I’ve been in your situation. The love of my life left me a letter after 7 years together. I came to realize that it was actually for the best. I know you love your family, but I think you might be better off away from them. I’ve watched your mother’s videos for years (although she seems to be MIA these days), and they are very…unusual. You seem to be quite different from them, in a good way. I wish you the best, I’m sorry you are going through this, and I’m keeping you in my prayers.
Leonardo, please maintain your course and pursue what you had already planned. You are the most admirable of your family. Keep going, even the struggles are making you the strong person you are meant to be. You have a calling and purpose. You left the chaos of your blood family for a reason. We don't choose our family, but we choose our friends. You can love both, but I think your life and friends in Finland will be the healthiest support for you. I will pray for you and hope you will continue to pursue the life you choose for yourself. God Bless
Hang in there. I think it’s good you’re taking the time to work through feelings and not just run away. Keep making goals and getting the help that you need.
Excellent advice there! I see that as jumping straight from the fire right into the frying pan!!! I realize there's family there...but family isn't always what one needs. Especially in my opinion.... when there's that level of drama involved. I've been so proud of him for doing it all on his own. And he'll find a new love eventually....we all do. You know?? I think staying in Finland and building a new might just be the answer.
@LeonardoDeValen Hey sweet boy! I'm positive that you'll make the right decisions for yourself! WHATEVER they may be!!! You're a really great young man! And it shows thru and thru!! If you ever need someone to talk with.... talk too.... just bounce things off of when you're in a place where nothing seems right, I'd be there for you if you wanted! I'm good at just listening if that's all you need! "SOMETIMES" it's nice to have a stranger that's completely unbiased! Just know that whatever you do, it'll ALWAYS work out in the end! It has too!! Just look at EVERYTHING you've been thru in life. ALL the hard times you thought wild never end! All the times that you felt like you could never ever get thru! But look now...PRESENT DAY.... LOOK BACK AT ALL THOSE REALLY DIFFICULT TIMES. LOOK WHERE YOU'RE STANDING RIGHT NOW! YOU GOT THRU THEM! AND YOU CAME OUT BETTER FOR THOSE TIMES! Isn't it funny looking back when you're going thru something really hard... you never really know or pay attention to when it ends. We just move on. Then, days weeks months and years go by. And one day you're just sitting there looking back saying...OMG... I REALLY DID GET THRU THAT!! Listen.... You're truly an absolutely AMAZING young man! No doubt about that! It's just that sometimes we go thru hard, difficult times. EVERYONE DOES! Here's something to think about.... If we didn't have to go thru these times, just how on earth could we possibly appreciate the good times?? Good night! And great big hugs to you! If you ever need someone to talk too just respond here, and we'll figure something out. And I do want to point out one thing that's really bothered me about your situation. I'm sorry, sweets... but your parents should be paying your way, a round trip ticket to Australia. 1 million percent!! Not only did they pay for all the other children to move there. (At a HUGELY INFLATED ABSORBADENT EXPENSE that they could have avoided by spending a bit more time in Finland. But your mother CONTINUALLY talks about and at times flaunts about how much money she makes! She portrays that SKIES THE LIMIT money wise.) So unless she's absolutely lying about the money.... not only should she be paying your way, but she should also be helping you out financially right now just so that money wasn't an issue for your healing right now. It's just the right thing to do for someone you love. Especially when that's your own child! Ok... I've said my peace, and I won't bring that up again. Unless it's something you want to talk about!
I also left Finland (the country I grew up in) to a bit warmer place and you know what, now I miss Finland and the nature so much! Soon you will have lots of snow there and a very beautiful winter sky... I really really just miss the nature and meditative feeling of being alone with God in the nature... It's very unique in Finland and for me that's very healing, the nature and being able to be alone with God there. But I know how healing it is to be with the family so heres bit for your ticket to Australia 😁
Thank you ❤️🩹 yes, once the snow gets here, I know it will get a lot brighter. I guess the feeling I have inside and the gray darkness around me increase the pain or gloomy outlook I have… a bit of sunshine and life feels a lot more hopeful Thank you, someday I will see my family ❤️🩹
Going to Australia just to visit maybe would set things back emotionally, once you go back to Finland. Hang in there, keep going and fight for your dreams to come true. You are going in the right path, even if sometimes you cant see it.
I feel like winter in Finland is just how life is feeling for you at the moment and hopefully when spring comes you will be a little better and start to blossom. It's a metaphor for life
Just my opinion - even though the climate might be “nicer” in Australia, going back to your family would be going backwards in your journey forward. Your older siblings are going nowhere and your Mom, though I’m sure she loves you, seems to be having her own difficulties. You have made very different choices, choices that over time will help you to thrive. I imagine it seems as though leaving would be a relief, in the long run it might hobble you. You are definitely heading in the right direction. Stay the course you are on and stay in touch from afar.
@@kirsikkamansikka8695 I think it would be good for him IF he was financially independent and emotionally independent. Genuinely confident and strong. If not, it would be way too easy to succumb to their manipulations and emotional abuse. He would rationalize staying there and being dependent, just like the other adult siblings.
Didn't he talk about getting a ticket to Australia and back!? I think the adult kids would do something else, but they possibly feel obligated to take care of their little siblings. Obviouly, for their parents it was wrong to make them be "parents" and nannies from early age. What people here call laziness or not want to get further in life, could just be the need to be responsible and take care of the little ones.
Keep away from Australia for now,you’re healing and moving on.I see a new maturity in you that wasn’t there before.life as you knew it is gone,make a new one.we’re batting for you ❤
@@tweaky2785Right now going home may not be good for him. The family is dealing with a lot. His momma has split up the family. And walked away and has another man. The older children are taking care of the smaller children.
Hey Leonardo, no matter what happens I have a strong feeling that god has a plan for you, and you will get to see your family in Australia soon. Whether you choose to stay in Finland or not.
Precious Leonardo, this video is straight from your heart. You are growing and maturing and learning to live your own new life. It's your choice, but Leo I hope you wait a bit longer to visit your family. In Australia your pain would still be the same. I know it feels like a black hole but you are stronger than you think. Every day you are one day closer to healing. I speak from experience. Choose Joy, Leo and take it one day at a time. Much love.
