Holy shit, I can't help but notice that your content/production quality has increased even further in your new videos. Perfectly structured, you provide tons of concrete and practical examples, some stories... And there's definitely that "free man" aura around you now. Todd, you're the future of pickup. Thanks for all the insane value.
Summary: How to be a Good closer: * you do have too Ask for it, and what you want. * Closing is important. Both in sales and in real life * Present the thing in the right way. Ask for the orders many times. Ask for what you want. Understand why it’s important. * Sympathy and empathy: understand what someone else is going through or going on board with what someone else going through. Empathy: Try and solve the problem. * The girl: how can you solve what her problems is? How do I help them solve it? People need problem solvers, be creative. * Listen and understand, become a part of the solution. * Strong belief in product: believe in what your selling and think that everyone in the world must have it. Major key in sales and in game. * Remember, You are a good thing for the girl, you owe it to them to be a damn good closer. * Talk a lot of shit since day one * Push hard, don’t be too much of a nice guy. * Most people need too be asked some times for them to take the decision. Don’t be a nice guy, be a bit pushy. * You owe it too the girl to be a good closer so that you could save them from bad guys and assholes * Everything’s come downs to your beliefs. Find yourself some empowering beliefs. Hope you enjoyed the summary. God bless you if you believe and are a decent being. Peace ✌️
Bingo. I have never closed ever in my life with a girl ( at least not in the bar or club ), my problem is idk why they always leave me or go somewhere else in the bar or club even when I have bought them drinks that infuriates me. My strategy I have thought of the other night was go for the hottest available girl in the bar and try to flirt with her in the best way possible but not too aggressive. If she rejects me I will proactively make any other girl similar or barely less in beauty JOLLy as fuck making her laugh dance and act like I am having the best time in my life... guess what? the hot girl will regret the FUCK out of it. Not always but for the most part this is an act in spite and it fuels you for your next customer.
sometimes we need to use our pride to our advantage. Making someone pay for their misfortunate decisions, even if you are acting a fool for someone else.
If you want to learn the skill of closing, do door to door sales. I did it for 4 months and learned so much about the art of meeting a stranger specifically to make a close. You really need thick skin to ask a random homeowner to spend 10K. This was after learning game.
This stuff sucks all the fun out of meeting women. It’s probably useful for getting sex from strangers but everybody hates door to door sales and door to door salesman. Everybody. It’s universal.
"Telling's not selling", "Always be closing"... these sales expressions are equally applicable to game. I see so many guys do everything right in game EXCEPT GET A RESULT. So I wanted to put an emphasis on closing and also break down the mentality of the best closers. And speaking of closing and winning, be sure to check out my new FREE course at toddwinnergame.com
Todd Valentine amazing video dude...you were the best rsd instructor...do you ever talk about why you left rsd in another video? I imagine that you probably won’t talk about it, but with the “state of the pick up community” video I kinda got the hint that rsd is changing the message for money. I still love Max, Madison and all those guys but we’d all love to know what happened. Details aren’t as important as simply what you feel towards them. Like I’m not sure what to think about Owen anymore...he was the first to inspire me, but I read The Game and hear about your situation and I feel a little confused and conflicted. What’s the goddamn truth??
I know every circumstance is different but in general curious your strategy for getting a girl alone when her friend simply will not leave. Would you continue to talk to both or mainly focus on the one, and if you are just focusing on her but her friend won't leave, is it best to just go for the number close?
@@brenthunter5078 flirt with the next girl and make sure the bitch sees what she misses out on. Women only care about their emotions, so there is no prerequisite for you to make the other girls emotions high except make her laugh, give her fuck eyes like she is the most attractive girl there and compliment in a sincere way.
I feel like a lot of people watch this but will never actually develop the belief that they are worthy. You have to be brutally honest with yourself and develop a self love on the deepest level. Try everything you can to heal, it won't be comfortable but that's often how you know that it's working. Deep down you know what you need to do. But if you can't quite hear it from within then do something like a 10 day Vipassana Course. You will reconnect with the deepest parts of yourself. At the end of the course you will feel amazing, more clear, much less reactive, and have a much better understanding of what to do to keep healing. I wish all you nice guys the very best. May you all be happy, peaceful and liberated. You deserve to be filled with loving kindness. And you will receive it more and more as you develop the ability to generate it from within and be open to it. Most people think they either love someone or someone loves them and that's it. But the truth is, the love we receive from someone is directly proportional to the love we can generate from within for ourselves. For the sake of peace for all beings, heal yourself. And thank you Todd for this video full of great knowledge and advice.
@@chocomalk8083 it's almost like becoming an asshole, because you don't really worry about what the other person thinks. But in a way doing this you both can get what you want. It's just having that convincing mindset.
I feel really bad now about all the closing opportunities that I let pass by because I was being passive. Thank you for the lesson, Todd. I won't do it again.
My problem is that I need a script or several scripts as reference points of the different ways I can close with. And I am lacking with this. Surely every time I ask the internet for advice on similar scripts I am never shown with any.
Todd Valentine This is great for me because I am running my own web design business, I have a great product. When I have clients often payment gets prolonged or underpriced. I am now realizing that I am underpricing myself and not asking for the right money based on my self-worth of the product. Also I am not asking for the close/payment enough. All of these problems fall into my game as well so this is repairing 2 holes in my immediate life. Thanks
Sympathy is when something has happened to you before, and now its happening to someone else, and you feel they way they do. Empathy is if something is happening to someone else, and it has never happened to you before, but you can imagine how they feel. You're just talking about the difference between smart and stupid. You're the best coach out there by far, please consider moving to bitchute so TH-cam stops censoring your videos.
