Yas preach it! Somebody has to keep it real. If a man wants you hes gonna do whatever to keep you and have you in hes life. So dont waste your precious time and effort if its not recipocated.
I'm 23 years ago and I'm still learning to love myself , wanting to have life experiences and to simply enjoy my young years before marriage . There's no need to rush if you feel you're not ready for marriage work on improving things about yourself you don't like and the rest will fall into place .
Preach sister!! What you said is so true, and exactly what I try to tell my friends who keep getting their hearts broken again and again after getting into meaningless relationships that don't go anywhere. Luckily I knew most of this at an early age so I never really had much interest in relationships in high school (or even now, I'm 18). I'm going to finish uni first then worry about all that later lol. Btw I love your accent! Are you Kenyan?
I do agree about not prioritizing relationships and boyfriends, specially at a young age, but I think life should be taken a bit more lightly, and relationships are part of it. Knowing yourself comes also from knowing yourself in a relationship, how you interact in such a setting, it's part of life. There will be heartbreak of course, but it is what it is. Better experience life fully, rather than stay in a glass bubble until the right one comes along, cause we never know if they are the right one or not.
NO WAY YOUR NOT 30 I thought you was a teenager oh my god this is soo not true can you please tell me how you look after your skin like oh my god mashallah
AAAAHHH I just bumped into your video about big bold and beautiful eyebrows and I was like why do I feel this beautiful lady is exactly like me? You have this slight accent in your English and I almost certainly was sure you are Omani/Swahili or at least had some Omani genes in you and well what do you know.. you are Omani!! So I went through some of your videos and as I watched them I could see myself in you! I have the exact same big bold and beautiful eyebrows, I am Omani who yes, speaks Swahili and this video right here speaks exactly what's on my mind and what I always tell my girlfriends who go on and about how they cant live without their boyfriends!! SUBSCRIBED and I love you already!!!
+Lyutha Al Ismaili Aww thats so sweet! i should call you my twin then LOL! So glad that we have simliar thoughts let me know if there is anything you think our friends/sisters need to hear, thank you for subscribing x
Exactly every man would be completely different from another so calling oneself experienced with dating men is just as vague as calling oneself experienced with having friends just because you have some long list of friends doesn't guarantee you having one true friend who will never turn their back ...
Ma shaa Allah, again you brought forth worthy subject which I believe parents need to discuss with their children. I believe this education should start from an early age before this hormonal change comes to effect them. If this happens, the parent will face less resistance by the time they face these challenges.
It was very intersting to see your opinion of this topic. I'm from Germany, and here it is normal that teenagers have relationships and it almost doesn't appear that someone marries his/her first girlfriend/boyfriend. It's normal to be together with somebody for a few months, and then having a new relationship with someone else. Some are having their first experiences with twelve, others with 19, but it is not seen as a problem at all when two you people come togehter, and break up after a while. It it also openly shown in public. Of course the first experiences most of the time aren't that serious and don't last very long, but it is just normal. I don't really appreciate 12-year- old girls dressed as if they were 18, but I think the attitude of not having to marry when you are in a relationship is one that quite takes pressure of you. I think these differences just depend on culture, and of course on religion. I'm not saying that I don't like ''your'' way of seeing this topic, I just wanted to point out why it was so interesting for me how you see it. I think in your culture relationship just has a different status than in ours, and that's fine. And I also think that here in Germany women and men don't have these ''classic roles'' any more like the man taking the first step towards the woman, and earning all the money for the family. Here it can also be that in a family with a few children the man stays at home and the woman ears the money. But that doesn't appear that often here either. Just to find an end: I think for young women/girls in your culture it is a very good advice, but I'm seeing some things differently. Nevertheless, nice and interesting video, like all of your videos ;)
Thank you Dark Butterfly and you are right it is our different culture and beliefs that govern the way we live. I am always intrigued by the different ways we all lead our lives, i find it very interesting. Glad that despite the differences you found some things to relate to. I thank you once again for sharing your thoughts and appreciate you support. Much love from Oman x
Asalam alaikum w w Sister :) I'm 20 years old and, even though I definitely don't have your experience (and I respect you for that), you have spoken my mind. E.g.: when you say we're not rape enough to know what love really is; or when you say that the man has a plan and won't fear leaving us in order to achieve it and that we girls should be aware of that and focus on our own education and growing truly; also when you say that we girls should stay away from the "boyfriend-girlfriend relationship" despite what our society tends to teach us; and so much more! jazaka Allahu khairan! To sum up, after a lot of personal research about this subject, these answers you gave and those that I found made me think again how much God knows what He's speaking about when He gives us rules. It is for our own good, even though it looks difficult and unfair in the beginning. We must trust Him blindly because He doesn't have the individual interests we human beings have when He gives us advices. Anyways, thanks a lot for sharing your experiences, we need to hear that! Keep up the great job!
Ma sha Allah that is exactly it, we may not understand it and they are not easy rules to follow but thats where we not only test our selves but also our commitment to Allah. Trust in him and he will guide you, I speak from experience there is nothing than living life with faith in him. May Allah continue to guide us all to the right path, amen
Mashallah, this was a great video. I really appriciate a sister actually explaining why we doon't have boyfriends rather than just saying "It's haram" with no explanation as to why it is. Getting to know someone who has the intent of marriage is the best. May Allah swt bless you and increase you in strength.
Glad you enjoyed it, i totally agree I dont think we need to explain it to anyone why we are single, at least we shouldn't need to. Plus who would ask such a question! Indeed it is and i believe there is someone out there for everyone, may Allah bless us all Mona Whyt
Asa wrb +TheSewist. I love your videos mashaAllah. I am in my 30s and still haven't found a husband. I get discouraged but Allah swt knows best. I am not perfect and made many mistakes in my life but trying my best to be a better muslimah everyday inshaAllah. I still have hope that I'll find the right guy one day. Please keep me in your Duas. Ramadan Kareem and early Eid Mubarak to you.
