I remember my Army Sargent father telling me as a young teenage girl that "The best way to not become a victim is to not look like a victim." Words I have never forgotten.
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Context is important. Regardless of which direction you choose to avert your gaze, the initial glance is most important. If your food is in front of you, it's perfectly reasonably to glance back down. Just don't do it sheepishly. Hold their stare for a moment, then slowly roll your eyes back down to your food. It's not the looking down, it's the manner in which you do it.
I never walk into any store from the parking lot without watching with my head on a swivel. I never park near a van. I watch everything. Quit looking at your damn phone! This method also applies for INSIDE the stores. Remember, you may be watched…
In some cultures it's quite normal to stare. Like in Thailand for example. But they often not staring aggressively though. Also, people can be staring at you without thinking about it sometimes. Maybe that's why they look surprised when you stare back.
Totally...cannot tell you how many times I got japped In Chicago....sometimes I won sometimes I lost but if you stay aware that's 50 percent of the battle
“Situational Awareness” That’s a great way to express it In the world we’re living in everybody needs to do that everywhere Sad but true Be aware, might save your Life
I think the best advice is just be aware of your surroundings at all times. Doesn't really matter whether you are in a fast food restaurant or walking in a bad area at night, the key is to notice the problem before the problem notices you.
- Criminals: OK, after this video the hunched are now faking it and the non hunched may be confident and dangerous people so...let's strike the "middle ground"! - people who walk half-hunched to watch their phone 24/7: we are screwed (o.o)
@theultimatemale6820 I was walking and I seen this guy get up. I could tell he wanted to rob me. We walked toward one another I could tell he wanted to wait till I walked past him so he could take me from the rear haha. He got past me turned a round and I was standing looking at him face to face. I will never forget the fear in his eyes. I do the opposite of what he says. I look weak when I am strong,act strong when I am weak. But am always aware and ready. I actually like to fight hate to say I try not to start one. I would rather be dead and cool then alive and uncool.
Some people are just crazy. A creepy guy in a parking lot took one look at me, balled up his fists and started snarling like an animal stomping toward me. I’ve never seen him in my life, he was clearly not right. My firearm was in my hotel room, but I had my trained Rottweiler out to potty. I commanded Baron to take over, and the man snapped out of it and circled wide. I saw him two more times near my hotel, he had the same reaction. I’m so glad I added my dog to my self security, I can’t recommend a trained dog enough!
@@FlawlessImperfectionBeauty Sadly I have 4 entirely useless Shih Tzu!! But my carry is always on me when I am away from home!! Rotties are wonderful!!
Distance is key. I remember going home late at night, and a group of 5 men with a certain look, came towards me on the sidewalk. I immediately went over the road to the other sidewalk and kept walking. When they passed on the other side of the road one of them threw a bottle. He was yelling, ready to fight. But I kept on walking fast. The extra 20 meters I allready had was quickly 100 meters and he did not follow. Distance is key. It wouldnt have helped no matter how confident I walked if I had been on the same sidewalk as them, and fighting 5 arent gonna go well 99% of the time.
Well crossing to the other side of the road may well have been the correct course of action considering your circumstances but it's not surprising that it triggered a reaction.
My dad is a former Marine and Vietnam vet. He always taught me to be very aware of my surroundings at all times and to keep my head on a swivel. I’ve taught my kids and grandkids the same. I’ve also taught my daughter that when she’s in a parking lot, going to or from her car, don’t be digging in her purse or get distracted. Pay attention to what’s going on around you. Great video.
@@Aeren69g Yes we do, but the crime in our little town has escalated over the years to a ridiculous point. Personally, I think it’s better to be aware, than be sorry.
KEEP YOUR PHONE IN YOUR POCKET. If you're walking and looking at your phone, you're already distracted, and your're an easier target. Keep your head up, and your shoulders back as you're walking. and even if you don't, look like you know exactly where you're going.
I never take my phone with me when I walk and my dog is always with me. I take her safety just as important as my own!! 😊 I DO take a bat light which I keep ready to swing at a moments notice. Sometimes I wear a hoodie and walk like a man. I have very long hair. My husband says that I walk like " don't @$&+ with me"!! 😆
Also if your in the position where they have cornered you and want your phone use it a weapon it's hard your gonna loose it either way it better to break it on their face than them take it...then even if they do take it ..its now broken and they dont get the cash they were hoping for it.
I developed some of those skills when I became a mother. When you are alone with your children you realize that you have to be the strong one, lead by example and handle the situation.
When someone stares at me, I make eye contact and I give a little head nod. Then I go about my business. Self defense starts from the very beginning. Make sure you’re physically, mentally, and spiritually strong. Be aware of your surroundings and have situational awareness. Be ready to run; that is the best form of self defense. When caught, be ready to fight. But trust me, you don’t want to fight. You could get killed or end up in jail should you hurt or even kill the other person.
That quick firm eye contact and small nod has always been my MO. It just feels good, firm, not aggressive, but a solid acknowledgement. Keep the head up when you break eye contact, posture upright and firm. It works.
My German Shepherd Max always kept me safe,i was walking him one night when three drunks scoffing chips noticed me then made a move towards me doing the monkey walk then Max appeared from behind me and noticed them he started growling and they soon turned around and walked away. God bless you Max up in heaven thank you for protecting me. ❤️✝️❤️🙏
@@dogsarefun2I had a basset hound that tore up a guy who tried to break into my car one night. It was hilarious. I didn’t call her off and I let her have him. There was blood on the pavement 😃.
It's really about being assertive without being aggressive. It gives the message that you don't look for trouble but you can stand your ground when you have to.
A while back in the apt. parking lot, some guy looked at me and started walking toward me. I looked at him and walked slow toward him with confidence and he turned and walked the other way. I love my martial arts. Even is you walk with confidence, there are those who will still try and melt you down by staring. Doesn't work on me. I've been assaulted all my life and will not tolerate it. If you're attacked, defend yourself and be mean about it!
I am 49. I was mugged and beaten when I was 30. It has left me fearful ever since. I'm nervous just walking in the street. Can someone as old as me learn some martial arts? Just the basics? Thanks for any tips.
@@CyberSystemOverload The short answer is: Yes! The long answer is: Yes, of course! There's nothing to it, if you want it.... just go and learn some skills! I think you mostly need to get mentally prepped. Like, why wouldn't you go learn some martial arts? What's keeping you? Why haven't you done this already? Get going, man! There you go, a little push on your way! :) Now go learn some martial arts!
The confidence thing worked in my favor late one night. I was with a group of friends in a convenience store and walked away from them to order food from a touch screen. When I finished ordering and turned around there were 4 large men standing behind me, intentionally blocking my path. I'm a 5'4'" 115 lb woman. I could see they were trying to intimidate me so I looked each one in the eye, smiled, and said "Excuse me." and pretended I was comfortable despite them "looming" over me. They looked confused and stepped aside to allow me to pass. I don't know that that would work in any situation, but I think they expected a different reaction and weren't prepared for that.
Similar thing happened to me once. I was waiting on a banch outside of a mall for my husband to pick me up and a gang of teenage boys came over and draped themselves all over the bench, chatting me up. I just chatted right back, slipping in the fact that my husband was picking me up after attending the local gun show. I asked if they'd ever been to it. They just quietly walked off.
@@edennis8578 I'm sorry for your experience, BUT I think you handled that really well. 🙂👍🏻 I know intimidation is often the goal, and if we're in a relatively safe, public place, a casual attitude seems to throw those kinds of people off. I think I mentioned in my story that I know this doesn't work in certain situations, but in some it's very useful. The "intimidator" doesn't find the exchange particularly fun or enjoyable so they seem to move on. Lol
Lisa, lol, methinks your situation would’ve been much smoother if you had peeled off to one side or the other from the counter like everyone else instead of walking straight back the way you approached. That’s why you got weird looks. You felt intimidated…doesn’t mean they were trying to do that to you. No four men on this planet feels the need to intimidate a single female in a public fast food joint, they just wanted you to get out of the way. Hilarious.
When I was training for my job (I was a bodyguard and security dog handler), my instructor (a former "UK Navy Seal,", actually he was a former UK SBS, Royal Marines Special Forces, it was in New Zealand) told me : "Show weakness, you get aggression. Show strength and mental force, you get submission ". Turns out it's totally true even in everyday life. No matter your gender, size etc... look strong, confident and determined and 99% of the predators outhere will leave you alone.
UK Navy Seal? Do you mean US Navy Seal, or UK SBS (Royal Marines special forces)?. Because in the UK, there is no unit called Navy Seals, that's a US Navy unit.
@@Paul-Weston He was a UK SBS. I wrote UK Navy Seal just for people who are not used to the different army corps to see the kind of man he was. I thought if I put "UK Navy Seal" it would be clear for everyone ^^, sorry if I mislead you, it wasn't on purpose. I've corrected it^^
Just had that happen I’m 6.3 225 pounds and what you just described is true. I made eye contact but not long I could tell he was looking for a confrontation but he could tell that I wasn’t having any of it. In a nut shell pray for Gods blessings and protection every day we are experiencing a lot of mental illness out there learn the signs and warnings.
All you need is a gun to protect and defend yourself from people that have mental issues. I always have mine on me. It's a Ruger SP101 357 Magnum revolver.
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There is a lot of metal illeness and desease in the country,which is why there's so many issues with americans physically and mentallly. They need to be educated on proper dieting and exercise,so they have good metal health not eating cheese burgers and drinking alcohol everyday that isnt gonna make you healthy.
I live in NYC for years and learned the “walk with confidence” the hard way. 50 years later I can show people what that means. I do a timid walk and people coming the other way do not get out of my way. When I change my posture, people get out of my way. This truly works!
Maybe it is time to get out of NYC. Yes, there is crime in small town/rural America but it pales in comparison to cities. I moved away from a city years ago and the culture shock that I experienced was tremendous. During the riots of 2020, life went on as normal where I live. Then again, we have second amendment rights here and people look out for each other unlike when I lived in a city and it was every man for himself and screw the next guy.
@@themetalhead1463NYC is far safer than it was 30+ years ago. I've walked around there on 3 different trips, Central Park, many trips on the subway and long walks through Brooklyn and never a single altercation. I didn't get lucky either, my experience was completely normal. Now 30+ years ago that would not be the case, like in the 80s and early 90s New York City was a very dangerous place. I think it has recently gotten worse since they have different leadership, but it's still nothing like it was in the 70's and 80's.
@@actionjksn you have no idea what you're talking about. New York City is quite dangerous now compared how it was under Rudy Giuliani and Michael Bloomberg. The decline and the crime wave started with Bill diBlasio and culminated in the "summer of peace of 2020". Now with Eric Adams running it, violent crime is rampant and out of control. That you can say New York City is safe for now that even 30 years ago means you have never been there especially recently, or you're just flat out lying. It is at least as dangerous now as it was during the crack epidemic of the late 80s and early 90s.
@@themetalhead1463 Violent crime rate of NYC is 539 per 100,000 people. There are seven STATES that have a higher violent crime rate, and they all seem on the rural side: Missouri 543, Louisiana 639, Arizona 655, Arkansas 672, Tennessee 673, New Mexico 778, and Alaska 838. Perusing the entire list of states, red states tend to have higher violent crime rates. This seems to contradict the idea that 2nd amendment rights are as big a factor as some believe. Don't get me wrong, I was born and raised in a red state, but I think it's time people put aside the hateful talking points about certain states/cities and start embracing the strengths of every state. We are stronger together.
Great advice. One night in the 90's, while walking to my car in the deserted and dimly lit parking lot of my office building, I noticed three 'thugly-dressed' males, all about 18-20 yrs old. When they saw me, they changed course to intercept me before I could reach my car. My mind raced. I stopped, calmly set my briefcase down. At that point, they stood before me, about 10 feet away. I put my right hand in my pocket, as if I was perhaps grabbing something (perhaps a weapon, which I did not have), and, in my best 'Dirty Harry' voice, I calmly but forcefully said, "Whatcha gonna do?" Their whole demeanor instantly shifted from "We're gonna f you up" to one of conciliatory laughter as the apparent leader tapped one of the others as he began to walk away. Even though I was shaking in my boots, evidently I presented myself as someone who was not about to be victimized. So yeah, confidence matters.
I have no problem with eye contact and when someone is giving me the stare down I smile and wink at them, I found that this surprise reaction is unsettling to them.
Yeah, I stand up and smile while looking the ass in the eye. I'm under 100 lbs / about 5 ' tall. I keep my head up , chin up and have never been jumped God help him/her if he or she did I have a hell of a paperweight with a sight on his nuts and liver if it ever comes to it. Also, I have straight out kicked a fat tall man stratight and then diagonally in the knees and he was crying begging for help.
It sucks to live in a world where we have to train ourselves in such things - but, as it is what it is, I am grateful we have people like J. Hanson to share his experience.
@@andothemando9695 no it's not. In every country there are people like that. Remember Anders Behring Breivik? Norway seem to be such rich and civilised country.
The main problem here is the fine line between acting confident and acting cocky. Acting cocky actually invites that type of bad neighborhood guys to "put you in your place". It's provocative to them.
@@jonathanmowat8576 It is true that one cannot avoid bad situations completely, but with a little common sense, one could probably avoid 90% of the potential bad situations. For example, as Ben Shapiro said, it would be a bad decision to walk around a high crime area at night, waving $100 bills.
Good Advice. I always maintain situation awareness, and am not afraid to maintain eye contact, maybe a bit too long, but then I'm a big guy, a former Marine and combat instructor, as well as being armed. Some might think me a bit pugnacious, I personally think I just have that don't mess with vibe. Years ago I took a friend and her 3 teenage daughters on a hike. As we approached the trail shelter, there were 5 sketchy looking guys hanging out at the picnic table, which had a case of beer, some liquor bottles, and some paraphernalia visible. They were throwing bowie knives and tomahawks against a tree. As we came into sight, they started muttering amongst themselves and looking us over. I acknowledged them with a nod and a little small talk. More looking and muttering, and after a bit one of them started walking somewhat our way with a knife in his hand. Not brandishing it or being overtly threatening, just seeing how we would react I think. I casually stretched and moved to scratch my lower back, which pulled back my light jacket, and revealed a double stack 45 on my belt. Mr. testing us guy saw the gun, looked up at me, and I hit him with a hard stare. He quickly turned away, walked back to his boys, a little more muttering, some furtive looks, but the whole dynamic had changed. I never touched my weapon, no theatrics. Nodded at them, told them to have a good one and headed back down the trail, of course watching behind. Would something have gone down if I hadn't been armed? I'll never know, but I do know what did happen, which was nothing. I was glad to be armed, and also glad that I gave him the look of "I see you, I'm not scared, and I'm prepared to deal with you if need be." One of only a very few instances in my civilian life where I think being armed made a difference, most of the time it's just insurance.
