They are neverending black holes that suck you out of all the care and compassion you could ever muster. The love they seek must come from within, and they are incapable of creating it for themselves. You cannot be that replacement for them. It is hard but you MUST take care of yourself first and foremost.
Painful, and a hard lesson to learn, but very true. Just like you can never fill a bucket with holes in the bottom, you can never love a narcissist enough for them to appreciate you.
They cut away the foundation you created when you fell in love. They hate themselves, so they hate you for loving them. They feel they are never worth it, so they will persistently sabotage and undermine. Rolling a boulder up a hill, eventually you get tired and it rolls over you.
You fell in love with your own reflection. They were playing you to get supply. Watch Sam vaknin and little shaman channels for thousands of hours of truth on this
Absolutely. My ex husband abused me in everyway imaginable and he still tries to ask for me to help him or try to see me. They never grow up. He saw me as weak bc I kept forgiving him and taking him back bc I used to thk he'd see I loved him and he'd trust that and change. No, he only got worse and totally dismissed my feelings and the wrongs he did to me. I finally let him go. Trying to ignore him totally. It's very hard when you deeply love someone. But you hv to keep remembering the pain, trauma, and suffering they are and hv put you through so you don't let them back in. They won't change for you or anyone else.
This is exactly right again and I've found that the ONLY way some will be able to genuinely love themselves and others, is by doing healing work, which involves grieving, especially in regard to extreme physical and/or sexual abuse endured as a child. I had a horrendous childhood, so had huge issues as well, which I'm contining to work on. I've heard MUCH worse though, so it's no wonder many of those precious children have a lot of trouble functioning as adults! It's important to add that it's an explanation, not an excuse, and I've even lost my compassion for some troubled individuals due to how badly they treated me, which has assisted me to avoid them. 💙
This is so true. This is something that concerns me with some relationship advice online where everything is reduced to attachment styles - “fix your attachment and fix the relationship”, “how to love your avoidant man” etc - it is completely irrelevant & inappropriate if they have narcissistic traits or full blown NPD. Love your content! 😊
That is so true. I can't believe this new concept they've come up with this "attachment style"? It's just another way of the system trying to take advantage of people who are struggling with abusive partners by getting them to give them their money for something that's completely made-up to profit off of a hopeless situation for these people. And you can't fix people who are 100% toxic anyway.
So true. They believe everyone thinks like they do. So whatever they accuse you of is a way of life for them in some way or something they would do. They're so lost on their own pedestal they even rage at compliments because you are a peasant after all.and you are just trying to butter them up by pointing out their greatness and why are you pointing their greatness out anyway. Everyone already knows they are great especially the hem!
This is 100 percent true. Do your research on who they are, what they do , how to get away, how to heal. They have learned to play a venoms sick game of manipulation. If you feel you need to tape this person’s conversation with you cause he said you said and you are the problem. Run. That’s gaslighting. And he/she is doing that to confuse you into thinking your losing it.
We are designed in a way ..there's no excuse for subhuman violence ..it's not that way ..but it's been accepted trauma generates bad side ..nope it's a excuse .. psychiatry accepts that reduces hope of early recovery ...
True. I am an overcoming narc by the grace of Jesus Christ. My parents provided for me financially. But, because they were covert narcs. They really were not there for me. I noticed and learned to live with it. When I became an adult. I did not give a dam if someone told me they loved me. If they were nice to me I stilI did not trust them. I found love strange and uncomfortable. I mimicked empathy. However, I felt nothing. Cold bloodied was my nature. But, I pretended so well, people thought I was perfectly good and kind. But, I was a wolverine/she-wolf in sheep clothing. The only One who can help a narc is God. The other day. Jesus was revealing to me that He loved me. I believed He loved me but would shrug my shoulders. Then He hit me with light. I realized I was not capable of accepting love. Then I knew. Another stronghold. My face contorted, and out came another demon in Jesus' name. Jesus Christ is Lord. 😊
How did this hit my feed? No one would believe in love if you ain't sending love, keep it divided, cuz that is healthy. This lesson is free. Next one will cost you! Dr. PhD your TH-cam mask is showing. Under no circumstances can I take this as random.
Im not liking this new people bashing campaign...i thaught i was a narcissist for years until i realised that without the ability to feel like ive done some degree of good to at least one person or couldnt be at least caring to someone or something else...i was incomplete...so from there i realised they were layers to peoples injuries...real narcissists are humans that are also in need...they have souls...its grounding that soul thats necessary
They are neverending black holes that suck you out of all the care and compassion you could ever muster. The love they seek must come from within, and they are incapable of creating it for themselves. You cannot be that replacement for them. It is hard but you MUST take care of yourself first and foremost.
Painful, and a hard lesson to learn, but very true. Just like you can never fill a bucket with holes in the bottom, you can never love a narcissist enough for them to appreciate you.
