When I feel ugly I always remind myself whenever I try to take a picture of the moon I can never grasp its full beauty with the camera. You just have to see for yourself
Im not sure because my family members or no one close to me comments on my looks but strangers often do. But I can see this because I often see strangers online talking about their "beautiful mother" and mom is generally a 4/10.
@@Noise_floorxx I see this with all the people in comment section of models being like "my wife/girlfriend/husband/etc is hotter than them!" but then if you look at their partner they're between 4/10 and 6/10, 99% of the time
@@Noise_floorxx people are saying that more in the way that their mom or whoever is just a beautiful person, like their soul is beautiful. Not necessarily because they’re literally “beautiful.” As for our partners, if anything, we stop appreciating their attraction and notice more flaws over time because we get used to looking at them, not the opposite. So I call bs on some of this...
@@rebeccaorlando9815 no. I know what I watch a lot better than you do but thanks. The last video that I was referencing, a mother was teaching her daughter how to apply blue eyeliner to her blue eyes. It was an 80s monochromatic look. The daughter said the mother pulled it off better than her and said that she was a baddie. Pretty sure she meant her physical appearance in that context😊
Weird. People tell me all the time I’m more attractive in person than pictures. So, I guess for some of us, pictures aren’t what we actually look like.
most people I know are more attractive in person than pictures , I get disappointed most times I find the instagram profile of a woman I find attractive in person
It is true, some people might be more photogenic than others, I guess you actually can search for scientific backup for that! I also think it depends on the way we are photographed and there are ways to take photos in which you will look like more or less yourself irl
I'm sure it also depends on whether you can pose and make flattering expressions for the pictures. This is trickier than youd think as different light may make different angles look more flattering. And with selfies, they are even more dependent on the skill
Also I’ve noticed motion can influence how attractive you look. Like I definitely look better in videos than photos. Photos always catch your face at an ugly moment.
Very true. As someone with a very expressive face I end up looking goofy as hell in pictures but look substantially better in videos as they're more natural (i.e. how you actually look 99% of the time to everyone else). Not being used to pose for photos also doesn't help, as youìre likely to end up making weird faces when you try.
Yup. Feel great looking in the mirror and my pictures are horrifying. The way the light catches in the lines under my eyes in photos makes me look like I haven’t slept in years, meanwhile looks totally negligible in real life 🤷🏻♀️
@@yp2324 😂 (Hey, facial Gua Sha works wonders! 20 minutes 3 times/ week is so worth it. I also do face yoga on my eye area. And I look amazing in the mirror ☺️ Seriously though…)
@@yp2324vaseline under eyes every night (try it on your arm or leg skin first to avoid any bad reactions) always remove make up chamomile tea under and above eyes before going out, no alcohol, if you smoke don’t blow it back on your face, dont overuse corrector and pick the right tone (might look nice in the mirror but it will distort your face for stangers)
Cameras have bent lenses causing "fisheye" distortions, pick up depth differently depending on how far or close it is, and cameras dont always pick up light in the ways the eyes do.
@@irissupercoolsy I've heard many portrait photographers claim that because camera flattens, many girls with sharp features or heavy features may look average in real life but much better in pictures, while girls with soft features are less favored by the camera even if they're pretty irl
There's a friend of mine who looks completely completely different in a photograph. No matter what angle we try to take his picture in, he'll look like an entirely different person. Even on professional photographs. That's what makes me believe that the closest perception of yourself you can have is the mirror. It may be mirrored but the proportions are right.
i agree with you. The “mere exposure effect” is nonsense to me. Taking good selfies is a skill. I remember going to this illusion museum that had this mirror that allowed you to see yourself without the image flip and it said that’s how people see you in reality and I pretty much looked the exact same compared to looking in regular mirrors.
Mirrors have distortions too. So buy a mirror that has basically little to no flaws and is "mirrored" i.e. flipped from the already flipped image. Also, lighting matters a lot.
@@zzrroott6459 I could be wrong but I heard bigger mirrors tend to be less accurate since they're more prone to bending so wouldn't a gym mirror be less accurate?
Mirror images are real, coz if another person stands with me in front of mirror thier mirror image look same as when I see them directly.. So that means I also look that way..But pictures are different..
💯 yes their face is flipped cuz of the reflection but they look the same vs a photo seems to make ppl look worse unless care is taken with lighting and angle and distance of lense and all that. I see it with the people around me. Only thing that makes ppl look better in pictures is if something is masked with filter or not sharp photos
We’re not mentioning how pictures suck and are distorted due to the lens, lighting, and how far and close you are to the cam, even the position of your can and face can exaggerate your chin, or nose, or forehead etc . Some people aren’t photogenic. I’ve shown my husband my pics and asked is this really what i look like and he said no. Mirrors are more accurate, yes it’s true they’re seeing it flipped but since they are used to it, the level of beauty is the same one you appreciate. And we use filters to bring back some of the beauty that the picture distortions take away! 🥰
No they’re saying that it is the photo that is more accurate than the mirror. Which isn’t true. Photos are very distorted. That’s what I understood, or maybe i should watch it again.
Yep I remember a pro photographer showing the ideal lense photos of people should be taken with (70mm if I remember correctly?). That's why photos taken professionally or of celebrities always look ood, because they're using professional camera settings and lense to take photos of them. I also noticed I look way differently on a good camera, iphone camera, and completely horrible on a cheap phone camera. If the picture was 100% true, then which one?
@@sugarapple5465 i don;t think it s about accuracy it s more about perception, in the video it says that people see the unmirrored version of us. Our perception regarding the unmirrored version is bad, however, this does not mean that the other's perceptions is same as ours.
@@ZinniaGuldenja, but the most people will never understand this. The most atractive people i know are not that much photogenic, on the other side there are some, in real life they look realy boring but on pictures like supermodels
Guys, are you serious? Just think simply. Do you think that mirror which reflects you directly is the real you, or a phone camera which couldn't show all angles perfectly and still not on it's best version, is the real you??? You can simply find it out by asking your friends, they will all say you look like what you look in the mirror, not the photos. Phone cameras are very very unsufficient in all aspects so they won't show you your features perfectly. If we looked like what we look like in the photos, i don't think nobody would get married.
It depends on the friends too... If you have insecure friends, it could be a way for them to put you down. When I was in high school, I felt really insecure about my looks in pictures. One time, I managed to have a picture taken of me which made me feel not insecure. My then best friend said I didn't look like that, so I asked her what I looked like, and she pulled out the most HORRENDOUS picture I have ever seen of myself lol. Just saying, people's perception on a smaller scale cannot always help you get an idea of what you realistically look like
You seem to fail to understand my pov. In the mirror I’m like “oh I’m kinda pretty” but then when I see a photo of my self I look like one of the most hideous goons you’ve ever seen. People say “no you don’t look that bad” which either means I’m that hideous irl or they’re lying and it genuinely makes me feel hideous.
I feel the same way, when I think I'm improving my self-esteem, I see some photo of myself distracted or through the rear camera and then I get depressed. I really feel bad about it, It's like I don't truly know who I am, what my body looks like, my face, it's so confusing and exhausting! 😓
Lol that’s totally me, girl! Struggle is real: but I think we should trust better our own perception in the mirror rather than any random camera. Especially the f iPhone selfie cam always make me look awful, not to mention it literally shows wrinkles that I don’t even have nor see on the mirror 🥴😂
notice how every mirrored and non mirrored example used in the video looked basically the same ? That's the same for us too, it's just us who thinks it's ugly.
Yup. I even tried the thing where you stand in front a mirror with someone close to you then comparing what they look like in the mirror vs irl, they looked the exact same lol
@@Orphiclov I have the opposite feeling: was always scared of my ex's reflection in the mirror because it was an average stranger, and not the cute guy I know
@@ThanhNguyen-br1rh well, pictures are almost always not very high in quality so even if it shows your face un-mirrored, it would still make you look a little odd or disproportionate. Mirrors are more accurate in that sense. However The only thing about them is that we're flipped in them lol
Depends on the camera. I look bad on mobile cameras. My friend likes to take pictures of me using his DSLR, I'm usually suprised that I look good on those. I used to think I was ugly when I was young then I went home to see family photos of me from photoshoots or taken by professional photographers at events. Mobile phones just don't work on me. I've also seen the opposite. People with a tonne of make-up look good on photos, but really uncanny or weird irl.
Yes same I even look different on phone cameras, depending on which one I use. On my iphone I look almost as good as my regular canon camera (with maybe minimal distortions), on my other cheap phone I look horrible af.
@@AmyFerguson The phone camera lens is so small that it distorts entire buildings and rooms, but this warping effect and aspect ratio change is correctable with Lightroom.
