How to Get a NARCISSIST to LEAVE You ALONE! | Learn how to Free yourself from them!
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Refuse to engage in conversations. Refuse gifts. Refuse to emails. Letters. Likes. Add ons. Everything. Refuse every attempt. No contact. Thats all that works.
Yep! Don’t even read their stuff I just delete it now
@@mariahconklin4150 yeah interesting how when you avoid them completely no contact, they text you they won't let go, I just blocked their number think they've got the message now. They're so dangerous it's disturbing.
After you’ve blocked them every way possible then they get creative and send you messages through cash app 🤦🏼♀️
@@christinewilliams5426 super sickening ! My narcissistic ex did the cash app as well smh I had to block him on that and change my # crazy
@@christinewilliams5426 I know someone who has done this to me. I was shocked.
"you just want them to go away." made me laugh because it's so true.
Jes jes
LMFAO. I have to agree.
Yep they never do!
Seriously
Yes they never go away
Everyone deserves to live a life free from narcissist.
easier said than done sometimes,,the struggle is very very real
Factssss
They are very draining and play mind games, psychos
or pushy salespeople.......
Amen I agree
I wish I would have known what a narcissist was 7 years ago. Many things lost and wasted but I am freeeeeeee now. Thank you Lord!
I'm still in mine 😭, happy for you though!
@@ggold4825 Pray, pray, pray. The Lord will help you find a way out.
@@reynablanc5567 I really pray so, Amen! Thank you!
How did u do it ?
I know a lady who lived unhappy till her kids grown till teen years I’m doing my best not to get my kids to there teen years I want myself back and I wish this year will be the last year here I’m really doing my best but not having any savings or money I have to wait he did say he buy the tickets I send him links and all but he knows making an excuse until we speak to a lawyer he’s trying to get away from child support
Even if you stand strong in your shoes, a narsissist will always find a way to make you feel bad, or poison your live. The best way is: go away as far you can and don't look back! You have nothing to learn from a toxic person.
gud8heart Handle it best way you can manage, with good self care and minimal contact. Once the child is grown, it is a lot easier. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Take care of yourself as best you can do and learn positive strategies.
We all always have something to learn from whatever situation. The learning is about ourselves and our wounds and reactions
The narcissistic psychopath that I was dealing with tried to kill me when I cut the cord. Be careful with these types of people that have this personality disorder.
My x was a narc. He tried to hoover me in every way you can imagin and when he couldnt he started the stalking game to scare the hell out of me and i just ignored him. He then started a smearing campagin to destroy my reputation and turn every body i know in my friendship zone and my work inviroment against me. Alot of people believed his shenanegans . I had to leave the work and start my own home based business secretly and am doing really well, thanks to his twisted sick mind, he opened new doors for me i never thought was possible. Started to educate my self on the supject of money, read rich dad poor dad books , think and grow rich, the financicial iq book... you name it . My life is so blessful now and full of fun and joy, self love and self care. You too will be their. You will go through healing and burging emotions, dont resist it, meditate alot, relax alot , sleep alot.. you will be their. It is just a bigining of the self love journy. Am still afraid to love again though thats why i keep visiting those videos just to re assure my self am not gonna repeat the mistake in the future and it kinda remind me of where i was and were am now. Dont give up on your self and never come back to his sick ass. May god protect you sister. Sending you ton of love and healing vibes.
@@erdftzghThank you for sharing your story. This was very helpful for me. Thank you.🌹
I am so sorry that happen!💔 They are the worst kind of people.
Yelp, they have personality disorders, and that makes it even more difficult for them to stop. They don't view their behavior as bad and will blame others for it.
The narcissist tryed to kill me too and failed. I maced him.
The best way to get someone's attention - don't give them any.
The best way to deal with a narcissist - don't!
Are u sure??
Solid gold advice!!!!
