My narc parents were all about manipulation (since childhood). I suffered a stroke a month ago and they made it about them (particularly my narc father). I’m just now at 51 figuring this out and want nothing to do with either of them. So yeah- narcissists are all about manipulating you, so be careful.
My husband and his narcissistic mother gave me a stroke 5 years ago that’s when I finally figured out what was going on with him and why he was verbally abusive
Good video and topic! Yes: it's so important to see that boundaries are based on our standards and our needs. I was raised to think I always needed to fix myself (even worse, that I had mental problems and my parents were always right). I'm too sensitive, think too much, blah blah blah says the NPDs. Also, it's just in my nature to want to do emotional work. So those two things made me tolerate a lot that I wish I wouldn't have with family of origin and with ex partners, etc. And, unfortunately, I believed that the more time these people were with me and if I just could get them to value me, then they would change. NO! I am now following my intuition no matter what. And honoring my needs and standards. I see why I didn't before: because following my intuition and my needs has meant I am alone a lot--I don't care about superficial, flippant, impulsive interactions and events. And I read people and their energy really well. I want quality, investing, deep, honest, loyal, safe and protective relationships--it's not easy to find people who want the same. Don't try to get blood from a turnip / don't bark up the wrong trees: I think that if a relationship isn't very close, and the other person just isn't on the same page with awareness, etc., saying as little as possible and having as little invested into difficult people is the best route to take. Ideally, no contact is the way to go. Otherwise, remember, whatever we expose to difficult people will likely be used against us. I have had to deal with the shame of giving pieces of myself away to toxic people who exploited me--starting with my NPD parents. I can never remove myself from their memories--oh how I would love to! My high need to be believed, understood and related to was wasted on (and exploited by) toxic people. I now save that for the people with whom I have a close, connected relationship. That's the ultimate boundary. And it's self-care and self-respect and having dignity.
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
She knows that. She just wanted to be the one to hurt you, if you had broken up with her she’d be scratching at your until her nails bled. Not all people are narcissists, but learning whether or not you’re codependent is very important. Now is the time to look inward. I’m in the same position except I left her for the emotional abuse. She was incapable of apologizing for her behavior and projection of others, past victims, onto me. The goal is to make you as unhappy as they are. If you broke up with her, she’d be calling you an abuser or telling you that everything was a lie, like it was, to hurt you. They have 1 face for you, and 1 face for everybody else.
Whats intresting is learning to identify boundary violations that are non verbal...like excessive monitoring excessive snooping..im sure thers alot...after all burgalers dont respect boundaries 😳 Love your videos they are helpfull
I was going through a horrible divorce and had no idea of this actual trait or terminology. I got through all that pain because of you. We have never met and I hope maybe one day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart:)
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Absolutely tremendous Stephanie, Thank you so much for this, I don't allow others to guilt me or play on my emotions, I have immense self control, Peace, Love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to you and the most high :-)
Thanks so much, Stephanie. Unfortunately, I wish I'd seen your or other therapists' explanations 3 months ago. Yours were SPOT ON, and I fully recognized myself in everything you've said. I finally have become wiser and more assertive than I thought that I had been all along. Now my bank account is considerably smaller as a result, so it had been a valuable, but very expensive, lesson. I am, however, FREE of all future menacing manipulations and Narcissists. I survived, and money is just money --it comes and it goes.
You pretty much described my life story in this video. My mother and other people around me in my culture basically dismiss everything that I say when I try to set boundaries, then when they cross those boundaries and I speak up for myself they react as if I'm a bad person, or I may say from the begining that I can't do something or don't want to do it and they coax me into doing it and when I can't I'm a bad person. Then in order to set boundaries at the beginning I have to be very aggressive and people are put off by that. I spend a lot of time suffering in silence.