Yep, me too. I became “ugly” in 2014 when I got my first iPhone. Before that, I thought of myself as a cute girl because digital cameras took good photos of me. Now I can’t even look at myself on a phone anymore without becoming slightly depressed. 😂
Phew! Thank you. Flipping my pictures and seeing that I looked more like me in the mirror and so more attractive to me, without the picture changing was a relief.
I'm not at all bad looking. I get compliments regularly, I get the kind of treatment that people describe as "pretty privilege," like people going out of their way to be helpful to me, etc. I am incredibly unphotogenic though. Like, my passport photo is so bad that I had a flight attendant genuinely question if it was me, and it's a pretty run of the mill picture of me. Another thing people don't tell you is that digital cameras, especially camera phones make a LOT of choices on their own. I take portraits of people at work, and I won't even let them see the photos I've taken until I've color corrected them. Even in good lighting, digital cameras can completely screw up your undertones which flattens features like cheekbones, and can make you look sick or ruddy. If your face is low contrast (pale and blond for example) cameras that do any degree of auto contrast can make you look bizarre. I'm pale, and blond, and have fairly cool undertones. I'm low contrast, except my eyes are navy. Any degree of auto contrast amplifies even the tiniest bit of redness in my skin, my eyes look borderline scary and dead, and my facial bone structure gets flattened, which makes me look like I have significantly more facial fat than I do. If your face is high contrast, you can easily look harsh, gaunt, etc. Anyone telling you to trust digital cameras to tell the truth about your appearance is trying to sell you something. RUN. Mirrors are significantly more accurate, as are FILM photos. (Caveat: Film photos also have a degree of color balance baked in, and they're not more accurate for all skin tones. A lot of filmstock doesn't accurately render people of color.)
@@bittersweetmadam Dull and just incorrect. Not everyone who is attractive is particularly photogenic and not everyone who is photogenic is especially attractive in real life. I used to work as a stylist and attended a lot of runway shows. There are plenty of models who are *INCREDIBLE* in photos, but just decent looking in real life. Like, there's enough of a gap between photos and real life that you might not even recognize them. There are a fair number of plastic surgeons who aren't super happy with the advice that people get from videos like this because people are increasingly asking for procedures that will make them more photogenic, but the patients end up hating the results in real life. A lot of surgeons won't do aggressive buccal fat removals anymore because the patients hate the results. Yes, you get exquisite looking cheekbones in photos, but you can easily end up looking skeletal in real life. *PHOTOS ARE NOT REAL LIFE*
Thank you, i expercience the same as you. People also give me complimemts and somewhat "pretty privilege" but i look fk ugly in photos ☠ and i started to wonder if thats how ppl really see me but if thats true then why do i receive compliments
@@Bunny-ch2ul Im perfect example of this. I look unrecognizable in Selfies. The Fish barrel distortion just tilt my positive tilted eyebrows down and I look sad in all my pictures.. It also makes my face super long and my nose twice as bigger.. When I look at my self in mirror I look like completely different person and when people see my selfies irl they say I dont look anything like that. Its so frustrating to be unphotogenic. Like i need always face app my features so I can look like real me in photos.
Uhm if it makes you feel better, cameras distort the face a lot and sometimes people don't know how to take photos properly, especially selfies. That's why I dedicate myself to photography and photo retouching, so it's not good to compare yourself on social networks. Sometimes people forget that everything is retouched and edited and the light and the camera are all controlled.
I am on that stage of life where I dont care, not in the sense of giving up or "meh" but in the sense of its okay, I feel fullfilled in the way I look, I dont preseve it bad or good, its just me and I know myself as a person I am good, I talk nice, I dont hurt anyone, I am a normal functioning human being all in all I feel fullfilled, Yes I do take care of my self like skincare and exersice but I dont do it in an obbssive attempt to look better, good video
i feel the same! i love being me & i have finally accepted myself, my looks with makeup on while wearing nice clothes as well as my looks without makeup on, in comfy home clothes. i have accepted that it's normal if my weight fluctuates throughout different periods of time and so on... and finally, i have gotten to a point where i genuinely don't care about what others think... my anxiety has improved a lot as well!! it's honestly so freeing and i'm so here for living this way 🤍🤍 i wish that everyone gets to this point at their lives with all of my heart 🫶🏼 God bless everyone! 😊
@@lilianaj.1108 I am glad you reached this point, honestly there will be days where you feel a bit down, but it would more be temporary, like its happens sometimes you are in a bad mood or so, I feel at peace and fullfilled, when you truely maintain peace with yourself you grow, I have seen that from the day I started to look at life lightly started to treat me as a human not something that needs to be beautiful for world, I began to grow in many ways, toxic people and mindset leads nowhere truely
What you look like in the mirror what is you look like in real life, just ask someone to stand in front of the mirror. Then switch between taking a look at them and their reflection you will see there is no difference, I’ve even had my brother say I look weird on FaceTime because the camera is flipped when recording.
I’m a model who feels they’re not very photogenic. It’s so weird…. I’ll go out with friends and they’ll love taking selfies.. but I hate it. They assume that I like taking pictures all night because I’m a model, when the truth is I’m terrified of how hideous I’ll look in photos. One of the weirdest things about being a model whose insecure about their looks is the lack of control you have over your image. I’ve had my face blown up massively for campaigns, face pasted on walls in stores…. and I think it looks absolutely AWFUL. 😢 It’ll be so bad that I don’t even want to share the achievement with friends or family because regardless of how big the campaign or brand is… I think I look ugly in the photo. I just think why oh why did they choose THAT picture?? Did they do it on purpose or do they genuinely think I look nice ?
Emotionally, you'll never really get over that. The only way, is to view it rationally: of course they chose the most attractive picture - they want sales. No brand/company/photographer is going to choose an unattractive picture of you to advertise with. You just have to trust the truth of that, and learn to ignore the overly self-critical feelings.
You must love the spontaneous group photos where the person taking the picture doesn't even say when they're taking it and you have no time to prepare. Oh, and the worst version gets posted somewhere by someone else.
@The.DiamondDNA Just put 2 mirrors in like an 85 degree angle, stand in front the angle created with the mirrors and your reflection will be the real you.
As a photographer, I can tell face proportions look completely different in photos, even with proffesional cameras would look slightly different. The best way to see your real face proportions is looking yourself in the mirror.
@jazzvalljos really Because whenever I look at my pictures I feel very very ugly, but when I look in the mirror I see a beautiful and attractive woman, sometimes I cry because people see a version of me in the pictures.
I believe it has to do with the quality of cameras and lightning for me. Sometimes I want to take a picture of the bright and shiny eye makeup I just put on and can clearly see in the mirror. Then I take a photo and the colors are nearly invisible, almost grey and morphed into my skin tone. On the other hand, darkee shadows have suddenly appeared underneath my eyes or nose that were certainly not as noticeable in reality.
@@ML-rs7we...no they didn't. It's not a myth, everyone finds different things beautiful. Just because a bunch of plastic surgeons asked some people who they found more attractive and made a "science" out of it does not mean everyone will find one person attractive or one person unattractive.
@@mayakovske Hardly. Beauty standards are different around the world and personal taste is different from person to person. Not everyone is gonna find the """perfect""" face attractive
I have always wondered what was the real me! But I do prefer my face in the mirror vs in a front camera photo. I have also noticed certain physical traits photograph better than their actual appearance
People who see me in real life always tell me I look better than in photos, even though I really try to take good photos. I have also tried seeing people in real life who look better in photos
My face is very unique. My features look different in every photo. It sucks not really knowing what I look like. I could go from model to roadkill. It really depends on the lighting.
I've gotten used to how my un-mirrored face by frequently taking pictures of myself. I found that if I take pictures or videos from different ranges, they all look close to how I look in the mirror. However, when my friends take group pictures on their phone I tend to get exeggarated eye bags and my face looks a lot fatter. I've noticed that when taking pictures in a bright natural setting with a *large background* (2+ meters away) tends to make my skin look off and give me harsh shadows, but if I were to take a picture in the same setting, but closer, I tend to look like how I'm used to perceiving myself. My friends don't really have that issue, they look way more like how I perceive them in their pictures, so why is this? Apart from other environmental factors like focal lengths, I've come to the conclusion that a major cause is the *difference between the lighting present and the lighting that your skin tone needs in order to take a good picture* . My friends all have white skin and so their skin needs less light in order to get rid of shadows, while for darker skintones it is the opposite. So in order for me to have a better picture I need to position the camera closer to my face (so more of the light is directly on my face), or I need a brighter light. This also explains why I tend to look better in dark settings because all the light is focused on my face. Skin undertone and the type of lighting matters as well. Lastly, I noticed that I don't experience this issue with video's. It could be because of how the light hits your face is different every frame, plus that you see your face move, that this issue is less prevelant. Edit: As for why the pictures I took still looked good to me regardless or range, is likely because they were taken in settings where the only light present is directed towards my face (like a bathroom light)
That’s not true I have the same problem and I m white. It’s the opposite. If u have darker skin the lighting do not affect u at all. That’s why lightskins always look good in videos and pictures. And sometimes when I see a very attractive white person. They also look bad in some lights. But if u know them u won’t notice cause ur brain knows how they look. Sry for my English
Nop. Doesn't matter how it's flipped. No photo is the same as a mirrored version. Plus only the mirrors in my home looks normal. The ones in the mall and gym are warped
Omg, thanks, i hated making selfies because i looked so different to my mirror image. Nose huge and my whole face so wide. Then i recently made a picture of my mother and she looks so much older on the pictures, there's even light on one side that isn't there irl. Phone cams are just weird. And it helps if you set the ratio to full instead of 1:1😅
I mirror my mirror in my bathroom, so that I can look at myself in the mirrored view, but also the “real” view. It’s helped me to feel more comfortable with learning how to look better in photos 😂😂😂
@@cat-mv4xw you get another mirror and put it at a 45 angle to your “main” mirror… I have a mirrored bathroom cabinet which allows for this easily, but you can do it with any other mirror
Mirror, picture, reflection off a car window…none of it is a true gauge of how attractive you are compared to treatment from the opposite sex throughout your whole life thus far.
