My mom had 6 by the time I came along? I’m the 6th I pretty much did come with one lol. Until they found out I had a mild form of autism. That doesn’t mean nothing tho I am pretty high functioning.
As a mother of 3, I approve this message. Don't forget the random strangers who forget that your protruded belly is still part of your body and therefore not theirs to rub.
I would instinctually take two steps back every time someone randomly came up to talk to me. They kept getting too close while they were talking. Why?!
In church a woman came up to me, rubbed my belly, and asked when my baby was finally going to be born. I was so upset.... He had been born 2 weeks ago and was in the church nursery.
The church grapevine lacks greatly in your congregation. We know about people's grandchildren born in other states by the first available Sunday. Sorry, she upset you though. 😞
@@HosCreates It wasn't a large church, so there wasn't a lack of supervision issue. He was one of only 2 babies at that time, and maybe one toddler. Besides, I was only a 40 second walk to where he was if they needed me.
Solidarity. I had a lady at church ask me if I was expecting again AS I WAS HOLDING my two month old. That's not even physically possible. "It's left over from this one," I responded.
2:04 I literally SCREAMED when Mary roasted her "mom" about the great-grandmother's name being Agnes.😂💀 Matter of fact, that whole segment was great! The Pokémon reference caught me off guard too.😂😂
My ex husband and I had an agreement about the name. He got to choose the first name and I got to choose the middle. We also didn't find out the gender. I wanted to be able to choose a boy and girl name. My little peanut got my great grandmother's American name, but she has used the Norwegian name for summer camp.
All of y'all are too funny.😂 I'm just turned 25 this year and also got married earlier this year as well so I got some time before kids but I know I can't wait to be dad for sure!
@@MegaMadDog88 I listen to some fake stories on TH-cam when doing stuff, I call it cheap entertainment. My daughter will come over and listen with me. The look of total astonishment on her face almost makes me laugh harder. She's turning 22 soon. I was 24 when she was born. Having kids is fun, but is still hard work. Definitely take the baby classes. You will learn a lot. However, every baby is different, and they don't come with instructions.
As the mom of a ten month old, I appreciate every time someone asks if they can give advice first, but I appreciate the people who just say they remember it was hard.
As a single father who went through this with a daughter, let me know if you need any advice and/or hacks. Also, when the kid hits 18 and graduates from school, there won't be enough Kleenex in the world. It's a bitter-sweet moment... Awe Hell! Who's cutting onions now.
@@mickey2201 The best (read: worst) comments is when you “let” your kid have ‘too many snacks’ or do literally anything they expect a perfect Hallmark family wouldn’t do. “Oh what horrible, lazy parents!” I don’t even have kids but I know enough to know they’re in for a shock if they ever have to babysit for more than 2 minutes
I had an argument with my grandmother about NOT giving my daughter honey on her pacifier. 🤦🏻♀️ Told her doctor about the argument and she said "Thank goodness you have a brain." 🤣
I had no idea ppl really did this…I am..well, a spinster, but even I know babies can’t have honey! It’s also the only food that doesn’t expire. Useless additional fact cause I’m tired.
You can say why here…because honey, corn syrups other natural sweet syrups contain botulinum spores, which germinate in the high pH of a baby’s, who is only drinking milk, GI system (once eating solid food it’s not much of a problem). This causes infant botulism and according to my professors at the University of Wisconsin, at least 10% if not more, of reported SIDS cases are actually Infant Botulism.
I kept both my pregnancies a secret for as long as I possibly could for this very reason. And when people did finally find out, I wasn't exactly gracious about the endless advice and anecdotes. I started charging my coworkers money if they wanted me to answer questions, (when are you due, what are you having, do you have names picked out, yadda yadda...) It worked for a while, but eventually I had to resort to straight up telling people that I was still a person in my own right, I would like to talk about something other than babies for a change, and if you touch me again I will punch you in the throat.
@Nancy GS I understand the feeling! What if someone was fascinated with your boobs and insisted on touching and rubbing all over them?! Its the same thing!
lol that's brilliant. I wish I had the smarts to charge people for my answers. Our baby is born now, and dang are they pricey, right? 🤣 (We are ever-so grateful for hand-me-downs, though!)
I literally cringed at the "you're gonna pop any day now." The best advice we received for our first was that EVERYONE is going to have an opinion. Take the data and use what works for you. When our twins were born, the favorite comment was "I don't know how you can manage two infants..." Like we had a choice? It was a true team effort in everything.
One of my friends went through this with each of her pregnancies (she has 3 kids). I've heard so many stories from her. During her first pregnancy I was with her shopping at Target because she wanted my opinions and she was approached by a woman who heard her telling me she was trying to decide if she wanted it natural or an epidural. This lady said she "wasn't a real mom" if she had an epidural. She told her it was her first and I could see her getting upset because of being berated like that. I lost my shit and snapped at her. I asked if she was a mom and she said no. So I said "Then how do you know what's best for her? The pain from labor can be quite awful but it's not up to you to make the ** call! She will know when tbe time comes!" It went into a tirade up till the manager stepped in. She asked what was wrong and I told him. I forgot what she said but the manager told her to leave. He understood my friend's point because his wife went through it a few months prior. One week later her daughter was born and she had an Epidural. I was there with her for the birth because her husband was in the Navy. Sometimes you gotta stand up for what you want. You can listen to advice but do what you feel is best. Not everyone will have the exact same experience. 😊
Ryan's line "IT COMES OUT WHERE????" had me laughing too much. Also I am slightly concerned for the high school they went to. Did they not have health class? You know... where you'd learn about that... XD
Most US states don't even require Sex Ed to be medically accurate. Yeah, it's that bad. Quite a few only permit "abstinence only" curriculums. It's not standardized at all.
My health teacher showed us pictures of blobs that looked like the pokemon Ditto and literally told us all, this is what a baby looks like for the whole 9 months until it goes through the birth canal and thats what shapes them. - as a C-section baby myself; I shouted out that wasn't accurate nor were those pictures correct- he turned off the pictures but refused to speak to me for ages after that.
My school system only taught the abstinence approach to sexual education. No vital information pertaining to other options like, oh… I don’t know… SAFE SEX?!
My school had health but after the first day when the teacher made a huge deal about how she was going to spend so much time thoroughly teaching us sex Ed it was never mentioned again. Granted, it was Covid year, but I found out that one of my friends, who was a freshman in high school, did not know where her own vagina was. I doubt she knows where it is today
Oh, and as a Single Parent: Dad, the WORST advice I ever got were from the 20 to 35 (EDIT: year old) childless women. People with kids can give some stinkers of advice from time to time, but the childless women were consistently wrong. Also, they're the judgiest, too. I joked about putting my kid in a harness with one of those retractable leashes... Man did a room of those women get so pissy. Funny thing is, one of them started watching their sister's kid and apologized to me about the comments when she had to play Toddler Hide and Seek: Mall Store Edition. (Queue Yackety Sax music, because a Benny Hill chase scene is on like Donkey Kong.)
