Both husband and wife want to be respected. It shouldn’t just be one sided. Respect goes both ways for sure. I’ve seen marriages fail and end terribly because a husband keeps disrespecting his wife and vice versa.
It doesn't work that way. Are you saying that Khadija (RA) only respected our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) because he was the greatest person to ever live in this Dunya? By you saying that, you are lowering Khadija (RA), Astaghfirullah. Khadija (RA) was a great woman even before she met our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam). The aim is not to first get respect and then to give it back, the aim is to give respect first. That's the way of Islam.
@@aminulhussain2751 First of all Allah made Muhammad (SAW) and Khadijah (RA) to be met through business because they were perfect for each other. That's what he meant. If you want to find a wife like Khadijah (RA) you need to become like of Muhammad (SAW) and Allah will guide their ways to be met with eachother.
It's not an ego problem though, it's about honer and respect in a husbands abillity and leadership. Even then, The Prophet (SAW) had "fights" with his beloved wives, such as Aisyah (RA), Hafsa (RA), etc. (Not Khadija (RA) though, atleast not in any hadith I know of). So there are boundries that should not be cross. Obviously, his patience is on a VERY differant scale since he has to try his best to be just and fair to 8-11 of his wives. And it's unfair to think men are as capable as The Prophet (SAW), because we're not and we will never will be. Only very few of us come a tiny bit close to that (Such as the Sahaba (RA), the man who hides his newly wedded wives illegitimate child, etc). Though we strive to life by his teaching and example, insyaallah. Off topic, as an average man, having that many wives is only a privilege if you act like "kings and emperors" (As in, a douchebag), only regarding them as "meetsacks" for reproduction purpose (Having child) or "toy", naudzubillah. Alhamdulillah, our Prophet (SAW) are above that and he is the example we try to emulate, insyaallah.
i think its the way Allah have built them like Allah have created women have a lot sensitive feelings, more gentle etc.. Mens have higher ego than women hence why this video advising us to let the men be self deluded if it have to. Wallahualam.
@@ITFDAVE you were taught on Instagram and tiktok so you most probably would be wrong lol. The prophet ﷺ majority of his wives (all but one) were either in his age bracket or older and were previously married. His wife Aisha Ra was married to him when she was 6. The prophet ﷺ had not touched her and consummated for an entire 3 yrs when he had the chance to. You have to really ask yourself that question why did he wait when he had 3 whole yrs to do what he wanted. Because she wasn't ready for consummation. He waited till she was physically ready, emotionally ready, psychologically ready, sexually ready and mentally ready to consummate. It's not like he married and instantly consummated the marriage or touched her. Look into your great great grandparents lives and see how early they'd get married
@@Ciksushi1803I think the men are being sensitive here saying “don’t point out my mistake it makes me feel disrespected” women don’t have that emotional issue
If a wife is correct and she directing her husband to right path..does that mean altering his big ego? Husband should also give respect to his wife not just love and nurture
Absolutely thats i do...i correct my husband many times and he do to me as well... If husband showed ego its doesn't make any sense even its ridicule and illiteracy .abusive men don't deserve respect.
Respect goes both ways! The example of the taking the wrong turn on the high way does not portray doubt. It could be noted as the wife trying to help...Very weak example to mention as doubting the husband's judgement!
Sometimes the wife makes a fuss over it and nag the husband, thus the example is used. "I knew I was right, you should've listened to me." Things like this occur and arguments arise. I strongly agree respect goes both ways, however I've come across women becoming less meek and obedient to their husband.
Sheikh Yasir, you could have covered this topic from both angles..men need more advice on how to be good husbands because majority of men turn out to be more narcassist than women statistically. Yes and ego is the big problem in men.
He has. On multiple occasions. Please watch his content . This is a 4 minute long clip. Most of his lectures are 30 min - 2 hours. His lectures are very balanced. More balanced than allot of other shiekhs out there.
If scholars talk in support for females thats great but when it comes in support for males everybody resist and tell it's no good.People need to realize it and should support the men too.
When women stop using jewelries and makeup, and fancy clothes during wedding ceremonies, then i will believe majority of men are narcissist. Till then, it is women. Regarding ego as problem in men though, i agree with u.
Because now a wife correcting her husband is seen as a lack of respect? "You just let him make that mistake so that he wont get angry at anyone." If you constantly associate the childish side of his ego to his authority then he will just ruin the relationship because apparently if things doesnt go his way, even if they are wrong, nobody should fix it because men have "big egos".
This is the main problem of Islamic society men...they always telling to wife don't correct them they have ego they don't say its called illiteracy...its make us backward... Our religion is totally different and Muslim society portrayed totally different...Allah give them hidayat..Ameen Thats the reason i merried with white reverted man he may correct our society in right way...otherwise muslims society is suffering all basic problems and going very far away from deen
He only gave an example. But if you know this about your husband, then go right ahead. However, in some cases, especially in marriages where the women berates her husband often, this advice may apply.
@@ummsumayyah1096 Helping, advising isn’t berating. A good husband thanks his wife when she offers advice & her two cents. Thats what a happy marriage is.
@@kitt7477 I specifically said in cases where the wife berates. I never said helping or advising is berading. Every situation is different and his advice may help someone. That's all I was saying.
Jazakallahu Khairan kaseer Sheik!!! I knew i wanted to respect my husband. But i didn't know what counted as respect and disrespect. I have been thinking about it. So happy for explaining the men's perspective. I understand now. I would like to add a few more from my reflections.. 1. Always reminding him of his past mistakes 2. Answering back in a loud rude voice
One thing I don't agree with is having an Ego, our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not have an ego and he was a man. To be honest, both spouses should try to learn their spouses likes and dislikes, we are all human beings and we all have different emotions. But the role should be observed as Allah has commanded in the Qur'an. We should try to be like Ali (RA) and Fatima (RA).
this is a discription of a relationship of enemys not husband and wife. May Allah protect all of Our brothers n sisters from a relationship like this (sorry for my english )
Ego and pride are inner deceases. This is not right to respect that. If a men/woman is wrong, he/she is wrong. Husband and wife always have a open communication. Being fair an honest is a must. If you listen to each other, than you have both side respect.
Yes, but there needs to be respect both ways and it takes time to develop understanding for being open. Men are mostly bashed, have seen many women with mountainious egos, hardly anyone talks about them
Ego and pride are not diseases. It is innate in everyone and from it emanates your self worth and confidence. Of course it can lead to arrogance but that is not true for everyone.
You can't see what this men speaking, let me tell what is going to happen when you follow given instructions you will live your life in peace because men will help you in every situation with the help of Allah, do not destroy your peace.
It’s difficult to not want to guide your husband sometimes. Because in ‘allowing him to make his own mistakes’, the effect of that mistake will hit you as the wife as well and you’ll also bear the brunt of it. Men should please consult their wives and understand that two heads are often better than one. May Allah help us.
Sometimes sister not all situations are the same , and i also beg younger brothers to marry outside the family .some women only turn to islam when its convinient 4 them . Yes 2 heads are better than 1 , but sometimes 1 head can be a serprnt
Yes this definitely this men is not Muslims him he is fake Muslims I hate this kinds Muslims I tell them they love men's them obsessed with men's and everything in men's them it not Muslims. But true is a wife all truth she knows it a plus and it a gift for me it the most and happy in this plus I love her yes I fall in love 🥰 yes but this men him he talk in this video it made me angry till it more only his I can see his men's love toward men's and I can see how he want to not love of mothers too it not this me for my wifes she is older than me and it her to control everything even me the true is she is never wrongs her but one she fight I fear her I fear her never want to lose her but my mother her she is intelligent her she can defend me
I dont find this example right, that if a driving person(husband) miss the exit or get on wrong path. The wife is suppose to stay silent? Because it will hurt the decision making power of his husband (basically his ego). This is not partnership at all.
Ur right but wife's do play mind games and walk all over men I know its not easy if u can't take it walk away but these are tests by Allah may Allah giv every human sabr (patients) ameen😊😊
This lecture is literally the problem in todays society. "What have you done to his ego"? "Let him be deluded"??? We will all be questioned on yawm al qiyama about how we fought our nafs. If your husband is oblivious to the obligations towards his nafs then he will be held accountable for it. We all will, and men dont have an exception here. The wife's duty is not to stroke his ego so she can receive love in return. One of her duties as a wife is to help guide him when he is wrong, especially when it's evident. If he is unable to admit his faults, his immaturity will follow him in the way he practices qawwam in the household and this is precisely how women lose respect for their husbands. If the wife sees her husband making a mistake and she allows him to make it, deep down it sends her a signal that he doesn't know how to lead and she loses her sense of respect for him quickly. What men fail to understand is that women dont expect perfection from their husband. They expect masculinity. This comes from maturity and accepting that if you make a mistake, its ok to be corrected, even if its by your wife. Men see mistakes as failure and they use their "big egos" to try and hide their insecurities. Women, however, see lack of accountability as failure and they will try to point this out many times to their spouse's but many times men don't care about solving the root cause of a problem as much as they care about protecting their image by refusing to accept blame when they're wrong or pretend like they're capable of doing a job they are unable to perform. Some men seriously just need to grow up. No man in the world will be able to exercise the responsibility of qawwam properly until he has developed a sense of self awareness and lets be honest, most men refuse to call themselves out.
