I don't want to be pretty, I just want to be me
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 เม.ย. 2024
- It's hard to be a girl
It's even harder to be a girl who wants to become an actor
For all these years, I have been receiving many different comments about my body and my appearance, and they still keep coming.
I have been really really conscious about my look and I have spent most of the years hating myself
I blamed myself for not being able to lose weight, I punished myself by not giving myself the love I deserve and I couldn't believe any compliments I have ever received because I felt like people were just saying them as a gesture of being nice.
It truly bothers me
until now
I gave up!
I gave up trying to be who I'm not, I gave up hating myself.
It's not worth it
I still work out and I still wear make up, but I'm doing all these things for completely different reasons.
I just want to be happy and healthy and keep doing the things I love, that's it.
Took me almost 30 years to figure it all out, but that's alright.
maybe I'm a late bloomer, whatever.
To all the girls who still struggle:
PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE PERFECT JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
Instagram: @hannnnahmiao / hannnnahmiao - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
as a girl who once didn't care about her appearance who has gone to nitpicking every bit of it every day, i really, truly feel represented and therefore comforted by this video.
Thanks gurl♥️😘 let’s support each other through this journey of self discovery!
❤@@hannahmiao
"once didn't care about her appearance who has gone to nitpicking every bit of it every day" Holy shit that is disturbing and heartbreaking!
ive never looked at people and thought of them as “beautiful” or “ugly”. everyone has such a different face and different ways of presenting themselves, how could i ever put them under a single denominator? it doesnt make sense. i like people based on how much i get along with them and thats it! but ive never thought of myself this way. all the things in this video ive told myself everytime i look in the mirror. i have braces, i hate my huge hips, i only do natural makeup so it doesnt seem as if i think that im pretty. i started sobbing when she washed her face and the voices stopped. i wish i could stop expecting myself to be perfect because i would never expect perfection from anyone else. it is a miserable feeling. thank you for this video, it hit me hard.
Just be the version of you that YOU like best😘♥️♥️♥️ no need to fulfill the society’s standard😘😘😘
Same like I don’t have the time to judge ppl’s appearance and beauty. However we can’t ignore the fact that beauty privilege does exist.
Hmm
“You are beautiful and your “ugly” features are your charm. This is something gorgeous. If the eye of a common man doesn’t notice this, then a connoisseur of beauty will definitely appreciate it.” -quote from Complexes by Woorie. Thank you for this video!
Such an inspiring quote!! Thankssss♥️♥️♥️
Loved the atmosphere and storytelling on this one, your criativity shines through it, thanks for the video!
Thank you very much!! I really enjoy making vids and I will keep doing it!
WHY IS THIS NOT VIRAL?
Aww thank you so much!🫶🏻♥️
Because it was uploaded 4 days ago, I'm sure it will blow up soon!
Stumbled across tjis while crying about my appearance . Thank you
Awww I hope you are feeling better now♥️😘 I know it’s hard, but it’s alright! Let it all out and slowly pick yourself back up, got your back!🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
@@hannahmiao i do! Your video was really soothing ❤❤ I hope you never stop creating, truly !
I didn't care about my appearance when I was younger and now I can't help but think about it all the time. It's hard to deal with, but this video is a nice reminder that being pretty isn't what really matters. Thank you!
And the filmmaking and the shots and the colour grading on the video is lovely :))))
And I adore the ending because it's so unabashed and simple and joyful in the most mundane of ways
Thank you very much!! We are pretty as long as we are ourselves!♥️😘
@@hannahmiao yes the ending was heartwarming 🥰
You honestly look perfect as you are! If people actually told you these things, it just shows how shallow and fucked up society is!
No point wasting time on unrealistic beauty standards that make you feel bad with yourself, you’re much more than the way you look !
Thank you!!❤ true the society is very fucked up but I have faith that we can make a change🥹 even if it’s just a tiny one♥️
I really like this, I love the message. I like the thumbnail too, it made your video seem so professional I was genuinely surprised when I saw the low number of views
Haha thank you very much! Everybody starts from somewhere so it’s alright even when the view count is not high, I know what I love and will keep working on it♥️
This is one of those videos that will randomly appear on your recommended videos within a couple of years with over 5 million views. The algorithm works in mysterious ways
Haha thank you!!♥️🥰 I hope what you said will come trueeee!
