The Perks of Dating a Spoonie

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  • @SickAndTiredPublishing
    @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Being ill has basically changed everything about me as a person. A lot of the positive things I have to offer are *BECAUSE* of my illness, in some way. What is something positive you bring to the table because of your illness?

    • @bengring1531
      @bengring1531 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sick, Tired, and Alone If you ever get bored with me just wait five minutes and someone else will be in control. #BiPolar

    • @katkaplan3
      @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Something positive- compassion I'd say/ having been chronic the majority if not all my life, it brings with it great compassion and caring Abd understanding for others problems.

    • @immacalamity
      @immacalamity 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      After my accident, i have been more i guess "forgiving" after i almost died i stopped caring in a sence of seriousness. Im more kind and compassionate and understanding.(one of the side effect of a major head injury is a personality change and i can say mine has changed for the better lol ) i know my thing dosent really match a lot of you awesome individuals. But what i have been through the past year hasnt really been the greatest . i hope to see more awesome content from you lol

    • @kappanation
      @kappanation 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Living in the moment and enjoying life... because if I've got the energy right now, let's do something fun. Or just sit and enjoy people's company without having to try to find something to do. See also "logistical uncertainty". Now is good :)
      Taking things easy... a lot of things can go wrong in my day without registering as a problem. If I ate, and took my dog for a walk, everything else is gravy :-D

    • @schechter01
      @schechter01 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I don't drink very much. I don't do drugs outside prescriptions, either. I can't. Meniére's is sort of like being stoned, see...but with headaches, & _sans_ enjoyment. The last thing you want to do is aggravate it with mind-altering substances, take my word for it. What I bring to the table is...extreme moderation. If you're with me, you will never have to worry about drinking habits, amphetamine-induced rage, weed smoke in the living room, or someone stealing your stuff to pawn it for crack. I am literally incapable of such behavior.

  • @ChronicLeeiLL
    @ChronicLeeiLL 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh my gosh yes!

  • @carobertrand8092
    @carobertrand8092 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Says #7 but sticks out 8 fingers 😂😂 man i love this channel

  • @Uninvisibl
    @Uninvisibl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great fun(ny) and positive twist to something so dark and downing! Personally, I don't always have the self-restraint to be around foods I can't have or the energy to cook unnecessarily, but the rest sounds about right!

  • @bengring1531
    @bengring1531 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Any guy should be so lucky. Nobody has ever defended my honor with a walker. :p

    • @Razgriz09
      @Razgriz09 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ben Gring Her Bartok moment in a previous video illustrates this perfectly.

  • @unknownlifeform8458
    @unknownlifeform8458 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have never loved a video so much. 😍😍😍 Thank you. I've been panicing and herxing all day and this helped massively.

  • @noellekane8436
    @noellekane8436 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love your story

  • @justcallmejessz3712
    @justcallmejessz3712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes, yes, and yes.
    LoL.
    BIGGEST BIGGEST BEST(?) Perk I experienced.....
    LINES....or lack there of.... lol.
    Especially ¡¡¡¡
    Airports - wheeled right up to your gate.
    Stadium games. - security is different for those attached to sterile lines, etc. So more often then not you have a private area and are escorted directly.
    Store lines are often offered up when I decide I was okay to not get an electric cart, so I'm literally just sitting on the ground, waiting in line. (This happened alot)
    Can relate so much to all. But the apocalypse! Yep Spoonies will literally be the ones to survive. Not only do we have all the supplies but our bodies are already used to the lack of nutritional intake.

  • @Skolborne
    @Skolborne 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have been housebound for 8 months due to an undefined autoimmune illness, so I can totally relate!
    I'd totally be your nap partner! 😎😎😎

  • @mirandafelix9303
    @mirandafelix9303 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love it when you talk to your dog.

  • @Minnigirl1
    @Minnigirl1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for making me smile tonight

  • @aleshabrown5888
    @aleshabrown5888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    New subscriber 👍👍👍

  • @willames363
    @willames363 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your vids are so fun when I’m rough like I have been the last few days thanks to my gi and hyper mobility issues. Hope you’re doing as well as possible. 🥄🥄🥄

  • @bengring1531
    @bengring1531 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It dawns on me now that Highlander would have been a lot better with canes and walkers. 🧐🤔 I think I have an idea for your next novel.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am Styna McIllness, of the clan McIllness.
      THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE! ... But I'm tired, so let's figure out who it is tomorrow.