LNGG's Channel Glad you enjoy my videos alhamdulilah. My dear keep praying and know that when it is right it will happen for you. We all make mistakes just remember that it doesn't define who we are, mistakes are essential part of life as that is how we learn so don't get discouraged and in sha Allah "Mr Right For You" will make an appearance soon :)
I agree with this video 100%. If a guy is serious about the girl in his life he will go through the right channels to get her. He’ll talk to his parents, talk to your parents, talk to the girl. He won’t be vague and he won’t send mixed signals. But if he’s just using you as an option, fling or time filler you probably don’t figure into his future.
Màsha Allah . I can't believe this video was here very beneficial and inspirational Allahuma Barik ❤️. Mind blowing words and germs . Stay blessed always ❣️ sister
this video came at the right time for me. I watch your videos since you started and I love you so much!! hugs and love from Singapore!! keep sewing. love, Raihana Rolls ♡♡♡
Omg you're so lucky to live in Oman ! I am from France and I've already been in Dubai, I love Middle East and I find your channel really interesting ! I am not bilingue but I am happy to understand all the things you say. Keep going ! I wish the best for you for this new year ! You're a beautiful young mother, best wishes ! Kisses from France ❤️
Bonjour BeauteEnFolie yes i am indeed lucky and blessed to be living in Oman. Thank you for your kind words and supporting my channel, regards from Sunny Oman :)
Excellent advice! The young women of today are getting so much misleading information from the world around them. They need to hear voices such as yours :-)
Wish I had this advice in 2005 when I got married to my now hubby I should have waited and I'd probably have waited and be with someone else I love my hubby but I sometimes wish I'd married someone else as a new Muslim in 2005 and now I'm 38 and afraid to move on I had a chance to marry the man I loved I gave it up for the hubby I have now I wish I would have waited to see if he would have followed threw and really married me or not but it too late now I jumped without looking into the person I'm married to please if anyone is to marry get to know well your future spouse and that includes us Muslims don't go in blind and think everything going to be good you have to know them and see if that is what you want yea they say you will grow to love your husband and yes I did grow to love him enough that I could never hurt him and go away there are days I wish I was not with him but in the end it was my choice to jump for the first for sure marriage with a Muslim after I converted instead of waiting and seeing what my options where and waiting to see if my true love from before Islam would have married me as he said so be wise and go into marriage eyes wide open don't jump blindly like me
I understand how you feel, it must have been harder for you as you are a convert. Nevertheless, whoever you marry, it will be the same. Keep the passions alive in marriage bcos it dies more quickly than in relationships and don't ever regret your choice, it was not really your choice, he was written for you the moment you are born. May Allah reward you for your patience.
My dear Angelic, first of all thank you for sharing such a private matter with me. I dont think there is ever a way of knowing that if you had married the one you wanted then if things would have been better, they could have been worse a lot worse. At least with your hubby, you are a muslim maybe if it wasnt for him you wouldnt be who you are today. I tend to agree with srkb001 marriage is one of the hardest relationships to maintain because it is linked with such great rewards not only in this life but also in the afterlife in sha Allah. I pray that Allah eases whaever you may be going through and make your marriage one that is filled with love, happiness and iman xx
I have a Muslim boyfriend even though he isn't such perfect Muslim. But he said he loves me and makes plans to make me his wife if I agree. Now there's a problem with me that even though he is a fantastic man, desirable by many women, I'm not sure if I feel so much connection with him to be truly happy and satisfied in this relationship. And if I'm not really happy then how can I maintain happiness for my man, my husband? I don't know if I'm being stupid and should not waste the great opportunity of getting married, or should I let him be free and just wait for a person with whom I'd have a deep connection and actually undeniably feel the feeling of love...?
Habibti Alanood, your most welcome it means so much to me that my videos help. In sha Allah i promise i wont promise to upload a video before the end of the week, thank you for your constant support xx
I'm 21 years old and I have never had a boyfriend and beleive me I regret. Now, I really can't see myself with someone 'cause I've been single for a longtime! Having a boyfriend isn't something wrong as everyone can see. You can have one and don't do the "haram" things. Having one will allow you to grow up as normal as people around you and enen find the man you wanna marry! I'm incapable of that right now!
My darling Lou Oh please dont regret being 21 and not having a boyfriend. I can totally relate to how you feel. Probably everyone around is has a bf or had one and you feel odd because you cant relate to it. As Jad جاد said one day your time will come and i pray that man will be worth it because i can tell you are someone special. However i must point out one thing you said "You can have one and don't do the "haram" things" i am sorry but i dont agree with that. You might have the right intentions to begin with but between a man and a woman something is bound to happen because it is how Allah created us so we cant just be "together" yet not do "haram". It just doesnt work that way unfortunately because if it did then Allah would have allowed it... Don't despair habibti i am sure Allah is saving someone for you, you just haven't met him yet :)
TheSewist but what if you have a boyfriend you have being with him for a long time and now planning to marry you.is it bad?or you can't marry the one you had as your boyfriend
lou b you just want to fit in with the crowd, you feel left out, don't you? You feel like all your friends have boyfriends and most of their relationships are working out and then there's you, the single lady. DON'T live for people, trust me this is a mistake I made. Live for ALLAH, don't try to fit in, don't ever think you will end up single and you will not know how to behave when you get married. If you really believe in Allah, believe in him the right way. Just put your trust in your creator. No amount of personal effort can get you the right man even if you believe so, it is Allah who decides.