This is the funniest TH-cam comment I have read in ages. I've had to play Toddler Hide and Seek in Walmart and Kohl's, so I appreciate the Benny Hill reference.
Lol they should hire you to write for this channel. We had our first trip to ER for stitches playing that game. Rookie mom mistake was thinking we could for go a buggy to get one item. You can bet we got one of those harness before that first changing planes in crowded airport.
I had to put my youngest in a literal dog collar (hot pink, worn as a belt, with the buckle in back) on a 10’ leash. We went to a lot of auctions and flea markets, and Girlie was not only tiny and quick, she had zero impulse control. The men were never a problem; they thought it was genius. The women (esp. the childless ones) were rude. My baby was safe; she was comfortable. She could explore without getting lost. What else should I do?
I got a Wal-Mart put on lockdown when I was two or three because I was hiding in the clothes racks and apparently thought it was too funny to come out when I was called for. I only avoided a real ass whooping because my mother was so relieved to find me she wasn't even mad anymore. Not to that same extent but I had to find and wrangle my son from time to time when he was little. I don't care what non-parents say... those kids' backpacks with a leash are more important that any safety lock we ever had in our house.
A friend of mine who was a first time mom specifically asked people not to give pacifiers or bottles because “it goes against our parenting plan.” I’m no parent, but I still knew that wasn’t going to work. Sure enough, when I met baby he had a paci and needed bottles to supplement breast feeding 🤷🏻♀️
It seems like people come out of the woodwork to tell first time moms the most horrific delivery stories they know. It’s like some kind of weird competition to terrify the mom-to-be.
I really liked hearing the horror stories bc it prepared me for what could go wrong but also it let me process what I could do differently. I ended up with 4 easy, un-medicated, vaginal deliveries. Most of the horror stories I heard were from moms who put their head in the sand and assumed the hospital would take care of everything.
No joke. She needed to hear that about preK. I called around when my son was 5 mo old and was basically laughed at and one told me if I'd wanted in, I should have been on the list 4 yrs ago. 4 YEARS!!! WHO KNOWS THEY'RE HAVING A BABY 5 YEARS IN ADVANCE?!!
My advice? Listen to what others say and then decide what works for you and your family, you know your body and what is important to you. But be up for change in plans because it sure does happen. Oh, wait I do have one other important bit of advice. When choosing names, stand outside and yell the names you are deciding on, because some just don't work, every time I yelled my middle son's name, my voice would crack. Congratulations!
The thing that pisses me off the most is definitely people policing how others should give birth. SO rude and uncalled for. Every single situation is different and no plan is any less valid than any other 😡
If anyone ever tries to pull that with any of the women in my family I think I'm going to loudly tell them about how me, my mother, and my three siblings would all be dead if my mother had insisted on natural birth only
I handed a copy (I had one for me, my partner and a spare) of my birth plan to the nurse who took it to read over with her partner. She came back and asked if I was a scientist. Turns out yes I am! Had a good laugh at that.
And no plan is fool-proof. A lady may plan a natural birth as much as she wants, but emergencies happen in birth, and sometimes a C-section becomes necessary (unfortunately, in some places doctors still cannot do it without the patient's consent, even if it's a matter of life and death. Some people refuse to do it, killing either the mother, or the baby, or both).
I used to get harassed at church about when I was going to have children. It got so bad that I stopped going on Mother’s Day because of the comments I got.
I didn't mind everyone's advice for the most part because like all of life, I took what I felt fit and let the rest roll off. What I did mind was strangers coming up and rubbing my belly. It's still my body and I did not want anyone I didn't know and felt close to to touch it.
Ladies, say clearly no to this. Free yourself. My circle is very diverse and multicultural. I got so different feedback from everyone. It was so inconsistent even between Gyn and midwife and family doc. You are able to make the right decisions for yourself and your baby.
I will admit Ryan's advice about not needing a changing table was spot on. We had one for the first but just ended up using a gigantic changing pad on the floor or bed. Also ditched the diaper genie after a month. Never bought the wipe warmer. Same with the bottle warmer. Figured if they got used to either at home, there would be problems on the road. I had one friend who had to carry around a thermos of warm water because their baby wouldn't drink room temp formula after it got used to the bottle warmer at home! 🤣
As a Single Parent: Dad, I didn't have changing tables. The floor, bed, and the couch all worked just fine... (Yeah, the suggestion is a Dad Advice suggestion. You wouldn't hear mom's saying that stuff.)
We didn't have a changing table for our son either. My husband didn't want to spend the outrageous amount to get one, and I don't think they are very safe. (I knew someone who fell off of one as a baby and had brain damage. The floor worked just fine for us.)
changing table is a "like to have" but def not a need. We use the floor and bed WAY more than we ever use the changing table.... the changing table is just where we store the creams or whatever needed for those situations.... also clothes I haven't folded.... those end up there too lol.
I did it , I'm a mom. But who really likes getting up from the floor when they can be at optimal height and not hurt my back that's already tired and sore from bouncing said baby or baby wearing ?!
I’m a mom who doesn’t like having useless crap around the house, and I approve this message. We used the pack n play to change most of the time. I also started changing my kids standing up as soon as they could stand and it made them WAY less fussy at changes.
Yes, this video needed to be made. I am expecting in March and have gotten so much advice. Everyone has opinions, and sometimes it can get old, and you don't want to be mean.
If you need any advice let me know!! LOL. Totally joking! I'm a mom of a few children and can relate to soooo many of these comments. There are so many opinions and so much unsolicited advice from friends and family, even from complete strangers! It can get overwhelming. I just tried to take it all in stride and realized that most of them had good intentions and were totally thrilled for me. Best wishes to you!
"You don't want to be mean." Honey, I was meaner than a junkyard dog by the time I was seven months with my first one. 😂 I don't cuss, but I did just about everything else, including threatening to tase people if they touched me without permission. Don't be afraid to tell people to just hush up; it's good practice for after the baby is born, when EVERYONE has something to say about EVERYTHING you do as a parent. 🤦♀
Yes you do want to be mean at some point a simple I heard eating mixed nuts could help prevent nut allergies but idk. Done over one sentence then you get others you send articles, pictures, links and call if they remember some random detail or complete strangers demand to know your birth plan. You really want to tell them to jump of a cliff or hit them.
I have 6 kids...every pregnancy, birth, and kid is different. There is NO advice, only experience with your body and your baby. Congratulations and enjoy!!
I envy you! My baby is the only child born on either side! My MIL let it be known that my prayer for a baby girl with red hair was horrendous. As she called it "clown hair". My babys hair was and is so bright she glows in the dark. To add further insult my mom has red hair. But then my MILs MIL was a redhead too. She was just evil.
@@queenbee3647 I'm sorry to hear that. I was delighted mine ignored us because I didn't like how some of her kids turned out. But what your MIL is doing is truly evil.
Definitely so true y'all. My daughter is 17 now, but I still remember all the "advice" that I got from others. Not including all the nosy ones who claimed they were giving me advice.
