I find it so ironic that they're afraid of being average and yet many of them are so below average or just barely making the cut as average. They often lack the talent or creativity that they think they have and they are threatened by other people's talents and creativity.
Best route of action when one is surrounded or encountered by narcissistic people at a gathering or workplace for example, is to leave and never associate with them again. Narcissistic people do not deserve neither your energy or your time. Good video and content.
PERFECTLY describes my abusive, narcissistic mother who made sure I lived in pure hell every single day of my life until I finally ran away from home and attempted suicide at 16. Still, I kept trying to have a "close relationship" with her... only thing I ever remember wanting from her. I FINALLY wised up at 38 and ended all contact and found the greatest sense of peace in my life! Only regret is wish I'd wised up sooner!
@@curli-lettey4319 yep! Mine is deceased now too. She tried to force a relationship after 26years without one... when I called her out on everything she had done to me she told me it wasn't her that did that stuff to me.. she also told me if I didn't do what she wanted she wash' t leaving me anything when she died. I said okay!! Now get the f**k off my property! Never heard from her again.
@BindiLaaa My siblings are deceased, so when I should have been her first choice and would have been had she treated me like she even liked me. I was her last choice. Sad. Not the way I wanted our relationship to go but.. she chose for me. I felt like anything she "might will to me" held nothing but bad memories for me that I had spent the better part of my adult life trying to get over. So I wanted no part of her offer. Just wasn't worth it. She proved to me she hadn't and wasn't willing to change even when she was in need when she denied what she had done to me.
Hello Jill, You've probably told it between the lines, but narcissists are so scared to be left. They are so afraid to be left alone. This is ultimately their own fault and many will also die alone because no one wants to have anything to do with them anymore. Surely sad though.
It is because of videos like this that i have my own new strategies. Im a counselor who shines at an elementary school. I am in battle w 2 malignant narc vice principals who hate me for that. Yesterday was first day back. I gave a presentation entitled "The Power of Encouragement". It was these videos and the grace of God helping me.
"You're allowed to have an opinion based on the information you've accumulated just as I'm allowed my opinion based on my information. Let's agree to disagree." -That shut the narcissist up.
@Ken Evanska Trump is the only President in history locking up the pedophiles he will win & win BIG. It's ok that you don't know the media is Operation Mockingbird x's 100.
Great summation! Let this sink in, they are vile, there is no light there and no love. That is hard to wrap your mind around and see when it’s a close by person or your own mother. When you truly look at this there’s nothing more than an abyss of soul sucking gut wrenching evil. That, and the sickening abuse they subjected you to, in combination with blaming you, is the hardest part I found. Stay away, hold your ground when people grab whatever they want from you without so much of an ask, they are never welcome again!
Try this: when you are face to face with a covert narc who is trying to thro shade by making sarcastic funny comments where you are the brunt of the joke, scrunch yer face like yer smelling something bad and go “ Huh?” They will have to repeat it. Do the same thing again.”Wha?!” They’ll have to say it again... eventually they will stop cuz it’s too exhausting for them & they did NOT get you mad , thus not feeding their supply.
Yes.. they start their Smear campaigns and break up relationships. They always need new supply because they deplete and destroy the ones their with and there's no shame that the new supply is usually just in your inner circle. No shame. But, they'll eventually implode and after they recover, rightback to same old routine. Predictable. You all take care. God bless.
The movie ' Amadeus ' is a great illustration of the fears mrs. Jill teaches on this video. I wish I would have known when I was young, that when you do good, not every person who smiles is happy at your success. Bless you sweetie Mrs. Jill!
Wow! I just discovered this clip, and it is spot on! I had a female assistant who worked for me. It took me over a year to realize she was a grandiose narcissist. I figured it out in the beginning that she was 1. Always right, never wrong, never made a mistake, and she knows everything. 2. She did not like authority - she resented authority and took everything personal. I discovered those two things really early. Side bar: There are so many other characteristics that became evident. I started a diary. There were so many things that would trigger her. I terminated her position the day before Thanksgiving. Sorry, I rambled on. Thank you for reading and sharing your knowledge.
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what. That is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband's phone and I got access to all his phone Call logs, Text messages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email, i-cloud and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover kissing, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned. He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking, background check up and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this wonderful hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text him directly on his phone and via Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth...
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I'm still in some sort of shock that I have been living this way for so long . Truly so many similarities. Please give any advice Thanks so much for your help. Finally I'm planning to visit my mom in Seattle,. It's been 3 years since I've seen her. We talk every day.
Imagine knowing a narc who became a therapist and abused people. Imagine seeing this person at work everyday and knowing why they can no longer use their credentials, but still employed in a similar field. The thought of it is so sick and I don’t know why this “thing” isn’t in prison.
I get targeted by female & male narcissist who lie , bully , slander ! my neighbors are afraid of exposure because they have a fasad they present to the world they need to keep up .Everytime I ignore them the more they bully .Anyone ever watch Mean Girls describe narcissist well ?
Love listening to u there girl! I've been around narcs n raised by these types, at 53 I figured it out thanks to people like u, at 61 I got rid of most of my family yrs ago, N SHES NOW A WONDERFUL LIFE 🥳🤠😎💝✌️
@@meriamelouazzani2504 keep watching and learn more and more about narcissist. It will surely help you. It's helped me a lot. It's been 2 months I have been broken up. Now I feel that after years I am breathing 😍.