Thank you so soooo much!! Hopefully you are here to talk about that awkward subject which is avoided by my parents and sisters ! We are all scared and embarrassed to talk about it cause we all say that it is haram and stop there. I finally found the answers I expected. Thank you again and I hope that Allah will help you stay in the right way ❤️❤️❤️
omg my jaw dropped at 1:38 my gosh im in my teens and i think she looks more baby faced than i am.. but i guess late 20s is where girl beauty reaches its peak. that's what i think
I agree with everything said. But I still pose a question. If a sister wants to focus on herself, should she not communicate that to the man that is in the process of courting her? I say this because there are sister's that say some version of "it's not you it's me" after saying they like the character, deen, etc, of the brother, but don't share their thought process. This can leave ill feelings and serious trust issues with brothers who view everything progressing smoothly.
mashaAllah continue strong sister beautiful advice to all our sisters. plus wow your swahilli is soo much better than mine and i come from kenya! anyhu jazakallah for this and everything you do for our sisters
Very truly words,the one true love you can do anything to get you, girls we don't know our values we don't understand what are we doing?what's our aim and who we are?? Focus on your own , love yourself ,be faith.. Everything best come on right time
Assalamu Alaikum Mayya. I am 28 years old. Got divorced in 2 years. Don't have kid. 1st marriage broken in a month. He took huge amount of loan on my name now am paying his loan soon after he kicked me. 2nd marriage broken in 3 months bcs his parents were not accepting me. So he left me. Am in deep depression. I want him back in my life. He was really caring nd deendaar human.
You are so right. I feel that if you can't be happy by yourself then you are not ready to be happy with someone else. You can't have your happiness depend on someone else. Also i'm muslim so I don't really date. Most guys can't except the fact that I am saving myself until marriage. Alot of guys don't get why I wont marry a non muslim man.
Nice video. I am not muslim and from all the "hijabis" I've seen on youtube talking about relationships...etc...You are nothing like that. You humble and smart. And your experience and sources of info (Steve Harvey) are smart. I have to say though, that what you have learned from a free man from the west is far superior than what your prophet advised. "maturity" isn't when you physically reach puberty, and married off, but rather a state of mind. Good job.
TheSewist why you did not answer my question?I've been waiting for the past 3weeks for real that's not good.reply me whatever I ask bcoz am not stupid I want to find out the way thats why I ask.am sorry
Hello ^^ Thank you for your video, there is actually a lot of advice that is very useful. But when you said “having the experience of boyfriend is useless”, you can’t put it on your CV. I am a Belgian woman and I have been married for 15 years and it’s great but I am still thankful for my previous relationships with my ex-boyfriends because indeed I learned a lot about myself and about relationships. So I won’t say that those experiences have been useless or a waist of time and they didn’t hinder me to meet my husband and to stay together :-) Or you think it is always useless ? Those small experiences made me understand who I was and what I was looking for in a partner. And I think those earlier experiences allow to know yourself, to know what you are looking for and in that way to avoid divorce as well. Please The Sewist, I really want to understand this all and why the way I think might be wrong according to your point of view. Thank you :-)
Hi liza, Thank you for commenting and trying to understand what I mean. I believe any experience good or bad in life is worth having because it teaches your something. When I said whats the point or its useless I meant in the context of devoting yourself to one man that isn't ready yet to be committed and some relationships last for years only to breakup..I am the type of person that feels my time is precious and I would only invest in someone that has me in their future (long term goals) not short term. I hope this sheds some light on what I shared, stay blessed much love from Sunny Oman
Thanks for the video Maya jazaki Allah khayran 3ana. Can you try to do a video giving advice on how we can find ourselves and what we really want? It is a big issue for me. I came to study in France few years ago and I am in my 1st year of master degree and for all these years I kept looking for non-specialized study because I don't know what I want to do later and it has been the same thing with men.. A big part of it is definitely the education in some Arab countries we are often never given a choice when we are kids so we tend to grow up with a huge lack of confidence which is definitely my case...
Your most welcome habibti, i know where you are coming from and totally get you. The thing about finding yourself is you have to know what you are passionate about, for me its sewing, blogging and making videos. You might not have found your passion yet or you might have it but don't realize it is your passion. I totally agree with @Roro Meme's comment below that families need to support their daughters and not wait to marry them off to start finding out who they are and what they are about!
I wish I could speak with you cuz I am younger and I have so many questions about my boyfriend and our relationship. I need your advices, I thank you for this video. You absolutely right !
thank you so much for making this video! you literally answered my questions! I'm 16 years old and currently have a crush on this guy and i don't know what to do about it aha plus i don't have anyone to talk to about this cause my sister is studying in another country...so jazakillah :D xx
Thanks !!! To me, you look like @MilcaLesCurls. She is a french speaker youtuber and is part Ethiopian. You look like someone else but I can't figure it out and it's driving me crazy 😄
You never truly know a person unless you've spent time doing daily mundane tasks(chores) with them, mostly accomplished by living together, but do you really want to get to know their quirky even dormant repulsive bits after marrying them? Putting yourself in a situation that is terribly hard to escape(especially for the Muslim ladies). What about live-in relationships? (not from religious point of view of course), not saying that those are perfect and do not entail any grief, but they are easy to escape in comparison to marriage which is a lot harder especially in predominant conservative Muslim culture(especially for the lady). I'm genuinely curious to know your opinion about this.
Habibty thank you so much for this video but I wonder if you have advice for divorced mature women with kids who want to remarry... and keep meeting the wrong men :(
i got married while being still at school at the age of 16 i do not regret it now i am 18 and it is now 3 weeks since i am not with him he actually asked to get divorced after 3 months of marriage to go back to his country he gave me his reason but i didn't really understand. He left to go to his country after the divorce and we chose to reamin together but he controlled every single thing i wanted to do.he insults me he treats me of bitch even if we re not near each other i do not understand why he insults me but when i talk to him about that he simply says that it is because i have changed and i deserve him being like that:( i left him and it have been 3 weeks now.i miss him but my life is so much peaceful now.i want to have a great life like everyone,get married and have children but not while being with someone who is violent.he sometimes say that i am not that beautiful just to lower my self estime when he is jealous.i admire you and love your videos.do you have some advices?
To be honest I do agree with dating to marry however I don't agree with no having a boyfriend whatsoever. I also believe that if u meet a Muslim boy and date him and ur both on the same page u can help each other walk the sacred path to marriage. I don't believe it's a bad thing and I think that people can be in relationships without doing sexual stuff and avoiding temptation because the other person is always encouraging you.
Finding someone who will be on the same page as you is great but with time one can not run away for the urges you will which is only normal hence why I suggest waiting until you are ready to be married.
I'm finding some of your views really support the non-religious view that it's ok to live together and even sleep together before marriage. That way you really know if the guy or girl is marriage material.