I'm an Asian-American guy. When I was about 14-16 yrs. old, a woman taking family pictures told me, and I remember the direct quote to this day, "you're freakishly tall." Mind you, I was like average 5'9". I was already super self-conscious because I felt like I was an awkward person. In my opinion at the time, being tall on top of this would make everything worse. I ended up severely damaging my health because I was constantly drinking caffeine in order to stunt my own growth (typically in the form of extra caffeinated soda and energy drinks). Primarily due to this one comment. The irony is, when I grew up. I realized that men are harshly judged for their height, and many women actually romantically seek out tall men.
There are a lot of men and boys silently suffering as well. I feel as if, especially nowadays and especially amongst East Asians, we get lost into our respective gendered echo chambers. I don't want girls or women to suffer in negativity or to be the cause of negativity.
There are millions whom the world is hard for, and I want to use this opportunity to reach across the isle. I hope you can grow with the women in your life while never forgetting the sacrifices the men in your life make. We males experience just as much pain in this colonized world. To the people who may attack me for this comment; with accusations of usurping something made exclusively for women. Please note that this is one comment (made on a public video mind you) out of the dozens made by or in the perspective of women. Not feeling appreciated for your looks is universal. It would be hypocritical to stand for equity, but ignore anything that challenges your world view. Thank you!
WOW. I've been really struggling with my self-image lately. I'm really tired of "you're supposed to...", you could have...", "you should..." comments about my appearance. I just want to feel free about how I wear my make up, my outfits, my looks in general. Focusing on what could I have enhance about my face or body or clothes is just so tiring that it makes me a bitter person. I'm glad I came across your video. Your storytelling & filming skills are amaziiing btw! Good luck with your journey :)
Thank you very much!♥️🫶🏻 I feel like being confident and kind is the best make up we will ever need! Our inner beauty is what makes us truly shine🥰
Love love love this video. Also massive bonus for language learning, I'm British-born Chinese (canto background) and having the English translations and the echo is super helpful. I know it's also a stylistic choice, but it's very much appreciated for linguistic purposes :)
Haha glad it’s helpful!♥️♥️講多啲廣東話啦😘
This video deserves more recognition
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Thank you very much!!♥️♥️♥️
the message is so beautiful. so is whoever's reading this rn
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Love this video! You are made to be a storyteller!
Aww thanks!!♥️ still a very long way ahead of me but I’ll keep trying!
You’re so talented, this is an amazing video
Thankssss♥️🥰 I still have many rooms for improvements!
This video came to me at the right time, bc we are women, they think that our only function is to be beautiful, beautiful for the consumption and opinion of others, when we put ourselves in environments that demand attention to ourselves we are not seen for our personalities, talents, intelligence or any other characteristic, it's an unfortunate situation and one that urgently needs change, so I am grateful people like you exist cuz i forget sometimes, you deserve to be authentic and to be seen for u, instead of "beauty" being the only "interesting" part of you, because you are more, much more, you are infinite. Thank you for the video, I wish you much success in life!
🥹♥️ it’s true, definitely not easy to be women with all the materialization and stereotyping but I’m sure we can all be the change we want to see in this world!🥰🥰🥰
Reminder : someone is dying to have the body type that you already have🫶
Aww thank you!!♥️♥️ I’m still learning to embrace my body🫶🏻
Here i am crying like a baby. I no longer want to be beautiful, I just want to be me and feel ok. I can be whatever in other people’s eyes. I just need to see myself as enough.
Awww♥️😭 pamper yourself and give yourself all the love you need!💖❤️🔥 you are worthy🥰😘
People are mean and judgy for no reason. I usually laugh in their face when they tell me I look homeless. You are you. And you are beautiful
I really love that you included "your body figure is perfect if you are in foreign country" because people like to say things like that as if it isn't still a judgement on how valid or legitimate one's body is. Our body doesn't have to be perfect !! It doesn't need to be anything. These statements are still contributing to these types of negative self image.