Recite ayat kursi after every salah. It was narrated that Abu Umaamah said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever recites Ayatul Kursi immediately after each prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entering Paradise except death.”
We are human, we correct each other's mistakes, ponder and try to change for the better in line with Islam Sorry the example in the video makes no sense
@@guze_wolf9973 It actually do. I could already imagine the wife passive-agressively nagging at her husband and the man starts being annoyed and yelling at his wife, trying to defend his choices, even tough he is clearly wrong, because his abillity and leadership is put in question. Not saying he's in the right to do so, just saying that thing could get escalated if not faced correctly.
Alot of men dont want wife they want mothers... how can a woman respect a man who not even respecting her or giving her the rights she is entitled too?
Its the duty from the wive to show respect, also the husband should give respect. But focus on your duty first instead of a husband or someone else. You will be countable for you own action
@@Nothing.12347that never realistically happens. A man is the leader and needs to feel like he is the leader. So women better not advise harshly and act like she is independent from him because she isn't. Men lead women and women need to obey and not rebel
absolutely right. In all religions, sciences and western dating/marriage, the man must feel like he is a charge. And as a feminine woman, you allow him to take charge and take care of you. There’s a specific way to communicate with men, and put your suggestions to him. Their egos are very sensitive too. As women, we are actually emotionally stronger than them. And if a man disrespects you, absolutely tell him. If you have boundaries, a good man will respect that too. Allahs religion is pure, & satisfies both the sciences and psychology of a man and a woman. It is the truth
Sister some of the things you've said actually applies to women not for men. Women are extremely weak both physically and especially emotionally - they cry and go ballistic sometimes due to their hormones. Women need to remember their position in the relationship as being the ones who are led not the ones who are leaders. This is successful
@@hamnarajput2175so you’re telling me that a woman who cried easier, backbites easier, women who will be the majority in hellfire are emotionally stronger than men? if that was the case this hadith wouldn’t exist Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri: Once Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) of `Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion." men control their emotions when they feel like crying. that makes THEM emotionally stronger but overall i agree with you
Woww"MEN HAVE BIG EGOS" the way he tried to validate men for having "BIG EGOS" and how we should not have any objection regarding that! Let men be self deluded, let men choose the wrong way and ladies don't try to make him go the right way because "MEN HAVE BIG EGOS"
Ikr? That part bothered me too. All the teachings of pride and ego being wrong but a woman is supposed to respect her husband and let him be self deluded and figure it out bcs he's a man and it'll hurt his ego and pride. And here I thought husband and wife were partners who trust and value each other's opinions. And supposed to help each other be better versions of themselves.
is it me or in this video the Sheikh was literally presenting men as literal children? I am sorry if i come across rude but dont tell your husband if he is wrong becuz he might start to argue? and will hurt his ego? i treat my baby brother like that...like even if he is doing something that he isnt suppose to, i dont do anything cuz if not he will start to create chaos, so youre telling wives to be like this with their husbands? How can you put someone, who is that sensitive, to be in charge of the household? I am not arguing that men arent or shouldn't be in charge, yes they are, but they arent the boss and cant just do whatever they want, if they want respect they gotta give respect as well.
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
A man doesn’t want his wife to act like a mother and yet a man can talk down to his wife to show he is in control, order her to follow his instructions, discipline her…… as though she is a child 🤔. So he doesn’t want a mother figure but she is supposed to respect him acting like a father figure?
Men Don't want a mother figure but want their wife to respect them,cook for them, clean for them, wake up make them breakfast, have their babies, help them with their own jobs do the shopping, raise the children, look good,have energy to make love, wake up to the babies, get their clothes ready and towel read for shower, make promises they can't keep, make wife feel bad for spending money, tell her off like a kid if she makes a mistake, never give her gifts or make her feel special or appreciated, always shifting focus on their own hardships but the wife has to respect him, keep silent and be patient!!
@@Noxciy Prophet's wife's where as good as him in nature, today's wife's are not, I have seen so many posting videos on Instagram and when I point them wrong, suddenly I'm the toxic men, bitch I would make this world fall under my knees but I don't wanna follow the footsteps of dajjal
Sister.... That's not the point here... This is directed to the wives and how they should conduct themselves... If we hear a lecture directed to men, it'll be about kindness to wives etc etc... When woman are out of line (and we can be many a time) then obviously need to be advised sternly without abuse.... But tough love, as men are going to be answerable about his flock (wife and kids)
It's not men against women. It's a unity between two people who love and care for each other and support each other as one. Love, care, respect. Brothers respect and love your sisters and sister respect and love your brothers.
If the husband solves the problem himself and does not stress his wife, that' s great. But if the wife is the one solving the problems he has created in the end ...oh well.
That's both stupid and arrogant. Men are really out her thinking "respect" means shutting up and letting them do whatever on earth they want. If you can't even take criticism or advice from your spouse then you have no right getting married. A marriage is a partnership, not a one man show
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
@@misosoup9616 That's literally the dumbest take I've ever heard. Would you say the same for your family or people you love? "I love them, so I like to watch as they go down the wrong path or make an obvious and avoidable mistake when I could have helped them. When they mess up it doesn't destroy their glass like ego so it preservers our relationship". First, this is insulting to men, because you're acting like all men are insecure arrogant little narcissists. Second, you're acting as though all men would rather make easily avoidable blunders than to have someone in their life help correct them. "Let him taste the full blunt of it" if you saw someone in the street walking towards a pit would you wait and watch in order for them to experience it? I get this take if you've already advised your husband and he refused to listen, however avoiding to advise your spouse all together isn't a noble or honorable thing to do. Any normal or good person wouldn't become upset or feel their ego shatter at simply receiving advice or correction from their spouse. Of course degrading and putting down your partner is very different from advising them. Don't mix the two up. Besides this ridiculous take, why on earth would you think a women would wish to be with a man who can't take criticism or advice for even the smallest of things? How on earth would you expect your husband to listen to big concerns like you mentioned, if they can't even listen to the small stuff?
@@saidrew1030 Please re-read what I wrote. I never said to let them be in their own ignorance, I said that at small things that aren't fatal (fixing the sink, taking a differant turn than what's shown on GPS, etc). Thing that aren't really harmful, but embarrassing if talked about. Instead of saying things like "I knew you took the wrong turn", "Didn't I say that this would happaned", etc. try changing them in a kinder word that would not only not hurt the husband "ego" (Which actually is just their sense of honor and dignity in their responsibility as the man in the household), but also uplift him. And I know it seems like a small thing, something that wouldn't cause discord. But the little things do add up. And I'm not saying that all trouble in a households are because women act like this. No. No. No. I didn't say that. I'm just trying to convey the message that I got from the video and from what I witnessed myself. Again, I'm not saying all households or majority of them are like this. I myself am raised in a fairely harmonious household. I just found it odd why most people in the comment section found what the video said to be stupdi, repulsive, etc. when I thought it was reasonable. So I just tried to spread what I got from the video so that perhaps people could get a better understandings of what it's trying to say or that someone would come to me and explained why I and what's said in the video are wrong. Again, if you tought I'm wrong, then please, insted of insulting and generelising what kind of person I am, tell me why I'm wrong so I could rectify my ways and be a better person.
Respect is something a man EARNS by treating his wife with love and kindness. Its not to be demanded. Even if a husband demands it, no woman can truly respect a man who she doesn't like or appreciate it. Wives are not to be forced, attacked, ridiculed, humiliated or killed. A wife has the God-given right to be respected & treated kindly.
Honestly, most of the people in the comment really didn't get what the video tries to say. A wife are not supposed to come at her husband as an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell, at least that's what I got. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
Husband and wife need to be able to communicate. Communication is very important. Respect goes both ways. Yes a wife should respect her husband but he should give her respect too. I agree she should let him learn from his mistakes but it’s very difficult to not assist when you know he is going to fall.
Wife has the right to guide her husband but must obey and respect her husband all the time! Husband must love and care for his wife and not to treat her like a slave.
If u feel like a slave its because ur wrong I really feel for u may Allah giv u guidance and patience ur heading to destruction or it already happen patience is virtue 💯
Bruh what is this, sorry but like there nothing with any of theses neither disrespecting. There’s nothing with correcting mistakes also big egos are dumb just let it go btw I’m not feminist I’m just saying it’s not them swearing and being mean at their husbands it’s just calling out mistakes and maybe doubting what’s he’s doing so at least she’s not swearing or disobeying him, also I’m girl
True I agree with you idk where he got that any way be aware of what you hear from yasir if you don’t know why you can watch daneil (Muslim skeptic ) about him
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
@@misosoup9616 okk still theres nothing wrong pointing out mistakes even if they not Islam related but kindly ofc, what you said make sense maybe I looked at it closed minded he could’ve given a better example
Subahanallah! What if husband is controlling and he wants his wife to cut ties with her families. Should the wife just trust the husband's decision and respect him. Some man have egos that goes against Islam, without them realising. And they use this kinda hathis as a booster for their egos. We can't generalise that man's big ego is always right and follow blindly. amr bil maroof nahi anil munkar May Allah protect us.