Been in a similar situation. Pregnant, no letter, just facebook message. Lost the baby. Couldn't speak his name out loud for a year. Healing was hard. Took some alone time. Found myself again. Fell in love with myself. Fell in love with life again. And when I least expected it, the love of my life found me. Married, have a house, dog and a baby boy. It takes courage to heal but God will work things out for people who open up for love. Even after being broken ❤️🩹
That is such a difficult experience!!! I’m so glad things turned around so beautifully for you and congrats on your baby boy!!! That is wonderful. Enjoy your new life and let it dull the pain and memory of the past. ✨
Although hard, I think you should finish your plans you made in Finland. Then, if you want to go back to Australia you will be in a better state of mind. I’m glad to hear you say you’re going to go ahead with your school plans. whatever decision you make I wish you the very best.
Hang in there, Leonardo. It will get better. I think this is the best, most authentic video you’ve made, and, being Canadian, I know there can be beauty in the “dead” of winter. So again, hang in there. ❤️❤️🇨🇦
It might be a tougher road at first, but living alone, getting to know yourself and take care of yourself and being independent is going to strengthen you. Whatever you do you know we will support you. ❤
I don’t know why my comments keep getting erased. You seemed to have grown into a man. After school, get a job, get a house and get a new girlfriend. Don’t give up on your dreams. It’s okay be depressed. You have too much to finish. I don’t know what happened in the letter. But You really want to see what is waiting for you in the future in Finland. You got this Leonardo. #goals God bless you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
love finds you when you aren't looking for it, but working on yourself; you have room in your heart for more than one love in your lifetime. Next time, make it a mature love so you don't grow apart. She has outgrown you, or you have outgrown her, but you've both changed so much so you are better off apart.
@@mugginsquilts1I’m sorry it’s been such a rough year. Remember the sun always shines again in the morning and hopefully it will shine on your heart soon. ☀️
It can be so healing to be with family. Reading these comments so many are encouraging you to stay in Finland but when you have the opportunity I think you will cherish some time with your family, meeting Sacajawea, feeling the sun on your face again and taking a break from the darkness that can be so oppressing. You will get there in time. Hang on dear one and keep your faith burning bright. ✨
Thank you so much for this video, Leonardo. The Lord is with you. I was so blessed to hear you quoting the Word of God and living by it. You say that if it's the Lord's will then you will go to Australia and that's exactly right. In the meantime, God is creating a wonderful masterpiece in you as you're being molded by the Potter into God's perfection thru His sanctification. It's very painful but the outcome is something that you wouldn't trade for anything. I know. I've been there too many times to count but each time the Lord molds me more and more to be like Him as I keep my eyes on the things above not on things of this world. God bless you my brother. You are certainly in my prayers.💙🙏🕊
Dearest Leonardo, you are doing so well and healing takes time. You are a beautiful child of God and He is working all things for your good. Sending love and prayers from UK 🙏🏻🩵
You are an amazing young man Leonardo, I am happy to see you are starting the healing process. God is with you every step you take, and will guide you even through the darkest days, but he is with you, always remember that.
You are amazing, I could listen to you for hours. You are such a wonderful story teller, you should write a book. Hang in there. Time will help heal all your heartaches.❤
I hope you're not going back, you're doing fine, away from your family. First learn to live with who you are now and learn to be content with yourself, trust God to be with you and take care of you. sometimes He wats us to be alone so that we are going to trust Him more instead of leaning on people. He loves you!
Leonardo, you’re a smart man who will get through this really difficult time in your own way and time frame. Change isn’t easy but it is most often necessary whether the change was our decision or not. Keep doing what you feel is best and you’ll get through this stronger and more secure than ever.
I also moved from a very cold place to a warmer place. And it's true, the grass is always greener on the other side. Three years in and now m missing where I grew up, I MISS the unique winters and the NATURE. No people and just you and god. Yes, fall and spring look very ugly but embrace it.
Leonardo I have been thru a similar situation years ago. Fortunately for me things worked out and the Lord showed me my errors. What i learned from that situation was to surrender. The longer i held hope for that person the longer the Lord kept him away from me. The moment I decided to let go and let be unexpectedly he returned. Its in the surrending that we receive and not just in relationships but in everything in life. Remember God knows the desires of our hearts. And just as we give good gifts to our children so does he. He is the only one to turn her heart around if thats his will. I pray this word blesses you.
You sound so much more mature and grounded now, Leonardo. Along with other commenters, I think staying in Finland might be the better choice for you. Everyone else in your family seems so very aimless and without purpose. They never talk about goals or accomplishments. But you do, you are now - at any rate. I think if you stay motivated and work towards a good successful career, that will bring you satisfaction and happiness. Life IS tough, you are right. So you have to work hard at it to get good things out of it. I’m feeling a lot more positive about you than I did a few months ago. And yes, winter is cold and dark and gloomy, but you’ve lived there long enough that you know what to expect and how to deal with it. You can get on with your life in spite of that.
Right now you need to just worry about and take care of yourself. Pray about it God will get you through it. I understand you like to be back in Australia but there's a lot going on there. It may not be a good time for you. Prayers for you and Sending lots of love and Hugs. Your a sweet good young man. Everything will work out. I have faith in you ❤🙏🙏🙏
You are being so strong. I'm so proud of you. It seems like you are working on finding your solid ground in all the right ways. Don't run from the pain because it will always find you. I love that you are journaling along with your VLOGs. You have grown and matured so much over the last 6 years or so. Maybe someday you look back on your diaries (both video and journals) and you will decide to compile your experiences and your thoughts into a book that will help others who are suffering through the ups and downs of life. You are a strong intelligent young man with a great heart and a good head on your shoulders. Hold on to your faith and carry on. You are a warrior. Your story is still being determined, the best is yet to come. Love and hugs to you. ❤
I live in the Midwest of the United States (where we are currently not so united by any means), where it is starting to look drab and dreary. I can't imagine living someplace where at the end of fall everything looks like death and slowly over time we have a pretty winter a comforting spring when everything continues to wake up bit by bit and come to life. Then We have incredible summers filled with so much color and life (and at times a bit too much heat). While you are missing your family I truly see you becoming a new man who will end up surprising even you when you finish your transformation and you will love who you become the most. Of all the versions you have ever this new will end up being your ultimate favorite.
