a wonderfall person Leonardo keep on don t give up. Everthing has aa.reason. you Will réalise it soon
Hang in there Leonardo you will get threw this I did and I had a two week old baby when he left. I found love again and so will you.
When you know, you know! 😢✌️
I love your videos Leonardo. Take care.
Been watching you for a long time now. On your life's journey.. I can truly say. You're a beautiful soul....we all have pain in one form. All we truly have is God and family. Go home to your brothers and sisters.
I just can’t believe you don’t go see your brothers and sisters, mom and dad. I just cannot believe you don’t have that see them and get some comfort from them. They are your family.
Watching from Dubai...love u and your family ❤
Loosing your husband at Xmas time is so much worse than a relationship breakup .my daughter died before Xmas time and recovery is so hard .leonardo just can’t see that he will recover but it’s not the same as a death
I am blessed not to know the kind of heartbreak you are experiencing. I am coming up on 42 years of marriage. But I do know your identity. You are a child of God, the son of the One True King. Rest and renew in that fact. I am not trying to lessen your grief and trauma. Just remind yourself whose you are. Praying for you.
It's a real heartbreak, because she ran away from the covenant you two had in front of God. She's still alive, so in the eyes God the covenant still excists, only when she passes away it will be broken. When you marry, the two become one so when one personn runs away, the other misses his other half.
I love this kind of videos. ❤
Btw you live there, where others go for vacation. I have just seen one video today on tiktok that had 4 mil. likes and abt 12 mil. views abt the beauty in finnland. So many people wanna go to finnkand, me included. Enjoy it as long as you live there. If you reay plan on going to australia one day, enjoy finnland as much as you can.
Btw it helped me to enjoy cold and long months, if I bought very warm clothes and took vitamin d + k3.
Also do something beautiful every day.
And winter is always the month of creativity. Go play violin, or paint or write something. Maybe you can do music with your siblings from distance. Headset and tdams or something.
Today we have so many oppertunities. Use them
The beginning of the long winter is behind us and nearly all of the dark and cold lies ahead, but you know summer is coming, for sure. Not just weather but life is like that--cyclical and up and down and great and awful. Were it not for Jenna, you would still be prisoner of that disturbing family you managed to escape from thanks to her. Your relationship had a purpose but not what you perceive. Only hindsight solves some mysteries and time gives you perspective, which you barely have now in the midst of your pain. You need to stop remembering how much you hurt, and say NO to experiencing betrayal and misery and feeling lost. This is a conscious choice. Can you imagine talking about this a year from now, or in two years telling how your will to live has been extinguished because your very first and only girlfriend left you? Even people whose babies died have been caught laughing only months later. Grief is not a permanent state of being unless you choose.
Please don’t give up
One day you will find happiness
I think it’s because you rely in so many parts on the other person in the first place. I might be lucky and be sane, but that means I am loosing sight without reason. It’s so weird. It’s like I am loosing myself like a lover.
God bless u Leonardo ❤
Heartbreak hurts but losing your partner to death is so much worse😢 I hope you won't be able to experience it ever. My sister did and her daughter who's 11. Never heard such groans of despair from a human before😢😢😢
God will show you what you need to do next don’t lose hope. sometimes parents don’t mean to mess kids up but they do and you learn from it. You take it and focus on God now because God is the one who has the wisdom and knowledge as to what path you need to go on, yes it’s a shock to me that this happened too. I guess she took down all her videos well anyway don’t worry about anything but pray about everything. God will show you the way you need to go. It may not be what we want but you’ll know if God is leading you then you go that direction, you’re smart you’re young you’re handsome. Just get on the right path with God and follow where he leads you. Maybe He want you to be a missionary. I have no idea but there are groups you don’t want to get in the wrong group though some of these people are nuts, anyway don’t worry about that. Just pray and see what God says. God bless you.❤❤
Luonnossa liikkuminen auttaa ja antaa voimia mennä eteenpäin. Myös halaus on parantavaa, voi halata vaikka sitä mäntyä 💙 Hyvä kun on sukulaisia ja ystäviä, ystävät ovat kullanarvoisia! elämässä - hyvinä ja huonompina aikoina. Kyllä elämä kantaa, luotathan siihen 🤗 Voimia paljon
Hello Leonardo, I just thought of some ideas of what I personally would love to see on your channel... The first "range" as we can call it would be "Finnland"-getting to know cities, culture, mentality, traditions, kind of like maybe documentary - thinking of walking tours through cities, shops, restaurants or something like that... getting the image of how it looks like there, how it differs from our countries, maybe there are some specifics about Finnald - maybe about driving who knows 😊🤷♀ I know we can look it up on internet but I would really like that to be introduced by you. :) btw, I dont think Finnland around you is dead, it just hibernates.🙏🕊☺The second "range" would be "The Studies"... I am interested in the topic(s) you are studying and would love that to be shared, if possible. 🤍 And finally the third "range" - "Life Unfiltered". 👍Hopefully you get this as an inspiration for the future. :) I know it's a lot right now, but you asked us :))
Peace be with you. 🤝🕊❤💙
It hurts but it’s a good lesson
There is no life without pain.......