    • @bengring1531
      @bengring1531 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Queen - Princes of The Universe starts playing. “Would someone turn that shit off! I’m trying to nap!”

    • @schechter01
      @schechter01 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I can see it now: Two long-haired bearded men in tartans, in a battle to the death in some grassy meadow...with drugstore canes. And suffering from joint pain.
      Immortality's a pain in the ass when you ain't gettin' any younger...

  • @Bhilithinn
    @Bhilithinn 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It's hard for me to say if I'd be any different without a chronic illness, since I've had one since birth. But, now with a second major one I find I'm even more patient and compassionate. I had to chuckle at #4 though. When I'm asleep I apparently steal all the blankets, and then fight anyone who tries to take even a corner back.

  • @raggarbergman
    @raggarbergman 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You don't think Digby is saying that in the video to scare competors away so he can have you for himself? :)

  • @jasonpiper609
    @jasonpiper609 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are hilarious, beautiful, an animal lover, & a warrior. I have no idea how/why you're alone. If you're anywhere near Chicago that'd be killer. I'm pretty much only looking for a chronically ill/disabled girl from now for a counterpart. Able bodied ladies who have no experience with pain, illness, or suffering, just don't understand, hence them being EX's now. And what a coincidence, I'm a fuckin' hoot too. Keep up the fight cause you're frykin' awesome.... 0=) 0=)

  • @katkaplan3
    @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Glad to see you! ❤️ you are gorgeous smart funny and any girl or guy would be lucky to date you! Great list btw- I will tell my hub, who is so sick of my sickness 😂 but yeah, energy for cheating?! Ha! Love the blankies and cane perks👍 and I would totally share clothes with you, and love the meds- I'm sure my stockpile of antibiotics hoarde and pain killers is the same as yours.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I want to do a poll to see how many spoonies have at least one extra bottle of Trazodone LOL. It seems like a chronic illness diagnosis automatically comes with a Trazodone prescription, and somehow a single bottle of Trazodone always finds a way to reproduce.

    • @katkaplan3
      @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sick, Tired, and Alone amazingly I don't have any trazadone...tried and didn't like. Could give you a list of all my pain meds etc but would take forever! Clonazapam and the like seem to multiply in my med safe tho!😲

    • @bengring1531
      @bengring1531 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I too have Trazodone.... yes I have spare bottle. :p

    • @katkaplan3
      @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ben Gring the one I did have tons of for a while was Wellbutrin. That seemed to get rx d constantly, tho I never felt it did a thing for me, good or bad. But I haven't been on or rx d any anti depressants in years now. Just pain, anti anxiety, gastro and antibiotics...

    • @katkaplan3
      @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      (Not that I'm not depressed a lot, just to clarify... dealing with all the shit of managing drs, meds, living in chronic pain, plus three kids... well yeah. But one less med is good. )

  • @ambulance_boy3834
    @ambulance_boy3834 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just have army surplus so not the most comfy but hey its warm.

  • @erinkennedy877
    @erinkennedy877 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey, I'm a spoonie from New Zealand and I just wanted to say I just say I relate to all of these so much!! Hope you're okay as you can be

  • @ReSearcherSusie
    @ReSearcherSusie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just found your channel.
    You are AWESOME!!!! 💜

  • @katiemarie6318
    @katiemarie6318 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have just found u and i love u! I can relate to u so much. I was finally diagnosed with fibromyalgia after years and years of unexplained pain. Im now on codeine. Which helps for now

  • @spencerbailey9938
    @spencerbailey9938 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m your 1,000 subscriber and I just wanna say I love your videos so much! I’m a new sub, but I can’t wait to watch more!

  • @vatovega
    @vatovega 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    We could be the chronically ill couple for the ages! You're the cutest :D

  • @johnfancher436
    @johnfancher436 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh my God, I love you so much, you are amazing, there's so much more I need to know about you and I'm gonna watch as much content as I can! Right now, I wanna give you a big hug, the biggest hug ever!