100% true, all i want is respect from my wife which is never given no matter what i do! I hope she understands this or else i am totally losing my control.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: It was said: O Messenger of Allah, what type of wife is best? He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, and she obeys him if he instructs her to do something, and she does not do anything with regard to herself or his wealth in a manner of which he does not approve.” Narrated by Ahmad (2/251); classed as hasan (good) by al-Albani in as-Silsilah as-Sahihah (1838).
I'd rather let my husband believe he can conquer the moon and stars for me.. than make him realistic... That he cannot fix a leaky faucet. I do know for sure i am better at solving the leaky faucet problem but when he is at charge, i let him watch yt videos, ask his friends advice and figure it out himself and then thank him to pieces for fixing it for me... Overtime i have realised he is good at many other things over me... So now i have genuine respect for him!!!
The example makes it hard for me to understand the message tbh. 1. Shouldn't both husband and wife respect each other? 2. Shouldn't the husband understand that his wife is trying to help him not undermine him in that situation? 3. Shouldn't the man lower his ego instead of making it his defense for not listening to his wife's advice? Yeah he can make the mistake and learn for himself, or he could understand that she's trying to help and she could also be right. Just sounds to me like the man doesn't value her words. Also, in most cases men marry and continue to treat their wives like their mothers, the wives are the ones that don't want to be a second mother. The problem comes when the nagging starts. But should men not look past their ego and see their faults that led to the nagging in the first place? Even men are humans, and humans will make mistakes. It's not a big deal as long as we learn from it. Ego will not save anyone. Therefore shouldn't men learn to be humble and kind instead of egotistic and defensive?
I'm not trying to say a woman is always right either. There are situations where the husband makes big decisions for the people he is responsible for. I believe in mutual respect. But I don't see where ego comes to play here. Isn't it shaitaans ego and pride that led him to where he is now?
And that scenario the man emotion was certainty. Not egotistical. Some women can't even understand emotions even thought the are meant to be more emotionally Intelligent/understanding than men
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
@@misosoup9616 ooh okay, but my thing is if you marry me we become one and sometimes it's okay to put the ego aside and do what is right, not everytime you need to be right. But I also get your point
how about lecturing about his religion?and reminding him of his Salah?I clearly said to my husband if I did wrong with as far as our religion is concerned and he was right I will surely follow him but if he is the one judging me and lecturing me about following and obeying my religion,well he won't be dismay but I'll be stubborn to him!!!no woman wants to talk and talk when she sees nothing is wrong,we are not crazy,we are just concerned of what will be the outcome of his decisions?,if I could stop him from doing such terrible acts like zina and told him and confront him would that be wrong?as they say prevention is better than cure,if respect is earned not given!!!
It's clear women have missed the point here so allow me to explain. If your husband is doing something wrong that you don't like, it's the way in which you advise them. Remember, you're the ones who are led and not being the leader. So don't start talking to them as if you're their mothers but remember they are your leaders so advise politely and remember your place in this marriage and he'll listen.
Some of the comments😑. This video is 100% right. He never said only men deserve respect. But it's a fact that men value respect while women value love. Does that mean men shouldn't be loved and women shouldn't be respected? Come on. This video could save some marriages. It will benefit whoever is willing to listen.
So if I’m travelling with husband and our children and I know a head there is a huge ditch coming and I tell him don’t go a ahead I know there is a ditch there but he says no there isn’t I’m just supposed let him myself and our kids died by him driving into the ditch because I might hurt his ego?
What should woman do if her husband abuses her when angry, and disrespects every time.. Says he has power over her wife and can say and do whatever pleases him
What about a husband who is not taking care of the finance of the house and is doing haram drinking etc and it is the wife who is taking care of the finance and is obliged to work to take care of everything....what do you think about that kind of husband? Does he deserve respect as a Muslim husband recommended by ou Prophet sss?
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
Read “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs” by Emerson Eggerichs. Shaykh Yasir Qadhi recommended it in one of his lectures. It’s on Audible as well.
I think husbands should also ask wives for their advice it shows that he also respects her a wife not only craves love but respect too and unfortunately some husbands are so arrogant even if they themselves make a mistake they go and yell at their wives why didn’t u tell me before this and that because of u it happened may Allah grannt us a respectful spouse
Respect goes both ways in a marriage. Don’t expect respect from your wife if you treat her without kindness. If you yell or hit your wife, treat her like a child, don’t respect her opinions, you do not deserve the good pious woman that you seek. Do not expect your wife to cater to your enormous ego while you continue on with your detestable behaviour.
@@Afghanistan_news931 obviously the same thing works in reverse, my comment is literally under a video describing how Muslim women should treat their husbands, so that’s already clear. Secondly, let’s not pretend that in majority of cases it isn’t the husband who abuses his rights over his wife, considering he is the one with authority. Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, so naturally it is also the man’s responsibility to set the pace and dynamic of the relationship if he’s the leader.. of course there are situations where the women are abusive. But more often than not it’s the other way around.
@@thebadstation8416 everything I stated was factual and if you have an issue with it that’s very telling. I didn’t specifically call anyone out and I attacked no one, if you’re hurt I don’t know what to tell you other than maybe my words hit home.
@@thebadstation8416 what does that have to do with literally anything I said? And why do men like you love throwing the word feminism around the moment anyone even says a word relating to women’s rights- it’s very telling. You just said a bunch of nonsense, trying to put words in my mouth😂 All I said was that if you’re a man watching this to also be mindful of the fact that you must treat your wife with the respect and care you expect in return, and to watch your ego. Anyways, I can guarantee you no woman in a marriage in which she’s emotionally, verbally and physically abused and is expected to be practically a servant to her husband is happy. But I digress, none of which you just said correlates with my original comment anyways. You make no sense.
This video is directed at wives. Which is why he doesn't mention what men are suppossed to be like. But still the women, instead of listening to the advice, are commenting about what womens rights are instead.
A good man will return your love and respect. Many women just have unrealistic expectations of what it means to be in a loving relationship. They are too entitled and just take, take, take without offering anything back. You agreed to the Nikah (for most of us anyway), so why treat your husband like he is your enemy and all of a sudden like he isn't good enough? Also, you aren't perfect?! You have to be able to offer more than just look pretty. Patience and a good character is what keeps a relationship alive. We're grown folks - lets leave the childish behaviour in the past. A man carries a burden no woman is capable of imagining. Treat your husband well, please. And talk to him. Dont keep it all inside. Men don't have intuition and they aren't mind-readers
I was watching the clip again. It has been a while. I like that last part: let him be self-deluded😂 People please, watch older couples how they live. I mean, a woman is not even aloud te speak if the man says something wrong. The captain is on his sinking ship and no one is aloud te speak that there is water in the ship. When the man is going down, the family should go down? That's crazy! The balance in that marriage is gone. The speaker says of the woman let the man self-deluded, the woman gets love? Please 😂😂😂 because if his big ego he dont even know how to show love.
This what happened when you think your so called logic is better what written in Quran.... Husband is the leader and that's no one can change it if he takes bad decision if family suffer from it then he is responsible for it society or even Allah swt held him accountable not the wife... you talk about balance, balance is broken when wife is the one who start making decisions.
Husband surely deserves the respect surely surely but how a wife give respect to the husband that disgrade her disrespect her humiliate her from day one in front of his family...from where a wife gather the courage to show respect to him then???
According to men..wife is super powerful she can do any thing when its comes to men respect but in the same time men called women is extremely stupid i really don't know what they want actually....they never satisfied anyway....
Men have big egos???? What about working together to please Allah The Al moutakabir . ? What about loving and respecting each other and helping each other to attain the Pleasure of Allah and entering Jannat hand in hand ? Was our beloved prophet described like this? Soubhanallah please educate me anybody I may be wrong and Allah The all Wise knows best
I can't believe all imams want to be respect and do everythings for them by their wives. What about the wives and some of them are assaulted by husbands. Are there some imams to talk about that? I feel sad.
What about when women are treated as child, everything they want to get to puchase, needs to be approved by the husband, he needs to decide what the wife needs
Wallahi jese tm khud hoge wesa hi tmhara spouse bn jayega. Agr aap appreciate nahi krogy, the spouse will stop giving. Aap respect nahi krogy, the spouse will sop loving. Aap support nahi krogy, the spouse will stop growing (grow will benefit you).
I see a lot of people saying respect should be given by both husband and wife (which is true), however let us remind ourselves of the Hadith in the video. Which shows that the husband deserves ‘more’ of this respect. Some people might misunderstand this already. Let go of your ego. I am a Muslim woman saying this. If our prophet Muhammad SAW has stated this we are in no position to add/takeaway from this.