You sound stronger than you ever have in your life. Nothing like winter time for healing. Embrace every bit of it. Focus on your own path. You are doing great ❤
It’s good you’re taking your time and thinking everything through. Your mind and heart will help you to do what’s right for you. Family is awesome and I’m sure they will be there for you. Love listening to you.
I agree, life is hard and you have to fight for your peace❤ it's true😢but so we are.Nothing lasts forever, you will be ok but the process is not easy.Sending you love and continue to heal❤
You're so brave to stay and face the pain when you're whole being wants comfort and escape. You're truly a testimony of God's grace and goodness. May the God of all comfort you and give you peace, daily. May the LORD Jesus bless you!
You are very brave to go back to these places! I think you should find new places to enjoy and try to put these shared places in the past. The school plans are a great idea!
You will have a family soon, put yourself out there, take a step of faith and let God guide you. You are still very young and God has a plan for your life.
You are strong and you are brave. I look forward to your videos to see how you are doing and each week you seem a little better than the week before. I hope that you do get to go to Australia. Hang in there Leonardo.
Stay in Finland follow the path you have set for yourself. You have a life in Finland. Your siblings don't have a life in Australia. You have ambition, you want to do things, your siblings don't. Visit by all means, but Finland has made you your own man. You have more going for you than all your siblings put together. Keep moving forward. You can do this.
You are still healing and trying to find yourself. Be patient with making life changing decisions. Allow yourself time to heal, and the Lord will lead you into the next season of your life.
It seems to me that you're more Finnish than Australian, remember that you can never go backwards only forwards. I think Finland is a very beautiful country. I wouldn't leave if it were me. Let them visit and then you visit them too. Im going to Australia tomorrow for a month of adventures. Keep your chin up lovey.
Family is so important and so far away from him. It costs a LOT to travel back and forth from there. In Finland he was building his own new family but now that's gone. I'm glad he's got friends and Finland feels like home but when your family is so very far away it can feel like you're missing part of your home.
he will always be australian. i mean listen to his accent, it always stayed australian. he just lived in finland, while majority of his family was australian. his whole home was more australian based than finish. Australia is beautifull too, i wouldn't leave from australia either if it were me, but you will find out soon enough when you're coming back
Well obviously, he will remain Australian, that's where he was born. He has lots of family in Finland he is half Finnish. But it's a daft thing to argue about. I hope he gives himself some grace and time before making any major decisions.
Leo, you remind me a lot of my son. He went through an ugly divorce and has never been the same since. Not saying that was a bad thing. I think he grew up fast and became a wiser and kinder person. He still suffers in certain ways from the experiences and heartache he went through. Your growth and wise words are like his in many ways. As far as the struggle to decide when to move back to Australia, you'll know when the time is right. There is no rush. It's been about 6 years since my son's divorce. I'd say it took around 4 years for him to get back to feeling better, so you are doing really well in only 4 months!! Praying for your full healing emotionally. I can tell that you are a kind and caring person. May the Lord continue to encourage and guide you on your journey!!! 😊✝💙
No dont go back to your family.Your mum seemed to be in the army .Get a live for yourself .Dont be like your brothers and sisters .They are never going to grow up.I can understand that maybe you are going through a bad time but things will improve and you will rebuild your life .May God be with you always dear
You just do what your doing the pain will go away and you will meet that special person again. Do Not Give up!!!! talk to us and let us know your pain God heals as you say!
Oh my heart. Plz don't go to Australia. I realize they r your siblings,from wat I have seen they are all kind of lost. The older ones are making ridiculous videos about nothing because they know nothing else.Stay &continue to study&heal plz.🙏🫶🇨🇦
The older ones have no PURPOSE in life beyond raising their siblings and making TH-cam videos endlessly about nothing at all. They aren't even interesting anymore. Mom is still running the purse strings, and obviously profits from their work. They need to get independent and create meaningful lives of their own, that don't include raising their siblings because their parents can't/won't.
That is so true... when I started watching their videos yeeeears ago they were studying and developing themselves, I had feeling like "woow, so aware, well educated people, open minded, brave", but now... they are sitting in their home, doing mukbangs, Cleopatra posing to videos with her super fit body, for what purpose?
You do you Leo. Glad things are still moving in a positive direction for you. I'm in northern Michigan and I'm right there with you. It's cold out and there are no leaves. Australia looks pretty nice to me right now too. I'm missing the warm weather, going swimming, the warm rain/thunderstorms, the flowers, and lots of green everywhere.
going to Australia seems awesome, also maintaining one's independence is probably the key to being at peace with whatever comes, after living my early life with parents who didnt really give me a voice for anything, i like to approach things on my own terms now:)
I will be happy to watch whatever you post. Loving your videos, and my heart goes out to you. Hang in there. Praying for you to continue healing from this❤
You sound so conflicted and that's the worst feeling. I've been through a divorce too and it took a good year and a bit before I picked up the pieces. I do however, believe that the Australian sunshine and ocean have great healing powers. Wherever, life takes you, I wish you peace of mind and happiness. You're still so young, and have your whole life ahead of you. Prayers and hugs.
If these goal are important to you, then proceed to finish up what you feel is important to you and get out soon. Family is everything and you NEED sunshine and color in your life to finish healing.
Leo darling don't give up.....have getting to Australia as your motivation.....one day you will see Cleopatra and your other siblings and that gorgeous niece! Stay strong xXx
Stay where you are and finish what you have started. Meeting your goals will make you feel so accomplished. You are so talented and speak so eliquently. Stay the course, delve into meeting your goals. It will help you move on. Use the pain to power through. Turn it into something positive. You will get through this and come out the other side on top of the world.