I set boundaries, didn't work. I went no contact- Without warning, Brutal Hell was unleashed on me to totally destroy my character and my life. No contact needs to come with a 'danger' warning label
Most definitely! They're master liers and slander to anyone who is in earshot. Kinda weeds out the more superficial people in our lives[just in a really painful way]. If I really think about it, do I really want anyone who is foolish enough to believe my narc's flimsy unsupportive lies in my life any longer? No, no matter my relationship with them.
I'm experiencing the same thing. Facing hell after no contact with my narc brother (an only boy Golden child in the family) He started to smear campaign with all the lies. Got my narc dad disowned me and changing the 'will.' and my narc brother now is in charge of all the inheritance -- not only within my family but also from my elderly relatives. i am totally on my own now (raising my son with disability).. freedom!!! yet weaken knees.
@Deplorable Cat Sending love. I know that's hard to realize life might be healthier without some members of your family, or a lot of them if they want you to play along with the toxic person to support delusions about how everything is fine. You're on a journey to a better life!
@@Gapril2000 Stay strong! You don't need that BS in your life and you'll get better eventually without it!
@@LXSeaV Thank you so much for the word of encouragement
It's simple & summed up in two words: NO CONTACT!
But that's the whole point to this video, what to do when we can't go no contact 😊 I agree, no contact is best usually.
@Pogo TheKitty It's extremely hard & some, if not most days, especially in the beginning stages, requires all one has got to maintain the steadfastness. That must be frustrating & it can't be easy when the narc in your life is the other parent of your child. May you remain strong & keep fighting the good fight!
EXACTLY!!👏👏👏
Ok to say that no e is 3rd mother of my children who still young.
@@nickiratliff84 even if there is no contact, some narcissists still violate the personal space of their prey. It's all about power and control, and they simply will not give up easily. Hell, gods and generals can't stop them..These people are sick and mentally deranged. It's the equivalency of a mad dog that won't release their grip when biting it's prey.
You cannot inform a narcissist that you are taking space from them or tell them that you will no longer accept their mistreatment. They will lose their minds and immediately, the games will begin. In my experience you have you just drop all means of communication. It's not running. Its just choosing not to try and fight a battle you WILL NOT win. Boundaries are their favorite thing to challenge and knowledge that their abuse is getting to you is empowering for them.
Exactly, but you forgot to add act like the victim ...SMH the struggle is real
@@sushannacodnor7394 exactly. It's so sad and sort of scary that people like this really exist.
Please can you help me, I try to break the communication but he threatings me with pictures and everything so this relationship is going for 3 years but I’m so deppressed and done with life. Don’t know what to do
@@shinchxn5838 Pray Patty, God will help you!
pattyy ch patty I think in this cases you can go to police. Threatening someone with private pictures is punishable by law, please seek help, save the conversations, record them. You can get out of this!
Just don't offer them resistance, don't react - because that's what they want.
@staringspells You're welcome :) I learnt that one out the hard way, needless to say :D
He spends his free time with me but guards his phone.Wjat can I say to deal with that ?
@@luciacasillas3301 I'm confused, I'm not sure how this relates to what I said.
@@luciacasillas3301 Here is what you can say: "Here, try this cup of hot chocolate; I've been experimenting with some recipes." Then, when the knock out meds kick in, you can get your stuff and leave.
@@lauriej.3544 I'd kick him in his bollox on the way out
Caution with confronting a narc, especially a covert narc. You will trigger their rage.
Their rage is fear. I cannot handle you not seeing me as powerful. You know im weak and fearful and act in counterphobic ways when they are hurting they act out and then you know their gaslighting because their scared. Control is their method of choice."you won't leave me because i will control u". Like a toddler.
Oh yes, my ex is a covert narcissist...
Learned that the hard way. I was stupid.
I confronted a covert narc. I hope I triggered their rage. You think I triggered them when I pointed out their bullshit? I hope I did!