Please understand that the women has to go the extra mile to protect her marriage and her husband from separating. Women should have the traits of a elegant flower even when getting mad or frustrated she shouldn’t raise her voice or show power in front of her husband. That’s the love of your life anyway duh😉. And it’s ok for both to yell at each other when there is a argument filled with emotion. On the other hand when the husband gets mad it’s ok for him to show anger because he is a man an so much is to be expected. Women please be patient with your husband and love him and he will SEE this I promise. When you don’t talk to each other go back to him and fix things once twice 3 times it’s ok there is no right or wrong you guys are married and in love with each other. Don’t let anger and pride ruin what you have. This is harder to do with the men but if the wife does this back to back the man will start to open up and love the wife more and more. So yes respect both ways but wife should understand a man’s anger and respect him I front of him and when he is not there. Don’t be pushy it’s not like you to be like that be kind sensitive shy and elegant and fall into your husband arms for love and kindness. I ask Allah to bring the hearts of married couples together and bring them peace and tranquillity and love.
I am not sure if I agree with this. A self deluded husband can mean a lot of instability and chaos at home. They will end up doing one thing after another just putting down the wife in possibly everything and then blame the wife for not complying because it was unreasonable.
What if a wife wants to advise on matters of Deen like going to the masjid, wearing pants above the ankle, quit smoking and so on .., does she have to still be quiet and allow him to learn by his mistakes… kindly reply … it would be a turning point for many of the problems Muslim wives face Jazakallahu khairan
Am i weird or abnormal for feeling jealous when i witness my husband handshake another girl after closing a business deal, i felt heartbroken after witnessing their handshake infront of me, i got so jealous and cried, i told him its haram for non mahram to handshake he said its for business deal and he forgot its haram. It hurts, i need advice how to overcome this feeling
I think you are not weird for feeling anything you feel. If you felt nothing maybe it would be because you don't love him. But just because we feel strong about certain things it doesn't make it true, wrong or right. I'd tell your man how u feel and let him explain. We should be comfortable knowing we are their only ones and if we dont we can ask our partners to help with that. I know my wife. If she shook a man's hand and it was for professional reasons I might also get jealous but I know it's only me over thinking and I know she wouldn't cheat on me. Not with that guy atleast lol. I'd let her know I'm jealous. My wife likes that. We all should. It shows how much we care and how we don't want to share. Be well friend.
Double standard in the comment section ... them femals recite this and recite that and Men should and must and blah blah .... but what if a Man mentions:- مثنى و ثلاث و رباع ؟ then it's Error 404.. lmao
Sahih al-Bukhari 2014 Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Whoever fasted the month of Ramadan out of sincere Faith (i.e. belief) and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his past sins will be forgiven, and whoever stood for the prayers in the night of Qadr out of sincere Faith and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his previous sins will be forgiven ."
Very misleading lecture. Respect has to go both ways. If you have zalim husband, he smokes, he doesn’t want to pray of course as good wife she has to advice him! If husband doesn’t want the wife to be like his mom, he has to stop being like a kid ! It is as simple as that. Knowing each other‘s rights and duties, having mutual understanding and respect for each other are vey essential in marriage. Sadly our nations nowadays are fatherless nations, boys learn from porn about sex, their idols are comic figures, kpop stars or Hollywood actors. As result our society became very chaotic, this starts from very wrong man! Before blaming it on women, men have to learn to be good men first, follow the prophet saw learn from him.
Yeah unfortunately we live in a toxic society where getting respect is returned with abuse and disrespect. Our Prophet told us about love amongst a thousand other things that also includes respect. Sadly as a society we have drifted as far away from his teachings as possible.
What about women's ego? Women just let their husbands do whatever they like and when it's the wife's turn, they'll just tell you "who is in charge here? You or me? Mind your own business, women don't know anything" is how they react. I know it because that's what the men of our society do. And this is exactly what makes us women afraid of getting married. Because we are told ti be slaves to the husbands, NOT their friends.
How can I give my respect if he doesn't?? I'm working more than him. I'm a teacher. I wakeup 3 o'clock. Sleep 11 o'clock. During that time I'm cooking, go to school, doing tution classes , cleaning,washing clothes .. He doesn't help me . I'm just a servant for him!!! I'm so tired. So many times I asked help from him. But nooo he didn't. Then how ??? Then how I'm giving my respect to him?
U said that man will learn from his mistakes.....y If woman does a small mistake y everyone will make it big issue...........? If man will learn from his mistakes then same applicable for women too......and she will toooo.......
What if the husband betrays his wife in every way possible even though perform Salah, reading Quran and also giving charity but the real state only the wife knows and Allah knows best even goes to magician, but what can a wife of such a person do only have patience and pray to Almighty for guidance in sha Allah
Im a Brother looking for resources for MEN in our deen, that are in an abusive relationship with a manipulative sister but all I can find online are resources for Women only. Multiple videos scolding men in marriages yet nothing online but this video for the Sisters to learn responsibility of a Wife in Islam. Almost nothing scolding sisters that are Abusive or who are on the wrong path. We wonder why our Nessa are going astray, there are no more people strong enough to stand up😢
Meh, if he is in the wrong road and the wife knows, he will blame the wife for not telling him instead. Some people prefer to blame others no matter what.
My husband uses and abuses this hadith! None of my rights are met! Even the rights that cost him nothing! Love, appreciation, respect, protection, affection! I don't get what's free let alone financial responsibility! His family abused me and he did not help me heal, instead he gave me more trauma! I gave this man everything! When he had nothing!
Both husband and wife want to be respected. It shouldn’t just be one sided. Respect goes both ways for sure. I’ve seen marriages fail and end terribly because a husband keeps disrespecting his wife and vice versa.
You m8ssed the point here.
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They both do but the guy who disrespecting his wife was wrong but still hasband is the hakim
If you want a wife like Khadija. Be like mohammed (pbuh)
It doesn't work that way.
Are you saying that Khadija (RA) only respected our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) because he was the greatest person to ever live in this Dunya?
By you saying that, you are lowering Khadija (RA), Astaghfirullah.
Khadija (RA) was a great woman even before she met our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam).
The aim is not to first get respect and then to give it back, the aim is to give respect first.
That's the way of Islam.
@@aminulhussain2751 First of all Allah made Muhammad (SAW) and Khadijah (RA) to be met through business because they were perfect for each other. That's what he meant.
If you want to find a wife like Khadijah (RA) you need to become like of Muhammad (SAW) and Allah will guide their ways to be met with eachother.
I don’t agree
Nonsense
@@amatalwahib5499 why?
But as far I know, prophet Muhammad never had an ego problem. Aren't we taught from the very childhood as a muslim to avoid ego and boasting?
It's not an ego problem though, it's about honer and respect in a husbands abillity and leadership. Even then, The Prophet (SAW) had "fights" with his beloved wives, such as Aisyah (RA), Hafsa (RA), etc. (Not Khadija (RA) though, atleast not in any hadith I know of). So there are boundries that should not be cross. Obviously, his patience is on a VERY differant scale since he has to try his best to be just and fair to 8-11 of his wives. And it's unfair to think men are as capable as The Prophet (SAW), because we're not and we will never will be. Only very few of us come a tiny bit close to that (Such as the Sahaba (RA), the man who hides his newly wedded wives illegitimate child, etc). Though we strive to life by his teaching and example, insyaallah.
Off topic, as an average man, having that many wives is only a privilege if you act like "kings and emperors" (As in, a douchebag), only regarding them as "meetsacks" for reproduction purpose (Having child) or "toy", naudzubillah. Alhamdulillah, our Prophet (SAW) are above that and he is the example we try to emulate, insyaallah.
i think its the way Allah have built them like Allah have created women have a lot sensitive feelings, more gentle etc.. Mens have higher ego than women hence why this video advising us to let the men be self deluded if it have to. Wallahualam.
Muhammad didn't marry a woman either. He married a child. Unless I was taught wrong
@@ITFDAVE you were taught on Instagram and tiktok so you most probably would be wrong lol. The prophet ﷺ majority of his wives (all but one) were either in his age bracket or older and were previously married. His wife Aisha Ra was married to him when she was 6. The prophet ﷺ had not touched her and consummated for an entire 3 yrs when he had the chance to. You have to really ask yourself that question why did he wait when he had 3 whole yrs to do what he wanted. Because she wasn't ready for consummation. He waited till she was physically ready, emotionally ready, psychologically ready, sexually ready and mentally ready to consummate. It's not like he married and instantly consummated the marriage or touched her. Look into your great great grandparents lives and see how early they'd get married
@@Ciksushi1803I think the men are being sensitive here saying “don’t point out my mistake it makes me feel disrespected” women don’t have that emotional issue
If a wife is correct and she directing her husband to right path..does that mean altering his big ego? Husband should also give respect to his wife not just love and nurture
Exactly
Absolutely thats i do...i correct my husband many times and he do to me as well...
If husband showed ego its doesn't make any sense even its ridicule and illiteracy .abusive men don't deserve respect.
Yeah mate we do give our wife's respect aswell ok.
@@Nabz1415 who is we? Why do you always generalize all men yet you dont even know what happens in their relationship?
@@Nabz1415 nope..not all do...thats why society has basic problems.
Respect goes both ways! The example of the taking the wrong turn on the high way does not portray doubt. It could be noted as the wife trying to help...Very weak example to mention as doubting the husband's judgement!
Sometimes the wife makes a fuss over it and nag the husband, thus the example is used. "I knew I was right, you should've listened to me." Things like this occur and arguments arise. I strongly agree respect goes both ways, however I've come across women becoming less meek and obedient to their husband.