Hi Liz, what i meant by you will only get to know the person when you live with them was meant in the context to spend too time being in a relationship and by living together i meant getting married.
assalam alaikum the sewist I am 21 n I have a bf,I m getting married 👰 with him inshallah our perents are support to aur relationships alhumdulillah thank you so much 😊 for this video your all video is superb n very isnpirational for every girl allah bless you sister 😘❤️💛💚💙💜💕💞💝💘💖💗💓💟
my sister i realy like yu the way yu show good manner sisters coz yu had experiene what some sisters don't realize early their lives. i see some sisters granted their lives a person who only want to play their future quickly as possible. nowdays most young boys behave the way some non belivers do who they saw on social media or tv channels. sisters hold on yourselves even if you loved a person so much coz yu don't realy know if he will mary yu . i know some people demand something illigal against our din and our good conduct. if human being hates you but Allah loves you for yr iman and purity of yr heart.
Thank you so much for the message! I'm thinking about starting my own channel on motivation and lifestyle :) What kind of advice would you give before starting? Thanks
+Sofie Alhambra Your most welcome, well first advice i would give is for your to be yourself and choose topics that you are passionate about! Have fun :)
FashionistaBeauties its not a problem to have someone you love as a priority 😂 if anything its totally natural. I think she's just saying you should always take a step back and remember there's another person you need to be taking care of and that's yourself.
Well in my opinion you are very young but if you are happy that is most important..putting him as a priority isn't wrong as long as you don't forget yourself in the process
May Allah bless you sister ! You are courageous , beautiful ,generous and sincere as I can see from your videos ! Allah gave all those attributes and more to share with whoever wants to benefit from them!!! Please continue this beautiful work , You will be rewarded greatly Inshaa Allah ! I have only one favor to ask you If you can do it : Is it possible for you to write at the bottom of the screen in Arabic, French and Swahili ( because those are the languages you speak !!!) the translation of your message when you are making a video in English , The same request goes to instances where you are speaking for example in French , Arabic or Swahili !!! I think you are blessed by Allah to know these languages and It will be just right to widen your audience as much as you can (.....بث الخير فيه خير كثير )ز) I realize that It's a big job to do what I am asking you to do, Please consider it and see what you need in order to do it!!! Allah will help you !!!May Allah bless you and your family!!! I will pray Allah to give the stength to continue this beautiful work that you started....!!!!
Ameeen. Just a christian teen girl watching videos of muslims to understand you guys and I just stumbled upon your video and I agree completly
Thank you sweetie honoured that you stumbled on my channel, stay blessed
This woman is one of the best TH-camrs I've ever seen. I'm a 44 yr old single man and I'm inspired to watch her videos. I'm learning a lot.
Yas preach it! Somebody has to keep it real. If a man wants you hes gonna do whatever to keep you and have you in hes life. So dont waste your precious time and effort if its not recipocated.
Nayla great post!
I'm 23 years ago and I'm still learning to love myself , wanting to have life experiences and to simply enjoy my young years before marriage . There's no need to rush if you feel you're not ready for marriage work on improving things about yourself you don't like and the rest will fall into place .
Lensa A beautifully said 👍🏼
Great advice... I tell my younger sister the same thing!! As women we need to value ourselves and know that we're the prize👍👍
Exactly!
MASHALLAH GOALSSSSS, 32 LOOKIN 12. LMAO
Aww thank you!
Preach sister!! What you said is so true, and exactly what I try to tell my friends who keep getting their hearts broken again and again after getting into meaningless relationships that don't go anywhere. Luckily I knew most of this at an early age so I never really had much interest in relationships in high school (or even now, I'm 18). I'm going to finish uni first then worry about all that later lol. Btw I love your accent! Are you Kenyan?
@SouleikaDomingues Same! Let me get my degree first yeah and then think about all of this headache.
You are a true role model and inspiration. Mashallah :)
Jazaki Allah khir for saying so x
I do agree about not prioritizing relationships and boyfriends, specially at a young age, but I think life should be taken a bit more lightly, and relationships are part of it. Knowing yourself comes also from knowing yourself in a relationship, how you interact in such a setting, it's part of life. There will be heartbreak of course, but it is what it is. Better experience life fully, rather than stay in a glass bubble until the right one comes along, cause we never know if they are the right one or not.
What a wonderful lady. I think she said she's single now. She must be getting a million proposals. Do I really have to man-up now Mayya? (O mon dieu)
NO WAY YOUR NOT 30
I thought you was a teenager oh my god this is soo not true can you please tell me how you look after your skin like oh my god mashallah
+sabbia mahmood LOL oh my dear thank you so much for the compliment!
I plan on doing a skincare video very soon (sorry for the late reply btw )
هذي المرة الثالثة الي أرجع أشوف فيها الفيديو
من جد ساعدتيني كثير ، شكراً لكِ :)
AAAAHHH I just bumped into your video about big bold and beautiful eyebrows and I was like why do I feel this beautiful lady is exactly like me? You have this slight accent in your English and I almost certainly was sure you are Omani/Swahili or at least had some Omani genes in you and well what do you know.. you are Omani!! So I went through some of your videos and as I watched them I could see myself in you! I have the exact same big bold and beautiful eyebrows, I am Omani who yes, speaks Swahili and this video right here speaks exactly what's on my mind and what I always tell my girlfriends who go on and about how they cant live without their boyfriends!! SUBSCRIBED and I love you already!!!
+Lyutha Al Ismaili Aww thats so sweet! i should call you my twin then LOL!
So glad that we have simliar thoughts let me know if there is anything you think our friends/sisters need to hear, thank you for subscribing x
Exactly every man would be completely different from another so calling oneself experienced with dating men is just as vague as calling oneself experienced with having friends just because you have some long list of friends doesn't guarantee you having one true friend who will never turn their back ...
Ma shaa Allah, again you brought forth worthy subject which I believe parents need to discuss with their children. I believe this education should start from an early age before this hormonal change comes to effect them. If this happens, the parent will face less resistance by the time they face these challenges.
