Advice, opinions and suggestions are worthless. Every human being has a solution within self. Acceptance and love for one's self is a very strong foundation to build quality character on
Thank you so much better for making this you have shown a different side of gay black men and gay men. Not all of us have to be a stereotype or what Harris sexual society sees us as a minstrel show so I'm so proud of you that you had made this and for the black man that you interviewed I say congratulations and God bless you for sharing your story and I look forward to part 2
This is my 1st time watching this. This just came up on TH-cam as I was thinking of my life & where iam as a Gay man. This really helped me to be my true self. Loving myself has been so great in my life. Thank you fellas for sharing your story.
Thank you. I'm an 55 year old professional African American gay man. I can relate to these men in one or more ways. I live a very private life due to the way ppl and society treat gay men. Its not to say I don't accept who I am or love myself but it has been the easiest way for me to deal with it. I was rejected by my family as well. Again thank you for this program. Be Blessed and and continue to be a positive and informative voice for our young people
W.T MCPHERSON I appreciate your prospective, but at 52, I’ve come to realize that if I choose to live an invisible life, I contribute to the homophobic beliefs about us!
Has anyone noticed that the TH-cam posts with sassy, feminine, or comedic black gays have mega views while this post featuring out, educated, and not stereotypical black gays only has 3000 views after being posted for many months? What does that say? I say that not only is society is not interested in us but blacks in general and the black gay community is not interested in us. That is sad but expected. Thank you Derek for this post. It is much needed.
No one can tell our stories better than us. These men made me proud to be alive at this time. The future is looking great from where I am standing when it comes to being Black and gay. Too many of our brothers are suffering in silence due to homophobia and other fear from family and communities alike. Black brothers celebrating their lives and loves is as progressive as we get. Thanks to the host and panelists for this amazing documentary.
This is the same way that I view myself as an African American man. I'm currently 34 years old, gay and have my own successful security business. I love the fact that there are other gay masculine men like me out there. God bless us all beautiful beings.
Derek I am overwhelmed with appreciation for your project and I must say you have changed my one sided opinion of you and I am so grateful for your honesty
This is so stunning, the best thing ever, I am a gay man in my junior year in college and this was so phenomenal to see men be represented with a higher education as well and a example which is what I needed so thank you ❤️🙏🏾
This was good. I’m a 52 year old black gay man. I live in a pretty accepting environment, including work and church. It’s gotten a lot better from when I was a kid but sometimes I’m surprised how much homophobia and hatred of gay folks still exists. I think discussions like this help. Part of the problem we had when I was young is you felt so alone. I had a teacher tell me when I was young that homosexuality didn’t exist on the continent of Africa. At least kids today know that gay people are everywhere. We’re every race, culture. We’re fem, masculine and everything in between. We’re not alone.
Thank you so Much Derek Jae, to bring us this documentary. You All are Gorgeous never let people to down you for the color of your skin. Light and Love to you All.
This was DOPE! Hearing the stories & discussions were great hear.I thank the production team for presenting. Also making available for the world to see.
WOW!! Everyday I struggle with this lifestyle. I am a 63 year old black gay man that has a testimony to the majority of these stories WITH the exception of actually "coming out". I have lived a whole life as a lie and I applaud these MEN for standing on their truth.
Hi Ashley I am so sorry to hear about your experience of living in the shadows. Being brave takes courage and I applaud you for sharing. I also want to encourage you by saying it is never too late to live in your truth. One step at a time is how courage is reflected daily. I believe you have taken your first step to liberation by sharing this intimate aspect of your life. Hugs and love.
Great video Derek. Lots of gay and straight people need to watch this video. Not all gay people are the same. Very informative video not to mention very handsome successful men.
As a straight black woman, I must say, all of you are just handsome, fine and beautiful inside and out. The only thing that matters is that you all are good, kind, decent and happy human being. It's what's in your heart. Love who you are. Don't let anyone make you feel less than.
Derek Jae you go boy, this is a phenomenal and exceptional piece of work. Cuddos to you, i think you have touched on something here and the world needs to see documentaries just like this. I'm sure there are some out there, i don't know, but i loved this piece and what a show of courage these men have to share their story.