8:13 Holy SHIT guys! I've been disrespecting SO MANY women by forcing them to not trust me... ... what a great responsibility as a seducer it is to CLOSE!
can you help me out, im in door to door sales about solar, we work with the PPA. What 6 questions should i ask that will make them say yes and agree to go with the solar program?
Actually, sympathy is about feeling sorry for someone, whereas empathy is putting yourself in their shoes and understanding firsthand what they’re feeling.
I crashed and burned hard with a 10 recently and its been wrecking my head for weeks. This video hit the nail on the head big time, you cut straight to the core of me Baxter
Wow this might be the most important video I've watched when it comes to game. I was already starting to get this same conclusion by myself but you helped me really narrow the idea down. When trying to get girls, when when I can game them and do things well, there are SO MANY TIMES that I got an objection and I just gave up. I thought to myself "well, if she objects then she's not into me, I'll let her be" and in a few times that must've been the case... but in others where it was obvious there was attraction and I still gave up. I realize I give up too quick lol and it can be also connected with your other video about "Persistance and resistance". I must change this, thanks Todd you're awesome!
This is just exactly what I needed to hear. Especially the part where you said that if we believe in the product, we owe it to them to push hard for the close. I think I just "almost closed" a girl pretty much every day for the last 2 weeks and didn't close any of them. And they're mad at me. For not closing. Maybe I should say that I put the energy out there, but have all these holes in my logistics, a fear of cumming too fast and an exaggerated fear of "damaging" them by accidentally giving them false expectations, or being a bad lover in some way. I'm trying to go in a polyamorous direction, but I'm also a sweet person, which seems to interfere with the frame. I'm learning way way too much from doing pick up to get into a relationship. I'm awesome at opening and building rapport and comfort. I'm beginning to throw in a lot of statements of intent - being suggestive, but sometimes pretty full on direct. I flinch on the follow through though. I can rationally see that it's totally appropriate to pull them and try to get it in, but there is some deeply buried part of myself that's terrified of "being pushy" in a way that makes them feel disrespected or uncomfortable. Ironically, not being pushy seems to leave them feeling dejected. Slowly starting to tease them quite a bit though, so maybe this is where these skills are going to start coming in. Pretty baffled and feeling pretty heavy about the whole thing, because I was into all of them, wanted to hook up and felt a kind of mini-heartbreak for the day each time.
quick feedback (english is not my native language) I work in a car repair center and there is this guy who is just massive in making people accept to do the services, he is just an middle age fat man who has a calm sweet vibe, but when he is talking with the clients, you actualy become convinced too and you would give up to him like the clients do too and what he is doing is exactly what is in this video, he is always taking way out of excuses (meaning he understand the importance of closing), always offering solutions to all the "why not" people give him (meaning being part of solution, empathy) and he is always, with that calm not try hard vibe, explaining the importance of doing the stuff and everything would be better if those things got done (belive in the thing being selled) awesome content, for woman and for life thank you, Todd
Awesome mindset! If one truly believes in oneself that they are great for the women. Then close & try your best unless she flat out says no or indirectly rejects you.
"A lot of guys aren't pushy with girls because they want to be nice, they want to be the nice guy who isn't pushy. But the fact of the matter, same as in sales as in dating, most girls need to be asked a few times before they say yes, so if you as the nice guy who *cares about her interests* don't push and she needs a guy who will push in order to sleep with him well, that means the guy who she sleeps with will be the assholes that don't care about her interests so when you back down being the nice guy and thinking you're doing her a service, *what you're doing is a disservice* because you're saying, basically consigning her, that she has to have asshole boyfriends, so you think you're nice but you're not. If you belive you're a good deal, if you belive that you're right for her, if you belive you're gonna be a good boyfriend and bring the value to the relationship, then *you have the obligation, not just a privilege, the **obligation* to be a hard closer if you care about the person you're talking to, because if you have all this value to offer and you're not a hard closer, *you're depriving them of that value and you're consigning them to be with a much worse person.*" This is probably the most badass and valuable tip/insight I've ever come across from a PUA Thanks Todd, this (huge) piece of advice is such a game changer for my psyche.
The guy who wrote influence wrote a more recent book. I havent dived into his work full force but I listened to a vid of his recently that seemed pretty solid. Check out his TH-cam vids, but probably more importantly check out his books if you like his content. Hope this helps.
Thanks, Todd! So hyped to have you back. I love your infields, both in Women and Winner Game. They are my reference in game. I watch them time and again. I'd love to have more from you. Tons of value on them.
As a professional salesperson I close hard because I have an ethical duty to separate people from their money before they waste it on alcohol, drugs or gambling.
I really appreciate this straight to the point format in your videos, they are very helpful with no bullshit at all. This is why I stopped watching videos from RSD guys because they are all over the place when they talk about topic, like a bunch of fuckin hyped up girls talking about their big night out. I respect and appreciate them for all of their work, but i don't want to spend 3 hours of my day listening to their random conversations... Your delivery of the content is grounded, concise, and straight to the point. Thank you Todd, and wish you all the best!
The last one really speaks to my heart. Just went through a situation like that, it wasn’t even that she said no, it was simply that I didn’t think it would happen, and I backed off. I could sense her disappointment when we parted ways, still reflecting on it now.
I watch a lot of these videos, but I gotta say this is without a doubt the best advice and content I have seen on this or any similar channel. I wish I would’ve watched this 3 years ago when it came out, but glad I am seeing it now.
because he is a natural observer, and that is one of the hardest ways to attract women. especially when women prefer high energy environment that are filled with emotions.