@sakinah al kayyal exactly I felt the same way. That example was a weak one. It can be taken as wife helping husband as well
It goes both ways, but not equally 50/50 as per this hadees
Sheikh Yasir, you could have covered this topic from both angles..men need more advice on how to be good husbands because majority of men turn out to be more narcassist than women statistically. Yes and ego is the big problem in men.
He has. On multiple occasions. Please watch his content . This is a 4 minute long clip. Most of his lectures are 30 min - 2 hours. His lectures are very balanced. More balanced than allot of other shiekhs out there.
If scholars talk in support for females thats great but when it comes in support for males everybody resist and tell it's no good.People need to realize it and should support the men too.
So many feminists appealing ulamas, no one bats an eye
When women stop using jewelries and makeup, and fancy clothes during wedding ceremonies, then i will believe majority of men are narcissist. Till then, it is women.
Regarding ego as problem in men though, i agree with u.
@@mah9455because disrespecting someone is not good
Because now a wife correcting her husband is seen as a lack of respect? "You just let him make that mistake so that he wont get angry at anyone." If you constantly associate the childish side of his ego to his authority then he will just ruin the relationship because apparently if things doesnt go his way, even if they are wrong, nobody should fix it because men have "big egos".
Alhamdulillah my husband is not ego type of person...i am feeling i am a bit more
Correcting by a loving and soft approach, not by being argumentative, nor by nagging.
@@nuha-nursawdah1910 of course both sides should come with a loving and sofr approach
This is the main problem of Islamic society men...they always telling to wife don't correct them they have ego they don't say its called illiteracy...its make us backward...
Our religion is totally different and Muslim society portrayed totally different...Allah give them hidayat..Ameen
Thats the reason i merried with white reverted man he may correct our society in right way...otherwise muslims society is suffering all basic problems and going very far away from deen
It is what it is. Accept it or go your own way about it
Salaam dear brothers and sisters, I am facing hardship, Please make Dua for me, Jazak Allah Ul Khair.
Keep regular prayers and after magrib prayer do surah kausar insha Allah Allah will help you..
JazakAllah khair sharaaz May Allah make things easier for you sharaaz MashAllah
@@EastWestLifeInsider Ameen Jazak Allah Ul Khair
@@maxprimemalick7972 Ameen Jazak Allah Ul Khair
May Allah continue to make it easier, Amin ya Hayyu ya Qayyumu
If i kept quiet while my husband went the wrong way, he would get really angry at me for not speaking up.
He only gave an example. But if you know this about your husband, then go right ahead. However, in some cases, especially in marriages where the women berates her husband often, this advice may apply.
@@ummsumayyah1096 Helping, advising isn’t berating. A good husband thanks his wife when she offers advice & her two cents. Thats what a happy marriage is.
@@kitt7477 I specifically said in cases where the wife berates. I never said helping or advising is berading. Every situation is different and his advice may help someone. That's all I was saying.
@@ummsumayyah1096 agreed
Jazakallahu Khairan kaseer Sheik!!! I knew i wanted to respect my husband. But i didn't know what counted as respect and disrespect.
I have been thinking about it. So happy for explaining the men's perspective. I understand now. I would like to add a few more from my reflections..
1. Always reminding him of his past mistakes
2. Answering back in a loud rude voice
One thing I don't agree with is having an Ego, our Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alayhi wa sallam) did not have an ego and he was a man.
To be honest, both spouses should try to learn their spouses likes and dislikes, we are all human beings and we all have different emotions.
But the role should be observed as Allah has commanded in the Qur'an.
We should try to be like Ali (RA) and Fatima (RA).
this is a discription of a relationship of enemys not husband and wife.
May Allah protect all of Our brothers n sisters from a relationship like this
(sorry for my english )
nice Interpretation
Ego and pride are inner deceases. This is not right to respect that. If a men/woman is wrong, he/she is wrong. Husband and wife always have a open communication. Being fair an honest is a must. If you listen to each other, than you have both side respect.
I agree 💯
I agree 💯 percent
Yes, but there needs to be respect both ways and it takes time to develop understanding for being open. Men are mostly bashed, have seen many women with mountainious egos, hardly anyone talks about them
Ego and pride are not diseases. It is innate in everyone and from it emanates your self worth and confidence. Of course it can lead to arrogance but that is not true for everyone.
You can't see what this men speaking, let me tell what is going to happen when you follow given instructions you will live your life in peace because men will help you in every situation with the help of Allah, do not destroy your peace.
It’s difficult to not want to guide your husband sometimes. Because in ‘allowing him to make his own mistakes’, the effect of that mistake will hit you as the wife as well and you’ll also bear the brunt of it. Men should please consult their wives and understand that two heads are often better than one. May Allah help us.
Sometimes sister not all situations are the same , and i also beg younger brothers to marry outside the family .some women only turn to islam when its convinient 4 them . Yes 2 heads are better than 1 , but sometimes 1 head can be a serprnt
Yes this definitely this men is not Muslims him he is fake Muslims I hate this kinds Muslims I tell them they love men's them obsessed with men's and everything in men's them it not Muslims. But true is a wife all truth she knows it a plus and it a gift for me it the most and happy in this plus I love her yes I fall in love 🥰 yes but this men him he talk in this video it made me angry till it more only his I can see his men's love toward men's and I can see how he want to not love of mothers too it not this me for my wifes she is older than me and it her to control everything even me the true is she is never wrongs her but one she fight I fear her I fear her never want to lose her but my mother her she is intelligent her she can defend me
@@husseinsoobhany6375 You are angry at what he said?? He was talking from the hadith and the Quran u have a problem with that?
@None App what??
@None App Drop the booze.
I dont find this example right, that if a driving person(husband) miss the exit or get on wrong path. The wife is suppose to stay silent? Because it will hurt the decision making power of his husband (basically his ego). This is not partnership at all.
Ur right but wife's do play mind games and walk all over men I know its not easy if u can't take it walk away but these are tests by Allah may Allah giv every human sabr (patients) ameen😊😊
The husband is to be respected, and the wife is to be loved. Both of these mean love, and both of these mean respect.
Your comment doesn't make sense
I mean, Billkiss
No the wife needs to be respected too love comes way after
This lecture is literally the problem in todays society. "What have you done to his ego"? "Let him be deluded"???
We will all be questioned on yawm al qiyama about how we fought our nafs. If your husband is oblivious to the obligations towards his nafs then he will be held accountable for it. We all will, and men dont have an exception here.
The wife's duty is not to stroke his ego so she can receive love in return. One of her duties as a wife is to help guide him when he is wrong, especially when it's evident.
If he is unable to admit his faults, his immaturity will follow him in the way he practices qawwam in the household and this is precisely how women lose respect for their husbands.
If the wife sees her husband making a mistake and she allows him to make it, deep down it sends her a signal that he doesn't know how to lead and she loses her sense of respect for him quickly.
What men fail to understand is that women dont expect perfection from their husband. They expect masculinity. This comes from maturity and accepting that if you make a mistake, its ok to be corrected, even if its by your wife.
Men see mistakes as failure and they use their "big egos" to try and hide their insecurities. Women, however, see lack of accountability as failure and they will try to point this out many times to their spouse's but many times men don't care about solving the root cause of a problem as much as they care about protecting their image by refusing to accept blame when they're wrong or pretend like they're capable of doing a job they are unable to perform.
Some men seriously just need to grow up. No man in the world will be able to exercise the responsibility of qawwam properly until he has developed a sense of self awareness and lets be honest, most men refuse to call themselves out.
most women are feminists and do not cover so it balances out in the end. trash for trash
Recite ayat kursi after every salah.
It was narrated that Abu Umaamah said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever recites Ayatul Kursi immediately after each prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entering Paradise except death.”
We are human, we correct each other's mistakes, ponder and try to change for the better in line with Islam
Sorry the example in the video makes no sense
It does make sense mate trust me.
Righr it literally doesnt make sense just because a wife corrects her husband on a direction while he’s driving doesnt mean she doesnt respect him💀
I'm getting the msg but eg. are really unfair.
@@Nabz1415 nah it doesn’t
@@guze_wolf9973 It actually do. I could already imagine the wife passive-agressively nagging at her husband and the man starts being annoyed and yelling at his wife, trying to defend his choices, even tough he is clearly wrong, because his abillity and leadership is put in question. Not saying he's in the right to do so, just saying that thing could get escalated if not faced correctly.
Sometimes after giving all that respect that the shaykh said there are men who still don't give respect and love back
Alot of men dont want wife they want mothers... how can a woman respect a man who not even respecting her or giving her the rights she is entitled too?
Its the duty from the wive to show respect, also the husband should give respect. But focus on your duty first instead of a husband or someone else. You will be countable for you own action
@@manuanassno lol they both should do it together
And alot of women dont want husbands they want wallets .
How can a man respect a woman who is not even respecting his salary and net worth?
