Feminism: We are fighting to give women choices. Bumble: How about 1 app where only women can make the first move, for your safety. Shallon: OPPRESSION! patriarchy!
Girls on Tinder: eww, these guys are so thirsty and creepy, I'm going to Bumble... Girls on Bumble: these fuckboys are so pussy, why won't they take charge?
Its the same with "I like good conversations" or "I only want men who can do good conversations" and the most what they can respond is "yes", "interesting", "I don't think so" and "xD".
The amount of thought I had to put into my opening tinder lines (had to observe something from their pics or their interests, or their bio) was exhausting. I've never been on Bumble and don't intend to be, as I find my odds are much better in personal interactions. while.
@@SneakerBiscut correction women like her are like that. Bumble is the worst app to get attention lol because women have to initiate the conversation. So bumble are for women who are a bit more invested ( even by a small margin)
And it's just 1 app, this is not the case on ANY other dating app. Lol shes ranting about an app that fulfills a niche market of woman who'd rather have a choice in who talks to them.
That's the issue. No one or no business can be responsible for how someone feels. If you feel oppressed then confirmation bias will always assign oppression as the cause or motivation of anything difficult or uncomfortable in your life.
1…Yes. Mufasa affected us all. So right, Aba. People need to appreciate more of what people have versus what they don’t. Unhappiness will always exist when you’re looking out of the window at potentials or hypotheticals versus enjoying the interior.
Funnily enough, for anyone who has any experience on Bumble. Most women open with something like "Hi" or "Hey" or "How are you" (all initial messages that would be incredibly weak for men to use on other apps and likely will not result in a response) and then immediately shuck the rest of the conversational burden onto the man.
I literally just had a match on bumble that gave me the pickup line “is this a museum? because you’re a work of art!” My response was me making fun (might’ve been a bit rude from me I’ll admit) to get a laugh back. I said “how long did it take to google that line?” The reason I don’t like that is cause it’s clearly a lazy copy paste that they’ve probably said to others. Every other girl it’s something cheesy or just “heyy” or “hi”.
@@Hoss_91 I mean that's better than, "heyyy" or "hiii". If the convo after that pick up line from her, whether it was copied or not, or said to others (like it really matters) is stale, wouldn't that give you your answer on the compatibility between you two?
Bumble isn’t about women taking the first move really, it’s about them having some quality control. 99% of women on bumble just say hi. I’ve still got to do all the legwork.
This. They do no effort. They do not want to do the first move, it is just about control. Having men who match with her and choosing when she will allow them to talk to her. Getting validation without having men sending messages until she decides that she wants more attention. Not surprising from an app whose founding principle is that men are the only one who harass.
Pretty much yes. Woman only see all the nice aspects and wanna claim that for thenselfes yet they trynna avoid all connected responsibilities. They see that among CEOs most are men but they don't see that they just worked and sacrificed more. Or that most dangerous jobs are performed by men as well. That's why I would never consider myself a feminist.
The “men are hunters” line is so funny to me because if you know anything about hunting there are different strategies to hunting. You can let the food or game come to you if you know their habitats and where they frequent, or you can set traps/bait.
It’s supposed to be lol the feminism that so many women claim today is not the feminism that made up the women’s suffrage movement. There was a time it did a lot of good for people. But now it’s become something heinous & it’s only hurting people, male & female alike. They are destroying all of the progress we made, as well as reversing the flow of progress. I don’t get it. It’s like they can’t rationalize that there’s bad people that will hurt you out there, regardless of gender. To them it’s just women good, men bad. But I know women who are exactly what feminists claim all men to be. Abusers, manipulators, liars, cheaters, etc. that’s just HUMANS. Some bad, some good. That’s life lol But they can’t see this for some reason. Also, she said men who don’t make the first move are fuckboys but to me that just says they’re scared to b/c women have the power in those situations. I made the first move on my husband, turns out he’d been madly in love with me for 2 years & we’ve now been together 10 lol he’s a literal saint & the opposite of a fuck boy. So I’m just super offended by feminist rhetoric lol Plus I was raised by my father who had to be mom & dad while working full time. I’m sorry to rant, I’m just “triggered” as they say 😂 I was going to have a simple reply to your comment agreeing but the dam broke, I get pretty emotional about this topic lol The men in my life, my dad & husband, are the two people who made me who I am & they’re who I’d go to war for, the most important people in my life. But, more importantly, my “speech” is b/c I would hate for men to forget that there are SO MANY women who support you & love you as human beings & understand your struggles too. And this is all coming from a minority, liberal, woman. The radicals try to divide everything & make everyone think just b/c you’re this you have to believe that, etc. When really there’s bad people on every side & the good people would probably agree on a lot of things if we actually spoke. Hope all is well for you & I hope you don’t mind my perspective, even if it did get a little off track 😂
The whole point of feminism is for men & women to have social, political, and economic equality. If a woman wants to participate in traditional gender roles she can and if she doesn’t want to she doesn’t have to. Vice versa for men.
All her points and frustrations are literally the everyday man's perspective lol its everything we don't like that we have to deal with .. welcome to the wonderful world of being a man trying to date !!
Bro . you ever turn a woman down when she approaches first??? They go nutty. Saying your scared and ish . if the rolls reversed we would be canceled . quick😅
Hear me out here; I feel like Shalen is all butt hurt over bumble because she made an account, reached out to a dude with some weak ass game & got rejected. So now she’s all pissy saying she shouldn’t have to hit a dude up first because it didn’t work out the first time she tried🙄🤣
to give her credit i reckon she prolly tried more than once, but she deffo got rejected again and again, and again, and again, and again and again (i could keep going but you get the point)
Fun fact: the creator of Bumble is a woman, Whitney Wolfe Herd. Yet Shallon STILL tries to pin the blame and responsibility on men and "the patriarchy". OKAYYYYY THERE
Herd was also an executive at Tinder before resigning over sexual harassment issues, and her ventures since have been women-focused. Bumble was designed to solve some of the major problems for women in online dating. Shalon is way out of her depth.
The most terrifying thing for me is when she talks about her friend like: "She wanted a husband, she found a guy, they got married. So beta!". Bish, do you know how hard it is?! That woman was able to settle with her own requirements and also with another whole human being, and they created a family. You sitting here cannot even settle with common sense!
Funny story. A friend of mine suggested I try Bumble a while back cause I told her I didn't wanna be bothered trying to talk to girls anymore. I laughed when she told me about the dynamic of how it worked cause I already knew my inbox was likely to be a ghost town. You can be smart, good looking, goal-oriented, etc. whatever. Most men still know that women rarely make the approach on AND offline. I made the account with a completely satirical bio. Probably a given, but my inbox was indeed empty AF (lol). The best thing I did was set my expectations to not expect much of anything and just have fun. This allowed me to leave with a smile and my dignity instead of disappointment and another blow to my self-esteem. Bumble like all other dating apps are a joke so I treated it exactly as such.
She’s fucking delusional. I’m going to use her in my Anthropology discussion on the naturalistic fallacy and it’s connection to the second wave feminist movement. Thank you guys as always for the amazing content.
I made the first move for my man and even courted him cause I was aware he was a little anxious around me and unsure of himself, as soon as I continued talking to him and making him feel comfortable he became more confident and after two years we are very happily married :)
Same. (Not the “he was anxious & unsure” part) Nearly 14 yrs later, I still am. 😅 A lot of times I get the whole “that makes you masculine” line. Men deserve to feel desired & adored. Keep it up Sis.
The whole concept of Bumble was to serve as a level of security and empowerment to women. In the past, when you open messaging up to strangers online, women received many un-solicited messages, this manages that problem. This is a stupid argument. Don't like bumble? Then don't use bumble. This is a really simple fix. Potato Head.
literally any othe app and she would have what she wants but she needs something to complain about shes gonna say this is all men all men want this entitlement she thinks we have on dating apps ffs
You got a point. I agree. Women who say that are just upset they aren't getting many matches with "quality men" but they aren't swiping to find quality men because they have "High standards" that is why they can't find quality men. Women like this are like the type of women who skip through all the average Joe's and go straight to the guys with muscles etc.. and complain there are not any good men. 😕
The fact that she thinks guys don’t reach out first is kind of a self report that guys probably don’t reach out to *HER* as often as she’d like. I also love how she interrupts her own program to 💩 on her “friends” marriages. They need to watch out for her
yha she should blame new wave feminist they told us they want to independent and now be pushy when coming up to me. Like girls just don't like to hear the other side cause they only want their life to be a struggle not the other gender.
Theres always that one girl getting rejected that wants to try to pull all the other girls down. "Girl these men are just ignoring us" Nah thats just you
Bumble gives them a "hi" button that automatically sends a gif for a greeting. The app even removes the pressure of having to say hi. Even with that, she is complaining. Wth
LMFAO. I stopped using that app years ago. I didn't realize that it literally gave them a "Hi" button. How fuckin lazy is that? Hahaha. Yet these Feminist Karens are still complaining. Their lack of self awareness is mind blowing.
@@imjustsayin34 I mean, I superliked my current GF on tinder but I'm so glad she put in more effort than that. I'm not going to assume anything about your current relationship, I try to assume most people are decent, but I will say that despite what some people (mostly women) say, men actually love effort and attention. Even the most classically masculine men.