  • @faceofavictim
    @faceofavictim 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My man doesn't mind me being sick because im just a sleepy girl who is too sleepy to do anything illegal 😂

  • @annaswanson5903
    @annaswanson5903 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just subbed!

  • @VeniceHilton
    @VeniceHilton 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I want to be your bestfriend

  • @PatrickLohKamp
    @PatrickLohKamp 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    But he loves you!
    Poor Hell hounds, just wanna be handsome and get the youtube fans

  • @RippingStars
    @RippingStars 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love your videos so so much!!

  • @sweetandmagical
    @sweetandmagical 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg lol can SO relate to all of this 😂 x

  • @schechter01
    @schechter01 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What would be great is a video on meeting people when you're chronically ill. When I was watching this, I kept thinking _"How did she find a boyfriend to begin with?"_ Don't get the wrong idea--you're pretty & smart & all. Surely you're a fine catch for the right man. But I don't get out of the house that much & you probably stay home as much as I do or more. Chronic illnesses can be isolating, & when you're a lone wolf by temperament such conditions only harden that. Used to enjoy live music on occasion but these days, loud noise is often irritating. How do you socialize with issues like these?...that's what I'd like to know.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Honestly, the last few people I dated were already in my life. JUST Before me symptoms got really bad, I started a relationship that ended up lasting five years. I'm still not sure why we stayed together that long - guilt maybe. But neither of us were happy. The relationship directly after that, I had met that person through the previous partner, so we were already friends. That lasted a year, and, like the previous one, ended because of my health. The one directly after that was someone I'd known since high school, so again, they were already a part of my life. Ended, AGAIN, because of health. People not knowing what they're in for, even though I make a point of explaining everything beforehand anymore - at least then I know it's not on me when they leave because of my health.
      To be honest, I haven't been looking in the last year and a half. I've wanted to stay alone. Everyone who has tried in that time was already in my life somehow - they weren't new people.
      Now that I'm actually getting back into things, I mean... the internet. That's all I can really say. That's how I meet most people in general, anyway. Even the people I know IRL, I talk to them more on the internet than I see them in person.
      I think a lot of people might believe that true feelings can't develop over the internet? Or maybe they're worried that the person will be different than how they imagine them online. But with things like Video calling, that kind of eliminates that concern, I think.
      I don't have any advice for real life socializing, because I just don't Do That anymore.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      (Some part of me often imagined meeting someone at a doctor's appointment, since that's about the only place I go lol. But everyone in those waiting rooms is in a completely different age bracket from me XD)

    • @schechter01
      @schechter01 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And here I was thinking maybe I could meet someone... 😞
      What about personal ads? "SWM artist, 40's, with Meniére's, tendinitis & a couple other exciting ailments ISO woman with similar issues. Intellect & character are most important; looks are nice but not everything. No hard street drugs, schizophrenia or psychoses but chronic depression is okay. 420 friendly but I don't buy it...can't afford to blow my money on that stuff. Pic for pic. E-mail me with today's weather conditions in the subject line so I know you're not a bot." 😏

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey, just because it's not in the cards for me doesn't mean YOU won't meet someone! But I do think the internet is a great resource for making that happen.

    • @schechter01
      @schechter01 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sick, Tired, and Alone Good point, though I've never done video phone calls & have no idea how those work.
      Dunno if I should say this, given the age difference & the clip... Would it be wrong to tell you that you're beautiful? You have lovely cheekbones. Anyway, have a great afternoon.

  • @immacalamity
    @immacalamity 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    P.s, would definitely date an amazing person like yourself lol

  • @susanmargaretwills6432
    @susanmargaretwills6432 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sick Tired & Alive ~ Hi two years on (Lockdown 2020)... is that enough time to have thought of reasons for NOT dating a Spoonie?! Best wishes from Italy

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Reasons for specifically not dating a spoonie? Ableism, I guess.

  • @ahnraphel
    @ahnraphel 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So are you saying I can bring you a snuggy instead of flowers and I'm in?

  • @Pwnstarjamez
    @Pwnstarjamez 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    LUL your hilarious!!