@@khankk7233 i 'm doing it everyday, it really helps. But i have done a mistake wich is to look at social media, and he posted a picture of him and an ex at a party same day i asked him to leave, it's a horrible feeling...you want to scream...have justice...but he's just getting away with it.
i first noticed this in my children's mom when i offered her the front row at a school christmas concert and she FREAKED out yelling, "get away! get away!" while flailing her arms around wildly! so i smiled, went back to the front row and enjoyed my children's concert! Another time she threw my daughters optometrist prescription into the bush; i guess cuz it was me that helped my daughter see properly (after she apparently complained to her mom about not being able to see for years)
This video validated my feelings about the person I was with. I felt like garbage when I was with him. Even though he did everything "superficially right", it felt so bad.
Jill I found you after dating a psychologist who also happens to have narcissistic personality disorder. I felt so validated after hearing this. He was always able to convince me that I was the problem. I’m a people pleaser to a problematic degree so naturally we have been drawn to each other. It’s been an ongoing on and off relationship for the last 5 years and I’m trying to break that cycle. Thank you for the insight.
Got a huge fear of staying average. Rejections have and will hurt again. Now respect is normally earned. I got babies, sometimes I want to be forgotten, just enough time for a smoke and a YT video. Just reminds me, not perfect but have the opportunity to be better. Sometimes hope is all one can have to get up each day. And now I see that she is void of hope. Kinda sad but helps to get over the anger that was left. DAMN! This is therapy and healing session, let's get it. Thank you again for showing hope in moving forward, beautiful soul.
I recently had to quit my job,I'm a CNA,I took care of people with behavioral health disorders (they were older)There was a woman there that really had it in for me,she targeted me and everytime I was her caregiver she would act as if I was killing her,she would go into this rage about how I was just like her abusive ex-husband,she would say things like "why dont you just hit me,I know you want to."she even went so far as to report me to social services saying she was afraid of me,.I got suspended,so I just quit.Even when my suspension was over,I would have been reassigned to another area,(I had people there that I really did care about,and I didnt want to be reassigned)so I quit,plus this way I dont have to worry about running into that woman again.I never abused that woman,but at the same time I don't have to live there ,she does,so I left.
Great video my family is currently suffering at the hands of my husbands narc parents and family and of course I am often blamed for lots of issues. We went NC before but were hoovered back in sadly. We are now on the point of going NC again wish us luck ❤️
What I've seen is mutual admiration for what they're not. Think "The Emperor's New Clothes," and they're getting off on each other. They share each others' delusions, and take comfort in that. NOW...this is when there's no threat to their ego. If someone has to WIN, then you can count on them stabbing the other. As we know, narcs are incapable of loyalty or being good losers, no matter their opponent.
I have been told I have narcissistic tendancies,but could not relate to most of this except # 3,fear of rejection.My dad left when I was 7,and my mom was wonderful,but really passive.Therefore,I was forced to be the man,take control,in order to survive.My mother had no rules,and to this day I have a hard time following rules.I do love people,and being the center of attention.I think I always used humor to be seen.I don't think I am better than anyone else,and I am compassionate,and fun.I feel like I have a void from my childhood that causes me to feel seen more than most people though.I am a loving,and giving friend,and mom,but sometimes others tell me I have ignored their boundary when I haven't even realized that. 😣
Once again a concise and all too scarily accurate (in my painful experience) summary! If only I'd understood all this years ago instead of falling deeper into the abyss of despond and false belief that 'a certain person' would ever 'change'... I might have had a much happier decade and aged far less rapidly!
Everything you say makes so much sense and I feel like a genuine connection watching these videos. You hit every spot pretty well and I appreciate that so much. I am interested in these type of behaviors especially narcissistic behavior.
Because they are incapable of handling love. To them, love makes them feel inferior. One person to them is inadequate, you need to be perfect, without any form of mistake to qualify to have them in your life. That is why relationships with them fail terribly.
They pursue and groom others to have friends with influence and position. They thrive for attention from them to be considered a great friend. To be apart of the group.
I been from her 3 weeks , one of many times , it’s a toxic game with them , but to you it’s mental cruelty , I’m fed up of 8 yrs of total mental cruelty toxic games & feeling of worthlessness, I exposed her , walked away , but she went crazy , & smear campaign against me & now giving the silent treatment, I’m used to it but it’s so life draining I cannot put up with this fake relationship, she has drained me physically , mentally ,financially, like a vampire they suck the very life out of you if we let them , I know this is early days heartbroken , but I have to untangle this mess, she is v dangerous woman , please help me God !! 😢
One step in front of the other, one day a time. Over a period of time, you will realize you have more peace and less stress in your life. Trust me... IT WILL BE WORTH IT! It is very empowering I promise. Hang in there! God Bless you!
When i was with The ex covert narcissist. Before i knew she was a a narcissist. She was afraid of being honest Afraid of truth Afraid of conflict Afraid of her own emotions Afraid of be found out Afraid of abandonment Afraid of being by herself for more than 10 minutes Afraid of being afraid Afraid her parents would find out she's dated an older man Afraid of rejection Afraid of quilt Afraid of losing her looks Afraid of keeping her word or promises Afraid her ex supply would warn me about her afraid of responsibility after of accountability Afraid of being a decent person Afraid of choices She discarded 4 years later after to give closure or actually let me know she was leaving. No contact total 100% ghost non existent in my life for 5 years zero hoover attempts. Life is back to fantastic. Once again.
