My problem with the dating scene is that SO MUCH ADVICE IS GIVEN TO WOMEN, women come in being perfect and men aren’t adviced & don’t even have to lift their toes. Love how Brendan advices men as well.
Each time I watch Mpoomy, there's always something to learn. Thanks to Brenden for advising guys, and thank you Mpoomy for reminding us of our worth. Love you guys❤
Advice is Sooo much women sided like Brenden has said if a woman values herself a man can change for the better Men know stuff but they endeavour to pretend Dats yyyy when they reach to getting a woman to spend there life with they can change for the better it starts with you the woman
On my side my man changed me , helped me see my worth , I changed for the better because I didn’t get defensive , I allowed myself to change and learn from him. Let’s shout to men who are transforming women’s lives and Not financially but mentally too , I pass , I got myself a car , I stopped heavy drinking, partying , wrong friends of my man , shout out to good men🙏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
The money, the cars, all the material things without love, values and knowing who you are are meaningless. Pity some men think they are 'IT' with these things. What a shallow life to think you are worthy because of material possessions.
@@ThokoTwala Also some men are content with bringing bare minimum in the relationship. I pray for a day when women would not settle for less in a relationship, love is about reciprocity, it can't be one-sided. Mrs & Mr. Ledwaba is sufficient proof that reciprocal love and relationship do exist it just takes effort, self-awareness, and intention from both partners.
I like how Brenden emphasized that just because you have found your inner worth it’s not going to mean that you going to attract Mr Right. That it might result in you losing people who don’t want to step up.
my friends think it's weird that I'm 20 and single andazi why. I always tell them that I have to know me FIRST, know what I want. Being alone, I've learnt to know my worth and being single you discover a lot about yourself and I love it. ❤
I had a bad experience,8 years in a relationship even got a baby..Because I didn't know my worth this guy did whatever, said whatever he wanted to me, he got me thinking bad about myself but now that it's all over am jus like how did you let all of this happen to you..I just realised how beautiful, amazing worth it and valuable I am..learning to love yourself is the best journey ever
This is perfect. The last boyfriend I had said that I had too many expectations and I was hard to please. I felt so bad at that time and I thought of lowering my standards but I couldn't, this is a confirmation from God that my values and principles aren't ridiculous, all my exes were not for me! I hope the person I'm in a relationship now is willing to accept the values I have set!
This was great! However, I think it’s interesting how we set such low standards for men. I don’t think that we should give men points for living like a responsible adult e.g. the point Mpoomy made about being impressed about Brenden having curtains and not a sheet in his apartment. I completely relate to that way of thinking but we need to normalize expecting men to be responsible adults who can take care of themselves and not give them points for it. And in terms of potential, I like what Steve Furtick says: date someone for their patterns and not their potential.
The part about potential👏 Someone could have potential but have no interest in pursuing and working on that potential. And you end up hanging on that hope that they will reach that potential that you see in them, then it never happens because they are not interested. You end up becoming miserable and it seems like you are forcing someone to be who they are not.
Just shared this video to my daughters and son.. U guys are inspiring... Just so u know... I am 55years old and blown away by your wisdom.. May God bless ur family always❤️
Always listen to your instincts, very important.I was married for 11 years and when he changed and broke his promises, I ran and never looked back. I have been single/divorced for 3 years and I will never settle for anything less than my worth. If it means dying alone, I am fine with it. It is very crucial to go into a relationship with expectation because you cant just be in a relationship or marriage and embrace walking in the darkness. You cannot just go with the flow, Thanks guys! Love you!
Babe i love you for this . I was in the same boat divorced 3 years back. Found love with most amazing soul who's only here to love me values me and only wants the best for me financially, mentally and spiritually. Enjoy your life and loving you and knowing your work😙😙😙😙
@Kelebogile..When we think deeply about this, there's really nothing to fear, putting yourself first to protect your worth is key. I'm glad you had the courage to do what is best for you.