WWWWW, got this in my recommended, and I loved the message! You don't have to be pretty by other people's standards, you don't have to be this, or that, whatever they try to tell you. Just be yourself, love yourself, and do what you want and like. Society's standards are so rough and so harsh, and the people who are making these comments have given up trying to be themselves, so they make these comments. Keep going!
Thank you very much!♥️♥️🫶🏻 I tried to understand the people who made these comments and in my case I knew most of them meant well? It’s just that they probably have forgotten that words can hurt people at times…
But it’s okay, I’m not here to change other people but to change myself and hopefully grow into a better person!
"I never thought I was ugly until a relative pointed out my thin hair in front of everyone. It made me feel ashamed and led me to obsessively take pictures of myself from every angle, trying to hide my flaws for 4 months. I became depressed and found multiple flaws in myself, crying every night. But I've learned that it's toxic to judge yourself based on others' opinions. Thanks to TH-camrs like her, I'm learning to love myself for who I am, and now I see my beauty. Whoever is reading this, please don't do anything like what I did." ❤
♥️♥️♥️ there are always gonna be someone who gave us comments that will hurt us but it’s alright as long as we know who we are and love ourselves😘 you are very brave🥹🥰
@@hannahmiao Thank you Soo much for motivated me and everyone else, I'm 100% sure that your channel will become most respected channel in the future please keep going sister And love you for your kindness😁 ❤️🌺
😘♥️ you are very kind! Thank you so much♥️♥️♥️
its worse when your friends say something like this.. "i admire how confident you are, even if you look how you do". in the style of the video, this is a citation
this is such a cruel backhanded "compliment"... no one deserves "friends" like these
As I grew up in an Asian culture, a lot of the comments I have received were actually from my parents or aunties uncles, they didn’t mean to mock me or be mean to me, I guess to them they were just being honest and felt like by giving me opinions like this they were helping me to navigate life in an easier way.
Even though I knew their intention meant well, what they said still hurt me and affected my confidence…
It’s hard to change them because it’s almost in the gene so the only thing I could do is to change myself and learn to embrace myself for being who I am!♥️
the cinematography, lighting, shots, music was on point! i especially loved your smile
Thank you! I smiled again bc of your comment♥️🥰🥰
woww that's made my day !❤ Thank you.
As a girl who always waana be real and hate that makeup stuff ....They criticizing me by saying " you need makeup caz you're nt pretty " .
The peoples combine that two words :women + beauty ,but that's not what only matters in a girls life .
Let's change the perspective of the world by subscribing peoples like you dear Hannah !❤😊
Omggg aww thank you girl!♥️♥️😘😘 let’s live the life we want and be the version of ourself that we like best😘
100% blud honestly the world is pretty cruel at times , we need to just be resilient and work through it on our own . You got this 💪
Thank you💪🏻♥️ taking baby steps but I’m on my way!
I love the vibe its like a a drama, i love the content and its message.. I just wonder why is it not that viral yet
Thank you!🫶🏻🥹♥️ haha as long as the message get to spread around, doesn’t matter if the video goes viral or gains views slowly!🥰♥️♥️♥️
you are absolutely lovely. and the bodies we have been given, they are a precious gift. a gift we should love :)
Thank you🥹❤ it’s definitely not easy for girls to love their bodies especially with all the influences on social media but we’re getting there!
❤❤❤@@hannahmiao
As someone still working on finding myself cute or acceptable without thinking of what society or others will think this was nice. Sometimes I don't wanna be pretty,I just wanna be.
Subscribed ❤
Same here! ♥️🫶🏻 let’s all learn to appreciate ourselves more!
I don’t know how I got here but I loved it. This channel is underrated.
Thanks😘♥️ taking baby steps rn!
Love the storytelling and message behind it 💗💗💗
Thank youuu♥️♥️♥️
I loved the video and the message, thank you very much, keep it up!!!! By the way you look really beautiful, ngl!!!!