Completely understandable …. it’s the only way to be heard when living w covert controllers . A perfect example being the very passive aggressive way it was even mentioned to viewers . Was that necessary …NO . Just another violation of partner’s privacy whilst playing the victim . Red flags all over this one
I could not stay there!!! I hate snow and dreary weather, I struggle with our fall and winter. You need a new place with sunshine and family!!! See the Ocean and clear waters. Goals can be changed to different goals. I think you’d be struggling less if you start new. Grandparents are the rock of the family and will help you thru anything.
It’s been so long since you’ve seen your family. I think a visit would help you heal and decide what the future holds. You’re so talented. I love all of your videos but raw unedited would definitely be easier for you now. If I had the money, I would send it. I wish your Mom would see the benefits for you at this time and fund your trip. She surely has always led her supporters to believe that she has unlimited amounts of money. Have a blessed week.🙏🏻
Continue to push through you are healing I see the difference. I see a smile 🥰Life is about choices, know your worth and your happiness is most important. Hugs love
Reconnect with your family in Finland. See if they have room for you to stay while you get on your feet, get a job and pay your way, Make it your goal to get to Australia a 1 way ticket so you’re not rushing yourself to heal. Family can be so healing.
God calls us to walk through the valley because if we run through or walk around we will miss what he has for us. -Unknown I admire you for staying the course and keeping your eyes on Jesus. Praying for continued healing. Your testimony and how you’re handling this will speak to people. 🫶🏼🙏✝️
I will never understand how can people unlove someone so casually.. Like how can u wake up one day nd feel like u don't love the person u have loved all ur life.. I feel really bad for u Leonardo.. U r really doing amazing keeping ur self up.. Keep doing that nd if u can then go back or go meet up ur family.. In times when we feel lost the most, family is what that could save us (personal experience😅) God bless you😊
Because it's NEVER about the other person it's a personal issue with the actual person who left!! It's not about him it's all about her and her inner emotions
@ykook7000 not arguing but dont we love each other nd commit each other to be with each for that nah?? To fight the problems (personal nd couple) nd to grow together nd stronger.. ??
Leonardo, God doesn't want you fake, and neither do I. You be as raw and unfiltered and as honest as you can. Because dealing truthfully helps a person heal. One of the most precious things a friend taught me on my journey was a prayer. This prayer over my life has helped me so much, and I've taught it to all who will listen. I've been broken hearted and devistated too. And I have wanted to forgive. And my friend told me to be honest before God. He knows how you feel and how and angry you are. That was step #1. Step #2 is to ask God to make you willing to be willing to forgive that person for what they had done. This helped me face myself, my pain, and to finally be able to release that person in love. I prayed it for 21 days or until I felt a release in my heart. Be specific Leonardo. And thank you friend for being so courageous to share your story.
Never go back where there’s are memories, those places will send back will be harder to heal, just move on with your life, it will get easier trust me I went through the same, time will tell you when you will be ready to come to Australia, at the moment just continue with you achieve your dreams
Interesting comment - sadness seems to be easy and effortless while being and feeling happy requires effort and energy wonder why…. It shall be equally easy or equally difficult energetically the more that feeling happy in all circumstances is such an amazing state of mind. Had it. Lost it. Trying to get it back. Very good strong video Leonardo - best of luck achieving goals!
Personally … I love cold countries with their changing seasons , including the grey clouds - than the constant heat and sun from Australia. Weird, I know .
How long has it been since you've been with your siblings? If your family offers, I think a trip to visit would help with healing. You don't need to do it alone. 🙏
Appreciating the way you share yours moments together. It was best time together value it, remember it. These memories helps you to live even cry too. It's like making you realize that there were special moments together, even it's pain today. This is how I feel, and m happy even if sometimes I feel happy about those memories, m glad I have those memories with me. Appreciate everything...When God gives us, He too takes it away. So value and grow wherever you are. Praise the Lord 🙏 in everything...
I’ve been in your situation. The love of my life left me a letter after 7 years together. I came to realize that it was actually for the best. I know you love your family, but I think you might be better off away from them. I’ve watched your mother’s videos for years (although she seems to be MIA these days), and they are very…unusual. You seem to be quite different from them, in a good way. I wish you the best, I’m sorry you are going through this, and I’m keeping you in my prayers.
Absolutly right.....!!!!!!
Unusual is an understatement. I do think you're right though, he needs to be on firmer footing before surrounding himself with his 'unusual' family.
@@janejones1797 I was born in Australia my whole life. I didn’t. Move here
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Leonardo, please maintain your course and pursue what you had already planned. You are the most admirable of your family. Keep going, even the struggles are making you the strong person you are meant to be. You have a calling and purpose. You left the chaos of your blood family for a reason. We don't choose our family, but we choose our friends. You can love both, but I think your life and friends in Finland will be the healthiest support for you. I will pray for you and hope you will continue to pursue the life you choose for yourself. God Bless
Hang in there. I think it’s good you’re taking the time to work through feelings and not just run away. Keep making goals and getting the help that you need.
Excellent advice there! I see that as jumping straight from the fire right into the frying pan!!! I realize there's family there...but family isn't always what one needs. Especially in my opinion.... when there's that level of drama involved. I've been so proud of him for doing it all on his own. And he'll find a new love eventually....we all do. You know??
I think staying in Finland and building a new might just be the answer.
Thank you ❤️🩹
@LeonardoDeValen Hey sweet boy! I'm positive that you'll make the right decisions for yourself! WHATEVER they may be!!! You're a really great young man! And it shows thru and thru!! If you ever need someone to talk with.... talk too.... just bounce things off of when you're in a place where nothing seems right, I'd be there for you if you wanted! I'm good at just listening if that's all you need! "SOMETIMES" it's nice to have a stranger that's completely unbiased! Just know that whatever you do, it'll ALWAYS work out in the end! It has too!! Just look at EVERYTHING you've been thru in life. ALL the hard times you thought wild never end! All the times that you felt like you could never ever get thru! But look now...PRESENT DAY.... LOOK BACK AT ALL THOSE REALLY DIFFICULT TIMES. LOOK WHERE YOU'RE STANDING RIGHT NOW! YOU GOT THRU THEM! AND YOU CAME OUT BETTER FOR THOSE TIMES! Isn't it funny looking back when you're going thru something really hard... you never really know or pay attention to when it ends. We just move on. Then, days weeks months and years go by. And one day you're just sitting there looking back saying...OMG... I REALLY DID GET THRU THAT!! Listen.... You're truly an absolutely AMAZING young man! No doubt about that! It's just that sometimes we go thru hard, difficult times. EVERYONE DOES!