My ex was a sociopath and a narcissist. I was gas lighted, cheated on, threatened, and emotional abused. He threatened to take my kids if I left, threatened my job and started stuff at my job to try and get me fired. He constantly accused me of cheated constantly when he was. He rarely worked. He uploaded inappropriate photos of me on social media to my friends and family and co workers and sent them to my bosses. He hide all my clothes and the children’s clothes during our separation. It took a lot of power to completely ignore him and stay away from him and gradually the hell started to subside. Not giving them what they want and having that self power. I really want to reach out to anyone that has experienced the hell I have gone through. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you. ...i feel so lost
My narc did the same shit but she beat the shit out of me and stole from threw my belongings out
I’m still working on grey rock. It’s sooo hard at times
Were these his kids as well? I have a baby with my bf who I believe is a narc.
Ashley...please tell me how you did or are doing the ‘grey rocking’ on your significant other...I wish I knew some of the tricks of doing this because I might be able to survive until we separate....
Over 7 years... good wishes to the others who are going through this
This is so true! Reinvent yourself as a person who does not tolerate and fall for the stupidity. Keep your dignity by not engaging with the narc and having your own life, friends, goals, and responsibilities. Give them no supply or reactions. It will take time for them to get the message of the NEW YOU! But just keep at it and they’ll fall off eventually!
Not being able to leave them puts you in a situation where you have to develop yourself or be destroyed. I was thinking this recently. Instead of running from the person but rather LEARN to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.
Then you will be more likely to stand up for yourself in the future with other people in different situations.
People that care about others don’t insult and abuse them.
If they don’t care why should we care about them.
If they realize it or not don’t let them cause you pain.
Just simply don’t care.
Even if it comes from someone that is supposed to love us talks down to us does not mean we should listen to them. No matter who it is . Everyone should treat others with respect.
So true “go live your life and don’t bother me” 😂😂
Its so true that some days you feel defeated, mentally depleted, emotionally exhausted and I feel like I've failed on those days and resort to negative self talk. Difference now is that I can actually see this happening and recognise what I'm doing to myself when previously I got stuck in a loop. Once you recognise it you can soothe yourself, sympathise with yourself, comfort yourself but personally I'm finding the whole process incredibly difficult and painful, getting backlash when you haven't yet found your inner strength is so bad. Good wishes to everyone out there going through this crap. Thank goodness for these videos and people like Stephanie who can educate us.
This is where I’m at. I’m so grateful for my person power and self worth working together. The narcissist has no chance to penetrate my emotional, physical or mental well-being. It’s an incredible feeling and it’s nothing to do with the narcissistic person, it’s me that has changed for the better and I absolutely love it. It’s taken focussed intention and it’s worked!
I did the best thing I could do for my personal wellbeing - I left....
Are you still safe and away?
I imagine so - at least I don't have the continual voices of criticism and putdowns ringing inside my head....
I like this grown woman
@@annthatch9244 I'm not a woman....
Best comment! Common sense 101
"You know how to parent yourself." EXCLAMATION MARKS!
"You're building a muscle in yourself..." Thank you Stephanie.
I am currently in this situation. Until now, I didn't know anything about narcissistic disorder. It was very painful at the beginning, I was blaming myself, and doubting myself ... . When I realised that it is not me, I set up boundaries and he became even more aggressive. These videos are EXTREMELY helpful because I had no clue what approach I should take and I learned a lot. Massive Thank you, Stephanie and I hope, I will manage to handle this life challenge well.
Setting boundaries just creates more verbal and emotional abuse. My financial situation creates fear and worries for me.
It is hard or outright impossible to set and enforce boundaries when you're financially dependent. You will need to address this first.
Me too
Me too
I believe this so much. You have to change yourself in order to change what goes on outside of you. I love it
I moved out of state away from this person and have learned who I am and what I love. The only way I could clear my toxic feelings was to completely cut all strings. It is working! I love who I am and I am more able to love others who are true to me. Love your vid!
My narc sent flying monkeys to my new house in another state!!
Super creepy!
How did you get them to leave you alone?
This helped my entire life in one video 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 thank you ! My ex and my mother didn’t understand my boundaries so I just had to continue to show again and again, I refuse to be abused !
This is so difficult to pull off, with emotions and other aspects involved. It takes time and you come out of this scarred and battered mostly. Taking care of yourselves and setting boundaries are the way to go. Thanks for the upload ! Cheers.
