Justice for Baby Gabriel: Iowa Adoption Tragedy
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 เม.ย. 2014
- Adoption. It's often a complicated process. Two women in Iowa were so close to their dream of starting a family... when things fell apart. More than two months after cutting the cord and taking baby Gabriel home with them, the biological mom changed her mind. A paperwork glitch allowed it to happen. But the heartbreak was far from over, and sadly, it got so much worse. A little more than a month later, Mom left Gabriel with his 17-year-old biological father. It would be the last night of Gabriel's life.
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I remember this story, it came to light that the lawyer didn't fill the paperwork. The adoptive parents were under the impression that everything was taken care of. they eventually sued the lawyer.
That lawyer should have been disbarred. He or She shouldn't be able to sleep at night. He help murder this child.
Thank you for typing "these parents"!
I was 16 got married, had the baby 4 months into 17 !We loved our child and was good parents! Do not make every young couple sound incompetent! 50 years of marriage and 5 children later we are doing great!We now have Grandchildren and great grandchildren! We all love our babies and have included others as our own!
The 911 operator was very professional and very helpful!
The adoptive family could've provided such a good home. What a shame
ash3227 is such a sad sad story...these women BOTH loved that baby...he should be spending this summer learning how to eat banana's, cooing, being rocked and loved by 2 moms...and this fall he'd be walking...instead he's dead, gone for good, never coming back...
his father will end up spending the rest of his life behind bars...birth mom will never be the same and neither will those adoptive parents...i hope they can have a child of their own as there's so few babies out there to adopt.
Been there, done that...got heart broken during our search for a baby to adopt.
Was told there were on average, well over 450 applicants and less than 25 babies available for adoption.
I suffered infertility after I had a baby when I was 17, unwed and trying to survive with a newborn baby, had NO supportive family to help me out and I was left to fend for myself.
I did a lot of weeping, crying and sobbing.
The birth father was a drugged out pot head who beat me up....after he learned i was PG.
When I was forced onto welfare system, I lied, saying I did NOT know who the father was because I was in total fear of letting my baby anywhere near the birth father who basically raped me and got me PG when I was rejected by my family and surviving alone on the streets. In order to get welfare you must tell who the babys father is so they can help support...but ha! He was more interested in pot and drinking...last time I saw him he'd dropped me off at a pregnacy clinic where I was going to be tested for pregnancy...David promised to wait out in the parking lot...
i walked out, alone...he was gone and never tried helping me....what a man he was! LoL
Crytears sunny God, be with you. I am so sorry. If I had money I would help you. It kills me to hear a person suffering so much.
Um no.
ash3227 homosexuality is not a good home, reeks evil
Tanya McDonald Yeah that baby did so much better with the straight couple.
its awful for the adoptive mothers but also so awful for his birth mother. I hope they locked his dad up.
Liz T Looks to me like he was ready to make a baby but not ready to go much further. Seems he may quite be a child himself. What do we wish for this fella? Life? 20? What would help you feel a bit better on this one? Is this one of those situations where "adoption" was not the solution to abortion?
+JesJanRho I'm not sure what your trying to get at. I'm pro choice. yes his dad should go to prison for life, for murdering a baby are you kidding me?
Since the mother changed her mind before a finalization, there are no adoptive mothers and there is no birth mother. Words should be used correctly.
TheYasmineFlower Sorry but,,, HOW exactly do you figure that there is no birth mother?
How in the hell is a teen considered responsible for a kid?? I mean there's already been a fourteen year old that killed her baby.
how can you hurt someone that small.. this is awful
once youve given the baby to someone and they've left, that should be the end. they shouldnt be allowed to take them back. thats emotional torture.
The amount of time they have has to do with the laws of the state you live in. My friend got a baby and the girl came back for him. She kept him a few days and brought him back. That kid has a great life.
My grand parents tried to adopt a baby in the 60s. The state gave her back to the parents for some reason. The baby was dead with in a few month's of being with the parents.
Art blender I disagree. The mother is the mother and that baby spent 9 months in her. That’s her baby. That’s her work. No way. That’s her baby. This is a horrible tragedy but the mother no matter WHAT should be preferred. IF she’s in a state to care for the child. Even then the mother should receive help.
Being a birth mother, I have first hand experience and it isnt an easy decision. It isn't always neat and tidy. I lived with the first couple who were going to adopt my son. I did not like how the would be adoptive mother treated me. I changed my mind because I wasnt giving my baby to someone who didnt treat me kindly. The couple who did adopt my baby raised him with all of my hopes and dreams for him in mind. He grew up in a financially stable home. Went to private schools. Has traveled the world. In 2016 we found each other. In 2019 we met face to face. Now we have a wonderful relationship.
But for 25 years there was a void and the wonderment of what became of my boy. It was the single most difficult decision Ive ever made. Anyone who has not experienced placing a child has zero room to judge or surmise how they should or shouldn't do after giving birth.
That one reporter, the guy, was so quick to try to blame the almost-adoptive parents for not filing the paperwork quick enough. I was adopted at birth too, and though I was born in June, the final paperwork couldn't be filed until December. It's a six-month chance for the birth parents to change their mind. I'm glad the brunette reporter shut him down.
Yeah they just keep on blaming everyone else but that damn father. What ass fucks.
Breizh Butler I hope you are close with your birth parents i had a daughter at 21 i had adopted out I hope she contacts me when she's 18 her adoptive parents are jerks but I get picture's i wish she could meet her sister's though
@@betha4238 omg, that's so sad; I am so sorry :( I hope she contacts you at 18, too.