but the thing is, that includes things other than just 'physical attractiveness', like confidence, style, etc., which are beyond the scope of what this channel talks about
@@Aadhitiya no it doesn’t. If we’re talking about how PHYSICALLY attractive you are, treatment from the opposite sex is the best indicator. Very physically attractive people, have gotten a good deal of compliments from people of the opposite sex throughout their lives…without knowing their personality.
@@CrimsonUniverse22 this method of retrieving "data" can easily be flawed though. especially for those who are young and haven't interacted with many people of the opposite sex. for example, i grew up in a very small and majority white town and growing up I was deemed ugly simply for not being white and having non-white features. if i based my attractiveness solely on those interactions during that time then i guess i'm butt ugly and need some surgery. but objectively i'm a very average looking person for my race + gender.
@@StarryHoshi I’m speaking in general, obviously. You’re a specific case. And there are always exceptions to the rule. I’m Filipino and grew up in both a majority Asian community (military brat overseas) and a mostly white and Hispanic community in Texas (middle school through high school), and not once EVER been complimented or had any girl show some kind of interest in me. In either community. That’s three different races of girls that never showed any attraction to me growing up. It’s how I knew I’m also very very average looking.
This really happened to me. I slowly realized that there were several things that made me look ugly when taking photos or just looking in the mirror, starting from expression, facial angle, facial features, lighting, makeup, and also photography techniques because I studied photography. I increasingly understand that I have an asymmetrical face and that makes me very tired and insecure, but that doesn't make me lose my enthusiasm to glow up, honestly it took years for me to look good, especially since I learned alone. And slowly I became more aware that everyone has the same fate, even beautiful and handsome influencers, I always saw them looking perfect but when their faces were edited into a mirror version they also had asymmetrical facial features, that immediately made me relieved. Even now I always get different treatment and words like "you're so handsome", wow that's like an appreciation for me hahaha. And now I'm learning to be grateful for what my body gets from God.
Try to take a picture of the moon or the night sky, Forests... Does it look like how you see it in person? Most likely not. And so do pictures of you accept professional high detail pictures maybe. If you get compliments, just believe them. It's the only true perception you can get besides the mirror. Even tho the mirror is still mirrored, others are just aas used to the unmirrored version of you as you are to the mirrored one.
I've started writing a comment that photo lenses focal lenght distort faces. Selfie cameras have a short one, so it really takes in that effect. (And I do think Instagram actually employs some lens correction for photos taken in the app.) Similar effect is also known to be in mirrors, it depends how close you are.
I went to a event some years ago and I meet an actress from a Fox series. She look like a average woman (not pretty just average) but when I took her picture she look pretty like in the series. Cameras flatten your face and if you have the right angles you will look better in a picture or in movies than in real life. I had meet a lot of actors, (I used to work as a journalist) and none look in real life as good as in the movies even with makeup.
man this is some crazy good research, and very enlightening on this asymmetrical face idea i've had before. seems like it's just more what i'm used to see myself of lol.
My asian mom is always a critic and point out what is good and bad. She says I look bloated and gloomy in pictures but look good in real life. So I do think some people look better in real life than in pictures.
I have friend that she is sooo beautiful like 9/10 beauty but everytime I take picture she don’t look good in pictures I always tell her you look prettier in real life even many ppl agree with me she is pretty really also ppl very pretty in picture but in person they don’t look like their picture also many guy going on dating app saying she don’t look like her pictures …. Also I always found man more good looking in real life than pictures
It’s not the mirroring what the problem is. It’s just that photos distort your face, rendering it to an unrealistic, non detailed version. That’s why taking photos of yourself make you look horrible and looking in the mirror makes you attractive. In the mirror is how you originally look like, not on the pictures. So inverting a photo won’t instantly make you seem hot or ugly, instead it’s most likely the cause of a wrong angle, or the camera’s bad quality. So if you find yourself cute looking in the mirror, then congratulations, you’re probably quite attractive.
I notice this effect with makeup, both on myself and others. If I’m used to seeing someone with makeup and I see them without it, I feel like they don’t look like themselves. Like my brain cannot process that they don’t naturally have eyeliner and full contour when they wake up in the morning 😂
Quality of cameras can vary, but mirrors give the best quality, but mirrors are inverted and cameras are 2d....so the best thing to see yourself like how other people see you is to buy an uninverted mirror or to get 2 mirrors next to each other like you're reading a book and thus you'll see yourself uninverted
i have an identical twin sister, i tested this by looking at her in real life before a picture was taken and then looking at the picture. and she did look much different, and worse in the picture vs real life. so i think i would be right to think that pictures just dont do me or her justice.
Same. The opposite sex has told me several times. I get looks from many girls but I don't feel that I am that attractive. Maybe I have some facial features that they like or the way i present myself / frame
@@alexreyes1371actually i want to know i get a lot compliment from unknown girls .They say I'm pretty cute even tho i never saw them before Are they telling me truth why would they even try to impress me as they saw me first time
@@alexreyes1371I've been told my entire life that I could be a male model and I attract women pretty easily but still only see myself as a 6/10 lol. When I see actual male models, I don't see myself on their level. But I do know for a fact that I'm above average if average is a 5/10. You might be the same. Above average but you may just be certain women's type so they hype you up. I think that's the case for me.
make a video about mirrors because why do i look different in other mirrors? like some mirrors makes me look attractive others not. and when i go to a barbershop their mirrors make me look so attractive. what should i trust? the mirror in the barbershop? is mirror quality affects our looks when we see ourselves in the mirror?
It's also mirror distortion, any mirror with a slight bend will give a different look depending on angles. Think a car window reflection, a plastic bathroom mirror, clownhouse fun mirrors….these can all be slightly bent to give a different look. So basically any flat, non bent glass mirror is best…like the ones in the hairdressers (presuming they're high quality and flat on the wall!)
You're perception of your mirrored face is closest to other people's perception of you're unmirrored face (because: familiarity effect, higher resolution, no akward expressions).
Same every time I wanna talk to loved one of friends or just have fun & once I open the camera & see myself I completely shut off start acting I can’t talk look or focus on who I’m face timing
Ive always noticed people often end up having a relationship with someone thatnlooks similar to them , like same shape teeth or same nose, same shape face etc
This is definitely a thing! I’ve said this since I was in high school and everyone thought I was crazy and making stuff up. It makes sense…if we see someone that looks like us and we find them attractive, it validates the feeling that we’re attractive too. Everyone just wants to feel good about themselves at the end of the day☺️ I personally think it’s really sweet🥰
No. No. Even if you flip it to suit the mirror there are still distortions. The skin tone doesn't match. Even sometimes the face looks a lot longer. The skin quality doesn't look anywhere near as good as it does in the mirror and it doesn't even match the skin tone of the hands and body...I've had one's where I look like I was run over by a cheese grater but looked good in the mirror, even if you flip it still looks awful so this doesn't explain it at all. Only when a real camera was used, from far away do I start to recognise myself. But then again, the mirror image is also sightly distorted too. It tends to darken the tone or lighten the tone depending on the lighting around the mirror. Also, I'm suspicious why these cameras and apps make a person look so much worse? Are there ugly filters on them or something?
I agree to an extent. But I think it is more than that, photos especially selfies are taken up close. No one is 6 inches away from you examining your face. Photos are also take only a moment in time. So shadows and the face texture are just a moment in time. Also, 2d makes faces look weird.
@@YurinanAcquiline Explain the hands and face looking like they've been runover by a cheese grater? I can see the hands...something not quite right there. Almost like a setting that is purposely making people look uglier in pictures.