The best advice ever on pick up, dating and business. Everyone should know this. I have been guilty of this multiple times with girls. But I have learned my lessons now.
Meanwhile Tyler and Jeffy are getting cryo-frozen and beaten with fucking branches thinking they're getting higher vibration from it. Thanks again for your non bullshit approach.
Sure. Some paths more effective and representative of reality than others. Just because there is more than one "path" that doesn't mean it renders them as equal in their efficacy and accuracy.
Jonathan Vazquez-Perez apologies. There's more than one 'effective' path. Most likely there's an infinite amount of effective paths. Just for a fun experiment ask yourself "How could being spanked with branches by a big hairy guy help improve Tyler's game?" See what comes up 😂
At a restaraunt, do you get what you want without ordering it? Granted. I succeeded 5 times without request. Closing, offering, suggesting, ordering amplifies these results by, at least, 20 times.
I’ve just found your channel recently. I think this video is actuallt what I needed, because I do believe I’d be good value as a guy in a relationship, but I am sympathising too much and not empathising. I have confidence (more so now thanks to yours and other videos) and I’m getting better at conversing and flirting, and I know this girl likes me but she’s holding back a bit because she’s fresh out of a relationship. When I see her this weekend, i’m going to empathise more if the challenge arise. Thanks Todd!
The real KEYS to The Game guys I've learned so far to eventually Win is it's sometimes not what we know , but who we know. For occasionally it is not what we say, but what we say next and how we say it. Every so often it's not as important to be interesting, than it is to be also interested. Sometimes a guy can't make things happen, but let them happen. And it's also better to have a good wing man or wing girl to distract and disarm the obstacles. Because more than likely one of her friends are going to drag our women away because their jealous they aren't going to get laid, or their not getting the same attention, or they're bitter towards all men from what happened in their past relationship with some other guy they once knew. Plus our selected women is going to act like she's not interested when we bring up a bounce or a time bridge because she doesn't want her friends who are with her to judge her as a slut if her friends don't drag her away. Which is why I feel it's easier to attract & seduce a women when she's alone and no other stranger is around listening to what's being said. For rarely is a beautiful women alone. As cooperation is better than competition and Teamwork makes the dream work. But unfortunately most guys out in the field disagree because they believe there isn't enough to go around or they don't know how to distract and disarm the obstacles. This is real world talk I learned out in the Big Bad World where it's Mean and Nasty.
yeah? and where are the 'free' codes to the algorithm? or let alone a couple results from a certain calculation process. or is that for people better than me?
i alt tabbed away the second he started swearing and i thought it was directed at me lmao i was like meh ill keep looking then he's like *that's f'en important shit* and im like WOAH OK ok ill go b ack
From my experience, sleeping with the girl on first date when she comes over (that's usually what I do, I invite them over) is the closing finality and a must if you want to see her again. Even if you closed for the date, even if you closed in for the kiss, that's not enough nowadays. I remember a time when we could genuinely take it slow and explicitly agree for eventual dates in a way that it sounded true and sincere from the girl. Now they say it but it merely means anything, much more like a strategy for you to pursue her more. They relentlessely put limits and diverge from the main goal of the date, yet you have to ignore them and go for it (while staying collected and smooth) or otherwise she won't ever want to see you again and won't even tell you. It's that quick now, no choice. Even if you don't feel it in the moment, it is your responsibility to guide her to that point (and be fucking good at it) or to cut it completely (take away strategy) and end the date yourself while maintaining contact for when she'll reach out to pursue your validation.
Bro I LIKE this girl and this hit home, man. She’s talking to this guy who is just using her for sex and I know she’s unhappy, she wants him to commit but he won’t. This girl is SOOO fucking beautiful and I would treat her better than any of her exes ever have. I genuinely believe that, she’s briefly expressed what her relationships have been like. I’m gonna be her best friend, take her out to nice places, have fucking genuine fun and give her a new standard for dating for the future if we don’t work long-term. No more mr nice guy, I can’t JUST sympathize with her problem and let her be stuck in that bullshit. I’m going to be the solution for this one.
you do have too Ask for it, and what you want. * Closing is important. Both in sales and in real life * Present the thing in the right way. Ask for the orders many times. Ask for what you want. Understand why it’s important. * Sympathy and empathy: understand what someone else is going through or going on board with what someone else going through. Empathy: Try and solve the problem. * The girl: how can you solve what her problems is? How do I help them solve it? People need problem solvers, be creative. * Listen and understand, become a part of the solution. * Strong belief in product: believe in what your selling and think that everyone in the world must have it. Major key in sales and in game. * Remember, You are a good thing for the girl, you owe it to them to be a damn good closer. * Talk a lot of shit since day one * Push hard, don’t be too much of a nice guy. * Most people need too be asked some times for them to take the decision. Don’t be a nice guy, be a bit pushy. * You owe it too the girl to be a good closer so that you could save them from bad guys and assholes * Everything’s come downs to your beliefs. Find yourself some empowering beliefs. Hope you enjoyed the summary. God bless you if you believe and are a decent being.
Thanks for the free content, I'll be the guy that believes in your product, preaching about how great it is! I bought your TD&M program and ever since then I have not been disappointed, would happily invest in you and your BRAND!
In game you can also use sympathy and empathy to your advantage by, for example, if a girl says she’s with her friends and she has to go home with them, you can simply just be like “oh yea go with your friends, but I️m actually going (wherever) and I️ can drop you off”. It’s like a push pull.