+Nageye kondas Indeed it does, its a very sensitive topic to address and it depends on the culture that the child is brought up it too.
It was very intersting to see your opinion of this topic. I'm from Germany, and here it is normal that teenagers have relationships and it almost doesn't appear that someone marries his/her first girlfriend/boyfriend. It's normal to be together with somebody for a few months, and then having a new relationship with someone else. Some are having their first experiences with twelve, others with 19, but it is not seen as a problem at all when two you people come togehter, and break up after a while. It it also openly shown in public. Of course the first experiences most of the time aren't that serious and don't last very long, but it is just normal.
I don't really appreciate 12-year- old girls dressed as if they were 18, but I think the attitude of not having to marry when you are in a relationship is one that quite takes pressure of you.
I think these differences just depend on culture, and of course on religion. I'm not saying that I don't like ''your'' way of seeing this topic, I just wanted to point out why it was so interesting for me how you see it. I think in your culture relationship just has a different status than in ours, and that's fine. And I also think that here in Germany women and men don't have these ''classic roles'' any more like the man taking the first step towards the woman, and earning all the money for the family. Here it can also be that in a family with a few children the man stays at home and the woman ears the money. But that doesn't appear that often here either.
Just to find an end: I think for young women/girls in your culture it is a very good advice, but I'm seeing some things differently. Nevertheless, nice and interesting video, like all of your videos ;)
Thank you Dark Butterfly and you are right it is our different culture and beliefs that govern the way we live. I am always intrigued by the different ways we all lead our lives, i find it very interesting. Glad that despite the differences you found some things to relate to. I thank you once again for sharing your thoughts and appreciate you support. Much love from Oman x
Asalam alaikum w w Sister :) I'm 20 years old and, even though I definitely don't have your experience (and I respect you for that), you have spoken my mind. E.g.: when you say we're not rape enough to know what love really is; or when you say that the man has a plan and won't fear leaving us in order to achieve it and that we girls should be aware of that and focus on our own education and growing truly; also when you say that we girls should stay away from the "boyfriend-girlfriend relationship" despite what our society tends to teach us; and so much more! jazaka Allahu khairan!
To sum up, after a lot of personal research about this subject, these answers you gave and those that I found made me think again how much God knows what He's speaking about when He gives us rules. It is for our own good, even though it looks difficult and unfair in the beginning. We must trust Him blindly because He doesn't have the individual interests we human beings have when He gives us advices.
Anyways, thanks a lot for sharing your experiences, we need to hear that! Keep up the great job!
Ma sha Allah that is exactly it, we may not understand it and they are not easy rules to follow but thats where we not only test our selves but also our commitment to Allah. Trust in him and he will guide you, I speak from experience there is nothing than living life with faith in him. May Allah continue to guide us all to the right path, amen
Amine!
Mashallah, this was a great video. I really appriciate a sister actually explaining why we doon't have boyfriends rather than just saying "It's haram" with no explanation as to why it is. Getting to know someone who has the intent of marriage is the best. May Allah swt bless you and increase you in strength.
Glad you enjoyed it, i totally agree I dont think we need to explain it to anyone why we are single, at least we shouldn't need to. Plus who would ask such a question! Indeed it is and i believe there is someone out there for everyone, may Allah bless us all Mona Whyt
assalaaam alaykum sister ,thank you so much for this advise,i love the part where you said ,''Allah has something special for you'' .mashallah :)
Walikoom asalam, its the least i can do and subhan Allah i said it cause its true!
we need more of these kind videos sisters
Asa wrb +TheSewist. I love your videos mashaAllah. I am in my 30s and still haven't found a husband. I get discouraged but Allah swt knows best. I am not perfect and made many mistakes in my life but trying my best to be a better muslimah everyday inshaAllah. I still have hope that I'll find the right guy one day. Please keep me in your Duas. Ramadan Kareem and early Eid Mubarak to you.
LNGG's Channel Glad you enjoy my videos alhamdulilah. My dear keep praying and know that when it is right it will happen for you. We all make mistakes just remember that it doesn't define who we are, mistakes are essential part of life as that is how we learn so don't get discouraged and in sha Allah "Mr Right For You" will make an appearance soon :)
***** Jazakallah Khair. Early Eid Mubarak!
MashaAllah, I don't know how your channel popped up in my suggestions, but one video led to another. This has been a great reminder for me, thank you
I agree with this video 100%. If a guy is serious about the girl in his life he will go through the right channels to get her. He’ll talk to his parents, talk to your parents, talk to the girl. He won’t be vague and he won’t send mixed signals. But if he’s just using you as an option, fling or time filler you probably don’t figure into his future.
This video has completely opened my eyes. JazakhAllah khair and may Allah reward you for your efforts. You're my new favourite TH-camr!
+Izzah Asif Ameen, Alhamdulilah thank you so much so glad that you found this useful. Much love from Oman
Màsha Allah .
I can't believe this video was here very beneficial and inspirational
Allahuma Barik ❤️.
Mind blowing words and germs .
Stay blessed always ❣️ sister
this video came at the right time for me. I watch your videos since you started and I love you so much!! hugs and love from Singapore!! keep sewing. love, Raihana Rolls ♡♡♡
Omg you're so lucky to live in Oman !
I am from France and I've already been in Dubai, I love Middle East and I find your channel really interesting ! I am not bilingue but I am happy to understand all the things you say. Keep going ! I wish the best for you for this new year ! You're a beautiful young mother, best wishes !
Kisses from France ❤️
Bonjour BeauteEnFolie yes i am indeed lucky and blessed to be living in Oman.
Thank you for your kind words and supporting my channel, regards from Sunny Oman :)
I needed this right now, May Allah reward you sister. 🤍 keep on making such videos🌸
Excellent advice! The young women of today are getting so much misleading information from the world around them. They need to hear voices such as yours :-)
Aww thank you, yes indeed young women have no guidance and don't value who they are, will try and continue to make more videos on this issue.