@@effsixteenblock50 No, one never says Ex marine, former is acceptable when differentiating oneself from current active duty, without going into a whole dissertation to the civilian pukes.
I think that’s the attitude women need to have, “I see you, not scared, and will deal with you if needed,” I have had men follow me around a store. They don’t like getting caught, so turning around in an aisle and be erratic (unpredictable) in your movements through the store throws them off and confirms if they really were following or not.
I was in prison with a guy who murdered another man for not looking away , he would say if he just looked away we would both be home right now. So watch who you stare back at.
I don't get why people who stare think they have the right to stare but the other guy doesn't have the right to stare? Their logic is nonsensical. If they stare, it's not a problem but if I stare back it's somehow a problem.
Ahhhh! So many stories this brings to mind! I'm certainly blessed to have survived into adulthood and into my late 50s. Walking with confidence/purpose is such great advice!
61 here. i got jumped by a pack of goons (white guys, as am i) when i was 18 in seattle. the cop i flagged down only cared about my malfunctioning headlight and not the cut on my head. she wrote me a ticket, and wouldn't take the report. lesson 1: YOU are your own first responder. if it were legal to carry a firearm, i would have and do now. if it were to happen again (God forbid) i'd smoke those motherfuckers and sleep just fine, and wait for the cops to WANT to take a report at that point, to which they'll get my attorney's bidness card.
Walking with posture and confidence will literally save you from wild predators as well . Bears cougars for example . Never show fear to anyone animals included
It was a little confusing, the prisoners were asked would you attack this person, would you attack them and almost 100 agreement, all the prisoners chose the people who were walking with confidence, who were walking with their head up. I know what you meant to say, but you should have said they wouldn’t attack them
This is the EXACT opposite of what my Police Academy said was the case. They interviewed hundreds of people who murdered Police Officers. The biggest reason they said they attacked them for was because they were out of shape, fat, looked weak, & they thought they could successfully attack that person.
Jason Hasen is suffering from a little senile dementia. Being in the CIA exposed him to various toxic chemicals which degrade brain cells. I’ve noted several of these senior moments in a few of his latest TH-cam videos. The dude has a good heart just a few too many dementia moments. 😮😊
Great advice Jason. When I’m in public, my head is always on a swivel and always mindful of the OODA loop. Criminals may always be looking for a victim, but I’m always looking for a potential aggressor. Posture and bearing can certainly indicate if you’re “willing “ to be prey. I will never look for a fight, but I will make an aggressor wish they picked someone else for their predation.
You do realize the YT host committed aggravated menacing/assault by threatening with a weapon all because some guys "starred" at him too long. A tactical pen is still a weapon...as you admit to carrying it as a weapon for self defense.
Be careful for those of you who park in an apartment parking garage. If you are parking late at night with a car full of groceries, do not try to carry everything with you in one trip. In other words, keep your hands free, I almost learned the hard way one night when I looked over my shoulder and spotted someone lurking out of the shadows stalking me when I was taking things out of my trunk. I was able to acknowledge the threat and had plenty of distance to get to the elevator with my things before he could try to cut off my movement. It was only by God's Grace that I was super alert to my surroundings that night. One other little note: Do not think that you're safe b/c you see someone that has a "security guard" uniform because those can be the best predators!
Excellent advice!! It works. I make outside, night deliveries in funky neighborhoods and carrying myself the way you talked about has kept me safe 30+ years. Never look weak, walk around with head high like you own the place. I get where they test me, two or three walk towards me... I start walking towards them... they don't know what to think at that point, but messing with me is no longer their choice. I usually get a " hey" or "how's it goin?" from them and I just nod while looking straight at them. It does work!!
I do this…I look casually at the person, blank expression, and then keep doing what I’m doing, like they are a bird while I’m a rabbit grazing…like I don’t care and don’t see them as a threat. They usually look away and go about their business
I do the same thing with some of the creeps I work with. Suspect something’s up, look back and find them staring at me with wide eyes. I continue on as if they don’t exist.
Idk if it’s an introvert thing but I do this too 😂 when someone’s staring or glancing in my direction, I just keep walking and looking forward with a serious expression and pretend to not even acknowledge them. It really does work lol
Useful video. I talked with many pro bouncers and all said nobody, even drunk wants to really put in on a fight. All is centered about fear, if you fear herself and the world you will fear others, predators will feel it and you cetainly will become a target. So you have to work on yourself firstly and overcome fear, acquire confidence and you avoid most of the problems.
Dear mr.Hanson im 63 now in awheelchair but born with cerebral palsy. I use an ultralight manual chair when i go out i roll FAST AS I CAN.the exercise is good the breeze in my face is great.also i removed the footrest so my feet touch the ground.please do a vidieo for us in chairs please do a chair life defense video just because i dont walk with confidence dosent mean i dont move with confidence.thanks doll
Honestly conveying confidence can't be overstated. I had that happen one time walking through a bad area as a group was approaching me, I just happened to be going through a tough time so I must've looked like I was ready to end someone because that group parted like the red sea as I walked through 😂
@@timsoom7027does it; did you listen to the advice, given here? Satchel was conveying , don’t f*ck with me, which is exactly what the group picked up on. I’ve no idea, where you felt that he was displaying weakness.
@@timsoom7027 You're trying too hard to come across as a badass and it shows. I'm willing to bet you're the type that talks a lot instead of actually doing something, you're the type that starts shit you can't finish (eg. runs your mouth at the bar and then when you get the shit beat out of you calls the cops and presses charges), and you're the type that in actual conflict runs like the little bitch you're so desperately trying to convince people you're not.
I've noticed this regularly, and it's very on point. I'm just shy of 71, but I always hold my head up and continue on my way. I do carry, but I also have awareness. And I've had training.
Back in my early 20's, my wife said her coworkers found me attractive because I walked with a purpose. Not arrogance, just that I projected I can handle myself. I tend to walk fast and scan as I do such naturally. It does work. I have been to dozens of countries and just be me. Being former military and law enforcement, we look for certain things anyway. This is VERY effective. I have very rarely had to draw my sidearm even as an officer due to posture and demeanor. Body language dictated that I meant business. It was also unintentional. I always tried to be kind to everybody of which I interacted, even if being arrested. You don't have to be a bully, but look confident in your ability to handle situations.
My Father, a Captain in the Air Force gave me a mini-lecture on this when I was about 12. I had developed a habit of looking down as I was walking. Great message you are putting out with this video. Predators love their victims to be inattentive , distracted, and sheeplike. Stand tall and most likely they seek a softer target.
@@HDHhomestead I grew up with military humor. My Dad had a song about all the other branches. ♪♫ To hell with those grunts in the Army, they have such a beautiful plan. They call out the GD reservists, whenever the sh!t hits the fan. For jar heads or swabbies he'd just swap out the words.
We grew up on video games. But that doesn’t mean we lack self-awareness. Your generation had it down to a science. But I walk out of any environment and I am immediately flattened like a board and prepared to engage like a Roman soldier in the past.
Shoulders back chin slightly down and always aware and alert. That’s what I teach all my family and friends. Situational awareness, not only visually but constantly listening for tones in people’s voices. I hear before I see most of the time. God bless you my friend.
Thank you for mentioning the tactical pen. I had ordered some a few years ago and had forgotten about them. I have found them and now have one in my vehicle and one as an every day carry item.
Some people who don’t know what they are talking about are making assumptions that if someone looks at you they want to fight. Unless you are in prison and your cell mate Bruno is staring at you, it is important to keep in mind you could be wrong in that maybe the dude is lost in thought or looking at someone nearby to where you are sitting. They are not always looking at you so don’t over react. We all know people misread situations so maybe things are cool. Always important to take the good advice said in this video but worth noting too that you could be wrong and to keep calm.
@@kevinh891No No No. Bad advice. Feel love for everyone in your heart and the one staring will feel that love and find it such a pleasant change from hostility etc. OK you may still get a hostile stare but it won't bother you because you only feel love for them. Cultivate the Love. Groovy baby, Far out, Outa sight man. Aaaah the 1960s, never will return.
@@19037vinny Feeling the love for everyone is a good thing. But, what if they don't feel it? There is genuine evil in this world. If someone is looking for a fight, all the good feelings in the world will not protect you. For that, you need to be prepared...
If inside a store, bank or casino and you notice someone who is discreetly following you watching you and sizing you up while they're talking on a phone, I can almost guarantee there is a partner outside the store entrance on the other side of the inside phone. The inside store person is deciding if you're worth it for a robbery in parking lot or a follow home robbery.
I learned to do exactly what Jason said about acknowledging stares from weird people long ago. I usually look at them in the eye for a few seconds, nod my head, smile slightly without showing my teeth, I say hi to them, and THEN turn away after a few more seconds. I let them know that I know they’re there. Haven’t had any problems.
Have done exactly this, for years. Smile included. My wife claims it scares the sh!t out of her when she see's me do it. She claims I get a look on my face like I'm eager for them to try it. I don't know what I look like but no one has ever followed through.
Am I missing something here? At around 3:00, he said that almost 100% of prisoners said that they would attack the people who were walking with confidence. He went on to say that people who were walking with confidence were much less likely to be a victim. Which is it?
There is also something that has worked well for me when being stared at whilst standing. Ignore the stare for just a few moment then discretely move over and stand right to the side of that person and see if they are staring at you at close quarters. Look them calmly back in the face at close distance with no emotion and most will move their stare away. Because you have pushed them out of their comfort zone and done something they were not expecting!
That move only works on an unarmed dude you could thrash easily. Plenty of hard cases you wouldn't even think of trying that on. Every man knows his limits, it's always best to work within them and not spread tough guy fantasies.
Once I was rudely suggested to move, I went over to a very big and confident guy and stood by him, keeping eye contact. He was silent, and I left unharmed. It's totally about the thugs' comfort zone..
@@samueljenkis6253 Not a tough guy fantasy? What you may have overlooked is the law of condition and consequence? What is fairly clear is that there will always be a risk in any response when you are dealing with a thug or Psychopath? It is a gamble which ever way you choose to deal with it? Though I agree that in some instances a calm and solid look back might work for a few, but sadly NOT in all cases. Ultimately you might be forced to deal with it in a more assertive manner. So many years ago I ran my own Thai Boxing Club. But I agree this does not make you indestructible! So I suppose my point that you might need to understand; is that some people will still want to have a go despite giving a long distance twitch of confidence!
Words to live by. I have never been mugged or targeted as far as I know but I actually learned from my Mum about personal security. We are not allowed to carry pepper spray in Australia, but I always seem to have a sample bottle of hair spray about me. I am in my 60's now and I'll hang onto every advantage I can get. Tragically, due to crowed violence, I learned that other people have no care for your wellbeing and human decency is not a consideration when the hammer drops. Funnily enough, a copper once noted that my Dad was walking around with a knobkerrie. He was referring to Dads walking stick which was made out of cherry tree with a pommel at the top for the heel of the heel of the hand to lean on. At 78 my old man was still someone to respect.
Man, you people of Australia allowed your gubment to disarm yous, why did you let that happen? I put a can of wasp and hornet spray in my wife’s van, within easy reach. Or Brake cleaner is equally as good, but, the wasp spray has a 20 foot range. I guess that is illegal in Australia also, thought you men were tough, I guess not, since you let this happen. Mass murderers love disarmed peasants!
I used to use a peppermint breath spray (makes for good mace) and had a sword cane that I bought when I was cornered by two fellows on my way to a music show who emptied my and my partner's pockets. More proof to the... I took care of him bit. I stood up for us then, bought the sword cane, kept the peppermint spray, chased down bullies the entire time we were together and held his hand through everything building a better man out of him like he was a soldier and this was a Disney movie he couldn't make it in.
Wow how about Jason Hanson? We got a problem but he advises we carry a product and look confident, right? I'm not convinced Jason. You know the story goes that a Tiger always takes out the last man in a line of walkers, if not somebody alone. Better than looking confident is not being alone. A knobkerrie? Don't buy any products, it's carrying with intent to injure others and it leads you into danger. Stay safe.
I'm confused. I see "Don't Look Weak ", And I read"100% of the prisoners would attack someone with confidence. Which is it?! Someone needs to get their shit together.
Mr. Hanson...these people that walk to their car or office with their face in their phone are asking for trouble. They are not aware if their surroundings. This can be deadly.
It amazes me that people do this. Of course, I'm old enough that I helped _create_ "smart phones", so I grew up without them. Perhaps this gives me a different perspective - I was in my early 20s before the first commercial cell towers were deployed - very sparsely - around the SF Bay Area... and they used some insane wattage, multi-mile rural towers down near Gilroy. I tested a bulky Panasonic "handset and block over-the-shoulder" unit back then for my defense contractor company, and it was so powerful it blanked out my car stereo on locking onto an incoming call. The ring came out of the car speakers... and of course there was no "cellular" circuits in my AM/FM cassette stereo at all. It just resonated with the wiring in the car. But... rules for driving: Always lock doors as soon as you get in the car, before even belting up, and keep windows up. If it's really hot, just open the windows a little bit (unless driving at full speed down a highway, I suppose) or use the A/C if you have it. Don't let anyone have the chance to reach in and open the doors from the outside. And most of all... after parking at your destination, collect and organize your belongings *before* doing anything else. Before shutting off the engine, before opening the doors. Prepare to secure your vehicle immediately on exit - many cars allow you to lock all the doors as soon as the driver door is cracked; use this feature. Then, _before_ opening the (locked) door, survey your surroundings - carefully. Look at any people around you, especially in a public lot. Examine your path you want to walk, looking for people behaving oddly, potential hiding places, potential cover, and so forth. Once you have assessed the surroundings, only _then_ shut down the engine, open up the vehicle and exit. This sounds like a lot, but it really isn't - only a couple of seconds once you get the hang of the "quick assessment scan". Use your car's mirrors and windows, swivel your head all around. Just takes a second or two. The point is to be *aware*, and to remain so. Keep your head on a swivel as you move to your destination. Being at least minimally armed (with what depends on the State you live in), but anything is far better than nothing. You don't need to be paranoid... just conscious and aware, and not distracted. And keep your damn phone in the vehicle or a pocket. It is of no use while walking, so ignore it.