@@willcresson8776 I’m a young woman doing some research before I start dating again. What do you mean by effort and attention? Showing interest and confirmation that I like them? Too much pre-emotive confirmation would be a turn off for most… how much is the right amount?
Truth is even then woman would usually not be rejected as often as men would. No matter what we do, there will always be a difference which is why there will never be 100% equality
"If it's so easy, why can't guys do it?!" Well, they do it every-fucking-where else. Don't use Bumble if the one feature that makes it "special" is something you don't want. Stay in the other 9000 dating app options. It's basically like saying close down all the gay bars because I'm not gay and I don't want to be with men. It's so funny when women want the most unique and special messages, all the while no info in their profile that you could actually base anything on and when it's their turn to say something, first or not, they have absolutely nothing to say. It's also funny how she complains about "I don't want to be with someone who doesn't put in the work... If he can't develop the basic human interaction skills... If he can't approach a person he doesn't know and say hello, what do you think that relationship is going to be like". The irony is so god damn thick in the air, considering that's what can be true the other way around as well. She's basically complaining about the things she doesn't want to do if men don't do them. These people want everything and give nothing. It's kind of sad that women don't even understand how hard men have it on dating apps etc. The inequality of features and power, I showed women the male side of the apps and they were baffled by the difference. Even the women looking for serious relationships think men have it easy there and they are completely ignorant to all these things because they don't have to think about it. Women seem to think every man has it at least as easy to get dates as they do. Also fun fact: The moment you mentioned police at the end I heard sirens go by outside.
So true! They legit be having nothing in their bios to build an opener conversation about. You are almost forced to talk about their appearance and they obviously don't want that. Don't know how many profiles I come across that said, 'I don't know who how to write bios, just message me'.....I be like.....'ya couldn't even put effort into your own profile bios so people can see who you guys are as an opener?' PATHETHIC And the inequality with dating apps is so true! Men legit have to pay for all dating apps to even get anywhere. A woman can go on their for free and get 100+ likes a day. Simple. I gave up on dating apps last month. Waste of time for me
@@aguythatsrandom because they are used to using their looks to get everything they wanted since the beginning of time lol and then they act all high and mighty. Girl stfu and back that poon poon on over here 😆 you ain’t that special
When you only view the top 20% of men on dating apps of course you would have this delusional perspective of "men having it easy." Why bother with a profile bio when you know Chad is on his way to be at your DMs regardless? And once you're done with Chad you still got Tyrone and Carlos on their hit list. Notice how I didn't say her hit list? Yes she might think she's winning if she got dudes she actually like hitting her DMs and stroking her ego but once they fuck he's off to the next one. That's fuckboy 101 and it amazes me, with all the studies of dating apps either women do not care or they're completely oblivious to their own nature. They want you to type something quirky while getting their back blown by the guy who didn't even have to try.
@@marlom7882 I'm jumping out on a limb here and please correct t me if a m wrong but I assume the reason you are depressed is because you have recently learned that you have been fed lies your entire life and can not figure out how to actually fulfill that false reality. We've all been there. But there is another side to this coin I call the poker theory. Sometimes you are dealt a shifty hand you can either fold or play anyway. However you only play when you can see a weakness in your opponent's strategy. You use that weakness against them. Maybe in past hands they bet high when they have good cards but bet weak when they want you to think they have good cards so they take minimal risk while bluffing you. So you call that bluff by bluffing them. You don't ask for the rules to be changed to suit your situation you just play the game as it is. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose. Either way there will always be a new hand as long as you keep playing. Its the exact same principle with dating. You have to see it for what it is. A game. Sometimes you have good hand most of the time its a shitty hand. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose. And sometimes you have to bullshit to get to the top. When you win a hand you don't give some of your winnings back to your opponent. Fuck him. This is your game now.
@@marlom7882 in other words don't give up. Do accept defeat. Adapt. Restratigise. Take what worked and implement while discarding what failed. Sometimes you have to completely start over from scratch as in my case. So instead of looking for the one to marry. See how many new faces you can bust a nut on in a week. Try being indifferent instead of caring. Not out of spite but because you are a busy and fruitful man that has to much on his plate thean to be bothered with the fickle ways of females. A wise man said you will lose greatness chasing women but you will never lose women chasing greatness. And by the im sure you know by now this is the exact mentality women take towards us. They seek what is best for them as their end result your feelings and emotions be damnd.
Her: "Why cant guys say hi first?" That is exactly what we have to do on literally every other dating app. The trouble with this issue is so many women want control. They want to be the ones playing puppet master pulling the strings of all the men around them. They want men to be chasing them and want to completely control every aspect of their relationships.
This reminds me of Bill Burr and his wife Nia switching roles of approaching someone. Bill made the argument that women have no game. In the middle of their experiment, Nia asked why is Bill making it difficult for her to ask him out. His response: "Welcome to my world."
She's just embarrassed she has no game. Most of the things she's saying are the exact same argument guys that are clueless with wmn say. When people get exposed they tend to make up every excuse in the book as to why they aren't the problem.
Straight facts bro. Its the perfect indication of laziness. I know because I operated along those same lines for such a long time. And as a result I became a hateful and bitter person. That fuled its own fire. In a sense it is a strategy, an in efficient strategy but a strategy nonetheless and believe it or not that is also a desired outcome you weed yourself out for them. When I decided I didn't want to be that person and started understanding the rules of the game and how they are rigged against me far beyond what any carnival game could dream of I decided to play by my own rules. This batch thinks we are playing checkers and I'm now a chess master and its my board
There's nothing wrong with approaching men. They've been doing it for years. Some men are tired of rejection. At least they giving you the option of choosing.
And we still hit on women despite the 99 plus rejection rate. Men are learning how to take it and leave it, women are giving out the playbook for free.
@@brianbouf8303 Shallon Lester is an outspoken cheater and seriously questionable person, who is very adamant on describing every single take of hers she needs to repeat to a therapist, on her TH-cam channel instead. Now it is normal for women to feel anxiety around how much their man “wants” them which is why I think she is not gelling with the app, it forcefully places her in a scenario, where she has to express her wants first (making yourself out to be the more interested one is a place of weakness for both genders). But the literal only thing this means, is that she’s using the wrong dating app for her. Also cheaters project jealousy bc they do the same thing 🤠🤠
I'm sorry, I'm going to be incredibly honest here but online dating is mostly a looks game. No one actually reads bios, about me, nor any interest tags if it were, saying "hey" or "what's up" wouldn't be a trend from both men and women due to people talking about interests in the first few messages. Pick up lines and jokes almost never works because at the end of the day if she's not liking what she sees on your pfp, it's a no-go no matter how much you're channeling your inner Dave Chapelle.
Her friend has a decent agreeable husband that they met online... and she seems unable to cope with that by any means other than framing them both as defective in some way. People like this are alone because they choose to be, even if it happens to be an unconscious effort. I feel like the only kind of relationship she can even imagine is a fairly tale picture perfect scene that you'll rarely, if ever, catch in real life.
1 for Mufasa The delusion of this woman is something we see everyday, she believes everything around her should change, adjust, and correct itself however she remains pure and perfect. She's alright, she can do no wrong. Crazy.
I think that's because some people are so dang insecure about themselves that they seek weak spots in literally everything around them. And if someone is deficite oriented - they'll ALWAYS find stuff to cuss about.
Lol this. I feel like someone needs to tell her she doesn’t have to use the app if she doesn’t want to do the approaching. Like… it’s quite literally the only major dating app on the market with this system in place.
This woman’s whole speech is full of contradictions, fallacies, false analogies, and just plain self-centered nonsense. I hope she isn’t actually influencing too many young minds! P.S. I once handed a guy my phone number before he could ask, because I wanted to make sure he knew I was interested. This winter will be our 18 year wedding anniversary. 🎉 Go for it, ladies! ❤️
She gives me the same kinda vibe as when someone on dating apps goes: "I don't understand why you'd match without sending a message." But then also go: "If we match SEND ME A MESSAGE!" ..and then not get the irony.
Some women in their teens: “I’m a feminist!” Some women in their 20s: “I don’t need a man!” Some women in their 30s: “I have plenty of time to find a man.” Some women in their 40s: “Why can’t I find a good man?” Some women in their 50s and beyond: “There are no good men left.”
Thankfully most women aren't like this. According to both BBC and NYT articles and research of the past, 80% of women disassociate with this new schizoid radical Feminism, especially the 4th Wave of it. The Internet itself is simulated Schizophrenia too, and some people spend too much time on it and then let the mental illness born of it project onto their political perceptions of reality. Human brains ain't designed for this sh*, information overflow.
She's basically a traditional woman who has been pressured by her peers to be and act like a feminist. However, it doesn't come natural to her so she results in a confused contradictory mess.