One, congratulations to Mary Paterson! Two, this is so true, and Three, having a C-section was the scariest thing in my life, I rather have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-Section) and deal with the diaper issue.
I'm a VBAC kiddo! My mom had to have a C-section when my oldest brother didn't turn all the way. The rest of us (four) were all much easier on her body.
Totally agree about the c-sections, mine was the worst as far as recovery goes. VBACs are normal nowadays (if your doctor doesn't have a really good reason why you can't, get somebody else), and if the diaper issue gets bad, physical therapy helps. Sincerely, 4-going-on-5-vbacs.
I don’t care what that dad said… I love the changing table/ dresser we got… I don’t care that the changing table part is really only good for year( son is getting too squiggly for it now to be fully safe). But as a tall person, it’s saved me bending over trying to do it in the crib or pack n play. With hard floors even with rugs I still preferred the changing table. Just out of convenience. But I got one that will serve as his dresser for several years, so not completely useless, and we can remove the changing table piece.
I don't have an opinion on anyone else's pregnancy or delivery or anything. Just do your best, and try not to mess your kid up more than you can help. Wait! Thought of one. Be careful with names. My ex brother in law had the initials W.A. D. & his mom got him monogrammed everything. His school life was rough.
Came to the advice rescue of a friend one time. It was lunch time, pregnancy of course was the topic (Actual experience not required for participation) . Started a conversation about morning sickness and constipation (It's pregnancy, deal with it). Subject was changed pretty durned quick. We were both smiling. Out right laughter would have been rude😜😝🤭
At a prenatal course we were told all the horror stories. Then asked “ any questions?” I answered. “Yes, now that you’ve talked us out if it, what do we do?”
TL:DR My fiancé and I have already discussed what our plans are when regarding if we have a family. I say if because if we’re not financially or mentally stable for a kid, why have one? With names, we pick one that we like and we’re sticking to it. If you don’t like it, oh well because it’s not your baby. I will ask for advice if I need it and I’ll be researching everything you tell me with my doctor/pediatrician, don’t try to make my overthinking even worse by filling my head with things like “oh you’re doing that wrong so now your kid is going to be messed up. And it’s all your fault.” I also don’t care if you’re family but if you’re a toxic person or very unhealthy (mentally and emotionally wise) then you are not a part of our and our family’s lives. I know what I’m saying seems rude or “un-Southern” but that’s just how I feel.
Haha so true! I went out to dinner with my family on my due date (I was over a week late). Went to the bathroom and on my way out a random drunk lady was ranting and raving to her friend about the men in her life… she was blocking the door to get out and when she saw me ready to pop she fussed all over me, giving me her expert grandma advice, and kissed my belly! Her friend was mortified and apologized! I couldn’t keep a straight face. 😂😅 when I came out my family was wondering why I took so long!
Mama knows best. Not ur mama, u the Mama. Listen to yourself above all else. Youll be just fine. ❤ Just had my first this spring. Had to learn some hard lessons about listening to advice. Turns out im rockin it my way.
Example. Cousin number 1 HELPED me plan my Dad's memorial service. Cousin number 2, CHANGED the date of my Dad's memorial service without even asking me.
I don’t give advice unless someone asks for it. I will say the whole goal of labor and delivery? For mom and baby to survive it, and be healthy after. Everything else is gravy. But given maternal-fetal mortality rates? The real goal is living through the experience.
@@KimberlyGreen Yes, my Grandmother named all her 8 children from Biblical names. But that doesn't make the name any more attractive, unfortunately, even if someone knows that the name is Biblical. I have a sister named Kimberly, too.
@@laurabentley937 Lol, hopefully you have a more positive association with 'Kimberly'. I'll admit that, as a kiddo, I thought her name was odd. But since knowing its meaning, I personally think it's nice.
Omgoodness yes this is true. I got so much advice during my pregnancies (I'm naturally thin so I popped early.) The worst is when they assume you're a teen mom cause you're shopping with the grandparents. Thankfully no one came up and touched me, several ladies prayed over my bump though and that was nice :) Best advice, ask if they want advice or need anything. If they say no, wish them and baby well and move on. Growing a person is hard on our bodies and minds. No need to add more worries or concerns
This video literally triggered some apparent pregnancy-PTSD in me haha, I got a bit of anxiety remembering my 3 pregnancies and these kinds of unwelcome interactions.
So accurate, And heaven forbid they find out you're having a boy, Then random strangers wanna talk to you in Walmart about circumcision. It's like excuse me ma'am I don't know you we're not gonna talk about this
Mom spent over 24 hours in the hospital trying to get me out 😳 She did everything 1984 experts recommended, but I came out with all the health problems 😛 Genetics, y'all.
Exactly. There's a lot of set-in-stone crap that none of the avocados, scented oils, and pre-natal vitamins in the WORLD can help with. Plus, it constantly feels like every 10 years we find out the stuff people recommended expectant moms to do previously, ended up actually being not good.
@@BlackTigr I think the desire for a feeling of control motivates a lot of it. It’s easier for a stranger to blame my autism on Mom giving me the MMR shot than admitting that I was conceived with it.
@@ARasputinaFan My last two babies....I was induced and in active labor for about 72 hours. Oh, and the epidural did not work. But, I am most thankful that, no matter how much pain I endured, I have wonderful babies that grew up to become kind, caring, considerate and loving adults---one with a big family of her own (her husband's, too, of course ).
Loved this one. The bond between Granddad, Pops, or what ever they call them, is so special. It shapes a child in more ways than people realize. Mine was Granddaddy. He died when I was in 5th grade and I still remember him and my time with him decades later.
the baby girl should have a sturdy old school name like: hortense, mabeline, myrtle or gertrude. a sturdy name would start building her character before she was even born. 😂
Pregnancy is pain. Honestly it's amazing what women go through and that they can do that sometimes more then one I know a family that has eight kids (not going to name names for privacy reasons)
I met a lady at my church who had 16 children (several sets of twins along with the singles, but STILL!) and my mouth kept falling open listening to her stories 😮
This is so true. And it doesn’t stop after they are born. Neighbours literally asked as I was walking through my front door post birth when I was going to give them a sibling. 😂😭😅 Also I was only in active labor for 12 minutes and it wasn’t that bad.
I agree with the grandmother on that particular outfit jeans/jean material is to rough on baby skin and it is difficult for baby's/young children to walk,crawl and move in that kind of material.
Good on you. I think giving children their own name rather than just reusing someone else’s in the family is nice. I have an extremely unique name and I love it. Even if Silence did give me a lot of grief in school.
I’m always super hesitant to offer advice because I know that in general, people just don’t want it. I don’t have any children, but I did have a miscarriage after 9 weeks. And I’ve been around expecting women and babies my ENTIRE life. I have 7 younger siblings, and ever since my mom stopped having babies I’ve been babysitting or nannying. I’m just saying, I’ve observed a thing or 2!