Some years ago I was in a NYC subway terminal waiting for the train. Only been to NY 10-15 times, by no means am I comfortable there. While waiting, a group of young urbans who were eyeing me. I looked at them, then looked away, but only with my eyes turning about 30° away from them without moving my head, and doing the slow blink as my eyes moved away lol. I’m a very little guy (5’3”) but in strong physical shape. I’m also very non-violent, I hate violence and refuse to carry weapons. However, I also refuse to be a victim and be assaulted. The shortest of the group came up to me and asked me where to find some random street (I got the idea that they may have been trying to discern if I was a resident or tourist). I just said “I don’t know” with the stone coldest look I could muster, and did the same thing - looked slightly away but only with my eyes. I was convinced he wanted to harm me, either for money or to prove something since he was also short. To this day, I’m also convinced that my attitude kept me from an assault. I know I sent the message that I didn’t fear him because I didn’t (even though I did fear the group). But I was also really happy when I got out of there unscathed.
Asking the time is also a good one. Never look down at your watch! You know the approximate time. Recite it to them without leaving looking at them. I've seen lots of people with watches on asking me the time.
3:57 If walking confidant 100% get us attacked in that 1970 studies, wouldn’t it be better doing the opposite. I think the script you should be saying is “asking the prisoner that they will “NOT” attack a certain person and the prisoner 100% chose the person that walks with confidant.”
I always thought somebody was looking at me with bad intentions when i was younger but they just wanted to be friends with me.But always be aware.Great video!
Absolutely 100% correct I told my son from the time he was five keep your chin up walk proud don’t look like a victim. That has kept him out of trouble, his whole life
Good stuff! I was walking back to my hotel in Washington DC late at night. Got turned around and was suddenly lost. Turned down a dark empty street with no sidewalks in the direction of the Embassy Suites. Halfway down the block, here comes three guys in the street towards me. I fought the urge to turn around and kept walking straight towards them. As we closed within about thirty feet, I put my right hand in my pocket and continued straight on. When we were twenty feet away, they split, two on one side, the third on the other. I walked right through the gauntlet, head high, like Bruce Willis. My heart was pounding but I hid my fear. We passed and I never looked back, just kept walking. I know I got away with something that night. I’m convinced it was acting confident that got me through.
hello from texas, I am a 57 year old visually impaired grandmother. I have learned so many great safety tips and self-defense moves from your channel. I am now trying to teach my young grandsons some safety moves and safety tips to help keep them safe and what to do just in case. Thank you so much I love your channel. What a blessing you are.
Having an umbrella is good. I once had someone start to drag me off when I walking down the street and I hit him with my umbrella and he let go and took off. The short fold-up umbrellas are light and easy to swing but it was enough of a blow to get the guy to let go.
I'm a large (straight) male, and i sometimes notice another man staring at me. Depending on my mood, after a few seconds of said person staring at me, I'll blow them a kiss, which usually gets them to quit staring and move along. I find it rather amusing to shock or confuse these people that like staring at others for no good reason! Stay safe out there by always being vigilant!
Good advice. Many years ago I left a bar at 3am and decided to walk home. Half way through the Parramatta Mall [Sydney] that was totally deserted, a group of about a dozen young thugs [Middle Eastern and Pacific Islanders] suddenly appeared around a corner heading in my direction. Immediately I sensed the group were waiting to see how their 'leader' would react. When we were at our closest, about 50' away, I looked over at them, gave a nod without breaking stride. The 'leader' gave me a nod in return and that was that. 24 hours later the local newspaper had a report of a bashing and robbery of a 30yo guy in the Parramatta Mall at 3.15am. A mate who ran security at the bar assumed from the description that I was the victim. He couldn't understand how I escaped unharmed. At 15yo I was a street kid in the red-light district Kings Cross. That's where I learnt; don't walk like a victim and certainly don't walk with an arrogant swagger. Walk with purpose as if you're meant to be there, like you belong.
agreed, worked away in many odd places alone, sometimes wandered into what seemed shady places by mistake, always looked confident but not arrogant, like you say like you belong there, like it was all normal, I,m not a big or strong guy, but I,m not a weak man, and have a grumpy looking face most of the time, never got into bother, maybe just lucky?
@@paulellam6926 luck only gets one so far in life, especially in seedy areas. Size has little to do with it IMO. At 15yo I was a little kid at only 5'2" [I was a late grower; by 18yo I was over 6' tall] Sounds to me like you learnt to walk with confidence like you were meant to be wherever you are. The thing that I learnt during my time on the streets was that those who target those that are smaller than themselves are cowards of the worst kind. The few times when a pack of older bigger guys tried to stand over me for my tobacco and money [It starts off with the demand "Give us a smoke c#nt" that signals their intent to take everything you've got] I ran to a doorway or a stairwell where the thugs could only attack one at a time. I was a feisty little bugger back then and would not roll over for anyone. If they wanted a smoke that bad they'd have to work for it. Every single time they looked at each other, laughed and walked away.
That happened to me as a teenager after a night out in NZ. Walking through a deserted shopping centre when a group of young men stepped out and one bellowed, "Sons of Samoa!" I was tense but didn't overtly react. Just nodded and kept walking. Amazingly nothing happened.
Ha so true! I can vouch for this at Parra mall. I had a similar issue Many years ago after a night out at Kicks nightclub Parra leagues walking back to the night ride buses. Heaps of mad cunts looking for a fight. Walk tall and with purpose!
@@michaeldraper74 I drove cabs as a 2nd job on Saturday nights; man it could get wild. Interesting thing though; for years I drove Manly cabs and avoided the Western Suburbs. [Driving Northern beaches was crazy enough] What I found was a massive difference in attitude. The Manly-Warringah kids were a bunch of disrespectful a-holes, generally speaking. If one of the passengers turned on you his mates would back him. Driving out West on the other hand, they had empathy for the working man. If one turned on you his mates would hold onto him and apologise. Never felt safer driving a cab.
I got mugged in Waikiki once by two guys at an ATM right on the main strip in broad daylight. Luckily for me there were three Marines right next door who saw it going down and jumped into the fray. The muggers ended up bloody and on the ground when suddenly they were overwhelmed! They got nothing from me as I broke my ATM card when they came at me. I never saw the muggers coming as they had been hiding around a corner and bum rushed me. I ended up with a torn shirt and a few scratches. I have always been more self aware since then. Always be sure of your surroundings and a never deny yourself an exit ramp.
Years ago downtown Detroit a guy asked me for money and I kept walking and told him no! He does an about face and runs up behind me to intimidate! Well I don’t Intimidate and Marine training kicked in and down he went! Come to find out he was wanted by US Marshals not a 100 feet from their door
Brilliant video. Well explained! You've earned a new subscriber! I had a similar incident to you outside a Starbucks. Went in, got a coffee, standing outside waiting for a lift and these two guys walked past and (don't know why) one stops and just stares at me drinking this coffee. I stare back. He says "you going to do something?" I replied with "don't know, am I?" He looked down at the pavement and told me to...leave..in a less polite manner. He shambles off and I continued with my coffee. Normal day. Doesn't bother me but your explanation is perfect and is something they get into training now. Walk with purpose and confidence and be very aware of your surroundings i.e. entrances, exits, obstacles and such. Not even for defence but just any emergency situation. Well said chief! Great channel
Growing up in a bad neighborhood when I was young. Being bullied and attacked by people and neighborhood dogs all the time. It comes to a point where you're expecting it and are giving out that look and vibe of I'm willing to die but I'm taking 1 or more of you with me and I'll be laughing while I'm doing it.
Exactly! I've survived alot... one huge component is always being willing to lay down your life and letting them know someone is coming with me no matter what.
@davidibarra7854 Yeah, I had a similar upbringing. I was a skinny, weak kid. It wasn't attitude adjustment that changed my situation, though. It's that I got my growth spurt a bit earlier than the other kids and I got bigger and stronger than them. Also I was learning to box. I still wasn't the toughest kid around, but there was some fight in me. Attacking me was not going to be pain-free, so the predators found softer targets. And I kept on training for the next 20 years because I started to enjoy it.
I've been put in quite a few situations in my day where I was clearly being considered their next victim and I managed to change the predator's mind by conducting myself in both a confident and crazy manner. And I did it in a fairly subtle manner. It's difficult to describe in writing, but I achieved my objective each time. I made them think that I was capable of anything, so they backed off.
Excellent! One additional step I added as a dad when the family goes to dinner is to show the table where the emergency exit is. This is in case I have to confront someone inside and I'll know my family is safe. This has happened and it was something I never want my kids seeing me do again for it got very messy.
I've been told that I walk like a martial artist (ever since I was 15 in 1973, and I'm 64 now), because I actually am one, and that is helpful. But even more so, I use what I call "The Chuck Connors Rifleman Gaze". What's that? If you watch the opening credits of "The Rifleman", the way that Chuck Connors looks around, making sure that those around him know "I see you"... it works like a charm. My father did the same thing. Once, when my wife and I were in a parking lot at a local strip mall, there was one guy that was eye-balling us, from where he sat in his parked van, wearing a hoodie, and looking like, well, a hood. My gaze caught him and I held it for a couple of beats, and he literally started his engine, and moved his van a couple of rows over and re-parked. Always let the leopard know he's dealing with a tiger...a superior predator.
Very good advice. I have used it many times (before hearing it from Jason), especially in crowded areas like train stations. Make eye contact. I even add in a slight smile, sometimes. Maybe a head nod. And I know that I will defend myself to my last breath. With whatever tool I have on my person. Also, always position yourself to advantage, meaning nobody can sneak up behind you or surround you easily. How about a video about where to sit in a restaurant or movie theater or subway car, things like that? Thanks, Jason.
Never sit with your back to a door, never sit in front of a window if you can help it, always know where all the exits are and where they lead, and always position yourself so you have the best view/situational awareness possible. That means you need to be able to see the doors, the cash register, the restrooms, the workers, what’s going on outside, and other people. If you can’t do these things in a particular space, don’t go into that space! You’re hemmed up and trapped!
If an event happens in a restaurant and every one is trying to clear out, avoid the fatal funnel of the front door and head to the kitchen. There is always a door out the back
@@shanemitchell477 I was in the military and I already know all of this. But here’s something that’s gonna blow your mind! It wasn’t until I separated from service that I found out veterans only make up about 1% to 2% of the population. The point I’m trying to make is that encountering another person who’s been is the military isn’t as common as you think.
Great points. Years ago I was with my wife walking on the street in Puerto Rico. Side note, I’ve been training in martial arts since I was 6 and I’m former nypd (I was also carrying). I saw 2 guys in their late teens make eye contact from across the street about 150 ft away who then crossed the street coming towards us. There weren’t many people on the street and I knew what was potentially about to happen. I told my wife to keep 1/2 step behind me and she was already on the outside. As they got closer, I glanced at them with my “don’t try it” look. They passed us and we crossed the street. Nothing happened but they were sizing me up to decide if they were going to try to rob us.
Same deal in a dark parking lot as we were walking into a wedding reception. My gun down by my side. I looked right at them and said: “You two shitheads better keep walking.” They did.
I just wear red underwear. I just know that 100% of the people who cross the street are doing so because they're sizing me up for a possible attack. And they seem to work 100% of the time bc none of those people attacked me. Totally proves the causal relationship.
It's often when people look at me, they quickly look down. I tend to have a very dark and serious look, but I am quite friendly and chill guy. When I start talking to somebody they are often shocked how friendly I am. A curse and a blessing I guess
If somebody is staring you down, make extremely brief eye contact, nod your head, then return to your business. This action, I believe, acknowledges the aggressor staring you down, shows him respect which de-escalates, and shows your confidence (rather than weakness).
@@PrinceOfTheCity1 If the goal is to prevent an altercation, then a 1/10 second nod just might achieve that goal. Maybe not, but there's no harm in trying.
Dave advice is also opinion of many experts... This guy work for some law enforcement agency and hence hos attitude maybe different because if he kill some one he know how to cover it... just few hours earlier I was walking (my night walk) and I saw guy staring at me. It is a business place and just few weeks ago the clerk was killed during robbery (later the robber was too killed). I donot know if that guy was some guard or what.. I stared back at him and when I moved past him he too rotated his head as I was also fixing my eyes on him. I shaked my hands down and asked 'What', I paused for less than a second but since I was walking I moved further away and later I was thinking about my usual strategy of walking confidently and making eye contact with every noticeable person from a distance and then keep in focus but not making eye contact.
What I usually do is look at them, smile, head nod, and then look away, continuing to smile for a few more seconds. Doing this shows confidence, which makes a criminal or bully think twice before targeting you because they want someone who's fearful or intimidated.
@JohnnytNatural Anything could trigger some people. Even just looking at someone can turn into an ego battle. If a smile is misinterpreted as a sexual advance, then so would a head nod, and you certainly wouldn't do that if you're a girl. I was walking in a forest the other day, and most women I walked past avoided eye contact. I knew they felt uncomfortable, and it made them look like an easy target. Some looked at me with a blank expression, and it came across like they were scared or intimidated, but they were trying not to show it. Then there was a girl who looked straight at me and smiled, which caught me by surprise. It made me think she was confident, not afraid, and most likely carrying a weapon. Out of all the women, little miss smiley was the only one that didn't look like an easy target.
I became a target when I became disabled & had to start using a cane & walker.. I notice soooo many more people stare at me & it makes me feel so vulnerable.
Talk about this all the time with fellow workers. We work in some rough areas of Detroit. I have trained pretty extensively in hand to hand combat. Armed and unarmed. The biggest thing I always tried to instill in the people I was training is never to look like a victim.
100% correct, my friend. On occasion when I thought an unsavory character was sizing me up I'd simply face them with eye contact and a blank face, then smirk and continue with business as usual. When I'd look back, like leaving the cashier in a convenience store they were either interested in someone else or gone. Also, keep your head on a swivel - look around. Be aware. If you think about it, Jason, teach folks how to take a perp off his feet when they are aggressively approaching you with intent. Thanks!
Jason very good video Sir. How about one for us older folks that move a little slower and aren't going to be able to grapple with a criminal. But still CCW some things we can do or not do in case drawing a weapon isn't called for yet. Thank you Sir
Carry a nice stout cane with you. It's acceptable even for air travel. Nobody wants to get whacked on the side of the head with a solid piece of hardwood, especially multiple times.