This is exactly what I'm thinking and what never gets mentioned in discussions like these. It reminds me of when makeup gurus on here say some makeup looks amazing on camera but too heavy/shiny/whatever irl, that proves that cameras aren't always accurate
It should be also noted that mirrors actually show you smaller and further away than you are. Even if your reflection seems to be on the mirrors surface, the actual image is 'behind' the mirror; it's what's called a virtual image.
i dont get how after all the evidence pointing to mirrors being better as pictures have so many variables, you concluded that a good quality pic is what people look like more than their mirror selves?? i believe we're most likely our mirror selves just inverted..
one of the best videos i’ve ever seen, all of the things i thought of as possible reasons to my insecurity about looks and cameras were talked about in this video 🤯 thank u so much ! !
Okay, so 1) I'm even uglier than I believe 2) I have to befriend everyone to be perceived prettier 3) I gotta get my ol' selfiestick out again That's oddly helpful, thanks!
My bf is extremely handsome but he doesn’t even look the same with his passport photo, in videos, and photos. It causes him to lack self esteem. He sometimes look like Lee Do Hyun just has a different nose and height proportions and he always tells me that he is not, lol like all of my family and friends that saw him always mention this 😂. What I do is I always call him beautiful and how beautiful his eyes are. I hope he’ll overcome this hurdle and be confident in the future.
I don't know man I've actually stood in the mirror doing makeup with friends of mine and when I look in the mirror it looks pretty much the same as it looks on their face,, I've never seen anyone go from Gorgeous to abysmal, and I have seen pictures of me go from Gorgeous to abysmal
the focal length of a camera has zero impact on how your features look - what makes the difference is how close you are to the camera. most people look best at a distance between 1.5 and 3 meters, but it depends on your individual facial features.
I look better IRL than in photos or videos, but my sister in law is the opposite. I have small, faded facial features, so cameras tend to make me look older & sicker unless I pile on makeup to emphasize them so the camera can "see them" the way they look IRL. I look much better in the mirror. My SIL has large facial features - lush lips, big eyes, & dark eyebrows, so the camera picks it up very well in a way that looks natural, yet IRL her features look quite intense in a way that looks better in the photos. Many people in my life (who didnt have a reason to lie) have told me that they were surprised when they met me IRL, because I looked younger & prettier than on camera. I'm both glad & frustrated about it. It takes a LOT to get a good photo, & pretty much all candid photos make me look like a trash possum.
I did this test a couple months ago with my girlfriend, after debating about which is more accurate between the mirror and phone camera we stood in a full body mirror and I just simply asked her if she see's any difference between me or my mirror self and she said there was no difference at all. The best way I can explain it is other people perceive your face the same way you do with your mirror self, though there is a difference nobody can see that difference, & everyone see's you the way you see yourself.
I managed to find some ways to make my photos as much similar as possible to how I see myself in the mirror. 1. My face is not very simetric (I have an eye bigger than the other, jaw slightly towards one side, same with the nose), which are more obvious if a photo is taken totally frontally. So, I always pose either with my head slightly tilted or just showing one side of my face. 2. The smile. We have been always been told to smile in photos, but unless it's a goofy photo or it's capturing a moment when I am really laughing, I prefer to pose with a slight, Mona Lisa kind of smile. I have excellent teeth, but smiling makes me overall uglier. 3. Relaxed but dignified. That's how I pose for photos and it works great for me, when it comes for photos that I want to use for social or dating apps. Being too rigid makes you look awful, and even though being totally relaxed is better than that, it's not optimal either. Try to highlight your best features, which in my case are a defined jawline, height and wide shoulders, so I tend to make kind of "arrogant" poses that make these features more obvious. 4. Take some distance. Taking a selfie from a too short distance will definetely take an ugly, unreal photo of yours. If possible, try always to ask a friend to take a picture. I do hate selfies tbh. At the end of the day, it's not that our brain gives us a totally fake reflect, but more like it prefers to provide us the optimal version of our current self. P.S. imo, you should never use edition tools that "improve" your image. That's fooling yourself.
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When I feel ugly I always remind myself whenever I try to take a picture of the moon I can never grasp its full beauty with the camera. You just have to see for yourself
Ohhh that’s a great analogy!
omg this comment actually warmed my heart, thank you. I should start seeing myself that way too.
yes! this exactly.
wow
❤❤I cried
I love the way he's telling us we're ugly in a scientific way
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😂😂
but he's not saying that at all if anything how we look in the mirror is how we really look in real time because its 3d vs a picture
😂😂😂
science says attractiveness is subjective
Love that the channel that usually tells me I'm ugly is reassuring me this time 😊
Broski is embracing the bluepill
I was happy until they said "People tend to overestimate their attractiveness"
Aia
LOL I feel your pain
@@zzrroott6459 Nope lens distortion is the truth not blue pilled😂
I know the feeling.
If familiarity adds to attraction, then we're all less attractive than we think.
Im not sure because my family members or no one close to me comments on my looks but strangers often do. But I can see this because I often see strangers online talking about their "beautiful mother" and mom is generally a 4/10.
@@Noise_floorxx I see this with all the people in comment section of models being like "my wife/girlfriend/husband/etc is hotter than them!" but then if you look at their partner they're between 4/10 and 6/10, 99% of the time
Now that I'm thinking about it, did you mean looking at yourself?
@@Noise_floorxx people are saying that more in the way that their mom or whoever is just a beautiful person, like their soul is beautiful. Not necessarily because they’re literally “beautiful.” As for our partners, if anything, we stop appreciating their attraction and notice more flaws over time because we get used to looking at them, not the opposite. So I call bs on some of this...
@@rebeccaorlando9815 no. I know what I watch a lot better than you do but thanks. The last video that I was referencing, a mother was teaching her daughter how to apply blue eyeliner to her blue eyes. It was an 80s monochromatic look. The daughter said the mother pulled it off better than her and said that she was a baddie. Pretty sure she meant her physical appearance in that context😊
In my 20 years of existence, I have yet to take a good picture.
ur pfp is good picture :)
@@azvr8997 🥲thx
Go to a professional photographer if you’re still ugly then just know your face doesn’t equal your worth
Me too bruh
Even my baby pictures are gollum-esque. My mom won't admit it though
Man social media really messed all of us in terms of self esteem
People can easily fraud with filters, overexposed lighting, and makeup. I don't buy into the "glow up" transformations that much anymore.
Yes lol I stopped using instagram and have felt so much better about myself ever since!
@@kuolich287 Me too. I stopped using filters as well and whenever I see myself in the mirror barefaced I appreciate my natural look a lot more.
@@kuolich287damn it I really should do this. But i love the funny reels on IG too much. Maybe I gotta fix my algorithm
@@kuolich287 instagram is just good for posting to boost your profile, and then deleting it until your next post.
Weird. People tell me all the time I’m more attractive in person than pictures. So, I guess for some of us, pictures aren’t what we actually look like.
most people I know are more attractive in person than pictures , I get disappointed most times I find the instagram profile of a woman I find attractive in person
maybe it is makeup idk
It is true, some people might be more photogenic than others, I guess you actually can search for scientific backup for that! I also think it depends on the way we are photographed and there are ways to take photos in which you will look like more or less yourself irl
Me too! People tell me that all the time.
I honestly prefer looking prettier in person - I'd be hurt if it was the opposite. loll
I'm sure it also depends on whether you can pose and make flattering expressions for the pictures. This is trickier than youd think as different light may make different angles look more flattering. And with selfies, they are even more dependent on the skill
Also I’ve noticed motion can influence how attractive you look. Like I definitely look better in videos than photos. Photos always catch your face at an ugly moment.
Very true. As someone with a very expressive face I end up looking goofy as hell in pictures but look substantially better in videos as they're more natural (i.e. how you actually look 99% of the time to everyone else).
Not being used to pose for photos also doesn't help, as youìre likely to end up making weird faces when you try.
Yup. Feel great looking in the mirror and my pictures are horrifying. The way the light catches in the lines under my eyes in photos makes me look like I haven’t slept in years, meanwhile looks totally negligible in real life 🤷🏻♀️
facts. started to wonder if I've alway had lines under my eyes and if I really look tired asf when I speak to people lol
I’ve never recovered from hearing a little kid say “why does she look so tired?” 😭 time for 💉
@@yp2324 😂 (Hey, facial Gua Sha works wonders! 20 minutes 3 times/ week is so worth it. I also do face yoga on my eye area. And I look amazing in the mirror ☺️ Seriously though…)
For me, I somehow always have horrible shadows on my cheeks that make them look so puffy and like my face is sagging in photos 😂
@@yp2324vaseline under eyes every night (try it on your arm or leg skin first to avoid any bad reactions) always remove make up chamomile tea under and above eyes before going out, no alcohol, if you smoke don’t blow it back on your face, dont overuse corrector and pick the right tone (might look nice in the mirror but it will distort your face for stangers)
Cameras have bent lenses causing "fisheye" distortions, pick up depth differently depending on how far or close it is, and cameras dont always pick up light in the ways the eyes do.