Omg haha thank you that’s so nice of you!♥️🥹
This is so good and so real, thank you so much for sharing this with the world!❤
Thank you very much!♥️♥️♥️
why are people so obsessed with beauty?
just let things be, the important things are invisible to the eyes
btw I love your video!! it looks like a movie, and it also shows your personality
It’s true! The important things are always invisible🥹♥️ thank you very much!!🥰💖💜
Not a woman, but as someone who used to have body image issues and went through a period of disordered eating, the thing that helped me most was adopting a 'close enough is good enough' mindset (in regard to my weight). I literally used to keep a microsoft excel spreadsheet in which I recorded the exact calories from everything I ate in a day and had a mental breakdown if I went over my arbitrarily imposed limit. Needless to say I was absolutely miserable haha.
Nowadays I've let go a bit and just try to eat healthily, I've got more fat than I did before but also more muscle. Letting go of what other people think is the key, but it's also the hardest part. What helped me was to think about why I was doing things, whether I was living the way I was for myself or for someone else. I think living for other people is nice until said other people start having stupid and unrealistic expectations on who YOU should be. It's your life and living it according to the desires of everyone else is going to leave you with nothing but regrets in the years to come. If people need you to be miserable to be happy, their happiness isn't worth it/.
Trueeee. It’s so difficult to let go of what other people think! But we are on the right track♥️♥️♥️ I made this video to remind myself that!
thank you for this! messages like these need to be shared more😭LOVEEEE YOUR VIDEO HOPE IT GOES VIRAL
Awww thank you♥️♥️♥️ I hope all girls get to live the life they desire and love themselves!
WHY TF ARE SOMEONE LOOKING AT YOUR FCKING IRIS 💀💀😔😔😔 THIS IS TOO MUCH!! and your eyes and iris are BEAUTIFUL. ❤
Haha if you’ve visited East Asian places such as Japan, Korea, HK etc then you’d realize they have shops that sell colored contact lens everywhere…🥹 and thank you♥️😘
2:54 i love how you squished your face, it's adorable and it felt so genuine and so human. it's a heartwarming gesture, reminds me of being a kid and just fooling around, enjoying life... i hope you keep pulling through until those comments lose their significance entirely. stay strong 💪🌟
Thank you! ♥️🫶🏻 I really like this side of me very much as well!
I udes to be very concious of the way i looked when i was a teenager, then i deleted social media. i went from crying that i do not look perfect in photos with my friends to not caring how the picture looked because i was glad that i had those moments captured. I started loving my life after i stopped caring.
❤️🔥❤️🔥💪🏻 you are so chill!!!
a smile on your face is all you need, looking physically pretty is paradoxical and absurd it's a mirage of all things worst going on in thr the society. you are beautiful.
Thank you🫶🏻❤️🔥💖 you are wise!😉
BUT YOURE PRETTY😭😭😭
Awww thank you😭
This got right into my heart! This portrait of the self-love is so good, a beautiful short.
Thank youuu♥️♥️🫶🏻🫶🏻♥️
I think everybody is beautiful in their own way, just how flowers and butterflies are pretty in their own way.
Agree!!♥️♥️♥️
Nothing called ugly,its only *a different * beauty maybe is not your fav. But you have no right telling someone ugly!
Let’s strive to make this society a better place!💪🏻♥️
Wow, i really loved this! the thumbnail and title drew me in with a familiar thought, and the storytelling/layout of the video kept me engaged too. I relate so much to this, and honestly feel seen by this video, and in a way comforted too. Thank you.
Thank you very much!!💖♥️💖 I guess a lot of women are facing the same issue and we really need to learn to abandon the society’s beauty standard and just be who we are!
Looking pretty may fill your interest’s heart with joy. Being amazing brings potential to move the world for a good cause. Please stay Amazing.
Thank you!🫶🏻♥️ let’s all stay amazing!
Que sera sera indeed! I will always advocate for non-conformity! We’re all beautiful in our own ways and our personalities only deepen us
Yes! Thank you♥️😘♥️
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love this
YES!! I loved it too, I think we all need this kind of reminder, that what really matters is what's inside of you and how you feel. :))
ohh and I love YOU Simone, you always help us too!! ☺❤
Thanksss🥰♥️
great video!! I loved the message and related to it a lot
Thank you♥️💖 it’s not easy to be a girl but we’re doing fine!