Thank you. I am still learning how to develop a healthy boundary for my peace of mind. I love your channel and your bright, strong and beautiful personality. Thank you. 🤍🌼
I walk away I don’t explain but I dealing with a narcissist that tries to dominate me in my own yardwork, I go for a peace and quiet my garden and he knows it and there’s some things I need him to do so he comes out and create a situation that he created and then blames it on me I told him don’t put the chainsaw away so he does then it’s my fault because I find something else that I need to do telling me I’m stupid why didn’t I tell him before when I had I just said don’t put it away. We’re going to need it he got triggered for some reason or decided he just wanted to hurt me you never know with narcissist He tried to dominate me in the yard where the neighbors can hear I walked away I go to a different part of the garden and work. I have plenty of stuff to do and go plant something else. I won’t be treated that way anymore if he’s abusive, he just lost my attention for quite a while
Lovvvvvve your videos! Thank you!💞 Becoming self-aware and learning how to set and hold boundaries is key! Thank you SO much for the video, we appreciate you!💖
Very OUT-STANDING work and Very skilled and SMART TEACHER I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT U ARE SAYING THERE IS A LOT OF SMEAR CAMPAIGN IN GROUP HOME AND THEY ARE VERY BAD PEOPLE WITH NO RESPECT FOR OTHERS AND THE FLYING MONKEY WILL EAT U ALIVE THEY DO NOT HAVE ANY SKILLS IN GROUP HOME WORKING WITH CLIENTS THAT HAVE BOW-OUT AND WILL HURT U WHEN DO NOT ENGAGE WITH THEM WE HAVE TO TEACH THEM HOW TO BE SAFE IN GROUP HOME OR IN THE COMMUNITY THAT'S WHAT A SUPPORT WORKER DOES TO TEACH?
Its gone rampart this Narcissistic abuse it's insane well at least everyone's talking about Narcissists they grandiose selfish people got what they want.. now what
I knew what was being said was horrible to me but they which was her and her ma had so much control. If I said anything about what was said or my feelings… the same phrase all the time.. “you just think it’s all about you”!!! So I just walked out of the room. 20 years later i saw my two oldest daughters were saying similar stuff to me. Oldest has that stuff bad. second daughter and the other two…yes four daughters… we all worked it out and have a future commitment to always talk and they will always talk to each other. This is to stop that behavior from continuing down the generations
Thank you, Stephanie No, they might not be NPD, they might be just some "infected" and affected by some biological family member like their mom( that's true with me.) .. And it might be not close relationship either. But it might affect us still very much, especially when some youngster tries to pull up on me guilt tripping while crowd of other neighbours are watching.... Still learning about narcissism.... Wish me luck
I had a husband who would do something such as groping me, and I would tell him many times that I didn't like it. He would still do it, or say he was trying not to; but sometimes forget. However, he often would use guilt on me for that. Why am I "suddenly" trying to get him to change how he "flirts"? I tried to use the example of our daughters, that they shouldn't accept that from a boy. He thought it was different because of us being married. I mean, I didn't know it was okay to make me feel uncomfortable; if you're my spouse. 🙄
So my narcissist decided to have rage temper tantrum, yelling, screaming, kicked my car, stuck his face on my face, beat the shit out of a brush on the side of our daycare all because I didnt tell him that I went shopping with a friend, he claims I lied to him and hid it from him, when I have made it very clear that we are not together.... unfortunately I can't go no contact with him because we own a business together and a home that I moved out of almost a year ago. I have been working on boundaries with him, but he doesn't like it.... but the more I do it the easier it gets for me to do it. I just don't go round and round with him anymore...
Am going through a divorce where my husband decided that he didn’t want to be with anymore. However, I am very close to his mother and caught myself crossing boundaries in talking about the intricacies of the relationship. I really appreciated that she stood up to me and told me her boundaries. However, I’m sad because I really ❤ her and I don’t know how to separate me talking about how I’m doing without integrating him and how hurt I am. Feel like I’m losing a family member and that I can’t talk to her for a while because it’s just too painful. I’m rambling, yet I want to thank you for the support your channel has given me through this time. I don’t know if I’d still be here if it wasn’t for you ❤
I have hung up many times before I knew what I was dealing with and later I’ve attempted to state “I am now hanging up” but they’re talking and yelling over you so that they can’t hear you say that so that they can accuse you of being a child and hanging up.😂
@ thank you I’ve been at this almost two years and just learning my daughter is using all the tactics I’ve done coaching with others; I may need your help
My boss gave me two days of silent treatment. On the third day, he said "do you not see we are on to a major communication issue. Can you not sense I'm upset? Or do you not care?" I replied "What are you upset about?" He: Why do you ask now? I: Is it about miscommunication? He: Why Do You Ask Now? I: Because you brought up first. He: If I didn't, you would sit through the rest of the week right?.... I feel uncomfortable about being talked to like this. My friend said it sounds like I'm dealing with a girlfriend in a relationship.
Yes. It's too personal & unprofessional. I'd just state facts & try not to get dragged into (as they want you to) wondering about theoor emotional state. It's a place of business, not a therapy session or romantic relationship. Other than that, look for another job.
I recently found your channel and I find it very straightforward and helpful. But how does a person learn to find their true self after being raised by a narcissistic parent and then marrying someone just like their abuser? How do you unpack the years and layers of verbal and psychological abuse?