Don't also look pictures more flat?
Yes, pictures are 2d @@irissupercoolsy
@@irissupercoolsy good point!
True
@@irissupercoolsy I've heard many portrait photographers claim that because camera flattens, many girls with sharp features or heavy features may look average in real life but much better in pictures, while girls with soft features are less favored by the camera even if they're pretty irl
There's a friend of mine who looks completely completely different in a photograph. No matter what angle we try to take his picture in, he'll look like an entirely different person. Even on professional photographs. That's what makes me believe that the closest perception of yourself you can have is the mirror. It may be mirrored but the proportions are right.
i agree with you. The “mere exposure effect” is nonsense to me. Taking good selfies is a skill. I remember going to this illusion museum that had this mirror that allowed you to see yourself without the image flip and it said that’s how people see you in reality and I pretty much looked the exact same compared to looking in regular mirrors.
I personally have this issue. My boyfriend says i dont look like my photos at all and is always confused how it happens lol
Even a mirror can have distortions. I have three mirrors and none of them reflect the same thing
Mirrors have distortions too. So buy a mirror that has basically little to no flaws and is "mirrored" i.e. flipped from the already flipped image. Also, lighting matters a lot.
Photographs involve tons of variables (lens type, lighting etc). A mirror in your bathroom seems more accurate and repeatable.
Does anyone also seem to look different in every mirror? Like in some mirrors my face is wider and in some I have a slimmer face
well with some mirrors the surface may have a slight warp to it
The mirrors in your house might be bad. Look at yourself in a bigger high quality mirror in a gym or somethn
@@zzrroott6459 I could be wrong but I heard bigger mirrors tend to be less accurate since they're more prone to bending so wouldn't a gym mirror be less accurate?
I think it all depends on lighting.
@@fionam8894 this is true, I was at my grandma's house and each mirror had me looking different
Mirror images are real, coz if another person stands with me in front of mirror thier mirror image look same as when I see them directly.. So that means I also look that way..But pictures are different..
💯 yes their face is flipped cuz of the reflection but they look the same vs a photo seems to make ppl look worse unless care is taken with lighting and angle and distance of lense and all that. I see it with the people around me. Only thing that makes ppl look better in pictures is if something is masked with filter or not sharp photos
Yeah exactly these ppls are stupid
literally noticed this days ago and have been having an identity crisis since then, this is perfect timing thank you lol
Same lol!!! I was mortified 😭
Lol I've lived with this my whole life. I once was cast as a model and lost the job during the shoot because I looked very different in the picture. 😂
thank you for traumatising me @@spacebuddy5339
so u'd rather wait for him to do upload this than fucking do a simple google search
@@broidkanymore-zc4lt i’m sorry okay?!
We’re not mentioning how pictures suck and are distorted due to the lens, lighting, and how far and close you are to the cam, even the position of your can and face can exaggerate your chin, or nose, or forehead etc . Some people aren’t photogenic. I’ve shown my husband my pics and asked is this really what i look like and he said no. Mirrors are more accurate, yes it’s true they’re seeing it flipped but since they are used to it, the level of beauty is the same one you appreciate. And we use filters to bring back some of the beauty that the picture distortions take away! 🥰
This is mentioned in the video
@@Nyobbishyea lmfao what are they saying
No they’re saying that it is the photo that is more accurate than the mirror. Which isn’t true. Photos are very distorted. That’s what I understood, or maybe i should watch it again.
Yep I remember a pro photographer showing the ideal lense photos of people should be taken with (70mm if I remember correctly?). That's why photos taken professionally or of celebrities always look ood, because they're using professional camera settings and lense to take photos of them.
I also noticed I look way differently on a good camera, iphone camera, and completely horrible on a cheap phone camera. If the picture was 100% true, then which one?
@@sugarapple5465 i don;t think it s about accuracy it s more about perception, in the video it says that people see the unmirrored version of us. Our perception regarding the unmirrored version is bad, however, this does not mean that the other's perceptions is same as ours.
Pictures show how asymmetrical my face is and I don't know how anyone would wanna be close to me. 😂😂 I'd prefer mirror images. Yes i wanna be delulu.
It’s not delulu tho? The mirror is literally more accurate than photos. Idk why people think a 2D picture is more realistic than a 3D mirror..
My pictures are asymmetric but in real life no one realised
Are you Nigerian
@@poptraxx418 no
@@ZinniaGuldenja, but the most people will never understand this. The most atractive people i know are not that much photogenic, on the other side there are some, in real life they look realy boring but on pictures like supermodels
This is so true, I have always liked myself in mirrors, but when I see myself in pictures, I absolutely hate it.
Guys, are you serious? Just think simply. Do you think that mirror which reflects you directly is the real you, or a phone camera which couldn't show all angles perfectly and still not on it's best version, is the real you??? You can simply find it out by asking your friends, they will all say you look like what you look in the mirror, not the photos. Phone cameras are very very unsufficient in all aspects so they won't show you your features perfectly. If we looked like what we look like in the photos, i don't think nobody would get married.
yeah I'd rather see a mirrored version of my face than a 2D fisheye distorted version of my face
It depends on the friends too... If you have insecure friends, it could be a way for them to put you down.
When I was in high school, I felt really insecure about my looks in pictures. One time, I managed to have a picture taken of me which made me feel not insecure. My then best friend said I didn't look like that, so I asked her what I looked like, and she pulled out the most HORRENDOUS picture I have ever seen of myself lol.
Just saying, people's perception on a smaller scale cannot always help you get an idea of what you realistically look like
You seem to fail to understand my pov. In the mirror I’m like “oh I’m kinda pretty” but then when I see a photo of my self I look like one of the most hideous goons you’ve ever seen. People say “no you don’t look that bad” which either means I’m that hideous irl or they’re lying and it genuinely makes me feel hideous.
Same! 100%!
I feel the same way, when I think I'm improving my self-esteem, I see some photo of myself distracted or through the rear camera and then I get depressed. I really feel bad about it, It's like I don't truly know who I am, what my body looks like, my face, it's so confusing and exhausting! 😓
Lol that’s totally me, girl! Struggle is real: but I think we should trust better our own perception in the mirror rather than any random camera. Especially the f iPhone selfie cam always make me look awful, not to mention it literally shows wrinkles that I don’t even have nor see on the mirror 🥴😂
notice how every mirrored and non mirrored example used in the video looked basically the same ? That's the same for us too, it's just us who thinks it's ugly.
Yup. I even tried the thing where you stand in front a mirror with someone close to you then comparing what they look like in the mirror vs irl, they looked the exact same lol
@@Orphiclov I have the opposite feeling: was always scared of my ex's reflection in the mirror because it was an average stranger, and not the cute guy I know
My whole life i always contend with how i look in the mirror but have the opposite feeling on how i look in pictures
@@ThanhNguyen-br1rh well, pictures are almost always not very high in quality so even if it shows your face un-mirrored, it would still make you look a little odd or disproportionate.
Mirrors are more accurate in that sense. However The only thing about them is that we're flipped in them lol
It's the camera problem
If you take picture by back camera and reverse it, it will be uglier than front camera without reverse
Depends on the camera. I look bad on mobile cameras. My friend likes to take pictures of me using his DSLR, I'm usually suprised that I look good on those. I used to think I was ugly when I was young then I went home to see family photos of me from photoshoots or taken by professional photographers at events.
Mobile phones just don't work on me. I've also seen the opposite. People with a tonne of make-up look good on photos, but really uncanny or weird irl.
Yes same I even look different on phone cameras, depending on which one I use. On my iphone I look almost as good as my regular canon camera (with maybe minimal distortions), on my other cheap phone I look horrible af.
My iPhone even makes objects that I think are beautiful in real life look ugly. It tries to “fix” everything
@@AmyFerguson The phone camera lens is so small that it distorts entire buildings and rooms, but this warping effect and aspect ratio change is correctable with Lightroom.
I like how I look in Polaroids honestly. I feel like I still look like me without having to see every crease and blemish.
Yep, me too. I became “ugly” in 2014 when I got my first iPhone. Before that, I thought of myself as a cute girl because digital cameras took good photos of me. Now I can’t even look at myself on a phone anymore without becoming slightly depressed. 😂
00:53 we got Ananya Pandey featured in QOVES Studio before GTA 6
Yes
Ahhh😭😭
She’s famous so no doubts
Phew! Thank you. Flipping my pictures and seeing that I looked more like me in the mirror and so more attractive to me, without the picture changing was a relief.
I'm not at all bad looking. I get compliments regularly, I get the kind of treatment that people describe as "pretty privilege," like people going out of their way to be helpful to me, etc. I am incredibly unphotogenic though. Like, my passport photo is so bad that I had a flight attendant genuinely question if it was me, and it's a pretty run of the mill picture of me.