I totally agree.
Every action that anyone does, is an actual physical action. Even what we think of as a negative action is a real expenditure of energy toward something.
When you say I Don't Want Something you are putting your energy toward the very thing you don't want.
The universe only responds to the energy. Basically, where you place your energy is what will be a part of your life.
Rather than saying what you don't want... Say what you do want. Place your energy into what you do want and making that real.
The best way to get rid of a Narcissist is to starve them by putting your energy elsewhere.
They are vampires... if they can't get the blood they need from you... they will go elsewhere for it...
@Carla Murphy Carla, Think of it this way. She has no life of her own, so she must copy the life of someone else, to give herself a reality. In a way that is the sadist life of all, because it is a lack of a self she can believe in... It is also a kind of flattery. She see you as a model that is worthy of copying. I know it's creepy, but it is the way some people have a life at all. Don't let her drive you to do something that you do not want to do. Have you talked with her about this?
@Carla Murphy There is a very old saying... Good fences make good neighbors... I think this might be an example of that.
"when you change yourself everything else changes"
Yeah a no contact warning is definitely needed. The maliciousness that comes along with it is crazy. I think you can always believe they will do the worst and keep in mind I think these things are done for you to run back to them to keep them quiet and off your back. But most to us would feel like since you assassinated my character and went beyond to hurt me, we will never reconcile.
Akstylez _ak exactly!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Yes I would go back to mine over and over because it was easier just to take him back so I wouldn't have to worry about him stalking me or harassing me or calling my work and coming up to my work. It was rediculous. It was easier just to be with him. Eventually though you start feeling disgusted by them and you need to get away. I finally did. I just stopped reacting to ANYTHING he said or did. It took a few months but he finally got bored and left me for his new supply that he already had lined up. Once they realize they are not going to get ANY more supply from you they will leave you alone.
You are changing my life, an in silence....self love an manifestation...an facing the narcissist an not letting there words or actions affect me....you saved my life!!!
I am so grateful to you and for your video. I am going through this mess in my life where I feel alone, no body to understand what you are going through..no body to share..
I really need to listen to your words as self affirmations to build my confidence
This is so true everyone! I’ve even had management at my work tell me, “be careful of this customer they can be drama” so glad they told me because I too cause drama and I’m trying to rid myself of that in order to be whim God wants me to be.
So very true. Once I started doing this I was able to take my kids and leave my narc husband. He has no more power over me.
I don’t know if you will ever see this , but your videos have helped me so much. Keep on making Vids, because it’s saved my life
People have way too much time on their hands to mess with other people... I they still had to go and get their wheat from a field and process it into bread no one would have time for these types of mental gymnastics.
Except a great deal of these types of things happens in and at the workplace...ironic isn't it?
I was brought up in abuse, so when my girlfriend would use abuse tactics, I was kind of blind to it, but gradually started to stand up for myself and like you said, being with her is helping me to stand up for myself with her and even with family but I'm also learning how my reaction was also reflected abuse, and to not behave that way myself. Thanks for the videos!
I love you Stephanie Lyn, your knowledge and insight helps me so much. Keep the info coming, we need your wisdom 😉
Right on! Excellent!.You are teaching people to stand up and grow strong in themselves. Owning and controlling one's own thoughts, words and deeds is the beginning of success and happiness ... ultimately, I believe.
I LOVE THIS PERSPECTIVE! I'm gonna use this with my 70yr old dad! Thank you so much Stephanie! :) I'm dealing with someone who is emotionally immature, like a kid. Just ignore them. They should be put in jail for crimes against humanity! LOL
Ya, they taunt you and make fun of you while you are doing the boundary setting. I used to get that alot. Before I dumped the narcs.
There is one thing narcs are worth it, 2 narcs as friends ya they would be something to reckon with but they may not mix because of other things. I was teased for about 5 years for being in love, wanting to have sex, and having sex with a coworker that is Lesbian. i found it so hilarious until i knew for a fact a girl and a guy had well talking and teasing me whatever. I still can't believe people thought i was having sex with her but i never did. I never told my coworkers they were teasing harassing me for something i was doing already with another girl after.
