5 Signs His Mixed Signals Actually Mean He’s Falling for You
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Any guy who gives me mixed signals
The rollercoaster
Im out the door
Ive been with the avoidents
Plz ladies find someone more invested
Have more respect for yourselves
Real. Someone secure would be pretty clear and direct
It's nice to know but, girls, look at yourselves. You're probably wonderful, talented, intelligent, investing in you... There's a lot of nice guys out there. If you settle for a bad one, you're not allowing yourself to meet one of the good ones, nor allowing them to meet good women.
Like yourself first. If he's unsure of you, don't lose your limited time with him.
Aww… this makes me appreciate my guy a lot more than I already did. He’s extremely busy, has tons of commitments, but still carves out time for me, and makes the effort to be consistent and present, when we ARE together. He IS an Avoidant… not easy. But, a sweet guy.
Sounds like my man too actually
Same here!
How long have you guys been together? I've with one and he said "he can't be in a relationship" but then he wants to date me. I am very confused
Since December 2021, with 3 break-ups. Only after the last one in April 2024 I have learned about attachment styles and realised that he is a DA. He reached out after 5 months (after the breakup I went immediately in no contact). Meanwhile I read books, listened to podcasts about attachment styles. Now I know a lot about DAs and their behaviour. And also about how to react when he pulls away. It helped me a lot.
@@heidibrown8537 AND… make sure the reason that he “can’t” be in a relationship with you, is because he’s married, or already “in a relationship” with someone else! (It happens all the time!). Be smart!
Sounds like a fearful avoidant.
Awwww yes... That special "place" in Hell in which "insecure attatchment styles" lay - where being, or being WITH a "DISORGANIZED/FEARFUL-AVOIDANT" sorta reigns supreme.... It's truly the "best" of both worlds! It may possibly be the ultimate "Catch 22" dynamic of a person who is interested in(or already IS in) engaging in a romantic relationship (that has depth of emotional intimacy, along with true (God forbid😢) spiritual connection.😀😱🥺❤️
Very well said, my friend! Bad experiences and immature behaviour let us keep the distance. We all have our faults, but the question is, can this work? Most times not. It a fierce battle between Mind and Heart every time.
Those men with unhealthy patterns shouldnt be sending any signals at all, they should heal first and foremost. It's very egotistical of them to go about life hurting other people under a "Im deeply interested but Im really fearful" victim façade.
Agree! I'm over emotionally insecre men due to past relationships. It feels like I'm paying the price for whatever the ex did. He needs to get help to deal with his past and get the tools to cope with whatever life throws at them in the future.
You're using the words 'victim façade'...that says it all. It means he's playing a role, and uses it for his own benefit. It indicates you're dealing with a liar, a coldhearted, callous type of person. My suggestion: RUN, never ever look back!
But it is not what this video is about, in my pov. Everyone brings some kind of luggage into a relationship, no one is perfect🤔
And it's not like men can't get hurt or dissapointed, ofc that happens. Understanding that you might have triggered something, feelings that a man might need to proces and digest, doesn't have to be bad at all. It means he's taking it seriously.
Exactly 👍. Agreed. Get away from toxic insecure guys who punish you for whatever their ex did. They need therapy and we aren’t therapists.
Ladies, when a man is incapable of expressing his love for you by making your life a better world, he is functioning with the mind of a child - do a 180 and walk away.
Exactly ❤
Very good.
We're so used to viewing mixed signals as a red flag. Mixed signals scream ambivalence, lack of genuine interest, etc.
However, it could be the person IS interested, but is shy, fearful of showing vulnerability, and is moving slowly and cautiously to gain the courage to do more.
The trouble is, the latter scenario seems to be the exception (not the rule) AND you don't know which scenario is in play. 😢 So you have to wait (and wait) for more information to reveal itself.
It can take a LONG time. Most of us will be very discouraged that it's so ambivalent and painful.
Without question, this isn't ideal. That's why you don't hold your breath and you go on with your life, without putting everything on hold for the outcome. AND you keep looking for something better.
Been there done that. Never again. It’s nearly always red flags.
Mine felt a little not good enough for me and then no. 3 too. He says he couldn’t read me if I was interested at all in him.
He had a broken engagement in the past as well
I had to inspire him to step up
He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me before
It’s not always black and white
this got my heart 🥹 i’m praying and wishing you all the best with your guy and hopefully he steps up!
Usually these mixed signals men they have a lot of issues. Unless you have a lot of time and patience, enjoy the emotional roller coaster, please find someone else.
Exactly ❤. Often they turn out to be covert narcissists who play cruel mind games or just generally toxic people with a load of issues.