That's the vast majority of "feminists" in my experience. The girls that my friends are with talk all about "the patriarchy" and "misogyny" yet they're with my 6 foot + tall, trade working, masculine guys who definitely approached them first and paid for the dates and all the other traditional shit
Basically. I’m a traditional woman and I have no shame. I refuse to let feminists confuse me about what I want out of life. I’ve been upfront with guys about the type of relationship that I want: I would like to have the opportunity to stay home the first few years of after giving birth before returning to work which means that my partner would have to be ok with being the provider. It’s not for everyone and that’s ok. But feminists shame you into thinking that by wanting to have a traditional role in your relationship you’re doing something wrong. What I’ve found is much more success in dating by being upfront and honest. Some guys are into it and others aren’t. I found my current partner and we’re both on the same page about our future and what roles we’ll take. Other women should try being honest from day 1 and you might find a partner but feminists are confusing women or shaming them for wanting to be in traditional roles, which is crazy to think about since feminism is supposed to be about “choices.” I guess choices only matter if you make the choice that feminists think is acceptable such as being a strong, hardworking woman 💪🏾🙄
@@mikehunt69981 thats only feminists in america from my experience. in france and most of europe feminists make memes about american "feminists" and their doubble standards. you have to understand that american media only shows fake feminists that dont say things that are actually feminist. feminism is verry diferent and more fair in other countries than america and canada etc...
They are absolutely correct about this. I approached my now husband online first and it was the best and humbling decision I have ever made. Had I sat there waiting for Mr. right to find me, we would have never crossed paths. Sometimes you have to go get what you want and don't waste time waiting, life is too short.
Imagine how many women have lost a chance to meet a great guy simply because they don't talk first. Men do it all the time and get rejected all the time, It's not too much to ask that women do the same. Congrats on your man!
I absolutely agree. Also, if the guy is of another race say white, Asian etc and want to date say a black woman they might not approach you because they may feel he’s not your type and afraid of rejection. Trust me I m gonna grab it before someone else.
Not to get too spiritual, but the word of God states that the woman was brought to Adam and then given a name by Adam. I humbly believe that a woman should be led by God to the right man and it will be a wonderful union.
When Aba said that he "knew fairytales weren't real when Mufasa died" I took that as an analogy for his father's passing. I appreciate that they are bringing awareness to social situations and inspiring people to have open minds and try new things.
I heard it come up at 3:54 MY FIANCÉ of 2 years overall 4 years, MADE THE FIRST MOVE ON ME! And we have the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had and it’s been incredible. The fact that for this ONE app, this ONE time, she doesn’t wanna reach out first???? Is actually insane to me. How you think you’ll find love that way, is beyond me
I think she’s just mad that she didn’t get any matches or she didn’t like the matches that she had. If she doesn’t like bumble, then don’t use bumble. I am a FULL ADVOCATE for Bumble because I met my fiancé on bumble.
That's cool! I met my husband on bumble. He is pretty shy and has some social anxiety so honestly having me make the first move helped. After meeting me, feeling comfortable, and clicking with me, he took it from there, so whatever works ya know?
Pretty sure even animal predators trap and wait for their prey LOL. I've atleast seen videos of it. Also I hate when women like this use the "men are hunters" thing. Know what hunters do? Kill. Sooooooo..?
I showed my little brother lion King for the first time. He's like 17 but there is a 9 year diff between us hence why he didn't watch it with me and my other siblings when we were young. It was sick to see a reaction from a late teen on mufasa's death (he knew it was coming but thought it would be idk more disney). I think he is finally a man because he understands loss now.
my biggest problem with the “yas queen” mentality is that it fails to see the other person(s) as a whole human being. if you’re getting everything you want what’s the other person getting? you’re basically either asking for someone who will completely ignore their own needs or you live in a fantasy land where there’s one person that you’re attracted to whose only desire is to make you happy.
20 years from now she’s gonna be giving the same advice and still be single. I slid into my mans dms and the rest is history, going on 5 years married. And I literally couldn’t be happier. 💓 my man is shy and doesn’t like approaching women, so it was perfect that I approached him first. It took that stress off him. And we ended up clicking perfectly. I also don’t really think Shannon knows what feminism is
More women would be happier if they took this approach "i.e. Hey I'm Interested". You would be surprised by the types of men one would find vs waiting to be approached.
@@herb_a_day Two arguments that are contradictory to each other is the point. The first being that men shouldn't relegate women to be or do things simply because they're women. The second is women expect and demand particular perks and treatment just for being a woman. Women don't bring life, they push out the baby. It takes two. Which is the exactly the argument women make when they want child support. They didn't do it by themselves right?
1. (Translation: Don't reduce me toy body or give me attention that I don't desire) 2. (No you don't!! Eggs are inert until they meet sperm. You don't bring life MEN DO!!!!) Ladies are vessels of life Men are the couriers, and bringers of life
@@herb_a_day #2 has absolutely no bearing on whether or not you should be treated better than a man. Men have superior physical attributes, should we be treated better because we are able to protect our lives and yours from danger and you aren't? Being able to give birth means absolutely jack sh*t when talking about how people should be treated.
Translation: "Bumble is hard, but I shouldn't have to change to another app. Also, I'm not entitled, but everyone else on Bumble should change to suit what I want."
Seeing the name "Shallon Lester" already made my stomach go into itself 50 times over. Also women only want men to make the first move so they can have control over the whole situation, don't fall for it fellas.
They want the power to accept or reject. Times have drastically changed from when women were worth chasing. Gone are the days when all they had to do was show up, now they have to bring something to the table and they hate that.
I have horrible social anxiety yet I still reached out first to my now husband. It wasn't to rush into marriage or kids, we are childfree so... To be fair, i got everything i ever wanted in my partner and more. Idk if its because he is just that good, or my standards were just that low; either way im happy AF.
face to palm. My grandmother always said, "don't take advice from someone whose situation doesn't look the way you want your situation looks." I don't source financial advice from people that don't have wealth but it baffles me how many women source relationship advice from women that aren't married. The blind leading the blind on this one smh.
I don’t understand why she’s crying about this lol😩 I met my bf on bumble and we’ve been together for a little over two years now! In the words of preach, no boo-boo nooooo 🤣🤣🤣
@Thomas Mottl why do you need to get married? My friends have been together for over 7 years now and havent gotten married. They dont care about that. They care about raising their family and living life.
And now as of Apr 30, 2024, Bumble has officially provided women the option to request the guy to msg first 😅, can't wait to see Preach say "no, no, no..."
The lion is actually responsible for fending off intruders(other lions, hyenas). Once he succeeds, the lionesses hunt for him. So lions are more like pimps. "You got the bread? Well done. Now go fix daddy a coyote sandwich and watch the kids!"
Not really apparently the lion only fights off other lions to showcase their "alphaness" on the other hand the lioness watch their young to prevent the lion from eating the cub
Men have been approaching women first for centuries…… Now woman you can approach first. You don’t have to worry about rejecting the thousands of men you claim you aren’t interested in. Choose who YOU want. I think she doesn’t like bumble because she wants to sit back and be validated all day by men. Even the ones she isn’t interested in.
yeha men approach so much that it just assumes that all men on the app will take anything they get and so skipps their approach and goes straight to the femoids reply
She does not like accountability, she fears rejection, and she's boring. I liked bumble when I was single. All you do is Swipe, match, write. They even had questions available to send if you had trouble, click a damn question and send it.😒
@Hominus Nocturna Same as they would on any app. The only difference is the app makes it more convenient, especially for those working opposing shifts. Do yourself a favor, if people want to use an app or approach in person, let them have thier way. Don't bash them. Live and let live.
Here's the thing that annoys me most. Half the women out there say you shouldn't just make the first move and go talk to a woman randomly in almost any situation but then the other half say it's only on men to do just that.. What they're really saying is.. "don't hit on me unless I think you're hot." So many men now a days are worried being labeled a "creep" for just trying to talk to a woman he's attracted too.. yet if he doesn't he's going to be forever alone. Catch 22.
I've seen online arguments from who gets to pay for dinner and "If he pays for you he's looking down on you for not being able to provide for yourself. Dump him" "If he insists on halfing it dump him he's a bum" "If he asks he's uncertain. Dump him" If women want to make the rules they shouldn't be surprised when men don't want to play a rigged game.
I actually liked Bumble because of us (women) starting the convo. Anyways, shout out to Bumble, met my husband on there 🤷🏽♀️ Good luck to this woman tho
Mufasa taught me that being nice gets you killed. And that fighting fair was a bully construct to make good guys drop their weapons to fight some bizarre fair fight where its 4 against one. If David had a fair fight with Goliath they would have told him to leave the slingshot behind and David would have been trampled.
My idea of a fair fight is hitting a baby seal with a baseball bat. If you find yourself in a fair fight and you're not a prizefighter, then your tactics suck.
The whole concept of a fair fight was developed by sports man wanting to not die in their fights. Makes sense, live to fight another day, and both parties come out with some money. However, that is a game or sport. Life is neither of them, and to think that people will abide by the rules just because of "fairness" is idiotic. In life people will do anything to win, and you should too. Of course you gotta live with yourself at the end of the day, but that's for you to worry about, not me.
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I've had female friends ask me how to get a guy to know she likes him. I ALWAYS say, be direct. Go up, say "I'd like to date you." None of them took my advice because they said they were scared of rejection. I just responded to each saying "He'll most likely at least have 1 date with you. Regardless of how long you date, you'll stick in his mind."
