You and Muzamil, as a couple, are GOALS, Masha Allah! I laugh so hard at videos you have made with him, the 7-second challenge, and many others :p I feel you both are insightful on different subjects and give thoughtful and intellectual content to your audience, so we are actually gaining a lot by hearing you both. Congratulations on being boss of your own and giving back to the society incredibly
This is such an accurate point. And people don’t talk about this much. A insecure person is a toxic partner and there’s no further debate to it. Thank you for explaining it so well.
Super happy to get the insights on what should we look for in a partner. There is no better way to get advice than from someone who is experienced first-hand. Thank you Humna! ❤️
So, humna you said that insecurity would lead to trust issues but don’t you think insecurity or security is sth that is inbuilt in us from the way you’re grown up? Like, It comes under the parenting of the mother, which makes a child secured or insecure since start and it’s not even his fault, no? Overcoming and working on it might work but maybe we have to do efforts for it together.
I agree to this to my very bone. Insecurities are indulged in a child from the very start, from his own home. Whatever he does, he can't completely eradicate out of him. They can learn to be more confident, work to elevate their self esteem, but they can't completely just remove them. Childhood traumas/insecurities are real man.
A great topic with amazing insights. Enjoyed the whole talk and learned many things too. Thank you for this ♥️♥️♥️♥️ Can we have more topics like this one, please?
My only question is that we can talk about all issues with a potential partner and what if in the time being they give answers that you feel satisfied with. And once your married life actually begins, they change 180° and don't uphold their word. How can one be sure of this?
Thank you hamna❤❤ this conversation is not only for unmarried Boys and girls. It is really thoughtful for the parents who are looking for the suitable person to add as a family member.
Hamna its so important to spread awareness about these things cz there was a time when girls and boys take these things as fairy tale and its high time to aware girls and boys about it ....so proud of you🥰👏so many prayers to ur way 🌺
Qualities to look out for in a partner before getting married? Most of the points she highlighted can only be experienced after marriage, and rest of them can only be verified if u r in a relationship with someone. The idea that most of people get into a marriage (in Pakistan) in an arranged setup donot have the liberty to explore much about the other person.
beautiful baatain, but i have seen the influence of mothers or sisters on the husbands a lot, so even if the husband has all these qualities one can't do much when theres a toxic influence of the mom or the sister upon him. so i think to be able to create a balance within both sides is important too
Hey Humna I wanted to ask something wrt not changing things in one's partner which doesn't affect them directly.. For eg. like in most households in our culture cleaning and organising is done by women (though it should be done by both equally) and what if the husband just doesn't maintain it at all. And doesn't even acknowledge that the wife is doing cleaning and he is making it untidy. And what about hygiene habits? Though I agree one cannot change overnight but in a good way one could request the other to bring about a change. Please do reply
Like if we have thousands of options to choose from. Lol. Not everyone is lucky to reject and select people on mere differences. Not all of us have choices.
One more point I would like to add. You got the definition of equality wrong. Yes I agree with you that both husband and wife should be given equal respect. However, men and women are different. Islam has given both equal respect however Islam has also put certain defined gender roles (which most women don’t like these days). So yes there are certain things which men are allowed to do which you can’t. Plain and simple. You cannot say that “oh you as a man can do this so i as a woman should do this as well” we are different. We are not the same.
If a guy has accidentally landed here like me, please take a note - Insecurity has nothing to do with Boundaries. Normally girls use the shaming language like he is toxic, insecure, possessive, jealous etc etc. don’t ever change yourself. Be upfront. Set boundaries from day 1 and manage expectations. Women need to be protected from themselves. They will “deliberately” put themselves and their relationships at risk. - Women like attention/seeking attention. Guys know why other men do what they do and they know about their mentality. Hence they protect their women to not put themselves into positions which jeopardise their relationship. Women think they are being in secure or jealous. Men are not insecure or jealous. They are TERRITORIAL. There is a difference @Humna - men are not intimidated by women earning more. Problem is, that when women earn more money, they do that because they have developed certain traits (usually masculine traits) and attitude which are actually quite unattractive to men.
You can listen to this podcast again! I don’t know what age you’re but if you too young for this then you can ask in the comments, may be humna or i can answer you question😊
i swear if you follow her advice you will end up with divorce, because her expectation is very unrealistic and she try to manuplate throughout the video especially the "insecure" part.
You and Muzamil, as a couple, are GOALS, Masha Allah! I laugh so hard at videos you have made with him, the 7-second challenge, and many others :p I feel you both are insightful on different subjects and give thoughtful and intellectual content to your audience, so we are actually gaining a lot by hearing you both. Congratulations on being boss of your own and giving back to the society incredibly
This is such an accurate point. And people don’t talk about this much. A insecure person is a toxic partner and there’s no further debate to it.
Thank you for explaining it so well.
I'm so happy to see that we are talking about these topics. ❤
Humna, this self-confidence part is hands down the foremost thing! Highly appreciated!
Super happy to get the insights on what should we look for in a partner. There is no better way to get advice than from someone who is experienced first-hand. Thank you Humna! ❤️
So, humna you said that insecurity would lead to trust issues but don’t you think insecurity or security is sth that is inbuilt in us from the way you’re grown up? Like, It comes under the parenting of the mother, which makes a child secured or insecure since start and it’s not even his fault, no? Overcoming and working on it might work but maybe we have to do efforts for it together.