#3 strong belief in yourself. Do I believe I am a good deal for them ? So I should also believe that I owe it to them and do a hard close and be pushy. Don't be a nice guy and keep pushing your value and ask ask ask.. obligation to do a hard close if I value them and if not then I am consigning them to bad boy friend.. Nice video.. your work is outstanding
Been doing game for 6 years on and off. Have gotten mediocre results still, my illness was also a part to blame but i talked with my ex over phone for 1 hr, i had recording. So i listened to it and she was giving me indications to meet again. I was down to meet her but i thought she should push it to meet. Recently i realized that although I've gotten good at earlier stages of game. I'm very very bad at closing. Specifically closing for dates and further closing like pulling. The truth is i haven't paid any attention to it. Because it's the last stage, i was so stuck up on first stages that i never reached the last. Now i have conscious understanding of how important it is and I'll focus on this from now. Lession learned the hard way.
Todd! You and Max are life changers .It's incredible when you watch the things you talk about like 'no fucking way is it that deep' then you go out and you're talking to a girl and you see the shit that she does. It's like.. wtf?! This shit is real. Women are robotic in going out. They've got this down to a T. If you just observe it's scary how good they are. Natural game has always worked for me because I can make girls laugh and know how to flirt but GAME Game is just like a rocket
I will watch this video everyday for 90 days and execute on it. This is so simple to understand and use, yet so easy to underutilize... Such a great video :D
Must close Empathise instead of sympothise by making her promblem yours and find a solution believe in your product like you owe it them bcoz you want the best for them
I have fucked up so many interactions because of not closing. The interaction goes extremely well, but something happens like someone interrupts and the girl starts to leave, so I let her. Or I get a call, and the girl starts to leave, and I let her. They don’t really want to leave - they just want you to show you’re interested enough to try to solve the problem.
I’ve always had this feeling when I close, and the girl or person doesn’t respond with a yes immediately, that I lose a little dignity when persisting past the point of rejection.
Unless you're a great emotionless actor that has several scripts beneath his sleeves, but hey... where's a guy going to find these scripts am I right? google? pshh that bitch couldn't give me advice or scripts on texting women on a phone, let alone in person.
So one time I was hitting it off with this girl from out of state. She was with her friend and they went back to her hotel. She was texting me saying she wanted me to come there but her friend would get mad if I did. She wouldn't explain why. My friends said I should have gotten my own room there. Idk if that would have actually been a workable solution but it's definitely something I should have brought up to her.
probably the most valuable video i've eve seen, thanks alot Todd for recently I started viewing girls as business as well and this video completely confirms my weird theory. Thanks Todd!
No ranting, no making fun of the average guy, just pure value. THIS is how it's done
Agree, kill, close XD , i used to kill it in sales
Super-ranty nowadays lol
your comment is old hahaha
Did you get arrested yet
Holy shit, I can't help but notice that your content/production quality has increased even further in your new videos. Perfectly structured, you provide tons of concrete and practical examples, some stories... And there's definitely that "free man" aura around you now. Todd, you're the future of pickup. Thanks for all the insane value.
Amen
Foreals
Todd V is a golden man! ⚜️🌱 god bless him, good thing that he left Rsd and went solo.
I endorse this comment 👍
" A..B....C... Always, be closing. Always be closing, ALWAYS BE CLOSING!!"
Gojira Hanma ask for the order lol
My watch is worth more than your car!
PUT THAT COFFEE DOWN
If you dont close you lose.
_PUT!!! THAT COFFEE DOWN!!_
Summary: How to be a Good closer:
* you do have too Ask for it, and what you want.
* Closing is important. Both in sales and in real life
* Present the thing in the right way. Ask for the orders many times. Ask for what you want. Understand why it’s important.
* Sympathy and empathy: understand what someone else is going through or going on board with what someone else going through. Empathy: Try and solve the problem.
* The girl: how can you solve what her problems is? How do I help them solve it? People need problem solvers, be creative.
* Listen and understand, become a part of the solution.
* Strong belief in product: believe in what your selling and think that everyone in the world must have it. Major key in sales and in game.
* Remember, You are a good thing for the girl, you owe it to them to be a damn good closer.
* Talk a lot of shit since day one
* Push hard, don’t be too much of a nice guy.
* Most people need too be asked some times for them to take the decision. Don’t be a nice guy, be a bit pushy.
* You owe it too the girl to be a good closer so that you could save them from bad guys and assholes
* Everything’s come downs to your beliefs. Find yourself some empowering beliefs.
Hope you enjoyed the summary. God bless you if you believe and are a decent being. Peace ✌️
Summary on your summary: believe in yourself as a high value person, ask for what you want and be persistent
You can't get what you don't ask for.
Dibawa Borsalino Fuck yeah, powerful sentence ! :)
This goes for everything in life!
Power yields nothing without a demand.
Bingo. I have never closed ever in my life with a girl ( at least not in the bar or club ), my problem is idk why they always leave me or go somewhere else in the bar or club even when I have bought them drinks that infuriates me. My strategy I have thought of the other night was go for the hottest available girl in the bar and try to flirt with her in the best way possible but not too aggressive. If she rejects me I will proactively make any other girl similar or barely less in beauty JOLLy as fuck making her laugh dance and act like I am having the best time in my life... guess what? the hot girl will regret the FUCK out of it. Not always but for the most part this is an act in spite and it fuels you for your next customer.
sometimes we need to use our pride to our advantage. Making someone pay for their misfortunate decisions, even if you are acting a fool for someone else.
If you want to learn the skill of closing, do door to door sales. I did it for 4 months and learned so much about the art of meeting a stranger specifically to make a close. You really need thick skin to ask a random homeowner to spend 10K. This was after learning game.
chris p my guy i recognize you! you posed in the forums about your profile pictures!