Another thing people don't tell you is that digital cameras, especially camera phones make a LOT of choices on their own. I take portraits of people at work, and I won't even let them see the photos I've taken until I've color corrected them. Even in good lighting, digital cameras can completely screw up your undertones which flattens features like cheekbones, and can make you look sick or ruddy. If your face is low contrast (pale and blond for example) cameras that do any degree of auto contrast can make you look bizarre. I'm pale, and blond, and have fairly cool undertones. I'm low contrast, except my eyes are navy. Any degree of auto contrast amplifies even the tiniest bit of redness in my skin, my eyes look borderline scary and dead, and my facial bone structure gets flattened, which makes me look like I have significantly more facial fat than I do. If your face is high contrast, you can easily look harsh, gaunt, etc.
Anyone telling you to trust digital cameras to tell the truth about your appearance is trying to sell you something. RUN. Mirrors are significantly more accurate, as are FILM photos. (Caveat: Film photos also have a degree of color balance baked in, and they're not more accurate for all skin tones. A lot of filmstock doesn't accurately render people of color.)
Same. This kind of videos are just dull.
@@bittersweetmadam Dull and just incorrect. Not everyone who is attractive is particularly photogenic and not everyone who is photogenic is especially attractive in real life. I used to work as a stylist and attended a lot of runway shows. There are plenty of models who are *INCREDIBLE* in photos, but just decent looking in real life. Like, there's enough of a gap between photos and real life that you might not even recognize them.
There are a fair number of plastic surgeons who aren't super happy with the advice that people get from videos like this because people are increasingly asking for procedures that will make them more photogenic, but the patients end up hating the results in real life. A lot of surgeons won't do aggressive buccal fat removals anymore because the patients hate the results. Yes, you get exquisite looking cheekbones in photos, but you can easily end up looking skeletal in real life.
*PHOTOS ARE NOT REAL LIFE*
Thank you, i expercience the same as you. People also give me complimemts and somewhat "pretty privilege" but i look fk ugly in photos ☠ and i started to wonder if thats how ppl really see me but if thats true then why do i receive compliments
@@Bunny-ch2ul Im perfect example of this. I look unrecognizable in Selfies. The Fish barrel distortion just tilt my positive tilted eyebrows down and I look sad in all my pictures.. It also makes my face super long and my nose twice as bigger.. When I look at my self in mirror I look like completely different person and when people see my selfies irl they say I dont look anything like that. Its so frustrating to be unphotogenic. Like i need always face app my features so I can look like real me in photos.
@@Kayori.jp. Many people experience this you are not alone. Its frustrating.
im ugly in both 💀fun video tho!
Same, or at least below average if not downright hideous.
Me too. I'm hideous in both. ( I'm marginally less unattractive in the mirror😢)
I think that you are not ugly, for sure
same 😢
Uhm if it makes you feel better, cameras distort the face a lot and sometimes people don't know how to take photos properly, especially selfies. That's why I dedicate myself to photography and photo retouching, so it's not good to compare yourself on social networks. Sometimes people forget that everything is retouched and edited and the light and the camera are all controlled.
I am on that stage of life where I dont care, not in the sense of giving up or "meh" but in the sense of its okay, I feel fullfilled in the way I look, I dont preseve it bad or good, its just me and I know myself as a person I am good, I talk nice, I dont hurt anyone, I am a normal functioning human being all in all I feel fullfilled, Yes I do take care of my self like skincare and exersice but I dont do it in an obbssive attempt to look better, good video
Obsessing over improving something gave me depression so it never help speaking from experience
i love this so much
i feel the same! i love being me & i have finally accepted myself, my looks with makeup on while wearing nice clothes as well as my looks without makeup on, in comfy home clothes. i have accepted that it's normal if my weight fluctuates throughout different periods of time and so on... and finally, i have gotten to a point where i genuinely don't care about what others think... my anxiety has improved a lot as well!! it's honestly so freeing and i'm so here for living this way 🤍🤍
i wish that everyone gets to this point at their lives with all of my heart 🫶🏼 God bless everyone! 😊
@@lilianaj.1108 I am glad you reached this point, honestly there will be days where you feel a bit down, but it would more be temporary, like its happens sometimes you are in a bad mood or so, I feel at peace and fullfilled, when you truely maintain peace with yourself you grow, I have seen that from the day I started to look at life lightly started to treat me as a human not something that needs to be beautiful for world, I began to grow in many ways, toxic people and mindset leads nowhere truely
Hear hear!!!
What you look like in the mirror what is you look like in real life, just ask someone to stand in front of the mirror. Then switch between taking a look at them and their reflection you will see there is no difference, I’ve even had my brother say I look weird on FaceTime because the camera is flipped when recording.
I’m a model who feels they’re not very photogenic. It’s so weird…. I’ll go out with friends and they’ll love taking selfies.. but I hate it. They assume that I like taking pictures all night because I’m a model, when the truth is I’m terrified of how hideous I’ll look in photos.
One of the weirdest things about being a model whose insecure about their looks is the lack of control you have over your image. I’ve had my face blown up massively for campaigns, face pasted on walls in stores…. and I think it looks absolutely AWFUL. 😢 It’ll be so bad that I don’t even want to share the achievement with friends or family because regardless of how big the campaign or brand is… I think I look ugly in the photo. I just think why oh why did they choose THAT picture?? Did they do it on purpose or do they genuinely think I look nice ?
I'm not a model but this is exactly what I've dealt with most of my life.
Emotionally, you'll never really get over that. The only way, is to view it rationally: of course they chose the most attractive picture - they want sales. No brand/company/photographer is going to choose an unattractive picture of you to advertise with. You just have to trust the truth of that, and learn to ignore the overly self-critical feelings.
You probably don't look ugly in those photos, not from the pov of the ones who post them .
You must love the spontaneous group photos where the person taking the picture doesn't even say when they're taking it and you have no time to prepare. Oh, and the worst version gets posted somewhere by someone else.
@@poleag whenever multiple people take pictures of me in a group I never look at the right camera lmao
The most accurate way is to put a mirror in an angle with another mirror and the reflection will turn to how you actually look like
Yess correct!
I’ve done that and it literally looks so horrible and cringe I just want to kms 💀
@The.DiamondDNA Just put 2 mirrors in like an 85 degree angle, stand in front the angle created with the mirrors and your reflection will be the real you.
كن اظن انه لا احد يعرف هذه الطريقة سواي 😆😆
do't do this. you'll be horrified.
the drop in confidence oh my god
As a photographer, I can tell face proportions look completely different in photos, even with proffesional cameras would look slightly different. The best way to see your real face proportions is looking yourself in the mirror.
Really?
@jazzvalljos
really Because whenever I look at my pictures I feel very very ugly, but when I look in the mirror I see a beautiful and attractive woman, sometimes I cry because people see a version of me in the pictures.
to see ur real face to others, theres a reverse mirror
I believe it has to do with the quality of cameras and lightning for me. Sometimes I want to take a picture of the bright and shiny eye makeup I just put on and can clearly see in the mirror. Then I take a photo and the colors are nearly invisible, almost grey and morphed into my skin tone. On the other hand, darkee shadows have suddenly appeared underneath my eyes or nose that were certainly not as noticeable in reality.
Camera lens makes big difference on your face
And light
It also distorts your face, regardless of the lens, because it's a flattened image or rendering of a 3D model.
In the end, beauty is in the eye of the beholder 😍
So true
QOVES already debunked this myth
Delulululu
@@ML-rs7we...no they didn't. It's not a myth, everyone finds different things beautiful. Just because a bunch of plastic surgeons asked some people who they found more attractive and made a "science" out of it does not mean everyone will find one person attractive or one person unattractive.
@@mayakovske Hardly. Beauty standards are different around the world and personal taste is different from person to person. Not everyone is gonna find the """perfect""" face attractive
I have always wondered what was the real me! But I do prefer my face in the mirror vs in a front camera photo. I have also noticed certain physical traits photograph better than their actual appearance
People who see me in real life always tell me I look better than in photos, even though I really try to take good photos. I have also tried seeing people in real life who look better in photos
My face is very unique. My features look different in every photo. It sucks not really knowing what I look like. I could go from model to roadkill. It really depends on the lighting.
bruhhh same
Same, I'm a female but with really masculine features, especially my brow bone, if the lighting is bad I look like a neanderthal lmao
Literally same, there is no in between.
In professional modeling it’s called “unstable look” where you don’t look good from certain angles
I’m the same way. Like “two face” from Sienfeld.
I've gotten used to how my un-mirrored face by frequently taking pictures of myself. I found that if I take pictures or videos from different ranges, they all look close to how I look in the mirror. However, when my friends take group pictures on their phone I tend to get exeggarated eye bags and my face looks a lot fatter.