Does Brandon have a channel for the gents cause yeah. This vid really hit home and i just realized how much i appreciate my relationship and the way it's moulding me to be a better person in life itself ♥️
Wow😭😭 just when I thought I was asking too much ku guy, u guys just made me realise its okay to be alone until I find someone that is willing to go an extra mile just to see me smile, not someone who finds pleasure in seeing me cry, someone that is selfish and arrogant that I should be willing to let go if I see that this guy is not willing to step, u guy is comfortable we never went to even one dated and we dated for 6 years +, he did not have a car back then then he brought a car and not even once he keeps telling me he is broke but with sex he needs no excuses, how is a guy that buys R4000 sneakers every month broke to even take his girlfriend to see a cheap movie ke, I wouldn't mind but no that's too expensive for him, thanx guys may God bless you really needed to hear that
I think allowing each other to grow individually is the difficult part, because we assume that people come to us already being “perfect” or having their things all sorted out
When she said "you will take crap for 5 years just because of that spiritual tie". I felt that... I was in toxic relationship for the longest time ,I can boldly say my judgement was clouded by that spiritual tie that I had with that guy. Luckily I've learned so much about myself during that process/relationship and even more after things FINALLY ended for good. Mpoomy you are right, the day you realise that you know what, I'm good even if I'm alone I will not lower my standards because I know who I am and what I need and want from a from man. I'm not gonna be taking crap from anyone moving forward periodt Side Note: Loving your channel❤ I'm a new subscriber😊
That was inspiring...it made me remember how I met my husband, this year is our tenth year anniversary married but we still young. And he only proposed after 3 month of dating and we used to share a meal bcoz that's what we could afford at that time
My God! I wish these lessons would have come way earlier in my life. I've had to learn the hard way. But nevertheless all that has been said is so true. Self worth is so important and its evident in the things we allow to continue to manifest in our lives. Ladies and gents if you find yourself in a place where you compromising your core values, tolerating or giving people the benefit of the doubt based of the vail perceived as love than you've done an great injustice to self. Most times we know what's best for ourselves and often times we decide to live not in the constant consciousness of that or rather let me say, choose not to be intentional in how we recieve and give off ourself, which leads to our own injustice. I really love the part where our brother speaks about facing our demons. And alot us comprise what is true and pure because it's a difficult exercise to do especially with someone else. May these chats continue to take place. I love and respect you both and truly God is doing a great work in you. Thank you
I also believe these are conversations we should have with our kids from a very young age..let's teach our kids to value themselves and once they start dating we have more of these conversations
We need to go through those bad relationships to learn what we truly want and will stand for and also to appreciate the good ones because they aren’t the norm.
When Brenden says a guy can be okay with dysfunction, you know dysfunction serves him very well because he doesn't have to account, to do better for himself and the person he claims to love.
Wow!! The truth in that statement is really sad. We need to raise our boys better and not expect girls to always be the ones who restore order in relationships.
This has been really insightful, and made me realize that I know my worth. And when you said some guys will leave because they are not ready, and sometimes I will leave because they don't deserve me. That hit home, and it is very true. We must learn to love ourselves more so that the thought of being alone doesn't scare us.
Thank you so much for this video!! So glad I stumbled upon your page recently, my faith has been restored and revived . I’m 19 , been single since 2018 and most of my friends think it’s weird and they constantly tell me to get a boyfriend now but I keep emphasizing that I’m healing from my previous relationship and I honestly am not ready for all of that baggage at the moment. I want to become “strong in my sense of self” so that I can enter a new relationship knowing my worth and everything that I stand for. Mpoomy you are so right when you say there’s a blessing in the Season of being single and I’m here for it. Thank you Mpoomy for saying “if you can out dating on hold in your teens... do it “ I felt that . Thank you , thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
1. Kante what perfume or lotion is Mrs Mom using that makes Brenden to always be sniffing at her?? 😂I've noticed from many videos that he always does that🧡 2. "there is something God gave every women, which is instinct, intuition and guard, listen to it",, one most point I'm walking away with from today's video 3. You guys are just soo😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️😍a great definition of love and soul mate. 4. Mrs Mom don't forget to hook us up with the name of the perfume you're using, on behalf of all ladies, we need it shem😂
I needed this. Its time to know my value. And for that man, im done. And will keep upgrading my self in spiritual, emotional, physical and financial ways by God's Grace who works through me. Thanks Mpoomy and ure Hubby. Xoxo❤️
The part when Brendan says men get comfortable and don't see a need to change what they are used to scared me. Many of us women will confuse that for a man really wanting to be with us.
I'm honestly crying after watching not that it's an emotional video but the way I haven't been respecting myself and knowing my worth... This I'd definitely my ah ha moment
Thank you for this. I have always dated beneath my worth. I decided to stop dating until I've done the inward work. I planning to seek counseling after lockdown to deal with my distorted self image. I'm trusting God for healing and when the time is right for a godly marriage.
I definitely didn’t know my worth for the longest time and that’s why I started my TH-cam channel too, with the hopes that I can empower and re-assure other women of their worth. Brenden really dropped some bombs for the male perspective 🙆🏽♀️
Thank you Mrs Mom. In my past relationship I ended things because I knew my worth and the Man was not just stepping up. There was no progress and just after that he told me that he is feeling free as he saw he wasn't good enough and he still has to step his game up and re-adjust his career and businesses. Knowing your worth isn't just about setting your standards so high but it enable you to set boundaries on what to take on in a relationship. We tend to compromise and sacrifice a lot. With love from Namibia
I don’t know if Mpoomy would be comfortable with doing a story time on her past relationship/s because every now and then she does give us a glimpse of that chapter in her life, I feel like that is the chapter I’m currently in. I recently turned 20 and my dating life hasn’t been smooth at all, I’ve focused more on “Potential” forgetting “Patterns” and I WANT THINGS TO CHANGE from now on.