You are true about what you are saying, because if I say something about them they are saying I'm insulting them emedtly!! It's not at all any kind of insult, but it's what they get it as. It's unbelievable how bad they are taking everything I'm saying to them
Being average. You are so right. They have to be better than. 🙄 Being exposed. I done this to my Narcissist sister and mom. They explode. I just 😂 at them and walk away. Being ignored or rejected. I done the ignored to my mom when she being a bitch. I done both to my sister. Both freak out and I just 🤭. Disrespected. Anything could make them feel this way. 🙄🤷♀️ Irrelevant. Yes my sister cant handle this one. After Therapy I have a no contact for both of them now. ❤
Thank you so much for the work that you're doing. It has blessed me tremendously. In the understanding of seeing the things that are not to be seen. And you understand what I'm talking about the spiritual things. I just pray that I'm a better man a better friend and better husband someday. And a better man of God than I have in the past. Thank you ma'am God bless you.
I do not know if it was smart.. But I have been sending her your videos? When she texts me my reply is your videos. That may not be very smart? But hey she is tore my heart out!!! I'm not playing her game anymore. She is exactly what you have been explaining. Better yet can the whole family be narcissist? I believe that her dad is the only one that's not. I will have my friend help me log on to your Facebook. I have many questions I would love to ask you. This has helped me tremendously. But I have to give all my credit to God.... but you have blessed me tremendously with this. Thank you so much ma'am. And may God bless you multitude. Sincerely Wayne
Jill this is Randall Abney. I want to tell you thank you so much. You have helped me tremendously. I have moved on and God has blessed me tremendously in my spiritual life. Financially I am growing so fast it is awesome. My prayer life and my heart I'm so much happier I don't know if you remember me? But I'm the one that my childhood sweetheart found me. We are talking lol. A lot..lol God's timing is perfect and every way. I'm going to try to get with you on Facebook. I don't know a lot about Facebook. I am so happy so happy for you with your son. I can't fight the tears back being so happy for you. I think about my future being with my ex. Wow she's a bad lady. But that money this will help her stay out of trouble. Regardless of money I am spiritually with. And she spiritually as poor as you can get for being a Holiness person. I don't claim a religion ma'am I just try to be the best man I got I can be. If there's anything I've learned in life. It is that there is no real religion. You are either a person of God or not. I can't wait to get onto Facebook with you. I want to share my experience with you. I have shared it with people and it takes many tears. Or they're smiling so big that you can't see your face. LOL all you see is their teeth. LOL it brings joy to my life and my heart to share the experience that I went through. I am a true person and my life is an altar. I keep my prayer tight now. Jill thank u and i hope i hope question I get to talk to you on Facebook thank you and you have a blessed dayma'am
Jill, I am learning so much from you and your important research and information!! The problem is I am realizing I seem to be surrounded by Narcissists LOL Raised by one and my poor husband had both parents and ex wife suffer from this brain damage. Both of us were alienated parents from previous marriages. Biggest reason why I needed to understand wtf is wrong with these people!!!!!! Thank you 🙏🏼
I've gone through each nd every matter you've mentioned. I've gone for a divorce, still the empath in me is thinking about the inconvenience that they'll go through without me. Kids are of 24 nd 20 years of age, whom i need not CARRY with me.
The worst enemy you have is yourself. I have burned myself down more than anyone else can do to me. I'll say this God burned me down to a pile of Ashes. And he's used my tears to remold me back into what he wants me to be. My life is an altar I have nothing to hide and I hide nothing
My sister went on a rage saying that I disrespected her. Then went on a thirty minute tirade detailing what a piece of shit I was. Wow! No, it’s not me who is disrespectful, it’s you!
Jill, you said in one of your videos that it is better to "disengage" from a narcissist, but what If can't afford to disengage from one because he/she is my boss and I badly need my job to support my family. Please advise on how to handle such a situation. Thanks.
Hi Jill! We love the work you're doing, so much so that I bought one of your writings as a show of support, and I look forward to reading it during these trying times. I'm also a fan of Dr. Ramani's TH-cam channel as well, and with that I was wondering if the two of you could do a collaboration to expand both your channels and your teachings in an exponential scale. Sending you lots of love and good vibes. Stay safe!
My soon to be ex-mother in law is like that,I told my daughter that her dad was never a good husband,all he ever did was call me names,and put me down,he would say and do things that were just shocking and outrageous.(I was trying to explain to her why the way she feels about him as her dad,is different than the way I feel about him as a husband,and now an ex)I got a little pissed off because his mother tries to involve my daughter in the personal things of the marriage and I had to tell her it doesn't matter to me what kind of husband his mother thinks he is(unless she's married to him its irrelevant.)so I dont need or want her opinion.
This sure explains why things fell apart for me in romance with a narcissist twice the moment there was a definite possibility that a child was going to be coming into the picture and which got far worse the moment those children in agreement after marrying them once when later right after maybe having conceived one and then which got far worse after the children arrived when they could no longer be the center of my attention and so according to them I was all to blame and the crazy one no matter how bad they were ALL in union treating me like life itself depends on it. And so that fact about narcissists is now as clear to me as the existence of how a hell can exist on earth too for all of us still living human beings who are are by nature just as way too innocent while there is is still human life in human bones no matter who it is still alive needing to depend on them . It seemed like all hell was breaking loose in both those marriages at that time. And then somehow or other both of them managed to convince many that it was me instead who wanted to be the center of attention always all along while paying or supposed to be continuing to pay the bills to support me. Then as soon as a lawyer or someone else would catch on both those 2 narcissistic men would drop all contact with them right away to move onto their next flying monkey preferable in the military, police or the child welfare system recruit. It was a nightmare that lasted for a total of 40 years for me through those 2 marriages and 2 ugly cost a lot divorces. If it hadn't been for friends, relatives, family members and genuine church goers from more than one Christian worship rite and from Jewish services trying to help me through it I don't believe I could have survived well enough to carry on with maybe now still the possibility of ever being able to hold down any kind of full time job again including any kind of desk job which requires any kind of higher education to work behind a screen all day or to help people who are sick at work in any health care setting including being only a social worker or recreational therapy aid in any hospital.