This stuff sucks all the fun out of meeting women. It’s probably useful for getting sex from strangers but everybody hates door to door sales and door to door salesman. Everybody. It’s universal.
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1) Closing is necessary.
2) Sympathy vs Empathy
3) Strong belief in product
"Telling's not selling", "Always be closing"... these sales expressions are equally applicable to game. I see so many guys do everything right in game EXCEPT GET A RESULT. So I wanted to put an emphasis on closing and also break down the mentality of the best closers. And speaking of closing and winning, be sure to check out my new FREE course at toddwinnergame.com
Todd Valentine Keep it going man! Back to 100k plus subs in a month.
This is GOLD ! Honestly, thank you !
Sales is life man. The frame I come from is, I'm not trying to SELL you something, I'm trying to help you BUY something.
Todd Valentine amazing video dude...you were the best rsd instructor...do you ever talk about why you left rsd in another video? I imagine that you probably won’t talk about it, but with the “state of the pick up community” video I kinda got the hint that rsd is changing the message for money. I still love Max, Madison and all those guys but we’d all love to know what happened. Details aren’t as important as simply what you feel towards them. Like I’m not sure what to think about Owen anymore...he was the first to inspire me, but I read The Game and hear about your situation and I feel a little confused and conflicted. What’s the goddamn truth??
I know every circumstance is different but in general curious your strategy for getting a girl alone when her friend simply will not leave. Would you continue to talk to both or mainly focus on the one, and if you are just focusing on her but her friend won't leave, is it best to just go for the number close?
This video spoke directly to me! Anytime a girl raises any sort of rejection I just give up. I will be a little more persistent
Me too brother, let's get a little bit pushier in a good way
howd it workout for ya Dan?
I've been there bro. You don't want to be an asshole, so you just let her go. it sucks. I'm with you.
Same!
@@brenthunter5078 flirt with the next girl and make sure the bitch sees what she misses out on. Women only care about their emotions, so there is no prerequisite for you to make the other girls emotions high except make her laugh, give her fuck eyes like she is the most attractive girl there and compliment in a sincere way.
This is a cheat code. Amazing video, Todd. One of the biggest things in life, and you're giving it away for free. Thank you 🎅
Thrills apply it first...then comment.
David Kiani Belive me it works. I'm salesman and I applied it. It works.
I feel like a lot of people watch this but will never actually develop the belief that they are worthy.
You have to be brutally honest with yourself and develop a self love on the deepest level.
Try everything you can to heal, it won't be comfortable but that's often how you know that it's working.
Deep down you know what you need to do. But if you can't quite hear it from within then do something like a 10 day Vipassana Course. You will reconnect with the deepest parts of yourself. At the end of the course you will feel amazing, more clear, much less reactive, and have a much better understanding of what to do to keep healing.
I wish all you nice guys the very best. May you all be happy, peaceful and liberated. You deserve to be filled with loving kindness. And you will receive it more and more as you develop the ability to generate it from within and be open to it. Most people think they either love someone or someone loves them and that's it. But the truth is, the love we receive from someone is directly proportional to the love we can generate from within for ourselves. For the sake of peace for all beings, heal yourself.
And thank you Todd for this video full of great knowledge and advice.
@@chocomalk8083 it's almost like becoming an asshole, because you don't really worry about what the other person thinks. But in a way doing this you both can get what you want. It's just having that convincing mindset.
@@chocomalk8083 You're a legend
I feel really bad now about all the closing opportunities that I let pass by because I was being passive. Thank you for the lesson, Todd. I won't do it again.
My problem is that I need a script or several scripts as reference points of the different ways I can close with. And I am lacking with this. Surely every time I ask the internet for advice on similar scripts I am never shown with any.
@@Ray2311us Close Naturally. Whatever feels right, Say
Todd Valentine This is great for me because I am running my own web design business, I have a great product. When I have clients often payment gets prolonged or underpriced. I am now realizing that I am underpricing myself and not asking for the right money based on my self-worth of the product. Also I am not asking for the close/payment enough. All of these problems fall into my game as well so this is repairing 2 holes in my immediate life. Thanks
"Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude." - Zig Ziglar -
Sympathy is when something has happened to you before, and now its happening to someone else, and you feel they way they do. Empathy is if something is happening to someone else, and it has never happened to you before, but you can imagine how they feel. You're just talking about the difference between smart and stupid. You're the best coach out there by far, please consider moving to bitchute so TH-cam stops censoring your videos.
So much free value, at an high rate. If he ever releases a paid program it might make a lot of closes lmao.
8:13 Holy SHIT guys! I've been disrespecting SO MANY women by forcing them to not trust me...
... what a great responsibility as a seducer it is to CLOSE!
Wow Todd really is delivering what he has almost promised....
He said that he will put out a lot of new content and he is backing it up!
im no expert on girls but in sales i was pro, ask them 6 questions that you know they say yes to and youl have 60% higher chance of a sale
can you help me out, im in door to door sales about solar, we work with the PPA. What 6 questions should i ask that will make them say yes and agree to go with the solar program?
@@ShawnFX only question i have for you is what % will i get from those sales?
@@dugarii007 I get paid $500 per sale, is $200 good for you?
Actually, sympathy is about feeling sorry for someone, whereas empathy is putting yourself in their shoes and understanding firsthand what they’re feeling.
This has to be some of the best, and most profound dating advice I’ve ever heard. I never thought about it that way.