Wish I had this advice in 2005 when I got married to my now hubby I should have waited and I'd probably have waited and be with someone else I love my hubby but I sometimes wish I'd married someone else as a new Muslim in 2005 and now I'm 38 and afraid to move on I had a chance to marry the man I loved I gave it up for the hubby I have now I wish I would have waited to see if he would have followed threw and really married me or not but it too late now I jumped without looking into the person I'm married to please if anyone is to marry get to know well your future spouse and that includes us Muslims don't go in blind and think everything going to be good you have to know them and see if that is what you want yea they say you will grow to love your husband and yes I did grow to love him enough that I could never hurt him and go away there are days I wish I was not with him but in the end it was my choice to jump for the first for sure marriage with a Muslim after I converted instead of waiting and seeing what my options where and waiting to see if my true love from before Islam would have married me as he said so be wise and go into marriage eyes wide open don't jump blindly like me
I understand how you feel, it must have been harder for you as you are a convert. Nevertheless, whoever you marry, it will be the same. Keep the passions alive in marriage bcos it dies more quickly than in relationships and don't ever regret your choice, it was not really your choice, he was written for you the moment you are born. May Allah reward you for your patience.
My dear Angelic, first of all thank you for sharing such a private matter with me. I dont think there is ever a way of knowing that if you had married the one you wanted then if things would have been better, they could have been worse a lot worse.
At least with your hubby, you are a muslim maybe if it wasnt for him you wouldnt be who you are today. I tend to agree with srkb001 marriage is one of the hardest relationships to maintain because it is linked with such great rewards not only in this life but also in the afterlife in sha Allah.
I pray that Allah eases whaever you may be going through and make your marriage one that is filled with love, happiness and iman xx
I have a Muslim boyfriend even though he isn't such perfect Muslim. But he said he loves me and makes plans to make me his wife if I agree. Now there's a problem with me that even though he is a fantastic man, desirable by many women, I'm not sure if I feel so much connection with him to be truly happy and satisfied in this relationship. And if I'm not really happy then how can I maintain happiness for my man, my husband? I don't know if I'm being stupid and should not waste the great opportunity of getting married, or should I let him be free and just wait for a person with whom I'd have a deep connection and actually undeniably feel the feeling of love...?
Mayyyaa :) what can I say ....a7laa advice Wallah! I really needed to hear this thank you 7abibty..Haa la te5tefeen.. we wannna see more videos xxx
Habibti Alanood, your most welcome it means so much to me that my videos help. In sha Allah i promise i wont promise to upload a video before the end of the week, thank you for your constant support xx
I'm 21 years old and I have never had a boyfriend and beleive me I regret. Now, I really can't see myself with someone 'cause I've been single for a longtime! Having a boyfriend isn't something wrong as everyone can see. You can have one and don't do the "haram" things. Having one will allow you to grow up as normal as people around you and enen find the man you wanna marry! I'm incapable of that right now!
My darling Lou
Oh please dont regret being 21 and not having a boyfriend. I can totally relate to how you feel. Probably everyone around is has a bf or had one and you feel odd because you cant relate to it. As Jad جاد said one day your time will come and i pray that man will be worth it because i can tell you are someone special.
However i must point out one thing you said "You can have one and don't do the "haram" things" i am sorry but i dont agree with that. You might have the right intentions to begin with but between a man and a woman something is bound to happen because it is how Allah created us so we cant just be "together" yet not do "haram". It just doesnt work that way unfortunately because if it did then Allah would have allowed it...
Don't despair habibti i am sure Allah is saving someone for you, you just haven't met him yet :)
+lou b I had my first at 23 going on 24 didn't feel disadvantaged from the dating game point of view.
TheSewist but what if you have a boyfriend you have being with him for a long time and now planning to marry you.is it bad?or you can't marry the one you had as your boyfriend
lou b you just want to fit in with the crowd, you feel left out, don't you? You feel like all your friends have boyfriends and most of their relationships are working out and then there's you, the single lady. DON'T live for people, trust me this is a mistake I made. Live for ALLAH, don't try to fit in, don't ever think you will end up single and you will not know how to behave when you get married. If you really believe in Allah, believe in him the right way. Just put your trust in your creator. No amount of personal effort can get you the right man even if you believe so, it is Allah who decides.
Nushkah Issah well my advice is wait until you are both ready for a serious commitment now, may I ask how old are you?
Thank you so soooo much!! Hopefully you are here to talk about that awkward subject which is avoided by my parents and sisters ! We are all scared and embarrassed to talk about it cause we all say that it is haram and stop there. I finally found the answers I expected. Thank you again and I hope that Allah will help you stay in the right way ❤️❤️❤️
Alhamdulilah, I am so glad that you found this helpful
omg my jaw dropped at 1:38 my gosh im in my teens and i think she looks more baby faced than i am.. but i guess late 20s is where girl beauty reaches its peak. that's what i think
LOL, yes my baby face helps a lot in hiding my age and you are right late 20's is a prime age for women. I am sure you look wonderful :)
You are a true girl, i really appreciate you and wish you to be happy in your life :)
+Orchidée Sauvage Thank you very much, wishing you the same x
Wow you look so young I'm impressed
I agree with everything said. But I still pose a question. If a sister wants to focus on herself, should she not communicate that to the man that is in the process of courting her?
I say this because there are sister's that say some version of "it's not you it's me" after saying they like the character, deen, etc, of the brother, but don't share their thought process. This can leave ill feelings and serious trust issues with brothers who view everything progressing smoothly.
Keep it up on videos like this really some ladies need like this information to know about how their life will be :D
mashaAllah continue strong sister beautiful advice to all our sisters. plus wow your swahilli is soo much better than mine and i come from kenya! anyhu jazakallah for this and everything you do for our sisters
+Khalid Abdiaziz Thank you Khalid of your kind words and support
Thanks for the advices, wish you and your family all the best
Mashalllah I love the way of ur speech it is very educational and true..and the way how u speak ur way of approach is brilliant
Very truly words,the one true love you can do anything to get you, girls we don't know our values we don't understand what are we doing?what's our aim and who we are?? Focus on your own , love yourself ,be faith.. Everything best come on right time
Beautifully said, you tell them sister!
thank you for doing a video on this topic. now I know wat to do, because DAT is wat happening. may Allah(swt) bless u with jannah. inshaa allah
Jamal Williams your welcome is the least I can do
Great video, I agree with everything you said! I think I needed this video as a matter of fact. Thanks!