Thank you so much for this Derek! Seriously bro I feel like black masc gay men like myself are never represented. This is one of my driving reasons to become an actor yo show that gay comes in a masc form as well
I think it's encouraging to watch these men speaking of their experiences. I grew up in church after my parents used to get us dressed up and out the house on a Sunday. Later we went to a Pentecostal church and our faith as children became established. It was around this time or a little before that I realised I was different. We had come from England and were going to school like all these Jamaican kids. So I guess I thought that was the reason. I noticed handsome guys with big affros and thought they were so handsome, but there was one girl and older sister of one of my class mates who I was aware I had a crush on. She was the most beautiful person in had ever seen. I thought nothing of it and went on to date three boys in my school years. Nothing more than gazing at each other or perhaps holding hands.
I came across this video by accident and I glad I did. It is good to see a video featuring masculine gay black men because black men are always portrayed as feminine or sissies. A good example is the Maurice character on the BET series, Sistas. I am a gay closet black male that lives a recluse and private life. Ryan Ashley Lowery is an attractive black man and if I was a younger man, I would ask him out on a date. In reference to the guy born in Newark, New Jersey, I hate the term DMV because most people think of the Department of Motor Vehicles. If you live in Washington, D.C., say D.C., not DMV. If you live in the state of Maryland, say you're from Baltimore, Silver Spring, Glen Burnie, etc. I didn't hear any of these black men state, they're members of the Divine 9. For those that don't know what the Divine 9 is, it's a black Greek Fraternity organization like Kappa, Que, Alpha, Iota, and Sigma.
When i watch thst you tube chanal about comeing out as gay i want to tears down my cheeks i am from south africa grew up very poor during apartheid years got sholar to study in U.S. in calfornia today human rights attorney and gay i move to south africa in 2020 i am proud all the guys who chanal their strories on channel and be hero young poeple today we are unstoppable this is me thank you so much🙏✌💋
Am from the Caribbean and I'll be 58 come Feb 1, I lost my lover, he was 19 I was 18 ,growing up in the Caribbean was the hardest life anyone can live been, my boyfriend at time kill himself ,He just couldn't go on living been gay knowing his family won't accept it, am out now but I now live in London,And happy content with my life There is not day go by that I don't think about him but God is good.
Try being fully present !!!!! Stay off the apps or anything disallows human physical contact. N.Y can be socially challenging if you act like an aloof New Yorker........Walk without being on your phone see what happens....
In the LGBTQ community we all experience the same things , in different cultures we then have added pressures and judgements and others think they know when they don’t , bravo for doing this documentary , we all need to speak together , black white yellow red , the illusion of separation needs to melt into the love and gift we are
You are welcome , ❤️ , more and more we need to speak in one voice gifting the world with love and appreciation and a truly different world view as we see the world of both male and female , we are a gift
This was a great documentary. I'm so glad this shows different kinds of gay men. Everybody is not the same. There are so many stereotypes. I'm a 42 year old black gay man and never had to come out as to who I am. And I am very well respected maybe because of my masculinity. But everybody knows that I'm gay. All my friends and family accept me for being me.
I watch videos like this and be like why can't it be me. Like my family should one day accept me if not completely. I mean any ideas on how to come out to a Nigerian parent who doesn't even know what being transgender or gay mean, it's like good luck explaining that to them and also like good luck explaining you are transgender and gay at the same time. It's a series that will never end😢. I love my parent they are the best but they are Nigerian. My mom bought me a sweatshirt that had LGBT design on the back, I ask her if she knows what it means and she was like its just a design.
Wow! Black parents in general are some of the more challenging people to accept our sexual preferences. Seek out the support of friends and community organizations to remain safe. Hugs and love.
As a gay black man who never seemed to fit in the gay community because I didn't know gay men like myself, I never felt like I fit in the gay community. Thanks for putting this segment out for the gay black man who feels there is no representation of them.