She reaponded to someone on ber live who asked her to do the same thing snd she said she it's not useful to share her past as she's not happy about it and mostly as it will not benefit us. Rather she shares what she feels is useful and helpful.
I really adore the realness in your marriage. You don’t fake or add glitters. Thanx for this video one gets closure. Hope we will all find our soulmates
Your relationship is inspiring indeed. Sending much love to both of you. You can overcompensate, overdo, but if the receiver doesn't match your output you'll be wasting your time.
I say yes to a Story time of Mpoomy’s previous outlook on relationships and the kind of people she’s dated!!! This is a healing process for all of us 🥺
There is so much wisdom in this video...I was actually watching it with my sister and it opened up a conversation for us. We are both single she's 29 and I'm 24 and we realised that over the years there was nothing wrong with us when ever guys would say hi and bye in 2 minutes, it's that we know our worth and accept that we won't settle for what is not for us. Thank you so much Mpoomy and Brandon, we are learning ❤❤
This really helped me wanna be more open with my current boyfriend. We just started dating and I've been hesitant about talking to him about the serious things, but now I'm going to put it all out there and keep in mind that whatever is suppose to happen, will happen. Thank you guys so much!
Thank you for this, such truth. It took me back to when hubby and I where still friends and how he saw value in me when I couldn't see it for myself. Grateful for that journey, Grateful God opened that door for us and keeps us on fire.
Yes girl, true, trust your intuition and never fear conflict, as long as it is civil. Set firm boundaries and make sure that noone breaks those boundaries. Conflict can bring the best in relationships. Two people with different upbringing style have to clash at some point in life, as long as it teaches and not destroy another partner. Couples agreeing on everything is a red flag...and then boom they are divorcing....leaving one partner confused or not knowing what went wrong. Emotional maturity and connection is a must in relationships. Just sharing my experience.
This is so helpful. I just recently broken up with my boyfriend because I decided to set boundaries and respect my boundaries, I was just starting to doubt if I was too hard on him but I realize that the problem isn't with me, there isn't nothing wrong with setting boundaries and I should be willing to let him go if he isn't willing to step up.
This video really blessed me. It confirmed many things that God has placed on my heart, and it tells me my actions won't be in vain. Also finding fulfillment within yourself and not materialistic things.
Wow! I literally had this conversation with my friend yesterday about knowing her worth and why certain men are attracted to her and why she tolerates them. Lockdown is revealing a lot of things!! It’s bringing everything to the light in the midst of solitude. There’s beauty in a woman who knows herself. So many women don’t know themselves. I’ve been there tolerating people especially in the area of friendships. A lot of things also stem from how one grows up and what they saw. If mama and daddy never validated you and showered you with love, when one meets someone that tickles them with gifts, words and etc, they equate that with love. Addressing issues is a necessary work. Unlearning things is work but mandatory. It’s the root of a tree that not everyone is willing to do. This was a much necessary conversation!!! Everyone needs to watch this. This video must flood Lord!!!! Lol to Bob the builder. Omg I agree, a man with vision and a plan 👌🏿😊. God bless you Mpoomy & Brenden. Pure conversation laced in wisdom. I love your transparency which is key. You are radiating ✨.
I know what I want. I know my worth. I guess it's getting to a point where I am OK and willing to watch them leave if they can't put in the effort. I realize now and accept that it should not be easy vele. ❤️I enjoyed the conversation, thank you.
The wisdom i always recieve from watching your channel is trully remarkable. At this point i feel like quitting dating and just focus on myself but the challenge i have right now is how do i resist all the temptation and stick to what i am doing till i am ready again .
I loved this video, thank you so much. I am in my 30s now, been single and grateful for my old soul. I really had to learn to love myself, value myself, put in all the work and realised that there is no need to get involved with someone just for the sake. Great insight and love you guys so much xxxxxxx I totally agree with the materialstic stance because this generation values the most unrealistic things and if you are an old soul, you will definetly get dribbled a lot. Trust in who you are, love yourself and do not settle for anything!
