How Men Become Soft In Relationships Over Time
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ส.ค. 2021
- How and why men become soft in their relationships over time, which leads to avoidable drama and problems.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is exclusive and in love with his girlfriend who is also in love with him due to what he learned from my work. However, there are several things she presses him on that she is bothered by, says she doesn’t like, but still goes along with it. It’s creating friction in their relationship and he’s unsure of how to handle it consistently. It perfectly illustrates how and why men unknowingly become soft, compliant and weak the longer they are in a relationship.
“Women are always testing a man’s strength to see if they are strong enough to love and support them, for their own reassurance and comfort that the men still care. Acts of love, appreciation and giving should be sweet and spontaneous. Not become robotic rituals of resentful obligation with no heart or love behind them. Men must always be consistent, disciplined and reliable. When they are not, they become indecisive and vacillate between being masculine and feminine. When men are inconsistent, women don’t trust their masculine core or their leadership, causing them to feel unsafe. Life isn’t all sunshine and roses. Alpha males have bad days, but they do not make it a habitual way of life or where they live emotionally. Strong men always find a way to recover, grind and move forward when things go sideways.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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Every one is gonna slip up sometimes and make mistakes or appear soft/weak. The key is to be able to recognize, recalibrate and get back to doing more things right than wrong. Great video coach
That's why it's good practice to have an accountability partner. This way you can check in and have that outside perspective to make sure you're staying on track with your goals.
Dude didn't I see you comment on A&P?
@@zeustheshy2950 probably not I don’t follow the channel
Good coaching allows you to recognise. Corey definitely is that good coach who helped me.
This is 100%true. If you are by yourself its so much easier to stay disciplined. It's your responsibility as a man to be the best version of yourself for you and your relationship.
Fuck yeah!
Being strong and consistent requires a ton of hard work. That means going non-stop at work and at home, rest when you die. You only get one chance at life, make the best of it.
Coach ain't lying about women wanting to see you all the time once they get hooked. It does get annoying when they start complaining about spending more time but you gotta stand your ground.
It all starts with what's between her legs starts controlling the man. He starts being more feminized and he puts her on a pedestal and starts asking her where they stand, what are they, where shes at, who else is she seeing. He starts becoming insecure and needy. She starts noticing this feminine energy from you and starts pulling back. Your giving your love away so easily because of what's between her legs and she didnt even do anything to earn it.
Dude that is 100% of what happened in my marriage. I started not giving a fuck , working out more, dressing better, and going out without her knowing where i was going... i noticed a change in her for sure, she respects me more and actually tries to have sex w me lol.
@@terrodar19 wait until they ask you for space and a week later your hanging out with a new girl. That needing space thing goes away fast.
@@chiefskingdom4151 thats fine, ill give her a permanent break if thats what she wants lol. I love her and at the same time i can walk away from this in an instant, thats what ive trained myself to do emotionally recently
@@terrodar19 i just lost mine. 18 years. I miss the hell out of the life we had but i dont want her back anymore. Once they start that needing space and needing to go find themselves your marriage is been over awhile.
Guys get too attached when they make the GF/Wife and the relationship their purpose in life, instead of a component of their life.
You will never lose woman chasing excellence but you will lose excellence chasing women
Corey hit the nail on the head. I have been listening to some red pill content too, and I always said to myself that men and women both want the best they can get.
U been listening to fresh and fit?
@@SuperDuperTrey yea, some of their content is suspect.
The genders want different things. What we want is not the same as what women want.
If you choose a partner who’s not physically fit and you are, it’s going to be a nightmare. Because you’ll have to convince them of moving and getting active. And it’s not something you need to do or should do. Just find someone else.
Yep.
Man you speak truer words than you know. I was EXACTLY in this predicament with a lovely woman who was completely overweight and tried giving her a chance but ultimately decided that I deserve a fit, sexy woman...and got one!
@@Blodia1990 that’s the difficult part. Believing that you deserve better. Most of us lack self-esteem.
@@Blodia1990 good mindset. I FEEL like I have that mindset as well but I always meet outa shape single fathers. I believe I deserve a fit handsome guy, any advice?
@@hanishamarshall3341 Long Post incoming lol
Sister, make a list of YOUR ideal man. Skin tone, eye color, body shape, eggplant size (lol), profession, kids or not kids, smoker or no smoker, broad shoulders with abs and tight booty with great legs or chicken legs, honest, patient, friendly, fearless, confident, even tempered, firm but gentle, all the personality traits you want this man to have. The whole nine yard. Imagine God came to you with a team of angels and you guys are making this man from scratch. You will probably have like 30+ qualities. From there, highlight your top 10 as must have attributes for your ideal man. These are non negotiable qualities/attributes. Then, any other quality--on top of the top 10--is a bonus. Look at that list every day and write a love letter to your ideal man, praising him and declaring every SINGLE attribute you love about him. Next, think to yourself "Where would I meet such a guy?" Best place, by far, is at weddings, work functions, and places you love because they are associated with your passion. I am sensing the gym is a big passion of yours. Next thing you know, your ideal man will be next to you--at the gym or wedding or super market isle for healthy foods or work functions or your friend's hot cousin from out of town who just moved to your city--(The club is NOT a good place to meet a quality man IMO) and from there just stare at him for 5 seconds and smile. If he is confident, he will smile back and approach. All the best and I feel like you will get blown away by meeting him within the next 6 months. qualities.
Good luck and you deserve EVRYTHING your heart desires BUT remember that you must have the same qualities, which you obviously already have but can't find in other men, and you will live your fantasy!