Oh i am so glad you found it useful, all the best with whats to come x
Assalamu Alaikum Mayya.
I am 28 years old. Got divorced in 2 years. Don't have kid. 1st marriage broken in a month. He took huge amount of loan on my name now am paying his loan soon after he kicked me. 2nd marriage broken in 3 months bcs his parents were not accepting me. So he left me. Am in deep depression. I want him back in my life. He was really caring nd deendaar human.
You are so right. I feel that if you can't be happy by yourself then you are not ready to be happy with someone else. You can't have your happiness depend on someone else. Also i'm muslim so I don't really date. Most guys can't except the fact that I am saving myself until marriage. Alot of guys don't get why I wont marry a non muslim man.
Nice video. I am not muslim and from all the "hijabis" I've seen on youtube talking about relationships...etc...You are nothing like that. You humble and smart. And your experience and sources of info (Steve Harvey) are smart. I have to say though, that what you have learned from a free man from the west is far superior than what your prophet advised. "maturity" isn't when you physically reach puberty, and married off, but rather a state of mind. Good job.
Two words: Just Amazing!
I love ur videos.. And Mashallah u look young and beautiful :-)
Thank you so much, glad you do as i love making them :)
TheSewist why you did not answer my question?I've been waiting for the past 3weeks for real that's not good.reply me whatever I ask bcoz am not stupid I want to find out the way thats why I ask.am sorry
TheSewist u can answer all the videos but uh can't answer mine as if am stupid..jazaakillah ukhtii
Nushkah Issah Salam sister forgive me I must have missed your comment I will look for it and answer it now
Nushkah Issah also I would like to point out that there are many comments that I haven't replied to which was unintentional of course
You're videos are very good ma shaa Allah! You're so inspiring ❤️ good advices sister🌹
Hello ^^
Thank you for your video, there is actually a lot of advice that is very useful. But when you said “having the experience of boyfriend is useless”, you can’t put it on your CV.
I am a Belgian woman and I have been married for 15 years and it’s great but I am still thankful for my previous relationships with my ex-boyfriends because indeed I learned a lot about myself and about relationships. So I won’t say that those experiences have been useless or a waist of time and they didn’t hinder me to meet my husband and to stay together :-) Or you think it is always useless ? Those small experiences made me understand who I was and what I was looking for in a partner. And I think those earlier experiences allow to know yourself, to know what you are looking for and in that way to avoid divorce as well.
Please The Sewist, I really want to understand this all and why the way I think might be wrong according to your point of view. Thank you :-)
Hi liza,
Thank you for commenting and trying to understand what I mean. I believe any experience good or bad in life is worth having because it teaches your something. When I said whats the point or its useless I meant in the context of devoting yourself to one man that isn't ready yet to be committed and some relationships last for years only to breakup..I am the type of person that feels my time is precious and I would only invest in someone that has me in their future (long term goals) not short term.
I hope this sheds some light on what I shared, stay blessed much love from Sunny Oman
Thank you very much for taking your time to answer. It makes more sense now :-) take care Lize
Thanks for the video Maya jazaki Allah khayran 3ana. Can you try to do a video giving advice on how we can find ourselves and what we really want? It is a big issue for me. I came to study in France few years ago and I am in my 1st year of master degree and for all these years I kept looking for non-specialized study because I don't know what I want to do later and it has been the same thing with men.. A big part of it is definitely the education in some Arab countries we are often never given a choice when we are kids so we tend to grow up with a huge lack of confidence which is definitely my case...
Your most welcome habibti, i know where you are coming from and totally get you. The thing about finding yourself is you have to know what you are passionate about, for me its sewing, blogging and making videos.
You might not have found your passion yet or you might have it but don't realize it is your passion.
I totally agree with @Roro Meme's comment below that families need to support their daughters and not wait to marry them off to start finding out who they are and what they are about!
I wish I could speak with you cuz I am younger and I have so many questions about my boyfriend and our relationship. I need your advices, I thank you for this video. You absolutely right !
I am here if you need any help, I know it seems very hard and that you don't know how to react but hang in there and have faith, biosus
it was really beneficial maya thankyou again for sharing this video
Thank you and you're welcome glad you found it useful.
Love it, please make more videoes!!! You are inspiration!!!🔥😍
Glad you did, in sha Allah I will
thank you so much for making this video! you literally answered my questions! I'm 16 years old and currently have a crush on this guy and i don't know what to do about it aha plus i don't have anyone to talk to about this cause my sister is studying in another country...so jazakillah :D xx
You are most welcome my sweetie pie xx
aqilahj27 I just realized that i didnt address your "crush" issue i am here if you need advice sweetie - sorry i missed it earlier x
Wow! Masha'Allah you look so young... and also this is a great video,good advice
Thank you Belinda, so glad you enjoyed it :)
You welcome.. And its Benilda not Belinda :)
Thank you that video was so helpful to me ,,,
Assalaamu aleikum sister. Did you make any new videos after you got married ? Eagerly waiting. I am an Omani lady too
Thanks !!!
To me, you look like @MilcaLesCurls. She is a french speaker youtuber and is part Ethiopian.
You look like someone else but I can't figure it out and it's driving me crazy 😄
I love this
You're right about the dating stuff
Thank you
We need more women like you
you have such a beautiful smile mashaAllah, thank you for your videos, may Allah bless you :)))
thank you so much for
I love you so much. Keep inspiring
You never truly know a person unless you've spent time doing daily mundane tasks(chores) with them, mostly accomplished by living together, but do you really want to get to know their quirky even dormant repulsive bits after marrying them? Putting yourself in a situation that is terribly hard to escape(especially for the Muslim ladies). What about live-in relationships? (not from religious point of view of course), not saying that those are perfect and do not entail any grief, but they are easy to escape in comparison to marriage which is a lot harder especially in predominant conservative Muslim culture(especially for the lady). I'm genuinely curious to know your opinion about this.
