This is a terrifying thing for a child to experience. A narc parent RAGING out of nowhere, for no reason, and gaslighting the kid into thinking they caused the parent to rage.
@@thecook8964 I recall being afraid to come home from school. Never knew what my narcissist mother would be angry about, always at me, the scapegoat child.
Although you’re not a professional, as you clearly state in your videos, your keen observations & insights are high level. If you desired to be one, you already possess the analytical & observational skills to become a very fine & compassionate mental health professional
Narcissists hate themselves. They hate their lives, their family of origin, and their circumstances. They take all this hatred and anger and throw it at you. They would rather blame you for their circumstances than change themselves to have the life they want. It's stupid.
If you’re here and you’re reading this message, remember that you are the strong one. The one who was willing to spend countless hours/ months/ years self reflecting, learning and trying to understand. You were made to feel weak, broken and undeserving because they wanted you to feel the way they feel about themselves. It was never about you. When you truly realize this a peace will wash over you and you will realize just how special you are. So special in fact, that someone went to great lengths to take it from you.
Truth be told, I understand why they get so mad. Narcs, make narcs. Their primary caregivers were bullies, unfair, abandoning, harsh, cruel, and shaming. My family were all like this....some bosses, too. Women....They do underhanded things that trigger you to stand up and say "No more!" but they don't admit the shady things that they're doing. That is what makes me rage. It's amazing how many narcs are in our society. I don't condone their other behaviors but must concede to understand them a little bit. They are really hurt people that have turned into comic book villains..
I have learned to help with anger issues is to think that's not important. Understanding narcissistic behaviour. They like one upping people to feed their big egos. They love being in the higher position. They hate people have what they don't have. The best way to understand and deal with people with narcissistic behaviour. Is to understand it's all about all about them. They can't regulate their nervous systems and usually have complex trauma from childhood. They have a fight, flight, freeze response to stress and getting their ego bruised. They are miserable and vulnerable people. They need constant ego boosts because they have never learned to regulate their emotions.
I find it very awkward talking to them. I am not interrogating them. I am just asking normal questions about their day and I end up feeling like I am interrogating them. It is so confusing. And it also triggers their rage.
Narc left for 3 hrs said she was going to the supermarket, bitch came back wit 1 measly bag and gets upset that i ask her Why it took her so long and she flipped into a rage about her location and all this bullshit. Fucking pathetic....
Love the fact that you seem to have attracted enough narcissists into your life to be outraged at how well you tried to treat them and how ungrateful they always were in response to your obvious inner goodness. Me personally, I deliberately make them mad by exposing to them my unwillingness to put up with their desire to take one sided liberties and not pull their weight. They usually run for the hills to avoid my harsh mirroring of their devaluing tactics. They are subtle but I am brutal. Once I define the boundaries and the INSTANT consequences of breaching them their last ditch effort on the way out is to start a smear campaign which you can't figure out what EXACTLY they said about you. You have to assume it's along the line of... so and so has become scary, that's why I'm not with them and i ain't never going back! All I do is start a more vicious rumour that forces their flying monkeys to ask them ...is this true? The shame is enough to make them sell their home, quite their job and hope to move to a location where they hope no one knows who they are or what they've done and how soon they will be fated to start doing it again. As most psychologists state ... don't feel sorry for these deliberately destructive egomaniacs
Everything you say is true! The last time I was in a relationship with a man, we moved to another state and then all of a sudden he became a completely different person when I wasn't around my friends and family. I guess he thought I was just going to roll over and accept it, but I did what you do - I threw down those boundaries and gave him immediate consequences to the point we're on a finally dumped his ass and left, I wanted him to dislike me so much that he would never speak to me again, because he had a problem letting me go, he still wanted to be friends - he has never had a friend much less friends - he doesn't know how to be a friend. I was like "do you really think I'm going to allow you in my presence after the way you've treated me? You don't deserve to even be in the same room as me much less lay your eyes on me." I stopped dating 2 years ago and although men still come out of the woodwork and try to flirt and control me, I don't give in. As a matter of fact I give back a hundred times the BS that they try to give me 😂
I notice this "preference" when she this narc dummy dresses our daughter. My daughter is not allowed to have a preference and if she doesn't concede to what her mom wants she's met with aggression agitation rage crying intolerance impatience the works. She is such a control freak even in situations where she doesn't need any control . Gotta get outta this hell.