@@JW-fq1pp good idea but I walk fine and don't need a cain yet. And kind of like to push that way of protecting myself a few years longer. Thanks for the idea
I taught my kids when they were young to always look at their surroundings especially inside a building because the opportunity to escape if need be is lessened. Always look for an exit and quickly size anyone and everyone. Now that they are all adults I get blamed in a nice way that dad made “us paranoid” in a crowd. No, dad made you aware and possibly safe in a crowd. Thank you Jason for this tip.
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As someone who has grown up in one of the worst inner city neighborhoods and visited other major cities across the US, I can say with confidence that none of these tactics will work. It’s definitely not about appearing weak. First of all, what appears to be intimidating it’s just your perception. Many people in so-called bad areas just have a rough edge to them. That doesn’t mean they intend to do harm to you. If you’ve used these tactics and exited the situation unscathed, then they really didn’t have any intentions to harm you. If the guy or group of guys really wanted to harm you, they will try to harm you, regardless of whether you look like the toughest guy in the world or the softest human being. In fact, the tougher you look the more incentives they have to actually do something to you. Take this observation from someone who grew up in a place that you’ll never want to step foot in.
@@bruceleroy8063that’s the exception to the rule. There will always be opportunists. Hear me out, most violent crimes are done against other violent criminals, not against defenseless people. If you think acting hard will save you from being a victim, then let me see you try that in the worst of the worse neighborhoods in America and you’ll see how fast of a target you’ll have on your back. The more intimidating you’ll try to be, the more they’ll show you that they’re even more intimidating.
@@cruzcordero1813 here's the problem - you're completely dismissive or the fact that not looking like a victim is a viable tactic. I also hear where you're coming from that trying to appear intimidating could also attract trouble at the same time. Neither idea is completely wrong. However - I think that you're coming at this from a gang v gang point of view rather than a mugger or kidnapper about to mug or kidnap someone point of view. If you are a person who wants some quick cash or some ass who is the easier target - the person who looks like they'll put up a fight / might have a gun on them or the person who looks like a scared sheep?
Great video! I was a young thug and would stare at people just waiting for them to escalate the situation. It’s key to be aware and hold your ground but make sure not to move the tension up which will trigger the inevitable at that point. Just stay calm and let the storm pass without ego and all will be averted most of the time. That’s a win for you.
Similarly to your Subway incident. Many years ago I was eating in a fast food joint. (I do not remember were exactly.) I noticed some dude staring at me just like you described. Dude was clearly trying to intimidate me. So, I decided that the straw on my drink was just a tad too long. So I made sure he was still watching while I pulled out my knife (a Cold Steel Ti-lite) and cut the straw down to a better size. (This is something that my youngest daughter would insist that I do for her every time she had a kid sized drink with a full length straw.) I then locked eyes with him as I closed the knife back up and placed it on the table next to my meal. He no longer was very interested in giving me the "Hairy eyeball". About a decade before that, my wife, oldest daughter (about 3 at the time) and I went on a little vacation trip to Santa Monica (We are not from California) I was shocked at the time about how many homeless there were there. As we were walking back to our rental car off of the Santa Monica Pier a couple of 20-30 something year old homeless bums hit me up for some "spare cash". I flatly said NO! and just kept on walking with my wife and daughter.. I then noticed that the one who had asked for the $ was now following us and was clearly agitated and muttering something. As we were just about to re-enter the parking lot, I handed my wife the keys and told her to head to the car. I then stopped, turned around and folded my arms while he was still approaching. Realizing that the intimidation was not working he then stopped, muttered some more insults, (I assume) and slowly began to walk back to his "flop spot". I waited until he was sitting back down, then proceeded to walk back to the car and my family. This was really my very first encounter with homeless people. I am VERY cautious around them now and pretty much anybody who is just hanging around public spaces without a clear reason to be there. Thanks for sharing the tips and experiences !
I am wary of homeless as well, especially on the subway. I was told by reliable sources that many of them are mentally ill, addicted, alcoholic or some combination therof. Most seem non-threatening but they do often seem to want money. Lots I have seen have cigarrettes, expensive shoes and a nice current phone. I don't care for the ones begging outside the bank or the liquor store, I also don't like the self-appointed door holders. I have also heard of more than one beggar with a racket that made "About 100 on a bad day and 300 on a good one." Those were neither addicted nor mentally ill...One offered a friend of mine a franchise. He said "I'll tell you what to say and do, get you set up, just give me 10%."
Wow, man. You are a true American hero! Thank you so much for blessing us with your inspiring tale of courage and bravery, and your fear of the homeless!
As a petite female that years ago stared potential predators in the eyes saying 'try me' it worked. There is an energy about a person that seems to stop others from their initial mission. It does happen. It worked for me as a young english girl years ago and natural for me. No American stuff.
There seemed to be a bit of a contradiction at one point in the video. At the part where he mentioned the survey where members of the public where filmed on the street, and shown to prisoners, he said; "In almost every case, the prisoners said they'd pick the confident person with his head high." Words to that effect. Then went on to say not to look sheepish. While the point of looking confident being the best policy was made clear in this video, at that point there seemed to be a slip of the tongue. Surely the prisoners would have actually said that they WOULDN'T pick the confident looking person as a victim.
Just stopped to reiterate one very important lesson here...if you have kids, teach them the importance of looking strong/confident, particularly in the moments when they are most fearful or unsure of themselves. It may save them from abduction or other confrontations but will most certainly benefit them in various aspects of their life as they grow older, including school, sports, relationships, and their careers.
I've noticed that there are some people who actually love to fight and will ignore a weak target, so staring at them might be taken as an invite to get it on.
I love the video Jason you make some excellent points. These days being distracted and on your phone watching videos or doing something is not ideal either. Pay attention, head on a swivel, stand tall, shoulders back, deep voice, and be smart.
As a woman, a lot of these comments don't work for me. However, the acknowledgement stare is crucial, the I see you & I am going to be able to give a description look helps dissuade. Also, always staying aware of surroundings and possible accomplices, and, finally, pulling out my keys and placing the car key edge out between my fingers. One, the motion indicates to them I pulled something out of my purse, leave them wondering, two, if I am going down, I am going to get in a few good jabs. Mainly, staying in place, shoulders back, and eye contact with a serious look on face has always done it.
I'm from Detroit there's predators everywhere here. I've grown eyeballs in the back of my head from living here 50 years. I've been shot at and I've been robbed. I've gotten out of a few predicaments by making eye contact and not backing away. 99% of the time you show them your ready to fight they back down. I was taking my Chihuahua for a walk. There were a few hood rats sitting on the porch. Kid jumped up all cocky and started approaching me. I stopped and gave him the death stare. I was thinking you mess with me or my dog I will mess you up. As soon as I stopped walking and gave him the stare. He turned around and went and had a seat. It wasn't the first or the last time I was tested. Thankfully I do know how to fight and I'm a big guy. I don't carry a gun. I have schizophrenia and can't buy one.
You last line made an impression on me. How come people who are psychopaths have no trouble getting guns perfectly legally and can even join the police?
@@devilsoffspring5519 Because I was hospitalized 30 years ago the government revoked my 2nd amendment rights with no due process. I'm a sportsman I hunt and fish. I have to use family members guns. I live in a bad neighborhood. I keep a combat hatchet on the dresser in case someone were to break in while I'm sleeping.
@@wantsome-zs5sq Were you ever violent because of schizophrenia? If you weren't then they can't revoke your gun rights. Also, tons of people in positions of authority ARE violent, antisocial freakshows themselves and they sure as hell don't get their guns taken! You need your own weapons to defend yourself against them, that's what the 2A is for and has nothing to do with you being into outdoorsy stuff like hunting.
Also, remember anything and everything around you you can use as a defensive weapon. Hot coffee, even a cold beverage can distract an attacker. Also, the chairs in a fast food restaurant can be used to strike and or block an attack. Also reenact in your head, what you may do in a situation and what your point of egress is play the scenario out in your head that way if it happens, you will automatically do what you were thinking
True. A person can even use a magazine, just roll it up tight starting from the binding, this makes a very hard tool, especially on either end as it becomes hard enough to hit with or poke it into an attackers stomach or ribs.
On the other hand, the funniest thing here is that if you see a person on the street who walks really confidently and maybe even aggressively, it's a defense mechanism and he's in fact scared
I went to high school in an area in California that was considered pretty tough. I learned to look at people with an expression that communicated “I am not afraid of you. But I am not challenging you .”
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As a Brazilian gun instructor told once, when a guy stares at another guy, he either wants a kiss or a fight.
Third possibility. Both.
Well I’m not giving any guy a kiss, that’s for sure!!!
🤣🤣🤣@@awalton9024
Lol 😂
@@christophermitchell7925That’s what she said
I remember my Army Sargent father telling me as a young teenage girl that "The best way to not become a victim is to not look like a victim." Words I have never forgotten.
Tell that to the victim culture of nowadays. 😅
Army "Sargent" huh? Ask dad for some spelling lessons. Private. Corporal. Sergeant.
@@aburden8580 you do realize youtube is an international medium right? Some spelling errors may occur
@@Orgendorfer You do realize that you are lazy-intentionally don't give a crap about spelling/punctuation or respect to your readers COMMA right?
First letter of EVERY sentence is a capital, slacker.
EVERY sentence needs end punctuation, slacker.
TH-cam is a proper noun, slacker.
What do you mean "may occur?"
The new, young, 'thumb gen' is dumb & doubles down-with cartoons, (edited) & lol-triggered-troll-safe space crap vocabulary.
Literacy, logic & legitimate examples are absent.
Gee, I had no idea! International, you say! Wow.
I corrected an American teen girl about her father's military rank.
Are you seriously telling me I should ignore it?
What's wrong with me fixing it? She should know better & dad's also a failure.
What's wrong with YOU defending ignorance, error & illiteracy?
As we used to say in the military:
carry on as if you were normal.
I will continue my 'tilting at windmills' doomed-to-fail literacy mission.
You are not an ally.
Dismissed!
@trixiek942 You're welcome, doofus.
Free education! Now bendover & spit polish...
After you break eye with someone staring at you, look to the side, don't look down. Looking down is a sign of submission.
Context is important. Regardless of which direction you choose to avert your gaze, the initial glance is most important. If your food is in front of you, it's perfectly reasonably to glance back down. Just don't do it sheepishly. Hold their stare for a moment, then slowly roll your eyes back down to your food. It's not the looking down, it's the manner in which you do it.
I never walk into any store from the parking lot without watching with my head on a swivel. I never park near a van. I watch everything. Quit looking at your damn phone! This method also applies for INSIDE the stores. Remember, you may be watched…
When I break eye contact I naturally look the my upper left corner without thinking. What does that mean?
@@samsung-eh4dvregular
@@samsung-eh4dvI think that means you're gay, buddy.
It often surprises me how normal people were not taught that staring is rude. Sometimes they actually look surprised when you stare back.
It's normal to be the prey or the predator?
@@Jose-jx5puneither of them.
Just be someone with manners.
In some cultures it's quite normal to stare. Like in Thailand for example. But they often not staring aggressively though.
Also, people can be staring at you without thinking about it sometimes. Maybe that's why they look surprised when you stare back.
Ever think once be cause someone is facing your direction they are not seeing g you but very deep I thoughts etc.. it happens you know
thais only stare because they wna put their nose in others' businesses @@tompa8539
If you grew up in a rough area, this becomes second nature. Situational awareness is on 100% of the time.
Totally...cannot tell you how many times I got japped
In Chicago....sometimes I won sometimes I lost but if you stay aware that's 50 percent of the battle
Never relax
Im hyper vigilante most when i wake up... must come from jail
Nonsense. You can't look backwards.
“Situational Awareness”
That’s a great way to express it
In the world we’re living in everybody needs to do that everywhere
Sad but true
Be aware, might save your Life
I think the best advice is just be aware of your surroundings at all times.
Doesn't really matter whether you are in a fast food restaurant or walking in a bad area at night, the key is to notice the problem before the problem notices you.
SEMPER VIGILIS
- Criminals: OK, after this video the hunched are now faking it and the non hunched may be confident and dangerous people so...let's strike the "middle ground"!
- people who walk half-hunched to watch their phone 24/7: we are screwed (o.o)
BRUCE LEE SAID IN ORDER TO AVOID A SURPRISE ATTACK YOU SHOULD BE AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS.
@theultimatemale6820 I was walking and I seen this guy get up. I could tell he wanted to rob me. We walked toward one another I could tell he wanted to wait till I walked past him so he could take me from the rear haha. He got past me turned a round and I was standing looking at him face to face. I will never forget the fear in his eyes. I do the opposite of what he says. I look weak when I am strong,act strong when I am weak. But am always aware and ready. I actually like to fight hate to say I try not to start one. I would rather be dead and cool then alive and uncool.
Even in the Workplace?
As a retired corrections officer this couldn't be more true. Never appear weak.
As a current CO, I entirely concur!
So true. They are trying to read your every thought.
As a 3 time loser at level 5 supermax yards I can attest to this. Put on your warface and take flight.💥🤛
Some people are just crazy. A creepy guy in a parking lot took one look at me, balled up his fists and started snarling like an animal stomping toward me. I’ve never seen him in my life, he was clearly not right. My firearm was in my hotel room, but I had my trained Rottweiler out to potty. I commanded Baron to take over, and the man snapped out of it and circled wide. I saw him two more times near my hotel, he had the same reaction. I’m so glad I added my dog to my self security, I can’t recommend a trained dog enough!
@@FlawlessImperfectionBeauty Sadly I have 4 entirely useless Shih Tzu!! But my carry is always on me when I am away from home!!
Rotties are wonderful!!
Distance is key. I remember going home late at night, and a group of 5 men with a certain look, came towards me on the sidewalk. I immediately went over the road to the other sidewalk and kept walking. When they passed on the other side of the road one of them threw a bottle. He was yelling, ready to fight. But I kept on walking fast. The extra 20 meters I allready had was quickly 100 meters and he did not follow. Distance is key. It wouldnt have helped no matter how confident I walked if I had been on the same sidewalk as them, and fighting 5 arent gonna go well 99% of the time.
Well crossing to the other side of the road may well have been the correct course of action considering your circumstances but it's not surprising that it triggered a reaction.