Yasss, u look great!
Habibty thank you so much for this video but I wonder if you have advice for divorced mature women with kids who want to remarry... and keep meeting the wrong men :(
i got married while being still at school at the age of 16 i do not regret it now i am 18 and it is now 3 weeks since i am not with him he actually asked to get divorced after 3 months of marriage to go back to his country he gave me his reason but i didn't really understand. He left to go to his country after the divorce and we chose to reamin together but he controlled every single thing i wanted to do.he insults me he treats me of bitch even if we re not near each other i do not understand why he insults me but when i talk to him about that he simply says that it is because i have changed and i deserve him being like that:( i left him and it have been 3 weeks now.i miss him but my life is so much peaceful now.i want to have a great life like everyone,get married and have children but not while being with someone who is violent.he sometimes say that i am not that beautiful just to lower my self estime when he is jealous.i admire you and love your videos.do you have some advices?
christelle m have faith on allah n make dua for him too that allah guides him and make dua for u too that allah help u find a righteous spouse.
Thank you for your time and effort. Your advise is always beneficial mashallah.
الله يجعله في ميزان حسناتك إن شاء الله
To be honest I do agree with dating to marry however I don't agree with no having a boyfriend whatsoever. I also believe that if u meet a Muslim boy and date him and ur both on the same page u can help each other walk the sacred path to marriage. I don't believe it's a bad thing and I think that people can be in relationships without doing sexual stuff and avoiding temptation because the other person is always encouraging you.
Finding someone who will be on the same page as you is great but with time one can not run away for the urges you will which is only normal hence why I suggest waiting until you are ready to be married.
Thank you for this video!
Your most welcome
I really want to open a channel like yours💙
thank u so much sister your video was an inspirational one.and frm now on even i wil try to help other girls from facing such things😐
جازاك الله خيرا ما قلته صحيح و منطقي جدا :)
i really really love ur advize nd i think its more helpful to me .. thankyou so.. much 😊
i miss you sister! make more videos plz plz
i loved this video so much
Glad you do
I'm finding some of your views really support the non-religious view that it's ok to live together and even sleep together before marriage. That way you really know if the guy or girl is marriage material.
Hi Liz, what i meant by you will only get to know the person when you live with them was meant in the context to spend too time being in a relationship and by living together i meant getting married.
what!!! Ua 32 years old mashallah u look so young
Thank you so much. You make my day
assalam alaikum the sewist I am 21 n I have a bf,I m getting married 👰 with him inshallah our perents are support to aur relationships alhumdulillah thank you so much 😊 for this video your all video is superb n very isnpirational for every girl allah bless you sister 😘❤️💛💚💙💜💕💞💝💘💖💗💓💟
Hijabi prin6ess wishing you both a lifetime of happiness 🌹
Tu es super. Continue!!! Tes vidéos sont vraiment inspirantes...
+Tulamana oz Merci!!
I would like to really really thank you dear sister maya u did really inspired me alot may God bless your heart
whaaat 32??? woow I thought you like me 19😂😂😂 unbelievable
That was then I am now 35 :)
TheSewist mashallah, sister you are very beautiful ❤
Definitely subscribing you are amazing
Aww thank you sweetie, I am honoured that you think so and thank you for subscribing means the world to me x
You have right points..:)
And where you are middle east.?
You are beautiful as you look so young!
Aww thank you!
Wow u look soo young how have you stayed like that good vid
Sarah Wilkinson just say ma sha Allah sis ^^
my sister i realy like yu the way yu show good manner sisters coz yu had experiene what some sisters don't realize early their lives. i see some sisters granted their lives a person who only want to play their future quickly as possible. nowdays most young boys behave the way some non belivers do who they saw on social media or tv channels. sisters hold on yourselves even if you loved a person so much coz yu don't realy know if he will mary yu . i know some people demand something illigal against our din and our good conduct. if human being hates you but Allah loves you for yr iman and purity of yr heart.
Libaax soojeeda totally true but hard for many to accept but the least we can do is give advice to each other.
Thank you so much for the message! I'm thinking about starting my own channel on motivation and lifestyle :) What kind of advice would you give before starting?
Thanks
+Sofie Alhambra Your most welcome, well first advice i would give is for your to be yourself and choose topics that you are passionate about! Have fun :)
I'm 17 & I got married a year a go and I'm happy as ever and I always put him as my priority, Is that wrong?
FashionistaBeauties its not a problem to have someone you love as a priority 😂 if anything its totally natural. I think she's just saying you should always take a step back and remember there's another person you need to be taking care of and that's yourself.
Thank you that is exactly what I said...thank you for speaking up!
Well in my opinion you are very young but if you are happy that is most important..putting him as a priority isn't wrong as long as you don't forget yourself in the process
A true motivational speech. ..tnx
shukran sister love from US
Do you think 20 years old is an appropriate age to be in a relationship ?
I agree with some but some points are just from her point of view as she is kinda depressed bc of her divorce...
May Allah bless you sister ! You are courageous , beautiful ,generous and sincere as I can see from your videos ! Allah gave all those attributes and more to share with whoever wants to benefit from them!!! Please continue this beautiful work , You will be rewarded greatly Inshaa Allah ! I have only one favor to ask you If you can do it : Is it possible for you to write at the bottom of the screen in Arabic, French and Swahili ( because those are the languages you speak !!!) the translation of your message when you are making a video in English , The same request goes to instances where you are speaking for example in French , Arabic or Swahili !!! I think you are blessed by Allah to know these languages and It will be just right to widen your audience as much as you can (.....بث الخير فيه خير كثير )ز) I realize that It's a big job to do what I am asking you to do, Please consider it and see what you need in order to do it!!! Allah will help you !!!May Allah bless you and your family!!! I will pray Allah to give the stength to continue this beautiful work that you started....!!!!
2:46 the video actually starts.
I wish if I can give you more than one like 😄 take those instead of 💚💜❤💞🌻🌻💐🌷
Aww thank you!
ur d best😎