When I set my boundaries he gets mad 😡 😢and doesn’t respect it at all. When I don’t answer his phone calls I get treating text messages as well as non stop 🛑 call 📱 back to back
Yes, of course. Remember that boundaries are for yourself: with yourself and with other people. It's not for the other people, per se (except that honoring your own boundaries is being an honest person--no game playing). Is there a reason why you haven't gone no contact all together?
For me, I had to figure out what childhood-created belief was running in the background. I figured out it was that I was living by the belief that people who are supposed to love me, do loving things, or say they love me wouldn't want to harm me. That belief is false. My new conscious belief is "Some people who are supposed to love me, do loving things, or say they love me actually want to destroy me." That changed everything for me. And then I could see ex covert NPD for who this person really is. Any of the "good" stuff, any limerence I had for this person, is absolutely gone. A 13 year spell has finally been broken. And I feel absolutely justified for being no contact with family of origin.
the following is my personal opinion based on personal experience - so how does one contend with expressed nonconsensual remote neural monitoring, hive mind synthetic telepathy, invasive radar, microwave, and other advanced state of the art military grade technology, hacked digital devices, etc, and the game play of street theater, levered / coerced triangulation (threats vs 'savior' games, abuse / harassment vs easing on such activity as a means of manipulative controlling 'reward', etc), exploitation in various media channels that one has no knowledge of specific location / avenues (dark web? catfish sites? only fans? (so its been insinuated), etc? when telling my father, the 'esteemed' alan richmond sr or alan richmond company international notoriety, who has all the military / security / intelligence, government, major media broadcasting, music, film, radio and television), etc connections about such activity (which is patented and declassified), and was told it was 'delusional', in typical gaslighting manner. i keep saying 'no', i keep declaring 'boundaries', which are smugly ignored and tested, on a near daily basis, to no significant permanent change. the only consequence that i have control in, is that i keep mentioning the specifics of the people and manner of violation, abuse, exploitation., while being told to be quiet, shut up, etc, while being expected to endure more years of this. because of this activity, they have done all they can to either exploit or extinguish my sexuality, physicality, fitness, health, humanity, hobby / interest, skills, creativity, occupational potential, education / training, inspiration / motivation, personal aesthetics, and more. i am not the first and only person to express experiencing this, which seems to be programmatic and formulaic.
you completely lost me at Kids knee privacy. As a niece of a cop that is the first thing all cops tell parents, children are not entitled to privacy. Yes give a quick knock before you into the room. Make sure they’re not indecent however, if the child is a child, they are not entitled to privacy because the child left alone will bring their parents shame. I’ve caught my kids doing so many things that I would’ve never caught if I respected privacy. We no longer live in a day and age where kids only are under the influence of teachers and parents today they are under the influence of millions of people on social media, and young kids are very impressionable. so that is completely wrong and if you are a parent, do not listen to that. Please.
My narc parents were all about manipulation (since childhood). I suffered a stroke a month ago and they made it about them (particularly my narc father). I’m just now at 51 figuring this out and want nothing to do with either of them.
So yeah- narcissists are all about manipulating you, so be careful.
One of the in-law had a child die then later the in-law died.. the parent made both events about them.. I was so shocked!! I had no words!!
I’m so sorry to hear this. How sad 😔 But now you have more room for better people in your life ❤
So sorry to hear about that 😢 ... and I hear you! Take care of number one ❤️🩹💗💖
My husband and his narcissistic mother gave me a stroke 5 years ago that’s when I finally figured out what was going on with him and why he was verbally abusive
OR ....if the relationship isn't reciprocal don't stay in it.
Living with a narcissist or someone with manipulative behaviors chronically we ignore boundaries violation
Good video and topic! Yes: it's so important to see that boundaries are based on our standards and our needs. I was raised to think I always needed to fix myself (even worse, that I had mental problems and my parents were always right). I'm too sensitive, think too much, blah blah blah says the NPDs. Also, it's just in my nature to want to do emotional work. So those two things made me tolerate a lot that I wish I wouldn't have with family of origin and with ex partners, etc. And, unfortunately, I believed that the more time these people were with me and if I just could get them to value me, then they would change. NO!
I am now following my intuition no matter what. And honoring my needs and standards. I see why I didn't before: because following my intuition and my needs has meant I am alone a lot--I don't care about superficial, flippant, impulsive interactions and events. And I read people and their energy really well.