This is refreshing to watch.. I'm struggling to come to terms with my sexual orientation. As if being black isn't hard enough. I need help. 💔 I must say all these brothers here are fine😍 I often hear people throw the word "LIFESTYLE" when they talk about homosexuality. Sex parties are a lifestyle or am I wrong.
Derek in part 2 please address childhood sexual abuse, i noticed myself and a lot of my male gay friends were sexually abused as children, lets talk about that as well.
2 many times in society we always feel we have 2 prove ourselves 2 d so called straight society, and as gay persons we have 2 labelising ourselves with derogatory words that only makes others c us as trash,we have great gay community builders,doctors,lawyers and a lot more than wat d media showcases us 2 b,wat I must say though, we as d gay community must not allow others 2 discredit us in ways which is very untrue of who we r ,no matter wat haters may say love yourself,4 god loves us all and don't let a few narrow minded people ruin your joy.
“People will only give their opinions if they know it matters.” -very wise words. Great documentary.
Yes those words are true and serve as a motto to live by.
Advice, opinions and suggestions are worthless. Every human being has a solution within self. Acceptance and love for one's self is a very strong foundation to build quality character on
I didn’t know I needed this. Very nice to see others struggle with similar stories I had and turn out to be strong black men in the end.
Thank you so much better for making this you have shown a different side of gay black men and gay men. Not all of us have to be a stereotype or what Harris sexual society sees us as a minstrel show so I'm so proud of you that you had made this and for the black man that you interviewed I say congratulations and God bless you for sharing your story and I look forward to part 2
This is my 1st time watching this. This just came up on TH-cam as I was thinking of my life & where iam as a Gay man. This really helped me to be my true self. Loving myself has been so great in my life. Thank you fellas for sharing your story.
Thank you.
I'm an 55 year old professional African American gay man.
I can relate to these men in one or more ways. I live a very private life due to the way ppl and society treat gay men. Its not to say I don't accept who I am or love myself but it has been the easiest way for me to deal with it. I was rejected by my family as well.
Again thank you for this program.
Be Blessed and and continue to be a positive and informative voice for our young people
Jesus love you please accept him be confess your sins to Christ, he die for us because of our sin
there was an implied comma between professional and African American. Don't be so daft smh@idontknowit
20 yrs ago w/1998 ! The last of the real good times and you weren't living your best life? I bet you're good and backed up LOL!!!
W.T MCPHERSON I appreciate your prospective, but at 52, I’ve come to realize that if I choose to live an invisible life, I contribute to the homophobic beliefs about us!
@@bernnyarkoh9130 - Bit late but for the record: Which sins ?
Has anyone noticed that the TH-cam posts with sassy, feminine, or comedic black gays have mega views while this post featuring out, educated, and not stereotypical black gays only has 3000 views after being posted for many months? What does that say? I say that not only is society is not interested in us but blacks in general and the black gay community is not interested in us. That is sad but expected. Thank you Derek for this post. It is much needed.
I was thinking the same thing...
I guess we are seen as "boring" if we don't fall into that stereotype.
Exactly yow
I've learned that those who need he truth seems to be drawn to it those who don't wont. But the truth stays constant!!!!!!!
Feminine gay guys get more views because they keep it real
I am just viewing this! Awesome storytelling. Experiences and memories help us to heal. Thanks
I love this documentary 💕💕
I can identify with Dr. Ron because we are very similar with our upbringing according to this video, all the way dwn to where we are originally from.
Me too 🤗
This is wonderful. I needed this documentary.
Johnny Boykins
You need God that this
I second that!
No one can tell our stories better than us. These men made me proud to be alive at this time. The future is looking great from where I am standing when it comes to being Black and gay. Too many of our brothers are suffering in silence due to homophobia and other fear from family and communities alike.
Black brothers celebrating their lives and loves is as progressive as we get. Thanks to the host and panelists for this amazing documentary.
Go Derek! This is a great video! Love you and your new channel from St Louis! Keep them coming!
Great Job! Wishing the men who shared their stories every happiness in this life, and resilience in the face of any setback.
Derek Jae, this documentary is oxygen! I applaud you and your dedication to serve us gay black men in this capacity. Bravo!