I hear you. Oldest of 8 children here and was my mother's right hand and left foot. The amount of responsibility I had was beyond what was best but I never didn't want children. Finally was blessed with my own but it is absolutely nothing like being the oldest sister. That prepared me in a lot of ways to be the best caregiver to my children that I could be but parenting your own is an entirely different thing then helping out with offspring and nieces and nephews. It is amazing
@@living4mylord I’m glad you have your own now. :) My mom was awesome and I never felt like she took advantage of my help, but I sure did plenty! I’m amazed at how deeply I can love my nieces and nephews and the children I care for - I’m not sure I’ll be fully prepared for it when I finally have my own. I’ve been single for several years now, but I still have some years left and haven’t given up hope of having my own babies.
OML! Imagine - three whole hours of labor! Give that woman a 🏆. At 97 hours induced three weeks overdue I feel so inadequate. But she sure was pretty. ❤️
Mother of three adult children here. Hearing advice from people with children could get bothersome, but some things were helpful. The ones I wanted to sentence (yes, sentence) to a full week of taking care of children on their own were the non parents that were not employed in child care. They had plenty of advice to give, but minding someone's children for a couple hours a week and not all day long (be that full time work shift for childcare people or 24 hr watch for parents) is a whole other ballgame.
Advice for the ones buying gifts for babies, diapers! Diapers are the best gifts for new borns. And they cost the same if not cheaper than monogram outfits. Many thanks from a mom. 😂
This was hilarious but I am on the other end of the spectrum. I LOVE having random people come up to me and touch my belly and wish my baby well. It’s such an amazing time of life and it lasts such a short time. I love hearing old women tell me their birth stories like it happened yesterday. I love hearing the dramatic horror birth stories and the nightmare infants that never slept. I love being reminded that it passes too quickly. And in all of those stories, the advice that I received was better than anything on google. Pregnancy and birth have such a wide range of possibilities. I definitely wanted to hear from a variety of women about what worked, what didn’t and what they’d do differently. I ended up with 4 easy un-medicated vaginal deliveries. I experienced very minor postpartum depression that I was prepared for and had antidotes to get me through it faster. I nursed all 4 with minor discomfort and 0 latch issues. And I attribute all of my success to being willing to hear people. Wisdom from previous generations is gold. Btw why baby is 2 and I can’t wait to have another.
Yes Lissa, my baby is 26 now, and I loved to hear about everything, how to bathe, breastfeed or bottle, postpartum care, that your husband have to wait 40 days or more before, you know what;) strangers touching your belly, wishing you the best for that day God forbid if you have a c section! But if you ended with one, then everyone will step up and help with house and baby, so much pampering, you can hear the ladies in the kitchen doing prep meals saying, in my days a real woman have babies the old way 😁 I really appreciate all of the information and help that they provided. I always keep to myself and never offer advice or nice words, unless mom to be wanted.
Of all the things I went through, what I hated most was when people tried to touch, kiss or have ANY kind of physical interaction with my son. And then when you say something they act like the victim. I don't care how long ive known you don't touch without permission. Then there were the women who had their kids taken away cuz of their dumb decisions in life (I actually knew them and what happened) trying to give me parenting advice and I'm thinking to myself why didn't you take your own advice?
Omg! So true about keeping the name a secret. I made that mistake with my 1st choice & all my family said how much they hated it & thought of names he would be called in school. Kept my mouth shut after that until he was born. Even though some of my family still didn't approve of my 2nd choice name, cuddling baby shut them right up! 😋👶
I’ve had 3 babies. When giving advice, I always just say “Just follow your gut.” If you’re 1) not an idiot 2) have decent maternal instincts and 3) have ability to adapt to situations quickly, you’ll be fine. Lol
They say having a child doesn't come with a manual. But it sure comes with a panel of experts. 🙄
And all self appointed!
Well said. And that whole public property belly thing is just creepy
@@nobodysbaby5048 so is the crop-top type maternity clothes. I dont wanna see that sht!
My mom had 6 by the time I came along? I’m the 6th I pretty much did come with one lol. Until they found out I had a mild form of autism. That doesn’t mean nothing tho I am pretty high functioning.
Actually there are scores of parenting books ;)
As a mother of 3, I approve this message. Don't forget the random strangers who forget that your protruded belly is still part of your body and therefore not theirs to rub.
Same, Girl, same. 🤦🏻♀️ Why do strangers think they can just touch your bump?!?🙄
Who does that???
That's what I have to look forward to if I have kids? Weird
I'm a large bearded man, and I occasionally have the same problem...weird
I would instinctually take two steps back every time someone randomly came up to talk to me. They kept getting too close while they were talking. Why?!
In church a woman came up to me, rubbed my belly, and asked when my baby was finally going to be born. I was so upset.... He had been born 2 weeks ago and was in the church nursery.
I hear ya! I had a similar experience, minus the belly rub. 😄
wait they take your babies at 2weeks at church?! ours doesnt take babies until 1 year
The church grapevine lacks greatly in your congregation. We know about people's grandchildren born in other states by the first available Sunday.
Sorry, she upset you though. 😞
@@HosCreates It wasn't a large church, so there wasn't a lack of supervision issue. He was one of only 2 babies at that time, and maybe one toddler. Besides, I was only a 40 second walk to where he was if they needed me.
Solidarity. I had a lady at church ask me if I was expecting again AS I WAS HOLDING my two month old. That's not even physically possible. "It's left over from this one," I responded.
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I literally SCREAMED when Mary roasted her "mom" about the great-grandmother's name being Agnes.😂💀 Matter of fact, that whole segment was great! The Pokémon reference caught me off guard too.😂😂
My ex husband and I had an agreement about the name. He got to choose the first name and I got to choose the middle. We also didn't find out the gender. I wanted to be able to choose a boy and girl name. My little peanut got my great grandmother's American name, but she has used the Norwegian name for summer camp.
I enjoyed that Pokemon reference. It's so true, some names I have heard do sound like Pokemon although I would never say that to anyone.
I know 2 kids named after Pokémon characters. I work at a school.
All of y'all are too funny.😂
I'm just turned 25 this year and also got married earlier this year as well so I got some time before kids but I know I can't wait to be dad for sure!
@@MegaMadDog88 I listen to some fake stories on TH-cam when doing stuff, I call it cheap entertainment. My daughter will come over and listen with me. The look of total astonishment on her face almost makes me laugh harder. She's turning 22 soon. I was 24 when she was born. Having kids is fun, but is still hard work. Definitely take the baby classes. You will learn a lot. However, every baby is different, and they don't come with instructions.
As the mom of a ten month old, I appreciate every time someone asks if they can give advice first, but I appreciate the people who just say they remember it was hard.
As a single father who went through this with a daughter, let me know if you need any advice and/or hacks.
Also, when the kid hits 18 and graduates from school, there won't be enough Kleenex in the world. It's a bitter-sweet moment... Awe Hell! Who's cutting onions now.