I crashed and burned hard with a 10 recently and its been wrecking my head for weeks. This video hit the nail on the head big time, you cut straight to the core of me Baxter
Almost cried I missed the way Todd breaks game/life down 👏👏👏👍😎😎😎
Todd is by far the best 🔥
Todd you the man. Finally some REAL GAME no theory
Wow this might be the most important video I've watched when it comes to game. I was already starting to get this same conclusion by myself but you helped me really narrow the idea down. When trying to get girls, when when I can game them and do things well, there are SO MANY TIMES that I got an objection and I just gave up. I thought to myself "well, if she objects then she's not into me, I'll let her be" and in a few times that must've been the case... but in others where it was obvious there was attraction and I still gave up. I realize I give up too quick lol and it can be also connected with your other video about "Persistance and resistance". I must change this, thanks Todd you're awesome!
This is just exactly what I needed to hear. Especially the part where you said that if we believe in the product, we owe it to them to push hard for the close. I think I just "almost closed" a girl pretty much every day for the last 2 weeks and didn't close any of them. And they're mad at me. For not closing. Maybe I should say that I put the energy out there, but have all these holes in my logistics, a fear of cumming too fast and an exaggerated fear of "damaging" them by accidentally giving them false expectations, or being a bad lover in some way. I'm trying to go in a polyamorous direction, but I'm also a sweet person, which seems to interfere with the frame. I'm learning way way too much from doing pick up to get into a relationship. I'm awesome at opening and building rapport and comfort. I'm beginning to throw in a lot of statements of intent - being suggestive, but sometimes pretty full on direct. I flinch on the follow through though. I can rationally see that it's totally appropriate to pull them and try to get it in, but there is some deeply buried part of myself that's terrified of "being pushy" in a way that makes them feel disrespected or uncomfortable. Ironically, not being pushy seems to leave them feeling dejected. Slowly starting to tease them quite a bit though, so maybe this is where these skills are going to start coming in. Pretty baffled and feeling pretty heavy about the whole thing, because I was into all of them, wanted to hook up and felt a kind of mini-heartbreak for the day each time.
quick feedback (english is not my native language)
I work in a car repair center and there is this guy who is just massive in making people accept to do the services, he is just an middle age fat man who has a calm sweet vibe, but when he is talking with the clients, you actualy become convinced too and you would give up to him like the clients do too
and what he is doing is exactly what is in this video, he is always taking way out of excuses (meaning he understand the importance of closing), always offering solutions to all the "why not" people give him (meaning being part of solution, empathy) and he is always, with that calm not try hard vibe, explaining the importance of doing the stuff and everything would be better if those things got done (belive in the thing being selled)
awesome content, for woman and for life
thank you, Todd
I love this guy, he so passionate in giving his message through
Awesome mindset! If one truly believes in oneself that they are great for the women. Then close & try your best unless she flat out says no or indirectly rejects you.
"A lot of guys aren't pushy with girls because they want to be nice, they want to be the nice guy who isn't pushy. But the fact of the matter, same as in sales as in dating, most girls need to be asked a few times before they say yes, so if you as the nice guy who *cares about her interests* don't push and she needs a guy who will push in order to sleep with him well, that means the guy who she sleeps with will be the assholes that don't care about her interests so when you back down being the nice guy and thinking you're doing her a service, *what you're doing is a disservice* because you're saying, basically consigning her, that she has to have asshole boyfriends, so you think you're nice but you're not. If you belive you're a good deal, if you belive that you're right for her, if you belive you're gonna be a good boyfriend and bring the value to the relationship, then *you have the obligation, not just a privilege, the **obligation* to be a hard closer if you care about the person you're talking to, because if you have all this value to offer and you're not a hard closer, *you're depriving them of that value and you're consigning them to be with a much worse person.*"
This is probably the most badass and valuable tip/insight I've ever come across from a PUA Thanks Todd, this (huge) piece of advice is such a game changer for my psyche.
Todd give us a list of your favorite books on sales.
I don't think he'd do this. The pickup community already has a problem with mental masturbation.
What do you mean with mental masturbation?
The guy who wrote influence wrote a more recent book. I havent dived into his work full force but I listened to a vid of his recently that seemed pretty solid. Check out his TH-cam vids, but probably more importantly check out his books if you like his content. Hope this helps.
Thanks again Sensei Todd😎
Thanks, Todd! So hyped to have you back.
I love your infields, both in Women and Winner Game. They are my reference in game. I watch them time and again. I'd love to have more from you. Tons of value on them.
Todd's advice always goes well beyond game
Daygame is easy. It’s a skill you develop through consistent approaching
As a professional salesperson I close hard because I have an ethical duty to separate people from their money before they waste it on alcohol, drugs or gambling.
I really appreciate this straight to the point format in your videos, they are very helpful with no bullshit at all. This is why I stopped watching videos from RSD guys because they are all over the place when they talk about topic, like a bunch of fuckin hyped up girls talking about their big night out. I respect and appreciate them for all of their work, but i don't want to spend 3 hours of my day listening to their random conversations... Your delivery of the content is grounded, concise, and straight to the point. Thank you Todd, and wish you all the best!
Not sure why this video has so many dislikes. As a closer, these are some pretty solid tips.
RSD brigades Todd's channel with dislike bots
Soo glad to see the homie todd back
that zig ziglar story gave me the chills
TODD!!!!!! Man you are the G.O.A.T. #GetResults so amazed and greatful you're back
The last one really speaks to my heart. Just went through a situation like that, it wasn’t even that she said no, it was simply that I didn’t think it would happen, and I backed off. I could sense her disappointment when we parted ways, still reflecting on it now.
I watch a lot of these videos, but I gotta say this is without a doubt the best advice and content I have seen on this or any similar channel. I wish I would’ve watched this 3 years ago when it came out, but glad I am seeing it now.