Great advice. No sense arguing with them...they love that and it drains you. They won't change but we can:)
Honestly, thank you. This is the first time I've heard some sense of clarity of how to deal with a person that's been in my life for over a decade! Acceptance is key. I'm a little closer to understanding. Thank you.
I educated myself to a large degree about narsistic behavior, so I don't feed into his needs. I love music so when he starts his crap I start singing a song in my head, and totally block him out. He pays all the bills, while I enjoy hanging out with my dogs and horses all day, so I laugh inside. He now gets his supply from his staff at work. He probably has someone on the side, and I honestly don't care
I'm married and have kids with a narcissist. It's not easy to just get rid of or ignore her.
Am in the same state here 3 kids with an abusive man and it's not easy
Great way to handle it. It’s a lesson to hold on to your values and boundaries and they are your practice to becoming a stronger person.
I loved that "the universe is indifferent".
one of the positives is that people that have gone through this , recognised it and dealt with it , especially if it came from family from an early age, usually end up being quite strong balanced decent people . Three cheers for all the happy healthy people .
I can relate this narrative. I eventually blocked my ex completely from my mind. She even went on to fake a pregnancy and miscarriage, but I still refused to buy it. She threw tantrums, but I still completely ignored it. I even changed my pattern of socializing, sleeping, eating, etc just minimize contact with her. Eventually she took the ride with her not-so-new supply.
50 seconds into the video and this woman has literally recited every single word I've said to myself about this person or feeling I've had....she's cleary very knowledgeable on the topic, I'm listening and taking notes at this point 👩🏾💻
I get this ick feeling when I hear that phrase "Hurt people Hurt people"...I Get the concept, but don't agree. Hurt people Don't hurt others because they know how it feels & would never put another through something painful (on purpose). On the other hand Sadists (Cluster B's ect...) have No Issue with hurting others...they Choose to Hurt Others & Continue to do so! I don't need to have empathy for Anyone who Chooses to hurt others & that phrase kinda pulls you to feel sorry for or make an excuse for the Abuser, IMHO. Really enjoy your videos!!!
FernCrone I freaking hate that saying !!! Usually said by people who don't get it and don't care to get it.
I agree That saying makes no sense, Hurt people are just that, they're hurt, broken .some like myself get help and spend a lifetime trying to Heal and would never do to someone what was done to them. The narcissist is Emotionally Bullies. Period!
Don Ghiata ~ Praying for you!! Please remember that we are called to endure to the end ... 🙇🏻♀️🙏🏻😇 ... Please remember that ultimately we WILL HEAL, while they will remain the same. IMHO, our journey can be used to empower us to help lift & positively empower & support others who are in earlier stages of this "extrication process" getting OUT of this living hell on earth. Please remember that there ARE BETTER DAYS AHEAD, so PLEASE don't let anyone rob you of these!! May God bless you & know that you are in my prayers!
Ann Nally isn't that sick. But true.
FernCrone it's plain and simple they are influenced by demonic spirits.
I agree with you 150%. When, you set forth your boundaries, people aren't going to like it!! You don't need to care, if they get angry. If they refuse to listen to your boundaries, they don't care about you. Another thing, that really helped me was learning mindfulness!!! My psycho went to our eldest daughter telling her, "I don't think mommy loves me anymore." She came to me to forgive him. I gave her a very firm NO!! Almost 10 months no contact. The 27th is our wedding anniversary & I will keep myself happily busy. Anything worth while, is worth waiting for!!
just when I thought I'd learned how to keep energy vampire "friends" out of my life..now I learn that I attract female narcissist as lovers..live and learn as they say
This was great. Thank you. I am removing a narcissist from my life right now. No longer speaking anything to him. Total gray rock. It gets scary at times like when he tried cutting me off from getting back to my home the other day. And still afraid to just walk to the post office because of this. I have already told him leave me alone last November. Been enforcing it since by no contact answering the phone or door etc. He no longer affects me other then his what I felt semi aggressiveness to try to block my or cut me off from my home. I have now put locks on all yard gates as he was known to just walk into my yard. Feeling better with the locks even though I hate to feel like I have to live this way. I feel it is sending the message loud and clear with out having to speak.