Hey Mpoomy! So I don’t normally comment on stuff but I had such an incredible revelation as a result of this video,😭 God literally speaks through you guys and I am so grateful for your content! 💕💕💕 I pray that he blesses you as much as this video blessed me 😭 #GoodbyeDeadWeight 😂
You just made me realise that I've never been loved or have my love reciprocated. Now I know my worth, no man's gona walk all over me PS. I'm in my mid 30s
I loved this alot. Thank you. I broke up with my boyfriend who we dated for 1 year and I beat myself last year because of the standards I have. We never even kissed... Some standards I have and I always thought it was my fault because I have extreme ones 🙈🙈. Thank you for allowing God use you and remind me it was his loss. It's Important to know your worth and be confident in them. I love your honesty and this really blessed me. Thank you
16:23 just what I was reflecting on this morning..Rather have a man who has nothing and watch/help him become the man he's always dreamt of becoming than being with a man with so much money and so much ego...
This video was very informative, like most of your content. My partner and I were stuck in a rut & during this quarantine time things got hella messy because we're forced to be in eachother's faces all day everyday. Thank you Brendan for being so open about how the male mind works, generically. Mpoomy, my forever Proverbs 31 lady, thanks for opening up this conversation. Keep doing what you're doing ✊
I don't know how much I postponed watching this, n ghosh watching it now I can't hold my tears😭😭 the wisdom in this family is beyond.. I've got a lot of correction to do, I'll never settle for less again n thanks to you guys🙌❤❤😤
My problem with the dating scene is that SO MUCH ADVICE IS GIVEN TO WOMEN, women come in being perfect and men aren’t adviced & don’t even have to lift their toes. Love how Brendan advices men as well.
This is so true ✅✅✅
Tee yes!💯
Each time I watch Mpoomy, there's always something to learn. Thanks to Brenden for advising guys, and thank you Mpoomy for reminding us of our worth. Love you guys❤
Advice is Sooo much women sided like Brenden has said if a woman values herself a man can change for the better
Men know stuff but they endeavour to pretend Dats yyyy when they reach to getting a woman to spend there life with they can change for the better it starts with you the woman
"There is something that God gave every woman: instict, intuition & gut. Listen to it" That Part!!!
That was deep
On my side my man changed me , helped me see my worth , I changed for the better because I didn’t get defensive , I allowed myself to change and learn from him. Let’s shout to men who are transforming women’s lives and Not financially but mentally too , I pass , I got myself a car , I stopped heavy drinking, partying , wrong friends of my man , shout out to good men🙏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I've experienced that too! Shout out to the good men out there🥂
Wow, that amazing!
when Mpoomy said " you need to be Ok with being alone"..that's me right now.... what an eye opening conversation..
Who's liking before watching 😍
Music Network To Jesus me sir 😍😍😍
Me!!!
Me
Meeeeeeee, they look good together
Lol me
When Brenden said “if you took away those things, most men don’t know who they are”; I felt that
its the hard truth hey
Very true
The money, the cars, all the material things without love, values and knowing who you are are meaningless. Pity some men think they are 'IT' with these things. What a shallow life to think you are worthy because of material possessions.
Tapiwanashe Shava The problem is that there are so many dating books for women and none for men. So much is expected from women and nothing from men.
@@ThokoTwala Also some men are content with bringing bare minimum in the relationship. I pray for a day when women would not settle for less in a relationship, love is about reciprocity, it can't be one-sided. Mrs & Mr. Ledwaba is sufficient proof that reciprocal love and relationship do exist it just takes effort, self-awareness, and intention from both partners.
I like how Brenden emphasized that just because you have found your inner worth it’s not going to mean that you going to attract Mr Right. That it might result in you losing people who don’t want to step up.
Friendly reminder, "if he is serious, he will step up." 👌🏾
Am I the only one who didn't want this to end?! 🌻
Not alone sis! Tjo the wisdom this couple has
No! Me also😐
Not at all
You're both glowing. If 'we're pregnant' was a couple
Thato Baloyi 😂😂😂😂.
😂☺️👌
😂😂🔥
The Wisdom in this home🔥
thank you
Right?!
Hey wena, its so beautiful I want it for when I have my own home.
It's all I want for life
my friends think it's weird that I'm 20 and single andazi why. I always tell them that I have to know me FIRST, know what I want. Being alone, I've learnt to know my worth and being single you discover a lot about yourself and I love it. ❤
yes theres a blessing in the single season
I'm also 20 and I relate 100%. I'm also taking time out by myself to figure myself out.
Very true..it's amazing
I had a bad experience,8 years in a relationship even got a baby..Because I didn't know my worth this guy did whatever, said whatever he wanted to me, he got me thinking bad about myself but now that it's all over am jus like how did you let all of this happen to you..I just realised how beautiful, amazing worth it and valuable I am..learning to love yourself is the best journey ever
I can relate, i have been single for 1 year and 5 months now..
You know what's beautiful about this... Is that we are going to do things differently with our kids😊
Yesss
Righttt
Didn't know people are this hungry for real conversations... I pray we all stay true to who we are...