Key thing she doesn't understand: - Any guy who gets the self-confidence and everything ready to bust open doors will do one of 2 things: a) bust open your door and leave after looting, or b) respectfully not bust open your door, because he's got the skills to commit one of the thousands of much more valuable women than you. She's basically asking for someone to be rich in resourcefulness, and waste that resourcefulness on her. That's plain dumb.
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Feminism: We are fighting to give women choices.
Bumble: How about 1 app where only women can make the first move, for your safety.
Shallon: OPPRESSION! patriarchy!
RIP MUFASA
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🤦 it's like nothing can make her happy
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she just doesn’t like that she’s not receiving hundreds of ego boosting affirmations from random strangers…
The validations on dating apps gotta stop
They've all turned into BIGHEADS!!
Social media is redistribution of confidence from vulnarable men to low self steem woman
Love from brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷
nailed it
but she doesnt have to be on bumble. 😭
Girl on tinder: "you better say something better than just 'hey'"
Girls on bumble: "hey"
Most times they just match and don't make a move and the time runs out.
Girls on Tinder: eww, these guys are so thirsty and creepy, I'm going to Bumble...
Girls on Bumble: these fuckboys are so pussy, why won't they take charge?
@@babufits1584 Dude I know!
Its the same with "I like good conversations" or "I only want men who can do good conversations" and the most what they can respond is "yes", "interesting", "I don't think so" and "xD".
The amount of thought I had to put into my opening tinder lines (had to observe something from their pics or their interests, or their bio) was exhausting.
I've never been on Bumble and don't intend to be, as I find my odds are much better in personal interactions.
while.
Let's totally ignore the fact that Bumble was created BY a woman FOR women to feel safe and empowered.
They don’t want to be empowered. They want attention
@@SneakerBiscut correction women like her are like that.
Bumble is the worst app to get attention lol because women have to initiate the conversation. So bumble are for women who are a bit more invested ( even by a small margin)
😂
And it's just 1 app, this is not the case on ANY other dating app. Lol shes ranting about an app that fulfills a niche market of woman who'd rather have a choice in who talks to them.
That's the issue. No one or no business can be responsible for how someone feels. If you feel oppressed then confirmation bias will always assign oppression as the cause or motivation of anything difficult or uncomfortable in your life.
1…Yes. Mufasa affected us all. So right, Aba.
People need to appreciate more of what people have versus what they don’t. Unhappiness will always exist when you’re looking out of the window at potentials or hypotheticals versus enjoying the interior.
Funnily enough, for anyone who has any experience on Bumble. Most women open with something like "Hi" or "Hey" or "How are you" (all initial messages that would be incredibly weak for men to use on other apps and likely will not result in a response) and then immediately shuck the rest of the conversational burden onto the man.
Weirdly high standards ladies….
Bro 😂😂😂 so true
Girl on tinder's profile: "if you open with hi or hey I'm gonna unmatch you"
Same girl on bumble: "hey"
I literally just had a match on bumble that gave me the pickup line “is this a museum? because you’re a work of art!” My response was me making fun (might’ve been a bit rude from me I’ll admit) to get a laugh back. I said “how long did it take to google that line?” The reason I don’t like that is cause it’s clearly a lazy copy paste that they’ve probably said to others. Every other girl it’s something cheesy or just “heyy” or “hi”.
Facts
@@Hoss_91 I mean that's better than, "heyyy" or "hiii". If the convo after that pick up line from her, whether it was copied or not, or said to others (like it really matters) is stale, wouldn't that give you your answer on the compatibility between you two?
Bumble isn’t about women taking the first move really, it’s about them having some quality control. 99% of women on bumble just say hi. I’ve still got to do all the legwork.
Girls have zero game
This. They do no effort. They do not want to do the first move, it is just about control. Having men who match with her and choosing when she will allow them to talk to her. Getting validation without having men sending messages until she decides that she wants more attention.
Not surprising from an app whose founding principle is that men are the only one who harass.
It’s about them saying “hey” as an opener and expecting you to carry the conversation because you’re a guy.
Lol that's true. They will not write anything further
Sounds rough. I'm married and out of the dating game since 2013. It sounds like it got really bad since then. Okaycupid was decent back then.
She hasn’t noticed everything she saying about men applies directly to her. A fascinating watch in delusion and loneliness.
30% of the population is suffering from this. Structural changes in society are abound.
That's exactly what I was thinking the whole time.
"Is saying Hi really a big deal?"
Then do it girl, if it ain't hard, do it.
Remember she's already 40. She's about to get bitter af.
Actually yeah, hah .very true!
The Mental Gymnastics withthis one are of gold medal caliber.
Too emotionally risky;
A bridge too far;
BASIC human interaction skills;
Her lack of self awareness is stunning.
Here’s a simpler solution: if you don’t like bumble…
… don’t use the app.
Easy peasy lol
How dare you suggest a simple solution 🤣🤣🤣
THAT PART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bingo! I mean, I was the silly person who watched this, but. I was like "it's ONE app - that gives YOU the power!" I was confused by this tirade.
Simpler??? You mean the simplest.
Some People really out here demanding power, and then reject it when they see the responsibility entailed.
Uncle Ben out here dying for nothing.
@@justjoshua5759 Yoooo lmao
@@justjoshua5759 you win bro
Pretty much yes. Woman only see all the nice aspects and wanna claim that for thenselfes yet they trynna avoid all connected responsibilities. They see that among CEOs most are men but they don't see that they just worked and sacrificed more. Or that most dangerous jobs are performed by men as well.
That's why I would never consider myself a feminist.
they want to be invited to the party just so they can turn down the invite
The “men are hunters” line is so funny to me because if you know anything about hunting there are different strategies to hunting. You can let the food or game come to you if you know their habitats and where they frequent, or you can set traps/bait.
“Men are hunters”
I thought the whole point of feminism was to reject traditional gender-based roles and stereotypes.
She is embedding traditional assumptions in the language of feminism. Pretty confusing.
No the whole point is to give wahmen all the advantages while still also being the victim
It’s supposed to be lol the feminism that so many women claim today is not the feminism that made up the women’s suffrage movement. There was a time it did a lot of good for people. But now it’s become something heinous & it’s only hurting people, male & female alike. They are destroying all of the progress we made, as well as reversing the flow of progress. I don’t get it. It’s like they can’t rationalize that there’s bad people that will hurt you out there, regardless of gender. To them it’s just women good, men bad. But I know women who are exactly what feminists claim all men to be. Abusers, manipulators, liars, cheaters, etc. that’s just HUMANS. Some bad, some good. That’s life lol But they can’t see this for some reason. Also, she said men who don’t make the first move are fuckboys but to me that just says they’re scared to b/c women have the power in those situations. I made the first move on my husband, turns out he’d been madly in love with me for 2 years & we’ve now been together 10 lol he’s a literal saint & the opposite of a fuck boy. So I’m just super offended by feminist rhetoric lol Plus I was raised by my father who had to be mom & dad while working full time. I’m sorry to rant, I’m just “triggered” as they say 😂 I was going to have a simple reply to your comment agreeing but the dam broke, I get pretty emotional about this topic lol The men in my life, my dad & husband, are the two people who made me who I am & they’re who I’d go to war for, the most important people in my life. But, more importantly, my “speech” is b/c I would hate for men to forget that there are SO MANY women who support you & love you as human beings & understand your struggles too. And this is all coming from a minority, liberal, woman. The radicals try to divide everything & make everyone think just b/c you’re this you have to believe that, etc. When really there’s bad people on every side & the good people would probably agree on a lot of things if we actually spoke. Hope all is well for you & I hope you don’t mind my perspective, even if it did get a little off track 😂
Only if it’s inconvenient for women. Feminism was never about equality for most people, remember that.
The whole point of feminism is for men & women to have social, political, and economic equality.
If a woman wants to participate in traditional gender roles she can and if she doesn’t want to she doesn’t have to. Vice versa for men.
Oppression has lost all it's meaning. The Starbucks line is long and people be calling it oppression nowadays.
Hilarious 😂
women call it oppression when theyre not granted privileges.
your fault for listening to and becoming strong and independent forever victims.
👏🏾👏🏾 you said it!!!
People call work itself "oppressive". We're doomed. I see mass graves in the near future.
All her points and frustrations are literally the everyday man's perspective lol its everything we don't like that we have to deal with .. welcome to the wonderful world of being a man trying to date !!
I've used dating apps and the amount of female profiles that say, "I won't message first" or some dumb shit is too high for comfort.
Facts
Bro . you ever turn a woman down when she approaches first??? They go nutty. Saying your scared and ish . if the rolls reversed we would be canceled . quick😅
@@thatyellowfellow wild part is they’re still playing on easy mode lol
@@thatyellowfellow that gets me hype up lol those r the ones u smash and dash
I love all her ideas of opening lines for men to use on women. These opening lines are guaranteed to get you left on read.
"I'm a feminist"
*Proceeds to compare women to animals that men need to go out and hunt.*
I love how she says "if you don't have the BASIC human interaction skills" bitch you're the real one who ain't got those basic social skills lmao
The disconnect
Yep lol.Sounds misogynist.
She's gonna flip when she finds out that trappers and fishermen exist...