Thank you 🙏🏾 first time I heard this how to deal with a narcissist another way 💯 don’t show the narcissist No Reaction 🌴 turn the negative 👎 sentence in to a positive sentence. (Remove the want)
Toxic behavior = Cluster-b personality disordered people, period. If you're experiencing toxicity, you're dealing with that category. Please, don't be confused by this. Words like this found me refiguring situations (and, in turn, wasting my precious time). Oxox
Yes, dont try to figure them out. Just GET OUT a.s.a.p. It's like meth. You cant change meth and figure it out. Its meth and you need to get away. The sooner the better. And you may have to take extreme measures like move to a nother state.
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Wow... this video is on point! this is exactly where I’m at in the journey, when you don’t let them get under your skin, into your biology, you drop your end of the tug of war.
This is the best advice I've heard yet. Grey rock is just shrinking into yourself and can make you dissociate. This is truly standing in your power.
Being disassociated is weak af. That's just tolerating a situation: ie: sitting in fire whilst burning telling yourself it's alright and it'll be over soon. That's delusional thinking.
The key to life is preventing unnecessary excess amounts of harm, not tolerating and enduring all you can. Lmao.
I've hit them repeatedly over the head with a 2x4 with no results! Then I tried simply walking away. Give them the correct information then cut the cord. Wow!!!!! It works!!!! Thank you. P.S. Love the sweater!
What do u mean the correct information ??
It took me 30 years to finally have enough of a narcissistic parent. They never change. The flying monkeys in my case are all distant family I rarely heard from before.
Thank you I have been doing some of this before even seeing this video. I figured some of this out myself. It is amazing how good you can feel. Loving yourself for who you are and being confident calm and showing them a mirror is your best tool ;0)
Yep ! Stand up & don't accept this bad behavior! You deserve better ! If they decide to leave ! Praise God ! You have been rescued! Let them go & rejoice ! I'm not saying you won't miss who you thought they were , but once you realize it was a facade! You will RECOVER ! THANK YOU stephanie!
Once you realize not to react out of fear, and wonder instead, why is this happening to me, what is my mission here; the mission is the challenge, ... what do I make of this?! Start by looking within ....your SELF worth, SELF respect and awareness of who YOU ARE. SELF LOVE is key for raising our level of consciousness, which will make you untouchable. It is all about contrast and the different levels of consciousness. Certainly differentiate of what you allow and / or don't allow or tolerate into your life. NO CONTACT is your best choice. The rest is small talk, no discussions, no arguments (if you have children together, or other family member, or at work etc.), ... still not easy, I know. Thank you Stephanie for pointing it out so clear " not to have a re-action", not letting them affect you...
Thank you for the video Stephanie, always helpful as usual! I would like to say at 17:40 I am not sure of this advice, explaining ourselves to narcissists does nothing. It just adds fuel to their fire for drama. I stopped explaining after 28 years realizing all the trauma and that my dad will never change after all this time. I blocked him from every where, goodbye. I am moving on with my life.
Excellent and meaningful advice. I'm finding it's about what we accept in our lives, our vibrations and our expectations for respect in interactions. Definitely not going down to a low level.
Dev Deir,You are absolutely right 👍
by going grey rock, and ignoring my natural fight or flight responce from the years of verbal abuse, gas lighting threats of having the police called on me, ive been diagnosed with PTSD, chronic anxiety, major depression and chronic insomia, till this day im dealing with the physical and emotional fall out of the gaslighting and abuse.
Thank you! This video came at the right time for me!!
Thank you for bringing that up, Stephanie, excellent point. To say "I WANT" is to admit there is a lack of. Simply put, our desires exist because we exist and we are meant to experience them. Change the way you think and that which is around you will begin to change.