This is an excellent documentary. Please do more! :)
I pray Part 2 is still in the works? This is so important and vital for our community. Beautiful job!
This is the same way that I view myself as an African American man. I'm currently 34 years old, gay and have my own successful security business. I love the fact that there are other gay masculine men like me out there. God bless us all beautiful beings.
What's the definition of gay? Keep it real being a homosexual please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Derek I am overwhelmed with appreciation for your project and I must say you have changed my one sided opinion of you and I am so grateful for your honesty
Straight, cis woman here to show love and support to my LGBTQI+ brothers, sisters and gender neutrals.
Thank you for your support queen 👸.
I just saw this today. Dr. Ron, I'm so proud of you. Kudos !!!! You really come a long way !!!
Great job, Derek! Very impressive.
Great Doc Series. Cant wait for Part 2
This is so stunning, the best thing ever, I am a gay man in my junior year in college and this was so phenomenal to see men be represented with a higher education as well and a example which is what I needed so thank you ❤️🙏🏾
staircase2 thank you so much, I really appreciate that
Thank you I just bought it ❤️❤️❤️
This was good. I’m a 52 year old black gay man. I live in a pretty accepting environment, including work and church. It’s gotten a lot better from when I was a kid but sometimes I’m surprised how much homophobia and hatred of gay folks still exists. I think discussions like this help. Part of the problem we had when I was young is you felt so alone. I had a teacher tell me when I was young that homosexuality didn’t exist on the continent of Africa. At least kids today know that gay people are everywhere. We’re every race, culture. We’re fem, masculine and everything in between. We’re not alone.
Thank you so Much Derek Jae, to bring us this documentary. You All are Gorgeous never let people to down you for the color of your skin. Light and Love to you All.
This was DOPE! Hearing the stories & discussions were great hear.I thank the production team for presenting. Also making available for the world to see.
Handsome kings.
They look so fine❤🍒😍
We need to get this out! I'm sharing on all of my social media and to my friends!
WOW!! Everyday I struggle with this lifestyle. I am a 63 year old black gay man that has a testimony to the majority of these stories WITH the exception of actually "coming out". I have lived a whole life as a lie and I applaud these MEN for standing on their truth.
That you Ashley Stewart I hear you that's my struggle 58 just learning to accept and love myself
Hi Ashley I am so sorry to hear about your experience of living in the shadows. Being brave takes courage and I applaud you for sharing. I also want to encourage you by saying it is never too late to live in your truth. One step at a time is how courage is reflected daily. I believe you have taken your first step to liberation by sharing this intimate aspect of your life. Hugs and love.
Wow what an inspirational.. watching from Nigeria
Wow that is brave of you Daniel, well done 👍
This is truly outstanding work!
I love this documentary thank you Derek!
I agree with you G-Nykko Wilson
Great video Derek. Lots of gay and straight people need to watch this video. Not all gay people are the same. Very informative video not to mention very handsome successful men.
ABSOLUTELY 💯✌️ SOME FINE BROTHER'S
These interviews kept me spellbound to the stories from beginning to end.
Thank you so much for this. These are our stories.
This is very insightful, I like what he said, that his mom loves him and who cares, amen.
Thank you Derek, this is much needed. So good to see beautiful black mature gay men.
Beautifully done Derek. Very enlightening and educational.
You're awesome Derek keep up the good work
I enjoyed this. Calm. Real. Honest. Relatable to black gay men.
As a straight black woman, I must say, all of you are just handsome, fine and beautiful inside and out. The only thing that matters is that you all are good, kind, decent and happy human being. It's what's in your heart. Love who you are. Don't let anyone make you feel less than.
Excellent doc. Waiting for the second part...
Derek Jae you go boy, this is a phenomenal and exceptional piece of work. Cuddos to you, i think you have touched on something here and the world needs to see documentaries just like this. I'm sure there are some out there, i don't know, but i loved this piece and what a show of courage these men have to share their story.
Thank you Derek J for making this wonderful project! It's wonderful to finally see another side of Black Same Gender Loving men!
THIS by far has been the MOST insightful, in-depth, inspiring perspective on Gay/Homosexuality. Awesome!!!