  • @Nicallette
    @Nicallette 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this! I was engaged in 2016 and my chronic illnesses were the reason my ex-boyfriend left me.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm so sorry you've been through that as well

    • @tammyrobinson1613
      @tammyrobinson1613 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm so sorry. I was supposed to move to be with my boyfriend of 12 years as soon as my youngest graduated HS, which was last spring. He found someone else just a few months before this. I wasn't able to do many it the things with him we used to do.
      Hugs. I understand.

  • @LittleMonster
    @LittleMonster 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    omg perfect girlfriend (for me)

  • @katkaplan3
    @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I kniw your a reader, and writer obviously, I just found a book on my nook called "young sick Abd invisible " by ania bula- have u heard of or read this one??

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I hadn't heard of that! I'll definitely be looking it up!

    • @katkaplan3
      @katkaplan3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sick, Tired, and Alone I've only just started it, few pages in, so I can't give a review but it looks promising!

  • @RobertLaTuso
    @RobertLaTuso 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Unfortunately, lived experiences through a Chronic Pain lifestyle cannot be understood by “non-spoonies”. I’ve had Chronic Pain for the last 25 years, and the level of Invalidation for struggles in my life have only strengthened my resolve for who I am! I believe two people in a relationship who share a Chronic Pain condition, have a greater understanding and empathy for each other. Thoughts?

  • @ranchugoldfish3822
    @ranchugoldfish3822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm glad you made this video. I have been thinking sbout this tppic for a year or so. Is it fair to date when I'm sick, and invite someone in to this life style. Do i have anything to offer. Being sick sucks being sick and alone is worse. I would like to see other videos from you or others exploring this topic further.
    Thank you, Bill

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I've been debating on whether or not to make a video about *why* I decided to remain alone the last year and a half, and how that has affected me, especially in regards to the illnesses.

    • @ranchugoldfish3822
      @ranchugoldfish3822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I have been alone and i enjoy that. But as i get older and sicker i worry about accident in the house alone. I know intellectually i have something to offer in a positive way to a relationship. But emotionally i feel weak, sick, and ugly. Do i have the right to ask someone to enter into my life. I can be positive and say I'm worth dating, but i still hate to ruin someone's life by being part of life and endure the uncertainty of my day to day life. I don't know if i was able to present my feelings in a natural light or if i came across as depressed and whiny.

  • @neonheart8907
    @neonheart8907 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Some perks of dating me are
    1. I can make some bomb ass gluten free treats
    2. You won't have to share most of your food with me cause I cant eat anything
    3. Due to lots of experience napping and cuddling with plushies, i am a fantastic cuddler
    4. I'm always smoking weed to deal with my pain so you can smoke with me any time you want
    Cons of dating me: i am almost always too fatigued for sexy times

  • @rorytennes8576
    @rorytennes8576 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So. Damn true.
    hello.
    Texas. #)

  • @immacalamity
    @immacalamity 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey, super random and completly out of no where, but do you know anyone that would be willing to sell a dslr that can shoot 1080p at 60fps for around $100-$200 ??

  • @billy2204
    @billy2204 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    who is that dude? he looks like he about to go full allah akbar 😂

  • @theflowerangel5724
    @theflowerangel5724 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    All I can say is all you people love all the attention you get. I’m glad you’re a group that can stick together. you need each other.
    drama drama drama. Get a life.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      LOL We were literally in our OWN community, minding our OWN business, sharing our OWN lives with people who can relate. You're the one who felt it was necessary to butt in with your "solutions" that 1. nobody asked for, 2. would NOT solve anything, and 3. were INCREDIBLY insulting. You literally attacked every aspect of my appearance - the appearance of someone you not only don't know, but someone whose conditions you don't understand but still felt you had the answers for. But yeah, -we're- the ones who need to get a life. Okay, Karen.

    • @juliafelicione2667
      @juliafelicione2667 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Spoonies:
      Spoonies:
      Spoonies:
      You: LOOOK AT ALL THE DRAAAAMAAA STOP ATTENSHUN SEEKING
      Spoonies:
      Spoonies:
      You: PAY ATTENSHUN TO MEEEE LOOK IM INSULTING YOU NAH NAH

    • @allixnewport9726
      @allixnewport9726 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Oh my god the irony of this comment is comical. I just can’t. I can’t stop laughing! 😂🤣😂🤣 Lord, please call your angel home. She is lost down here. Amen. 🙏🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Allix Newport 😂😂😂 lord, beer me the strength to deal with the ableist Karens who don’t know how to take a damn seat 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 ramen 🍜

    • @juliafelicione2667
      @juliafelicione2667 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sick, Tired, and Alive lord, beer me.

