This guy didnt include one of the most important details to pick up on when ruminating. Ususally the thing are ruminating on is in direct conflict with how you expect yourself to react. For example. Someone is ruminating about a lost oppertunity. They think of who was there, what they said, what other said etc. They focus on saying to themselves that they will have a plan next time or will just simply react better to the loss. In these moments there is a strong desire to cover up impotence. The conflict in most rumination is that you want to go back and correct whatever thing it is. So... What you should do at that moment is consider what about the loss makes you desire its return. Success? validation? Personal fulfillment? Stopping something terrible thing in the past from happening? The idea to start something new to replace that is a good start, but you cant base your new start off of the faliure of the old. Let it go. Its ok to fail, faliure is how we learn to improve. Im not saying be positive. Im saying keep neutral, keep learning and push towards the future positively. Anything else keeps you ruminating. Youre trying to build not deconstruct which is all rumination is. I do this a lot with fighting games when i try my best, and still get stompped. It helps to think of it as the process of getting good, but also applying patience with myself againstmy own faliure. 😊Ggs everybody
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This guy didnt include one of the most important details to pick up on when ruminating. Ususally the thing are ruminating on is in direct conflict with how you expect yourself to react. For example. Someone is ruminating about a lost oppertunity. They think of who was there, what they said, what other said etc. They focus on saying to themselves that they will have a plan next time or will just simply react better to the loss. In these moments there is a strong desire to cover up impotence. The conflict in most rumination is that you want to go back and correct whatever thing it is. So... What you should do at that moment is consider what about the loss makes you desire its return. Success? validation? Personal fulfillment? Stopping something terrible thing in the past from happening? The idea to start something new to replace that is a good start, but you cant base your new start off of the faliure of the old. Let it go. Its ok to fail, faliure is how we learn to improve. Im not saying be positive. Im saying keep neutral, keep learning and push towards the future positively. Anything else keeps you ruminating. Youre trying to build not deconstruct which is all rumination is. I do this a lot with fighting games when i try my best, and still get stompped. It helps to think of it as the process of getting good, but also applying patience with myself againstmy own faliure. 😊Ggs everybody