No it's not sad. She should not have given her up for adoption.
R.I.P baby Gabe u made the most of ur tiny little 4 month life little darling baby!!!!
To anyone wondering, the child was shaken to death. And the father recieved 18 years.
blueeyedbaby210 the fucker needs to be in for life,put him in Gen Pop,tell the boys what he did. He wont be in for longer than an hour.
so this bastard still is gonna be able to have life...smh..sad
Rachel Hope he actually received 50 years, he's just eligible for parole after 18 years...and with murdering an infant..I'd say his chances of getting out are slim to none.
Dudes he’s honestly fucked people that do shit like this are screwed in jail even criminals aren’t okay with killing a baby most people who do those kind of things will normally end up dead in jail
blueeyedbaby210 PIECE OF SHIT DID THAT TO HIS SON? WHY?
They shouldn't have been blaming the couple and the birth mother wtf the person who is at fault is the father!
You think this was the first time that boy lost it, that girl knew he was abusive. Both are responsible I'm tried of these women playing Russian Roulette with there childrens life. If you know someone is abusive you don't leave you children with them no matter what. Her friend ran to the house when is learned his own mother left him with an abusive father. It's sad a friend fear for his life more then his own mother.
+Ossif Mama it is disgusting how they didn't value this child's life enough to want the best for him
Gianna Fontanez it takes two to make a baby, the biological mother is at fault too.
DIONNE FRANCIS-BROWN his mother decided she wanted him . It's not her fault at all. It's the scumbag father who did this and should be punished to the fullest extent of the law . Mom didn't want his to happen
Dionne...Are you a TEN YEAR OLD, or what??? How can you with ANY seriousness blame the Mother in ANY way when the Father murdered baby Gabriel while the Mother was out of the home for an hour... doing errands...Of course it's a pity she got the baby back, but she had nothing to do with the death of Gabriel...
I will NEVER for the life of me understand how the biological parents of this tragedy couldn't just let these adoptive parents take care of this precious baby
How about instead of automatically finding a way to blame women (whether it's the adoptive mothers or the birth mother) you hold the man accountable? It's the father's fault, but you're too busy trying to make this about teen pregnancy and shaming women to point that out.
Vi Haze but the point is that teenagers don't have the maturity or experience to make proper fully informed decisions. So the point is relevant as is the fact that the father fkd up big time.
Louise Reeves No, but there are plenty of teenage mothers that do just fine and make perfectly adequate parents. I just dislike it when people always try to put the blame on the mother and never hold the father accountable no matter what he does.
Vi Haze oh I definitely agree with that ! And this is a clear cut example of that !! I feel so bad for the adoptive pageants as well as the mom who wanted to make it work. And that poor child !!! Just makes me cry
Louise Reeves Definitely. Both the adoptive parents and the mother just wanted the best for that child and the father was a piece of shit.
Vi Haze amen! Hope he is prosecuted to the full extent! Even if he didn't physically harm him he left him alone ! You don't leave a feeding baby alone for a second but I believe that he did harm that baby so as to be off the hook . POS!!
The caller did so good. She tried her hardest.
Wow I'm younger than these parents and I know how to take care of my lil brother since he was born❤️
babysitting a brother is a lot different than raising your own. You give brother back to mom and dad after a couple of hours. There is no giving your own baby back.
he was better off with his adopted moms that is so sad
Ik. It's sad
I s so sorry this happened .
Teresa Rodriguez right she was young mom. don't make any sence.
Zoe Johnson this young mother had a home and everything needed to care for him and she had every intent on doing so, she went to run errands and the FATHER killed him! Not the mothers fault she just wanted to raise her baby. I was a 17 year old mother and I raised my daughter to be an intelligent caring young woman. We can't demonize the girl for wanting to raise her child we need to put the blame on the father.. the killer! Just because she wanted to raise her child the news is making it something about her not wanting him enough to care? Shameful
Right. They would have given him a great life.
it's not about teen pregnancy, it's about the level of care the parents have for the child. You shouldn't bring age into this
totally agree it isn't about age its about maturity I know teen mom's way better parents then older mothers out there.
+Aliyah Johnson exactlyyy😌
okay yes age matters. do you realize that kids at 13 are having children so yes age matters and thats really funny how many children do you know that make great parents??? yes there are some but most and yes most young parents do not make great parents because they are too young to understand what responsibility is. so yes age does matter.
Gabriel was so close to having a wonderful and safe home. This is so sad. He was a beautiful baby.
She should’ve left the beautiful baby with his adoptive parents. Bless his soul💙
Honestly the fact that I'm watching this on the day he died, makes it even sadder...
What a beautiful baby, and what lovely couple. Such good and loving mummies
RIP Baby Gabriel.
I was 15 with my first child......I kept him......it was agents my family values to give him up......but age is very important .....you are not ready for child rearing at this age!
Had mine at 13
"agents"?? Do you mean "AGAINST"??
@@yuhgirl8199: 😨
TRUE. Even when I had my now 23 year old daughter at 18, I struggled. Kids need mature parents who can properly care for them.
@@otterhaus👌 Karen
I'm a birth mom! Until the adoption is legal and parent(s) have signed away their rights (even if the adoptive parents have the baby), mom or dad can change their mind. I wanted my son to be adopted. It was the worst pain imaginable. I was 16. I felt like there were physical holes in my heart. The adoptive parents witnessed his birth. But no matter what, I could have asked for him back up until I signed away my rights one month after his birth.
did you still go through with it?
