My Surrogacy Journey(Not What I Expected) | Get to Know Me
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.ย. 2024
- Hey guys!! Today I wanted to share my journey with surrogacy…. even though it was not at all what I expected/ hoped for. I truly believe that events in our past help shape us into the people we are today, so this is my story…. Thank you so much for watching!
I can’t wait to see you in my next one,
♥️ Sarah Rose
Email: Stayingfit4five@gmail.com
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My heart aches for you having had that experience. I just finished my first surrogacy journey two months ago as a single mom and I PTL that it turned out better than expected. I wish I could give you a warm hug. Thank you for being you.
I feel for you and your journey ❤ I am on my second journey as a surrogate and we have huge hearts to give to others. When situations like this happen it’s devastating. I am glad your sharing your story because every story is so unique and helps spread awareness.
Thank you so much ♥️ I couldn’t agree more! I hope you had an amazing first journey and are having an even better second journey ♥️♥️♥️🌹
You are such a beautiful soul and amazing person. That breaks my heart to hear what happened with your intended parents. You have a heart of gold. My fiancé and I have had 3 failed transfers with tested/normal embryos and our doctor suggested surrogacy. We are just starting the journey as IP’s and it blows me away there are amazing people like you that would make this possible for people like me and Keith. I’ve been thinking a lot about my relationship with my gc and how I can support her and be whatever she needs because of what she would be doing for us. Surrogacy is such a complex thing but so beautiful too, and what you did to bring that little boy into the world is nothing short of amazing. ❤
Thank you so much for your comment ♥️ it was a life changing journey for me and even with how it turned out, I would do it again in a heartbeat! Thank you for being so caring towards your gc and seeing from her perspective too ♥️ it is indeed so complex but so beautiful ♥️ I hope your journey went amazingly, or is currently going amazingly ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you so much for posting your story Sarah.❤ I'm so sorry to hear you didn't get the experience you dreamed of, but no question, you did a remarkably beautiful thing. I suspect you are greatly loved for your kindness and generosity by all that know you, and that little boy you brought to life, on a cellular level. 🙌
Thank you so much….. your comment brought me to tears ♥️
Thank you for your heart. After 4 years of losses and countless tears my husband and I are about to begin our journey as intended parents. I have a lot of fear and unknowns and hearing your heart brings me so much comfort. Thank you for your sacrifice and love
Thank you Katie 🤗 I can’t imagine everything thing you are going through but I am sending you all the baby dust and wishes for a beautiful journey that will forever leave beautiful memories in your heart ♥️ there is absolutely no “right way” to become a family ♥️ it is just taking a little extra science
Thank you so much! Doing my first journey with a Chinese couple who says they want lots of communication. Your video was so comforting! There is a lot of stigma around surrogacy and you should definitely not do it just for the money!!
I am doing my first journey with a Chinese couple as well. I hope for a good journey.
Couldn’t agree more ♥️
Look into different agencies. I was denied by two but finally accepted thru my local agency 😊! Don't give up!
Why where you denied ? If you don’t mind me asking
I’m so sad to hear this for you 😢 I’m currently on my first journey and in a similar situation. It’s absolutely heartbreaking and my IPs only live about 90mins away 💔
I am so sorry 😞 my email is in my bio if you ever need someone to vent/talk to ♥️ I know I am just a stranger on the internet but I truly do care as I know what you are going through… hugs
I am so sorry… My email is in my bio if you ever need someone to vent/talk to… I know I am just a stranger on the internet but i truly do care as I know what you are going through ♥️ hugs
Omg I am so sorry!! I’m starting my first journey. I’m so glad I seen your video!
Thank you, and congratulations on your journey! I hope it is everything you hope for 🙏🏼 ♥️♥️
Wow thank you for this video ❤
I believe if you match privately the restrictions can be different. I’m a L&D nurse and have seen some situations where I know an agency wouldn’t have medically cleared the surrogate but the IPs took that chance anyways.
I would be ecstatic!! I will have to look into doing it privately! Thank you, I honestly thought you had to go through an agency! 🤗
My wife has cancer and is unable to carry a pregnancy because of her medications (but she's doing VERY well!). We are planning to do surrogacy, but we have two major concerns:
1. Cost! Any advice on grants and fundraising? Or even contract negotiation to lower costs or financial risks even slightly?
2. Telling my parents. My parents and most of my siblings (I'm one of seven) are VERY Catholic. We are terrified of what they will think when we tell them that we're doing this, but that's why we're waiting until the pregnancy is confirmed, so they don't try to talk us out of it. We think that their love for us and the joy of adding a new baby to the family will ultimately supersede their initial feelings, but we're devastated that we are likely not going to have the experience of joyfully announcing to them that we are having our first baby, just like three of my other siblings have had. We're also not sure if it will in fact put a long-term or even permanent strain on our relationship with them. Has anyone ever dealt with this before?
