I am a huge Love & Logic fan. Been using this method in my teaching for over 10 years. I had one rough year, my first year teaching, and that was because the kids & my administration weren't expecting that approach. 9 years later, incoming students & parents know my teaching methods. I am the Zen Master. Apologize to the OG Phil Jackson.
I’m not a teacher; I work in an office. And every one of these can absolutely be used in my job, too. These are great. And perfect between adult coworkers.
These are quick, clear, concise teacher tips. I will be sharing this youtube with an entire staff in a few weeks that are eager to learn about Love & Logic.
That's really cool! It's "just" a change of mindset. You've got to practice this system in order to make it a reflex, a new way of communicating. There are things that I already do - after 16 years teaching, that's a relief! But I'll try some of your wisdom for the year to come. :)
Taking a love and logic parenting class now. I can use your tips for when I am in the classroom as a paraeducator, whether on the playground or in the tutoring center. Thanks
+Tech4 Networkers the storm is really far from me. Texas is freaking huge! Houston is really effected and we are 465 miles (748 kilometers) away from them. Thanks for the idea!
I really want to become a better teacher. I was so impatient with my third graders this year. I yelled and argued and handed out punitive consequences like candy. The last few days of school, I had a full class every day. Other teachers had 0-4 students and mine kept showing up. They were smiling and showing love to the end. They were also keeping me from getting anything done, making a mess and arguing, like they'd been doing all year. I wish I hadn't been so impatient with them and want to do better next year.
Thank u for ur lovely video.. I m going to use this for my son who is 4 yrs.. pls keep on doing such videos .. also pls do more videos for math and English.. Thanks 😊
I am so glad you will be using this! I am taking a short break from videos because I am now also teaching a college class online as well. I have big plans for the channel for next year!
Interesting thoughts. Start with TRUTH...not empathy. You are the teacher, they are the students. Therefore, teach them according to TRUTH using Love (properly defining what you mean by 'LOVE'), morals, reason and logic as tools. The remainder of your input / thoughts are verified correct resulting in the students growth within the environment they are being taught - regardless of the parents upbringing. Keep the "world system" out of the training / teaching otherwise it will be for nothing. When they recognize the sincerity and hope through you then they will reciprocate in kind with understanding instilled within them. Thank you for the post!
New subscriber! Needed this bad.. any tips for men.. it's hard enough for me as a mom to use these techniques, but finding it harder to get my husband to do it
Aaron How does love and logic come into play if you have a safety issue? ie. How does it help if you have a student that is hitting or kicking others students? I ask because I experienced this situation as a sub in kindergarten one time and had no idea what to do. I ended up having to call the office and they removed him from class for the day.
+Dan Gasior with huge behavior issues you really have to dive deep into the relationship building. Being a sub is hard because you do not have time to build relationships. I would say with kids who get violent, you have to look at what need they are trying to fill. For example, they may be trying to save face, defend themselves, gain control, lash out, etc. if you can find the need being filled you can address the issues before they explode. With the kids in my class, if I have an agree child I try and mirror their feelings with my voice (you look like this, and that tells me you are really upset, would you like some time away from the friends so you can calm down?). I hope this is helpful. I plan on doing a behavior video about aggressive kiddos.
I know the final quarter of the school year is crazy, but I was wondering if you know when you will be adding a behavior video about aggressive kiddos. I am currently gathering data to share with our school staff. I would love to have a school climate focused on Love and Logic. I need to have as many answers to their questions as I can before I present this. I have already read, "Teaching with Love and Logic" and have listened to the hours of audio provided on the cds that came with the Love and Logic package. With 'delayed consequences,' when we enforce these consequences how do we give the kids the ownership of these? Or do we just tell them what the logical consequence is and enforce it?
My expectations every morning were 1. Make smart choices 2. Use helpful hands and words 3. Always do your best Also I said a lot -“do what you need as long it does not effect anyone else”
Thanks, Aaron. I like your channel because it shows your full life, not just your life pretty much devoted to teaching. For my class (Gr. 3-5 SPED) I will use number 3 and definitely use the Love and Logic "mantra" you mentioned. have a great school year!