Todd is the coolest PUA on planet earth :)
pepe mp and you are a chode 😂
Maks Jan I'm actually Todd's son the man the legend himself :)
Next to Style ;)
because he is a natural observer, and that is one of the hardest ways to attract women. especially when women prefer high energy environment that are filled with emotions.
The best advice ever on pick up, dating and business. Everyone should know this. I have been guilty of this multiple times with girls. But I have learned my lessons now.
Respect!! Notes taken, always go for the close(multiple times).
Be part of solution instead of problems ie empathy over sympathy.
Believe in yourself.
I love when todd films in NYC cause hes usually at places i have walked past
I’m 15. This shit is more valuable then anything I’ve ever learned in a classroom. Period.
Todd's videos are a, perfect, example of how Todd was the, only, quality member of RSD. Bad move RSD! Great move, Todd!
Meanwhile Tyler and Jeffy are getting cryo-frozen and beaten with fucking branches thinking they're getting higher vibration from it. Thanks again for your non bullshit approach.
There's more than one path, my brother
Sure. Some paths more effective and representative of reality than others. Just because there is more than one "path" that doesn't mean it renders them as equal in their efficacy and accuracy.
Jonathan Vazquez-Perez apologies. There's more than one 'effective' path. Most likely there's an infinite amount of effective paths. Just for a fun experiment ask yourself "How could being spanked with branches by a big hairy guy help improve Tyler's game?" See what comes up 😂
There are many paths but that doesn't mean they are all equal ;)
Seoul depends who's judging 😉
At a restaraunt, do you get what you want without ordering it? Granted. I succeeded 5 times without request. Closing, offering, suggesting, ordering amplifies these results by, at least, 20 times.
I’ve just found your channel recently. I think this video is actuallt what I needed, because I do believe I’d be good value as a guy in a relationship, but I am sympathising too much and not empathising. I have confidence (more so now thanks to yours and other videos) and I’m getting better at conversing and flirting, and I know this girl likes me but she’s holding back a bit because she’s fresh out of a relationship. When I see her this weekend, i’m going to empathise more if the challenge arise. Thanks Todd!
The real KEYS to The Game guys I've learned so far to eventually Win is it's sometimes not what we know , but who we know.
For occasionally it is not what we say, but what we say next and how we say it.
Every so often it's not as important to be interesting, than it is to be also interested.
Sometimes a guy can't make things happen, but let them happen.
And it's also better to have a good wing man or wing girl to distract and disarm the obstacles. Because more than likely one of her friends are going to drag our women away because their jealous they aren't going to get laid, or their not getting the same attention, or they're bitter towards all men from what happened in their past relationship with some other guy they once knew. Plus our selected women is going to act like she's not interested when we bring up a bounce or a time bridge because she doesn't want her friends who are with her to judge her as a slut if her friends don't drag her away. Which is why I feel it's easier to attract & seduce a women when she's alone and no other stranger is around listening to what's being said.
For rarely is a beautiful women alone. As cooperation is better than competition and Teamwork makes the dream work. But unfortunately most guys out in the field disagree because they believe there isn't enough to go around or they don't know how to distract and disarm the obstacles.
This is real world talk I learned out in the Big Bad World where it's Mean and Nasty.
I've always linked pulling chicks to sales. Thanks for the confirmation Todd
yeah? and where are the 'free' codes to the algorithm? or let alone a couple results from a certain calculation process. or is that for people better than me?
Todd, you are a genius. Your words are pure gold.
i alt tabbed away the second he started swearing and i thought it was directed at me lmao i was like meh ill keep looking then he's like *that's f'en important shit* and im like WOAH OK ok ill go b ack
From my experience, sleeping with the girl on first date when she comes over (that's usually what I do, I invite them over) is the closing finality and a must if you want to see her again. Even if you closed for the date, even if you closed in for the kiss, that's not enough nowadays. I remember a time when we could genuinely take it slow and explicitly agree for eventual dates in a way that it sounded true and sincere from the girl. Now they say it but it merely means anything, much more like a strategy for you to pursue her more. They relentlessely put limits and diverge from the main goal of the date, yet you have to ignore them and go for it (while staying collected and smooth) or otherwise she won't ever want to see you again and won't even tell you. It's that quick now, no choice. Even if you don't feel it in the moment, it is your responsibility to guide her to that point (and be fucking good at it) or to cut it completely (take away strategy) and end the date yourself while maintaining contact for when she'll reach out to pursue your validation.
good one. I just have a issue with being to fast when i invited someone i work with, but freelance basis
This is literally psychotic
Bro I LIKE this girl and this hit home, man. She’s talking to this guy who is just using her for sex and I know she’s unhappy, she wants him to commit but he won’t.
This girl is SOOO fucking beautiful and I would treat her better than any of her exes ever have. I genuinely believe that, she’s briefly expressed what her relationships have been like. I’m gonna be her best friend, take her out to nice places, have fucking genuine fun and give her a new standard for dating for the future if we don’t work long-term.
No more mr nice guy, I can’t JUST sympathize with her problem and let her be stuck in that bullshit. I’m going to be the solution for this one.
This is surprisingly gold, will be tuning in more!
I'm so happy you're back man!!!
Hi Todd. Are you planning on creating a unique gameproduct? Something that covers it all.
women is the best program
Murderous Z why would we pay for something that needs to be filtered? I expect the product to have pure content.
"Nice person" as it is used means "weak". Some people refer nice as a good strong character
this short video opened my mind as no other else, thanks dude, just suscribed
One of the best inner game videos of all time.
you do have too Ask for it, and what you want.