Doesn’t work if you all live in the same neighborhood
Guess it’s hard to look confident facing five adversaries.
What about a dog to protect you ? You don't always see thé bad , a dog smells danger,
Agreed, 5 is too much. 4 is too much, and 3 most of the times as well.
My dad is a former Marine and Vietnam vet. He always taught me to be very aware of my surroundings at all times and to keep my head on a swivel. I’ve taught my kids and grandkids the same. I’ve also taught my daughter that when she’s in a parking lot, going to or from her car, don’t be digging in her purse or get distracted. Pay attention to what’s going on around you. Great video.
Thank you for sharing.God bless!
Your Dad gave you some very good advice.
Very interesting 🤔
Jesus, where do you guys live? America?
@@Aeren69g Yes we do, but the crime in our little town has escalated over the years to a ridiculous point. Personally, I think it’s better to be aware, than be sorry.
KEEP YOUR PHONE IN YOUR POCKET. If you're walking and looking at your phone, you're already distracted, and your're an easier target. Keep your head up, and your shoulders back as you're walking. and even if you don't, look like you know exactly where you're going.
Or walk backwards
No ear buds or headphones. Always be aware of you surroundings.❤
I never take my phone with me when I walk and my dog is always with me. I take her safety just as important as my own!! 😊 I DO take a bat light which I keep ready to swing at a moments notice. Sometimes I wear a hoodie and walk like a man. I have very long hair. My husband says that I walk like " don't @$&+ with me"!! 😆
@@stevengoracke7644 Walk Like A Man. That's a good song. 👍
Also if your in the position where they have cornered you and want your phone use it a weapon it's hard your gonna loose it either way it better to break it on their face than them take it...then even if they do take it ..its now broken and they dont get the cash they were hoping for it.
I developed some of those skills when I became a mother. When you are alone with your children you realize that you have to be the strong one, lead by example and handle the situation.
get some mama bear!
Badass ladies keep the world turning safely 👍
When someone stares at me, I make eye contact and I give a little head nod. Then I go about my business. Self defense starts from the very beginning. Make sure you’re physically, mentally, and spiritually strong. Be aware of your surroundings and have situational awareness. Be ready to run; that is the best form of self defense. When caught, be ready to fight. But trust me, you don’t want to fight. You could get killed or end up in jail should you hurt or even kill the other person.
My friend you are very smart and have a lot of common sense
That quick firm eye contact and small nod has always been my MO. It just feels good, firm, not aggressive, but a solid acknowledgement. Keep the head up when you break eye contact, posture upright and firm. It works.
Right thing to do without the drama
When another guy stares at me, I wink at him and make a kiss gesture. Works every time.
@@scratchy996 Lol
My German Shepherd Max always kept me safe,i was walking him one night when three drunks scoffing chips noticed me then made a move towards me doing the monkey walk then Max appeared from behind me and noticed them he started growling and they soon turned around and walked away. God bless you Max up in heaven thank you for protecting me. ❤️✝️❤️🙏
Max! 🙏🏻
Good boy, Max ✨️
One of the pleasures in life is a good dog!
@@dogsarefun2I had a basset hound that tore up a guy who tried to break into my car one night. It was hilarious. I didn’t call her off and I let her have him. There was blood on the pavement 😃.
@@lisabaltzer4190 Hope poochie didn't get sick after biting perp!
It's really about being assertive without being aggressive. It gives the message that you don't look for trouble but you can stand your ground when you have to.
I totally agree 👍
Nope. Too weak.
Yes. This takes time to develop but anyone who’s lived in a rough area will have this skill naturally
Bingo!
Well said.
A while back in the apt. parking lot, some guy looked at me and started walking toward me. I looked at him and walked slow toward him with confidence and he turned and walked the other way. I love my martial arts. Even is you walk with confidence, there are those who will still try and melt you down by staring. Doesn't work on me. I've been assaulted all my life and will not tolerate it. If you're attacked, defend yourself and be mean about it!
are you a women?
balls out lynne
All bs I agree
I am 49. I was mugged and beaten when I was 30. It has left me fearful ever since. I'm nervous just walking in the street. Can someone as old as me learn some martial arts? Just the basics? Thanks for any tips.
@@CyberSystemOverload The short answer is: Yes! The long answer is: Yes, of course! There's nothing to it, if you want it.... just go and learn some skills! I think you mostly need to get mentally prepped. Like, why wouldn't you go learn some martial arts? What's keeping you? Why haven't you done this already? Get going, man! There you go, a little push on your way! :) Now go learn some martial arts!
The confidence thing worked in my favor late one night. I was with a group of friends in a convenience store and walked away from them to order food from a touch screen. When I finished ordering and turned around there were 4 large men standing behind me, intentionally blocking my path. I'm a 5'4'" 115 lb woman. I could see they were trying to intimidate me so I looked each one in the eye, smiled, and said "Excuse me." and pretended I was comfortable despite them "looming" over me. They looked confused and stepped aside to allow me to pass. I don't know that that would work in any situation, but I think they expected a different reaction and weren't prepared for that.
Similar thing happened to me once. I was waiting on a banch outside of a mall for my husband to pick me up and a gang of teenage boys came over and draped themselves all over the bench, chatting me up. I just chatted right back, slipping in the fact that my husband was picking me up after attending the local gun show. I asked if they'd ever been to it. They just quietly walked off.
@@edennis8578 I'm sorry for your experience, BUT I think you handled that really well. 🙂👍🏻 I know intimidation is often the goal, and if we're in a relatively safe, public place, a casual attitude seems to throw those kinds of people off. I think I mentioned in my story that I know this doesn't work in certain situations, but in some it's very useful. The "intimidator" doesn't find the exchange particularly fun or enjoyable so they seem to move on. Lol
Lisa, lol, methinks your situation would’ve been much smoother if you had peeled off to one side or the other from the counter like everyone else instead of walking straight back the way you approached. That’s why you got weird looks. You felt intimidated…doesn’t mean they were trying to do that to you. No four men on this planet feels the need to intimidate a single female in a public fast food joint, they just wanted you to get out of the way. Hilarious.
@@Lisa.B.808they didn’t even notice you lady trust me
When I was training for my job (I was a bodyguard and security dog handler), my instructor (a former "UK Navy Seal,", actually he was a former UK SBS, Royal Marines Special Forces, it was in New Zealand) told me : "Show weakness, you get aggression. Show strength and mental force, you get submission ". Turns out it's totally true even in everyday life. No matter your gender, size etc... look strong, confident and determined and 99% of the predators outhere will leave you alone.
UK Navy Seal? Do you mean US Navy Seal, or UK SBS (Royal Marines special forces)?. Because in the UK, there is no unit called Navy Seals, that's a US Navy unit.
@@Paul-Weston He was a UK SBS. I wrote UK Navy Seal just for people who are not used to the different army corps to see the kind of man he was. I thought if I put "UK Navy Seal" it would be clear for everyone ^^, sorry if I mislead you, it wasn't on purpose.
I've corrected it^^
@amaurycampbell3203 yeah, it's cool mate. I kinda suspected it was for the benefit of our friends across the splosh.
Yeah I get why you put ‘UK Navy SEAL’ but honestly even then it would be considered blasphemy for the SBS or any of His Majesty’s Armed Forces.😂
@@qasimmir7117 lol, yeah,I know and apologise for any offence made 😁
Just had that happen I’m 6.3 225 pounds and what you just described is true. I made eye contact but not long I could tell he was looking for a confrontation but he could tell that I wasn’t having any of it. In a nut shell pray for Gods blessings and protection every day we are experiencing a lot of mental illness out there learn the signs and warnings.
All you need is a gun to protect and defend yourself from people that have mental issues. I always have mine on me. It's a Ruger SP101 357 Magnum revolver.
@@bobby1970
indeed, bullets talks posturing walks lol
Was he the same height as you?
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There is a lot of metal illeness and desease in the country,which is why there's so many issues with americans physically and mentallly.
They need to be educated on proper dieting and exercise,so they have good metal health not eating cheese burgers and drinking alcohol everyday that isnt gonna make you healthy.
I live in NYC for years and learned the “walk with confidence” the hard way. 50 years later I can show people what that means. I do a timid walk and people coming the other way do not get out of my way. When I change my posture, people get out of my way. This truly works!
Maybe it is time to get out of NYC. Yes, there is crime in small town/rural America but it pales in comparison to cities. I moved away from a city years ago and the culture shock that I experienced was tremendous. During the riots of 2020, life went on as normal where I live. Then again, we have second amendment rights here and people look out for each other unlike when I lived in a city and it was every man for himself and screw the next guy.
@@themetalhead1463NYC is far safer than it was 30+ years ago. I've walked around there on 3 different trips, Central Park, many trips on the subway and long walks through Brooklyn and never a single altercation. I didn't get lucky either, my experience was completely normal. Now 30+ years ago that would not be the case, like in the 80s and early 90s New York City was a very dangerous place. I think it has recently gotten worse since they have different leadership, but it's still nothing like it was in the 70's and 80's.
@@actionjksn you have no idea what you're talking about. New York City is quite dangerous now compared how it was under Rudy Giuliani and Michael Bloomberg. The decline and the crime wave started with Bill diBlasio and culminated in the "summer of peace of 2020". Now with Eric Adams running it, violent crime is rampant and out of control.
That you can say New York City is safe for now that even 30 years ago means you have never been there especially recently, or you're just flat out lying. It is at least as dangerous now as it was during the crack epidemic of the late 80s and early 90s.
@@themetalhead1463 Violent crime rate of NYC is 539 per 100,000 people. There are seven STATES that have a higher violent crime rate, and they all seem on the rural side: Missouri 543, Louisiana 639, Arizona 655, Arkansas 672, Tennessee 673, New Mexico 778, and Alaska 838. Perusing the entire list of states, red states tend to have higher violent crime rates. This seems to contradict the idea that 2nd amendment rights are as big a factor as some believe. Don't get me wrong, I was born and raised in a red state, but I think it's time people put aside the hateful talking points about certain states/cities and start embracing the strengths of every state. We are stronger together.
@@Aurora-sz1bc Red = commie.
Great advice. One night in the 90's, while walking to my car in the deserted and dimly lit parking lot of my office building, I noticed three 'thugly-dressed' males, all about 18-20 yrs old. When they saw me, they changed course to intercept me before I could reach my car. My mind raced. I stopped, calmly set my briefcase down. At that point, they stood before me, about 10 feet away. I put my right hand in my pocket, as if I was perhaps grabbing something (perhaps a weapon, which I did not have), and, in my best 'Dirty Harry' voice, I calmly but forcefully said, "Whatcha gonna do?" Their whole demeanor instantly shifted from "We're gonna f you up" to one of conciliatory laughter as the apparent leader tapped one of the others as he began to walk away. Even though I was shaking in my boots, evidently I presented myself as someone who was not about to be victimized. So yeah, confidence matters.
Kids who get picked on tend to look worried and hesitant. Bullies want victims, not opponents.
I have no problem with eye contact and when someone is giving me the stare down I smile and wink at them, I found that this surprise reaction is unsettling to them.
Yeah, I stand up and smile while looking the ass in the eye. I'm under 100 lbs / about 5 ' tall. I keep my head up , chin up and have never been jumped God help him/her if he or she did I have a hell of a paperweight with a sight on his nuts and liver if it ever comes to it. Also, I have straight out kicked a fat tall man stratight and then diagonally in the knees and he was crying begging for help.
CLEVER !
Blowing them a kiss works, too ... apparently
@@gigi9301nope i was there it was you who cried for help
Unless they like you and blow a kiss back...then what?
As my Dad always said “Walk with confidence and strength, be aware of your surroundings” No one will mess with someone who looks strong.
It sucks to live in a world where we have to train ourselves in such things - but, as it is what it is, I am grateful we have people like J. Hanson to share his experience.
we have always lived in a world like that mate, its just getting more exposure these days
Its more of an American problem
The world has always been like this more or less. Usually more.
Jim Henson?
@@andothemando9695 no it's not. In every country there are people like that. Remember Anders Behring Breivik? Norway seem to be such rich and civilised country.
The main problem here is the fine line between acting confident and acting cocky.
Acting cocky actually invites that type of bad neighborhood guys to "put you in your place".
It's provocative to them.
Watch your neck action...never let your head fall backwards..that shouts cocky..& pride cometh before the fall
Step 1 is to avoid bad areas, and bad situations, as much as possible.
His example was at McDonald's and at Wendy's
But where you tread, tread boldly
I agree 100%!
Sometimes you can't avoid bad areas, or situations though, as bad situations can arise anywhere and at anytime also.
@@jonathanmowat8576 It is true that one cannot avoid bad situations completely, but with a little common sense, one could probably avoid 90% of the potential bad situations. For example, as Ben Shapiro said, it would be a bad decision to walk around a high crime area at night, waving $100 bills.
Good Advice. I always maintain situation awareness, and am not afraid to maintain eye contact, maybe a bit too long, but then I'm a big guy, a former Marine and combat instructor, as well as being armed. Some might think me a bit pugnacious, I personally think I just have that don't mess with vibe. Years ago I took a friend and her 3 teenage daughters on a hike. As we approached the trail shelter, there were 5 sketchy looking guys hanging out at the picnic table, which had a case of beer, some liquor bottles, and some paraphernalia visible. They were throwing bowie knives and tomahawks against a tree. As we came into sight, they started muttering amongst themselves and looking us over. I acknowledged them with a nod and a little small talk. More looking and muttering, and after a bit one of them started walking somewhat our way with a knife in his hand. Not brandishing it or being overtly threatening, just seeing how we would react I think. I casually stretched and moved to scratch my lower back, which pulled back my light jacket, and revealed a double stack 45 on my belt. Mr. testing us guy saw the gun, looked up at me, and I hit him with a hard stare. He quickly turned away, walked back to his boys, a little more muttering, some furtive looks, but the whole dynamic had changed. I never touched my weapon, no theatrics. Nodded at them, told them to have a good one and headed back down the trail, of course watching behind. Would something have gone down if I hadn't been armed? I'll never know, but I do know what did happen, which was nothing. I was glad to be armed, and also glad that I gave him the look of "I see you, I'm not scared, and I'm prepared to deal with you if need be." One of only a very few instances in my civilian life where I think being armed made a difference, most of the time it's just insurance.
you should've called the police and reported the activity, so the next people hiking didn't end up in the same situation.