Idk why it would matter if you were average at something. You can't be good at everything and there is nothing wrong with that. As someone who learned a ton of specialized skills, there are many things that I am maybe average at or know almost nothing about. I found out one actually violated a dead body. Horrifying.
Well I exposed my narcissistic hyper sexual acts on Facebook. I put a picture of every one of her boyfriends on there. I had one of them threatening me. They called me and I told them off because she was ghosting me because I forgave her but she was my nurse's aide. Not like I just met her I knew her for 8 years. She said she's only with me and she loves me. And told me the same thing she told everybody else I can't be with you I got to take care of getting my kids back. While she's been doing the same thing to guys for the last 4 years. I was so depressed I have PTSD panic attacks depression and maybe bipolar. But I have a conscience I try to do what's right. This time I beat her to the punch because the day after Mother's Day she called I had another girl over which I should not have. I know that. It seemed to kill the pain for a little while. You're right sex is a drug. I really like your Channel and the way you explain things. I was going to my therapist once a month now I go once a week on the phone and I know she will tell me don't get stuff off the internet you can't believe everything just like my leg doctor but you are right. It was like a slap in the face left me wanting to die honestly after that. I have to heal and it will take a very long time because that was the week after Mother's Day. It is emotional abuse to be ghosted or is that the same as gaslighting? Well she got a stay away order against Me by lying now when I file for one I don't get anything. And she does that cry at the snap of a finger. She does everything you said and my reaction was very bad really bad like I said things I never should have said In the Heat of the Moment I went off the wall but I never threatened physical harm like one of her boyfriends did me or two
The "enlightened target"? It must have been quite the journey! One that made you brilliant in many areas of life! wow! Doesn't it make it all worth it after all??? even understandable!?
I find it so ironic that they're afraid of being average and yet many of them are so below average or just barely making the cut as average. They often lack the talent or creativity that they think they have and they are threatened by other people's talents and creativity.
Are we talking about Trump? He qualifies every tick in those boxes.
Ardent you’re right.ℹ️💯✅✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👊🏿👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
@@kabbalah111 True, they don't.
LOVE Conquers ALL you’re right, and feel good about it.ℹ️💯✅✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👊🏿👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
Well said. So true. It can be funny to watch if they can't get the claws into you.
1-fear of being average 2-fear of being exposed 3- being ignored or rejected 4-fear of being disrespected 5- fear of being irrelevant
Hypocrites describe narc bullies well .
They'll kill to protect the image
Yessssss🖖🦋🌻
Yes my Ex put toilet water in my food to make me sick, so I wouldn’t be able to see he didn’t own any milk farms during December.
@@yimahuguley190 how sick🤬
They are all VERY DANGEROUS!!! Be sharp and close to our Good and Sweet Lord for peace and protection.
Literally
"...narcissists are the definition of hypocrites..."
Enough said!
They can't help it! they don't know who they are yet!
5:54 Narcissists = Hypocrites. That´s the best definition ever.
Best route of action when one is surrounded or encountered by narcissistic people at a gathering or workplace for example, is to leave and never associate with them again. Narcissistic people do not deserve neither your energy or your time. Good video and content.
Marios EvoCy I would give ten thousand thumbs up if I could.
PERFECTLY describes my abusive, narcissistic mother who made sure I lived in pure hell every single day of my life until I finally ran away from home and attempted suicide at 16. Still, I kept trying to have a "close relationship" with her... only thing I ever remember wanting from her. I FINALLY wised up at 38 and ended all contact and found the greatest sense of peace in my life! Only regret is wish I'd wised up sooner!
Same here but I can finally be at some peace ....mines is deceased, at least I know she can never play her games on me anymore.
@@curli-lettey4319 yep! Mine is deceased now too. She tried to force a relationship after 26years without one... when I called her out on everything she had done to me she told me it wasn't her that did that stuff to me.. she also told me if I didn't do what she wanted she wash' t leaving me anything when she died. I said okay!! Now get the f**k off my property! Never heard from her again.
@BindiLaaa yes! It felt so good to be free from it all and to know I did not have to live that way any more.
@BindiLaaa THIS! It was a huge relief to me as well. Even today, I still struggle with the sense of unworthiness.
@BindiLaaa My siblings are deceased, so when I should have been her first choice and would have been had she treated me like she even liked me. I was her last choice. Sad. Not the way I wanted our relationship to go but.. she chose for me. I felt like anything she "might will to me" held nothing but bad memories for me that I had spent the better part of my adult life trying to get over. So I wanted no part of her offer. Just wasn't worth it. She proved to me she hadn't and wasn't willing to change even when she was in need when she denied what she had done to me.
Hello Jill, You've probably told it between the lines, but narcissists are so scared to be left.
They are so afraid to be left alone. This is ultimately their own fault and many will also die alone because no one wants to have anything to do with them anymore.
Surely sad though.
Sad, and also hilarious.
yep it is sad but its what they deserve
It is because of videos like this that i have my own new strategies. Im a counselor who shines at an elementary school. I am in battle w 2 malignant narc vice principals who hate me for that. Yesterday was first day back. I gave a presentation entitled "The Power of Encouragement". It was these videos and the grace of God helping me.