I want quality, investing, deep, honest, loyal, safe and protective relationships--it's not easy to find people who want the same.
Don't try to get blood from a turnip / don't bark up the wrong trees:
I think that if a relationship isn't very close, and the other person just isn't on the same page with awareness, etc., saying as little as possible and having as little invested into difficult people is the best route to take. Ideally, no contact is the way to go. Otherwise, remember, whatever we expose to difficult people will likely be used against us. I have had to deal with the shame of giving pieces of myself away to toxic people who exploited me--starting with my NPD parents. I can never remove myself from their memories--oh how I would love to!
My high need to be believed, understood and related to was wasted on (and exploited by) toxic people. I now save that for the people with whom I have a close, connected relationship. That's the ultimate boundary. And it's self-care and self-respect and having dignity.
How can you have a conversation or a confrontation if you are nervous and you are shaking in your boots 👢.
Dont look at them. Say what comes into your mind.
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
She knows that. She just wanted to be the one to hurt you, if you had broken up with her she’d be scratching at your until her nails bled. Not all people are narcissists, but learning whether or not you’re codependent is very important. Now is the time to look inward. I’m in the same position except I left her for the emotional abuse. She was incapable of apologizing for her behavior and projection of others, past victims, onto me. The goal is to make you as unhappy as they are. If you broke up with her, she’d be calling you an abuser or telling you that everything was a lie, like it was, to hurt you. They have 1 face for you, and 1 face for everybody else.
Whats intresting is learning to identify boundary violations that are non verbal...like excessive monitoring excessive snooping..im sure thers alot...after all burgalers dont respect boundaries 😳 Love your videos they are helpfull
1 Corinthians 1:18
For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God.
Yeah, if I were to tell my ex what he was doing; the majority of the time he'd deny it. Good thing I'm getting free.
I am so happy I now realize I'm totally messed up!
Don't be hasty 😊 take it slowly
😅me too
This is my father. He was a gaslighting narcissistic asshole growing up. I'm 47 now... and he hates it when I stand up for myself. He can't handle it.
Hugs. Same. Went no contact at forty-five- it CAN be done.
I was going through a horrible divorce and had no idea of this actual trait or terminology. I got through all that pain because of you.
We have never met and I hope maybe one day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart:)
Your channel is so helpful!! I’m so grateful for your content!
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
Stephanie is one of the best!
Stephanie, I cannot thank you enough for your videos. Watching them has been super helpful, keep up the great work!
Absolutely tremendous Stephanie, Thank you so much for this, I don't allow others to guilt me or play on my emotions, I have immense self control, Peace, Love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to you and the most high :-)
Thanks so much, Stephanie. Unfortunately, I wish I'd seen your or other therapists' explanations 3 months ago. Yours were SPOT ON, and I fully recognized myself in everything you've said. I finally have become wiser and more assertive than I thought that I had been all along. Now my bank account is considerably smaller as a result, so it had been a valuable, but very expensive, lesson. I am, however, FREE of all future menacing manipulations and Narcissists. I survived, and money is just money --it comes and it goes.
You pretty much described my life story in this video. My mother and other people around me in my culture basically dismiss everything that I say when I try to set boundaries, then when they cross those boundaries and I speak up for myself they react as if I'm a bad person, or I may say from the begining that I can't do something or don't want to do it and they coax me into doing it and when I can't I'm a bad person. Then in order to set boundaries at the beginning I have to be very aggressive and people are put off by that. I spend a lot of time suffering in silence.
Yes...they get really angry and offended whenever they are not allowed to continue walking all over you.
Thank you. I am still learning how to develop a healthy boundary for my peace of mind. I love your channel and your bright, strong and beautiful personality. Thank you. 🤍🌼
Excellent again….Thank you Stephanie! Take care! 🙂
Thanks Stephanie for your information and have a Nice Day 🙂👍
I walk away I don’t explain but I dealing with a narcissist that tries to dominate me in my own yardwork, I go for a peace and quiet my garden and he knows it and there’s some things I need him to do so he comes out and create a situation that he created and then blames it on me I told him don’t put the chainsaw away so he does then it’s my fault because I find something else that I need to do telling me I’m stupid why didn’t I tell him before when I had I just said don’t put it away. We’re going to need it he got triggered for some reason or decided he just wanted to hurt me you never know with narcissist He tried to dominate me in the yard where the neighbors can hear I walked away I go to a different part of the garden and work. I have plenty of stuff to do and go plant something else. I won’t be treated that way anymore if he’s abusive, he just lost my attention for quite a while
I’m aware, and I’m not the only one who knows.