Amazing
Hear me out here; I feel like Shalen is all butt hurt over bumble because she made an account, reached out to a dude with some weak ass game & got rejected. So now she’s all pissy saying she shouldn’t have to hit a dude up first because it didn’t work out the first time she tried🙄🤣
🤣🤣🤣for reals
to give her credit i reckon she prolly tried more than once,
but she deffo got rejected again and again, and again, and again, and again and again (i could keep going but you get the point)
maybe he wasn,t a dude with weak ass game, maybe he was a dude who had seen or heard from her before on the internet/social media...
@@redsampler2017 I think he was referring to her game as weak. She approached him with her weak ass game.
@@asdfghj13579fly oh yes i see know, , nevermind then :-)
thanks
“If they can’t start a conversation then they aren’t for me.”
You just described why you wouldn’t date yourself.
Most underrated comment
Sssshhhh if you give them logic they’ll get angrier
This here
1. Never forget
The fact that she's trashing her friends' relationships who actually got married off of Bumble just shows how delusional she is.
and petty
And bitchy
And musty
And childish
And grimy
Fun fact: the creator of Bumble is a woman, Whitney Wolfe Herd.
Yet Shallon STILL tries to pin the blame and responsibility on men and "the patriarchy". OKAYYYYY THERE
That's usually the case where girls like this don't like something. "A man did this" or "How can I blame men for this?"
Wooooooooow
Herd was also an executive at Tinder before resigning over sexual harassment issues, and her ventures since have been women-focused.
Bumble was designed to solve some of the major problems for women in online dating. Shalon is way out of her depth.
Gyno-Centric brainwashing at its finest
Patriarchy pretty much always used as the bogeyman.
“That not Bumble, That’s Bumbleclot”
Comedy gold from the master
😂😂😂😂😂
As a jamaican that cracked me the f up
@@thx2319 really did
@@thx2319 i 2nd that. Made bust out laughing real quick
@@thx2319 bredda mi nearly dead.
I literally cackled!!🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
Angry, argumentative, inflated ego, and approaching 40... setting a new standard for femininity
The most terrifying thing for me is when she talks about her friend like: "She wanted a husband, she found a guy, they got married. So beta!". Bish, do you know how hard it is?! That woman was able to settle with her own requirements and also with another whole human being, and they created a family. You sitting here cannot even settle with common sense!
I laughed too hard at that last line cos it's so true 🤣🤣🤣
LMAO @ you can't even settle with common sense. That line took me out
Sounds more like she's resentful, and jealous.
This needs to be pinned
Definitely jealous, she is.
When preach said “it’s not bumble , it’s bumbleclot” 😂😂😂
Beeirah!
Had me weak 🤣🤣🤣
I thought he said bombaclat
my first thought was the Portegeuse word Bumbklaat
@@bozzy7946 Languages of the world unite, together we can fight the evil oppression of..French
The lack of self-awareness in this woman's arguments is truly shocking.
The only app where the woman says 'hi' first. Use one of the other apps
If you tried to make her aware she’d try to run from hearing it
Oblivious .
also her arms are so fat
Makes sense why she still single.
Funny story.
A friend of mine suggested I try Bumble a while back cause I told her I didn't wanna be bothered trying to talk to girls anymore.
I laughed when she told me about the dynamic of how it worked cause I already knew my inbox was likely to be a ghost town.
You can be smart, good looking, goal-oriented, etc. whatever. Most men still know that women rarely make the approach on AND offline.
I made the account with a completely satirical bio.
Probably a given, but my inbox was indeed empty AF (lol).
The best thing I did was set my expectations to not expect much of anything and just have fun.
This allowed me to leave with a smile and my dignity instead of disappointment and another blow to my self-esteem.
Bumble like all other dating apps are a joke so I treated it exactly as such.
Bumble really is just like the rest. If your a man. Empty and no woman willing to start conversation
She’s fucking delusional. I’m going to use her in my Anthropology discussion on the naturalistic fallacy and it’s connection to the second wave feminist movement. Thank you guys as always for the amazing content.
That’s really awesome hahaha
Ooooh how nice. Upload a video if you can
Please upload
That’s awesome
Second? We are in the third wave tho
I made the first move for my man and even courted him cause I was aware he was a little anxious around me and unsure of himself, as soon as I continued talking to him and making him feel comfortable he became more confident and after two years we are very happily married :)
Boom, you're a real one
YAHWEH Bless your marriage
Same. (Not the “he was anxious & unsure” part) Nearly 14 yrs later, I still am. 😅 A lot of times I get the whole “that makes you masculine” line. Men deserve to feel desired & adored. Keep it up Sis.
@@jollygoodgordon5580 thankyou thats so sweet
👍 good catch.
The whole concept of Bumble was to serve as a level of security and empowerment to women. In the past, when you open messaging up to strangers online, women received many un-solicited messages, this manages that problem. This is a stupid argument. Don't like bumble? Then don't use bumble. This is a really simple fix. Potato Head.
literally any othe app and she would have what she wants but she needs something to complain about shes gonna say this is all men all men want this entitlement she thinks we have on dating apps ffs
As a woman, I like bumble. I don't really see a problem here.
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You got a point. I agree. Women who say that are just upset they aren't getting many matches with "quality men" but they aren't swiping to find quality men because they have "High standards" that is why they can't find quality men. Women like this are like the type of women who skip through all the average Joe's and go straight to the guys with muscles etc.. and complain there are not any good men. 😕
Catering to feminism will get you canceled.
18:00 I know this video is a few months old, but I'm disappointed at the lack of 1's in the comments
The fact that she thinks guys don’t reach out first is kind of a self report that guys probably don’t reach out to *HER* as often as she’d like.
I also love how she interrupts her own program to 💩 on her “friends” marriages. They need to watch out for her
yha she should blame new wave feminist they told us they want to independent and now be pushy when coming up to me. Like girls just don't like to hear the other side cause they only want their life to be a struggle not the other gender.
Theres always that one girl getting rejected that wants to try to pull all the other girls down. "Girl these men are just ignoring us" Nah thats just you
One word can sum it up; projecting. 😂
I didn't even think about it like that.
The guys could smell the crazy coming from her. I knew as soon as I saw her on screen "this bitch is crazy."
Bumble gives them a "hi" button that automatically sends a gif for a greeting. The app even removes the pressure of having to say hi. Even with that, she is complaining. Wth
Yes it’s very low effort lol I didn’t even respond to my current boyfriend until he super liked me and I did the basic hey how are you💀
LMFAO. I stopped using that app years ago. I didn't realize that it literally gave them a "Hi" button. How fuckin lazy is that? Hahaha. Yet these Feminist Karens are still complaining. Their lack of self awareness is mind blowing.
@@imjustsayin34 Recruit difficulty
@@imjustsayin34 I mean, I superliked my current GF on tinder but I'm so glad she put in more effort than that. I'm not going to assume anything about your current relationship, I try to assume most people are decent, but I will say that despite what some people (mostly women) say, men actually love effort and attention. Even the most classically masculine men.
@@willcresson8776 I’m a young woman doing some research before I start dating again. What do you mean by effort and attention? Showing interest and confirmation that I like them? Too much pre-emotive confirmation would be a turn off for most… how much is the right amount?
Since women are independent women should approach men first. Women should feel what going up to strangers and getting rejected is like
Truth is even then woman would usually not be rejected as often as men would. No matter what we do, there will always be a difference which is why there will never be 100% equality
If you are a man that can reject women you are a high quality man
@@Aliyaaaa it's almost like people aren't equal, hopefully the npc clones will realise this some day
@@awildtomappeared5925 💯💯
Flirting or even eye contact is a struggle for them. They'll look scared of you and wonder why you didn't approach them.
Honestly, as a girl with a lot of dominant/masculine traits, I needed to hear this from you guys. I gotta stop complaining and approach.
Have you? 😮
You have to show that you're interested, otherwise nobody is going to approach you and we'll just assume you're a lesbian.
Guys and subtlety don't mix so you gotta be blunt at all times. No playing hard to get either.
My girl of 3 years now only got to where we are now cuz she asked me out 5 times
@@johioju5990 blink twice quickly if you in danger
"If it's so easy, why can't guys do it?!" Well, they do it every-fucking-where else. Don't use Bumble if the one feature that makes it "special" is something you don't want. Stay in the other 9000 dating app options. It's basically like saying close down all the gay bars because I'm not gay and I don't want to be with men.
It's so funny when women want the most unique and special messages, all the while no info in their profile that you could actually base anything on and when it's their turn to say something, first or not, they have absolutely nothing to say.
It's also funny how she complains about "I don't want to be with someone who doesn't put in the work... If he can't develop the basic human interaction skills... If he can't approach a person he doesn't know and say hello, what do you think that relationship is going to be like". The irony is so god damn thick in the air, considering that's what can be true the other way around as well. She's basically complaining about the things she doesn't want to do if men don't do them.
These people want everything and give nothing.
It's kind of sad that women don't even understand how hard men have it on dating apps etc. The inequality of features and power, I showed women the male side of the apps and they were baffled by the difference. Even the women looking for serious relationships think men have it easy there and they are completely ignorant to all these things because they don't have to think about it. Women seem to think every man has it at least as easy to get dates as they do.
