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Letting Go Of Clutter That Validates Our Self-Worth | How Emotions Impact Clutter Clearing Series
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ก.ค. 2016
- Clutter clearing almost always involves an emotional response. And that's never more true than when our self-worth is on the line. Here's how to let go of the stuff that validates your past success (stuff you no longer want but have that emotional attachment to), and feel good about it!
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Saving things digitally - pictures, videos, PDF-scanning etc-, have really helped me let go of physical things I’ve felt too attached to.
Gotten rid of old greeting cards with sweet loving words.
I’m currently in the process of PDF-scanning old university notes&exams, and books.
Some of those uni-paper is for courses I failed exams I ”someday” Will re-take.
Or maybe I’ll need it for a future job, or my younger sibling might need it etc.
It’s that Someday mostly and maybe I should let go of that and Just throw it away but as it is, letting go of the physical clutter Helps. And when I neeed it, it Will actually be easier to access & share when digital.
Including printing PDFs if I would want it in physical form again.
Saving digitally is an excellent way to hold the memories and keep access to the item. And looking at an image of an item triggers the same emotions that holding the physical item does, so what you're doing is very smart!
It's almost 2022 and this has great relevance. Thanks!
"We own that success with or without that item" - GREAT advice, Kelly Jayne McCann. "Let it go". I will say from experience, do this sooner rather than later and quit paying movers or storage area for items that don't add value to your life TODAY and just end up causing more stress in storing or cleaning around them. "Keep the best of the best" is the easiest way to accomplish this and start moving forward with your life.
Thanks for sharing, and I absolutely agree with your sooner rather than later theory!
Great video, thanks😊
You are.... I have no words. Excellent- Incredible- Thank you!!
Thanks for the kind words!
I know I'm 4 years late in writing my questions, but when you posted this I was too buy to even KNOW it applied to me... I was a single mom of almost 17 year academically STRONG twin boys... 9/19/16 on their way to school (after JUST BOTH receiving an award the prior Friday for coming in the top 15 in our state in math) an 18-Wheeler hit them and killed one of my twins... now his brother even though he was in the passenger seat, he had very minimal physical injury, but emotionally.. hello?! His twins brother was killed driving him to school! He has still continued to excel and came in first in our state in math his senior year.. I"m just NOW at a place in my life that I THINK I'm ready to face this challenge, but I was already the mom that kept every scribble where he wrote I Love you Mommy 4Ever with the backward L(s) and such.. Every kind of school academic award, trophy, certificate, etc. etc. etc. We were involved in a lawsuit against the trucking company so I have SO much of this stuff scanned and backed up/sent to the cloud.. etc. etc. etc., but HOW do you part with these things?
I know the pain of deaths of loved ones; my mom died of cancer 6 weeks before my daughter was born and my dad took his life almost 3 years ago. My heart goes out to you; I can’t imagine how you mustered the strength to get out of bed after the tragic death of your son. Bless you ❤️🙏🏻
Create a memory box of things to pass on to the surviving twin who will then decide on what should be kept. The surviving twin will have different cherished memories of their twin.
Love your tone, wisdom, style, and presence!! THANKS!!
Thank you so much! That kind of feedback is precious to me.
great talk and you look radiant in your pony tail. It shows up your face. Color pink is good on you too. No worries about the way you look on camera.... wish I was as photogenic!!! Are there any specifics about which items to keep or is it just a matter of holding each item in your hand and deciding? Would taking pictures be a way to keep the memory without taking up so much space? I had all these articles about me and instead of saving the entire newspaper, I cut out only the part that mentioned me. That saved allot of space. And I actually gave away the trophies. Once in a while I feel sad, or wish I could bring them out to show off, but honestly, it feels better having the space.
You're sweet to let me know I didn't look lazy for not prettying up. Thank you! I think photos are a great way to preserve the memory of a physical item. And scanning is perfect for documents. But your last six words say it all: it feels better having the space. That's really what matters - doing what feels best.
Great advice! What about old yearbooks? These are the last that I'm really hanging onto at this point, and I've been struggling to let them go because I have lots of really nice messages from classmates, though I haven't seen any of them in over 10 years.
Thanks for commenting, I always appreciate hearing thoughts and getting questions. There is no rule that you have to let go of everything. If you have the space, and you value the yearbooks, then go ahead and keep them. Give them a place of honor in your home. Or create a memory box to hold them safely. If you find that to be too burdensome, that's a sign to let the objects go and just hang onto the memories.
If you decide you really do want to let them go, you can snap photos of the comments so you can refer back to them - that would mitigate the risk of regret. Or, you could snap the photos, and then choose one yearbook to keep as a representation of that period on your life.
Do what feels right to you. And don't worry about what you *should* do.
have you bothered to contact any of the folks that wrote those messages? if not, let it go, it is a book of words and neither of you have bothered to maintain that connection-it is not bad, it is just moving on with life. what else have you kept for 10 years with no return on investment-my guess is nothing! tear out the page and keep it if it makes you feel better but the yearbook is just a book.
what about medals and trophies? those are so hard to part with
You are right, letting those items go can be a challenge. And I would never suggest people let them go unless they are ready to. Some people never are, and there is nothing wrong with that. If you have the space and love having them around, then by all means keep them.
But if you are ready to let go or really need to pare back due to space constraints, then keep in mind that trophies and medals are just a symbol of what you did. Nothing can take away what you rightfully earned - the achievement still stands, it's yours forever.
You can take photos as replacement for the physical items. For a lot of people that makes it easier. Some people go ahead and the frame pictures and create an image gallery. Less space, less stuff, but the physical proof lives on. That's a nice compromise.
You can also pare down your collection and keep the most meaningful of the bunch. Letting go doesn't have to be all or nothing. Hope this helps and good luck!
DOES YOUR STUFF OWN YOU ?
That's the question, right? Unfortunately, our emotions can steer us to a place where it feels like our stuff has real power. We've got to be deliberate in our thinking and separate our emotional narrative from what is actually true.
@@Organizingmaven : The emotion is true and that is an aspect of reality. But does it hold us back ? If so, let it go ! There's a new mantra ! I am keeping a lot of old items for an art/writing/photographic project. And then there is a lot of stuff I have either sold, given away or recycled.
Bravo to you! Sounds like you are being super deliberate in your actions.