Everything you say is so familiar. I was yelled at and accused for making too many plans on our trips together, then he followed with your always planning too much. I was shocked because I thought of things that we would both enjoy and could choose together. Just seemed so hurtful to yell at me for that after not seeing each other for months, it ruined the rest of my trip. Also just a thought, the things you speak about with the narcissist being in fear of being the fool and tricked and fearing that they are worthless. I wonder if that's why he did that to me, I was fooled, tricked and tossed away like garbage. And the left over feelings of shame and hurt and betrayal is what I was left with. Such a terrible feeling 😢
I just got discarded by my narc bf on Thurs. He raged over my opinion about a song, which wasn't the same as his. It ended with him pushing me hard against his bookcase & screaming in my face that he could throw me out the window. Then he apologized & said it's over via text the next day. Narcs are so sick & twisted
Please please please please please do not do not do not allow him back into your life! I was married to a man like this for 15 years because I was stuck - and when I finally got the nerve to leave, he flipped out. He stalked and harassed me for over 5 years, right in front of our sons, and because of everything he did to me, I will never live down that trauma. Even though I've had 20 years of therapy, it doesn't just make thoughts and memories go away. Because of him, and all the other men who have abused me and used me over the last few years, I want nothing to do with them. Even when I just try to be nice to a dude who's my neighbor or works out of grocery store, they think I'm flirting and they get the wrong idea and come after me. And then they get mad when I tell them I don't want them. Men are ridiculous, they are over emotional, and yet they point the fingers at us. I just can't deal with their asses anymore, and that includes my grown sons! I'm just done. I moved to another state to get away from all of them and now I only have to deal with the ones who stepped to me now. That still sucks because I'm not trying to date or anything, I'm just living my life and they still come out of the woodwork and try to control me. The craziest thing that men do, and it happens all the time believer or not, is try to control my garbage cans outside! I don't know how many times I've told men to stop moving my garbage cans around because they think they are helping me in some way, without even asking if I needed help in the first place! Just yesterday I took my garbage can out to the road and a landscaping guy was getting on to me for not asking him to do it, I was like dude. I do this by myself all the time - why the hell would I need your help? And he was pretty surprised and stuttering "Ohhhhh okay" 😂 Just because I live alone doesn't mean I'm some damsel in distress - as a matter of fact I think it proves that I'm absolutely not.
I see the site plenty of fish and can only think of the confession video of that woman which starts by her saying she wasnt home but proceeds to admit she found men on p.o.f to r@pe her daughter, and her son while she watched and then has sx with the guy ,wo any financial gain whatsoever...😮😮😮. Detectives buffled ask...but how did you know who is a pedo ? Tell us the password -i closed my account when i met my bf bcoz he seemed a good guy ,that we ll stay together.... Then she sais the girl is killed in front of her in her room ,by the bf and female cousin Then they took her to the bath to cut ,or maybe it started b4 and ended on the bath.. while she cooked for everyone and ate a tacko😮😮 It was the worst story i ever heard...and turns out she was only confessing to what cops suggested she did and actually there was footage of her and the bf in the car when her daughter was killed
Being exposed in public seems to trigger them😊
Extremely exhaustive people
This is a terrifying thing for a child to experience. A narc parent RAGING out of nowhere, for no reason, and gaslighting the kid into thinking they caused the parent to rage.
Never had a safe feeling night, when father was home & raged
@@thecook8964 I recall being afraid to come home from school. Never knew what my narcissist mother would be angry about, always at me, the scapegoat child.