"You're allowed to have an opinion based on the information you've accumulated just as I'm allowed my opinion based on my information. Let's agree to disagree." -That shut the narcissist up.
Howie Dunbar it probably pissed them off you figured them out. Good job, Howie.
@@lourags4963 Lou .. they hate to be figured out , they absolutely hate it
They are a Legend in their own mind (nobody's else)
🤔🤣 that's probably true
The Truth 😂😂!! They live in a world of make believe.
la la land
@Ken Evanska Trump is the only President in history locking up the pedophiles he will win & win BIG. It's ok that you don't know the media is Operation Mockingbird x's 100.
Great summation! Let this sink in, they are vile, there is no light there and no love. That is hard to wrap your mind around and see when it’s a close by person or your own mother. When you truly look at this there’s nothing more than an abyss of soul sucking gut wrenching evil. That, and the sickening abuse they subjected you to, in combination with blaming you, is the hardest part I found. Stay away, hold your ground when people grab whatever they want from you without so much of an ask, they are never welcome again!
Try this: when you are face to face with a covert narc who is trying to thro shade by making sarcastic funny comments where you are the brunt of the joke, scrunch yer face like yer smelling something bad and go “ Huh?” They will have to repeat it. Do the same thing again.”Wha?!” They’ll have to say it again... eventually they will stop cuz it’s too exhausting for them & they did NOT get you mad , thus not feeding their supply.
So fun to f*k with their minds, once you've figured them out...lol.
Backfire!! Ha ha!
Right!! I’ll try that if I ever encounter him again! In which I swear I hope I don’t!
Then say to them, "Did you mean for that comment to be as hurtful as what it did?"
Yes.. they start their Smear campaigns and break up relationships. They always need new supply because they deplete and destroy the ones their with and there's no shame that the new supply is usually just in your inner circle. No shame. But, they'll eventually implode and after they recover, rightback to same old routine. Predictable. You all take care. God bless.
•Average
•fear of being exposed
•ignored or rejected
•disrespect or disagree with
•irrelevant now. Insignificant
The movie ' Amadeus ' is a great illustration of the fears mrs. Jill teaches on this video. I wish I would have known when I was young, that when you do good, not every person who smiles is happy at your success. Bless you sweetie Mrs. Jill!
Wow! I just discovered this clip, and it is spot on! I had a female assistant who worked for me. It took me over a year to realize she was a grandiose narcissist. I figured it out in the beginning that she was 1. Always right, never wrong, never made a mistake, and she knows everything. 2. She did not like authority - she resented authority and took everything personal. I discovered those two things really early. Side bar: There are so many other characteristics that became evident. I started a diary. There were so many things that would trigger her. I terminated her position the day before Thanksgiving. Sorry, I rambled on. Thank you for reading and sharing your knowledge.
These people usually always surround themselves with other weak broken Narc individuals so their world matches what was said in this video.
The ones i have known are legends in their own minds and brag all the time about everything.
Jill ,
I love you and what you have educated us abt Narc ..
I hope your life is full joy and peace .
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100% true in my situation with the narc
I'm still in some sort of shock that I have been living this way for so long . Truly so many similarities. Please give any advice Thanks so much for your help. Finally I'm planning to visit my mom in Seattle,. It's been 3 years since I've seen her. We talk every day.
“Oh yah” Pure Terror!! Thank you Jill
Excellent presentation and spot on! I would add to this list one more point. They are afraid of the truth.
Thank You Jill., great video. Hope you have a great day.
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Here are two "C's" that Narcissists fear of, Counseling, and Confession.
Imagine knowing a narc who became a therapist and abused people. Imagine seeing this person at work everyday and knowing why they can no longer use their credentials, but still employed in a similar field. The thought of it is so sick and I don’t know why this “thing” isn’t in prison.
I get targeted by female & male narcissist who lie , bully , slander ! my neighbors are afraid of exposure because they have a fasad they present to the world they need to keep up .Everytime I ignore them the more they bully .Anyone ever watch Mean Girls describe narcissist well ?
Narcs can come across as 'strong and fearless' but , at thier core is an insecure toddler.
Love listening to u there girl! I've been around narcs n raised by these types, at 53 I figured it out thanks to people like u, at 61 I got rid of most of my family yrs ago, N SHES NOW A WONDERFUL LIFE 🥳🤠😎💝✌️
Your voice make me feel better, i love listenning to you, as i just ended the relationship 2 days ago, it's hard...
Be strong you will be Alright ❤️
@Ted'seyes 01 thank you ❤
@@khankk7233 thank you ❤
@@meriamelouazzani2504 keep watching and learn more and more about narcissist. It will surely help you. It's helped me a lot. It's been 2 months I have been broken up. Now I feel that after years I am breathing 😍.
@@khankk7233 i 'm doing it everyday, it really helps. But i have done a mistake wich is to look at social media, and he posted a picture of him and an ex at a party same day i asked him to leave, it's a horrible feeling...you want to scream...have justice...but he's just getting away with it.
i first noticed this in my children's mom when i offered her the front row at a school christmas concert and she FREAKED out yelling, "get away! get away!" while flailing her arms around wildly!
so i smiled, went back to the front row and enjoyed my children's concert!
Another time she threw my daughters optometrist prescription into the bush; i guess cuz it was me that helped my daughter see properly (after she apparently complained to her mom about not being able to see for years)
This video validated my feelings about the person I was with. I felt like garbage when I was with him. Even though he did everything "superficially right", it felt so bad.