Never heard a Marine refer to himself as a "former Marine" - ever. A Marine knows that that's one thing you never say.
@@effsixteenblock50 No, one never says Ex marine, former is acceptable when differentiating oneself from current active duty, without going into a whole dissertation to the civilian pukes.
I'm a former Marine also! Semper Fi John.
I think that’s the attitude women need to have, “I see you, not scared, and will deal with you if needed,” I have had men follow me around a store. They don’t like getting caught, so turning around in an aisle and be erratic (unpredictable) in your movements through the store throws them off and confirms if they really were following or not.
I once tried a lunatic laugh and crazy stare at some dudes that were staring me down at a Chinese take out. They left immediately looking scared.
Acting crazy=too much trouble to the predator
Of course they did. You're acting crazy as a honey badger.
Jason Segel in "I Love You Man."
I’ve done this too…start talking to yourself, say something crazy
Please don't tell us you were the server and they the customers. lol
I was in prison with a guy who murdered another man for not looking away , he would say if he just looked away we would both be home right now. So watch who you stare back at.
100%
What a freak
Or they'd also both be home if the psycho didn't elect to stare in the first place and the n proceed to murder the guy for looking back at him.
Was he black?
I don't get why people who stare think they have the right to stare but the other guy doesn't have the right to stare? Their logic is nonsensical. If they stare, it's not a problem but if I stare back it's somehow a problem.
Ahhhh! So many stories this brings to mind! I'm certainly blessed to have survived into adulthood and into my late 50s.
Walking with confidence/purpose is such great advice!
61 here. i got jumped by a pack of goons (white guys, as am i) when i was 18 in seattle. the cop i flagged down only cared about my malfunctioning headlight and not the cut on my head. she wrote me a ticket, and wouldn't take the report. lesson 1: YOU are your own first responder. if it were legal to carry a firearm, i would have and do now. if it were to happen again (God forbid) i'd smoke those motherfuckers and sleep just fine, and wait for the cops to WANT to take a report at that point, to which they'll get my attorney's bidness card.
Walking with posture and confidence will literally save you from wild predators as well . Bears cougars for example . Never show fear to anyone animals included
It was a little confusing, the prisoners were asked would you attack this person, would you attack them and almost 100 agreement, all the prisoners chose the people who were walking with confidence, who were walking with their head up. I know what you meant to say, but you should have said they wouldn’t attack them
This is the EXACT opposite of what my Police Academy said was the case.
They interviewed hundreds of people who murdered Police Officers.
The biggest reason they said they attacked them for was because they were out of shape, fat, looked weak, & they thought they could successfully attack that person.
I caught that too but it was obvious to most people by the rest of the video the he goofed and meant the opposite .
I noticed that too
I noticed that too. I hope you redo the video and take this one down.
Jason Hasen is suffering from a little senile dementia. Being in the CIA exposed him to various toxic chemicals which degrade brain cells. I’ve noted several of these senior moments in a few of his latest TH-cam videos. The dude has a good heart just a few too many dementia moments. 😮😊
Great advice Jason. When I’m in public, my head is always on a swivel and always mindful of the OODA loop. Criminals may always be looking for a victim, but I’m always looking for a potential aggressor. Posture and bearing can certainly indicate if you’re “willing “ to be prey. I will never look for a fight, but I will make an aggressor wish they picked someone else for their predation.
Observe
Orientate
Decide
Act
It’s how you survive on the battlefield and the streets.
Thank you for that. Stay safe.
You do realize the YT host committed aggravated menacing/assault by threatening with a weapon all because some guys "starred" at him too long. A tactical pen is still a weapon...as you admit to carrying it as a weapon for self defense.
@@papimaximus95
So what,, Your point?
@@james3593 "So what,, Your point? "
The point is for you to relax...they are trying to get a rise out of you.
Be careful for those of you who park in an apartment parking garage. If you are parking late at night with a car full of groceries, do not try to carry everything with you in one trip. In other words, keep your hands free, I almost learned the hard way one night when I looked over my shoulder and spotted someone lurking out of the shadows stalking me when I was taking things out of my trunk. I was able to acknowledge the threat and had plenty of distance to get to the elevator with my things before he could try to cut off my movement. It was only by God's Grace that I was super alert to my surroundings that night. One other little note: Do not think that you're safe b/c you see someone that has a "security guard" uniform because those can be the best predators!
Excellent advice!! It works.
I make outside, night deliveries in funky neighborhoods and carrying myself the way you talked about has kept me safe 30+ years.
Never look weak, walk around with head high like you own the place.
I get where they test me, two or three walk towards me... I start walking towards them... they don't know what to think at that point, but messing with me is no longer their choice. I usually get a " hey" or "how's it goin?" from them and I just nod while looking straight at them. It does work!!
Great video .. great advice. Bully's only look for people that show fear...
I just look blankly through them, like they're not even there. It works!
"Give evil nothing to oppose.. and it will disappear by itself." -- Lao Tzu
I do this…I look casually at the person, blank expression, and then keep doing what I’m doing, like they are a bird while I’m a rabbit grazing…like I don’t care and don’t see them as a threat. They usually look away and go about their business
I do the same thing with some of the creeps I work with. Suspect something’s up, look back and find them staring at me with wide eyes. I continue on as if they don’t exist.
Interesting quote, ACIM teaches something very similar.
If you say so my friend...
Idk if it’s an introvert thing but I do this too 😂 when someone’s staring or glancing in my direction, I just keep walking and looking forward with a serious expression and pretend to not even acknowledge them. It really does work lol
Useful video. I talked with many pro bouncers and all said nobody, even drunk wants to really put in on a fight. All is centered about fear, if you fear herself and the world you will fear others, predators will feel it and you cetainly will become a target. So you have to work on yourself firstly and overcome fear, acquire confidence and you avoid most of the problems.
Dear mr.Hanson im 63 now in awheelchair but born with cerebral palsy. I use an ultralight manual chair when i go out i roll FAST AS I CAN.the exercise is good the breeze in my face is great.also i removed the footrest so my feet touch the ground.please do a vidieo for us in chairs please do a chair life defense video just because i dont walk with confidence dosent mean i dont move with confidence.thanks doll
Honestly conveying confidence can't be overstated. I had that happen one time walking through a bad area as a group was approaching me, I just happened to be going through a tough time so I must've looked like I was ready to end someone because that group parted like the red sea as I walked through 😂
it's sad if one has to convey it...because that means you're weak
@@timsoom7027does it; did you listen to the advice, given here? Satchel was conveying , don’t f*ck with me, which is exactly what the group picked up on. I’ve no idea, where you felt that he was displaying weakness.
@@timsoom7027what?
@@timsoom7027your a perfect target.
@@timsoom7027 You're trying too hard to come across as a badass and it shows. I'm willing to bet you're the type that talks a lot instead of actually doing something, you're the type that starts shit you can't finish (eg. runs your mouth at the bar and then when you get the shit beat out of you calls the cops and presses charges), and you're the type that in actual conflict runs like the little bitch you're so desperately trying to convince people you're not.
I've noticed this regularly, and it's very on point. I'm just shy of 71, but I always hold my head up and continue on my way. I do carry, but I also have awareness. And I've had training.
Great stuff, Bro! I’m digging out my tactical pen…
Back in my early 20's, my wife said her coworkers found me attractive because I walked with a purpose. Not arrogance, just that I projected I can handle myself. I tend to walk fast and scan as I do such naturally. It does work. I have been to dozens of countries and just be me. Being former military and law enforcement, we look for certain things anyway. This is VERY effective. I have very rarely had to draw my sidearm even as an officer due to posture and demeanor. Body language dictated that I meant business. It was also unintentional. I always tried to be kind to everybody of which I interacted, even if being arrested. You don't have to be a bully, but look confident in your ability to handle situations.
My Father, a Captain in the Air Force gave me a mini-lecture on this when I was about 12. I had developed a habit of looking down as I was walking.
Great message you are putting out with this video. Predators love their victims to be inattentive , distracted, and sheeplike. Stand tall and most likely they seek a softer target.
Air Force guys are very intimidating 😂… sorry, just an Army joke
@@HDHhomestead I grew up with military humor. My Dad had a song about all the other branches.
♪♫ To hell with those grunts in the Army, they have such a beautiful plan. They call out the GD reservists, whenever the sh!t hits the fan. For jar heads or swabbies he'd just swap out the words.
@@Robnord1 😂good one ☝🏻
Most people today are looking at their cell phones and have no idea what's going on around them.
We grew up on video games. But that doesn’t mean we lack self-awareness. Your generation had it down to a science. But I walk out of any environment and I am immediately flattened like a board and prepared to engage like a Roman soldier in the past.
Shoulders back chin slightly down and always aware and alert. That’s what I teach all my family and friends. Situational awareness, not only visually but constantly listening for tones in people’s voices. I hear before I see most of the time. God bless you my friend.
Thank you for the tip. God bless you too!
Thank you for mentioning the tactical pen. I had ordered some a few years ago and had forgotten about them. I have found them and now have one in my vehicle and one as an every day carry item.
Some people who don’t know what they are talking about are making assumptions that if someone looks at you they want to fight. Unless you are in prison and your cell mate Bruno is staring at you, it is important to keep in mind you could be wrong in that maybe the dude is lost in thought or looking at someone nearby to where you are sitting. They are not always looking at you so don’t over react. We all know people misread situations so maybe things are cool. Always important to take the good advice said in this video but worth noting too that you could be wrong and to keep calm.
When someone is "staring you down" you know. If you don't react in kind you WILL BE a victim. I assume you have never experienced such a thing....
@@kevinh891 Agreed 💯
@@kevinh891 What staring down mean .. English is not my first language
@@kevinh891No No No. Bad advice. Feel love for everyone in your heart and the one staring will feel that love and find it such a pleasant change from hostility etc. OK you may still get a hostile stare but it won't bother you because you only feel love for them. Cultivate the Love. Groovy baby, Far out, Outa sight man. Aaaah the 1960s, never will return.
@@19037vinny Feeling the love for everyone is a good thing. But, what if they don't feel it? There is genuine evil in this world. If someone is looking for a fight, all the good feelings in the world will not protect you. For that, you need to be prepared...
If inside a store, bank or casino and you notice someone who is discreetly following you watching you and sizing you up while they're talking on a phone, I can almost guarantee there is a partner outside the store entrance on the other side of the inside phone. The inside store person is deciding if you're worth it for a robbery in parking lot or a follow home robbery.
I learned to do exactly what Jason said about acknowledging stares from weird people long ago. I usually look at them in the eye for a few seconds, nod my head, smile slightly without showing my teeth, I say hi to them, and THEN turn away after a few more seconds. I let them know that I know they’re there. Haven’t had any problems.
.....don't smile
Acknowledgment along with a confident look is a good tactic.
Have done exactly this, for years. Smile included. My wife claims it scares the sh!t out of her when she see's me do it. She claims I get a look on my face like I'm eager for them to try it. I don't know what I look like but no one has ever followed through.
The problem with staring back and smiling is he could interpret that as you think he's fit and you want to have a romp in the toilet.
They probably think you're a bigger psycho than they are 😂😂😂
Am I missing something here? At around 3:00, he said that almost 100% of prisoners said that they would attack the people who were walking with confidence. He went on to say that people who were walking with confidence were much less likely to be a victim. Which is it?
Yeah he definitely meant they attack people who DIDN'T walk with confidence.
There is also something that has worked well for me when being stared at whilst standing. Ignore the stare for just a few moment then discretely move over and stand right to the side of that person and see if they are staring at you at close quarters. Look them calmly back in the face at close distance with no emotion and most will move their stare away. Because you have pushed them out of their comfort zone and done something they were not expecting!
That move only works on an unarmed dude you could thrash easily. Plenty of hard cases you wouldn't even think of trying that on. Every man knows his limits, it's always best to work within them and not spread tough guy fantasies.
Once I was rudely suggested to move, I went over to a very big and confident guy and stood by him, keeping eye contact. He was silent, and I left unharmed. It's totally about the thugs' comfort zone..
Not necesserily, just listen to this Russian wisdom " smelost' goroda beret" , look it up.@@samueljenkis6253
@@samueljenkis6253 Not a tough guy fantasy? What you may have overlooked is the law of condition and consequence? What is fairly clear is that there will always be a risk in any response when you are dealing with a thug or Psychopath? It is a gamble which ever way you choose to deal with it? Though I agree that in some instances a calm and solid look back might work for a few, but sadly NOT in all cases. Ultimately you might be forced to deal with it in a more assertive manner. So many years ago I ran my own Thai Boxing Club. But I agree this does not make you indestructible! So I suppose my point that you might need to understand; is that some people will still want to have a go despite giving a long distance twitch of confidence!
In Mexico you can't do this 😅
Words to live by. I have never been mugged or targeted as far as I know but I actually learned from my Mum about personal security. We are not allowed to carry pepper spray in Australia, but I always seem to have a sample bottle of hair spray about me. I am in my 60's now and I'll hang onto every advantage I can get. Tragically, due to crowed violence, I learned that other people have no care for your wellbeing and human decency is not a consideration when the hammer drops. Funnily enough, a copper once noted that my Dad was walking around with a knobkerrie. He was referring to Dads walking stick which was made out of cherry tree with a pommel at the top for the heel of the heel of the hand to lean on. At 78 my old man was still someone to respect.
Man, you people of Australia allowed your gubment to disarm yous, why did you let that happen? I put a can of wasp and hornet spray in my wife’s van, within easy reach. Or Brake cleaner is equally as good, but, the wasp spray has a 20 foot range. I guess that is illegal in Australia also, thought you men were tough, I guess not, since you let this happen. Mass murderers love disarmed peasants!
My dad and grandfather very much the same. Much respect.
I used to use a peppermint breath spray (makes for good mace) and had a sword cane that I bought when I was cornered by two fellows on my way to a music show who emptied my and my partner's pockets. More proof to the... I took care of him bit. I stood up for us then, bought the sword cane, kept the peppermint spray, chased down bullies the entire time we were together and held his hand through everything building a better man out of him like he was a soldier and this was a Disney movie he couldn't make it in.
Oddly I got a tip of the hat and a greeting over TH-cam live from a favored ex CIA agent about the sword cane... Very awesome moment in my life.
Wow how about Jason Hanson? We got a problem but he advises we carry a product and look confident, right? I'm not convinced Jason. You know the story goes that a Tiger always takes out the last man in a line of walkers, if not somebody alone. Better than looking confident is not being alone. A knobkerrie? Don't buy any products, it's carrying with intent to injure others and it leads you into danger. Stay safe.