You are the best! 🔥Thank you🙏❤
Lovvvvvve your videos! Thank you!💞 Becoming self-aware and learning how to set and hold boundaries is key! Thank you SO much for the video, we appreciate you!💖
9:58 GOLD STANDARD. 🔑
Thank you..may you have a great day ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This very good video that help me and other with setting boundaries
Very OUT-STANDING work and Very skilled and SMART TEACHER I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT U ARE SAYING THERE IS A LOT OF SMEAR CAMPAIGN IN GROUP HOME AND THEY ARE VERY BAD PEOPLE WITH NO RESPECT FOR OTHERS AND THE FLYING MONKEY WILL EAT U ALIVE THEY DO NOT HAVE ANY SKILLS IN GROUP HOME WORKING WITH CLIENTS THAT HAVE BOW-OUT AND WILL HURT U WHEN DO NOT ENGAGE WITH THEM WE HAVE TO TEACH THEM HOW TO BE SAFE IN GROUP HOME OR IN THE COMMUNITY THAT'S WHAT A SUPPORT WORKER DOES TO TEACH?
Its gone rampart this Narcissistic abuse it's insane well at least everyone's talking about Narcissists they grandiose selfish people got what they want.. now what
This was such a good video with a lot of very good information! It is exactly what I have been focusing on lately.
Proverbs 10:28
The hope of the righteous shall be gladness: but the expectation of the wicked shall perish.
Good video as always ! Keep up the good job! 👌👌💪💪
Thanks!😊
Yes they are SUPER MANIPULATIVE! CAUTION! STAY WOKE!
🚫"WOKE" IS Manipulation🚫
I knew what was being said was horrible to me but they which was her and her ma had so much control. If I said anything about what was said or my feelings… the same phrase all the time.. “you just think it’s all about you”!!! So I just walked out of the room. 20 years later i saw my two oldest daughters were saying similar stuff to me. Oldest has that stuff bad. second daughter and the other two…yes four daughters… we all worked it out and have a future commitment to always talk and they will always talk to each other. This is to stop that behavior from continuing down the generations
Thank you, Stephanie
No, they might not be NPD, they might be just some "infected" and affected by some biological family member like their mom( that's true with me.) .. And it might be not close relationship either. But it might affect us still very much, especially when some youngster tries to pull up on me guilt tripping while crowd of other neighbours are watching....
Still learning about narcissism.... Wish me luck
I love this video
Thank you 🙏 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
So good! ❤
I had a husband who would do something such as groping me, and I would tell him many times that I didn't like it. He would still do it, or say he was trying not to; but sometimes forget. However, he often would use guilt on me for that. Why am I "suddenly" trying to get him to change how he "flirts"?
I tried to use the example of our daughters, that they shouldn't accept that from a boy. He thought it was different because of us being married. I mean, I didn't know it was okay to make me feel uncomfortable; if you're my spouse. 🙄
So my narcissist decided
to have rage temper tantrum, yelling, screaming, kicked my car, stuck his face on my face, beat the shit out of a brush on the side of our daycare all because I didnt tell him that I went shopping with a friend, he claims I lied to him and hid it from him, when I have made it very clear that we are not together.... unfortunately I can't go no contact with him because we own a business together and a home that I moved out of almost a year ago. I have been working on boundaries with him, but he doesn't like it.... but the more I do it the easier it gets for me to do it. I just don't go round and round with him anymore...
Pack an emergency kit and leave. No one should have to put up with that treatment.
Am going through a divorce where my husband decided that he didn’t want to be with anymore. However, I am very close to his mother and caught myself crossing boundaries in talking about the intricacies of the relationship. I really appreciated that she stood up to me and told me her boundaries. However, I’m sad because I really ❤ her and I don’t know how to separate me talking about how I’m doing without integrating him and how hurt I am. Feel like I’m losing a family member and that I can’t talk to her for a while because it’s just too painful. I’m rambling, yet I want to thank you for the support your channel has given me through this time. I don’t know if I’d still be here if it wasn’t for you ❤
Trying to break free and become the person I want to be! Man this is some sh1t that should be taught in schools!
We enjoy it🌴😎👍
I have hung up many times before I knew what I was dealing with and later I’ve attempted to state “I am now hanging up” but they’re talking and yelling over you so that they can’t hear you say that so that they can accuse you of being a child and hanging up.😂
And that’s ok because at some point you’ll be able to say “I will not tolerate when someone __ so when that happens I will ____.”