@@Nothing.12347that never realistically happens. A man is the leader and needs to feel like he is the leader. So women better not advise harshly and act like she is independent from him because she isn't. Men lead women and women need to obey and not rebel
Respect his mother ,that's the only way
absolutely right. In all religions, sciences and western dating/marriage, the man must feel like he is a charge. And as a feminine woman, you allow him to take charge and take care of you. There’s a specific way to communicate with men, and put your suggestions to him. Their egos are very sensitive too. As women, we are actually emotionally stronger than them. And if a man disrespects you, absolutely tell him. If you have boundaries, a good man will respect that too. Allahs religion is pure, & satisfies both the sciences and psychology of a man and a woman. It is the truth
Women being emotionally stronger is a lie, sister. I know men who are not shaken by anything and who take charge of everything
@@abc-kn6ex brother you know this is scientifically proven that women are emotinally stronger
@@hamnarajput2175 women are more emotional
Sister some of the things you've said actually applies to women not for men. Women are extremely weak both physically and especially emotionally - they cry and go ballistic sometimes due to their hormones.
Women need to remember their position in the relationship as being the ones who are led not the ones who are leaders. This is successful
@@hamnarajput2175so you’re telling me that a woman who cried easier, backbites easier, women who will be the majority in hellfire are emotionally stronger than men? if that was the case this hadith wouldn’t exist
Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
Once Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) of `Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion."
men control their emotions when they feel like crying. that makes THEM emotionally stronger
but overall i agree with you
Thats not what respect means do you want women to just act like robots😭😭? And the example is so weak
Agreeddddd
Woww"MEN HAVE BIG EGOS" the way he tried to validate men for having "BIG EGOS" and how we should not have any objection regarding that! Let men be self deluded, let men choose the wrong way and ladies don't try to make him go the right way because "MEN HAVE BIG EGOS"
Ikr? That part bothered me too. All the teachings of pride and ego being wrong but a woman is supposed to respect her husband and let him be self deluded and figure it out bcs he's a man and it'll hurt his ego and pride. And here I thought husband and wife were partners who trust and value each other's opinions. And supposed to help each other be better versions of themselves.
U should do one that says never do this to your wife
No chance
@@travellover6768 why?
@@travellover6768 why?
When are u gonna understand that the wife and husband have equal respect but not equal rutba
@@shayaropinthechat5513 what do you mean by "rutba" exactly?
is it me or in this video the Sheikh was literally presenting men as literal children? I am sorry if i come across rude but dont tell your husband if he is wrong becuz he might start to argue? and will hurt his ego? i treat my baby brother like that...like even if he is doing something that he isnt suppose to, i dont do anything cuz if not he will start to create chaos, so youre telling wives to be like this with their husbands? How can you put someone, who is that sensitive, to be in charge of the household? I am not arguing that men arent or shouldn't be in charge, yes they are, but they arent the boss and cant just do whatever they want, if they want respect they gotta give respect as well.
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
A man doesn’t want his wife to act like a mother and yet a man can talk down to his wife to show he is in control, order her to follow his instructions, discipline her…… as though she is a child 🤔. So he doesn’t want a mother figure but she is supposed to respect him acting like a father figure?
Men Don't want a mother figure but want their wife to respect them,cook for them, clean for them, wake up make them breakfast, have their babies, help them with their own jobs do the shopping, raise the children, look good,have energy to make love, wake up to the babies, get their clothes ready and towel read for shower, make promises they can't keep, make wife feel bad for spending money, tell her off like a kid if she makes a mistake, never give her gifts or make her feel special or appreciated, always shifting focus on their own hardships but the wife has to respect him, keep silent and be patient!!
@@1982maisa that's not marriage, that's toxic and disgusting
@@Noxciy Prophet's wife's where as good as him in nature, today's wife's are not, I have seen so many posting videos on Instagram and when I point them wrong, suddenly I'm the toxic men, bitch I would make this world fall under my knees but I don't wanna follow the footsteps of dajjal
Sister.... That's not the point here... This is directed to the wives and how they should conduct themselves... If we hear a lecture directed to men, it'll be about kindness to wives etc etc... When woman are out of line (and we can be many a time) then obviously need to be advised sternly without abuse.... But tough love, as men are going to be answerable about his flock (wife and kids)
@@AS-qg8cc Sorry but not in my world. Women do not need to be disciplined by their husbands!
It's not men against women. It's a unity between two people who love and care for each other and support each other as one. Love, care, respect. Brothers respect and love your sisters and sister respect and love your brothers.
If the husband solves the problem himself and does not stress his wife, that' s great. But if the wife is the one solving the problems he has created in the end ...oh well.
Then this relationship is definitely not balanced at all.
That's both stupid and arrogant. Men are really out her thinking "respect" means shutting up and letting them do whatever on earth they want. If you can't even take criticism or advice from your spouse then you have no right getting married. A marriage is a partnership, not a one man show
Are you Muslim? Your swearing the prophet
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
@@misosoup9616 That's literally the dumbest take I've ever heard. Would you say the same for your family or people you love? "I love them, so I like to watch as they go down the wrong path or make an obvious and avoidable mistake when I could have helped them. When they mess up it doesn't destroy their glass like ego so it preservers our relationship". First, this is insulting to men, because you're acting like all men are insecure arrogant little narcissists. Second, you're acting as though all men would rather make easily avoidable blunders than to have someone in their life help correct them.
"Let him taste the full blunt of it" if you saw someone in the street walking towards a pit would you wait and watch in order for them to experience it? I get this take if you've already advised your husband and he refused to listen, however avoiding to advise your spouse all together isn't a noble or honorable thing to do. Any normal or good person wouldn't become upset or feel their ego shatter at simply receiving advice or correction from their spouse. Of course degrading and putting down your partner is very different from advising them. Don't mix the two up.
Besides this ridiculous take, why on earth would you think a women would wish to be with a man who can't take criticism or advice for even the smallest of things? How on earth would you expect your husband to listen to big concerns like you mentioned, if they can't even listen to the small stuff?
You guys seriously baby men and act like women should stay silent and put up with everything a man does
@@saidrew1030 Please re-read what I wrote. I never said to let them be in their own ignorance, I said that at small things that aren't fatal (fixing the sink, taking a differant turn than what's shown on GPS, etc). Thing that aren't really harmful, but embarrassing if talked about. Instead of saying things like "I knew you took the wrong turn", "Didn't I say that this would happaned", etc. try changing them in a kinder word that would not only not hurt the husband "ego" (Which actually is just their sense of honor and dignity in their responsibility as the man in the household), but also uplift him. And I know it seems like a small thing, something that wouldn't cause discord. But the little things do add up. And I'm not saying that all trouble in a households are because women act like this. No. No. No. I didn't say that. I'm just trying to convey the message that I got from the video and from what I witnessed myself. Again, I'm not saying all households or majority of them are like this. I myself am raised in a fairely harmonious household. I just found it odd why most people in the comment section found what the video said to be stupdi, repulsive, etc. when I thought it was reasonable. So I just tried to spread what I got from the video so that perhaps people could get a better understandings of what it's trying to say or that someone would come to me and explained why I and what's said in the video are wrong. Again, if you tought I'm wrong, then please, insted of insulting and generelising what kind of person I am, tell me why I'm wrong so I could rectify my ways and be a better person.
Respect is something a man EARNS by treating his wife with love and kindness. Its not to be demanded. Even if a husband demands it, no woman can truly respect a man who she doesn't like or appreciate it. Wives are not to be forced, attacked, ridiculed, humiliated or killed. A wife has the God-given right to be respected & treated kindly.
Wait so a man has to earn respect whereas respecting the wife is a God given right?
A man shouldn't have to earn respect from his wife. As soon as a man has to earn it in the start the marriage is gonna be over soon.
The Prophet even said if anyone were to prostrate to another person, It would have been a wife to her husband.
You do realise respect and obedience is a god given right to a husband. Don't you?
And it's the same with kindness
Honestly, most of the people in the comment really didn't get what the video tries to say. A wife are not supposed to come at her husband as an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell, at least that's what I got. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
Husband and wife need to be able to communicate. Communication is very important. Respect goes both ways. Yes a wife should respect her husband but he should give her respect too. I agree she should let him learn from his mistakes but it’s very difficult to not assist when you know he is going to fall.
Treat people the way you want to treated.
Respect For Respect. .. ❤️
Wife has the right to guide her husband but must obey and respect her husband all the time! Husband must love and care for his wife and not to treat her like a slave.
If u feel like a slave its because ur wrong I really feel for u may Allah giv u guidance and patience ur heading to destruction or it already happen patience is virtue 💯
@@Wajid123-f1d ????
I welcome and encourage everyone to read and listen to the Holy Quran. Subhan Allah!
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Bruh what is this, sorry but like there nothing with any of theses neither disrespecting. There’s nothing with correcting mistakes also big egos are dumb just let it go btw I’m not feminist I’m just saying it’s not them swearing and being mean at their husbands it’s just calling out mistakes and maybe doubting what’s he’s doing so at least she’s not swearing or disobeying him, also I’m girl
True I agree with you idk where he got that any way be aware of what you hear from yasir if you don’t know why you can watch daneil (Muslim skeptic ) about him
@@Moode-od4yo oh yeah I heard I don’t watch him anymore
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
@@misosoup9616 okk still theres nothing wrong pointing out mistakes even if they not Islam related but kindly ofc, what you said make sense maybe I looked at it closed minded he could’ve given a better example
Subahanallah! What if husband is controlling and he wants his wife to cut ties with her families. Should the wife just trust the husband's decision and respect him. Some man have egos that goes against Islam, without them realising. And they use this kinda hathis as a booster for their egos. We can't generalise that man's big ego is always right and follow blindly. amr bil maroof nahi anil munkar
May Allah protect us.