I am probably going to listen to this more than once. I'm at the stage where I'm realizing all of this to be true, I'm putting it into action with some shaky sea legs, but moving in the right direction. A good follow-up to this topic is acknowledging some of the grieving that has to happen to make some of these choices. The solution in these situations is pretty simple, but the execution for people like us isn't. To cut ties with someone or feel like you're risking it with a certain boundary, I feel like I have had to go through a certain grieving process where I realize I'm willing to lose this person. Brene Brown has it right when she talks about how forgiveness and grief really go hand in hand. When you're releasing expectations and hopes of how some people will act around you, I feel like I've had to grieve them to ultimately stand in my power and make a strong choice about how to handle them.
Absolutely. The only way is to only accept the right energy, which was NOT how victims of abuse was thinking before that. Happiness is your friend and the ones who can portray that in your life are the right ones. It has both become easier to let people go and let people into my life as I'm thinking only in terms of energy and still learn every day to have this way of thinking. You have come a really long way and so has I. There is a HUGE gain by daring to let someone go when they only block your energy levels and prevent you from having a much richer life. Thank you for your comment and I wish every single good thing comes your way.
You can ALWAYS remove someone from your life. You don't have to accept that just because the abuser is your mother or sister or whoever, you do have the right to cut them out of your life. Period.
Awesome awesome video. Wish I had this advice 30 years ago. This is so helpful for me. Your style of communication is exceptional! Thank you so much for this video!
Thank you so much..A good friend of mine who was also my mentor at work..overtime He went from helpful To hateful..I confronted him Respectfully And calmly Stated .That the way he Yells and berates me in front of are colleagues was abusive and unprofessional ..Note..this was the first time I Stood up to him. Well 24 Hours Later He stopped speaking to me and interacting with me. He completely Turned his back on me..And started to Spread lies About me. Eventually getting me fired..I've been beating myself up for months .And the way you described a narcissist Is exactly want he is..I can't tell you how much Your video Gave me a huge dose of self-confidence .Now I know that It had nothing to do with me..You're the best
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Philip Quinn I’m in an exact same position. The co-worker tried to get me fired after I didn’t say “good morning to her”. She felt “bullied”. I didn’t say good morning because she yelled at me, accusing of stealing her stapler. 🤦🏼♀️
This is exactly what I needed to hear today....go with it and learn from it. But I don’t fear for my life, so maybe it’s not for everyone, depends on the narc.
I love the way you explain. Easy on the eyes too! I changed phones and hope that has got her to stop trying. Triangulated and abused. How can someone lie so easy. Its scary.
No Contact is the only tactic, in my opinion. Mine is my mother, but I dated one as well. Luckily, I caught on quickly that something was wrong.
Clarity is bliss.
I moved out 4 years ago, but couldn’t release the relationship. We hung out, did family stuff and when he crossed boundaries I left and went home! Never resolving any problems! One day I prayed he would finally let me go since I thought he was stronger! Well that time has come, he wants to finalize our divorce! I am now going through pains of a break up, it feels weird. Every day is getting easier but I just wish I wasn’t so wishy washy so I could focus on a resolution.
It's an addiction. Your relationship sounds like my former marriage. I just couldn't let go and he to me. Until finally God h
Got sick of it and cut the cords. My eyes were opened and I realized Ive accepted crumbs.
Keep going. It's like your literally addicted and you have wean yourself off, right! I had the hardest time but it gets easier and soooooo worth it.
That's my husbands 40 year old daughter.. I had to walk away from her..There is so much peace, joy no more drama. She brings nothing good to our table.. My hubby can visit her but I prefer not to be in her life or her in mine.. Can't allow her narcissists behavior drain my spirit.. We have to take care of ourselves we can't change anyone else..
When person don’t respect your boundary it’s time to say good by or trust it’s all about them getting what they want don’t care who they hurt if person learns to listen won’t take long you fine out what there like
You are so right about having a peaceful relationship with them you did not tell them anything that bothers you or anything about maybe a family member or work what happens is that when you have a disagreement about something they will always bring that up and you never ever say no to them that really upsets him a lot.