Here's something to think about....
If we didn't have to go thru these times, just how on earth could we possibly appreciate the good times??
Good night! And great big hugs to you!
If you ever need someone to talk too just respond here, and we'll figure something out. And I do want to point out one thing that's really bothered me about your situation. I'm sorry, sweets... but your parents should be paying your way, a round trip ticket to Australia. 1 million percent!! Not only did they pay for all the other children to move there. (At a HUGELY INFLATED ABSORBADENT EXPENSE that they could have avoided by spending a bit more time in Finland. But your mother CONTINUALLY talks about and at times flaunts about how much money she makes! She portrays that SKIES THE LIMIT money wise.) So unless she's absolutely lying about the money.... not only should she be paying your way, but she should also be helping you out financially right now just so that money wasn't an issue for your healing right now. It's just the right thing to do for someone you love. Especially when that's your own child! Ok... I've said my peace, and I won't bring that up again. Unless it's something you want to talk about!
I also left Finland (the country I grew up in) to a bit warmer place and you know what, now I miss Finland and the nature so much! Soon you will have lots of snow there and a very beautiful winter sky... I really really just miss the nature and meditative feeling of being alone with God in the nature... It's very unique in Finland and for me that's very healing, the nature and being able to be alone with God there. But I know how healing it is to be with the family so heres bit for your ticket to Australia 😁
Thank you ❤️🩹 yes, once the snow gets here, I know it will get a lot brighter. I guess the feeling I have inside and the gray darkness around me increase the pain or gloomy outlook I have… a bit of sunshine and life feels a lot more hopeful
Thank you, someday I will see my family ❤️🩹
Going to Australia just to visit maybe would set things back emotionally, once you go back to Finland. Hang in there, keep going and fight for your dreams to come true. You are going in the right path, even if sometimes you cant see it.
That could be very true…
I feel like winter in Finland is just how life is feeling for you at the moment and hopefully when spring comes you will be a little better and start to blossom. It's a metaphor for life
Don’t forget friends are family that choose to be in your life and choose to stay in your life.
Just my opinion - even though the climate might be “nicer” in Australia, going back to your family would be going backwards in your journey forward. Your older siblings are going nowhere and your Mom, though I’m sure she loves you, seems to be having her own difficulties. You have made very different choices, choices that over time will help you to thrive. I imagine it seems as though leaving would be a relief, in the long run it might hobble you. You are definitely heading in the right direction. Stay the course you are on and stay in touch from afar.
Absolutly right.......!
This is so well said. 👍
I think it would be good for him to see his siblings!
@@kirsikkamansikka8695 I think it would be good for him IF he was financially independent and emotionally independent. Genuinely confident and strong. If not, it would be way too easy to succumb to their manipulations and emotional abuse. He would rationalize staying there and being dependent, just like the other adult siblings.
Didn't he talk about getting a ticket to Australia and back!? I think the adult kids would do something else, but they possibly feel obligated to take care of their little siblings. Obviouly, for their parents it was wrong to make them be "parents" and nannies from early age. What people here call laziness or not want to get further in life, could just be the need to be responsible and take care of the little ones.
Keep away from Australia for now,you’re healing and moving on.I see a new maturity in you that wasn’t there before.life as you knew it is gone,make a new one.we’re batting for you ❤
well kinda rude, he could also heal and move on in australia, the point is the money though it's expensive.
Może powinien pójść do pracy?... Może powinien poprosić rodzinę o wsparcie?...
@@tweaky2785Right now going home may not be good for him. The family is dealing with a lot. His momma has split up the family. And walked away and has another man. The older children are taking care of the smaller children.
Hey Leonardo, no matter what happens I have a strong feeling that god has a plan for you, and you will get to see your family in Australia soon. Whether you choose to stay in Finland or not.
@@nannapatty110 agree 1000%
Absolutely perfer unedited videos. I feel unedited and raw is truth. ❤ Thanks for sharing your journey. So much more valuable to the viewers.
I like that you're sharing your healing journey. You're so articulate and resilient.❤
Precious Leonardo, this video is straight from your heart. You are growing and maturing and learning to live your own new life. It's your choice, but Leo I hope you wait a bit longer to visit your family. In Australia your pain would still be the same. I know it feels like a black hole but you are stronger than you think. Every day you are one day closer to healing. I speak from experience. Choose Joy, Leo and take it one day at a time. Much love.
Much better the unedited material. More real. True. Honest. Raw. Interesting. Easy to feel and relate to what you feel.
Been in a similar situation. Pregnant, no letter, just facebook message. Lost the baby. Couldn't speak his name out loud for a year. Healing was hard. Took some alone time. Found myself again. Fell in love with myself. Fell in love with life again. And when I least expected it, the love of my life found me. Married, have a house, dog and a baby boy. It takes courage to heal but God will work things out for people who open up for love. Even after being broken ❤️🩹
Wow, that sounds horrible! I’m happy you found love for yourself and on top of that someone special ❤️🩹 thank you for sharing. God bless you 🥹
That is such a difficult experience!!! I’m so glad things turned around so beautifully for you and congrats on your baby boy!!! That is wonderful. Enjoy your new life and let it dull the pain and memory of the past. ✨
Although hard, I think you should finish your plans you made in Finland. Then, if you want to go back to Australia you will be in a better state of mind. I’m glad to hear you say you’re going to go ahead with your school plans. whatever decision you make I wish you the very best.
You are helping so many by sharing this part of your life with us.