I agree to this to my very bone. Insecurities are indulged in a child from the very start, from his own home. Whatever he does, he can't completely eradicate out of him. They can learn to be more confident, work to elevate their self esteem, but they can't completely just remove them. Childhood traumas/insecurities are real man.
💯 💯 💯 💯
A great topic with amazing insights. Enjoyed the whole talk and learned many things too.
Thank you for this ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Can we have more topics like this one, please?
thank you it was very helpful
My only question is that we can talk about all issues with a potential partner and what if in the time being they give answers that you feel satisfied with. And once your married life actually begins, they change 180° and don't uphold their word.
How can one be sure of this?
Thank you hamna❤❤ this conversation is not only for unmarried Boys and girls. It is really thoughtful for the parents who are looking for the suitable person to add as a family member.
You should please do more videos like, it was amazing .
You’re a blessing Humna🤍
Thank God someone is talking about this more power to you
The social life of a woman is so aptly put... Best video so far! 👏
This is such a important topic. Thank you so much for covering it beautifully 🤩♥️
every important point beautifully summed up humna
Kitni soothing voice hai hamna ki🥺♥️
Hamna its so important to spread awareness about these things cz there was a time when girls and boys take these things as fairy tale and its high time to aware girls and boys about it ....so proud of you🥰👏so many prayers to ur way 🌺
Love the insightful content you're making, plzmake more parts of it
I have a question. How it is possible in arrange marriage to talk about insecurities and figure it out that he is insecure ? Need to know.
Thank you for making such good content ❤️
They're really very practical tips, there should be series on it..
Qualities to look out for in a partner before getting married?
Most of the points she highlighted can only be experienced after marriage, and rest of them can only be verified if u r in a relationship with someone. The idea that most of people get into a marriage (in Pakistan) in an arranged setup donot have the liberty to explore much about the other person.
This was needed 💕
You go girl, thank you for this ♥️🌻
beautiful baatain, but i have seen the influence of mothers or sisters on the husbands a lot, so even if the husband has all these qualities one can't do much when theres a toxic influence of the mom or the sister upon him. so i think to be able to create a balance within both sides is important too
Thankyou for this content
Perfectly explained❤
Thanks a ton for this topic
This is so good
Thank you so much for this..It was really helpful especially coming from someone who has been living a successful haapy married life MashaAllah😍
Such a great topic ❤️
Hey Humna I wanted to ask something wrt not changing things in one's partner which doesn't affect them directly..
For eg. like in most households in our culture cleaning and organising is done by women (though it should be done by both equally) and what if the husband just doesn't maintain it at all. And doesn't even acknowledge that the wife is doing cleaning and he is making it untidy. And what about hygiene habits?
Though I agree one cannot change overnight but in a good way one could request the other to bring about a change.
Please do reply
Much needed
Beautiful said 👍
I m so inspired by her...
I would love to see if a student who's studying here supports a student who's studying .I'll be really glad and satisfied
Love this
It's great that you are telling girls these things but I feel boys must also know and learn these things.
Like if we have thousands of options to choose from. Lol. Not everyone is lucky to reject and select people on mere differences. Not all of us have choices.
Hi, which qultes I look in my life partner ask them who told a bout me if you having are these qultes then contact me
Good humna baji 👍
Nice!
Friends are really important you can't discuss everything with your spouse.
Good
Insecure partners will control you!
pretty green pinch ❤
Agree
One more point I would like to add.
You got the definition of equality wrong. Yes I agree with you that both husband and wife should be given equal respect.
However, men and women are different. Islam has given both equal respect however Islam has also put certain defined gender roles (which most women don’t like these days). So yes there are certain things which men are allowed to do which you can’t. Plain and simple. You cannot say that “oh you as a man can do this so i as a woman should do this as well” we are different. We are not the same.
💯💯💯💯💯
If a guy has accidentally landed here like me, please take a note
- Insecurity has nothing to do with Boundaries. Normally girls use the shaming language like he is toxic, insecure, possessive, jealous etc etc. don’t ever change yourself. Be upfront. Set boundaries from day 1 and manage expectations. Women need to be protected from themselves. They will “deliberately” put themselves and their relationships at risk.
- Women like attention/seeking attention. Guys know why other men do what they do and they know about their mentality. Hence they protect their women to not put themselves into positions which jeopardise their relationship. Women think they are being in secure or jealous. Men are not insecure or jealous. They are TERRITORIAL. There is a difference
@Humna - men are not intimidated by women earning more. Problem is, that when women earn more money, they do that because they have developed certain traits (usually masculine traits) and attitude which are actually quite unattractive to men.
Bht blended baat horhi ha SMj nhi aa rhi
You can listen to this podcast again! I don’t know what age you’re but if you too young for this then you can ask in the comments, may be humna or i can answer you question😊
i swear if you follow her advice you will end up with divorce, because her expectation is very unrealistic and she try to manuplate throughout the video especially the "insecure" part.
you should make a video from a man's perspective aswell please
Bry dhokay h is raah m 🥲
Please be to the point ... u use very irrelevant conversation