I have to admit I didn't appreciate the years of parenting advice my sister gave me as she chose to not have children. ;)
Everyone who gives me parenting advice doesn’t have children
@@mickey2201 The best (read: worst) comments is when you “let” your kid have ‘too many snacks’ or do literally anything they expect a perfect Hallmark family wouldn’t do. “Oh what horrible, lazy parents!” I don’t even have kids but I know enough to know they’re in for a shock if they ever have to babysit for more than 2 minutes
I had an argument with my grandmother about NOT giving my daughter honey on her pacifier. 🤦🏻♀️ Told her doctor about the argument and she said "Thank goodness you have a brain." 🤣
My grandma was the same way.
My granny suggested I give my baby some sugar water 😂
I had no idea ppl really did this…I am..well, a spinster, but even I know babies can’t have honey! It’s also the only food that doesn’t expire. Useless additional fact cause I’m tired.
@@Miss_Camel 😄😂😁
You can say why here…because honey, corn syrups other natural sweet syrups contain botulinum spores, which germinate in the high pH of a baby’s, who is only drinking milk, GI system (once eating solid food it’s not much of a problem). This causes infant botulism and according to my professors at the University of Wisconsin, at least 10% if not more, of reported SIDS cases are actually Infant Botulism.
I kept both my pregnancies a secret for as long as I possibly could for this very reason. And when people did finally find out, I wasn't exactly gracious about the endless advice and anecdotes. I started charging my coworkers money if they wanted me to answer questions, (when are you due, what are you having, do you have names picked out, yadda yadda...) It worked for a while, but eventually I had to resort to straight up telling people that I was still a person in my own right, I would like to talk about something other than babies for a change, and if you touch me again I will punch you in the throat.
You sound like a joy to be around.
@@ngs5554
She kinda sounds like she’s at the end of her rope
@Nancy GS I understand the feeling! What if someone was fascinated with your boobs and insisted on touching and rubbing all over them?! Its the same thing!
lol that's brilliant. I wish I had the smarts to charge people for my answers.
Our baby is born now, and dang are they pricey, right? 🤣 (We are ever-so grateful for hand-me-downs, though!)
I literally cringed at the "you're gonna pop any day now." The best advice we received for our first was that EVERYONE is going to have an opinion. Take the data and use what works for you. When our twins were born, the favorite comment was "I don't know how you can manage two infants..." Like we had a choice? It was a true team effort in everything.
Nooo Touching
No Touching
Unless you want me to feel you up.
No Touching!
Why is this a thing? Hands off! Period! It isn't hard.
Loved the line about being a midwife and making other deliveries! 😆
"What are the trying to name, a baby or a pokemon?" That one got me. That was effing funny.
One of my friends went through this with each of her pregnancies (she has 3 kids). I've heard so many stories from her. During her first pregnancy I was with her shopping at Target because she wanted my opinions and she was approached by a woman who heard her telling me she was trying to decide if she wanted it natural or an epidural. This lady said she "wasn't a real mom" if she had an epidural. She told her it was her first and I could see her getting upset because of being berated like that. I lost my shit and snapped at her. I asked if she was a mom and she said no. So I said "Then how do you know what's best for her? The pain from labor can be quite awful but it's not up to you to make the ** call! She will know when tbe time comes!" It went into a tirade up till the manager stepped in. She asked what was wrong and I told him. I forgot what she said but the manager told her to leave. He understood my friend's point because his wife went through it a few months prior. One week later her daughter was born and she had an Epidural. I was there with her for the birth because her husband was in the Navy. Sometimes you gotta stand up for what you want. You can listen to advice but do what you feel is best. Not everyone will have the exact same experience. 😊
I DIED when the dog started giving advice!
Ryan's line "IT COMES OUT WHERE????" had me laughing too much. Also I am slightly concerned for the high school they went to. Did they not have health class? You know... where you'd learn about that... XD
Sadly, there are many school systems in the US that don't teach it at all.
Most US states don't even require Sex Ed to be medically accurate. Yeah, it's that bad. Quite a few only permit "abstinence only" curriculums. It's not standardized at all.
My health teacher showed us pictures of blobs that looked like the pokemon Ditto and literally told us all, this is what a baby looks like for the whole 9 months until it goes through the birth canal and thats what shapes them.
- as a C-section baby myself; I shouted out that wasn't accurate nor were those pictures correct- he turned off the pictures but refused to speak to me for ages after that.
My school system only taught the abstinence approach to sexual education. No vital information pertaining to other options like, oh… I don’t know… SAFE SEX?!
My school had health but after the first day when the teacher made a huge deal about how she was going to spend so much time thoroughly teaching us sex Ed it was never mentioned again. Granted, it was Covid year, but I found out that one of my friends, who was a freshman in high school, did not know where her own vagina was. I doubt she knows where it is today
Oh, and as a Single Parent: Dad, the WORST advice I ever got were from the 20 to 35 (EDIT: year old) childless women. People with kids can give some stinkers of advice from time to time, but the childless women were consistently wrong. Also, they're the judgiest, too. I joked about putting my kid in a harness with one of those retractable leashes... Man did a room of those women get so pissy. Funny thing is, one of them started watching their sister's kid and apologized to me about the comments when she had to play Toddler Hide and Seek: Mall Store Edition. (Queue Yackety Sax music, because a Benny Hill chase scene is on like Donkey Kong.)
This is the funniest TH-cam comment I have read in ages. I've had to play Toddler Hide and Seek in Walmart and Kohl's, so I appreciate the Benny Hill reference.
Lol they should hire you to write for this channel. We had our first trip to ER for stitches playing that game. Rookie mom mistake was thinking we could for go a buggy to get one item. You can bet we got one of those harness before that first changing planes in crowded airport.
I had to put my youngest in a literal dog collar (hot pink, worn as a belt, with the buckle in back) on a 10’ leash. We went to a lot of auctions and flea markets, and Girlie was not only tiny and quick, she had zero impulse control.
The men were never a problem; they thought it was genius. The women (esp. the childless ones) were rude.
My baby was safe; she was comfortable. She could explore without getting lost. What else should I do?
I got a Wal-Mart put on lockdown when I was two or three because I was hiding in the clothes racks and apparently thought it was too funny to come out when I was called for. I only avoided a real ass whooping because my mother was so relieved to find me she wasn't even mad anymore.
Not to that same extent but I had to find and wrangle my son from time to time when he was little. I don't care what non-parents say... those kids' backpacks with a leash are more important that any safety lock we ever had in our house.
A friend of mine who was a first time mom specifically asked people not to give pacifiers or bottles because “it goes against our parenting plan.” I’m no parent, but I still knew that wasn’t going to work. Sure enough, when I met baby he had a paci and needed bottles to supplement breast feeding 🤷🏻♀️
It seems like people come out of the woodwork to tell first time moms the most horrific delivery stories they know. It’s like some kind of weird competition to terrify the mom-to-be.
Here, have my unprocessed trauma!
I had a c-section. It was easy😂🤷♀️ definitely doing that again!😂
OMG, yes! By the time I got there, I had ahorror story for every stage of labor and delivery! I was terrified!
I really liked hearing the horror stories bc it prepared me for what could go wrong but also it let me process what I could do differently.
I ended up with 4 easy, un-medicated, vaginal deliveries. Most of the horror stories I heard were from moms who put their head in the sand and assumed the hospital would take care of everything.