Hang in there, Leonardo. It will get better. I think this is the best, most authentic video you’ve made, and, being Canadian, I know there can be beauty in the “dead” of winter. So again, hang in there. ❤️❤️🇨🇦
It might be a tougher road at first, but living alone, getting to know yourself and take care of yourself and being independent is going to strengthen you. Whatever you do you know we will support you. ❤
Spring always come back 😊! Give time and keep God by your side 🙏💙
I don’t know why my comments keep getting erased. You seemed to have grown into a man. After school, get a job, get a house and get a new girlfriend. Don’t give up on your dreams. It’s okay be depressed. You have too much to finish. I don’t know what happened in the letter. But You really want to see what is waiting for you in the future in Finland. You got this Leonardo. #goals God bless you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
love finds you when you aren't looking for it, but working on yourself; you have room in your heart for more than one love in your lifetime. Next time, make it a mature love so you don't grow apart. She has outgrown you, or you have outgrown her, but you've both changed so much so you are better off apart.
Yes I agree life is hard. This year has been the hardest I have ever lived through, but please remember that you are not alone.
@@mugginsquilts1I’m sorry it’s been such a rough year. Remember the sun always shines again in the morning and hopefully it will shine on your heart soon. ☀️
It can be so healing to be with family. Reading these comments so many are encouraging you to stay in Finland but when you have the opportunity I think you will cherish some time with your family, meeting Sacajawea, feeling the sun on your face again and taking a break from the darkness that can be so oppressing. You will get there in time. Hang on dear one and keep your faith burning bright. ✨
Thank you so much for this video, Leonardo. The Lord is with you. I was so blessed to hear you quoting the Word of God and living by it. You say that if it's the Lord's will then you will go to Australia and that's exactly right. In the meantime, God is creating a wonderful masterpiece in you as you're being molded by the Potter into God's perfection thru His sanctification. It's very painful but the outcome is something that you wouldn't trade for anything. I know. I've been there too many times to count but each time the Lord molds me more and more to be like Him as I keep my eyes on the things above not on things of this world. God bless you my brother. You are certainly in my prayers.💙🙏🕊
Dearest Leonardo, you are doing so well and healing takes time. You are a beautiful child of God and He is working all things for your good. Sending love and prayers from UK 🙏🏻🩵
You are an amazing young man Leonardo, I am happy to see you are starting the healing process. God is with you every step you take, and will guide you even through the darkest days, but he is with you, always remember that.
You are amazing, I could listen to you for hours. You are such a wonderful story teller, you should write a book. Hang in there. Time will help heal all your heartaches.❤
I hope you're not going back, you're doing fine, away from your family. First learn to live with who you are now and learn to be content with yourself, trust God to be with you and take care of you. sometimes He wats us to be alone so that we are going to trust Him more instead of leaning on people. He loves you!
Leonardo, you’re a smart man who will get through this really difficult time in your own way and time frame. Change isn’t easy but it is most often necessary whether the change was our decision or not. Keep doing what you feel is best and you’ll get through this stronger and more secure than ever.
Your videos are beautifully made and this new life journey you are on is actually very inspiring.
I also moved from a very cold place to a warmer place. And it's true, the grass is always greener on the other side. Three years in and now m missing where I grew up, I MISS the unique winters and the NATURE. No people and just you and god. Yes, fall and spring look very ugly but embrace it.
I agree. Canada to Maui to Texas. I miss Canada so much. 💗
Brilliant to see you more positive and rather than running sticking to your commitments. Let God lead.
This was your first authentic video, without a mask. Congratulation, you are going forward
These kinds of videos are intimate and impactful. Love the edited ones, too.
Leonardo I have been thru a similar situation years ago. Fortunately for me things worked out and the Lord showed me my errors. What i learned from that situation was to surrender. The longer i held hope for that person the longer the Lord kept him away from me. The moment I decided to let go and let be unexpectedly he returned. Its in the surrending that we receive and not just in relationships but in everything in life. Remember God knows the desires of our hearts. And just as we give good gifts to our children so does he. He is the only one to turn her heart around if thats his will. I pray this word blesses you.
Stay strong. Keep the faith. And talking helps you heal.
You sound so much more mature and grounded now, Leonardo. Along with other commenters, I think staying in Finland might be the better choice for you. Everyone else in your family seems so very aimless and without purpose. They never talk about goals or accomplishments. But you do, you are now - at any rate. I think if you stay motivated and work towards a good successful career, that will bring you satisfaction and happiness. Life IS tough, you are right. So you have to work hard at it to get good things out of it. I’m feeling a lot more positive about you than I did a few months ago.
And yes, winter is cold and dark and gloomy, but you’ve lived there long enough that you know what to expect and how to deal with it. You can get on with your life in spite of that.
Pursuing the plans that you have is best,but seeing a family specially though times is everything,go and see them and continue achieving your dreams.
Right now you need to just worry about and take care of yourself. Pray about it God will get you through it. I understand you like to be back in Australia but there's a lot going on there. It may not be a good time for you. Prayers for you and Sending lots of love and Hugs. Your a sweet good young man. Everything will work out. I have faith in you ❤🙏🙏🙏
You are being so strong. I'm so proud of you. It seems like you are working on finding your solid ground in all the right ways. Don't run from the pain because it will always find you. I love that you are journaling along with your VLOGs. You have grown and matured so much over the last 6 years or so. Maybe someday you look back on your diaries (both video and journals) and you will decide to compile your experiences and your thoughts into a book that will help others who are suffering through the ups and downs of life. You are a strong intelligent young man with a great heart and a good head on your shoulders. Hold on to your faith and carry on. You are a warrior. Your story is still being determined, the best is yet to come. Love and hugs to you. ❤
Thanks!
I live in the Midwest of the United States (where we are currently not so united by any means), where it is starting to look drab and dreary. I can't imagine living someplace where at the end of fall everything looks like death and slowly over time we have a pretty winter a comforting spring when everything continues to wake up bit by bit and come to life. Then We have incredible summers filled with so much color and life (and at times a bit too much heat). While you are missing your family I truly see you becoming a new man who will end up surprising even you when you finish your transformation and you will love who you become the most. Of all the versions you have ever this new will end up being your ultimate favorite.