Such a great and empowering story!!
Thank you so much ♥️♥️
Iam in the matching process❤️❤️
pretty similar experience in a sense. although i regret ever being a surrogate. like i absolutely hated that I ever was one.
I completely understand that feeling… in the beginning I regretted it so badly.. but that little one you brought into this world exists because of your huge heart ♥️. I am personally grateful that people with such selfless souls like you exist! Thank you for everything you did and went through to bring that little one into this world 🌎.
Wow that sounds so hard. Starting into this journey. Is there anything in a contract to avoid that?
Unfortunately nothing that could be upheld or that I was willing to fight them for…
I really hope they’re caring for this baby. They don’t seem like nice people to me
However the parents acted I believe is more a function of their culture that places so much on image and unfortunatly shame and a host of other things that thankfully we are getting better at dealing with in the USA- their noncommunication I believe is about the culture of where they are from more than anything to do with you- and if there is any kind of influence the surrogate gives to the child, even if it isn't your DNA, fine-that kid is really blessed to have been carried by such a warm, articulate woman. BTW I'm neither an IP nor a surrogate or hoping for either , just a mom who watched your video. Oh and your own kids are lucky too! peace be with you.
Thank you so much ♥️ I try to remind myself of that too… I wish I had known that prior to matching with my IPs, even just to set expectations accordingly… but either way I am grateful for the experience ♥️ Thank you for your positive words 🤗
I agree it could be cultural. It could also possibly even be emotional pain on the part of the intended mom, it may be hard for someone who cannot carry a baby to hear about the pregnancy with her baby if it is something she very much wanted to do herself.
I agree on it could have been her pain of not being able to carry herself…. I completely respect her journey and either way wish the absolute best for them ♥️ it just was not what I thought it was going be. I would still do it all over again though because I know I helped ♥️
My wife and I are about to enter into a surrogacy contract with a woman who has done this a few times with an agency and is now working independently. Is there anything you would suggest we do or don't do as Intended Parents? (We absolutely plan to keep in touch! My wife already texts her daily!)
❤❤ congratulations are your selfless journey. Are there many surrogates who would be willing to do this for single men?
I know of many, myself included!
@@saraharoses Yourself included so you would carry a pregnancy for a single man!?This is something I'm considering because surrogacy is now legal in Michigan!
So I'm highly considering this as an option to start a family! Is it likely some surrogates might be open to a double embryo transfer?
Yes! This is a question all surrogates are asked when applying to become one and many choose to have multiples to increase chances of a successful transfer :)
@@saraharoses Which may increase the chance of twins! Ideally looking in my home state of Michigan would be the best option so I could offer more support and be involved in the pregnancy. Finding someone in your home state is always harder right?
Thank you 🙏
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Question, did you go to the support groups? And if so did you share that with the group?
Yes there was a support group through the agency but it definitely felt like women only shared the beautiful parts of their journey…. Or maybe I was just a really unlucky one..
What agency did you go with? Did they decide you could no longer start a new journey ? I’m sorry you went through this, I just got a match too
My agency did not decide multiple clinics that my agency tried to get to work with me decided that I was too high of a risk, unfortunately. Thank you, I hope that your journey is absolutely everything you hope for…. you deserve it! What you are doing is such an incredible gift….. 100% priceless.
I feel like all they wanted was a baby and definitely not invested in the pregnancy or wanted to be apart of your care along the way
How was this couple when you first met them ?
So very friendly and sweet! They said they wanted to become friends…
I am sorry for the ignorance of IPs, you are such a great person with a very big heart ,
ı wonder why you choosed a couple from China , it is so far away and you choosed someone who does not even speak your language ,
do you wonder how the baby is or are u ok with it ? I wonder why put yourself and your body and surro baby through this not everyone deserves to be parents .
Thank you ♥️ I chose a couple from china thinking they spoke English (which is what I was told). However, I was told they were “shy” about speaking english so they wanted a translator. It is their baby so no I do not wonder about him. I put my body through it because I genuinely enjoy pregnancy and it is not up to me to decide who deserves to be a parent or not. I just wanted to help someone become a parent who desperately wanted to be one.
Thank you for your reply , I hope ı did not sound judgemental ,
ı admired you , waww you have a great aproach ı am way to emotional ı guess . Sometimes we are a gift to someone and thar person is not able to receive it yet it does not reduce us and matter in the end .
Not at all, I completely understand where you were coming from! I couldn’t agree more ♥️
Can i be a student and be a surrogate
You sure can! I was a student while doing my journey 😊
i hope they were still paying you when they ghosted u
Due to contracts yes they still had to pay… but I was never in it for the money so thats why I struggled so much with being ghosted