OMG Thank you for the reminder! The Universe only hears the word want! I need to lose my resistance. Brilliant video! Thank you 🙏🏻
Holy macaroni!! 💡
I watch so many videos about this because I’m dealing with several toxic people that I simply cannot eliminate from my life. The struggle is real. But when you said that this could be a test and that the answer is to change yourself, that really struck home. I know I’m not perfect either and this is exactly what I believe is going to help. Thank you very much for your videos
I needed this for dealing with my mom. Thank you Stephanie!
So TRUE! that when you who have been suffering a narcissist, YOU BEGIN TAKING RESPONSIBILITY of your OWN SELF, the dynamic of the sick relationship shifts, everything else about YOUR LIFE changes, begins to transform, while in all likelihood the narcissist stays stuck. Remember, you CAN'T save her or him. Right, Stephanie, no matter how the narcissist continues to abuse you, or starts to attempt to hurt you because she senses her past patterns of abuse don't seem to take the toll the perpetrator wants to see, no matter WHAT, you're ok inside you, you're moving forward with boundaries, self-esteem, personal growth & more!
1. Take this as an opportunity to become a healthier version of yourself 🧘🏽♀️🌿🏃🏽♀️
2. Focus & Visualize what you WANT (come from abundance) 🥳💪🏽☮️
3. Set boundaries out of self-💖
I hope others really understand this video because once they get the psychology behind it its that's a powerful message that you're teaching. Smashing the like button!
Girl, THANK YOU. Your video gave me precious informations, an inspiration and hope. Keep going.
Excellent video. You can run far away from “this” narc but if you don’t change yourself then you’ll run straight to the arms to another narc...trust me.
One action needed ONLY Ghost them period!!!
Hi Stephanie, thank you for all these videos. Much appreciated. You are helping people around the world by doing what you do. More power to you 💯
Hello ! simple ! ignore him !!!!!! and avoid him.
Thank you for this video. My wife invited my narcissist mother for Thanksgiving (without asking me first - had to set a new boundary there) so I really needed this. I've been able to keep a healthy distance but now I have 4 days of stress to deal with. Setting and enforcing boundaries is new to me but I'm getting there. I hope you have a wonderful holiday!
Yes I’m understanding this way as a means to having peace...this is a great vid...thanks
Thank you for sharing, this is my greatest challenge. I have two people in my life who are narcissists. Once I chanced one attribute this week, I find myself not talking to them as much.
How to end any argument in three sentences:
1) I'm sorry you feel that way, I have no right to tell you how to feel about me.
2) I guess I'll have to accept your faulty perception of me.
3) Your anger is not my responsibility.
Option # 2). This takes practice...you must say it in a non sarcastic way and from a point of sincerity.
"Have I done something to upset you? "
Oftentimes this alone will help a person to check themselves. Perhaps you have done something to upset them and you may not be aware. This lends an opportunity to engage in a meaningful resolution. Oftentimes the person will realize that you are not actually the issue and that their rage is something they don't like about them selves.
The key is to not let them trigger you to engage. Usually this behavior is due to some internal insecurities that one cant process internally so they project it outwards as a defensive mechanism.
Number 3 is key 🙂👌
Absolutely lovely advice. I just got out of a toxic relationship, and the person wasn't even a narcissist, yet your valuable perspective offered me some nuggets of wisdom that I intend to use to not just move on but grow stronger!
Extremely interesting Video. It was a learning experience. Thank you so very much LMB. 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️🌹🙏🙏😊
Something I'm living and learning you attract what you entertain. When you stop entertaining crazy or evil you stop attracting it to you.
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Thank you!! Needed this right now. 😃💙💙💙
Go no contact, do not justify your behaviour you're protecting yourself from harm. Love yourself and heal from abuse. Silence destroyed the Narcissists ego and made them powerless. They will give up and target a new supply.