Jill I found you after dating a psychologist who also happens to have narcissistic personality disorder. I felt so validated after hearing this. He was always able to convince me that I was the problem. I’m a people pleaser to a problematic degree so naturally we have been drawn to each other. It’s been an ongoing on and off relationship for the last 5 years and I’m trying to break that cycle. Thank you for the insight.
I think your one of the most honest people on the planet
They sure hate when the person they just lied about walks in the room to join the discussion..
Thank you for validation! Now I am 100💯 sure that I dated a real narcissist!
Getaway from them as soon as you can! Trauma bond is soooo real!
Thank you for the information. I think you hit the nail on the head. 💜
Got a huge fear of staying average.
Rejections have and will hurt again.
Now respect is normally earned.
I got babies, sometimes I want to be forgotten, just enough time for a smoke and a YT video.
Just reminds me, not perfect but have the opportunity to be better. Sometimes hope is all one can have to get up each day. And now I see that she is void of hope. Kinda sad but helps to get over the anger that was left. DAMN! This is therapy and healing session, let's get it.
Thank you again for showing hope in moving forward, beautiful soul.
I love you! Love listening to you for what I am going through!
Thanks Jill.
I recently had to quit my job,I'm a CNA,I took care of people with behavioral health disorders (they were older)There was a woman there that really had it in for me,she targeted me and everytime I was her caregiver she would act as if I was killing her,she would go into this rage about how I was just like her abusive ex-husband,she would say things like "why dont you just hit me,I know you want to."she even went so far as to report me to social services saying she was afraid of me,.I got suspended,so I just quit.Even when my suspension was over,I would have been reassigned to another area,(I had people there that I really did care about,and I didnt want to be reassigned)so I quit,plus this way I dont have to worry about running into that woman again.I never abused that woman,but at the same time I don't have to live there ,she does,so I left.
Thanks Jill!!
Great video my family is currently suffering at the hands of my husbands narc parents and family and of course I am often blamed for lots of issues. We went NC before but were hoovered back in sadly. We are now on the point of going NC again wish us luck ❤️
Nailed it AGAIN! You are the best and thank you so much for sharing this valuable information. A+.
It's funny to hear this. I am getting over a woman I got hooked by who demonstrated all of these traits.
you lucky to have escaped before she destroyed your life, I wasn't that lucky
Same, fam
Very interesting! I can’t help but think of Meghan Markle when you’re describing these fears!
Really ?
Donna Sveinsvoll oh yes, I think that as well !
I thought that as well.
Yes she's sure is a narc
@@FaithGainspersonaltraining or did she open up for tax havens to be audited by moving to the US?
Scenario: you put 2 narcissists in the same room. Just them, no one else. What could happen? They one-up each other to death?
Lololol!!!😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
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Lol 😂.. Probably yes they will!!
What I've seen is mutual admiration for what they're not. Think "The Emperor's New Clothes," and they're getting off on each other. They share each others' delusions, and take comfort in that.
NOW...this is when there's no threat to their ego. If someone has to WIN, then you can count on them stabbing the other. As we know, narcs are incapable of loyalty or being good losers, no matter their opponent.
They’ll pretend to be best friends while gathering dirt on each other and trying to gain each other’s trust.
Awesome videos! Thanks for being a light giver.
topical three...
Thanks. 👍
I have been told I have narcissistic tendancies,but could not relate to most of this except # 3,fear of rejection.My dad left when I was 7,and my mom was wonderful,but really passive.Therefore,I was forced to be the man,take control,in order to survive.My mother had no rules,and to this day I have a hard time following rules.I do love people,and being the center of attention.I think I always used humor to be seen.I don't think I am better than anyone else,and I am compassionate,and fun.I feel like I have a void from my childhood that causes me to feel seen more than most people though.I am a loving,and giving friend,and mom,but sometimes others tell me I have ignored their boundary when I haven't even realized that. 😣
Learning lots of information..
Once again a concise and all too scarily accurate (in my painful experience) summary! If only I'd understood all this years ago instead of falling deeper into the abyss of despond and false belief that 'a certain person' would ever 'change'... I might have had a much happier decade and aged far less rapidly!
Amen! Thank you for your service! Can't believe I haven't visited this site before... But I will now! Carry! On! Fir His Namesake!
Everything you say makes so much sense and I feel like a genuine connection watching these videos. You hit every spot pretty well and I appreciate that so much. I am interested in these type of behaviors especially narcissistic behavior.
Jill I have a question if narcissistic people are desperate to be loved why do they push away the people that truly love them?
Because they are incapable of handling love. To them, love makes them feel inferior. One person to them is inadequate, you need to be perfect, without any form of mistake to qualify to have them in your life. That is why relationships with them fail terribly.
Because they think there a god, and you or anyone else can’t out shine them. Sad creatures 🤷♂️
Narcs don’t know what love actually is. That’s why.
They pursue and groom others to have friends with influence and position. They thrive for attention from them to be considered a great friend. To be apart of the group.
Thank you 👌🙏❤️
I been from her 3 weeks , one of many times , it’s a toxic game with them , but to you it’s mental cruelty , I’m fed up of 8 yrs of total mental cruelty toxic games & feeling of worthlessness, I exposed her , walked away , but she went crazy , & smear campaign against me & now giving the silent treatment, I’m used to it but it’s so life draining I cannot put up with this fake relationship, she has drained me physically , mentally ,financially, like a vampire they suck the very life out of you if we let them , I know this is early days heartbroken , but I have to untangle this mess, she is v dangerous woman , please help me God !! 😢
One step in front of the other, one day a time. Over a period of time, you will realize you have more peace and less stress in your life. Trust me... IT WILL BE WORTH IT! It is very empowering I promise. Hang in there! God Bless you!