This is one of the finest videos I have ever watched on this subject.
Thank you. That’s so nice.
Although you’re not a professional, as you clearly state in your videos, your keen observations & insights are high level.
If you desired to be one, you already possess the analytical & observational skills to become a very fine & compassionate mental health professional
Thank you.
Narcissists hate themselves. They hate their lives, their family of origin, and their circumstances. They take all this hatred and anger and throw it at you. They would rather blame you for their circumstances than change themselves to have the life they want. It's stupid.
It's completely immature and selfish. They destroy other people because they are cowards.
And they say women are over emotional 😂
If you’re here and you’re reading this message, remember that you are the strong one. The one who was willing to spend countless hours/ months/ years self reflecting, learning and trying to understand. You were made to feel weak, broken and undeserving because they wanted you to feel the way they feel about themselves. It was never about you. When you truly realize this a peace will wash over you and you will realize just how special you are. So special in fact, that someone went to great lengths to take it from you.
Thank you ❤
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The rage when you call them out on the truth.
So true
Truth be told, I understand why they get so mad. Narcs, make narcs. Their primary caregivers were bullies, unfair, abandoning, harsh, cruel, and shaming. My family were all like this....some bosses, too. Women....They do underhanded things that trigger you to stand up and say "No more!" but they don't admit the shady things that they're doing. That is what makes me rage. It's amazing how many narcs are in our society. I don't condone their other behaviors but must concede to understand them a little bit. They are really hurt people that have turned into comic book villains..
I have learned to help with anger issues is to think that's not important. Understanding narcissistic behaviour. They like one upping people to feed their big egos. They love being in the higher position. They hate people have what they don't have. The best way to understand and deal with people with narcissistic behaviour. Is to understand it's all about all about them. They can't regulate their nervous systems and usually have complex trauma from childhood. They have a fight, flight, freeze response to stress and getting their ego bruised. They are miserable and vulnerable people. They need constant ego boosts because they have never learned to regulate their emotions.
I find it very awkward talking to them. I am not interrogating them. I am just asking normal questions about their day and I end up feeling like I am interrogating them. It is so confusing. And it also triggers their rage.
Narc left for 3 hrs said she was going to the supermarket, bitch came back wit 1 measly bag and gets upset that i ask her Why it took her so long and she flipped into a rage about her location and all this bullshit. Fucking pathetic....
100% spot on
The amount of times I’ve been arrested behind standing on the truth.
Narcissists rage for the same reason, alligators, sharks, and bulls etc. rage. It’s genetic!
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Love the fact that you seem to have attracted enough narcissists into your life to be outraged at how well you tried to treat them and how ungrateful they always were in response to your obvious inner goodness. Me personally, I deliberately make them mad by exposing to them my unwillingness to put up with their desire to take one sided liberties and not pull their weight. They usually run for the hills to avoid my harsh mirroring of their devaluing tactics. They are subtle but I am brutal. Once I define the boundaries and the INSTANT consequences of breaching them their last ditch effort on the way out is to start a smear campaign which you can't figure out what EXACTLY they said about you. You have to assume it's along the line of... so and so has become scary, that's why I'm not with them and i ain't never going back! All I do is start a more vicious rumour that forces their flying monkeys to ask them ...is this true? The shame is enough to make them sell their home, quite their job and hope to move to a location where they hope no one knows who they are or what they've done and how soon they will be fated to start doing it again. As most psychologists state ... don't feel sorry for these deliberately destructive egomaniacs
Everything you say is true! The last time I was in a relationship with a man, we moved to another state and then all of a sudden he became a completely different person when I wasn't around my friends and family. I guess he thought I was just going to roll over and accept it, but I did what you do - I threw down those boundaries and gave him immediate consequences to the point we're on a finally dumped his ass and left, I wanted him to dislike me so much that he would never speak to me again, because he had a problem letting me go, he still wanted to be friends - he has never had a friend much less friends - he doesn't know how to be a friend. I was like "do you really think I'm going to allow you in my presence after the way you've treated me? You don't deserve to even be in the same room as me much less lay your eyes on me." I stopped dating 2 years ago and although men still come out of the woodwork and try to flirt and control me, I don't give in. As a matter of fact I give back a hundred times the BS that they try to give me 😂
A cerebral narcissist was raging at me.