Yes! That was indeed VERY helpful. I no longer feel comfortable fused about if he likes me. Annnnnd, more importantly, I no longer will wait and wonder if I can help him. He does not make me a priority. Why am I making him one! Ty!!! ❤
Sure people in the comments say someone should heal first, but the real practice starts IN relation to another person, not outside of that. Yes you can learn stuff about yourself and be concious, but the triggering happens IN relationship with a partner so you cannot be an ice queen and just abandon someone who has a hard time already. Nobody is perfect and we all struggle.😅
Yes, Esther Perle says that people should work on themselves AND pursue relationships, because healing can only full happen with OTHER ppl interacting with you-not when you go like a monk alone in the hills to “work on yourself.”
We are both heart broken by our previous marriages, so we are afraid of being hurt again… but I can feel we have a deep emotional connection and like each other. Yep, this is gonna be a disaster, I know 😂
I hope it works out for the two of you😊
The question is gonna be: how committed are the two of you to one another? Willing to do the work? If you guys are, it ain't gonna be a disaster. ( might be hard work tho)
But if this new relationship is just for having a safe haven, getting a shoulder to cry on, and feel a bit better about yourself, getting validation....nah, indeed, you might be cooked😉
recently I met a guy at local bar, we talked for months and never asked me out. I was not interested in him romantically. One day out of the blue tells me to listen to two songs which I did. The songs was called *velarie and take me home* hell no, I stopped talking to this toddler in man's body in no time
I told him straight I want him. How much more validation does he need?
Exactly. He’s just playing games Run ❤
Some day maybe I'll write a book about all the mixed signals my ex gave me over the course of more than thirty years. I'll include a link to an online poll at the end where people can vote whether he genuinely liked me or not. Then maybe I will have some clarity. I was certainly never going to get it from him no matter how romantic he ever sounded. I don't know if it was love bombing and the narcissist playbook or not. Makes me feel like an idiot because I have no conclusion, and I wasted so much emotional energy on the question.
I feel your pain.
My guess is they played you because you were around and it's fun to flirt, charm someone etc. And easier than to properly commit. It would grow his ego if you showed interest so he leeched off your energy.
@@DancingThroughLifexoxo YES. Good intuition :) That was definitely part of it. I was narcissistic "supply" I think.
@ Thank you. Sorry to be depressing, lol.
@@bl7817 You're not a professional, you don't know who I'm referring to or what he did. He could very well have undiagnosed NPD or just narcissistic traits. I'm not going to refrain from using this word. It's important for people who deal with these cycles to recognize the pattern, comprehend the futility of trying to get them to change, and move on.
I love your jokes between the lines 😁 Thank u for your valuable info to understand men better 🙏🏻🙂
Hey Brian, thank you so much for this refreshing insight. Always love your content and delivery
Thought we had a good first date, and next day he ghosted me for 1 week. Then he came back happy and excited and friendly after 1 week. Acting like nothing happened 🤦🏾♀️
Sounds like someone I know
And you said: no thank you!😅
He says it makes him feel weird if I state my feelings .... He's at the extreme end of dissmisive avoidant ..... Unfortunately. He's been "avoiding" with his actions for almost 2 years. The 1st three months his words said the opposite.
Your sending mix signals He better get it together or it’s time to move on. He can hang in the background until he wakes up . Life is a learning experience. Life is short.
❤️🙏❤️ for sharing always ask the man he is straight forward 🙏❤️ I have learned this it's the best for us I think 🙌
...His wife! That caught me off guard :O
Ugh. Here is another thing that I have to pander to so a man will like me and fall in love with me?? Why can’t he change his personality to fit me? He can’t change who he is? Well, neither can I and I shouldn’t be expected to and act anyway other than what I feel and my truth. Love it or leave it dude, but the only way I would ever loose myself in a relationship is to pander to a big man baby act like someone I’m not. Brian needs to do a series for men that tells them to get help for their issues. How about that? How about tell them to say what they want and don’t want and don’t play games. How about that? Poor men. They say they want one thing but it’s a lie and they really want another thing. They just want the next best thing and I’m tired of being told I have to change for them. I don’t understand this shit at all.
You’re so right. You don’t have to change for anyone. ❤. He should be ashamed for making this stupid video. Always keep your standards high. Know your worth ❤❤
Is it normal for a man who hasn't been in any serious romantic relationship for more than 10 years, and now he notices his strong feelings for a woman and he wants to focus on his thinking? The relationship was going pretty good for almost four months. He notices the woman has been giving full attention to this relationship. He is still talking to this woman. Also, what will a man consider whether to move forward?
I'm patient but dont cross me thrice too much bs mixed signals and Im out idgaf if he projects his past experience onto me thats not me.
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It might be his wife… 3:51 ….widowers have had a wife and that can truly hold him back.
Maybe people become avoidant also for innocent reasons, that their body forgets the feeling of love, understnading, bonding etc...
I dont mean thoughts, or logic but the sensations in body.
because they were alone for long time, so their mind and body forgot the feeling and desire to be loved...
so they have to re-learn the feeling of the desire to be loved.