Now days wives don’t respect their husbands but they expect respect and love in return. 😂😂😂
Just divorce them or get a second wife then
They say these day you have to EARN it. Avoid these women and get married to real women.
Yep, there is a good reason why majority of women will be in jahannum due to disrespect and disobedience of their husbands
@@salmanarif6651 They are there because they where ungrateful to their husband
@@salmanarif6651the man are no less they aren’t angels
100% true, all i want is respect from my wife which is never given no matter what i do! I hope she understands this or else i am totally losing my control.
Go cry about it you absolute child
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: It was said: O Messenger of Allah, what type of wife is best? He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, and she obeys him if he instructs her to do something, and she does not do anything with regard to herself or his wealth in a manner of which he does not approve.”
Narrated by Ahmad (2/251); classed as hasan (good) by al-Albani in as-Silsilah as-Sahihah (1838).
I pray that Allah help every Muslim couple succeed in doing what is best to please HIM (Allahouma amin)
I'd rather let my husband believe he can conquer the moon and stars for me.. than make him realistic... That he cannot fix a leaky faucet. I do know for sure i am better at solving the leaky faucet problem but when he is at charge, i let him watch yt videos, ask his friends advice and figure it out himself and then thank him to pieces for fixing it for me... Overtime i have realised he is good at many other things over me... So now i have genuine respect for him!!!
Very true . If we interrupt it will end in argument
It is very good to make him learn by his mistakes rather than commanding his to do so
The example makes it hard for me to understand the message tbh.
1. Shouldn't both husband and wife respect each other?
2. Shouldn't the husband understand that his wife is trying to help him not undermine him in that situation?
3. Shouldn't the man lower his ego instead of making it his defense for not listening to his wife's advice?
Yeah he can make the mistake and learn for himself, or he could understand that she's trying to help and she could also be right. Just sounds to me like the man doesn't value her words.
Also, in most cases men marry and continue to treat their wives like their mothers, the wives are the ones that don't want to be a second mother. The problem comes when the nagging starts. But should men not look past their ego and see their faults that led to the nagging in the first place? Even men are humans, and humans will make mistakes. It's not a big deal as long as we learn from it. Ego will not save anyone. Therefore shouldn't men learn to be humble and kind instead of egotistic and defensive?
I'm not trying to say a woman is always right either. There are situations where the husband makes big decisions for the people he is responsible for. I believe in mutual respect. But I don't see where ego comes to play here. Isn't it shaitaans ego and pride that led him to where he is now?
You know ego is not a mans only emotion. It doesn't even make sense in the most of these comments I have read
And that scenario the man emotion was certainty. Not egotistical. Some women can't even understand emotions even thought the are meant to be more emotionally Intelligent/understanding than men
Nowadays women (not all) don't even respect their father how we expect them to respect their husband😅
So basically we are not supposed to guide our husbands because they are very egotistic.
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
@@misosoup9616 ooh okay, but my thing is if you marry me we become one and sometimes it's okay to put the ego aside and do what is right, not everytime you need to be right. But I also get your point
how about lecturing about his religion?and reminding him of his Salah?I clearly said to my husband if I did wrong with as far as our religion is concerned and he was right I will surely follow him but if he is the one judging me and lecturing me about following and obeying my religion,well he won't be dismay but I'll be stubborn to him!!!no woman wants to talk and talk when she sees nothing is wrong,we are not crazy,we are just concerned of what will be the outcome of his decisions?,if I could stop him from doing such terrible acts like zina and told him and confront him would that be wrong?as they say prevention is better than cure,if respect is earned not given!!!
It's clear women have missed the point here so allow me to explain.
If your husband is doing something wrong that you don't like, it's the way in which you advise them. Remember, you're the ones who are led and not being the leader. So don't start talking to them as if you're their mothers but remember they are your leaders so advise politely and remember your place in this marriage and he'll listen.
Some of the comments😑.
This video is 100% right. He never said only men deserve respect. But it's a fact that men value respect while women value love. Does that mean men shouldn't be loved and women shouldn't be respected? Come on.
This video could save some marriages. It will benefit whoever is willing to listen.
Great video, new revert from Ireland, Subhan Allah
Some people never learn from their mistakes. They keep on doing it again and again never learning from it.
Respect both gender equally.
So if I’m travelling with husband and our children and I know a head there is a huge ditch coming and I tell him don’t go a ahead I know there is a ditch there but he says no there isn’t I’m just supposed let him myself and our kids died by him driving into the ditch because I might hurt his ego?
I don't think wife should just keeping quiete about wrong exit on motorway. 😂😂
What should woman do if her husband abuses her when angry, and disrespects every time.. Says he has power over her wife and can say and do whatever pleases him
On lighter note “Men have big egos” - that is anything but a shock 😂
What about a husband who is not taking care of the finance of the house and is doing haram drinking etc and it is the wife who is taking care of the finance and is obliged to work to take care of everything....what do you think about that kind of husband? Does he deserve respect as a Muslim husband recommended by ou Prophet sss?
You're not supposed to come at them as if an open enemy, that's what the video wants to tell. If a husband makes a mistake, I say let him taste the full burnt of it then give him support in a form of an advice to show that the wife is on his side, even when he messed up. If the wife already become argumentative when he just realized he made a mistake before tasting the consequences of it, or worst, before he even realized he made a mistake, then that just showed, from the husband prespective, that she have little trust in his leadership and ability. Of course, I'm just talking about the little things, like making the wrong turn, failing at trying to fix the toilet by himself, ended up late to an event because he miscalculated the time, etc. Not the big thing that could ruined marriges like alcohol, gambling, drugs, domestic abuse, cheating, etc.
Read “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs” by Emerson Eggerichs. Shaykh Yasir Qadhi recommended it in one of his lectures. It’s on Audible as well.
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BarakAllahu fik for this video brother. May Allah help us in this dunya and akhyra. Ameen
I think husbands should also ask wives for their advice it shows that he also respects her a wife not only craves love but respect too and unfortunately some husbands are so arrogant even if they themselves make a mistake they go and yell at their wives why didn’t u tell me before this and that because of u it happened may Allah grannt us a respectful spouse
You don't even wear hijab, your opinion doesn't matter
Respect goes both ways in a marriage. Don’t expect respect from your wife if you treat her without kindness. If you yell or hit your wife, treat her like a child, don’t respect her opinions, you do not deserve the good pious woman that you seek. Do not expect your wife to cater to your enormous ego while you continue on with your detestable behaviour.
You don't have to worry about getting married. You won't get that. Women like you want to believe that all men are trash agenda 🥱
@@Afghanistan_news931 obviously the same thing works in reverse, my comment is literally under a video describing how Muslim women should treat their husbands, so that’s already clear. Secondly, let’s not pretend that in majority of cases it isn’t the husband who abuses his rights over his wife, considering he is the one with authority. Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, so naturally it is also the man’s responsibility to set the pace and dynamic of the relationship if he’s the leader.. of course there are situations where the women are abusive. But more often than not it’s the other way around.
@@thebadstation8416 everything I stated was factual and if you have an issue with it that’s very telling. I didn’t specifically call anyone out and I attacked no one, if you’re hurt I don’t know what to tell you other than maybe my words hit home.
@@zandileike Nah you feminists like to tell traditional women that they should be "free" and what not. Let them be happy.
@@thebadstation8416 what does that have to do with literally anything I said? And why do men like you love throwing the word feminism around the moment anyone even says a word relating to women’s rights- it’s very telling. You just said a bunch of nonsense, trying to put words in my mouth😂 All I said was that if you’re a man watching this to also be mindful of the fact that you must treat your wife with the respect and care you expect in return, and to watch your ego. Anyways, I can guarantee you no woman in a marriage in which she’s emotionally, verbally and physically abused and is expected to be practically a servant to her husband is happy. But I digress, none of which you just said correlates with my original comment anyways. You make no sense.
Ok calm down brother, you are making a husband sound like glass. Why don’t we just become deaf and dumb and let them just do whatever
Agreed the video doesn't make sense
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I'm getting married on March 19, 2023 InshaAllah, And I hope this video would help me ..
May Allah forgive us, make us righteous and make us the coolness of the eyes of our spouses and them ours Aameen
This video is directed at wives. Which is why he doesn't mention what men are suppossed to be like. But still the women, instead of listening to the advice, are commenting about what womens rights are instead.
A good man will return your love and respect. Many women just have unrealistic expectations of what it means to be in a loving relationship. They are too entitled and just take, take, take without offering anything back. You agreed to the Nikah (for most of us anyway), so why treat your husband like he is your enemy and all of a sudden like he isn't good enough? Also, you aren't perfect?! You have to be able to offer more than just look pretty. Patience and a good character is what keeps a relationship alive. We're grown folks - lets leave the childish behaviour in the past. A man carries a burden no woman is capable of imagining. Treat your husband well, please. And talk to him. Dont keep it all inside. Men don't have intuition and they aren't mind-readers
Many of our sisters here dont want to listen to this.