You will get through . Stay strong
Love how you introduce yourself
When i was with The ex covert narcissist. Before i knew she was a a narcissist. She was afraid of being honest
Afraid of truth
Afraid of conflict
Afraid of her own emotions
Afraid of be found out
Afraid of abandonment
Afraid of being by herself for more than 10 minutes
Afraid of being afraid
Afraid her parents would find out she's dated an older man
Afraid of rejection
Afraid of quilt
Afraid of losing her looks
Afraid of keeping her word or promises
Afraid her ex supply would warn me about her afraid of responsibility after of accountability
Afraid of being a decent person
Afraid of choices
She discarded 4 years later after to give closure or actually let me know she was leaving.
No contact total 100% ghost non existent in my life for 5 years zero hoover attempts. Life is back to fantastic. Once again.
she sounds more like a bpd type person than narcs, but still scary regardless
PLEASE make a video on parents who are suffering with narc kids..PLEASE.
Thank you.
I know all this, i go true hell with Cluster B’s people, but you have so Pleasant voice, all the best dear
All true. Thank you Jill.
Excellent video. Thanks
They are silent killers.......
Namaste 🙏
You are true about what you are saying, because if I say something about them they are saying I'm insulting them emedtly!!
It's not at all any kind of insult, but it's what they get it as.
It's unbelievable how bad they are taking everything I'm saying to them
Being average. You are so right. They have to be better than. 🙄
Being exposed. I done this to my Narcissist sister and mom. They explode. I just 😂 at them and walk away.
Being ignored or rejected. I done the ignored to my mom when she being a bitch. I done both to my sister. Both freak out and I just 🤭.
Disrespected. Anything could make them feel this way. 🙄🤷♀️
Irrelevant. Yes my sister cant handle this one.
After Therapy I have a no contact for both of them now. ❤
Good for you! No contact is essential. It’s been two years since I went no contact with my narc SIL. Stay strong.
@@82nisey 2000 for my sister and 2009 for my mom of no contact. Mom died this March. No funeral due to lockdown. No tears either.
Thank you
Breton. TY
they they they can you see your own shadow lady? only they are....wow so happy to meet an angel once!!!!
Thank You☆
Thank you so much for the work that you're doing. It has blessed me tremendously. In the understanding of seeing the things that are not to be seen. And you understand what I'm talking about the spiritual things. I just pray that I'm a better man a better friend and better husband someday. And a better man of God than I have in the past. Thank you ma'am God bless you.
I do not know if it was smart.. But I have been sending her your videos? When she texts me my reply is your videos. That may not be very smart? But hey she is tore my heart out!!! I'm not playing her game anymore. She is exactly what you have been explaining. Better yet can the whole family be narcissist? I believe that her dad is the only one that's not. I will have my friend help me log on to your Facebook. I have many questions I would love to ask you. This has helped me tremendously. But I have to give all my credit to God.... but you have blessed me tremendously with this. Thank you so much ma'am. And may God bless you multitude. Sincerely Wayne
Jill this is Randall Abney. I want to tell you thank you so much. You have helped me tremendously. I have moved on and God has blessed me tremendously in my spiritual life. Financially I am growing so fast it is awesome. My prayer life and my heart I'm so much happier I don't know if you remember me? But I'm the one that my childhood sweetheart found me. We are talking lol. A lot..lol
God's timing is perfect and every way. I'm going to try to get with you on Facebook. I don't know a lot about Facebook. I am so happy so happy for you with your son. I can't fight the tears back being so happy for you. I think about my future being with my ex. Wow she's a bad lady. But that money this will help her stay out of trouble. Regardless of money I am spiritually with. And she spiritually as poor as you can get for being a Holiness person. I don't claim a religion ma'am I just try to be the best man I got I can be. If there's anything I've learned in life. It is that there is no real religion. You are either a person of God or not. I can't wait to get onto Facebook with you. I want to share my experience with you. I have shared it with people and it takes many tears. Or they're smiling so big that you can't see your face. LOL all you see is their teeth. LOL it brings joy to my life and my heart to share the experience that I went through. I am a true person and my life is an altar. I keep my prayer tight now. Jill thank u and i hope i hope question I get to talk to you on Facebook thank you and you have a blessed dayma'am
Weak point of Narcissist is their confidence level. If you understand their game and break their confidence level then they belongs to nowhere.
Jill, I am learning so much from you and your important research and information!! The problem is I am realizing I seem to be surrounded by Narcissists LOL Raised by one and my poor husband had both parents and ex wife suffer from this brain damage. Both of us were alienated parents from previous marriages. Biggest reason why I needed to understand wtf is wrong with these people!!!!!! Thank you 🙏🏼
Totally correct
i have gone through hell and back.. my ex is a mean evil cheating woman.
52 52 I have no doubt. None whatsoever.
thanks girlie i wish you were my counselor
Good. Glad something does
I've gone through each nd every matter you've mentioned. I've gone for a divorce, still the empath in me is thinking about the inconvenience that they'll go through without me. Kids are of 24 nd 20 years of age, whom i need not CARRY with me.