Mary Hines That is true, selfless, & pure love - wanting what's best for your child! No purer love than putting baby's needs far above your own! Very tough, but speaks volumes about you as a wonderful mother!
But why would I be condemned if I decided to parent rather than place?
I still feel like there is a hole in my heart and it aches every day. Human nature is to avoid that pain so it's not fair to condemn this mother for choosing to avoid it.
I know, it's horrible the way she's talked about. All she did was let her baby's own father watch him. She's a victim too.
No one is to blame but the father of the child! The 16 yr was obviously not the issue the only fault she probably feels is leaving her baby with father.
This story is so tragic.
Why did the mom change her mind?
The loving couple that had him for the first months must be in hell. I can not imagine how they feel! Will they get their money back? Not that it matters, but it was thousands of dollars!
Good video. thanks
+Lisa Foos Maybe the 16 year old mother thought she could be a family with the baby and the baby's father. The baby's father obviously didn't want to play daddy and thought he would get rid of poor little Gabriel. Gabriel looked to have been well loved and cared for by his mamas. It is tragedy all around.
Rosie Summer
You mean she wanted to play house.
How nice to decide that so late in the game.
A baby makes relationships a lot more difficult.
If it is bad already, then a baby will make things even more complicated.
Makes me sad when a silly little girl gets pregnant to keep a boy. It will only drive him away faster if he is not ready.
Lisa Foos Yes that is what I mean. Poor little baby lost his life :(
She isn't giving away a dog! Its her child. Thats not easy for anyone and people do change their minds regaurdless of the birth mothers age. Accidents happen and the fact that she changed her mind has nothing to do with the accident. It could have happened to the adoptive family too.
This is so sad, but I think the young birth mothers are often so naïve and inexperienced. They are unaware of the dangers of leaving a child of a child with a messed up kid. I see this in the papers so often,
"and this leabian couple" just say couple wtf
what a thing to focus on
We left the hospital with my daughter and it was a week later before her birthmom signed her over. That week was so scary but also filled with bonding with my daughter. I don't know what I would have done if she wanted her back! 7.5 years later and she's wanted nothing to do with her even though it's an open adoption.. My daughter has some issues because of what the BM did while pregnant but she is the most amazing little girl ever! She completes our family and I'd go to the ends of the Earth for her!
I admire the fact that American justice system has a clause to prosecute juveniles as adult offenders for more severe crimes, but I am amazed that a custody of baby can be given to underage children.......more so I am aghast by the actions of the 17 yo father.....why ??? why would he do that?
Utkarsh Asthana true but they didn't just give the baby to underage ppl . He was given back to his birth mother who has every right to change her mind before final papers are drawn and signed. She couldn't have predicted this
was birth mother 18+?
No she was 16 the point being it was still the child's mothers and not just any 16 year old kid
But there are teens who killed their babies too. Just because they're of the same blood doesn't mean the birth parent won't kill it.
feel sorry for the couple who wanted him they seem like they could of been a perfect family! RIP baby boy xx
The baby was better off with his two loving adoptive parents. This is really sad. The women loved that baby.
And so did the bio mom
News reported cause of death was head trauma from shaking. Father accepted a plea deal down to second degree murder and sentanced to 50 years with possibility of parole in 17 1/2 years.
Michelle Perry. All the mom did was leave the child with the dad to go to the store thats it. I have left my kids with there dad so I can run errands so why does she deserve to burn in hell all because she had to run to the store and get the child some diapers or get some stuff for the house what a horrible thing to say about a mother that all she needed to do is run to the store and the father did something unspeakable how was she supposed to know that that was going to happen she obviously trusted him
Michelle Perry He'll be out in 7.
make-up momma life it's crazy to think that any of us mother's could have had this happen. The sad part truly is that 3 mommy's lost their baby that day whether they were right or wrong, I don't honestly think that little girl knew that her bf was gonna shake baby Gabriel in such a short period of time. N see the news never said here why she left. But all the people hating on her for being young and then hurting the same sex couple and taking him back and then for her to wanna do the right thing and keep her baby and try her damnedest to do so and to lose it all over a trip to the store for Pampers. God that's awful. N like you said all mom's lesbian or otherwise feel like an hour break to go to the store is so innocent. Motherhood is rough whether you're 16 or 36 it doesn't matter. N for her to take all that blame at such a young age.....Honestly her life is ruined as well as the other momma's lives too. The only difference is she will constantly blame herself for her innocent trip to the store for the rest of her life and it will probably consume her and that piece of shit boy will be able to get on with his 17yrs and probably get out and because he's young he'll still have a chance to make a life . Just by his face in the mugshot you see how uncaring he looks and he probably doesn't even have any idea how many lives were ruined or wasted at his hand. I honestly hope I'm not right that he sits the 50 yrs and that he feels bad all-day everyday but he won't he's a man. He probably feels like the news people....."oh well, she shouldn't have left that kid with me.!!" Makes me wanna puke.!!! 🤢😢
The problem is putting a 4 month old infant in the care of a teenage boy who has probably never held a baby in his life nor known how to care for an infant. They still didn't say how the baby died but putting teens in charge of an infant with no adult supervision is the problem. Where the hell was the teen mother's parents? There's just too much unknown. We don't know if the father intentionally harmed the baby or the baby choked on its bottle and he didn't know what to do so he got scared and left instead of calling 911. Regardless that father is responsible but the teen girl is an idiot for leaving the baby with him. The other thing is they said the mother's friend showed up at the house and called the mother saying she probably shouldn't leave the baby with him, but then the friend left? I didn't get that part. What a tragedy. Teens are too irresponsible and immature to be left alone to care for infants it's ridiculous and those ladies should not have had to pay for all the medical bills for the mother don't they have Medicaid for pregnancy and delivery? And who does an adoption without signing paperwork? More questions than answers.