You sound stronger than you ever have in your life. Nothing like winter time for healing. Embrace every bit of it. Focus on your own path. You are doing great ❤
It’s good you’re taking your time and thinking everything through. Your mind and heart will help you to do what’s right for you. Family is awesome and I’m sure they will be there for you. Love listening to you.
I agree, life is hard and you have to fight for your peace❤ it's true😢but so we are.Nothing lasts forever, you will be ok but the process is not easy.Sending you love and continue to heal❤
Love it this way. Raw, real, realistic content.
it is always good to see genuine videos
You're so brave to stay and face the pain when you're whole being wants comfort and escape. You're truly a testimony of God's grace and goodness. May the God of all comfort you and give you peace, daily. May the LORD Jesus bless you!
You are very brave to go back to these places! I think you should find new places to enjoy and try to put these shared places in the past. The school plans are a great idea!
You will have a family soon, put yourself out there, take a step of faith and let God guide you. You are still very young and God has a plan for your life.
Family is a good thing, don’t stay in a down but get up and go see your family they miss you and they can help you get even better.
You are strong and you are brave. I look forward to your videos to see how you are doing and each week you seem a little better than the week before. I hope that you do get to go to Australia. Hang in there Leonardo.
Go to Australia, be with family in the sunshine. Set new goals there. ❤
Stay in Finland follow the path you have set for yourself. You have a life in Finland. Your siblings don't have a life in Australia. You have ambition, you want to do things, your siblings don't. Visit by all means, but Finland has made you your own man. You have more going for you than all your siblings put together. Keep moving forward. You can do this.
Great video again
You are still healing and trying to find yourself. Be patient with making life changing decisions. Allow yourself time to heal, and the Lord will lead you into the next season of your life.
The lord between your ears. It works.
It seems to me that you're more Finnish than Australian, remember that you can never go backwards only forwards. I think Finland is a very beautiful country. I wouldn't leave if it were me. Let them visit and then you visit them too. Im going to Australia tomorrow for a month of adventures. Keep your chin up lovey.
Family is so important and so far away from him. It costs a LOT to travel back and forth from there. In Finland he was building his own new family but now that's gone. I'm glad he's got friends and Finland feels like home but when your family is so very far away it can feel like you're missing part of your home.
he will always be australian. i mean listen to his accent, it always stayed australian. he just lived in finland, while majority of his family was australian. his whole home was more australian based than finish. Australia is beautifull too, i wouldn't leave from australia either if it were me, but you will find out soon enough when you're coming back
Well obviously, he will remain Australian, that's where he was born. He has lots of family in Finland he is half Finnish. But it's a daft thing to argue about. I hope he gives himself some grace and time before making any major decisions.
He's more Australian it's obvious he said he wanted to run back home to Australia that tells you all you need to know
Your edits are truly enjoyable. You're very talented but I also like these types of updates. I wish you the best in making these difficult decisions.
Leo, you remind me a lot of my son. He went through an ugly divorce and has never been the same since. Not saying that was a bad thing. I think he grew up fast and became a wiser and kinder person. He still suffers in certain ways from the experiences and heartache he went through. Your growth and wise words are like his in many ways. As far as the struggle to decide when to move back to Australia, you'll know when the time is right. There is no rush. It's been about 6 years since my son's divorce. I'd say it took around 4 years for him to get back to feeling better, so you are doing really well in only 4 months!! Praying for your full healing emotionally. I can tell that you are a kind and caring person. May the Lord continue to encourage and guide you on your journey!!! 😊✝💙
Praying for God’s peace to always surround you. I’m a viewer that’s here for whatever you feel. Your heart needs to express in order to heal.
I love the unfiltered. Real is always better. I feel your pain, and I wish you the best.
No dont go back to your family.Your mum seemed to be in the army .Get a live for yourself .Dont be like your brothers and sisters .They are never going to grow up.I can understand that maybe you are going through a bad time but things will improve and you will rebuild your life .May God be with you always dear
You are a bright young man. Wish you. Happiness. America. 🌹🇺🇲🇺🇸
You just do what your doing the pain will go away and you will meet that special person again. Do Not Give up!!!! talk to us and let us know your pain God heals as you say!
Yes! Im interested! God bless you!
Oh my heart. Plz don't go to Australia. I realize they r your siblings,from wat I have seen they are all kind of lost. The older ones are making ridiculous videos about nothing because they know nothing else.Stay &continue to study&heal plz.🙏🫶🇨🇦
The older ones have no PURPOSE in life beyond raising their siblings and making TH-cam videos endlessly about nothing at all. They aren't even interesting anymore. Mom is still running the purse strings, and obviously profits from their work. They need to get independent and create meaningful lives of their own, that don't include raising their siblings because their parents can't/won't.
@@mugginsquilts1where is the mum? Haven’t seen her online in months?
That is so true... when I started watching their videos yeeeears ago they were studying and developing themselves, I had feeling like "woow, so aware, well educated people, open minded, brave", but now... they are sitting in their home, doing mukbangs, Cleopatra posing to videos with her super fit body, for what purpose?
@@TheScarlettOh they need to support themselves their mother is gone!
@@caterinas6863 They are adults. What happened to her?
After the long winter the Spring will come and life will feel better
You do you Leo. Glad things are still moving in a positive direction for you. I'm in northern Michigan and I'm right there with you. It's cold out and there are no leaves. Australia looks pretty nice to me right now too. I'm missing the warm weather, going swimming, the warm rain/thunderstorms, the flowers, and lots of green everywhere.
going to Australia seems awesome, also maintaining one's independence is probably the key to being at peace with whatever comes, after living my early life with parents who didnt really give me a voice for anything, i like to approach things on my own terms now:)
I will be happy to watch whatever you post. Loving your videos, and my heart goes out to you. Hang in there. Praying for you to continue healing from this❤
Keep pushing..... its hard...hard... but. There is light..........
Love the videos of raw feelings. I’m sure you will get to see your family soon. God bless!