That's true,her family knows more than I do,but won't admit it
They cut away the foundation you created when you fell in love. They hate themselves, so they hate you for loving them. They feel they are never worth it, so they will persistently sabotage and undermine. Rolling a boulder up a hill, eventually you get tired and it rolls over you.
You fell in love with your own reflection. They were playing you to get supply. Watch Sam vaknin and little shaman channels for thousands of hours of truth on this
Absolutely. My ex husband abused me in everyway imaginable and he still tries to ask for me to help him or try to see me. They never grow up. He saw me as weak bc I kept forgiving him and taking him back bc I used to thk he'd see I loved him and he'd trust that and change. No, he only got worse and totally dismissed my feelings and the wrongs he did to me. I finally let him go. Trying to ignore him totally. It's very hard when you deeply love someone. But you hv to keep remembering the pain, trauma, and suffering they are and hv put you through so you don't let them back in. They won't change for you or anyone else.
This is exactly right again and I've found that the ONLY way some will be able to genuinely love themselves and others, is by doing healing work, which involves grieving, especially in regard to extreme physical and/or sexual abuse endured as a child.
I had a horrendous childhood, so had huge issues as well, which I'm contining to work on. I've heard MUCH worse though, so it's no wonder many of those precious children have a lot of trouble functioning as adults!
It's important to add that it's an explanation, not an excuse, and I've even lost my compassion for some troubled individuals due to how badly they treated me, which has assisted me to avoid them. 💙
I'm back to let you know that I wrote this comment in the wrong place and I'm too tired to rewrite it now, so I'll sort it out later on. 😊
This is so true. This is something that concerns me with some relationship advice online where everything is reduced to attachment styles - “fix your attachment and fix the relationship”, “how to love your avoidant man” etc - it is completely irrelevant & inappropriate if they have narcissistic traits or full blown NPD. Love your content! 😊
That is so true. I can't believe this new concept they've come up with this "attachment style"? It's just another way of the system trying to take advantage of people who are struggling with abusive partners by getting them to give them their money for something that's completely made-up to profit off of a hopeless situation for these people. And you can't fix people who are 100% toxic anyway.
Damn grl, this hits home
How can we help children that may end up as narcissist?
Narcissists turn love into hate
Agree to everything except they being smarter than you❤
She means ‘they believe they are smarter that you’
I read newer information that claims the narcissist’s “trauma” is entirely from self-reported data. That definitely fits the person I knew.
Thats gold...
So true. They believe everyone thinks like they do. So whatever they accuse you of is a way of life for them in some way or something they would do. They're so lost on their own pedestal they even rage at compliments because you are a peasant after all.and you are just trying to butter them up by pointing out their greatness and why are you pointing their greatness out anyway. Everyone already knows they are great especially the hem!
This is so hard to wrap your head around. Its true. Get out or they'll destroy your health.
This is 100 percent true. Do your research on who they are, what they do , how to get away, how to heal. They have learned to play a venoms sick game of manipulation. If you feel you need to tape this person’s conversation with you cause he said you said and you are the problem. Run. That’s gaslighting. And he/she is doing that to confuse you into thinking your losing it.
Whoa this is sad! I lost all my children. By the time i detected a lot of this it became too late to get him back. Sad
They chose the dark side, you didn't.
It's a done deal, they can't go back for themselves no one can do it for them.
Fact.
Just wrapping up with one😮. Im just glad i survived! All BS aside
So true
We are designed in a way ..there's no excuse for subhuman violence ..it's not that way ..but it's been accepted trauma generates bad side ..nope it's a excuse .. psychiatry accepts that reduces hope of early recovery ...
True. I am an overcoming narc by the grace of Jesus Christ. My parents provided for me financially. But, because they were covert narcs. They really were not there for me. I noticed and learned to live with it. When I became an adult. I did not give a dam if someone told me they loved me. If they were nice to me I stilI did not trust them. I found love strange and uncomfortable. I mimicked empathy. However, I felt nothing. Cold bloodied was my nature. But, I pretended so well, people thought I was perfectly good and kind. But, I was a wolverine/she-wolf in sheep clothing. The only One who can help a narc is God. The other day. Jesus was revealing to me that He loved me. I believed He loved me but would shrug my shoulders. Then He hit me with light. I realized I was not capable of accepting love. Then I knew. Another stronghold. My face contorted, and out came another demon in Jesus' name. Jesus Christ is Lord. 😊
Why?
How did this hit my feed? No one would believe in love if you ain't sending love, keep it divided, cuz that is healthy. This lesson is free. Next one will cost you! Dr. PhD your TH-cam mask is showing. Under no circumstances can I take this as random.
Im not liking this new people bashing campaign...i thaught i was a narcissist for years until i realised that without the ability to feel like ive done some degree of good to at least one person or couldnt be at least caring to someone or something else...i was incomplete...so from there i realised they were layers to peoples injuries...real narcissists are humans that are also in need...they have souls...its grounding that soul thats necessary