I’m not a therapist but I would start with-what does it mean that you’re a taker, and why do you think you are that way? I think self-awareness is the first step. Your wife also has to learn to state her needs, but you can help her a lot by validating her whenever she states a need and being SUPER empathetic and willing to make compromises with her. I know for me it’s hard to ask for help if it’s met with ANY resistance. My brain goes “okay I’ll just do it myself then”, and the resentment builds.
First of all, we're celebrating the fact that you're contemplating this question just simply from listening / watching this. Thank you for that and we're honoring your humility. You're at the first stage, which is acknowledging that you want to shift! If you'd be open to it, let's connect what that next step is for you, given your unique circumstances. Share a coffee with us and we can chat! calendly.com/emiliasmith/30min?back=1&month=2024-12
I’m not a therapist but I would start with-what does it mean that you’re a taker, and why do you think you are that way? I think self-awareness is the first step. Your wife also has to learn to state her needs, but you can help her a lot by validating her whenever she states a need and being SUPER empathetic and willing to make compromises with her. I know for me it’s hard to ask for help if it’s met with ANY resistance. My brain goes “okay I’ll just do it myself then”, and the resentment builds.
How can I become less of a taker? I want to change for my wife
First of all, we're celebrating the fact that you're contemplating this question just simply from listening / watching this. Thank you for that and we're honoring your humility. You're at the first stage, which is acknowledging that you want to shift! If you'd be open to it, let's connect what that next step is for you, given your unique circumstances. Share a coffee with us and we can chat! calendly.com/emiliasmith/30min?back=1&month=2024-12