Thank you Hannah for making this video. Love the way you film it to the storytelling.
Thank you!♥️♥️🥰
I like this because I thought; why can't we just exist as we are? Why question our appearance and wish to be someone else? Why do we need to be conventionally attractive and benefit from pretty privileges when really, we're just trying to get through our routine as a human being. I do get messages about "everyone's beautiful" and what if they're not? So what?
It’s true! As long as we are the version of ourselves that we like best, I think that’s all that matters!♥️
My favorite song in this video
Literally love this video
" I don't want to be pretty I just want to be me " ❤
Thank you!!♥️♥️🥰 I love the song too! It always comes in handy whenever I feel insecure!
thank you so so much for this
Thank YOU!♥️
Absolutely brilliant piece of art!
Thanks for the reminder ❤
♥️♥️🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
I love this video
Haha thanks!!♥️ (tbh at first I thought it was gonna be longer too but the length of the video was not my concern so I just let it be heehee)
This is just too relatable and recomforting. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Girls power💪🏻💖♥️ thank you!♥️🥰
That was amazing. Thank you for this video!
Thank you!!🧡💜🩷
Loved it ❤. fighting 🤗
Thank youuu🥰♥️
Thank you for this video 🥹🫂
Thank you❤❤
hannah, you have created a wonderful work of art. in the 3 minutes that i watched this, i was suddenly thrown into a world where i put so much effort into changing, but always return to the same state [of myself] other criticize. thank you for sharing this, and i hope you are able to achieve your dreams!!!
Thank you very much!!🫶🏻♥️♥️♥️ let’s be the reminder for each other😘 stay awesome!
thanks for this amazing video ❤
Thank you!!!🥰💖🥰
This is so beautiful (in a way that matters) thank you❤❤
Thank youuuu😘♥️♥️♥️
thank you for making this
Glad you enjoyed watching it♥️♥️🥰
Wow this is gonna go viral! Beautiful video thank you
Omg haha thank you very much!!🥹♥️♥️♥️
You are so talented ❤
Thank you!🫶🏻♥️🫶🏻
Youre so beautiful i dont understand why anyone would ever say those words :(
Thank you very much!♥️🥰 sometimes the intention was good, like they didn’t say stuffs just to mock me but they didn’t realize these words could hurt… so I don’t blame them for saying these as I understand their intention, I just feel like the world needs more understanding and not be this harsh on girls❤
I really loved the way this was filmed, it has such an eery feeling to it. But that's because all those expectations are just simply eery. Good job!
Thank you!!♥️❤️🔥♥️ glad you enjoyed watching the video!
This hits very hard. Thank you for sharing this; loved the editing, and your choice of music. Wishing you all the best with your acting career.
Thank you very much!!♥️🥰♥️ my acting career is not very successful right now but I’ll keep trying!
What a stunning video !!!! Congrats ❤
Thank youuu♥️♥️♥️
you're so beautiful!! live your truth
Thank you for this movie, it’s very meaningful
Glad you like it! Thank you♥️♥️
Beauty is in different shapes size color height,so just be YOU
Exactly! Took me quite some time to figure this out but I’m on my way!♥️🩵
@@hannahmiao even though am struggling with self acceptance myself, I always keep this in mind
Girl you are such a talented story teller, can't wait to see what you make next ✨new sub
Thank you very much!♥️🥹🫶🏻😘 I’m not very experienced so it’s gonna be a whole process of trials and errors and experiments and explorations! Thank you for riding along!
thank you so much for this video. you are really talented and wise.
Thank you!!♥️🥹🫶🏻 not sure if im really talented, but I strive to always be humble, sincere and hardworking!♥️
this was such a beautiful watch , insightful . i really do resonate with you , i feel seen . i simply wanna just be me . i dont wish to be compared to somebody else who looks nothing like me and just is not me . simply i wish to exist as i am , and see there's beauty in that alone
Thank you!!♥️♥️♥️ just be yourself, the you that you like best, then that’s perfect😘😘😘
I love your smile 😁 keep it up 💕
Thank you!!♥️♥️♥️ will do!🥰
I really loved this video, the cinematography was so creative and the message is beautiful! By the way, the first thing I thought before reading the title on the thumbnail was “she’s pretty” :) It’s sad to see the comments you have gotten from people because they simply aren’t true. I think you’re perfect the way you are. Beauty standards are horrible, especially for us women.