I've noticed that when taking pictures in a bright natural setting with a *large background* (2+ meters away) tends to make my skin look off and give me harsh shadows, but if I were to take a picture in the same setting, but closer, I tend to look like how I'm used to perceiving myself. My friends don't really have that issue, they look way more like how I perceive them in their pictures, so why is this?
Apart from other environmental factors like focal lengths, I've come to the conclusion that a major cause is the *difference between the lighting present and the lighting that your skin tone needs in order to take a good picture* . My friends all have white skin and so their skin needs less light in order to get rid of shadows, while for darker skintones it is the opposite. So in order for me to have a better picture I need to position the camera closer to my face (so more of the light is directly on my face), or I need a brighter light. This also explains why I tend to look better in dark settings because all the light is focused on my face. Skin undertone and the type of lighting matters as well.
Lastly, I noticed that I don't experience this issue with video's. It could be because of how the light hits your face is different every frame, plus that you see your face move, that this issue is less prevelant.
Edit: As for why the pictures I took still looked good to me regardless or range, is likely because they were taken in settings where the only light present is directed towards my face (like a bathroom light)
That’s not true
I have the same problem and I m white.
It’s the opposite. If u have darker skin the lighting do not affect u at all.
That’s why lightskins always look good in videos and pictures.
And sometimes when I see a very attractive white person.
They also look bad in some lights.
But if u know them u won’t notice cause ur brain knows how they look.
Sry for my English
This is such a relevant conversation. I’ve had this experience a million fucking times
This is the topic I have always wanted you to explain us.!!!
Loved ones are more likely to find a person to be more attractive, than they actually are.....but then beauty is very subjective.
If a person is loved, doesn't that prove the person is attractive?
@@nympheynah I'm ugly asf but I'm still loved
I invert my pictures to model what I see in the mirror ever since that I love my pics and stopped thinking I was ugly.
Nop. Doesn't matter how it's flipped. No photo is the same as a mirrored version. Plus only the mirrors in my home looks normal. The ones in the mall and gym are warped
Omg, thanks, i hated making selfies because i looked so different to my mirror image. Nose huge and my whole face so wide. Then i recently made a picture of my mother and she looks so much older on the pictures, there's even light on one side that isn't there irl. Phone cams are just weird. And it helps if you set the ratio to full instead of 1:1😅
I mirror my mirror in my bathroom, so that I can look at myself in the mirrored view, but also the “real” view. It’s helped me to feel more comfortable with learning how to look better in photos 😂😂😂
How did you do that?
@@cat-mv4xw you get another mirror and put it at a 45 angle to your “main” mirror… I have a mirrored bathroom cabinet which allows for this easily, but you can do it with any other mirror
same it helped so much with the body dysmorphia. you just need to get used to your true self
Mirror, picture, reflection off a car window…none of it is a true gauge of how attractive you are compared to treatment from the opposite sex throughout your whole life thus far.
but the thing is, that includes things other than just 'physical attractiveness', like confidence, style, etc., which are beyond the scope of what this channel talks about
@@Aadhitiya no it doesn’t. If we’re talking about how PHYSICALLY attractive you are, treatment from the opposite sex is the best indicator.
Very physically attractive people, have gotten a good deal of compliments from people of the opposite sex throughout their lives…without knowing their personality.
@@CrimsonUniverse22that’s not true 😂😂
@@CrimsonUniverse22 this method of retrieving "data" can easily be flawed though. especially for those who are young and haven't interacted with many people of the opposite sex. for example, i grew up in a very small and majority white town and growing up I was deemed ugly simply for not being white and having non-white features. if i based my attractiveness solely on those interactions during that time then i guess i'm butt ugly and need some surgery. but objectively i'm a very average looking person for my race + gender.
@@StarryHoshi I’m speaking in general, obviously. You’re a specific case. And there are always exceptions to the rule.
I’m Filipino and grew up in both a majority Asian community (military brat overseas) and a mostly white and Hispanic community in Texas (middle school through high school), and not once EVER been complimented or had any girl show some kind of interest in me. In either community. That’s three different races of girls that never showed any attraction to me growing up.
It’s how I knew I’m also very very average looking.
True mirror is the most accurate
This really happened to me. I slowly realized that there were several things that made me look ugly when taking photos or just looking in the mirror, starting from expression, facial angle, facial features, lighting, makeup, and also photography techniques because I studied photography. I increasingly understand that I have an asymmetrical face and that makes me very tired and insecure, but that doesn't make me lose my enthusiasm to glow up, honestly it took years for me to look good, especially since I learned alone. And slowly I became more aware that everyone has the same fate, even beautiful and handsome influencers, I always saw them looking perfect but when their faces were edited into a mirror version they also had asymmetrical facial features, that immediately made me relieved. Even now I always get different treatment and words like "you're so handsome", wow that's like an appreciation for me hahaha. And now I'm learning to be grateful for what my body gets from God.
Try to take a picture of the moon or the night sky, Forests... Does it look like how you see it in person? Most likely not. And so do pictures of you accept professional high detail pictures maybe.
If you get compliments, just believe them. It's the only true perception you can get besides the mirror. Even tho the mirror is still mirrored, others are just aas used to the unmirrored version of you as you are to the mirrored one.
I've started writing a comment that photo lenses focal lenght distort faces.
Selfie cameras have a short one, so it really takes in that effect. (And I do think Instagram actually employs some lens correction for photos taken in the app.)
Similar effect is also known to be in mirrors, it depends how close you are.
I’ve had strangers stop and tell me I’m beautiful. So I guess that really means something, huh.
And are you beautiful in the mirror? If yes, then that pretty much sums it up
I went to a event some years ago and I meet an actress from a Fox series. She look like a average woman (not pretty just average) but when I took her picture she look pretty like in the series. Cameras flatten your face and if you have the right angles you will look better in a picture or in movies than in real life. I had meet a lot of actors, (I used to work as a journalist) and none look in real life as good as in the movies even with makeup.
man this is some crazy good research, and very enlightening on this asymmetrical face idea i've had before.
seems like it's just more what i'm used to see myself of lol.
My asian mom is always a critic and point out what is good and bad. She says I look bloated and gloomy in pictures but look good in real life. So I do think some people look better in real life than in pictures.
Idk, I look great on all levels of reality, or at least that's what I tell myself. Everyone is beautiful in its own way.
I'm so pretty in the mirror!
I have friend that she is sooo beautiful like 9/10 beauty but everytime I take picture she don’t look good in pictures I always tell her you look prettier in real life even many ppl agree with me she is pretty really also ppl very pretty in picture but in person they don’t look like their picture also many guy going on dating app saying she don’t look like her pictures …. Also I always found man more good looking in real life than pictures
I've put a ton of effort into making my face more symmetrical. It's helped a lot
How?
What especially?
@@TheOutlierToday jaw exercises, mewing, botox, orthodontics, sleeping positions, makeup techniques 👍
@@crystalnelson314Drawing eyebrows ?
@@crystalnelson314 yh im cooked😭😭
It’s not the mirroring what the problem is.
It’s just that photos distort your face, rendering it to an unrealistic, non detailed version.
That’s why taking photos of yourself make you look horrible and looking in the mirror makes you attractive.
In the mirror is how you originally look like, not on the pictures.
So inverting a photo won’t instantly make you seem hot or ugly, instead it’s most likely the cause of a wrong angle, or the camera’s bad quality.
So if you find yourself cute looking in the mirror, then congratulations, you’re probably quite attractive.
I notice this effect with makeup, both on myself and others. If I’m used to seeing someone with makeup and I see them without it, I feel like they don’t look like themselves. Like my brain cannot process that they don’t naturally have eyeliner and full contour when they wake up in the morning 😂
I so appreciate the research and science that went into the making of this video. Thank you!
Quality of cameras can vary, but mirrors give the best quality, but mirrors are inverted and cameras are 2d....so the best thing to see yourself like how other people see you is to buy an uninverted mirror or to get 2 mirrors next to each other like you're reading a book and thus you'll see yourself uninverted
i have an identical twin sister, i tested this by looking at her in real life before a picture was taken and then looking at the picture. and she did look much different, and worse in the picture vs real life. so i think i would be right to think that pictures just dont do me or her justice.
She is Better in real life or in the picture?
I feel unattractive but people always tell me I’m beautiful. It’s a mindfu€k
They just try to be nice.
Same. The opposite sex has told me several times. I get looks from many girls but I don't feel that I am that attractive. Maybe I have some facial features that they like or the way i present myself / frame
@@alexreyes1371actually i want to know i get a lot compliment from unknown girls .They say I'm pretty cute even tho i never saw them before
Are they telling me truth why would they even try to impress me as they saw me first time
Might be a self-esteem issue.
@@alexreyes1371I've been told my entire life that I could be a male model and I attract women pretty easily but still only see myself as a 6/10 lol. When I see actual male models, I don't see myself on their level. But I do know for a fact that I'm above average if average is a 5/10. You might be the same. Above average but you may just be certain women's type so they hype you up. I think that's the case for me.