This is so on point. Sex definitely clouds your judgment and makes you emotionally weak towards your S. O.
yes it really does!
"I dont think finances are important as a man with a vision and a plan. " I couldn't agree less.😊💯💯
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This is perfect. The last boyfriend I had said that I had too many expectations and I was hard to please. I felt so bad at that time and I thought of lowering my standards but I couldn't, this is a confirmation from God that my values and principles aren't ridiculous, all my exes were not for me! I hope the person I'm in a relationship now is willing to accept the values I have set!
I love how everyone left kind comments it's cool to see positive affirmations in the TH-cam space
This was great! However, I think it’s interesting how we set such low standards for men. I don’t think that we should give men points for living like a responsible adult e.g. the point Mpoomy made about being impressed about Brenden having curtains and not a sheet in his apartment. I completely relate to that way of thinking but we need to normalize expecting men to be responsible adults who can take care of themselves and not give them points for it.
And in terms of potential, I like what Steve Furtick says: date someone for their patterns and not their potential.
This is the comment right here. I feel like we women try soooo hard and men do the bare minimum.
The part about potential👏 Someone could have potential but have no interest in pursuing and working on that potential. And you end up hanging on that hope that they will reach that potential that you see in them, then it never happens because they are not interested. You end up becoming miserable and it seems like you are forcing someone to be who they are not.
Just shared this video to my daughters and son.. U guys are inspiring... Just so u know... I am 55years old and blown away by your wisdom.. May God bless ur family always❤️
Someone once said to me: "You are not "choosy",you just know your worth."🌸
Thanks for that guys😊 I highly feel like I attracted this video hey😅
Always listen to your instincts, very important.I was married for 11 years and when he changed and broke his promises, I ran and never looked back. I have been single/divorced for 3 years and I will never settle for anything less than my worth. If it means dying alone, I am fine with it. It is very crucial to go into a relationship with expectation because you cant just be in a relationship or marriage and embrace walking in the darkness. You cannot just go with the flow, Thanks guys! Love you!
I love you for this sis. S/O for putting yourself first!!!!!
Babe i love you for this . I was in the same boat divorced 3 years back. Found love with most amazing soul who's only here to love me values me and only wants the best for me financially, mentally and spiritually. Enjoy your life and loving you and knowing your work😙😙😙😙
@@nomsayolisa1804 Thank you so much sis, wishing you and yours a very blessed relationship.God is FAITHFUL at all times...
@Kelebogile..When we think deeply about this, there's really nothing to fear, putting yourself first to protect your worth is key. I'm glad you had the courage to do what is best for you.
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Does Brandon have a channel for the gents cause yeah. This vid really hit home and i just realized how much i appreciate my relationship and the way it's moulding me to be a better person in life itself ♥️
He recently created one, not sure if it's for gents only though. @brenden_praise
Wow😭😭 just when I thought I was asking too much ku guy, u guys just made me realise its okay to be alone until I find someone that is willing to go an extra mile just to see me smile, not someone who finds pleasure in seeing me cry, someone that is selfish and arrogant that I should be willing to let go if I see that this guy is not willing to step, u guy is comfortable we never went to even one dated and we dated for 6 years +, he did not have a car back then then he brought a car and not even once he keeps telling me he is broke but with sex he needs no excuses, how is a guy that buys R4000 sneakers every month broke to even take his girlfriend to see a cheap movie ke, I wouldn't mind but no that's too expensive for him, thanx guys may God bless you really needed to hear that
Im so sorry
Are you talking about my ex?(haha)
The exact idiot i was dating...is there a perfect name for such monsters
I think im also at a phase where im realising my self worth.Turning 25 has made me unapologetic about who i am as a woman and what I think I deserve
Mbali Mbali turning 25 make you look at your life in another dimension! I turned 25 too and I have been working on my self as well
I'm also turning 25 and now truly dating in the right direction with understanding my worth, it's a beautiful phase to be in
Mbali Radebe it is beautiful
Turning 25 and I agree,right now I'm focusing on myself more than other things that can bring delay!❤ power to us!
Turning 25 and I agree,right now I'm focusing on myself more than other things that can bring delay!❤ power to us!
I think allowing each other to grow individually is the difficult part, because we assume that people come to us already being “perfect” or having their things all sorted out
When she said "you will take crap for 5 years just because of that spiritual tie". I felt that... I was in toxic relationship for the longest time ,I can boldly say my judgement was clouded by that spiritual tie that I had with that guy. Luckily I've learned so much about myself during that process/relationship and even more after things FINALLY ended for good.