Beauty standards also constantly change. That’s because in reality, there is no one type of beauty. There are no certain features that dictate a person’s beauty. There are beautiful people all over the planet. All of different ethnicities and races. Society just tries to make beauty one thing but it fails to do that every time because beauty simply cannot be one thing. At the end of the day, what truly matters about a person is their character.
Like you said “I don’t want to be pretty, I want to be myself” I really resonated with that message. It’s exhausting dealing with what society wants you to be or look like. I just want to live life peacefully and comfortably as myself. I want to be known for who I am, not what I look like or whether or not I am deemed beautiful.
Awww thank you very much!🥹♥️♥️ a lot of time the people who said those comments had good intentions because they believed they were helping me to understand the reality, it’s just that they didn’t realize what they said could really hurt other people’s feeling…
I knew they were not laughing at me or mocking me but still it’s a thing in Asian culture🥲 so it took me quite some time to actually heal and had the courage to share this video! I’m so glad it resonates with a lot of girls😍♥️♥️♥️
this is an awsome video, the quality is amazing, thank u for it
Thank you very much♥️♥️🫶🏻
Lovely video, and Iove the energy and emotions you portray!!! Totally feel you!!
Thank you girl♥️🫶🏻❤️🔥 high five!✋🏻
@@hannahmiao Hi-five! 💓
Love this 💕
🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻♥️ thanks!
you said what I have been struggling to say for the past years. Beauty is not my goal, but how it does paralyse my thoughts...
I feel you🥹🫶🏻❤ we are perfect just the way we are💕
thank you for this video
❤💜🩷🧡🥰
in love with this
Thank youuuu💖❤️🔥💖
Потрясающе.. I'm amazed by this video. It's so pure and honest. Straight even. It's hard for me to impress my true feelings in foreign language, but this little movie made me emotional. Thank you for your art! This video truly an art for me. ❤🩹
Thank you very much!!♥️♥️♥️ I’m glad this little video moved you🥰🥹
Wow, it so awesome 😮 i amazed when saw number of views. This video deserves a lot more views. I like atmosphere, so stylish and touching ✨
Ahhhh Thank you!♥️♥️ I’m still learning to film in a more cinematic way, your comment made my day!
Thank you for this video, it makes me feel, a little less lost
Aww♥️😘 it’s okay to feel lost, we will figure things out♥️🥰♥️
thank you for the art
Thanksss♥️♥️♥️
Were most of these comments from women? It just seems so odd. When I say this, it's not just because I'm a man, but you honestly look like perfection to me. Literally. I'm shocked that people have actually said anything like this to you before. The idea people have of others is truly only a reflection of how they see themselves and how the speak to themselves, my fullest empathy goes out to them too.
you are my new favorite channel
Awww thank you so much!!
You are so damn pretty, they must have mistaken you for someone else 😭Jesus, they must be crazy!!
Damn, this channel has a vibe. After seeing this I think it's probably only a matter of time. I'll be waiting for your next video. :)
Thank you very much!!❤️♥️❤️ a bit tricky to do all the script writing, filming and editing on my own but I’m working on it!
What a nice video and message..
Thank you very much🥰❤ glad you like it!
I love this
Thanksss♥️🤍♥️🩵♥️
definitely feel seen with this video so thankyou for that. just curious though, what inspires u to make this video?
Thank you🫶🏻💖❤️🔥 recently I encountered a major failure as I was trying to become an actress in HK.
As I hit rock bottom I gave myself some time to reflect and tried to understand myself better, I was so sick of being drowned in other people’s opinions and I really wanted to break free, so I took my broken heart and tried to make it into art🥹
really touching video. thank u
Thanks youuu♥️
very inspiring, definitely a video i will constantly think about in the future. when i was younger, i used to watch lots of videos about self love. i hope young girls will do the same thing with this video :)
Thank you!!❤️🧡💜 I hope so too!!