* Closing is important. Both in sales and in real life
* Present the thing in the right way. Ask for the orders many times. Ask for what you want. Understand why it’s important.
* Sympathy and empathy: understand what someone else is going through or going on board with what someone else going through. Empathy: Try and solve the problem.
* The girl: how can you solve what her problems is? How do I help them solve it? People need problem solvers, be creative.
* Listen and understand, become a part of the solution.
* Strong belief in product: believe in what your selling and think that everyone in the world must have it. Major key in sales and in game.
* Remember, You are a good thing for the girl, you owe it to them to be a damn good closer.
* Talk a lot of shit since day one
* Push hard, don’t be too much of a nice guy.
* Most people need too be asked some times for them to take the decision. Don’t be a nice guy, be a bit pushy.
* You owe it too the girl to be a good closer so that you could save them from bad guys and assholes
* Everything’s come downs to your beliefs. Find yourself some empowering beliefs.
Hope you enjoyed the summary. God bless you if you believe and are a decent being.
Thanks for the free content, I'll be the guy that believes in your product, preaching about how great it is! I bought your TD&M program and ever since then I have not been disappointed, would happily invest in you and your BRAND!
Great to see you back Todd, Keep the videos coming man !!!!!!!!!
In game you can also use sympathy and empathy to your advantage by, for example, if a girl says she’s with her friends and she has to go home with them, you can simply just be like “oh yea go with your friends, but I️m actually going (wherever) and I️ can drop you off”. It’s like a push pull.
#3 strong belief in yourself.
Do I believe I am a good deal for them ?
So I should also believe that I owe it to them and do a hard close and be pushy. Don't be a nice guy and keep pushing your value and ask ask ask.. obligation to do a hard close if I value them and if not then I am consigning them to bad boy friend..
Nice video.. your work is outstanding
Been doing game for 6 years on and off. Have gotten mediocre results still, my illness was also a part to blame but i talked with my ex over phone for 1 hr, i had recording. So i listened to it and she was giving me indications to meet again. I was down to meet her but i thought she should push it to meet. Recently i realized that although I've gotten good at earlier stages of game. I'm very very bad at closing. Specifically closing for dates and further closing like pulling. The truth is i haven't paid any attention to it. Because it's the last stage, i was so stuck up on first stages that i never reached the last. Now i have conscious understanding of how important it is and I'll focus on this from now. Lession learned the hard way.
Thanks for coming back Todd!!! really appreciate the wisdom you impart on us
Fucking love the flow here. Fucking love it. You're free flowing, open, authentic and RAW.
What's up with all the dislikes, jeez. This stuff is golden. Keep up the good work!
Sales & Game are identical
My mind is blown after this video.
Thank you
This helped me way more than I thought it would.
That is free content on TH-cam ? Todd that is insanely valuable !
Todd! You and Max are life changers .It's incredible when you watch the things you talk about like 'no fucking way is it that deep' then you go out and you're talking to a girl and you see the shit that she does. It's like.. wtf?! This shit is real. Women are robotic in going out. They've got this down to a T. If you just observe it's scary how good they are. Natural game has always worked for me because I can make girls laugh and know how to flirt but GAME Game is just like a rocket
I paused this video to listen back to something I missed and the frame stopped on Todd staring at me like Big Brother...eerie
I will watch this video everyday for 90 days and execute on it. This is so simple to understand and use, yet so easy to underutilize... Such a great video :D
Thank you Todd!
Must close
Empathise instead of sympothise by making her promblem yours and find a solution
believe in your product like you owe it them bcoz you want the best for them
5 dislikes. I sense Owen, Julien, Max, Luke and Madison came for a visit. Hahaha
Leonardo Gottgtroy I still don't know what happened
This is my Mentor!
I have fucked up so many interactions because of not closing. The interaction goes extremely well, but something happens like someone interrupts and the girl starts to leave, so I let her. Or I get a call, and the girl starts to leave, and I let her. They don’t really want to leave - they just want you to show you’re interested enough to try to solve the problem.
Wow, this is so revealing, Todd, you are genius, keep up those videos, they are amazing!!
First time I’ve seen your videos, liked what I heard. Think I’ll try another and maybe subscribe!
Zig Ziglar, one of the best! Loved his stories told in his deep Mississippi accent!
I work in sells and I’m so glad he covered more than just pick up. Everything is connected
Excellent lesson !
Very very important!
Welcome back! You are the natural successor to Mystery
I’ve always had this feeling when I close, and the girl or person doesn’t respond with a yes immediately, that I lose a little dignity when persisting past the point of rejection.
Unless you're a great emotionless actor that has several scripts beneath his sleeves, but hey... where's a guy going to find these scripts am I right? google? pshh that bitch couldn't give me advice or scripts on texting women on a phone, let alone in person.
Great video Todd.
One of the most valuable videos that i ever watched!!! Ty Todd!
Todd, you don't know how much it resonates with me that third point. Now I know what I have been doing wrong. Thanks a lot!
I don't push not because I want to be "nice" as you say but because I'm prideful.
So one time I was hitting it off with this girl from out of state. She was with her friend and they went back to her hotel. She was texting me saying she wanted me to come there but her friend would get mad if I did. She wouldn't explain why. My friends said I should have gotten my own room there.
Idk if that would have actually been a workable solution but it's definitely something I should have brought up to her.
probably the most valuable video i've eve seen, thanks alot Todd for recently I started viewing girls as business as well and this video completely confirms my weird theory. Thanks Todd!
What is a "closer?" just a guy who asks the question? Asks for the date? Ask to go home with you makes someone a closer?
read the description of the video, you'll get it...
Cplat __ yes someone who asks questions. i get it