Mpoomy you are right, the day you realise that you know what, I'm good even if I'm alone I will not lower my standards because I know who I am and what I need and want from a from man. I'm not gonna be taking crap from anyone moving forward periodt
Side Note: Loving your channel❤ I'm a new subscriber😊
That was inspiring...it made me remember how I met my husband, this year is our tenth year anniversary married but we still young. And he only proposed after 3 month of dating and we used to share a meal bcoz that's what we could afford at that time
My God! I wish these lessons would have come way earlier in my life. I've had to learn the hard way. But nevertheless all that has been said is so true. Self worth is so important and its evident in the things we allow to continue to manifest in our lives. Ladies and gents if you find yourself in a place where you compromising your core values, tolerating or giving people the benefit of the doubt based of the vail perceived as love than you've done an great injustice to self. Most times we know what's best for ourselves and often times we decide to live not in the constant consciousness of that or rather let me say, choose not to be intentional in how we recieve and give off ourself, which leads to our own injustice. I really love the part where our brother speaks about facing our demons. And alot us comprise what is true and pure because it's a difficult exercise to do especially with someone else.
May these chats continue to take place. I love and respect you both and truly God is doing a great work in you. Thank you
I also believe these are conversations we should have with our kids from a very young age..let's teach our kids to value themselves and once they start dating we have more of these conversations
I saw somewhere it said, "don't marry potential but marry patterns". Think it makes hella sense
Mpoomy that's very true ,sex is a soul tie and that has bred so many toxic relationships
😨😨😨😨that was a lightbulb moment for me
We need to go through those bad relationships to learn what we truly want and will stand for and also to appreciate the good ones because they aren’t the norm.
When Brenden says a guy can be okay with dysfunction, you know dysfunction serves him very well because he doesn't have to account, to do better for himself and the person he claims to love.
Wow!! The truth in that statement is really sad. We need to raise our boys better and not expect girls to always be the ones who restore order in relationships.
This has been really insightful, and made me realize that I know my worth. And when you said some guys will leave because they are not ready, and sometimes I will leave because they don't deserve me. That hit home, and it is very true. We must learn to love ourselves more so that the thought of being alone doesn't scare us.
Thank you so much for this video!! So glad I stumbled upon your page recently, my faith has been restored and revived . I’m 19 , been single since 2018 and most of my friends think it’s weird and they constantly tell me to get a boyfriend now but I keep emphasizing that I’m healing from my previous relationship and I honestly am not ready for all of that baggage at the moment. I want to become “strong in my sense of self” so that I can enter a new relationship knowing my worth and everything that I stand for. Mpoomy you are so right when you say there’s a blessing in the Season of being single and I’m here for it. Thank you Mpoomy for saying “if you can out dating on hold in your teens... do it “ I felt that . Thank you , thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
"we all have vulnerabilities" 🥺🥺
You guys are so wise!!! This was altogether life changing!!
Everytime I see Brenden on this channel i just know i need to have my pen and notebook ready.Wisdom galore. You guys are a blessing.
1. Kante what perfume or lotion is Mrs Mom using that makes Brenden to always be sniffing at her?? 😂I've noticed from many videos that he always does that🧡
2. "there is something God gave every women, which is instinct, intuition and guard, listen to it",, one most point I'm walking away with from today's video
3. You guys are just soo😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️😍a great definition of love and soul mate.
4. Mrs Mom don't forget to hook us up with the name of the perfume you're using, on behalf of all ladies, we need it shem😂
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I needed this. Its time to know my value. And for that man, im done. And will keep upgrading my self in spiritual, emotional, physical and financial ways by God's Grace who works through me. Thanks Mpoomy and ure Hubby. Xoxo❤️
Same
You guys are a “powerhouse” 🙌🙌
The part when Brendan says men get comfortable and don't see a need to change what they are used to scared me. Many of us women will confuse that for a man really wanting to be with us.
I'm honestly crying after watching not that it's an emotional video but the way I haven't been respecting myself and knowing my worth... This I'd definitely my ah ha moment
It was definately a hard pill to swallow
Me too.😊
@Noni Sangs
You listen to Lisa Nichols don't you?❤
Am literally apologizing to myself
Abuti Brandon is so wise, his perspective on these issues is so different. He sheds light on the “not so nice things” without being controversial
these 2 people are just so gorgeous and speak with such wisdom.
So True 💯👌👌👌
Brendon is so mature and wise, usually guys hate these deep convos. I love these conversations ❤️
Thank you for this. I have always dated beneath my worth. I decided to stop dating until I've done the inward work. I planning to seek counseling after lockdown to deal with my distorted self image. I'm trusting God for healing and when the time is right for a godly marriage.
Me and you both sister.
We need more of these fruitful conversations, thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. ❤❤
I definitely didn’t know my worth for the longest time and that’s why I started my TH-cam channel too, with the hopes that I can empower and re-assure other women of their worth.