You have described my mother to a T. Thank God that it has been 30 years of NC.
I notice this "preference" when she this narc dummy dresses our daughter. My daughter is not allowed to have a preference and if she doesn't concede to what her mom wants she's met with aggression agitation rage crying intolerance impatience the works. She is such a control freak even in situations where she doesn't need any control . Gotta get outta this hell.
Everything you say is so familiar. I was yelled at and accused for making too many plans on our trips together, then he followed with your always planning too much. I was shocked because I thought of things that we would both enjoy and could choose together. Just seemed so hurtful to yell at me for that after not seeing each other for months, it ruined the rest of my trip.
Also just a thought, the things you speak about with the narcissist being in fear of being the fool and tricked and fearing that they are worthless. I wonder if that's why he did that to me, I was fooled, tricked and tossed away like garbage. And the left over feelings of shame and hurt and betrayal is what I was left with. Such a terrible feeling 😢
They are demon pissesed
Great video ❤
I just got discarded by my narc bf on Thurs. He raged over my opinion about a song, which wasn't the same as his. It ended with him pushing me hard against his bookcase & screaming in my face that he could throw me out the window. Then he apologized & said it's over via text the next day. Narcs are so sick & twisted
Please please please please please do not do not do not allow him back into your life! I was married to a man like this for 15 years because I was stuck - and when I finally got the nerve to leave, he flipped out. He stalked and harassed me for over 5 years, right in front of our sons, and because of everything he did to me, I will never live down that trauma. Even though I've had 20 years of therapy, it doesn't just make thoughts and memories go away. Because of him, and all the other men who have abused me and used me over the last few years, I want nothing to do with them. Even when I just try to be nice to a dude who's my neighbor or works out of grocery store, they think I'm flirting and they get the wrong idea and come after me. And then they get mad when I tell them I don't want them. Men are ridiculous, they are over emotional, and yet they point the fingers at us. I just can't deal with their asses anymore, and that includes my grown sons! I'm just done. I moved to another state to get away from all of them and now I only have to deal with the ones who stepped to me now. That still sucks because I'm not trying to date or anything, I'm just living my life and they still come out of the woodwork and try to control me. The craziest thing that men do, and it happens all the time believer or not, is try to control my garbage cans outside! I don't know how many times I've told men to stop moving my garbage cans around because they think they are helping me in some way, without even asking if I needed help in the first place! Just yesterday I took my garbage can out to the road and a landscaping guy was getting on to me for not asking him to do it, I was like dude. I do this by myself all the time - why the hell would I need your help? And he was pretty surprised and stuttering "Ohhhhh okay" 😂 Just because I live alone doesn't mean I'm some damsel in distress - as a matter of fact I think it proves that I'm absolutely not.
Remember, when you look behind the mirror, behind the mirror looks right back at you.
I thought it was because she was a negative Aries
I see the site plenty of fish and can only think of the confession video of that woman which starts by her saying she wasnt home but proceeds to admit she found men on p.o.f to r@pe her daughter, and her son while she watched and then has sx with the guy ,wo any financial gain whatsoever...😮😮😮.
Detectives buffled ask...but how did you know who is a pedo ? Tell us the password
-i closed my account when i met my bf bcoz he seemed a good guy ,that we ll stay together....
Then she sais the girl is killed in front of her in her room ,by the bf and female cousin
Then they took her to the bath to cut ,or maybe it started b4 and ended on the bath.. while she cooked for everyone and ate a tacko😮😮
It was the worst story i ever heard...and turns out she was only confessing to what cops suggested she did and actually there was footage of her and the bf in the car when her daughter was killed