No joke. She needed to hear that about preK. I called around when my son was 5 mo old and was basically laughed at and one told me if I'd wanted in, I should have been on the list 4 yrs ago. 4 YEARS!!! WHO KNOWS THEY'RE HAVING A BABY 5 YEARS IN ADVANCE?!!
My advice? Listen to what others say and then decide what works for you and your family, you know your body and what is important to you. But be up for change in plans because it sure does happen. Oh, wait I do have one other important bit of advice. When choosing names, stand outside and yell the names you are deciding on, because some just don't work, every time I yelled my middle son's name, my voice would crack. Congratulations!
That is so true! Which part you ask...all of it.
This is great advice! As a mom of 4, I approve!
The thing that pisses me off the most is definitely people policing how others should give birth. SO rude and uncalled for. Every single situation is different and no plan is any less valid than any other 😡
It ticked me off when someone stated that if a baby is born via c-section the mom is "not a real mom" total bullsh*t
And also some postpartum matters. News flash, not everyone can breastfeed Janet
If anyone ever tries to pull that with any of the women in my family I think I'm going to loudly tell them about how me, my mother, and my three siblings would all be dead if my mother had insisted on natural birth only
I handed a copy (I had one for me, my partner and a spare) of my birth plan to the nurse who took it to read over with her partner. She came back and asked if I was a scientist. Turns out yes I am! Had a good laugh at that.
And no plan is fool-proof. A lady may plan a natural birth as much as she wants, but emergencies happen in birth, and sometimes a C-section becomes necessary (unfortunately, in some places doctors still cannot do it without the patient's consent, even if it's a matter of life and death. Some people refuse to do it, killing either the mother, or the baby, or both).
I used to get harassed at church about when I was going to have children. It got so bad that I stopped going on Mother’s Day because of the comments I got.
I didn't mind everyone's advice for the most part because like all of life, I took what I felt fit and let the rest roll off. What I did mind was strangers coming up and rubbing my belly. It's still my body and I did not want anyone I didn't know and felt close to to touch it.
I got SO MUCH pregnancy advice….from an aunt who never had kids, never wanted kids, hated kids…
OMG me too! She also had the nerve to send me links to different birth classes and was pissed when I decided that I was not going to take any of them!
😂
Ladies, say clearly no to this. Free yourself. My circle is very diverse and multicultural. I got so different feedback from everyone. It was so inconsistent even between Gyn and midwife and family doc.
You are able to make the right decisions for yourself and your baby.
I just love the grandmother! Put her in more videos!
I will admit Ryan's advice about not needing a changing table was spot on. We had one for the first but just ended up using a gigantic changing pad on the floor or bed. Also ditched the diaper genie after a month. Never bought the wipe warmer. Same with the bottle warmer. Figured if they got used to either at home, there would be problems on the road. I had one friend who had to carry around a thermos of warm water because their baby wouldn't drink room temp formula after it got used to the bottle warmer at home! 🤣
As a Single Parent: Dad, I didn't have changing tables. The floor, bed, and the couch all worked just fine... (Yeah, the suggestion is a Dad Advice suggestion. You wouldn't hear mom's saying that stuff.)
We didn't have a changing table for our son either. My husband didn't want to spend the outrageous amount to get one, and I don't think they are very safe. (I knew someone who fell off of one as a baby and had brain damage. The floor worked just fine for us.)
changing table is a "like to have" but def not a need.
We use the floor and bed WAY more than we ever use the changing table.... the changing table is just where we store the creams or whatever needed for those situations.... also clothes I haven't folded.... those end up there too lol.
I did it , I'm a mom. But who really likes getting up from the floor when they can be at optimal height and not hurt my back that's already tired and sore from bouncing said baby or baby wearing ?!
I’m a mom who doesn’t like having useless crap around the house, and I approve this message. We used the pack n play to change most of the time. I also started changing my kids standing up as soon as they could stand and it made them WAY less fussy at changes.
Must you make EVERYTHING about gender? I used the floor and bed just fine, thank you, and I'm a Mum.
I have 4 children. I have spoken to all these people! Every single time!!!! You do you boo!
Yes, this video needed to be made. I am expecting in March and have gotten so much advice. Everyone has opinions, and sometimes it can get old, and you don't want to be mean.
If you need any advice let me know!! LOL. Totally joking! I'm a mom of a few children and can relate to soooo many of these comments. There are so many opinions and so much unsolicited advice from friends and family, even from complete strangers! It can get overwhelming. I just tried to take it all in stride and realized that most of them had good intentions and were totally thrilled for me. Best wishes to you!
"You don't want to be mean." Honey, I was meaner than a junkyard dog by the time I was seven months with my first one. 😂 I don't cuss, but I did just about everything else, including threatening to tase people if they touched me without permission. Don't be afraid to tell people to just hush up; it's good practice for after the baby is born, when EVERYONE has something to say about EVERYTHING you do as a parent. 🤦♀
Yes you do want to be mean at some point a simple I heard eating mixed nuts could help prevent nut allergies but idk. Done over one sentence then you get others you send articles, pictures, links and call if they remember some random detail or complete strangers demand to know your birth plan. You really want to tell them to jump of a cliff or hit them.
I have 6 kids...every pregnancy, birth, and kid is different. There is NO advice, only experience with your body and your baby. Congratulations and enjoy!!
"I do other types of deliveries you know" - awesome line
Love it, especially at the end when the dog gave advice.
The only person who didn't give me advice was mother-in-law. She already had so many grandkids from her 3 daughters, mine got lost in the shuffle!
I envy you! My baby is the only child born on either side! My MIL let it be known that my prayer for a baby girl with red hair was horrendous. As she called it "clown hair". My babys hair was and is so bright she glows in the dark. To add further insult my mom has red hair. But then my MILs MIL was a redhead too. She was just evil.
@@queenbee3647 I'm sorry to hear that. I was delighted mine ignored us because I didn't like how some of her kids turned out. But what your MIL is doing is truly evil.
@@queenbee3647 Red hair is _beautiful._ Any and every shade. I have a niece with coppery Anne Shirley hair. It's gorgeous.
"It comes out WHERE?" So funny!
Piggly Wiggly - I remember frequenting that supermarket in Tennessee around twelve years ago.
Definitely so true y'all. My daughter is 17 now, but I still remember all the "advice" that I got from others. Not including all the nosy ones who claimed they were giving me advice.
"Babies wear baby clothes, not mini adult clothes." Yes. I agree.
I kept being told, “Everything is going to change!” and was ready to scream at the constant repetition
The guy in the parking lot launching right into advice -- I nearly died 🤣
One, congratulations to Mary Paterson! Two, this is so true, and Three, having a C-section was the scariest thing in my life, I rather have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-Section) and deal with the diaper issue.
I'm a VBAC kiddo! My mom had to have a C-section when my oldest brother didn't turn all the way. The rest of us (four) were all much easier on her body.