Brenden really dropped some bombs for the male perspective 🙆🏽♀️
Thank you Mrs Mom. In my past relationship I ended things because I knew my worth and the Man was not just stepping up. There was no progress and just after that he told me that he is feeling free as he saw he wasn't good enough and he still has to step his game up and re-adjust his career and businesses. Knowing your worth isn't just about setting your standards so high but it enable you to set boundaries on what to take on in a relationship. We tend to compromise and sacrifice a lot.
With love from Namibia
I am like Mpoomy, I love love hence I am in love with ‘our love journey’
yeyyyyy
Bangiswani Lizzy me too babes, and I’m always getting hurt.
Bracey 😍🙌🏻
".. Potential matched with an effort.. " 👌🏽
I don’t know if Mpoomy would be comfortable with doing a story time on her past relationship/s because every now and then she does give us a glimpse of that chapter in her life, I feel like that is the chapter I’m currently in. I recently turned 20 and my dating life hasn’t been smooth at all, I’ve focused more on “Potential” forgetting “Patterns” and I WANT THINGS TO CHANGE from now on.
She reaponded to someone on ber live who asked her to do the same thing snd she said she it's not useful to share her past as she's not happy about it and mostly as it will not benefit us. Rather she shares what she feels is useful and helpful.
I really adore the realness in your marriage. You don’t fake or add glitters. Thanx for this video one gets closure. Hope we will all find our soulmates
Your relationship is inspiring indeed. Sending much love to both of you. You can overcompensate, overdo, but if the receiver doesn't match your output you'll be wasting your time.
This is a relevant topic, thank u Mpoomy, but I wish I watched this earlier in my life, I would have saved myself from many craps🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Now that you know better, you will definitely do better. 🤗😉
That crap has made you who you are today, your character and your mindset. Remember God wastes nothing. 🌸
+1 ❤❤❤
Atleast you know now.Some people never even get to learn the truth.
The ledwaba’s touching base 💯💯🔥🔥😍🥰🥰 love you guys watching from Turkey 🇹🇷
I say yes to a Story time of Mpoomy’s previous outlook on relationships and the kind of people she’s dated!!! This is a healing process for all of us 🥺
Seconded
This was EVERYTHING and more!!!!!?😭😭😭😍
There is so much wisdom in this video...I was actually watching it with my sister and it opened up a conversation for us. We are both single she's 29 and I'm 24 and we realised that over the years there was nothing wrong with us when ever guys would say hi and bye in 2 minutes, it's that we know our worth and accept that we won't settle for what is not for us.
Thank you so much Mpoomy and Brandon, we are learning ❤❤
“From a young age we are valued by women” It’s hard to face this truth ..thank you for sharing
Love this. The emotional ties that comes with sex definitely cloud one's view.
Psychology preached la , we should do a collaboration on such topic. Great content . People need more of these conversations
This really helped me wanna be more open with my current boyfriend. We just started dating and I've been hesitant about talking to him about the serious things, but now I'm going to put it all out there and keep in mind that whatever is suppose to happen, will happen. Thank you guys so much!
Let us just take a moment to acknowledge how they look at each other😩🔥
"... I NUMB MESELF ..." THIS!!
Thank you for this, such truth. It took me back to when hubby and I where still friends and how he saw value in me when I couldn't see it for myself. Grateful for that journey, Grateful God opened that door for us and keeps us on fire.
Yes girl, true, trust your intuition and never fear conflict, as long as it is civil. Set firm boundaries and make sure that noone breaks those boundaries. Conflict can bring the best in relationships. Two people with different upbringing style have to clash at some point in life, as long as it teaches and not destroy another partner. Couples agreeing on everything is a red flag...and then boom they are divorcing....leaving one partner confused or not knowing what went wrong. Emotional maturity and connection is a must in relationships. Just sharing my experience.
“Let’s make love what God intended it to be” - thank you to both of you for this video 🥺🙏🏽❤️
This is so helpful. I just recently broken up with my boyfriend because I decided to set boundaries and respect my boundaries, I was just starting to doubt if I was too hard on him but I realize that the problem isn't with me, there isn't nothing wrong with setting boundaries and I should be willing to let him go if he isn't willing to step up.
Wow guys 😭, honestly this came at a point of transition for me, and I must say it burns.
The pair of you are a blessing. ❤️
Love comes with alot of self-work. Filling your cup before filling someone's cup also alot of learning and unlearning.Thank you for sharing
This video really blessed me. It confirmed many things that God has placed on my heart, and it tells me my actions won't be in vain. Also finding fulfillment within yourself and not materialistic things.
I really love how in-depth this was. 🦋
Wow! I literally had this conversation with my friend yesterday about knowing her worth and why certain men are attracted to her and why she tolerates them. Lockdown is revealing a lot of things!! It’s bringing everything to the light in the midst of solitude.