I was watching the clip again. It has been a while. I like that last part: let him be self-deluded😂
People please, watch older couples how they live. I mean, a woman is not even aloud te speak if the man says something wrong. The captain is on his sinking ship and no one is aloud te speak that there is water in the ship. When the man is going down, the family should go down? That's crazy!
The balance in that marriage is gone. The speaker says of the woman let the man self-deluded, the woman gets love? Please 😂😂😂 because if his big ego he dont even know how to show love.
This what happened when you think your so called logic is better what written in Quran.... Husband is the leader and that's no one can change it if he takes bad decision if family suffer from it then he is responsible for it society or even Allah swt held him accountable not the wife... you talk about balance, balance is broken when wife is the one who start making decisions.
Husband surely deserves the respect surely surely but how a wife give respect to the husband that disgrade her disrespect her humiliate her from day one in front of his family...from where a wife gather the courage to show respect to him then???
According to men..wife is super powerful she can do any thing when its comes to men respect but in the same time men called women is extremely stupid i really don't know what they want actually....they never satisfied anyway....
Men have big egos???? What about working together to please Allah The Al moutakabir . ? What about loving and respecting each other and helping each other to attain the Pleasure of Allah and entering Jannat hand in hand ? Was our beloved prophet described like this? Soubhanallah please educate me anybody I may be wrong and Allah The all Wise knows best
I can't believe all imams want to be respect and do everythings for them by their wives. What about the wives and some of them are assaulted by husbands. Are there some imams to talk about that? I feel sad.
What about when women are treated as child, everything they want to get to puchase, needs to be approved by the husband, he needs to decide what the wife needs
That is normal. A wife cannot spend her husbands wealth without his permission. That is then stealing and a major sin.
Wallahi jese tm khud hoge wesa hi tmhara spouse bn jayega.
Agr aap appreciate nahi krogy, the spouse will stop giving.
Aap respect nahi krogy, the spouse will sop loving.
Aap support nahi krogy, the spouse will stop growing (grow will benefit you).
I see a lot of people saying respect should be given by both husband and wife (which is true), however let us remind ourselves of the Hadith in the video. Which shows that the husband deserves ‘more’ of this respect. Some people might misunderstand this already. Let go of your ego. I am a Muslim woman saying this. If our prophet Muhammad SAW has stated this we are in no position to add/takeaway from this.
Yeah, don't go crying around after your husband cheats on you.
MashAllah peace and blessings be upon our beloved prophet Muhammad S.A.W💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Please understand that the women has to go the extra mile to protect her marriage and her husband from separating. Women should have the traits of a elegant flower even when getting mad or frustrated she shouldn’t raise her voice or show power in front of her husband. That’s the love of your life anyway duh😉. And it’s ok for both to yell at each other when there is a argument filled with emotion. On the other hand when the husband gets mad it’s ok for him to show anger because he is a man an so much is to be expected. Women please be patient with your husband and love him and he will SEE this I promise. When you don’t talk to each other go back to him and fix things once twice 3 times it’s ok there is no right or wrong you guys are married and in love with each other. Don’t let anger and pride ruin what you have. This is harder to do with the men but if the wife does this back to back the man will start to open up and love the wife more and more. So yes respect both ways but wife should understand a man’s anger and respect him I front of him and when he is not there. Don’t be pushy it’s not like you to be like that be kind sensitive shy and elegant and fall into your husband arms for love and kindness. I ask Allah to bring the hearts of married couples together and bring them peace and tranquillity and love.
the feminists will never let that happen and they expect men to open up to them lol
I am not sure if I agree with this. A self deluded husband can mean a lot of instability and chaos at home. They will end up doing one thing after another just putting down the wife in possibly everything and then blame the wife for not complying because it was unreasonable.
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A self deluded wife also causes chaos. You didn't understand the example.
Unfortunately in most cases men have betrayed and disrespected women who are the most obedient and the most respectful.
Wrong
What if a wife wants to advise on matters of Deen like going to the masjid, wearing pants above the ankle, quit smoking and so on .., does she have to still be quiet and allow him to learn by his mistakes… kindly reply … it would be a turning point for many of the problems Muslim wives face
Jazakallahu khairan
Am i weird or abnormal for feeling jealous when i witness my husband handshake another girl after closing a business deal, i felt heartbroken after witnessing their handshake infront of me, i got so jealous and cried, i told him its haram for non mahram to handshake he said its for business deal and he forgot its haram. It hurts, i need advice how to overcome this feeling
I think you are not weird for feeling anything you feel. If you felt nothing maybe it would be because you don't love him. But just because we feel strong about certain things it doesn't make it true, wrong or right. I'd tell your man how u feel and let him explain. We should be comfortable knowing we are their only ones and if we dont we can ask our partners to help with that. I know my wife. If she shook a man's hand and it was for professional reasons I might also get jealous but I know it's only me over thinking and I know she wouldn't cheat on me. Not with that guy atleast lol. I'd let her know I'm jealous. My wife likes that. We all should. It shows how much we care and how we don't want to share. Be well friend.
Thank ou for the videos you are teaching my kids
Double standard in the comment section ... them femals recite this and recite that and Men should and must and blah blah .... but what if a Man mentions:- مثنى و ثلاث و رباع ؟
then it's Error 404.. lmao
Sahih al-Bukhari 2014
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Whoever fasted the month of Ramadan out of sincere Faith (i.e. belief) and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his past sins will be forgiven, and whoever stood for the prayers in the night of Qadr out of sincere Faith and hoping for a reward from Allah, then all his previous sins will be forgiven ."
Very misleading lecture. Respect has to go both ways. If you have zalim husband, he smokes, he doesn’t want to pray of course as good wife she has to advice him! If husband doesn’t want the wife to be like his mom, he has to stop being like a kid ! It is as simple as that. Knowing each other‘s rights and duties, having mutual understanding and respect for each other are vey essential in marriage. Sadly our nations nowadays are fatherless nations, boys learn from porn about sex, their idols are comic figures, kpop stars or Hollywood actors. As result our society became very chaotic, this starts from very wrong man! Before blaming it on women, men have to learn to be good men first, follow the prophet saw learn from him.
Yeah unfortunately we live in a toxic society where getting respect is returned with abuse and disrespect. Our Prophet told us about love amongst a thousand other things that also includes respect. Sadly as a society we have drifted as far away from his teachings as possible.
What about women's ego?
Women just let their husbands do whatever they like and when it's the wife's turn, they'll just tell you "who is in charge here? You or me? Mind your own business, women don't know anything" is how they react. I know it because that's what the men of our society do. And this is exactly what makes us women afraid of getting married. Because we are told ti be slaves to the husbands, NOT their friends.
How can I give my respect if he doesn't?? I'm working more than him. I'm a teacher. I wakeup 3 o'clock. Sleep 11 o'clock. During that time I'm cooking, go to school, doing tution classes , cleaning,washing clothes .. He doesn't help me . I'm just a servant for him!!! I'm so tired. So many times I asked help from him. But nooo he didn't. Then how ??? Then how I'm giving my respect to him?
U said that man will learn from his mistakes.....y If woman does a small mistake y everyone will make it big issue...........? If man will learn from his mistakes then same applicable for women too......and she will toooo.......
Sometimes husband is wrong so then? Every husband needs caring wife so then ? If his mother r.i.p. and no one is there then?
Thanks u lot uztaz,u lead us well..
What if the husband betrays his wife in every way possible even though perform Salah, reading Quran and also giving charity but the real state only the wife knows and Allah knows best even goes to magician, but what can a wife of such a person do only have patience and pray to Almighty for guidance in sha Allah
Im a Brother looking for resources for MEN in our deen, that are in an abusive relationship with a manipulative sister but all I can find online are resources for Women only. Multiple videos scolding men in marriages yet nothing online but this video for the Sisters to learn responsibility of a Wife in Islam. Almost nothing scolding sisters that are Abusive or who are on the wrong path. We wonder why our Nessa are going astray, there are no more people strong enough to stand up😢
Exactly bro!! Same here. I advise you follow brother Daniel Haqiqatjou of Muslim Skeptic
@@PhillyPhilly1 thank bro ill check him out
I always ask my wife to correct me when I’m wrong, and there’s nothing wrong with that in my opinion.
Meh, if he is in the wrong road and the wife knows, he will blame the wife for not telling him instead. Some people prefer to blame others no matter what.
My husband uses and abuses this hadith! None of my rights are met! Even the rights that cost him nothing! Love, appreciation, respect, protection, affection! I don't get what's free let alone financial responsibility! His family abused me and he did not help me heal, instead he gave me more trauma! I gave this man everything! When he had nothing!
get a khula.
This goes both ways?!!! And second: Wive's do have ego too.... But good Video! :D
I let my husband do what ever he wants as he won't listen to me. Not trying to disrespect,just to minimise the mistakes ...too tired
What if a man is not responsible? doesn't take care of you may be cause he doesn't have a job?plyz I need advice