If we stop using smartphones and computers too much, our natural feeling of desire of love will come, because we will stop over-stimulate the brain with tech.
If you stop eating chocolate yor brain forgets the feeling of it..and lso forgets the desire to have chocolate.
It´s like when the athlete stops traning for 5 years, his mind and body partially forgets how it feels to be in perfect shape
and he also forgets also the feeling the desire to be in perfect shape and have perfect technique.
It takes 180 days to learn new habit, and it takes 180 days to unlearn or forget the habit.
Maybe you didnt forget that love and bonding exists, we see it in movies
maybe your brain just forgot the feeling of desire to be loved.
so you just have to re-lerarn "how it feels" to be loved, to have the desire to be loved etc.
I dont mean logic and thoughts...but the sensations in body,
The sport also creates pleasant sensations/feelings in body when you feel good.
Therefore many people dont do sports, because they forgot how pleasant it feels, and therefore their brain also forgot (partially) the feeling of desire to do sports. as they start remmebering the pleasant feeling, then they start to train and study again.
Love and desire is also training. There are seminars where people learn how to communicate with partner etc. They have great results.
Thank you I was needing this video
I call bs. If he wanted to, he would. 😅😅😅
Absolutely ❤ Totally agree 👍 ❤
Ive just had a guy involved in something secret but had no ability to say he like me
Leave as he doesn’t deserve you ❤
dont give me hope T_T
😅😅 Samee
mixed signals are mixed signals, don't give him excuses.
❤Sweetly Sweetie Sweeter❤
To look after mixed signals to know if a man is interested in you, you have to be REALLY desperate. If you are go find your life purpose and the right one will find you and pursue you Matthew 6:33
Agreed 👍
No i haven't been needy i hustwhowed intered and wanted to make plans. Ha is the thing, we meet only when be wants in ha terms as an avoidant
If, as the woman in the relationship, I don't mind the occasional waning attention/ stimulation, does that make me an avoidant too? 😬🤣
Hehe..Thank you for sharing a pleasant disposition in your delivery. It is very much appreciated. 😊
Understood, that is a lot.
More work is needed in my neck of the woods.
Thank you. 😊✌️
If a man just asking for a hug and then asks if you like him and the next week Sunday he just greets and walks on ?😮😅
He’s toxic. Walk away. You honestly deserve better ❤. He’s playing u
This video showed up right on time...thank you 🙏
His wife 😂
Thank you so much I very much appreciate you're videos and advice you always put things into very logical ways that make so much sense.... Thank You 🙌💯😊
My man sends mixed signals ❤ I love him awww 🥰
I don't think if he is already your man that you should still be getting mixed signals 😕. I think he is talking about when the man is falling for you in the beginning stages not already fallen. Ijs 🙂
@ well who knows if according to him he’s my man ? Lol I call him my man but idk what he really thinks due to mixed messages 2.5 years lol
@@Goldilocks444 Pls value yourself more and don’t stay with someone who devalues you by giving you mixed signals. You deserve better ❤❤❤
@@lisaz4411 it’s painful and confusing it’s a bit like he loves me he loves me not and it hurts
Thank you so much for this 😊. I see the body language as you explained and the little things he does ❤
How about mixed signals for years?
Don’t put with it. Leave. It means he’s toxic AF with issues at best or a covert narc who plays mind games at worst. You deserve better ❤
@ Well we aren’t in a relationship exactly. So, yes I can move on.
The thing about him is really mixed - but I'm not interested about that anymore. Or he's not at all interested, but he's very interested in the food I'm making.
He actually loves a Palestinian woman his age instead, even though he's loved me 1'st, sadly.
Leave. He doesn’t deserve you ❤❤❤
Thanks for your kind information be blessed 😊
Good job. Thanks.
Love it ❤
About that joke ( wife, haha), it's NO JOKE.
It happens. 🤦🏻♀️ 😿 🤬
Thank you Brian! I appreciate you! ❤
This is crap. Who wants this kind of man? Single or emotional roller-coaster? I'll stay single.
Or his girlfriend ! OMG it’s to complicated for me, I’m OUT!😊
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I ❤️ your videos💯 Very helpful, thank you!
Noted.
This guy Matthey Hussey's twin? lol
Your take shifts responsibility for poor conduct onto the recipient
What are you talking about? He never says you need to stick around.
Agreed.👍. He just makes excuses for bad behavior which keeps women in a loop of staying with toxic males who project baggage onto them do years. So sad really.
@@tess7798. He doesn’t. But videos like these give some women with low self esteem false hope to stick around with toxic guys that project their BS and insecurities and issues onto them for years. He needs to be more responsible what he posts. Who cares if a guy has secret feelings for you if he can’t or won’t just be mature and express it and treat you right ? We need to think deeply. It’s not a game. But these toxic immature guys will treat u like it is. Be wise. You only have one life to live ❤
lol 😂
So perfectly true. 🩵
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