#4. Does my child have PDA? (part i) The diagnostic criteria
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ต.ค. 2024
- The first of two videos examining the diagnostic criteria for Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome and includes a potted history of my experience with my son.
My daughter is over 18 , still at home, can't clean her room, do laundry or cook for herself, and when it's demanded she gets so overwhelmed by it and askes question after question about how to do the thing that she should know how to already do.(manipulative) She has no insurance (we can't afford it) She has never held a job. She hardly ever drives and gets paranoid and unsure of herself when she does. I continue to take her to appointments. People say she's spoiled, people say I enable. I actually believe she cannot make it on her own. She is on medication for anxiety and depression. She has been diagnosed as a child with "oppositional defiant disorder" and now as an adult it is just "mood disorder", but I think the disorder in this video describes her exactly. Although she talked early, she did not crawl at all and only started "swimming" about a week before she stood and walked (at 14 mos- late). Thanks for this video. I'm not sure what to do next, but thanks for the info on this.
I’m just now discovering PDA. It is not widely talked about in the U.S. and I don’t think any of the people I consulted about my son even knew about it. With my son, tried and true parenting strategies seemed to make things worse, just as you said. “Oppositional Defiant” didn’t really seem to fit, he just seemed to need everything to be his idea. Out of necessity I have given him a great deal of autonomy - including his schooling and medical care. It is a difficult position for a parent to be in. It can be very isolating when your parenting style doesn’t match everyone else’s. I sure hope more American health care professionals are looking in to PDA so that parents can get some more support.
Great video and you could have been talking about our 14 year old's life. We live in France and seen 4 psychotherapist from the age of 8 and there has never been a diagnosis and in fact if anything the impression is that there must be family issues and that there are parenting issues. So finding out about PDA is a Revelation for us. 1 hour temper tantrums over very simple requests and power struggles where he would never back down seemed incredible. And the day after walking up as nothing ever happened the day before all seemed very strange. Our other son who is 16 operates like a normal teenager and responds to all the good parenting approaches as you would expect.
I have no doubt that you are correct. This underlines the importance of the correct support at an early age and support that continues into adulthood. Sadly, support culture seems to take a view that after 18 (or so) help is no longer required and that the worst of the difficulties are over.
I love your video series, sir. Do you have an email address so I can contact you?
good clear video well presented very informative
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Agree with all the below. This is a matter that needs much more research and clinical concern,
Thank you Thank you Thank you! wonderful video!
Once again! I can't listen to a whole Vid! so sorry. I just found you! At the mo, I'm failing to get LA to pay for referral to Elizabeth Newson Centre.
C's twin is diagnosed ASD, but C has (apparently!) anxiety, depression, behavioural problems, and an over indulgent parent!!! You are narrating my life! Will come back later! and try to watch.
Have you set up a hidden camera in my house? :D
they dont assess parents or environment when they make diagnosis which makes diagnoses more and more ropey as they aren't scientific and dsont use quantitative tests or biomarkers