Brattie McGrouchiepunk
I'm aware of shaken baby syndrome and how a crying baby can cause someone to snap. But I didn't know that's how the baby died, can you provide the link to that follow up article? Thank you.
Susan Maxfield putting teens in charge of a baby really... no it wasnt that it was the dad and him only i was 17 when i had my daughter and 18 when i had another theres nothing wrong with teen paremnts who know how to take care if kids
Steph's compiltion Place I said the teen boy who probably never held a baby in his life let alone be left with a baby. You have a combination of irresponsibility and probably a chronically crying baby, it's a recipe for disaster. i didn't say ALL teens are bad parents. But the death rates of infants when teen only is in charge I bet is much much higher than if older parents are in charge. And I specifically said teens that don't know how to take care of kids. My brother was a 17 year old father, yes he took care of his infant daughter but at least one or the other of my parents were always somewhere in the house. In this case the teen girls left an infant in the hands of a teen boy - a violent teen boy at that. Teens do not use their best judgment. I was a teen girl in charge of babysitting 4 kids ages 2 months to 6 years old, left by myself, I know what it's like, they weren't my kids I was the babysitter, but by then I had been holding and taking care of babies since I was 10. Most teen boys have no experience taking care of infants. Again you are taking what I say literally I didn't say ALL teens. But when there is no adult supervision around anywhere, it's not a good combination a crying baby and a teen boy. Often a deadly combination.
Brattie McGrouchiepunk That is my point exactly! A deadly combo of factors - an inexperienced teen boy in charge of a baby who probably wouldn't stop crying because he wasn't used to being watched by anyone other than mom. Then you add in immaturity, especially of most teen boys nowadays are not like they were generations ago. Poor judgement of the teen mom and friend who left and didn't trust their instincts that they should've stayed, the teen friend did not trust the boy to watch the baby I'm sure for good reason, yet she left anyways. Is it her fault or the mom's fault the boy lost control? No I'm not blaming them I blame the boy, but how many deaths statistically do you find when teens are in charge vs when adult's are in charge? Whether you want to admit it or not, and I'm sure you want to defend because you were a teen parent, it is still a HUGE factor. Many people snap when a baby won't stop crying but an older person will more likely be able to get up and remove themselves from the screaming baby first before they grab the baby. It was a deadly combination.
Susan Maxfield adults do the same thing. I baby sat as a teen and was quite good at it. why sye left the baby with the boyfriend...lack of maturity and common sense. but the biggest question is where were the parents and where was social services who should have been involved since she got the baby even since she got pregnant.
This is so sad, who knows why his mom changed her mind. She wasn't the person who killed her child, why are people condemning the birth mother?
Courtney Bolden because she picked the man hunny, I know from personal experience...
the beautiful couple in the beginning could have grown a family. so tragic. rip baby boy
This is so tragic...the Mothers would of given him a safe, loving home.
THAT POOR BABY IM GOING TO CRY MY EYES OUT TONIGHT
Its sad Regardless of the stale adoption, but the BLAME is to be placed on the piece of shit dad. And we dontknow if the bio-mom was ccapable, , just because she gave the father a chance to bond and babysit doesn't make her a bad person. It does speak to the character of the men she picks but any girl should be able to trust that they leave a live baby and come back to a live baby
You're right but, this young boy (not a man because he helped make a baby) had to have had a weird disposition about him if the friend came by and saw something didn't look kosher for him to be with his son by hisself, and called the mother and asked her about the idea of him being with the baby to come back home.
o my god this brakes my heart!! that little angel!! I just can't😭
This is why children shouldn't be having children.
+Tanya L Harrison 16 year old mothers*
+TraceguyRune still a kid
+Tanya L Harrison That's so stereotypical. This even happens to much older mothers. mORE LIKE: this is why irresponsible people shouldn't have children
It's not the mothers fault, She was expecting her dad to put her baby in his hands while she was away. And guess what? .....He failed. Why is it the mothers fault?
I'm 16 and a mother. I wouldn't leave my child with her father ever. just because one person happened to be a teen parent and the father did this does not mean all teen parents are bad I'd give my life for my child. what most people don't understand tho is that teenage boys are not mentally capable to handle an infant. she should have not left the child with the father. but everyone really needs to cut the shit saying it's all teen parents that do this. because it's not. my kids my world and I'd protect her with my last breath!
WHY wouldn't they inform the adoptive parents of Gabriel that he had died as soon as it happened? Wtf is wrong with the people in this situation?? All of this is so unfair ....
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They wouldn’t have called the adoptive parents because they never became parents. Nothing was ever official...most cases must wait one year to finalize. The birth mom has that long to change her mind :(
What people don’t understand is how difficult, how unnatural, and how heart wrenching it is to relinquish a child. A woman who has just given birth is in no condition emotionally to make such a decision. I feel sorry for the adoptive parents....but this is one of the consequences of adoption, the natural mother has the option to reverse the decision. In this case, it was a horrible ending, but I don’t believe in adoption. And believe me, there have been many cases of adoptive parents being the cause of such tragedies.