Also fun fact: The moment you mentioned police at the end I heard sirens go by outside.
God damn cos u wrote a essay u earned a like from me
So true! They legit be having nothing in their bios to build an opener conversation about. You are almost forced to talk about their appearance and they obviously don't want that. Don't know how many profiles I come across that said, 'I don't know who how to write bios, just message me'.....I be like.....'ya couldn't even put effort into your own profile bios so people can see who you guys are as an opener?' PATHETHIC
And the inequality with dating apps is so true! Men legit have to pay for all dating apps to even get anywhere. A woman can go on their for free and get 100+ likes a day. Simple.
I gave up on dating apps last month. Waste of time for me
@@aguythatsrandom because they are used to using their looks to get everything they wanted since the beginning of time lol and then they act all high and mighty. Girl stfu and back that poon poon on over here 😆 you ain’t that special
When you only view the top 20% of men on dating apps of course you would have this delusional perspective of "men having it easy." Why bother with a profile bio when you know Chad is on his way to be at your DMs regardless? And once you're done with Chad you still got Tyrone and Carlos on their hit list.
Notice how I didn't say her hit list? Yes she might think she's winning if she got dudes she actually like hitting her DMs and stroking her ego but once they fuck he's off to the next one. That's fuckboy 101 and it amazes me, with all the studies of dating apps either women do not care or they're completely oblivious to their own nature.
They want you to type something quirky while getting their back blown by the guy who didn't even have to try.
Imagine needing an app to get a date. Just walk up to someone and chat.
"How do you make a woman miserable?"
Give her everything she wants.
This comment is so funny yet so true 😂😂💯
I am so glad I gave up. I’m clinically depressed myself. I’m busy trying to stay here I have no tools to help someone (else) who will never be happy
@@marlom7882 I'm jumping out on a limb here and please correct t me if a m wrong but I assume the reason you are depressed is because you have recently learned that you have been fed lies your entire life and can not figure out how to actually fulfill that false reality. We've all been there. But there is another side to this coin I call the poker theory. Sometimes you are dealt a shifty hand you can either fold or play anyway. However you only play when you can see a weakness in your opponent's strategy. You use that weakness against them. Maybe in past hands they bet high when they have good cards but bet weak when they want you to think they have good cards so they take minimal risk while bluffing you. So you call that bluff by bluffing them. You don't ask for the rules to be changed to suit your situation you just play the game as it is. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose. Either way there will always be a new hand as long as you keep playing. Its the exact same principle with dating. You have to see it for what it is. A game. Sometimes you have good hand most of the time its a shitty hand. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose. And sometimes you have to bullshit to get to the top. When you win a hand you don't give some of your winnings back to your opponent. Fuck him. This is your game now.
@@marlom7882 in other words don't give up. Do accept defeat. Adapt. Restratigise. Take what worked and implement while discarding what failed. Sometimes you have to completely start over from scratch as in my case. So instead of looking for the one to marry. See how many new faces you can bust a nut on in a week. Try being indifferent instead of caring. Not out of spite but because you are a busy and fruitful man that has to much on his plate thean to be bothered with the fickle ways of females. A wise man said you will lose greatness chasing women but you will never lose women chasing greatness. And by the im sure you know by now this is the exact mentality women take towards us. They seek what is best for them as their end result your feelings and emotions be damnd.
She cannot even say "hi!" and have some conversation. She had a job in this thing, and she cannot even do it right SMH.
Girls: "Dont hit me with no weak shit like hi or hey"
Same girls om bumble: "hey"
Her: "Why cant guys say hi first?"
That is exactly what we have to do on literally every other dating app.
The trouble with this issue is so many women want control. They want to be the ones playing puppet master pulling the strings of all the men around them. They want men to be chasing them and want to completely control every aspect of their relationships.
This reminds me of Bill Burr and his wife Nia switching roles of approaching someone. Bill made the argument that women have no game. In the middle of their experiment, Nia asked why is Bill making it difficult for her to ask him out. His response: "Welcome to my world."
Can you give me a link to the video?
I hope you found it, it's a great conversation they had
@@gametrain5439 I haven’t, what was it called?
This video’s fantastic- you have no idea
@Random Person it's definitely worth a watch; you should look it up!
She's just embarrassed she has no game. Most of the things she's saying are the exact same argument guys that are clueless with wmn say. When people get exposed they tend to make up every excuse in the book as to why they aren't the problem.
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Straight facts bro. Its the perfect indication of laziness. I know because I operated along those same lines for such a long time. And as a result I became a hateful and bitter person. That fuled its own fire. In a sense it is a strategy, an in efficient strategy but a strategy nonetheless and believe it or not that is also a desired outcome you weed yourself out for them. When I decided I didn't want to be that person and started understanding the rules of the game and how they are rigged against me far beyond what any carnival game could dream of I decided to play by my own rules. This batch thinks we are playing checkers and I'm now a chess master and its my board
"If she said hi on Bumble, She's ready to rumble."
-Michael Buffer
Also, R.I.P. Mufasa, a real 1.
I dont knoe what this means but i fuck with it
💯
He was a real 1
nobody has needed me more than this woman
There's nothing wrong with approaching men. They've been doing it for years. Some men are tired of rejection. At least they giving you the option of choosing.
🙏 blessed comment 🙏
And we still hit on women despite the 99 plus rejection rate. Men are learning how to take it and leave it, women are giving out the playbook for free.
If I go for like female model tier women I'm probably getting rejected. The absolute blow to your self esteem kills.
Never underestimate women’s ability to rationalize what men should be doing without shame
We don't claim this sociopath, please don't lump the mentally deranged in with the rest of us
you nailed it !! ;)
@@sp0ngeb00b7 nice to hear nice perspective.
It is like their ultimate ability
@@brianbouf8303 Shallon Lester is an outspoken cheater and seriously questionable person, who is very adamant on describing every single take of hers she needs to repeat to a therapist, on her TH-cam channel instead. Now it is normal for women to feel anxiety around how much their man “wants” them which is why I think she is not gelling with the app, it forcefully places her in a scenario, where she has to express her wants first (making yourself out to be the more interested one is a place of weakness for both genders). But the literal only thing this means, is that she’s using the wrong dating app for her. Also cheaters project jealousy bc they do the same thing 🤠🤠
Girls: “I don’t like it when guys say “hi” or “hey””
Also girls on bumble: “hey” smh
Or heyyyyyyyy
You guys get a "hey"?!
I get "👋".
I'm sorry, I'm going to be incredibly honest here but online dating is mostly a looks game. No one actually reads bios, about me, nor any interest tags if it were, saying "hey" or "what's up" wouldn't be a trend from both men and women due to people talking about interests in the first few messages. Pick up lines and jokes almost never works because at the end of the day if she's not liking what she sees on your pfp, it's a no-go no matter how much you're channeling your inner Dave Chapelle.
@@WhoBlah21 America is very superficial
Not just America, but in America, it’s pretty bad
Is your friend happy? Then what else matters? Jealousy of your friend is unbecoming.
Woke Woman: Hates dating app due to "oppression"
Also Her: Stays 30 and single
Everyone: I wonder why...
Everyone else knows why. Only she is confused 😕
She isn't woke. Lol. Hence her issues.
@@nataliejohnson9526 Woke is the reason
@@StevenLeeStudios absolutely NOT trying to be woke, you tripping HARD.
Wow she's a whole 30 and not married with 10 babies?! What a wasted life! /S
Her friend has a decent agreeable husband that they met online... and she seems unable to cope with that by any means other than framing them both as defective in some way. People like this are alone because they choose to be, even if it happens to be an unconscious effort. I feel like the only kind of relationship she can even imagine is a fairly tale picture perfect scene that you'll rarely, if ever, catch in real life.
1 for Mufasa
The delusion of this woman is something we see everyday, she believes everything around her should change, adjust, and correct itself however she remains pure and perfect. She's alright, she can do no wrong. Crazy.
1 for Mufasa
1 🙏🏽
I think that's because some people are so dang insecure about themselves that they seek weak spots in literally everything around them. And if someone is deficite oriented - they'll ALWAYS find stuff to cuss about.
1 🙏 Mufasa was a real one
Girl you ain't a wildebeest, you're a human being with agency who can talk.
Taking dating advice from someone someone who’s chronically failing at dating is like taking career advice from a homeless guy.
For those of you who are unaware: getting on Bumble is 100% voluntary...
Lol this. I feel like someone needs to tell her she doesn’t have to use the app if she doesn’t want to do the approaching. Like… it’s quite literally the only major dating app on the market with this system in place.
Say it LOUDER📢
Girl I'll just stay single. Hell
I watch both your videos and these guys. Weird mixing of the TH-cam circles. The TH-cam gods are pleased.
Camelot watches aba and preach? Big W.
Love you watch these guys !!!
Sup Cam!
Can't blame ya in this market.
That thing about the compromise: WISDOM - this channel is indeed a unique example of that done right
This woman’s whole speech is full of contradictions, fallacies, false analogies, and just plain self-centered nonsense. I hope she isn’t actually influencing too many young minds!