  • @theflowerangel5724
    @theflowerangel5724 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    We are anger issues genetic as well? You might want to get those checked out too?

    • @thechronicbranmuffin9143
      @thechronicbranmuffin9143 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The Flower Angel what? I can’t understand your use of the English language...

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      The Flower Angel Lol nah, I’m all good there. The general consensus is that I responded way more mildly than you deserve. See, you don’t get to say the kind of shit you say and expect not to get a push back. If not this, what on earth kind of response were you actually expecting with such rude and insulting comments? Did you think you’d get to play late-night devil’s advocate on a dying channel and not have to deal with any backlash? I mean, surely you didn’t think you could attack basically every single thing about my appearance and expect me to be grateful for some crackpot “advice” when you didn’t even know what it was you were trying to “cure”? Either way, whatever it was exactly that you expected - between Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter you’ve been exposed to around 20,000 people. Have a nice day, Karen 🤡

    • @aleshabrown5888
      @aleshabrown5888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Serious question how did you find this video?
      I'm just asking as I'm wondering do you yourself have a medical condition or did you just pop by for a visit

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Alesha Brown A great question! I’m also very interested in the answer

    • @misscordelia9327
      @misscordelia9327 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No one here has anger issues. We just don’t appreciate you preaching ur woowoo pseudoscience at us.

  • @theflowerangel5724
    @theflowerangel5724 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is merely an opinion but I believe if you were to remove all that plastic junk from your left wrist, remove all metal and plastic piercings and stop using that toxic slime on your lips, stop using that i’m guessing unatural product on your eyes and eyebrows and clean the gunk off your skin. Remove the cancer causing polish from your fingers and stop using all the awful products on your hair and skin. A major cleanup. A major dump of the toxic waste in and on your body. I’m not even gonna go there with the tattoos if you have any. Listen to my suggestions and if you’re lucky - your health will more than likely improve. Clean it up woman unless of course this is working for you you know having an illness.

    • @SickAndTiredPublishing
      @SickAndTiredPublishing  4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      The Flower Angel Wow. I’ve dealt with a lot of bullshit unsolicited ‘advice’ from strangers about my health. And I’m usually really good at keeping my responses civil, even when it’s not deserved. But this is a whole other level of ridiculous, and the nonsense you’re spouting is LEGITIMATELY harmful to people with chronic illnesses.
      Who the ACTUAL FUCK do you think you are to tell me that my GENETIC DISEASE (as in, I was born with it. It is coded into my DNA. It has always been there and will always be there.) is because of what I choose to do with my personal appearance?? If you have some ableist agenda where you truly believe that people with chronic illnesses are responsible for the fact that they’re sick, at least put more effort into creating fuel for that agenda than your own personal biases against alternative aesthetics. You can do better, Karen.

    • @misscordelia9327
      @misscordelia9327 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      This is merely an opinion but you have no reason to be giving medical advice. You bought into the lies of some shady pseudoscience and now you are shitting all over someone with a genetic condition. Well done fuckwit.

    • @aleshabrown5888
      @aleshabrown5888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Hmmm am I missing something?
      Don't you have a whole lot of "gunk" on your face in your pic?

    • @WhiskeyMooseBagOfKnives
      @WhiskeyMooseBagOfKnives 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You're not a doctor, you're not her doctor, and what are you trying to sell.....

    • @rachelparker4780
      @rachelparker4780 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sooo are we gonna talk about ur fake tan make up and hair dye visible in your photo cause I see them roots and that orange tint you got.
      I bet ur a trump supporter up in here with that abiesist bullshit. How fucking dare you bring your entitled brain dead ass up in here to a channel about being chronically ill and spew ur horribly damaging advice. Take ur unsolicited advice and ram it.

  • @PraiseValkyrie
    @PraiseValkyrie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Puppy!!!? 🦕 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️