The biggest problem I tend to have is when I do find a women that I end up in love with, I like to get even more focused on the important financial and physical issues of our life and she wants to play the shit tests. I am the kind of man who knows himself, knows my purpose, skill set, goals and weaknesses. I absolutely hate constantly being played with the stupid tests that do nothing but waste time and create arguments.
That line about not being 1950 anymore is Golden. Albeit, some ladies (and men) could take it the hard way but it’s true. Communication is a two-way street not a wait and see approach.
Another great video in the books.
14:47 to the end I why I love CW, reality 101.
On the same crossroad here, really happy with my amazing girlfriend (and best friend) for a year now. When we started dating we were both in better shape, also covid made us a bit lazy. Luckily all gyms are open again here and I sticked to your principles coach, really happy how things are between us, you made me find and court my dream girl! Wish you all the best and kind regards from the Netherlands
Coach, your wisdom will and does withstand the test of time. God bless you. Love you brother
The roast you just did on the red pill was legendary 🤣
Life changing information. Thank you 🙏
daily dose of Coach 👊
Know your boundaries and state them early and often.
Great subject!
Ive been experiencing some friction in my thing too. Whole bunch of stuff has happened that is no good at all. I need to seriously start assessing everything in my life including friends. Last three days have been roller coaster ride around me. Like a war is happening I side me and one part just wants to go around letting certain people have it and the other part me says forget it forget anyone who isn't serving what I'm trying to do and doesn't line up with my morality
After The Rational Male, read Dating After The Red Pill. Of course, don't forget 3% Man.
Good morning Coach 👍👍
You can't build yourself up by tearing others down. Or, as St Ambrose put it, 'No one heals himself by wounding another.'
Old man told me once…” wanna know why the man always dies first” I say no, why? He says….” Because he fuckin wants too” hahaha
The coach speaking works of wisdom to Samuel and those other fresh and whatever cats 😎
Complacency kills relationships.
True 👍✔
Don't let the girls make you into the man they want, then they realise you're not the man they fell in love with and move you on.
Coach, we think you’d look even more badass with a Mohawk. Grow one for Sept/Oct, then u can reevaluate. Thanks and keep up the good work.
Yes
My ex gained 20 pounds after 4 months because all she ate was fried chicken.
Bro, it's better to dump her before she start producing eggs
@@cemsitthesilentwing7347 dipped out months ago chief.
The rational male…the unplugged alpha dude…they are just depressing. It’s like a tourniquet theory on love. With coach Corey’s material, you learn how to figure a woman out and make a good decision on being with her based off how she behaves….I just feel a massive bitterness vibe over the rational male and the unplugged alpha…but hey…sometimes you need a tourniquet
We let our guard down.
Fella in the email is being too rigid. Love the spontaneity advice 👏🏼
I have a constant issue with balance between "I am who I am, and say/do what I want." and 'Dont say or do this or you'll come off weak."
At the end of the day- if you cant handle me, YOUR problem!
But being lonely sure sucks. I feel like I have to act like someone I'm not, just to maintain interest of a wlman- and it's Godd*mn Godd*mn confusing and discouraging. Can't I just fkn "be me"?😦
When your partner is pregnant as a man you do naturally gain more weight. I have heard this is a body's natural reaction
GOAT
When Coach says 10 to 15 times. does he mean to read the book or read the book + all the videos he mentions you should check out
Stop being a fixer. They will leave.
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My gf of 9 months is in love with me (she said it first btw) and wants to move in so we are officially doing that in a few months. but she doesn’t seem to want to spend time with me ALL the time. Hell I’ll go a whole week without seeing her and she won’t mention a thing about missing me or really show that she wants to be around. The only time we hang out is if I initiate something. She even tells me to go out with friends or do what I want to do. We live literally 2mins from each other and we could easily see each other every day. When we do hang out she’s all over me, we have great sex, says she loves me…so I either snagged a unicorn or she isn’t really in love and is more on a 6-7 scale of attraction. Anybody have a similar situation?
Believe what they do, not what they say. The medium is the message.
@@aurthordunne Indeed brother, indeed.
Corey Worthington is the ultimate alpha! Lol I understand the mindset he was unperturbed. Even tho he wasn’t even trying in that video.
I do this from time to time, then I back off and it works.
Time of day you eat, or the time of day you eat carbs also doesn't mater. It's all about how many calories you eat, and how many you burn.
I go with the balanced purple pill mindset. You're not too naive, not too cynical either, just centered.
The ageless Coach.
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Corey people are saying that your content teaches people to be unauthentic and not who they are just to get laid. They even said that there isn’t enough scientific evidence that proves that girls are more attracted to guys who’s feelings are unclear as there were only 47 woman that took the test. What is your take on that?
Amateurs
Live and date long enough and you’ll see that women are definitely more attracted to men who’s feelings are unsure. That’s not to say that women can’t love a man who loves them, but the intimacy takes a hit once she knows you’re committed. But we all eventually end up there so I guess it’s OK.
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That is true but also not good. Always stay hard as nails and put your fists to good use.
You marry a fox and later on you get a pig
ha ha
He's getting too caught up in the "rules" that will become old. As Corey says, the book is a "guide." We have to, occasionally, vary the routine to be fun and spontaneous. Too rigid isn't a good thing.
Hes talking about the black pill community not red pill. Also interesting he doesn't like the rational male lol
He said its a good book, and every man should read it, but it should not become your religion
@@edvinass3804 it’s more of a Bible than religion. Just like coreys book. Take the good, which is a lot, and leave the rest.