You sound so conflicted and that's the worst feeling. I've been through a divorce too and it took a good year and a bit before I picked up the pieces. I do however, believe that the Australian sunshine and ocean have great healing powers. Wherever, life takes you, I wish you peace of mind and happiness. You're still so young, and have your whole life ahead of you. Prayers and hugs.
If these goal are important to you, then proceed to finish up what you feel is important to you and get out soon. Family is everything and you NEED sunshine and color in your life to finish healing.
I think everyone has been in this situation and whatever works for you to heal is a good thing. I think the real truth is what people want.
Praying for you!
Leo darling don't give up.....have getting to Australia as your motivation.....one day you will see Cleopatra and your other siblings and that gorgeous niece!
Stay strong xXx
Stay where you are and finish what you have started. Meeting your goals will make you feel so accomplished. You are so talented and speak so eliquently. Stay the course, delve into meeting your goals. It will help you move on. Use the pain to power through. Turn it into something positive. You will get through this and come out the other side on top of the world.
The Important Person wrote you a letter. Incredible. I am sorry. No words.
Completely understandable …. it’s the only way to be heard when living w covert controllers . A perfect example being the very passive aggressive way it was even mentioned to viewers . Was that necessary …NO . Just another violation of partner’s privacy whilst playing the victim . Red flags all over this one
I could not stay there!!! I hate snow and dreary weather, I struggle with our fall and winter. You need a new place with sunshine and family!!! See the Ocean and clear waters. Goals can be changed to different goals. I think you’d be struggling less if you start new. Grandparents are the rock of the family and will help you thru anything.
@Kathy totally agree .!
like you being REAL .. * It's like your Thinking Out Loud...
do what you want and feel Leonardo bless❤
It’s been so long since you’ve seen your family. I think a visit would help you heal and decide what the future holds. You’re so talented. I love all of your videos but raw unedited would definitely be easier for you now. If I had the money, I would send it. I wish your Mom would see the benefits for you at this time and fund your trip. She surely has always led her supporters to believe that she has unlimited amounts of money. Have a blessed week.🙏🏻
Continue to push through you are healing I see the difference. I see a smile 🥰Life is about choices, know your worth and your happiness is most important. Hugs love
Yes I love your videos. Keep them going. 🙏🙏
Reconnect with your family in Finland. See if they have room for you to stay while you get on your feet, get a job and pay your way, Make it your goal to get to Australia a 1 way ticket so you’re not rushing yourself to heal. Family can be so healing.
I love this raw videos and I think you help a lot of young adult people with it. I really think so
When the time it's rigth you'll know what to do. Keep on your healing journey and acomplishing your perosnal and profesional goals. 😊
God calls us to walk through the valley because if we run through or walk around we will miss what he has for us. -Unknown
I admire you for staying the course and keeping your eyes on Jesus. Praying for continued healing. Your testimony and how you’re handling this will speak to people. 🫶🏼🙏✝️
I will never understand how can people unlove someone so casually.. Like how can u wake up one day nd feel like u don't love the person u have loved all ur life.. I feel really bad for u Leonardo.. U r really doing amazing keeping ur self up.. Keep doing that nd if u can then go back or go meet up ur family.. In times when we feel lost the most, family is what that could save us (personal experience😅) God bless you😊
Because it's NEVER about the other person it's a personal issue with the actual person who left!!
It's not about him it's all about her and her inner emotions
@ykook7000 not arguing but dont we love each other nd commit each other to be with each for that nah?? To fight the problems (personal nd couple) nd to grow together nd stronger.. ??
Love your videos. They are so raw & pure
That is God inspired. To sit with God and work through the pain. Learn to forgive and praise Him in the meantime.
It’s really hard but I know that’s the best way to do it 🥲😭💔❤️🩹
Leonardo, God doesn't want you fake, and neither do I. You be as raw and unfiltered and as honest as you can. Because dealing truthfully helps a person heal. One of the most precious things a friend taught me on my journey was a prayer. This prayer over my life has helped me so much, and I've taught it to all who will listen. I've been broken hearted and devistated too. And I have wanted to forgive. And my friend told me to be honest before God. He knows how you feel and how and angry you are. That was step #1. Step #2 is to ask God to make you willing to be willing to forgive that person for what they had done. This helped me face myself, my pain, and to finally be able to release that person in love. I prayed it for 21 days or until I felt a release in my heart. Be specific Leonardo. And thank you friend for being so courageous to share your story.
Never go back where there’s are memories, those places will send back will be harder to heal, just move on with your life, it will get easier trust me I went through the same, time will tell you when you will be ready to come to Australia, at the moment just continue with you achieve your dreams
The trees and plants are not dead, they are sleeping. Life still flows through them. In time they will awaken and become beautiful again.
It seems good that you are doing these videos because they help you process things. If you went to Australia right now it might be hard to do that.
He can do videos anywhere in the world
Interesting comment - sadness seems to be easy and effortless while being and feeling happy requires effort and energy wonder why…. It shall be equally easy or equally difficult energetically the more that feeling happy in all circumstances is such an amazing state of mind. Had it. Lost it. Trying to get it back. Very good strong video Leonardo - best of luck achieving goals!
Personally … I love cold countries with their changing seasons , including the grey clouds - than the constant heat and sun from Australia. Weird, I know .
Not weird at all. I live in the Netherlands and not for a million i should want to live in a place without the 4 real seasons.
Australia has winters and snow you know
How long has it been since you've been with your siblings? If your family offers, I think a trip to visit would help with healing. You don't need to do it alone. 🙏
Yes. I like the honesty. No need to edit.
Appreciating the way you share yours moments together. It was best time together value it, remember it. These memories helps you to live even cry too. It's like making you realize that there were special moments together, even it's pain today.
This is how I feel, and m happy even if sometimes I feel happy about those memories, m glad I have those memories with me.
Appreciate everything...When God gives us, He too takes it away. So value and grow wherever you are.
Praise the Lord 🙏 in everything...
There is nothing like family❤ we all have problems and no fam is perfect. You should go back to them in aus❤