We all are walking with you my brother, thy friend. Jesus is carrying you. We will hold your hand... every single step every single day. We will cry with you friend, we will pray for you friend. We love you friend. I think of you every day. Praying each day will get a little better for you. We want nothing more than you to be happy, have love, abundance and friends with a home to enjoy.
Learnardo, I know we're you coming from. 1. I have been through a divorce , after years 2. On Christmas day, he took a ring in our first home we both. 3. God showed me the truth, it was another woman who married her & divorced her.
I was able to stay at the house until I was divorced.
A few things that help me, at night , would worship & and cry on my knees. I got connected with groups of bible home groups. I asked God for truth, his wisdom, and stand in Gods truth.
I had to learn who was, which is our identity in Christ, not as mate.
Here's 2 truth 1 often we get married or friends or jobs, but we have to ask Christ to show your identity on what he says of you, so no matter what you stand on his holy truth. I was careful about who i shared my pain. God says to guard your heart, agaist all things.
I also sadly learned that not everyone is equally yoked.
Ask daily for God for guidance, wisdom & direction on your steps.
Remember, God is not confused, but peace.
Much love, health, healing. & wisdom from his word.
Im praying for you, prayers for direction regardless of work, & health.
Jesus is faithful, Amen
You are the a wonderful man
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That’s when we get it all wrong, Jesus is our first love, and when we get that understanding no one can ever break our hearts, because it doesn’t belong to us but to Christ, so now dig deeper to your only and true love Jesus Christ who bore all our ache and pains on the cross. Stay strong brother
Perhaps the pain is your heart coming back
I wish you had the money to go see your family. That would help you so much
Would it? Leonardo’s finally in a place where he can mature emotionally through his experiences. Putting him into an environment where he is surrounded by self focused and emotionally immature family members may very well be his undoing and prevent him from progressing to maturity.
I think he needs to mature now, in his own time, but if I'd be him I'd move to Helsinki, a pulsing city full of life. Very different from where he lives now. He needs a job and he needs to build new memories. And he needs to meet new people. I don't think his family is the best company right now, since none of them takes life seriously and none of them believes in jobs or studying. His body needs physichal working right now, and workout and not sitting still in a house.
@@mrsTraveller64 💯
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You have get to experience death of a very very very close loved once. It's worse. You recover from heartbreak, not death. You'll be fine even if you feel there is no other that you can love. You will love again. She didn't betray you, she is just living her life and she will love another. People move on. It isn't an act 'against' you. It was a promise she was unable to keep for whatever reason. Renege forgiveness and understanding. I'm worried about you. You might need professional help.
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You don't love yourself, then you can't love Jenna either. Jesus says, love yourself and your neighbor. Transform your frustration into trust, confidence and try to think positively, then you'll get out of your self-centered thoughts. You can work against your fear because it determines your life. Seek help to make your thoughts positive, otherwise you will remain a prisoner of your thoughts for the rest of your life and will not allow yourself a joyful life.
You are God's child.
I heard Jenna’s dating a taller guy now.
It's a hormonal inbalance. You are basically going cold turkey which includes physical pain.
If you really have loved her, you could give her the freedom she needs. Women always give signs whats going wrong. But you didn't hear it probably. You only talk about your pain all the time...... it' s just life and not a tv soap.
Can he end a sentence without pausing 2-4 times in between?
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I don't understand why you use her surname wouldn't it be better if you use your own,no offence met just never known anyone using the female surname. ❤
DeValen is short for my second name Leonardo De Valentino 👍🏼 not her name, but mine all along
Jajaja pero qué paliza de tío!
Really tired of you’re preaching and behaviour it’s early days for you in five years u won’t look back whatever u do don’t go back to Australia..you have not being through death so u don’t know that type of grief ,get a job work hard save money move forward ,she’s moved on she left for a reason u have not being truthful about what happened.while u drank all the wine .how about being truthful.u won’t get far if u don’t work hard for you’re life ..
🤣 You are so funny. God between your ears.
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