Phonomenial job Derek.
Enjoyed this inspiring and genuine 🙌🏿💯❤️
Thank you so much for this Derek! Seriously bro I feel like black masc gay men like myself are never represented. This is one of my driving reasons to become an actor yo show that gay comes in a masc form as well
Great work! Much needed. Thank you.
Wow, what a great looking group of Gay Black Men and representation of what it is. Thanks guys :)
I absolutely love this...😊
Awesomely Done...Bravo Sir! 👏👏
Good to see. Such affirmation...
I think it's encouraging to watch these men speaking of their experiences. I grew up in church after my parents used to get us dressed up and out the house on a Sunday. Later we went to a Pentecostal church and our faith as children became established. It was around this time or a little before that I realised I was different. We had come from England and were going to school like all these Jamaican kids. So I guess I thought that was the reason. I noticed handsome guys with big affros and thought they were so handsome, but there was one girl and older sister of one of my class mates who I was aware I had a crush on. She was the most beautiful person in had ever seen. I thought nothing of it and went on to date three boys in my school years. Nothing more than gazing at each other or perhaps holding hands.
Great piece to bring visibility . Representation for every aspect of Black people is very important !
What a wonderful documentary
An interesting video! The masculine gay man faces more challanges because he does not fit the stereotype. Thanks for posting this video.
I came across this video by accident and I glad I did. It is good to see a video featuring masculine gay black men because black men are always portrayed as feminine or sissies. A good example is the Maurice character on the BET series, Sistas. I am a gay closet black male that lives a recluse and private life. Ryan Ashley Lowery is an attractive black man and if I was a younger man, I would ask him out on a date. In reference to the guy born in Newark, New Jersey, I hate the term DMV because most people think of the Department of Motor Vehicles. If you live in Washington, D.C., say D.C., not DMV. If you live in the state of Maryland, say you're from Baltimore, Silver Spring, Glen Burnie, etc. I didn't hear any of these black men state, they're members of the Divine 9. For those that don't know what the Divine 9 is, it's a black Greek Fraternity organization like Kappa, Que, Alpha, Iota, and Sigma.
You are a great man, and I wish you all the success in the world. The white boy.
Thanks Derek for educating me....much appreciated
When i watch thst you tube chanal about comeing out as gay i want to tears down my cheeks i am from south africa grew up very poor during apartheid years got sholar to study in U.S. in calfornia today human rights attorney and gay i move to south africa in 2020 i am proud all the guys who chanal their strories on channel and be hero young poeple today we are unstoppable this is me thank you so much🙏✌💋
This is really amazing and needs to be seen
“I don’t ask for opinions that I don’t really want.” Thank you for that.
Excellent work
This is a great documentary
Sure is sikyblack2006
Awesome content, Derek! Keep the vids coming.
I love this !!!!!
Soo good ❤️
Thank you for this I really needed it
So did I Daniel
The motivation I need finally guys like me I can relate to
Thank you for sharing this.
Awesome Derrick
beautiful.....!!!!!!
It is Paul
Paul It is such a relief to hear guys like this sharing, I personally can relate to what they are saying
@@LeroyThompson462 ohk that's nice......they are our family because we all belong to one community .
Much love ❤❤❤❤❤❤👋👋👋
Am from the Caribbean and I'll be 58 come Feb 1, I lost my lover, he was 19 I was 18 ,growing up in the Caribbean was the hardest life anyone can live been, my boyfriend at time kill himself ,He just couldn't go on living been gay knowing his family won't accept it, am out now but I now live in London,And happy content with my life There is not day go by that I don't think about him but God is good.
Oral I really feel for you
Feel free to reach out to me Oral
@@LeroyThompson462 am good thank you for reaching out,am in good place just turn 60.
So sorry that you have a boy friend that killed himself. I don’t know what I would do . Glad your life is better now. God bless you and stay safe.
Sorry for your loss, just find another lover n enjoy your life 😮
If you want to do a part 2 or 3 I’m definitely here for an interview bro!
I love this and I love Antonio Williams ❤💕💛💙💗 lol 😆
Anlonio Williams god will bless you for what you do ❤❤❤❤❤
Love this!
