I am so impressed with these videos. I was introduced to PDA when my son was about 7 and it just fit but I was told over and over again it was not an accepted diagnosis. He has PDD which is simply not enough to explain his behaviour at all. Then I found a small private school where within the first few weeks my son climbed in a cupboard in class one day bc he was upset about something. The teacher simply said leave him, he'll come out when he's ready. After a few minutes he came out, no one said anything and he never needed to do it again. Everything said in this video about creating an environment they can cope with is so true. He is now in uni and in his third year he no longer has a disability support. I wish I'd had videos like this to back up my arguments.
This is such an informative video, I'm working with a PDA child for the first time, and this is so helpful in understanding the diagnosis. I will watch the other videos. With thanks.
How do put this, or question it, if untreated at a younger age, do they become more like a person who has or later in life gets diagnosis as having borderline personality disorder?????? Because it sure sounds like it.....Or another way of asking you - what becomes of children with PDA when they grow up and who didn't get proper treatment at a earlier age ?
wow, you are describing my son, w live in Northumberland and my son has been out of school for 8 months.. The psychiatrist agrees PDA but will not diagnose it - have been referred to CNDS in Newcastle
Love your videos and agree with most info but disagree with the use of “manipulation” as a term to describe our ability to navigate social skills in order to navigate the often unsupportive environment that we find ourselves in. “Manipulation” is a rather judgemental term that implies the intent to harm or abuse the needs and interests of other people in order to meet one’s desires. In our case, it’s no different than a hostage attempting to use their social skills to ‘befriend’ and convince their captor to release them or improve their chances of survival. When it’s used in the context of PDA, it’s a survival strategy because in those moments while we may cognitively know that our lives are not in danger, our nervous systems reacts differently due to our extreme levels of anxiety (and the elevated heart rate, cortisol etc send signals of danger in the same way that being confronted with an armed intruder would). Contrary to popular belief, not all Autistic people (with or without PDA) are socially shallow or lacking in empathy - I certainly have both qualities in spades. Perhaps as children we are slower at picking up or understanding some social cues and concepts, but many of us have incredibly high IQ and can even develop a high EQ surpassing our neurotypical peers. I do wonder whether in some cases our delay in development in some of these areas are due to our incredibly sensitive and exhausting nervous systems that aren’t able to cope with the energy demands of existing in a world that is not built for us. That energy depletion also depletes the fuel for maintaining resilience to cope with change and demands, for learning and retaining skills and information, and for masking our externalised behaviours to avoid the stigma and ‘punishment’ from acting authentically. I most certainly don’t suspect that in yours due to the high quality videos you’ve produced on this topic demonstrating your great understanding of the needs and challenges of PDA folks, but the opposite is true for my family. At the very least, it’s not productive to focus on shaming or pathologising the experiences and often involuntary behaviours of the group of people we are trying to understand and support. I hope that makes sense. ☺️
Constant feedback, while they're NOT under stress! Praise after they've survived a nasty mess, and more positive feedback after every time they see or go through a messy time! Just like retraining an abused child or pet interfere first if you can, so up the mess after if you can't! Double up on the coping skills; and love at all times, otherwise, talk about triple what you'd usually say...!
I am so impressed with these videos. I was introduced to PDA when my son was about 7 and it just fit but I was told over and over again it was not an accepted diagnosis. He has PDD which is simply not enough to explain his behaviour at all. Then I found a small private school where within the first few weeks my son climbed in a cupboard in class one day bc he was upset about something. The teacher simply said leave him, he'll come out when he's ready. After a few minutes he came out, no one said anything and he never needed to do it again. Everything said in this video about creating an environment they can cope with is so true. He is now in uni and in his third year he no longer has a disability support. I wish I'd had videos like this to back up my arguments.
I am almost crying watching this. You are describing my son!
This is such an informative video, I'm working with a PDA child for the first time, and this is so helpful in understanding the diagnosis. I will watch the other videos. With thanks.
You have answered concerns I have had regarding my Granson and now having a small understanding of PDA. Thanks
My son got diagnosed with pda and this vid is good for explaining it so that I can understand it more
This is the story of my life!!
AMAIZING explanaison, thank so much!!
How do put this, or question it, if untreated at a younger age, do they become more like a person who has or later in life gets diagnosis as having borderline personality disorder?????? Because it sure sounds like it.....Or another way of asking you - what becomes of children with PDA when they grow up and who didn't get proper treatment at a earlier age ?
wow, you are describing my son, w live in Northumberland and my son has been out of school for 8 months.. The psychiatrist agrees PDA but will not diagnose it - have been referred to CNDS in Newcastle
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Thank you for this info. I very much appreciate your efforts to share you knowledge. :D
Love your videos and agree with most info but disagree with the use of “manipulation” as a term to describe our ability to navigate social skills in order to navigate the often unsupportive environment that we find ourselves in. “Manipulation” is a rather judgemental term that implies the intent to harm or abuse the needs and interests of other people in order to meet one’s desires. In our case, it’s no different than a hostage attempting to use their social skills to ‘befriend’ and convince their captor to release them or improve their chances of survival. When it’s used in the context of PDA, it’s a survival strategy because in those moments while we may cognitively know that our lives are not in danger, our nervous systems reacts differently due to our extreme levels of anxiety (and the elevated heart rate, cortisol etc send signals of danger in the same way that being confronted with an armed intruder would).
Contrary to popular belief, not all Autistic people (with or without PDA) are socially shallow or lacking in empathy - I certainly have both qualities in spades. Perhaps as children we are slower at picking up or understanding some social cues and concepts, but many of us have incredibly high IQ and can even develop a high EQ surpassing our neurotypical peers. I do wonder whether in some cases our delay in development in some of these areas are due to our incredibly sensitive and exhausting nervous systems that aren’t able to cope with the energy demands of existing in a world that is not built for us. That energy depletion also depletes the fuel for maintaining resilience to cope with change and demands, for learning and retaining skills and information, and for masking our externalised behaviours to avoid the stigma and ‘punishment’ from acting authentically. I most certainly don’t suspect that in yours due to the high quality videos you’ve produced on this topic demonstrating your great understanding of the needs and challenges of PDA folks, but the opposite is true for my family.
At the very least, it’s not productive to focus on shaming or pathologising the experiences and often involuntary behaviours of the group of people we are trying to understand and support.
I hope that makes sense. ☺️
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Great video!
Thanka :*.)
how can we teach skills to PDA children
Constant feedback, while they're NOT under stress! Praise after they've survived a nasty mess, and more positive feedback after every time they see or go through a messy time! Just like retraining an abused child or pet interfere first if you can, so up the mess after if you can't! Double up on the coping skills; and love at all times, otherwise, talk about triple what you'd usually say...!
What causes it