There’s beauty in a woman who knows herself. So many women don’t know themselves. I’ve been there tolerating people especially in the area of friendships. A lot of things also stem from how one grows up and what they saw. If mama and daddy never validated you and showered you with love, when one meets someone that tickles them with gifts, words and etc, they equate that with love. Addressing issues is a necessary work. Unlearning things is work but mandatory. It’s the root of a tree that not everyone is willing to do.
This was a much necessary conversation!!! Everyone needs to watch this. This video must flood Lord!!!! Lol to Bob the builder. Omg I agree, a man with vision and a plan 👌🏿😊. God bless you Mpoomy & Brenden. Pure conversation laced in wisdom. I love your transparency which is key. You are radiating ✨.
Totally relatable ❤️. When I looked at myself just as Christ looked at me, it totally changed everything.
Sending love from Namibia ❤️❤️❤️
💓💓💓you back there in Namibia
Oh my gosh mpoomy it's like you describing my journey. I always accepted less before but as time went by I valued myself.♥️
The way you guys look at each other! Oh my god I'm on tears right now, and now I'm starting to believe it when say love is beautiful
I know what I want. I know my worth. I guess it's getting to a point where I am OK and willing to watch them leave if they can't put in the effort. I realize now and accept that it should not be easy vele.
❤️I enjoyed the conversation, thank you.
The wisdom i always recieve from watching your channel is trully remarkable. At this point i feel like quitting dating and just focus on myself but the challenge i have right now is how do i resist all the temptation and stick to what i am doing till i am ready again .
I loved this video, thank you so much. I am in my 30s now, been single and grateful for my old soul. I really had to learn to love myself, value myself, put in all the work and realised that there is no need to get involved with someone just for the sake. Great insight and love you guys so much xxxxxxx I totally agree with the materialstic stance because this generation values the most unrealistic things and if you are an old soul, you will definetly get dribbled a lot. Trust in who you are, love yourself and do not settle for anything!
Such an important and fruitful topic 💕🙏.
Thank you, this helps a lot. I'm a Christian and I really appreciate the honesty and how real you guys are. You have ministered to my soul.
Hey Mpoomy! So I don’t normally comment on stuff but I had such an incredible revelation as a result of this video,😭 God literally speaks through you guys and I am so grateful for your content! 💕💕💕 I pray that he blesses you as much as this video blessed me 😭 #GoodbyeDeadWeight 😂
Thank you for this. i really needed to hear this. We need to know our worth, you need to love yourself first before expecting anyone to love you.
'To be with you meant that I had to do the work and step up' ..this went straight to the heart
Brandon is dropping wisdom 🔥
You just made me realise that I've never been loved or have my love reciprocated. Now I know my worth, no man's gona walk all over me
PS. I'm in my mid 30s
I loved this alot. Thank you. I broke up with my boyfriend who we dated for 1 year and I beat myself last year because of the standards I have. We never even kissed... Some standards I have and I always thought it was my fault because I have extreme ones 🙈🙈. Thank you for allowing God use you and remind me it was his loss. It's Important to know your worth and be confident in them. I love your honesty and this really blessed me. Thank you
Thank you so much... I learned a lot.. God bless you both...
16:23 just what I was reflecting on this morning..Rather have a man who has nothing and watch/help him become the man he's always dreamt of becoming than being with a man with so much money and so much ego...
Laone Tsiane this I what I always say
"Brenden I'm setting you free"😂😂😂
This quarantine is gonna turn Brenden caucasian 😂😂 the complexion yoh!
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This video was very informative, like most of your content. My partner and I were stuck in a rut & during this quarantine time things got hella messy because we're forced to be in eachother's faces all day everyday. Thank you Brendan for being so open about how the male mind works, generically. Mpoomy, my forever Proverbs 31 lady, thanks for opening up this conversation. Keep doing what you're doing ✊
One thing that god gave every women is instinct ,intuition and gut so listen to it.😭I needed to hear this ❤
I don't know how much I postponed watching this, n ghosh watching it now I can't hold my tears😭😭 the wisdom in this family is beyond..
I've got a lot of correction to do, I'll never settle for less again n thanks to you guys🙌❤❤😤
This was an eye opener for me.. And I hope and pray that all goes well with my relationshipville
The timing of this video🙌🏿 Just spot on. God sent. Thanks guys 💜
Since we call Mpoomy Mrs Mom,does that mean Brenden is Mr Dad?🤭😂
Love the Ledwaba's😍
lol no just Brenden
Saba Masaya 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂 This is funny though
I love that you show that love takes effort it often doesn’t come on a silver platter(like the movies like us to believe). love is a journey.