P.S. I once handed a guy my phone number before he could ask, because I wanted to make sure he knew I was interested. This winter will be our 18 year wedding anniversary. 🎉 Go for it, ladies! ❤️
That's is unfortunately a popular TH-camr my friend.
She gives me the same kinda vibe as when someone on dating apps goes: "I don't understand why you'd match without sending a message."
But then also go:
"If we match SEND ME A MESSAGE!"
..and then not get the irony.
Do you think she doesn't know , social media girls now days is just chasing views. Its pay check
I'm really proud of y'all!
I've only gotten into serious relationships with woman who showed interest in me first.
Some women in their teens: “I’m a feminist!”
Some women in their 20s: “I don’t need a man!”
Some women in their 30s: “I have plenty of time to find a man.”
Some women in their 40s: “Why can’t I find a good man?”
Some women in their 50s and beyond: “There are no good men left.”
Tbh, with wages so low none of these ppl know what a good woman is for. We live on plastic so 🤷 she thinks butter and pasta is hard.
Hahahahaha!
Women in 70s: *acceptance*
Thankfully most women aren't like this. According to both BBC and NYT articles and research of the past, 80% of women disassociate with this new schizoid radical Feminism, especially the 4th Wave of it. The Internet itself is simulated Schizophrenia too, and some people spend too much time on it and then let the mental illness born of it project onto their political perceptions of reality. Human brains ain't designed for this sh*, information overflow.
Lool why is that so right
I definitely will teach my future children to be reasonable
She's basically a traditional woman who has been pressured by her peers to be and act like a feminist. However, it doesn't come natural to her so she results in a confused contradictory mess.
That's the vast majority of "feminists" in my experience. The girls that my friends are with talk all about "the patriarchy" and "misogyny" yet they're with my 6 foot + tall, trade working, masculine guys who definitely approached them first and paid for the dates and all the other traditional shit
Basically. I’m a traditional woman and I have no shame. I refuse to let feminists confuse me about what I want out of life. I’ve been upfront with guys about the type of relationship that I want: I would like to have the opportunity to stay home the first few years of after giving birth before returning to work which means that my partner would have to be ok with being the provider. It’s not for everyone and that’s ok. But feminists shame you into thinking that by wanting to have a traditional role in your relationship you’re doing something wrong. What I’ve found is much more success in dating by being upfront and honest. Some guys are into it and others aren’t. I found my current partner and we’re both on the same page about our future and what roles we’ll take. Other women should try being honest from day 1 and you might find a partner but feminists are confusing women or shaming them for wanting to be in traditional roles, which is crazy to think about since feminism is supposed to be about “choices.” I guess choices only matter if you make the choice that feminists think is acceptable such as being a strong, hardworking woman 💪🏾🙄
@@mikehunt69981 thats only feminists in america from my experience. in france and most of europe feminists make memes about american "feminists" and their doubble standards. you have to understand that american media only shows fake feminists that dont say things that are actually feminist. feminism is verry diferent and more fair in other countries than america and canada etc...
You caught that too! Lmao!
Most women _aren’t_ contradictory mess?🤔
It's not bumble, it's a bumbaclaat . . . what a legend
They are absolutely correct about this. I approached my now husband online first and it was the best and humbling decision I have ever made. Had I sat there waiting for Mr. right to find me, we would have never crossed paths. Sometimes you have to go get what you want and don't waste time waiting, life is too short.
Imagine how many women have lost a chance to meet a great guy simply because they don't talk first. Men do it all the time and get rejected all the time, It's not too much to ask that women do the same. Congrats on your man!
I approached my (then future) husband in a massage Parlour :D
"Sooo... Whaddya watching on tv?"
Best catch ever!
@@thiacari it's funny coz we are easy as hell yet a "hello" is too much for some ladies💀
I absolutely agree. Also, if the guy is of another race say white, Asian etc and want to date say a black woman they might not approach you because they may feel he’s not your type and afraid of rejection. Trust me I m gonna grab it before someone else.
Not to get too spiritual, but the word of God states that the woman was brought to Adam and then given a name by Adam. I humbly believe that a woman should be led by God to the right man and it will be a wonderful union.
When Aba said that he "knew fairytales weren't real when Mufasa died" I took that as an analogy for his father's passing. I appreciate that they are bringing awareness to social situations and inspiring people to have open minds and try new things.
She’s an example of, “the emptiest vessel makes the most noise.”
Never heard that saying before, and I’m definitely stealing it lol
In this case the vessel is a hallowed out gaping t￦at
I heard it come up at 3:54 MY FIANCÉ of 2 years overall 4 years, MADE THE FIRST MOVE ON ME! And we have the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had and it’s been incredible. The fact that for this ONE app, this ONE time, she doesn’t wanna reach out first???? Is actually insane to me. How you think you’ll find love that way, is beyond me
I think she’s just mad that she didn’t get any matches or she didn’t like the matches that she had. If she doesn’t like bumble, then don’t use bumble. I am a FULL ADVOCATE for Bumble because I met my fiancé on bumble.
ayy hope yall enjoying life together!!!
No I got ghosted or ignored almost every match ended after a 2 min conversation
That's cool! I met my husband on bumble. He is pretty shy and has some social anxiety so honestly having me make the first move helped. After meeting me, feeling comfortable, and clicking with me, he took it from there, so whatever works ya know?
Women 2002 : ewww don’t approach me it’s creepy
Women 2021: ewww approach me or your not a real man
Nah today women still say both so you cant win
@@jasonandrews1770 the only move is not to play the game.
@@unfazedo straight up. Just work and vibe with the boys. Lifes been so much better ever since
It's not the same women! That's the problem, women from one group try to speak for the ones in the other group. Now we all look crazy! 😂 🤣
@@ItsSimplyZoe The problem is neither should be creepy or "beta" so both groups sound crazy/entitled.
Her hunting anology is hilarious because trappers exist. You put out traps with bait and wait. The prey comes to you.
She doesn’t hunt or even understand these things so nothing she says will make sense
What Hunter wouldn't want to see an animal stumble across his path?
New York City exists due to trappers. Imagine that!
Pretty sure even animal predators trap and wait for their prey LOL. I've atleast seen videos of it. Also I hate when women like this use the "men are hunters" thing. Know what hunters do? Kill. Sooooooo..?
I showed my little brother lion King for the first time. He's like 17 but there is a 9 year diff between us hence why he didn't watch it with me and my other siblings when we were young. It was sick to see a reaction from a late teen on mufasa's death (he knew it was coming but thought it would be idk more disney). I think he is finally a man because he understands loss now.
"Why is our manhood defined by our ability to approach you" Thats what I call bars MY GOD
If anything that says a lot about their femininity
my biggest problem with the “yas queen” mentality is that it fails to see the other person(s) as a whole human being. if you’re getting everything you want what’s the other person getting? you’re basically either asking for someone who will completely ignore their own needs or you live in a fantasy land where there’s one person that you’re attracted to whose only desire is to make you happy.
Damn you kinda killed that 🔥
Finally a woman who see it. Thank you, i was losing hope.
Facts
@@chikitronrx0 I feel like majority of them see it, they just don't want to accept it. Deniers of the facts.
The whole yas queen thing gives off a huge ego mentality. Not really my thing
20 years from now she’s gonna be giving the same advice and still be single. I slid into my mans dms and the rest is history, going on 5 years married. And I literally couldn’t be happier. 💓 my man is shy and doesn’t like approaching women, so it was perfect that I approached him first. It took that stress off him. And we ended up clicking perfectly. I also don’t really think Shannon knows what feminism is
You are awesome.
More women would be happier if they took this approach "i.e. Hey I'm Interested". You would be surprised by the types of men one would find vs waiting to be approached.
Empowered woman! I appreciate that you called him shy and not damaged or beta or some other excuse haters would apply. Enjoy your happiness!
@@deepzone31 Yet another good point! If I might add, a lot of men are, in fact, shy too!
Based for sure
lmao opening with "uhhh tapping is so easy why cant men do it!?" literally proving its too hard for her to do even that.
Women: "Don't reduce me to my reproductive organs!"
Also women: "Treat me better because of my reproductive organs!"
Those two sentences have different meanings
1. Means, I am not a walking vagina
2. Means, I bring life to earth including yours
@@herb_a_day Only a lady would rationalize what he said in that perspective and be completely oblivious to the irony of it.
@@herb_a_day Two arguments that are contradictory to each other is the point. The first being that men shouldn't relegate women to be or do things simply because they're women. The second is women expect and demand particular perks and treatment just for being a woman. Women don't bring life, they push out the baby. It takes two. Which is the exactly the argument women make when they want child support. They didn't do it by themselves right?
1. (Translation: Don't reduce me toy body or give me attention that I don't desire)
2. (No you don't!! Eggs are inert until they meet sperm. You don't bring life MEN DO!!!!) Ladies are vessels of life Men are the couriers, and bringers of life
@@herb_a_day #2 has absolutely no bearing on whether or not you should be treated better than a man.
Men have superior physical attributes, should we be treated better because we are able to protect our lives and yours from danger and you aren't? Being able to give birth means absolutely jack sh*t when talking about how people should be treated.
Translation: "Bumble is hard, but I shouldn't have to change to another app. Also, I'm not entitled, but everyone else on Bumble should change to suit what I want."