Thanks for the video to explain why I hate how I look in real life for over 30 years. It is definitely different from my mirror image.
good god. hearing that i probably view myself as 10% more attractive than I actually am is horrifying news. i look like shit
This isn't entirely true and is quite a grey area. There are many studies that suggest the opposite.
Direct light on your face when taking pictures makes your face look flatter than it is in real life because of the lack of shadows.
make a video about mirrors because why do i look different in other mirrors? like some mirrors makes me look attractive others not. and when i go to a barbershop their mirrors make me look so attractive. what should i trust? the mirror in the barbershop? is mirror quality affects our looks when we see ourselves in the mirror?
its mostly the lighting i think. I experienced the same in barbershops. I think they have lamps set up in a way, that make you look better.
It's also mirror distortion, any mirror with a slight bend will give a different look depending on angles. Think a car window reflection, a plastic bathroom mirror, clownhouse fun mirrors….these can all be slightly bent to give a different look. So basically any flat, non bent glass mirror is best…like the ones in the hairdressers (presuming they're high quality and flat on the wall!)
So is mirror or camera more accurate? I think mirror is accurate
Mirror is accurate but you have to invert it
You're perception of your mirrored face is closest to other people's perception of you're unmirrored face (because: familiarity effect, higher resolution, no akward expressions).
I dont like both mirror and camera. I even dont like when i am on Zoom call. This is unhealthy. I need to accept for my sanity.
Same every time I wanna talk to loved one of friends or just have fun & once I open the camera & see myself
I completely shut off start acting I can’t talk look or focus on who I’m face timing
Ive always noticed people often end up having a relationship with someone thatnlooks similar to them , like same shape teeth or same nose, same shape face etc
This is definitely a thing! I’ve said this since I was in high school and everyone thought I was crazy and making stuff up. It makes sense…if we see someone that looks like us and we find them attractive, it validates the feeling that we’re attractive too. Everyone just wants to feel good about themselves at the end of the day☺️ I personally think it’s really sweet🥰
beauty is in the eye of the camera
😂😂that's funn....oh😢
No. No. Even if you flip it to suit the mirror there are still distortions. The skin tone doesn't match. Even sometimes the face looks a lot longer. The skin quality doesn't look anywhere near as good as it does in the mirror and it doesn't even match the skin tone of the hands and body...I've had one's where I look like I was run over by a cheese grater but looked good in the mirror, even if you flip it still looks awful so this doesn't explain it at all. Only when a real camera was used, from far away do I start to recognise myself. But then again, the mirror image is also sightly distorted too. It tends to darken the tone or lighten the tone depending on the lighting around the mirror. Also, I'm suspicious why these cameras and apps make a person look so much worse? Are there ugly filters on them or something?
I agree to an extent. But I think it is more than that, photos especially selfies are taken up close. No one is 6 inches away from you examining your face. Photos are also take only a moment in time. So shadows and the face texture are just a moment in time. Also, 2d makes faces look weird.
@@YurinanAcquiline Explain the hands and face looking like they've been runover by a cheese grater? I can see the hands...something not quite right there. Almost like a setting that is purposely making people look uglier in pictures.
This is exactly what I'm thinking and what never gets mentioned in discussions like these. It reminds me of when makeup gurus on here say some makeup looks amazing on camera but too heavy/shiny/whatever irl, that proves that cameras aren't always accurate
I was traumatized by my own picture
I was traumatized by my own voice
😂
Same!
Me too
😂
It should be also noted that mirrors actually show you smaller and further away than you are. Even if your reflection seems to be on the mirrors surface, the actual image is 'behind' the mirror; it's what's called a virtual image.
i dont get how after all the evidence pointing to mirrors being better as pictures have so many variables, you concluded that a good quality pic is what people look like more than their mirror selves?? i believe we're most likely our mirror selves just inverted..
Thanks for clarifying so many things I have questioned over the years
Omg I was literally thinking about this rn
*mind reading*
Me too😅
Same
one of the best videos i’ve ever seen, all of the things i thought of as possible reasons to my insecurity about looks and cameras were talked about in this video 🤯 thank u so much ! !
Okay, so
1) I'm even uglier than I believe
2) I have to befriend everyone to be perceived prettier
3) I gotta get my ol' selfiestick out again
That's oddly helpful, thanks!
My bf is extremely handsome but he doesn’t even look the same with his passport photo, in videos, and photos. It causes him to lack self esteem. He sometimes look like Lee Do Hyun just has a different nose and height proportions and he always tells me that he is not, lol like all of my family and friends that saw him always mention this 😂. What I do is I always call him beautiful and how beautiful his eyes are. I hope he’ll overcome this hurdle and be confident in the future.
I don't know man I've actually stood in the mirror doing makeup with friends of mine and when I look in the mirror it looks pretty much the same as it looks on their face,, I've never seen anyone go from Gorgeous to abysmal, and I have seen pictures of me go from Gorgeous to abysmal
Because the mirror is more accurate than cameras. But theyre both distorted
Yeah that’s why I put the mirror setting on my camera settings. Makes me look much better.
not ugly, just mirroed. Love it- today I learned something I didn t see coming.
2:16 lmao I see what you did there
I look best in the mirror when I don’t have my glasses or contacts on. Just a beautiful blur.
My brother's mirrored self is the same as his real self therefore mirror is more accurate
good thing samsung selfie is already "un-mirrored" so i already know my good angles when looking at people.
the focal length of a camera has zero impact on how your features look - what makes the difference is how close you are to the camera. most people look best at a distance between 1.5 and 3 meters, but it depends on your individual facial features.
yeah...
I look better IRL than in photos or videos, but my sister in law is the opposite.
I have small, faded facial features, so cameras tend to make me look older & sicker unless I pile on makeup to emphasize them so the camera can "see them" the way they look IRL. I look much better in the mirror. My SIL has large facial features - lush lips, big eyes, & dark eyebrows, so the camera picks it up very well in a way that looks natural, yet IRL her features look quite intense in a way that looks better in the photos.
Many people in my life (who didnt have a reason to lie) have told me that they were surprised when they met me IRL, because I looked younger & prettier than on camera. I'm both glad & frustrated about it. It takes a LOT to get a good photo, & pretty much all candid photos make me look like a trash possum.
I’m ugly and proud
I did this test a couple months ago with my girlfriend, after debating about which is more accurate between the mirror and phone camera we stood in a full body mirror and I just simply asked her if she see's any difference between me or my mirror self and she said there was no difference at all.
The best way I can explain it is other people perceive your face the same way you do with your mirror self, though there is a difference nobody can see that difference, & everyone see's you the way you see yourself.
Me like an artist I can see the different without use mirror ...
It's depend
I agree 90%
bro imagine admitting that your own girlfriend is fucking lying to you
The guy who took my picture for my ID CARD took this sh*t to a whole other level💀😭
sameeeee
@@emis8755 NO.
@@emis8755 NO. >:(
I love watching videos like this knowing I don't look good in both.
I managed to find some ways to make my photos as much similar as possible to how I see myself in the mirror.
1. My face is not very simetric (I have an eye bigger than the other, jaw slightly towards one side, same with the nose), which are more obvious if a photo is taken totally frontally. So, I always pose either with my head slightly tilted or just showing one side of my face.
2. The smile. We have been always been told to smile in photos, but unless it's a goofy photo or it's capturing a moment when I am really laughing, I prefer to pose with a slight, Mona Lisa kind of smile. I have excellent teeth, but smiling makes me overall uglier.
3. Relaxed but dignified. That's how I pose for photos and it works great for me, when it comes for photos that I want to use for social or dating apps. Being too rigid makes you look awful, and even though being totally relaxed is better than that, it's not optimal either. Try to highlight your best features, which in my case are a defined jawline, height and wide shoulders, so I tend to make kind of "arrogant" poses that make these features more obvious.
4. Take some distance. Taking a selfie from a too short distance will definetely take an ugly, unreal photo of yours. If possible, try always to ask a friend to take a picture. I do hate selfies tbh.
At the end of the day, it's not that our brain gives us a totally fake reflect, but more like it prefers to provide us the optimal version of our current self.
P.S. imo, you should never use edition tools that "improve" your image. That's fooling yourself.
This channel is so good for my anxiety.
"People generally consider themselves more attractive than they actually are."
Have you ever talked to women?
chip on your shoulder much?
Can you please do a video on the "Jimin effect" and why specifically males tend to fall for it more than females? 🙏🏽
Damn! Jimin... he is so cuteee
There needs to be a true mirror. I know they might exist somewhere but they need to be sold to everyone.
There's literally a company called True Mirror that sells those
⭐ Also, depending upon the light in the room and into the mirror - which then reflects back onto one's face, thus lights a face differently - 😘