Hi there! I'm a senior currently in my early field placement studying art education. I'm researching L&L (!) Do you think L&L could be just as effective/utilized in an art setting? Do you think there would be a different approach? Just wondering!
+David Lescallette L&L can be used in any setting. It works in classrooms, homes, and even with adults. The concepts are very general and something that everyone can use!
For the part of “what are you going to do” to the child, what if they get defensive and respond with “YOU NEVER DO HELP OR DO ANYTHING. Tell them something.” I Always would get that in my teaching years and I would get annoyed with the child and would tell them to go sit down. I don’t teach lower grades anymore since I moved into university teaching, but what would you have done in that predicament. That one kid who questions every motive. Btw... I wish I would have found your videos when I worked with school aged children :) would have helped me a lot!
A way to respond to that depends on their motivation. My response would be something like “It sounds like you are really frustrated and would like some ideas to help with this problem. Would you like me to help you come up with some ideas to solve it?” But if they are doing it for control or to fight with me and they say that a lot, then it might sound like “nice try” or “nice try, I know you are smart enough to solve this. If you need help, feel free to come back after you have tried to solve it” I hope that helps! Thank you for the kind feedback!
How would you handle a student who calls kids mother F under his breath, sticks his tongue out and teases them? Admin is not very responsive on this one. This is first grade.
It really depends on the kid. I might do a “bummer it looks like you are telling your friend you need to be by yourself” and move the child. I might work with the two kids on how to express anger and how to tell the kid you don’t like that. If it’s a problem that happens a lot, the kiddo might loose his trust from the class and have to sit by himself, line up by himself etc, until he earns the trust back.
Aaron's Hobbies Presents Haha sorry about that ;) I'm an ESL teacher, these things usually catch my eye immediately :p However I really liked your video and the poster as well! It's all very useful :)
Love and Logic has many dubious practices. It advises parents to repeat, relentlessly, “one-liners” that are demeaning and doubtlessly disturbing to children, e.g. “It must be a bummer having a parent who doesn’t care.” This practice encourages parents to resist reasoning with children, but rather put off their children with snide remarks, like "Nice try." Jim Fay further recommends starting one-liners in infancy. Parents are further advised to “go brain dead” when their child wants to discuss or argue with the parent. Love and Logic practices may lead children, especially young children, to believe they have been abandoned by their parents. Love and Logic advises parents to send young children to school without clothes or lunch under certain circumstances, a practice that may invite Social Services to investigate the parents. The Love and Logic website has claimed that their parenting methods have been researched, but that "research" amounts to nothing more than an in-house compilation of questionnaire answers parents gave at the end of a Love and Logic class. To my knowledge, there have been no published studies on the effectiveness and appropriateness of Love and Logic methods. In short, L&L does not appear to be helpful to parents in understanding normal child development or their responsibilities to their children, but rather promotes a distant, inflexible and uninvolved style of parenting. These methods are unlikely to teach a child empathy, responsibility, and involvement.
Linda Rosa have you gone through a love and Logic training? I have done the training many times and no not agree with your comments, I am sorry you feel that love and Logic is dubious. I have used it in my classroom for 9 years and had had wonderful relationships with my students. The main point of love and logic is the build a relationship first. The examples you gave would be bad if there was not LOVE before the logic. Building a relationship and then allow students/children learn from their choices is an amazing way to teach and parent. You are not an absent parent, you remove yourself from the problem and help guide kids to problem solve and learn from their mistakes. The love and empathy are emphasized all the time in the trainings.
I am a huge Love & Logic fan. Been using this method in my teaching for over 10 years. I had one rough year, my first year teaching, and that was because the kids & my administration weren't expecting that approach. 9 years later, incoming students & parents know my teaching methods. I am the Zen Master. Apologize to the OG Phil Jackson.