Rest In Peace baby Gabriel, your with the Lord now in his loving care. 💙
Lesbian couple lesbain couple why can't they just say this couple instead of saying lesbian couple damn...
That poor poor baby
what's the matter are homophobic??
Because they are a lesbian couple which is different than a man and a female married couple.
i think that Lesbian and Gay couples make better parents than most " straight" couples do. I knew several lesbian couples and they were WONDERFUL PARENTS.. If i was in that position i would rather have 2 mothers or 2 fathers that loved me. Read the adoption & Foster horror stories about " straight" couples who adopted or fostered children who are now dead. then i think you will change your mind.
Maggie Otsuka Actually, they make worse parents because of issues and problems with lots with themselves most of the time. There is an entire thing with this, a video somewhere but I can not find it.
@ByeBitch 《 You're an idiot bigot
The mother would have know what kind of a person the 17 yr old father was. .
It is sad. But adoptive children are taken back by their birth parents everyday. To live a beautiful life. Though unfair, the birth mother obviously loved him also. She is in pain also. The father is the villain. Teenage pregnancy is not the issue here. Grown men and women kill their children everyday. There is no guarantee that the birth parents were the best choice for this child, throughout the duration of his life, the adoptive parents could have ended up doing something detrimental to his health also. I know teenagers who made great parents and I know grown people who made awful parents... THE FATHER IS THE ONLY VILLAIN HERE! The fact that he was a teenager food not make him s murderer. HIS parents raised him or the lack of raising him caused him to be able to murder an infant. You want to believe it's the mothers fault when obviously the father made it sound like he was going to be a good provider. Everyday men and women molest and abuse their children, without the latter spouse or parent being able to come to terms with the fact that they should have taken their child away from the other parent indefinitely. Women are beaten in front of their children sometimes murdered. Irresponsible of her to leave the baby with a man who was going to murder him. But we leave our children everyday, in a naive fashion with someone who we trust but others don't, EVERYDAY.
I agree
canessa johnson Teenage pregnancy is a problem. There is a certain level of maturity mentally n financially required to raise a child. The 17 yr old guy cannot be trusted with a baby n being a mother she has to understand thay...she would hv understood that if she had that level of matuarity to deal with which comes with exposure of self n experince of others .The age of 16 is to live a life ,get good education and settle down once mentally n financially strong enough. If she wanted the child back soo badly n if she was not sure abt giving her baby for adoption she shld not have taken the help n support of other couple during her pregnancy. This is clear deception.
Lawrence Adams , from what Ive heard here, in this video, I ALSO AGREE: the baby father IS responsible. SAD STORY.
I want to tell the lovely adopting couple how sorry I feel for their tragic and heart-breaking loss & also, Thank Them for their love and support (emotionally & financially), to the teen mom, while she was carrying that precious baby. I hope that, in the future, you are able to try again, to bring a child into your lives, in the same loving way you tried, this time. I wish you three moms THE BEST, in your personal, emotional recovery.
Thank GOD there are MOMS, like YOU, who are willing to allow a baby to have a SPOT at his "best chance".
Recently, I was told that the birth of a healthy baby (& 5days labour, stay in hospital), in Georgia, USA, was a cost of 25,000$!!!!!
Agreed. It bothers me to see all these people act as if the teenage mom was obligated to give the lesbian couple her baby because they paid her hospital bills (as if that baby was a piece of property that they were making down payments on).
Its easy for us to say in hindsight that the birth mother shouldn't have gotten her child back when we all know nothing about the lesbian couple (if they had harmed the baby, we would all be in a rage about how a pair of rich, White lesbians bought a Black woman's baby only to abuse/murder him). And we also have no idea if the baby's father showed signs of being a danger to children before his girlfriend made the tragic choice to let him babysit.
I feel for both the adoptive mothers and the birth mother. The only person who deserves to burn for this tragedy is the piece of shit teenage "father".
Terribly, terribly sad. He would have had such a good, loving family had he not been taken back.
Oh my god this father is..... is something I can't explain in words! Just think if the mother and father would have just let him be with that nice couple this child would have been alive today perfectly healthy!
Why are they referred to as "the lesbian couple" instead of this couple??!! SMH
+OrneryPossum Yes they are a lesbian couple that's cool, but I think Misty means something along the lines of why did they have to say the word 'lesbian'? We get that they are a couple, there is no need for the word, it's unnecessary.
A baby is dead and you're worried about PC? What is wrong with you? No wonder our country is going into shitz.
+Misty Sayitlikeitis I was wondering that too. It's ridiculous to even bring it up. It's like saying "this white couple"; "this African American couple", "this interracial couple"...I could care less if the adoptive parents had 12 heads between the 2 of them; they wanted this beautiful baby and were able to give him a good home; it shouldn't matter their gender or sexual orientation.
+Misty Sayitlikeitis RIGHT.
Glad I'm the only one to ask this. Adoptive parents.....not lesbian couple.
I liked this video until the lady started talking. The way she mentions the mcfarlands as if being a lesbian is just so offensive. And although the boy's mother is young why chastise her during her moment of grief. Smh
They never should have paid a dime until everything was signed and legal.
my questions would be
where are the parents of the teenagers?
did they live alone and why?
Noel Gable. You mean average 17 year olds need to be watched on a regular?