Totally agree about the c-sections, mine was the worst as far as recovery goes. VBACs are normal nowadays (if your doctor doesn't have a really good reason why you can't, get somebody else), and if the diaper issue gets bad, physical therapy helps. Sincerely, 4-going-on-5-vbacs.
@@mandywinter8871 Thank you so much! It gives me hope
Just to add my voice - I had two VBACs, no issues. You can do it!
I don’t care what that dad said… I love the changing table/ dresser we got… I don’t care that the changing table part is really only good for year( son is getting too squiggly for it now to be fully safe). But as a tall person, it’s saved me bending over trying to do it in the crib or pack n play. With hard floors even with rugs I still preferred the changing table. Just out of convenience. But I got one that will serve as his dresser for several years, so not completely useless, and we can remove the changing table piece.
I don't have an opinion on anyone else's pregnancy or delivery or anything. Just do your best, and try not to mess your kid up more than you can help.
Wait! Thought of one. Be careful with names. My ex brother in law had the initials W.A. D. & his mom got him monogrammed everything.
His school life was rough.
had a friend, initials .... S.T.D
Could have been worse lol.
My husband is the proof checker on names for this reason!! He helps me think of some great ones😎
The daycare statement is on point!
Came to the advice rescue of a friend one time. It was lunch time, pregnancy of course was the topic (Actual experience not required for participation) . Started a conversation about morning sickness and constipation (It's pregnancy, deal with it). Subject was changed pretty durned quick. We were both smiling. Out right laughter would have been rude😜😝🤭
Mother of two lovely boys, both natural births. I was both chuckling and rolling my eyes at this! Good job, y'all!
this is so very true! heard alot of this during my three pregnancies
Are they trying to name a baby or a pokemon got me 😂
Nothing wrong with raleigh.
@@dancingghostgirl2291 For a pokemon.
Bruh when the grandma said Rayleigh I was so caught off guard cause that is on my list 😭😭😭
I actually really like that one. I think it sounds elegant, but maybe that’s just me.
I'm 59 and have never had a child, but this was hilarious!!!
At a prenatal course we were told all the horror stories. Then asked “ any questions?”
I answered. “Yes, now that you’ve talked us out if it, what do we do?”
TL:DR
My fiancé and I have already discussed what our plans are when regarding if we have a family.
I say if because if we’re not financially or mentally stable for a kid, why have one? With names, we pick one that we like and we’re sticking to it. If you don’t like it, oh well because it’s not your baby. I will ask for advice if I need it and I’ll be researching everything you tell me with my doctor/pediatrician, don’t try to make my overthinking even worse by filling my head with things like “oh you’re doing that wrong so now your kid is going to be messed up. And it’s all your fault.” I also don’t care if you’re family but if you’re a toxic person or very unhealthy (mentally and emotionally wise) then you are not a part of our and our family’s lives. I know what I’m saying seems rude or “un-Southern” but that’s just how I feel.
Haha so true! I went out to dinner with my family on my due date (I was over a week late). Went to the bathroom and on my way out a random drunk lady was ranting and raving to her friend about the men in her life… she was blocking the door to get out and when she saw me ready to pop she fussed all over me, giving me her expert grandma advice, and kissed my belly! Her friend was mortified and apologized! I couldn’t keep a straight face. 😂😅 when I came out my family was wondering why I took so long!
Can I just say y'all make my day...love every one of y'all! Keep up the great work.
Thanks guys this is pure talent! This is better than SNL LOL
Congrats Mary Patterson.
Mama knows best. Not ur mama, u the Mama. Listen to yourself above all else. Youll be just fine. ❤ Just had my first this spring. Had to learn some hard lessons about listening to advice. Turns out im rockin it my way.
This reminds me of my extended family. Not just in this area, but every area of everyone's life.
Example. Cousin number 1 HELPED me plan my Dad's memorial service. Cousin number 2, CHANGED the date of my Dad's memorial service without even asking me.
I don’t give advice unless someone asks for it. I will say the whole goal of labor and delivery? For mom and baby to survive it, and be healthy after. Everything else is gravy. But given maternal-fetal mortality rates? The real goal is living through the experience.
Yeah, I have an aunt named Agnes. Always considered it an unfortunate name, but her sister, my other aunt, is named Dorcas...that's even worse.
I have an aunt Dorcas. The name is Biblical and is the name of a woman who devoted her life to charity and acts of kindness.
@@KimberlyGreen Yes, my Grandmother named all her 8 children from Biblical names. But that doesn't make the name any more attractive, unfortunately, even if someone knows that the name is Biblical. I have a sister named Kimberly, too.
@@laurabentley937 Lol, hopefully you have a more positive association with 'Kimberly'. I'll admit that, as a kiddo, I thought her name was odd. But since knowing its meaning, I personally think it's nice.
I once had a co-worker named Dorcas.
@@KimberlyGreen yes, Kimberly, my sister Kim is the best sister ever!
I can relate to grandma. Loved the comment on the mother in laws choice of outfit. Definitely lived this!
Omgoodness yes this is true. I got so much advice during my pregnancies (I'm naturally thin so I popped early.) The worst is when they assume you're a teen mom cause you're shopping with the grandparents. Thankfully no one came up and touched me, several ladies prayed over my bump though and that was nice :)
Best advice, ask if they want advice or need anything. If they say no, wish them and baby well and move on. Growing a person is hard on our bodies and minds. No need to add more worries or concerns
Ah, I see the playing Mozart = smart baby is still popular.
This video literally triggered some apparent pregnancy-PTSD in me haha, I got a bit of anxiety remembering my 3 pregnancies and these kinds of unwelcome interactions.
Love the multi-character skits in different locations!
Y’all know you ain’t right, right?!!? 🤣
Oh please, please do a video about all the unwanted advice given to new moms.
That was pretty much this.....
@@living4mylord Nah - you get a whole new round of unsolicited advice after the baby is born.
So accurate, And heaven forbid they find out you're having a boy, Then random strangers wanna talk to you in Walmart about circumcision. It's like excuse me ma'am I don't know you we're not gonna talk about this
Mom spent over 24 hours in the hospital trying to get me out 😳 She did everything 1984 experts recommended, but I came out with all the health problems 😛 Genetics, y'all.
Exactly. There's a lot of set-in-stone crap that none of the avocados, scented oils, and pre-natal vitamins in the WORLD can help with. Plus, it constantly feels like every 10 years we find out the stuff people recommended expectant moms to do previously, ended up actually being not good.
@@BlackTigr I think the desire for a feeling of control motivates a lot of it. It’s easier for a stranger to blame my autism on Mom giving me the MMR shot than admitting that I was conceived with it.
Same here: my mom was 23.9 hours of labor and NO epidural in 85.
@@ARasputinaFan My last two babies....I was induced and in active labor for about 72 hours. Oh, and the epidural did not work. But, I am most thankful that, no matter how much pain I endured, I have wonderful babies that grew up to become kind, caring, considerate and loving adults---one with a big family of her own (her husband's, too, of course ).