@ thank you I’ve been at this almost two years and just learning my daughter is using all the tactics I’ve done coaching with others; I may need your help
My boss gave me two days of silent treatment. On the third day, he said "do you not see we are on to a major communication issue. Can you not sense I'm upset? Or do you not care?"
I replied "What are you upset about?"
He: Why do you ask now?
I: Is it about miscommunication?
He: Why Do You Ask Now?
I: Because you brought up first.
He: If I didn't, you would sit through the rest of the week right?....
I feel uncomfortable about being talked to like this. My friend said it sounds like I'm dealing with a girlfriend in a relationship.
Yes. It's too personal & unprofessional.
I'd just state facts & try not to get dragged into (as they want you to) wondering about theoor emotional state. It's a place of business, not a therapy session or romantic relationship. Other than that, look for another job.
1 Samuel 2:7
The LORD maketh poor, and maketh rich: he bringeth low, and lifteth up.
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I recently found your channel and I find it very straightforward and helpful. But how does a person learn to find their true self after being raised by a narcissistic parent and then marrying someone just like their abuser? How do you unpack the years and layers of verbal and psychological abuse?
How do you reestablish boundaries after they’ve taken them all away?
When I set my boundaries he gets mad 😡 😢and doesn’t respect it at all. When I don’t answer his phone calls I get treating text messages as well as non stop 🛑 call 📱 back to back
Yes, of course. Remember that boundaries are for yourself: with yourself and with other people. It's not for the other people, per se (except that honoring your own boundaries is being an honest person--no game playing). Is there a reason why you haven't gone no contact all together?
👍🏿 Agree 👍🏿
Thank you for all of your help Stephanie. How can I have sessions with you?
Ah I finally read the description in one of your videos finally. Thanks for answering in advance 😂
oh I know it, but why do I still allow it🤔
For me, I had to figure out what childhood-created belief was running in the background. I figured out it was that I was living by the belief that people who are supposed to love me, do loving things, or say they love me wouldn't want to harm me.
That belief is false. My new conscious belief is "Some people who are supposed to love me, do loving things, or say they love me actually want to destroy me."
That changed everything for me. And then I could see ex covert NPD for who this person really is. Any of the "good" stuff, any limerence I had for this person, is absolutely gone.
A 13 year spell has finally been broken.
And I feel absolutely justified for being no contact with family of origin.
the following is my personal opinion based on personal experience - so how does one contend with expressed nonconsensual remote neural monitoring, hive mind synthetic telepathy, invasive radar, microwave, and other advanced state of the art military grade technology, hacked digital devices, etc, and the game play of street theater, levered / coerced triangulation (threats vs 'savior' games, abuse / harassment vs easing on such activity as a means of manipulative controlling 'reward', etc), exploitation in various media channels that one has no knowledge of specific location / avenues (dark web? catfish sites? only fans? (so its been insinuated), etc? when telling my father, the 'esteemed' alan richmond sr or alan richmond company international notoriety, who has all the military / security / intelligence, government, major media broadcasting, music, film, radio and television), etc connections about such activity (which is patented and declassified), and was told it was 'delusional', in typical gaslighting manner. i keep saying 'no', i keep declaring 'boundaries', which are smugly ignored and tested, on a near daily basis, to no significant permanent change. the only consequence that i have control in, is that i keep mentioning the specifics of the people and manner of violation, abuse, exploitation., while being told to be quiet, shut up, etc, while being expected to endure more years of this. because of this activity, they have done all they can to either exploit or extinguish my sexuality, physicality, fitness, health, humanity, hobby / interest, skills, creativity, occupational potential, education / training, inspiration / motivation, personal aesthetics, and more. i am not the first and only person to express experiencing this, which seems to be programmatic and formulaic.
You’re describing my fiancé to a T!
Save yourself by making sure this fiance doesn't turn into your spouse. 🙏
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you completely lost me at Kids knee privacy. As a niece of a cop that is the first thing all cops tell parents, children are not entitled to privacy. Yes give a quick knock before you into the room. Make sure they’re not indecent however, if the child is a child, they are not entitled to privacy because the child left alone will bring their parents shame. I’ve caught my kids doing so many things that I would’ve never caught if I respected privacy. We no longer live in a day and age where kids only are under the influence of teachers and parents today they are under the influence of millions of people on social media, and young kids are very impressionable. so that is completely wrong and if you are a parent, do not listen to that. Please.
Yeah.....................fml
🕙 where more worries many reasons one private companies without Labor Unions? There no peace of 💙mind or soul?