I LOVIN IT. KEEP IT COMIN BOO
Gracia, Merci, Thanks! ✌🏾
Ryan is beautiful. So fine.
Him and the guy with the blue jacket.
Yes definitely.
Yes ain't he tho 🤩 goodness!
mikemiks0 he is inside and out
If you check out his Facebook page you can see signs he's into white men.
Thank you for this ❤
I'm also thankful for this g sun
How do I find guys like this in New York that’s actually about something and have a job and are real black men
Be a guy who has a career and is about something. They will find you. Real Talk!
A: Be a black man that is actually about something and has a sense of direction substance begets substance !!!!!!
It’s hard the dating scene here in New York is wack everyone is looking for a quickie nothing real or long term
Try being fully present !!!!! Stay off the apps or anything disallows human physical contact. N.Y can be socially challenging if you act like an aloof New Yorker........Walk without being on your phone see what happens....
Mr Funky I don’t know where to go
This is just awesome
In the LGBTQ community we all experience the same things , in different cultures we then have added pressures and judgements and others think they know when they don’t , bravo for doing this documentary , we all need to speak together , black white yellow red , the illusion of separation needs to melt into the love and gift we are
Thank you Steve...
You are welcome , ❤️ , more and more we need to speak in one voice gifting the world with love and appreciation and a truly different world view as we see the world of both male and female , we are a gift
I love it.
This was a great documentary. I'm so glad this shows different kinds of gay men. Everybody is not the same. There are so many stereotypes. I'm a 42 year old black gay man and never had to come out as to who I am. And I am very well respected maybe because of my masculinity. But everybody knows that I'm gay. All my friends and family accept me for being me.
Well done 👍
Great video. Thanks.
I watch videos like this and be like why can't it be me. Like my family should one day accept me if not completely. I mean any ideas on how to come out to a Nigerian parent who doesn't even know what being transgender or gay mean, it's like good luck explaining that to them and also like good luck explaining you are transgender and gay at the same time. It's a series that will never end😢. I love my parent they are the best but they are Nigerian. My mom bought me a sweatshirt that had LGBT design on the back, I ask her if she knows what it means and she was like its just a design.
Precious Odunayo are you a trans man or woman
Wow! Black parents in general are some of the more challenging people to accept our sexual preferences. Seek out the support of friends and community organizations to remain safe. Hugs and love.
Wow, this is amazing
Awesome...need more
As a gay black man who never seemed to fit in the gay community because I didn't know gay men like myself, I never felt like I fit in the gay community.
Thanks for putting this segment out for the gay black man who feels there is no representation of them.
This is refreshing to watch.. I'm struggling to come to terms with my sexual orientation. As if being black isn't hard enough. I need help. 💔 I must say all these brothers here are fine😍 I often hear people throw the word "LIFESTYLE" when they talk about homosexuality. Sex parties are a lifestyle or am I wrong.
Neo you are very brave and it's a process in coming to terms with one's sexual orientation. Lifestyle is down to choice. Take each step at a time.
@@LeroyThompson462 Thank you for your kind words Tony....they came at a time when I'm feeling really down.
I'm from Fayetteville North Carolina
""""👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💖it, educational, powerful """a must, required, needed ⭐⭐⭐⭐!!!!!"'
Nice job...
Derek in part 2 please address childhood sexual abuse, i noticed myself and a lot of my male gay friends were sexually abused as children, lets talk about that as well.
sending love from vancouver, canada....
2 many times in society we always feel we have 2 prove ourselves 2 d so called straight society, and as gay persons we have 2 labelising ourselves with derogatory words that only makes others c us as trash,we have great gay community builders,doctors,lawyers and a lot more than wat d media showcases us 2 b,wat I must say though, we as d gay community must not allow others 2 discredit us in ways which is very untrue of who we r ,no matter wat haters may say love yourself,4 god loves us all and don't let a few narrow minded people ruin your joy.
Keep it real and be honest
Is this on DVD?
Beautiful, Strong Souls 🙏 Authenticity brings more peace into your life