Jimmy Grissam Teenagers of 17, is not adults.If they get children, they might need extra support from their parents.Some teenagers can adopt very quick to their new role as parents, some need more time,others will never make it.But getting extra help from their parents,like babysitting,structure, knowledge what the baby needs ect will help.A brain is fully developed by 25, most teenagers who is gets children have ADHD, which makes them even more immature then others at the same age.A person with ADHD who is 17, might be as immature as a 10 year old.Think of that.
nonni139 At 17 you still don’t need to be constantly watched
Callie Estra That wasnt the point of what I wrote.
How is it that they can take the baby back once he was already adopted? That seems unfair to me.
such family have right to there family
The grace period for the birth mother to change her mind is supposed to be 30 days, at least in California. I'm not sure why the adoption wasn't finalized after 2 months.
when a teenager has a baby hospitals should mandate classes because teens are still supposed to be in school and they don't know what adult parents know, because they barely even had they're start in life.
ruby Margarita ;mmmmmaaa
How can a teenager get an apartment on her own? There had to be a mother or someone of the teenager mom who signed for it! She isn't even legal to sign a lease for the apartment!
I feel so sorry for the lovely couple that adopted him, it's so very sad.
This is absolutely disgusting on all accounts, and also why the hell does it have to be stated that it was a "lesbian couple"? i mean obviously the story itself enraged me most, but that was the icing on the cake for me.
The only person to blame here is the father. Nothing else matters, and no one else is at fault in this poor babies death.
I live in Iowa. And I'm adopted.
Marci Turner Really? I stumbled upon this story by accident. I don't remember hearing about this...? Do you?
I'm from Iowa too. SE, Iowa. Small farm town called; Mt Pleasant. :)
Did you have a good life being adopted? JW....you don't have to answer if you don't want to...
This makes me absolutely sick to my stomach!!! This young man is going to Hell. No question! I have adopted 4 children and I am so grateful for the birthmoms of my babies courage to let them go. They now have an amazing life. So unfair! that baby is the complete innocent victim here.
That 16 year old is soooo selfish. I can't get over her. Your child is in the best possible situation, he's healthy and happy and being loved and cared for by two amazing parents. In that environment he could be given so many opportunities. But you decide that YOU want the baby back; you decide that you're more important than your baby. And then you get hit with the worst possible karma. Kids, if you find yourself in a teen pregnancy situation, consider what is best for the BABY, not for you!
+Abigail Isaboke Seriously? You hope my children *die*? Think before you speak. You know who says shit like that? Scumbags. Don't be a scumbag.
And carrying a child for 9 months does not mean you are fit to be their parents. Being a parent has WAY more to do than being related to your children.
Please put things into perspective: the father didn't care about the baby or babymother at all. He neglected them both and didn't even pay the bills. And in the end he killed his own child. HE is the only one to blame here!! So why don't you even write one single word about HIM?!
+Abigail Isaboke Why would you wish that another persons children die? What is wrong with you? Whether you believe in karma or not, hoping someone's children die is just evil and warped thinking...
+Abigail Isaboke well when u have to ask how old ur baby is & u don't even realize or care that a baby left in the dads care is dies then she should of just left the baby with the parents who could of actually given him a good life
+Sarah Burke Oh but I believe you've misunderstood the circumstances-- the person heard in the 911 asking the baby's age was the mother's friend who had the presence of mind to make the call and try her darndest (poor girl) to help a friend in need.
You know, the more I consider it the more I reckon the young mother didn't do anything bad by asking her baby's father to look after the child (that he contributed to making ) for a mere hour. Hearing that young mother's frantic outcry actually breaks my heart for her. Poor thing!
In the "best" case scenario (if you can forgive me for calling it that ) of what happened, the baby-daddy had a case of butterfingers and dropped that poor baby on his little head. In the worst case ...well, he shook an infant that he couldn't stop from crying. Either way, he was an irresponsible fool to drive off leaving that child to his fate after injuring him.
The mother evidently decided to be responsible and attempt to raise her child herself. I've seen girls that young actually woman up and try to make things right after a series of bad choices. It is just SO very unfortunate that her story should take such a turn. So sad. I hope that ALL the mothers involved-- the adoptive parents as well as the birth mother-- can somehow find peace for themselves.
The law is the law and if paperwork wasn't completed, and qualifications of the adoptive parents are not thoroughly vetted, then controversy happens. No matter how much money the couple spent on another woman's child, they did not purchase ownership of another woman's child. The child is not their property. The mother had a right to reclaim her child. Unfortunately, the mother trusted the biological father with the child, and the father was not trustworthy.
RIP Baby Gabriel.
This poor couple ❤ and this poor baby! 😢 the baby would still be alive with the couple he was intended to be with, clearly the parents weren't fit AT ALL.
that is so sad.... that baby was so beautiful.... the father or that baby was not a man the lesbian couple well i would not normally call them that but the two women should have got to keep that poor poor baby boy
did they really have to refer the couple as "this lesbian couple"? they could've said this couple.
Khou Yang they are both females so that falls under being lesbians if im not mistaken...
Your problem with this situation is what they call the couple... No wonder the world goes to hell!
Jimmy Grissam It does fall under lesbian, but they don't have to keep repeating it. And the way they keep saying is like its a dig.
I kind of thought it was a positive way of saying it.... I support lgbtq and makes a good point that a child does not need a mother and father just two loving parent does not matter the sex of parents.