He literally said “100% of the prisoners would attack someone walking with confidence” the first time.
twice he said it 😮
I'm confused. I see "Don't Look Weak ", And I read"100% of the prisoners would attack someone with confidence. Which is it?! Someone needs to get their shit together.
I thought I missheard, but it looks like my hearing is good. 😮
He did indeed. 🤔
He must have misspoke. It happens.
Mr. Hanson...these people that walk to their car or office with their face in their phone are asking for trouble. They are not aware if their surroundings. This can be deadly.
It amazes me that people do this. Of course, I'm old enough that I helped _create_ "smart phones", so I grew up without them. Perhaps this gives me a different perspective - I was in my early 20s before the first commercial cell towers were deployed - very sparsely - around the SF Bay Area... and they used some insane wattage, multi-mile rural towers down near Gilroy. I tested a bulky Panasonic "handset and block over-the-shoulder" unit back then for my defense contractor company, and it was so powerful it blanked out my car stereo on locking onto an incoming call. The ring came out of the car speakers... and of course there was no "cellular" circuits in my AM/FM cassette stereo at all. It just resonated with the wiring in the car.
But... rules for driving: Always lock doors as soon as you get in the car, before even belting up, and keep windows up. If it's really hot, just open the windows a little bit (unless driving at full speed down a highway, I suppose) or use the A/C if you have it. Don't let anyone have the chance to reach in and open the doors from the outside. And most of all... after parking at your destination, collect and organize your belongings *before* doing anything else. Before shutting off the engine, before opening the doors. Prepare to secure your vehicle immediately on exit - many cars allow you to lock all the doors as soon as the driver door is cracked; use this feature. Then, _before_ opening the (locked) door, survey your surroundings - carefully. Look at any people around you, especially in a public lot. Examine your path you want to walk, looking for people behaving oddly, potential hiding places, potential cover, and so forth. Once you have assessed the surroundings, only _then_ shut down the engine, open up the vehicle and exit. This sounds like a lot, but it really isn't - only a couple of seconds once you get the hang of the "quick assessment scan". Use your car's mirrors and windows, swivel your head all around. Just takes a second or two. The point is to be *aware*, and to remain so.
Keep your head on a swivel as you move to your destination. Being at least minimally armed (with what depends on the State you live in), but anything is far better than nothing. You don't need to be paranoid... just conscious and aware, and not distracted.
And keep your damn phone in the vehicle or a pocket. It is of no use while walking, so ignore it.
Some years ago I was in a NYC subway terminal waiting for the train. Only been to NY 10-15 times, by no means am I comfortable there. While waiting, a group of young urbans who were eyeing me. I looked at them, then looked away, but only with my eyes turning about 30° away from them without moving my head, and doing the slow blink as my eyes moved away lol. I’m a very little guy (5’3”) but in strong physical shape. I’m also very non-violent, I hate violence and refuse to carry weapons. However, I also refuse to be a victim and be assaulted. The shortest of the group came up to me and asked me where to find some random street (I got the idea that they may have been trying to discern if I was a resident or tourist). I just said “I don’t know” with the stone coldest look I could muster, and did the same thing - looked slightly away but only with my eyes. I was convinced he wanted to harm me, either for money or to prove something since he was also short. To this day, I’m also convinced that my attitude kept me from an assault. I know I sent the message that I didn’t fear him because I didn’t (even though I did fear the group). But I was also really happy when I got out of there unscathed.
young urbans?
@@usaman7358 Dyslexic Sikhs
Asking the time is also a good one. Never look down at your watch! You know the approximate time. Recite it to them without leaving looking at them. I've seen lots of people with watches on asking me the time.
Urbans 🤣💀🔥
3:57 If walking confidant 100% get us attacked in that 1970 studies, wouldn’t it be better doing the opposite. I think the script you should be saying is “asking the prisoner that they will “NOT” attack a certain person and the prisoner 100% chose the person that walks with confidant.”
I think he made a mistake 😭 I was so confused
@@Hikari_28 I was too. Lol
I always thought somebody was looking at me with bad intentions when i was younger but they just wanted to be friends with me.But always be aware.Great video!
Absolutely 100% correct I told my son from the time he was five keep your chin up walk proud don’t look like a victim. That has kept him out of trouble, his whole life
Good stuff! I was walking back to my hotel in Washington DC late at night. Got turned around and was suddenly lost. Turned down a dark empty street with no sidewalks in the direction of the Embassy Suites. Halfway down the block, here comes three guys in the street towards me. I fought the urge to turn around and kept walking straight towards them. As we closed within about thirty feet, I put my right hand in my pocket and continued straight on. When we were twenty feet away, they split, two on one side, the third on the other. I walked right through the gauntlet, head high, like Bruce Willis. My heart was pounding but I hid my fear. We passed and I never looked back, just kept walking. I know I got away with something that night. I’m convinced it was acting confident that got me through.
It is better if there is actually something in your pocket...
hello from texas, I am a 57 year old visually impaired grandmother. I have learned so many great safety tips and self-defense moves from your channel. I am now trying to teach my young grandsons some safety moves and safety tips to help keep them safe and what to do just in case. Thank you so much I love your channel. What a blessing you are.
That is awesome! Thank you, Rebecca- I truly appreciate it. God bless!
Having an umbrella is good. I once had someone start to drag me off when I walking down the street and I hit him with my umbrella and he let go and took off.
The short fold-up umbrellas are light and easy to swing but it was enough of a blow to get the guy to let go.
I'm a large (straight) male, and i sometimes notice another man staring at me. Depending on my mood, after a few seconds of said person staring at me, I'll blow them a kiss, which usually gets them to quit staring and move along. I find it rather amusing to shock or confuse these people that like staring at others for no good reason! Stay safe out there by always being vigilant!
I'm tempted to try that 😂. Usually I just smirk at someone if they stare at me.
Dude😂😂😂
Until they follow you at home one night to follow up on that "nice gesture." 😂😂😂
@@Denvenot recommended, I almost got aids for that
This does not work when you are of slight build. Just a warning to other readers.
Good advice.
Many years ago I left a bar at 3am and decided to walk home. Half way through the Parramatta Mall [Sydney] that was totally deserted, a group of about a dozen young thugs [Middle Eastern and Pacific Islanders] suddenly appeared around a corner heading in my direction.
Immediately I sensed the group were waiting to see how their 'leader' would react.
When we were at our closest, about 50' away, I looked over at them, gave a nod without breaking stride.
The 'leader' gave me a nod in return and that was that.
24 hours later the local newspaper had a report of a bashing and robbery of a 30yo guy in the Parramatta Mall at 3.15am. A mate who ran security at the bar assumed from the description that I was the victim.
He couldn't understand how I escaped unharmed.
At 15yo I was a street kid in the red-light district Kings Cross. That's where I learnt; don't walk like a victim and certainly don't walk with an arrogant swagger. Walk with purpose as if you're meant to be there, like you belong.
agreed, worked away in many odd places alone, sometimes wandered into what seemed shady places by mistake, always looked confident but not arrogant, like you say like you belong there, like it was all normal, I,m not a big or strong guy, but I,m not a weak man, and have a grumpy looking face most of the time, never got into bother, maybe just lucky?
@@paulellam6926 luck only gets one so far in life, especially in seedy areas.
Size has little to do with it IMO.
At 15yo I was a little kid at only 5'2" [I was a late grower; by 18yo I was over 6' tall]
Sounds to me like you learnt to walk with confidence like you were meant to be wherever you are.
The thing that I learnt during my time on the streets was that those who target those that are smaller than themselves are cowards of the worst kind.
The few times when a pack of older bigger guys tried to stand over me for my tobacco and money [It starts off with the demand "Give us a smoke c#nt" that signals their intent to take everything you've got] I ran to a doorway or a stairwell where the thugs could only attack one at a time. I was a feisty little bugger back then and would not roll over for anyone. If they wanted a smoke that bad they'd have to work for it.
Every single time they looked at each other, laughed and walked away.
That happened to me as a teenager after a night out in NZ. Walking through a deserted shopping centre when a group of young men stepped out and one bellowed, "Sons of Samoa!" I was tense but didn't overtly react. Just nodded and kept walking. Amazingly nothing happened.
Ha so true! I can vouch for this at Parra mall. I had a similar issue Many years ago after a night out at Kicks nightclub Parra leagues walking back to the night ride buses. Heaps of mad cunts looking for a fight. Walk tall and with purpose!
@@michaeldraper74 I drove cabs as a 2nd job on Saturday nights; man it could get wild.
Interesting thing though; for years I drove Manly cabs and avoided the Western Suburbs. [Driving Northern beaches was crazy enough] What I found was a massive difference in attitude. The Manly-Warringah kids were a bunch of disrespectful a-holes, generally speaking. If one of the passengers turned on you his mates would back him.
Driving out West on the other hand, they had empathy for the working man. If one turned on you his mates would hold onto him and apologise. Never felt safer driving a cab.
I got mugged in Waikiki once by two guys at an ATM right on the main strip in broad daylight. Luckily for me there were three Marines right next door who saw it going down and jumped into the fray. The muggers ended up bloody and on the ground when suddenly they were overwhelmed! They got nothing from me as I broke my ATM card when they came at me. I never saw the muggers coming as they had been hiding around a corner and bum rushed me. I ended up with a torn shirt and a few scratches. I have always been more self aware since then. Always be sure of your surroundings and a never deny yourself an exit ramp.
This day and age I am 110% aware of my surroundings….especially when I park my car. Great info and stay saf3 all.
Years ago downtown Detroit a guy asked me for money and I kept walking and told him no! He does an about face and runs up behind me to intimidate! Well I don’t Intimidate and Marine training kicked in and down he went! Come to find out he was wanted by US Marshals not a 100 feet from their door
If people need money, asked you. Just give him $50 to help him lol. You beat him up. That's very rude. Please have your manners and moral fix.
Marine training? I've never seen you guys win a battle. Lol, marine training. You're cute.
Glad you can spare fifty dollars.
Your ignorance is showing.@@checkdown3774
@@checkdown3774Really. Go back to your country
Brilliant video. Well explained! You've earned a new subscriber! I had a similar incident to you outside a Starbucks. Went in, got a coffee, standing outside waiting for a lift and these two guys walked past and (don't know why) one stops and just stares at me drinking this coffee. I stare back. He says "you going to do something?" I replied with "don't know, am I?" He looked down at the pavement and told me to...leave..in a less polite manner. He shambles off and I continued with my coffee. Normal day. Doesn't bother me but your explanation is perfect and is something they get into training now. Walk with purpose and confidence and be very aware of your surroundings i.e. entrances, exits, obstacles and such. Not even for defence but just any emergency situation. Well said chief! Great channel
You're a good man, Jason Hanson 🥰 God bless you and your family too ❤❤❤
As someone with bad eyesight, I look straight through them.
Growing up in a bad neighborhood when I was young. Being bullied and attacked by people and neighborhood dogs all the time. It comes to a point where you're expecting it and are giving out that look and vibe of I'm willing to die but I'm taking 1 or more of you with me and I'll be laughing while I'm doing it.
Exactly! I've survived alot... one huge component is always being willing to lay down your life and letting them know someone is coming with me no matter what.
@davidibarra7854 Yeah, I had a similar upbringing. I was a skinny, weak kid. It wasn't attitude adjustment that changed my situation, though. It's that I got my growth spurt a bit earlier than the other kids and I got bigger and stronger than them. Also I was learning to box. I still wasn't the toughest kid around, but there was some fight in me. Attacking me was not going to be pain-free, so the predators found softer targets. And I kept on training for the next 20 years because I started to enjoy it.
I've been put in quite a few situations in my day where I was clearly being considered their next victim and I managed to change the predator's mind by conducting myself in both a confident and crazy manner. And I did it in a fairly subtle manner. It's difficult to describe in writing, but I achieved my objective each time. I made them think that I was capable of anything, so they backed off.
I have a fake sharpie called a “stabby” that has no metal but G10 composite. Anyways get thru TSA no problems and stabs thru walls and wood.
Excellent! One additional step I added as a dad when the family goes to dinner is to show the table where the emergency exit is. This is in case I have to confront someone inside and I'll know my family is safe. This has happened and it was something I never want my kids seeing me do again for it got very messy.
I've been told that I walk like a martial artist (ever since I was 15 in 1973, and I'm 64 now), because I actually am one, and that is helpful. But even more so, I use what I call "The Chuck Connors Rifleman Gaze". What's that? If you watch the opening credits of "The Rifleman", the way that Chuck Connors looks around, making sure that those around him know "I see you"... it works like a charm. My father did the same thing. Once, when my wife and I were in a parking lot at a local strip mall, there was one guy that was eye-balling us, from where he sat in his parked van, wearing a hoodie, and looking like, well, a hood. My gaze caught him and I held it for a couple of beats, and he literally started his engine, and moved his van a couple of rows over and re-parked. Always let the leopard know he's dealing with a tiger...a superior predator.
Very good advice. I have used it many times (before hearing it from Jason), especially in crowded areas like train stations. Make eye contact. I even add in a slight smile, sometimes. Maybe a head nod. And I know that I will defend myself to my last breath. With whatever tool I have on my person. Also, always position yourself to advantage, meaning nobody can sneak up behind you or surround you easily. How about a video about where to sit in a restaurant or movie theater or subway car, things like that? Thanks, Jason.
Never sit with your back to a door, never sit in front of a window if you can help it, always know where all the exits are and where they lead, and always position yourself so you have the best view/situational awareness possible. That means you need to be able to see the doors, the cash register, the restrooms, the workers, what’s going on outside, and other people. If you can’t do these things in a particular space, don’t go into that space! You’re hemmed up and trapped!
If an event happens in a restaurant and every one is trying to clear out, avoid the fatal funnel of the front door and head to the kitchen. There is always a door out the back
Back Corner. DUH. A place where you can see everything. Hasn't ANYONE been in the military on youtube or is everyone a snoflake?
@@shanemitchell477
I was in the military and I already know all of this. But here’s something that’s gonna blow your mind! It wasn’t until I separated from service that I found out veterans only make up about 1% to 2% of the population. The point I’m trying to make is that encountering another person who’s been is the military isn’t as common as you think.
@@shanemitchell477 Not always possible. DUH. I am just making some suggestions, instead of spouting off like a moron.