WOW I will say I Will Not fall for that again
The worst enemy you have is yourself. I have burned myself down more than anyone else can do to me. I'll say this God burned me down to a pile of Ashes. And he's used my tears to remold me back into what he wants me to be. My life is an altar I have nothing to hide and I hide nothing
My sister went on a rage saying that I disrespected her. Then went on a thirty minute tirade detailing what a piece of shit I was. Wow! No, it’s not me who is disrespectful, it’s you!
Jill, you said in one of your videos that it is better to "disengage" from a narcissist, but what If can't afford to disengage from one because he/she is my boss and I badly need my job to support my family. Please advise on how to handle such a situation. Thanks.
Dr Ramini has a video on just how to "fluff" a narc. Research her vids.
Thank you, Virginia.
Start looking for another job ASAP & use the grey rock method. Your coworkers are NOT your friends. Make your money & go home.
@@PSALMS-oe7ri Thanks for the advise.
I'm doing a lot better thanks Jill🤠🐕🏚🌈🌄
Holy shit...
That's why she'd be so upset after I'd take her to A list parties or behind the stage to meet the band.
He can they hate being ignored when they ignore you for so long during the discarding stage?
What about zero contact?
Hi Jill! We love the work you're doing, so much so that I bought one of your writings as a show of support, and I look forward to reading it during these trying times. I'm also a fan of Dr. Ramani's TH-cam channel as well, and with that I was wondering if the two of you could do a collaboration to expand both your channels and your teachings in an exponential scale.
Sending you lots of love and good vibes. Stay safe!
Listen to Dr Ramini as well. Both are spot on!!!!!😀
@@virginiasanderson519 Yay to us! Dr. Ramani is indeed good! Love her as well.
Omg so 👍 good
I am curious! My ex was a recovering drug addict so I guess that would explain his narcissistic patterns?
Drug addiction is just another part. Not all Ns are addicts.
My soon to be ex-mother in law is like that,I told my daughter that her dad was never a good husband,all he ever did was call me names,and put me down,he would say and do things that were just shocking and outrageous.(I was trying to explain to her why the way she feels about him as her dad,is different than the way I feel about him as a husband,and now an ex)I got a little pissed off because his mother tries to involve my daughter in the personal things of the marriage and I had to tell her it doesn't matter to me what kind of husband his mother thinks he is(unless she's married to him its irrelevant.)so I dont need or want her opinion.
Oh,but his mothers favorite line is shes just jealous(she says this to him all the time about me.)I just laugh.🤣
Basically everything cause they can not be us good people.
This sure explains why things fell apart for me in romance with a narcissist twice the moment there was a definite possibility that a child was going to be coming into the picture and which got far worse the moment those children in agreement after marrying them once when later right after maybe having conceived one and then which got far worse after the children arrived when they could no longer be the center of my attention and so according to them I was all to blame and the crazy one no matter how bad they were ALL in union treating me like life itself depends on it. And so that fact about narcissists is now as clear to me as the existence of how a hell can exist on earth too for all of us still living human beings who are are by nature just as way too innocent while there is is still human life in human bones no matter who it is still alive needing to depend on them . It seemed like all hell was breaking loose in both those marriages at that time. And then somehow or other both of them managed to convince many that it was me instead who wanted to be the center of attention always all along while paying or supposed to be continuing to pay the bills to support me. Then as soon as a lawyer or someone else would catch on both those 2 narcissistic men would drop all contact with them right away to move onto their next flying monkey preferable in the military, police or the child welfare system recruit. It was a nightmare that lasted for a total of 40 years for me through those 2 marriages and 2 ugly cost a lot divorces. If it hadn't been for friends, relatives, family members and genuine church goers from more than one Christian worship rite and from Jewish services trying to help me through it I don't believe I could have survived well enough to carry on with maybe now still the possibility of ever being able to hold down any kind of full time job again including any kind of desk job which requires any kind of higher education to work behind a screen all day or to help people who are sick at work in any health care setting including being only a social worker or recreational therapy aid in any hospital.
Idk why it would matter if you were average at something. You can't be good at everything and there is nothing wrong with that. As someone who learned a ton of specialized skills, there are many things that I am maybe average at or know almost nothing about.
I found out one actually violated a dead body. Horrifying.
Well I exposed my narcissistic hyper sexual acts on Facebook. I put a picture of every one of her boyfriends on there. I had one of them threatening me. They called me and I told them off because she was ghosting me because I forgave her but she was my nurse's aide. Not like I just met her I knew her for 8 years. She said she's only with me and she loves me. And told me the same thing she told everybody else I can't be with you I got to take care of getting my kids back. While she's been doing the same thing to guys for the last 4 years. I was so depressed I have PTSD panic attacks depression and maybe bipolar. But I have a conscience I try to do what's right. This time I beat her to the punch because the day after Mother's Day she called I had another girl over which I should not have. I know that. It seemed to kill the pain for a little while. You're right sex is a drug. I really like your Channel and the way you explain things. I was going to my therapist once a month now I go once a week on the phone and I know she will tell me don't get stuff off the internet you can't believe everything just like my leg doctor but you are right. It was like a slap in the face left me wanting to die honestly after that. I have to heal and it will take a very long time because that was the week after Mother's Day. It is emotional abuse to be ghosted or is that the same as gaslighting? Well she got a stay away order against Me by lying now when I file for one I don't get anything. And she does that cry at the snap of a finger. She does everything you said and my reaction was very bad really bad like I said things I never should have said In the Heat of the Moment I went off the wall but I never threatened physical harm like one of her boyfriends did me or two
3:18 my granny lol
The "enlightened target"? It must have been quite the journey! One that made you brilliant in many areas of life! wow! Doesn't it make it all worth it after all??? even understandable!?