Loved this one. The bond between Granddad, Pops, or what ever they call them, is so special. It shapes a child in more ways than people realize. Mine was Granddaddy. He died when I was in 5th grade and I still remember him and my time with him decades later.
changing tables are definitely a scam. so are wipe warmers and bottle warmers.
I have always appreciated how those that never had children are so FULL of advice of what you should do... Or what you're doing wrong! SMFH 😑
Diaper Genie FTW! yes, loved that... yeah Talia had the best practical advice. Unlike the other typical "experts"...
Lol Adam is like Kirk in Gilmore Girls. He's everywhere and can do anything in town!
😂💗
This. is. so. accurate 😂 It's both hilarious and sad how accurate.
Oh my, this is so true!!
the baby girl should have a sturdy old school name like: hortense, mabeline, myrtle or gertrude. a sturdy name would start building her character before she was even born. 😂
Pregnancy is pain. Honestly it's amazing what women go through and that they can do that sometimes more then one I know a family that has eight kids (not going to name names for privacy reasons)
I met a lady at my church who had 16 children (several sets of twins along with the singles, but STILL!) and my mouth kept falling open listening to her stories 😮
"I do other kinds of deliveries, you know" KILLED ME.
This is so true. And it doesn’t stop after they are born. Neighbours literally asked as I was walking through my front door post birth when I was going to give them a sibling. 😂😭😅
Also I was only in active labor for 12 minutes and it wasn’t that bad.
I agree with the grandmother on that particular outfit jeans/jean material is to rough on baby skin and it is difficult for baby's/young children to walk,crawl and move in that kind of material.
Two pieces of advice: 1) don't teach em to Walk. 2) don't teach em to Talk.
Oh! And be sure to start them out with Can't Bust Ems ™
They try to walk push em back down on their bottom!
This is my current favorite episode!!
The most important thing is a healthy Mama and Baby, whether a Natural Birth or C-section (I had three).
As a parent of a child with one of the Pokémon names mentioned, Agnes is not a name I would go for 🤣
Good on you. I think giving children their own name rather than just reusing someone else’s in the family is nice.
I have an extremely unique name and I love it. Even if Silence did give me a lot of grief in school.
tha dawg is my favorite part. YESSS
I’m always super hesitant to offer advice because I know that in general, people just don’t want it. I don’t have any children, but I did have a miscarriage after 9 weeks. And I’ve been around expecting women and babies my ENTIRE life. I have 7 younger siblings, and ever since my mom stopped having babies I’ve been babysitting or nannying. I’m just saying, I’ve observed a thing or 2!
I hear you. Oldest of 8 children here and was my mother's right hand and left foot. The amount of responsibility I had was beyond what was best but I never didn't want children. Finally was blessed with my own but it is absolutely nothing like being the oldest sister. That prepared me in a lot of ways to be the best caregiver to my children that I could be but parenting your own is an entirely different thing then helping out with offspring and nieces and nephews. It is amazing
@@living4mylord I’m glad you have your own now. :) My mom was awesome and I never felt like she took advantage of my help, but I sure did plenty! I’m amazed at how deeply I can love my nieces and nephews and the children I care for - I’m not sure I’ll be fully prepared for it when I finally have my own. I’ve been single for several years now, but I still have some years left and haven’t given up hope of having my own babies.
Perfection lol also fun to see MP and Leah again on screen.
Ok I busted out laughing when she said Pokémon. Don’t know why, just sounded funny for some reason.
"It comes out of where???" killed me.
oh my gosh this came out as I'm going to birthing class today so funny!
Oh, God! They’re at The Piggly Wiggly! It sure IS a Southern Thing! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
OML! Imagine - three whole hours of labor! Give that woman a 🏆. At 97 hours induced three weeks overdue I feel so inadequate. But she sure was pretty. ❤️
3 hours ACTIVE labor. That wasn't the entire labor time.
Mother of three adult children here. Hearing advice from people with children could get bothersome, but some things were helpful. The ones I wanted to sentence (yes, sentence) to a full week of taking care of children on their own were the non parents that were not employed in child care. They had plenty of advice to give, but minding someone's children for a couple hours a week and not all day long (be that full time work shift for childcare people or 24 hr watch for parents) is a whole other ballgame.
The Amazon delivery driver might have been the most disturbing of all lol
I’m 💀! My daughter’s name is Emma Kate. She’s a new mom now and has constantly received “advice”.
Love it. 😍 Lot's of love from Germany. ❤
Advice for the ones buying gifts for babies, diapers! Diapers are the best gifts for new borns. And they cost the same if not cheaper than monogram outfits.
Many thanks from a mom. 😂
This was hilarious but I am on the other end of the spectrum. I LOVE having random people come up to me and touch my belly and wish my baby well. It’s such an amazing time of life and it lasts such a short time. I love hearing old women tell me their birth stories like it happened yesterday. I love hearing the dramatic horror birth stories and the nightmare infants that never slept. I love being reminded that it passes too quickly. And in all of those stories, the advice that I received was better than anything on google. Pregnancy and birth have such a wide range of possibilities. I definitely wanted to hear from a variety of women about what worked, what didn’t and what they’d do differently. I ended up with 4 easy un-medicated vaginal deliveries. I experienced very minor postpartum depression that I was prepared for and had antidotes to get me through it faster. I nursed all 4 with minor discomfort and 0 latch issues. And I attribute all of my success to being willing to hear people. Wisdom from previous generations is gold. Btw why baby is 2 and I can’t wait to have another.
Yes Lissa, my baby is 26 now, and
I loved to hear about everything, how
to bathe, breastfeed or bottle, postpartum care, that your husband have to wait 40 days or more before,
you know what;) strangers touching your belly, wishing you the best for that day
God forbid if you have a c section!
But if you ended with one, then everyone will step up and help with house and baby, so much pampering, you can
hear the ladies in the kitchen doing prep
meals saying, in my days a real woman
have babies the old way 😁
I really appreciate all of the information and help that they provided.
I always keep to myself and never offer advice or nice words, unless mom to be
wanted.
Thank you! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Women have been having babies for thousands of years. You're gonna be fine, Momma.
I remember one of Talia's previous skits, which was more scary, about being in labor for hours and then the hospital lights went out.
LMAO!! I really needed a good laugh today! Thank you!
Of all the things I went through, what I hated most was when people tried to touch, kiss or have ANY kind of physical interaction with my son. And then when you say something they act like the victim. I don't care how long ive known you don't touch without permission. Then there were the women who had their kids taken away cuz of their dumb decisions in life (I actually knew them and what happened) trying to give me parenting advice and I'm thinking to myself why didn't you take your own advice?
Omg! So true about keeping the name a secret. I made that mistake with my 1st choice & all my family said how much they hated it & thought of names he would be called in school. Kept my mouth shut after that until he was born. Even though some of my family still didn't approve of my 2nd choice name, cuddling baby shut them right up! 😋👶
I’ve had 3 babies. When giving advice, I always just say “Just follow your gut.” If you’re 1) not an idiot 2) have decent maternal instincts and 3) have ability to adapt to situations quickly, you’ll be fine. Lol