Great points. Years ago I was with my wife walking on the street in Puerto Rico. Side note, I’ve been training in martial arts since I was 6 and I’m former nypd (I was also carrying). I saw 2 guys in their late teens make eye contact from across the street about 150 ft away who then crossed the street coming towards us. There weren’t many people on the street and I knew what was potentially about to happen. I told my wife to keep 1/2 step behind me and she was already on the outside. As they got closer, I glanced at them with my “don’t try it” look. They passed us and we crossed the street. Nothing happened but they were sizing me up to decide if they were going to try to rob us.
You probably scared them with your steely gaze. 😐
Wow thank you I will next time have a death stare instead of shy away
Same deal in a dark parking lot as we were walking into a wedding reception.
My gun down by my side. I looked right at them and said: “You two shitheads better keep walking.”
They did.
I just wear red underwear. I just know that 100% of the people who cross the street are doing so because they're sizing me up for a possible attack. And they seem to work 100% of the time bc none of those people attacked me. Totally proves the causal relationship.
@@AJHart-eg1ys yep, I’ll bet those red undies scare em away! 🙄
It's often when people look at me, they quickly look down. I tend to have a very dark and serious look, but I am quite friendly and chill guy. When I start talking to somebody they are often shocked how friendly I am. A curse and a blessing I guess
If somebody is staring you down, make extremely brief eye contact, nod your head, then return to your business. This action, I believe, acknowledges the aggressor staring you down, shows him respect which de-escalates, and shows your confidence (rather than weakness).
I’m not showing anybody respect that is sizing me up lol. Respect is earned not given
@@PrinceOfTheCity1 If the goal is to prevent an altercation, then a 1/10 second nod just might achieve that goal. Maybe not, but there's no harm in trying.
@@PrinceOfTheCity1It doesn’t show respect so much as it doesn’t show DISrespect.
Dave advice is also opinion of many experts... This guy work for some law enforcement agency and hence hos attitude maybe different because if he kill some one he know how to cover it... just few hours earlier I was walking (my night walk) and I saw guy staring at me. It is a business place and just few weeks ago the clerk was killed during robbery (later the robber was too killed). I donot know if that guy was some guard or what.. I stared back at him and when I moved past him he too rotated his head as I was also fixing my eyes on him. I shaked my hands down and asked 'What', I paused for less than a second but since I was walking I moved further away and later I was thinking about my usual strategy of walking confidently and making eye contact with every noticeable person from a distance and then keep in focus but not making eye contact.
Yep those guys were definitely scared of your pen 😂
What I usually do is look at them, smile, head nod, and then look away, continuing to smile for a few more seconds. Doing this shows confidence, which makes a criminal or bully think twice before targeting you because they want someone who's fearful or intimidated.
@JohnnytNatural Anything could trigger some people. Even just looking at someone can turn into an ego battle. If a smile is misinterpreted as a sexual advance, then so would a head nod, and you certainly wouldn't do that if you're a girl.
I was walking in a forest the other day, and most women I walked past avoided eye contact. I knew they felt uncomfortable, and it made them look like an easy target. Some looked at me with a blank expression, and it came across like they were scared or intimidated, but they were trying not to show it.
Then there was a girl who looked straight at me and smiled, which caught me by surprise. It made me think she was confident, not afraid, and most likely carrying a weapon. Out of all the women, little miss smiley was the only one that didn't look like an easy target.
I don't look away, I stare at them with a smile like a psycho.
@@chris-ryan Me too, I make em wonder if I'm more nuts 🤪 than they are.
I became a target when I became disabled & had to start using a cane & walker.. I notice soooo many more people stare at me & it makes me feel so vulnerable.
Talk about this all the time with fellow workers. We work in some rough areas of Detroit. I have trained pretty extensively in hand to hand combat. Armed and unarmed. The biggest thing I always tried to instill in the people I was training is never to look like a victim.
Thank you for sharing Jeff! God bless!
100% correct, my friend. On occasion when I thought an unsavory character was sizing me up I'd simply face them with eye contact and a blank face, then smirk and continue with business as usual. When I'd look back, like leaving the cashier in a convenience store they were either interested in someone else or gone. Also, keep your head on a swivel - look around. Be aware.
If you think about it, Jason, teach folks how to take a perp off his feet when they are aggressively approaching you with intent. Thanks!
Jason very good video Sir. How about one for us older folks that move a little slower and aren't going to be able to grapple with a criminal. But still CCW some things we can do or not do in case drawing a weapon isn't called for yet. Thank you Sir
Carry a nice stout cane with you. It's acceptable even for air travel. Nobody wants to get whacked on the side of the head with a solid piece of hardwood, especially multiple times.
@@JW-fq1pp good idea but I walk fine and don't need a cain yet. And kind of like to push that way of protecting myself a few years longer. Thanks for the idea
A few years ago I had a patient show me his “walking stick” explaining it had a taser in it…he didn’t actually need a cane either.
If you look at someone who is looking at you, they might think you want to communicate and come closer. This can be trouble in some situations.
I taught my kids when they were young to always look at their surroundings especially inside a building because the opportunity to escape if need be is lessened. Always look for an exit and quickly size anyone and everyone. Now that they are all adults I get blamed in a nice way that dad made “us paranoid” in a crowd. No, dad made you aware and possibly safe in a crowd. Thank you Jason for this tip.
You’re not paranoid, they are out to get you.
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As someone who has grown up in one of the worst inner city neighborhoods and visited other major cities across the US, I can say with confidence that none of these tactics will work. It’s definitely not about appearing weak. First of all, what appears to be intimidating it’s just your perception. Many people in so-called bad areas just have a rough edge to them. That doesn’t mean they intend to do harm to you. If you’ve used these tactics and exited the situation unscathed, then they really didn’t have any intentions to harm you. If the guy or group of guys really wanted to harm you, they will try to harm you, regardless of whether you look like the toughest guy in the world or the softest human being. In fact, the tougher you look the more incentives they have to actually do something to you. Take this observation from someone who grew up in a place that you’ll never want to step foot in.
Interesting. Surely awareness helps on some level?
That's funny because violent criminals have said in interviews that they targeted people that looked and acted timid
No, it's predatory nature at the core. The more you look defenseless , the more you'll be targeted as a victim.
@@bruceleroy8063that’s the exception to the rule. There will always be opportunists. Hear me out, most violent crimes are done against other violent criminals, not against defenseless people. If you think acting hard will save you from being a victim, then let me see you try that in the worst of the worse neighborhoods in America and you’ll see how fast of a target you’ll have on your back. The more intimidating you’ll try to be, the more they’ll show you that they’re even more intimidating.
@@cruzcordero1813 here's the problem - you're completely dismissive or the fact that not looking like a victim is a viable tactic. I also hear where you're coming from that trying to appear intimidating could also attract trouble at the same time. Neither idea is completely wrong.
However - I think that you're coming at this from a gang v gang point of view rather than a mugger or kidnapper about to mug or kidnap someone point of view. If you are a person who wants some quick cash or some ass who is the easier target - the person who looks like they'll put up a fight / might have a gun on them or the person who looks like a scared sheep?
3:05 you mean the prisoners chose the people who WEREN'T walking with confidence.
Great video! I was a young thug and would stare at people just waiting for them to escalate the situation. It’s key to be aware and hold your ground but make sure not to move the tension up which will trigger the inevitable at that point. Just stay calm and let the storm pass without ego and all will be averted most of the time. That’s a win for you.
0:21 step one, smile at them
Cringe
@@xbrokenangel2039 sure is lol
Similarly to your Subway incident. Many years ago I was eating in a fast food joint. (I do not remember were exactly.) I noticed some dude staring at me just like you described. Dude was clearly trying to intimidate me. So, I decided that the straw on my drink was just a tad too long. So I made sure he was still watching while I pulled out my knife (a Cold Steel Ti-lite) and cut the straw down to a better size. (This is something that my youngest daughter would insist that I do for her every time she had a kid sized drink with a full length straw.) I then locked eyes with him as I closed the knife back up and placed it on the table next to my meal. He no longer was very interested in giving me the "Hairy eyeball".
About a decade before that, my wife, oldest daughter (about 3 at the time) and I went on a little vacation trip to Santa Monica (We are not from California) I was shocked at the time about how many homeless there were there. As we were walking back to our rental car off of the Santa Monica Pier a couple of 20-30 something year old homeless bums hit me up for some "spare cash". I flatly said NO! and just kept on walking with my wife and daughter.. I then noticed that the one who had asked for the $ was now following us and was clearly agitated and muttering something. As we were just about to re-enter the parking lot, I handed my wife the keys and told her to head to the car. I then stopped, turned around and folded my arms while he was still approaching. Realizing that the intimidation was not working he then stopped, muttered some more insults, (I assume) and slowly began to walk back to his "flop spot". I waited until he was sitting back down, then proceeded to walk back to the car and my family. This was really my very first encounter with homeless people. I am VERY cautious around them now and pretty much anybody who is just hanging around public spaces without a clear reason to be there.
Thanks for sharing the tips and experiences !
I am wary of homeless as well, especially on the subway. I was told by reliable sources that many of them are mentally ill, addicted, alcoholic or some combination therof. Most seem non-threatening but they do often seem to want money. Lots I have seen have cigarrettes, expensive shoes and a nice current phone. I don't care for the ones begging outside the bank or the liquor store, I also don't like the self-appointed door holders. I have also heard of more than one beggar with a racket that made "About 100 on a bad day and 300 on a good one." Those were neither addicted nor mentally ill...One offered a friend of mine a franchise. He said "I'll tell you what to say and do, get you set up, just give me 10%."
Wow, man. You are a true American hero! Thank you so much for blessing us with your inspiring tale of courage and bravery, and your fear of the homeless!
@@_EightySix “Homeless”. AKA: Mentally ill, Drug addict, Alcoholic, Thieves. You are very welcome!
@@_EightySixSome homeless are harmless. Some are not. Don't be disingenuous and don't mock a man for being able to discern which.
The homeless hassle you based on their current need and their estimation of what you’ll do if you’re attacked.
As a petite female that years ago stared potential predators in the eyes saying 'try me' it worked. There is an energy about a person that seems to stop others from their initial mission. It does happen. It worked for me as a young english girl years ago and natural for me. No American stuff.
There seemed to be a bit of a contradiction at one point in the video.
At the part where he mentioned the survey where members of the public where filmed on the street, and shown to prisoners, he said; "In almost every case, the prisoners said they'd pick the confident person with his head high." Words to that effect. Then went on to say not to look sheepish.
While the point of looking confident being the best policy was made clear in this video, at that point there seemed to be a slip of the tongue.
Surely the prisoners would have actually said that they WOULDN'T pick the confident looking person as a victim.
Just stopped to reiterate one very important lesson here...if you have kids, teach them the importance of looking strong/confident, particularly in the moments when they are most fearful or unsure of themselves. It may save them from abduction or other confrontations but will most certainly benefit them in various aspects of their life as they grow older, including school, sports, relationships, and their careers.
Interesting handle, there. You are right. All we were ever told as kids was "Don't take candy from strangers."
I've noticed that there are some people who actually love to fight and will ignore a weak target, so staring at them might be taken as an invite to get it on.
Acting like a nut and yelling at the empty chair next to you works like a charm!
This could work even in a culturally different country from the US like mine Morocco 🤣
I love the video Jason you make some excellent points. These days being distracted and on your phone watching videos or doing something is not ideal either. Pay attention, head on a swivel, stand tall, shoulders back, deep voice, and be smart.
As a woman, a lot of these comments don't work for me. However, the acknowledgement stare is crucial, the I see you & I am going to be able to give a description look helps dissuade. Also, always staying aware of surroundings and possible accomplices, and, finally, pulling out my keys and placing the car key edge out between my fingers. One, the motion indicates to them I pulled something out of my purse, leave them wondering, two, if I am going down, I am going to get in a few good jabs. Mainly, staying in place, shoulders back, and eye contact with a serious look on face has always done it.
I'm from Detroit there's predators everywhere here. I've grown eyeballs in the back of my head from living here 50 years. I've been shot at and I've been robbed. I've gotten out of a few predicaments by making eye contact and not backing away. 99% of the time you show them your ready to fight they back down. I was taking my Chihuahua for a walk. There were a few hood rats sitting on the porch. Kid jumped up all cocky and started approaching me. I stopped and gave him the death stare. I was thinking you mess with me or my dog I will mess you up. As soon as I stopped walking and gave him the stare. He turned around and went and had a seat. It wasn't the first or the last time I was tested. Thankfully I do know how to fight and I'm a big guy. I don't carry a gun. I have schizophrenia and can't buy one.
You last line made an impression on me. How come people who are psychopaths have no trouble getting guns perfectly legally and can even join the police?
@@devilsoffspring5519 Because I was hospitalized 30 years ago the government revoked my 2nd amendment rights with no due process. I'm a sportsman I hunt and fish. I have to use family members guns. I live in a bad neighborhood. I keep a combat hatchet on the dresser in case someone were to break in while I'm sleeping.
@@wantsome-zs5sq Were you ever violent because of schizophrenia? If you weren't then they can't revoke your gun rights.
Also, tons of people in positions of authority ARE violent, antisocial freakshows themselves and they sure as hell don't get their guns taken! You need your own weapons to defend yourself against them, that's what the 2A is for and has nothing to do with you being into outdoorsy stuff like hunting.
Also, remember anything and everything around you you can use as a defensive weapon. Hot coffee, even a cold beverage can distract an attacker. Also, the chairs in a fast food restaurant can be used to strike and or block an attack.
Also reenact in your head, what you may do in a situation and what your point of egress is play the scenario out in your head that way if it happens, you will automatically do what you were thinking
And a dildo of course
Yes always be aware of your surroundings. Anything in your surroundings can be used as a weapon. Be a ninja!❤
Do you know how hard it is to get a HOT coffee these days!
Yes, hot coffee works..just watch the ending of Fast Times at Ridgemont High
True. A person can even use a magazine, just roll it up tight starting from the binding, this makes a very hard tool, especially on either end as it becomes hard enough to hit with or poke it into an attackers stomach or ribs.
On the other hand, the funniest thing here is that if you see a person on the street who walks really confidently and maybe even aggressively, it's a defense mechanism and he's in fact scared
I went to high school in an area in California that was considered pretty tough. I learned to look at people with an expression that communicated “I am not afraid of you. But I am not challenging you .”