Amber Massey I promise you it was not meant that way. I thank you for your support, but I have to deal with stuff like this all the time. Once was more than enough to get the point across, hell she could have just said couple ever time, and referring to them as his "mothers" would have been enough.
that is the most horrible thing ever, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss
Handing the baby over should have been a court decision. In this case, the baby should've gone to the home that would best meet all his needs. I know birth moms should have their rights, but in this situation, it's better to determine what's best for the child and then take it back if that's what they decide on.
I know Keya and she was a good mom she just wanted her baby to have bonding time with the father
+Autumn Stout In the end, it was a big mistake. Never leave a child with someone who doesn't know how to take care of the child.
AtarashiNOhi no one has experience if they never had a baby. Everybody has to learn as they go I mean no one has their first child and automatically knows how to parent. Everybody leave their kid/kids with someone they trust because after all he was the baby dad who doesn't trust the parents to do the right thing by their kids. You sound so dumb
Ab Alb
Yes, people can take care of children even if they have never raised a child themselves before. However, caring for a child is a huge responsibility. Regardless of how much one trusts someone personally, that person should exhibit the ability to be attentive and responsible before one can leave a child in their care.
This means, as a parent, one must have to have a good judge of character to leave one's child with someone else. If the baby's father has a history of being irresponsible or neglectful, the mother should not have left the child with him regardless of her relationship with him and her trust in him as a person and as her partner. Her poor judgement resulted in this tragedy and the baby's father should not have been tasked with that responsiblity if he was not prepared for it.
They might have wanted to do right by their kid by keeping and raising the child between them but they should have taken a look at themselves first and reflected on whether they were ready for the responsibility of raising that child on their own. It's too late if a baby has to die for them to realize that they were not ready for that responsibility.
Why u keep saying they like both of them killed the baby only the dad killed him. I stand by what I said earlier this long rant was for nothing because u really didn't say nothing just a bunch of blah blah blah. The story never said neither parents was irresponsible, incapable of caring for the baby either. Who knows maybe he did show some responsibility no body knows soo stop assuming things.
Autumn Hamilton She acted selfishly and killed "her" son. She is unworthy of children. Her actions proved she was nothing more than an irresponsible child left with a precious gift and she murdered him. Fuck her to hell. May she be in eternal pain.
"Lesbian couple" call them just a couple. Wow. Yes they might be lesbian but call them couple.
+Toolextracter_ I have nothing against gay couple. It's a comment section after all
Lesbians aren't normal...
+marijaloveya 2001 normality is relative
+marijaloveya 2001 that's not a bad thing. Geniuses aren't normal either.
If I was that friend that had to call the mom to ask if she thought it was ok I wouldn’t have hesitated for a second to stay there if I questioned it. Devil of a guy to do that. Side note: Fathers don’t babysit. That irritates me to no end. It’s called parenting! When will people stop saying “Oh, dads BABYSITTING!”
The caller/friend, though. She tried so hard.
Poor lil baby Gabilrle
R.I.P
These news announcers piss me off. Who cares if the beautiful couple who were his adoptive parents to be were a same sex couple? They keep on talking about a lesbian couple. Do they talk about other couples who are straight as This straight couple? I dont think so.
The whole point of adoption is that the adoptive parents are loving. Not that they are lesbian or straight .
This poor little baby wrenched from his new family and within a short time is murdered. That's the shocking thing here.
I remember when a internet friend told me that Iowa is so nice and nothing bad happens here. I'm from Iowa and it's so sad to see this. Very heart breaking story. That baby sound have never died
That poor little boy. Rest in peace Gabriel xxx❤️❤️❤️
I have not listed to the full video. I am at 1:05 however I am tired of these people being able to just snatch away children. If you fully agree to the adoption process. It shouldn't be right. Yes you carried a child you bore that child but in your heart you came up with the discussion of giving that joy of life a better Living for whatever reason. To take that away from the new parents is heart wrenching. I understand not all adopted parents can be sunshine and lollipops. I just know of too many good people who this has happened to. Seeing the title my heart and condolences go out to the adoption parents.
Kit Bina Have you had kids?
Kat Everlasting What does that have to do with anything? Is that any of your business small child?
Emogirl is barren. In the old days that was the most shame filled curse the Lord God could punish a woman with. Nowadays lazy women or barren women - who on a whim decide they want a child - buy or steal babies if they want them. They call it human trading.
gcarolify God's not real and it never will be. Adoption should be a choice just like abortion. Adoption is not stealing.
Kat Everlasting
I'll answer the question, I have 2 biological adult children and 3 that I was blessed to give a happy home to. So we got that out of the way. Next question?
Why are they acting like the B-Mother is at fault for “not being able to care for the baby due to her age” when she had no fault here. I think it’s GOOD that she wanted her baby back. Yes the adoptive family is great but A MOTHER WANTED HER CHILD WHAT IS WRONG WITH THAT?? This was not her fault! The father is at fault not the mother. There’s nothing wrong with her wanting her Child back she didn’t do anything bad. The father fucked up. The mother only wanted her Child.
To play house with.
When a friend called concerned, the mom didn’t defend the father, didn’t tell her she knows what she’s doing, she turned around and rushed back to get the baby
Why is everyone talking as if because his birth mother is a teenager she would a good mother? Age has nothing to do with being able to take care of a child. The birth father is just wicked and should have gotten life in prison.
There are reasons why they give the mother some time after birth to change her mind, the adoptive parents knew it was a possibility, they accepted the risk (although that shit would hurt like hell). The 16 and 17 yr. olds should never have been left alone with the child without support, they are children still themselves. Where were any of the four grandparents? And we need to suspend judgement against the father at least until after the autopsy and until he has said his version of events.