Yep. Pretty much sums up a lot of modern w0men today.
Seeing the name "Shallon Lester" already made my stomach go into itself 50 times over. Also women only want men to make the first move so they can have control over the whole situation, don't fall for it fellas.
They want the power to accept or reject. Times have drastically changed from when women were worth chasing. Gone are the days when all they had to do was show up, now they have to bring something to the table and they hate that.
I have horrible social anxiety yet I still reached out first to my now husband. It wasn't to rush into marriage or kids, we are childfree so...
To be fair, i got everything i ever wanted in my partner and more. Idk if its because he is just that good, or my standards were just that low; either way im happy AF.
face to palm. My grandmother always said, "don't take advice from someone whose situation doesn't look the way you want your situation looks." I don't source financial advice from people that don't have wealth but it baffles me how many women source relationship advice from women that aren't married. The blind leading the blind on this one smh.
Sound advice. often times you will see that the most obvious thing is what people tend to overlook.
single women should never listen to single women about dating. Thats like asking the competition for advice! Misery loves company
@@houseofhas9355 yeah you're just counting on their good will while ignoring the fact that the main drive is self preservation.
I thought this was common sense. Glad your grandmother was still sharing it.
" It's not BUMBLE it's BUMBACLOT !!" the best quote of 2021
I lost it
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
im sleep 🤣💀
Preach has been dropping hard bars this year.
Almost spat out my coffee, yeooooooo XD
I don’t understand why she’s crying about this lol😩 I met my bf on bumble and we’ve been together for a little over two years now! In the words of preach, no boo-boo nooooo 🤣🤣🤣
Marriage is not for everyone sometimes it can actually break a relationship up but congratulations on being together for a long time
Not to mention most of the 1st messages I receive is just "Hi" anyway. Lol
@Thomas Mottl imagine that. Other people doing things by different standards than your own. Crazy world right?
@Thomas Mottl why do you need to get married? My friends have been together for over 7 years now and havent gotten married. They dont care about that. They care about raising their family and living life.
Girl same!!!! I met my bf on bumble too and we've been together little over two years aswell
And now as of Apr 30, 2024, Bumble has officially provided women the option to request the guy to msg first 😅, can't wait to see Preach say "no, no, no..."
2020 Preach: "booboo"
2021Preach: "Booboo honey chicken"
2022 Preach: "booboo honey chicken stir fry shaka laka ding dong"
I really want him to say that now 😂
Underappreciated comment here, hahahaha
Actually sounds like something he would say LOL
The lion is actually responsible for fending off intruders(other lions, hyenas). Once he succeeds, the lionesses hunt for him. So lions are more like pimps. "You got the bread? Well done. Now go fix daddy a coyote sandwich and watch the kids!"
Yeah but he has to put out. Otherwise the lionesses will follow him around biting his balls until he either pounds them or they bite em off.
Lions are the example of a Harem King.
Not really apparently the lion only fights off other lions to showcase their "alphaness" on the other hand the lioness watch their young to prevent the lion from eating the cub
😂😂😂
@@bleh4352 no Male Lions only kill the Cub if it’s not genetically theirs and they don’t eat it
Men have been approaching women first for centuries…… Now woman you can approach first. You don’t have to worry about rejecting the thousands of men you claim you aren’t interested in. Choose who YOU want.
I think she doesn’t like bumble because she wants to sit back and be validated all day by men. Even the ones she isn’t interested in.
yeha men approach so much that it just assumes that all men on the app will take anything they get and so skipps their approach and goes straight to the femoids reply
Exactly
It's time for women to be conscripted as well. it's retaliation
She wants a relationship where she is in control but she doesn't have the leverage for it and doesn't want to work for it either
"Why can't guys use their thumbs and type hi?"
But can't answer why women can't do the same exact thing?
She does not like accountability, she fears rejection, and she's boring. I liked bumble when I was single. All you do is Swipe, match, write. They even had questions available to send if you had trouble, click a damn question and send it.😒
Straight up how i met my wife. Loved it!
@Hominus Nocturna Boring to you maybe. I had some fire conversations with a few women.
@Hominus Nocturna gay
@Hominus Nocturna Same as they would on any app. The only difference is the app makes it more convenient, especially for those working opposing shifts. Do yourself a favor, if people want to use an app or approach in person, let them have thier way. Don't bash them. Live and let live.
I'm willing to bet there are many that still do the cold approach, but for busy mofo's like me apps just make it easier.
1 time for Mufasa. A true King.
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Here's the thing that annoys me most. Half the women out there say you shouldn't just make the first move and go talk to a woman randomly in almost any situation but then the other half say it's only on men to do just that..
What they're really saying is.. "don't hit on me unless I think you're hot."
So many men now a days are worried being labeled a "creep" for just trying to talk to a woman he's attracted too.. yet if he doesn't he's going to be forever alone. Catch 22.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't
"The oaths of a woman I inscribe on water." --Sophocles
You also have the dating coaches telling men that women are dying to be approached.
@@MrKrushgutz yea nobody believes that, men know from experience... it's not a mystery, after 50 rejections you tend to figure out nobody is dying
I've seen online arguments from who gets to pay for dinner and
"If he pays for you he's looking down on you for not being able to provide for yourself. Dump him"
"If he insists on halfing it dump him he's a bum"
"If he asks he's uncertain. Dump him"
If women want to make the rules they shouldn't be surprised when men don't want to play a rigged game.
That was a lot of words to say "I am jealous of my friends relationships".
I actually liked Bumble because of us (women) starting the convo. Anyways, shout out to Bumble, met my husband on there 🤷🏽♀️ Good luck to this woman tho
I'm sure with her winning personality and positive outlook she'll have a rewarding, happy life with all 30 of her cats.
@@williammccullough2466 hey replace cats with dogs and that actually sounds like a fun life. Animals aren't that bad
Bumble is definitely one of the better ones I agree! Happy for you
That's awesome! Congrats! I tried it for like a day and decided it wasn't for me lol. Maybe I should give it a chance
Wifeee material on Bumble?
I've seen one similar comment.
Gotta check it out
"I am a feminist because I want women to not be treated with outdated standards but I will hold men to comparibly old standards"
Bumble is showing women a glimpse of what men go through. And they don't like it.
This should've been the title lol
Ikr?!?
17:55 tell em, R.I.P. MUFASAH
Mufasa taught me that being nice gets you killed. And that fighting fair was a bully construct to make good guys drop their weapons to fight some bizarre fair fight where its 4 against one. If David had a fair fight with Goliath they would have told him to leave the slingshot behind and David would have been trampled.
Fuck fair. I wanna win.
My idea of a fair fight is hitting a baby seal with a baseball bat.
If you find yourself in a fair fight and you're not a prizefighter, then your tactics suck.
Exactly
The whole concept of a fair fight was developed by sports man wanting to not die in their fights. Makes sense, live to fight another day, and both parties come out with some money. However, that is a game or sport. Life is neither of them, and to think that people will abide by the rules just because of "fairness" is idiotic. In life people will do anything to win, and you should too. Of course you gotta live with yourself at the end of the day, but that's for you to worry about, not me.
@@alexzanderroberts995 you don't have to leave with your self if your a heartless egotistic emotionless person.
So independent and strong, yet the ego quickly falls when you don't play their game.
WOAH WOAH WOAH!!! Let me get this perfectly straight: You comment something that is completely unrelated to the fact that I have two HAZARDOUSLY HANDSOME girlfriends? Considering that I am the unprettiest TH-camr worldwide, it is really incredible. Yet you did not mention it at all. I am VERY disappointed, dear in
hey is this a bot on your comment, or is it just one of those weird people who leave comments
I've had female friends ask me how to get a guy to know she likes him. I ALWAYS say, be direct. Go up, say "I'd like to date you." None of them took my advice because they said they were scared of rejection. I just responded to each saying "He'll most likely at least have 1 date with you. Regardless of how long you date, you'll stick in his mind."
RIP Mufasa
Key thing she doesn't understand:
- Any guy who gets the self-confidence and everything ready to bust open doors will do one of 2 things:
a) bust open your door and leave after looting, or
b) respectfully not bust open your door, because he's got the skills to commit one of the thousands of much more valuable women than you.
She's basically asking for someone to be rich in resourcefulness, and waste that resourcefulness on her. That's plain dumb.
She's post-wall with crazy masculine energy and some dude is supposed to approach her? Pffft!
This is brilliant lol
I asked my second husband to marry me. Being a feminist means ignoring sexist expectations/traditions and going after what you want, right?
That's cool
Did you buy him a diamond?
@@mikehunt69981 I bought us matching wedding bands with Xenomorphs on them. Big fans of Alien and Giger art.
@@WrathofFenrir99 Thank you, Asad 🥰 He is the love of my life!
@@riotsquirrelz u big weird
"Those are Feminist. You must never go there Simba!"
1 for MUFASA
💎💎💎💎💎 I'm starting with the Girl in the Mirror. I'm aking Her to CHANGE her ways. And No question could have been any CLEARER! If u wanna make the world, a BETTER PLACE PLACE
Then take a look at urself and then make that ..... CHANGE! 💎💎💎💎💎