Monica Martin I agree with you. So glad I found your comment. The news thing made out real bad and we don't even know yet. thanks for saying it!
Monica Martin not really how do you not notice an infant chocking becoming blue vomiting pulmonary fluid from their lungs maybe because your not in the room (she says twice on 911 tape you left him ALONE), why did he not preform cpr on his child or at least try, call an ambulance anything, we should pass judgment maybe he really really needed cigarettes .
He was sentenced over a year ago. He shook the baby then left. His parents didn't even know he had a baby until the police told them he was dead.
Renee Jewell Why so triggered?
he would have still been alive if the birth mum didn't take him back :(
He would have still been alive if the dad hadn't killed him :(
This is heartbreaking.....
So sad. Mom should of let the adopted mother's have him. He would be alive today. Shame on that father!!
Jane Velez:" This LESBIAN couple" lol
+amela montgomery it is the truth
david m Oh, yes it is and that is OK with me! But notice how she just" keeps on on keeping on" to make sure that we all know that they are "lesbian couple" It's bad enough that she yells like a woman possessed every time she speaks and for me, it is especially painful when she repeats the same crap over and over again.But, we are all different!
Okay we get it they are a lesbian couple. I think we figured that out for ourselves.
Rest in peace sweet angel Gabriel!
Heartbreaking R.I.P x Gabriel x
he couldn't handle the care he either suffocated it or gave it something BC he ran made him look guilty
Looked like he gave the kid crack
I'm littering crying cuz my baby brothers name is gabereil
That's so sad! Justice for Gabriel!
This story breaks my heart.
Honestly what I think happened is that some accidentally happened with the baby while in his care. Maybe the baby choked and the dad panicked and booked it out of there. It is very unfortunate but accidents do happen. He was wrong for leaving but they are being harsh on the birth parents just because she changed her mind about giving up her child. Which again, IT HAPPENS. Sometimes they see their little baby and decide that they don't want to give them up after all. I do not blame the mother at all for what happened. She loved her baby and she kept him. At the end of the day its HER child. I just think the father was wrong for abandoning the child.
No the father shook the baby. It suffered brain damage.
what do you mean it was a nice work of Fiction???
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2615852/Father-17-charged-murder-beating-baby-son-teen-girlfriend-just-taken-lesbian-adoptive-mothers.html
Amber Locked gosh i had no idea there was another version :(
what was it???
Amber Locked 100% agreed!!!! think sometimes its easier for ppl to believe the lesser of the evil.
Amber Locked i am soooo terribly sorry for making you feel guilty, some comments you see on here is sometimes just unbelievable and heartbreaking! that poor child, in my honest opinion they should have a law that no child mother or father to have a child in their care if they haven't had the proper training oh and then passed. soooo many kids fall pregnant, and they get into situations which sometimes they are not mature enough to handle or understand and sometimes they just dont know, ive got 2 lil girls and i still learn about babies today, im not an expert at all, so i cannot imagine a 16 or 17 year old. Poor lil angel may her rest in Peace ♥
Jesus fkn Christ!! So sad!!!
Whether they are going to give the child to adoption or not, Teenage parents(or even first time parents) should- no, MUST have parenting lessons. And they have to pass it or the baby will be given to adoption. And they CAN'T have them back until they've proven themselves worthy.
They can have the baby back if they haven't been chosen to be adopted yet.
It may sound a bit mean. But with this and SO MUCH more bad parenting that I've been seeing. I think Parent test needs to be put on action.
Because we don't even know if all this was planed. If the birth mother even wanted to give up the baby, or just took advantage of the fact that the adoptive parents were going to pay for everything. If the father never wanted the child and didn't know that the mother took the kid.
There are a lot of bad choices in here by the teenagers. And I think giving a firm hand on first time parents would help fix it a little bit. And would we would have less incidents like this.
Good point but good luck convincing people to do this.
I'm adopted and from Iowa praise God I didn't go through that because my birth parents where 16 and 17 thank heavens they let me go I was raised by parents who where awesome such a shame. I feel bad for the 3 women
The birth mother was within her rights.
+Florence Valya
To leave the baby with a negligent person?
Her rights to get someone else to pay for her pregnancy - appartment, doctors etc, then leave him for months - before she picked him up and left him with his killer...
You can hear her crying “mommy” in the 911 call. She was a child who had no business with a baby.
This is our system complete responsability! They should not allow regrets to change the adoption final decision.
funnymeme She may have had the intentions, but not the experience, money or wisdom to do so. My guess is the baby would've died somehow.
Stephanie Joobern the truth is you only gain experience on motherhood by being a mother, so of cause as a first time mom regardless of her age NO she would not have an extensive knowledge on how she or the father would be like as parents
although I respect your views it has no value otherwise there would be countless of babies in the same situation simply because there parents are teenagers
there age holds no merit, decisions choices, death and misfortunes have no age assigned to them, nor I suppose does judgement he will be judged and dealt with accordingly and I hope the birth mom is able to get justice
Lola Velmar You're right, don't listen to these sheep.
It wasn't final. And the birth mother had every right to change her mind. Children aren't toys to be bought.
Rest In Peace baby boy love you 😘😢😭
My thoughts and prayers are with the mother and love ones of Gabriel. I feel for the potential parents as well because they did get a chance to bond with him since he was in his mother's womb. I'm glad justice was served with the father serving time for his heinous crime.