I love that! It’s such an amazing way to teach and parent.
Do you have a printable version of that so I can put it up in my class
This is really good stuff. I would love to hear more real life stories and examples how you use this in the classroom.
I’m not a teacher; I work in an office. And every one of these can absolutely be used in my job, too. These are great. And perfect between adult coworkers.
+DottyGale8 I agree! I am trying to get the rest of my team to learn it as well.
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I am making my own sign for by my desk! This really resonated with me after a rough school day! Thanks!
+Beth Flippin I am so glad I could help! I hope it is going better this year!
These are quick, clear, concise teacher tips. I will be sharing this youtube with an entire staff in a few weeks that are eager to learn about Love & Logic.
Glad you like it! I also post two behavior tips a week on my Twitter. @aaron_teach
Great Work! Super energy and lots of great teacher tips!!!
That's really cool! It's "just" a change of mindset. You've got to practice this system in order to make it a reflex, a new way of communicating. There are things that I already do - after 16 years teaching, that's a relief! But I'll try some of your wisdom for the year to come. :)
+A happy teacher - A true story it's amazing that sometimes even a small change can have a big effect.
I felt like I just had a lesson in Love & Logic. Thanks for the great tips. I added the book to my Amazon WL.
+Positively Pre-K you will love it! So good! I am glad I could pass some of it along.
Such great tips for everyone working with children!
Thank you! I had a lot of information I really felt like I wanted to share. Thanks for watching!
These are so helpful! Thank you!
New subscriber! I'm not a teacher in a school. I'm a dad. This is so helpful!!
Thank you!!
Love and Logic is amazing for home!
@@AaronsHobbiesPresents I'm seeing the benefits. I really appreciate your too!
Greg Castagneri I am so glad you are seeing the benefit!
Taking a love and logic parenting class now. I can use your tips for when I am in the classroom as a paraeducator, whether on the playground or in the tutoring center. Thanks
+Cristina Stuart so glad you can us it! I hope the class went well!
Hey you got to do a vlog about the Storm .
+Tech4 Networkers the storm is really far from me. Texas is freaking huge! Houston is really effected and we are 465 miles (748 kilometers) away from them. Thanks for the idea!
Where did you get the poster?
I will purchase the book you mentioned.. really helpful though it was a short video...love it...
+echo huang enjoy the book! It's amazing.
I really want to become a better teacher. I was so impatient with my third graders this year. I yelled and argued and handed out punitive consequences like candy. The last few days of school, I had a full class every day. Other teachers had 0-4 students and mine kept showing up. They were smiling and showing love to the end. They were also keeping me from getting anything done, making a mess and arguing, like they'd been doing all year. I wish I hadn't been so impatient with them and want to do better next year.
teaching is hard! I am glad you are reflecting on your year and making a plan. all we can do is our best and then work to add new tools!
Thank u for ur lovely video.. I m going to use this for my son who is 4 yrs.. pls keep on doing such videos .. also pls do more videos for math and English.. Thanks 😊
I am so glad you will be using this! I am taking a short break from videos because I am now also teaching a college class online as well. I have big plans for the channel for next year!
All the Best.. pls come back soon 😊😊
Thank you so much!
Interesting thoughts. Start with TRUTH...not empathy. You are the teacher, they are the students. Therefore, teach them according to TRUTH using Love (properly defining what you mean by 'LOVE'), morals, reason and logic as tools. The remainder of your input / thoughts are verified correct resulting in the students growth within the environment they are being taught - regardless of the parents upbringing. Keep the "world system" out of the training / teaching otherwise it will be for nothing. When they recognize the sincerity and hope through you then they will reciprocate in kind with understanding instilled within them. Thank you for the post!
Can you share your L and L cheat sheet that you show at the end of the video?
This is really awesome, I need that with my preschool kids
Love and Logic is an amazing thing to add to your classroom!
Oh man!! You're really taking care of it.
Thanks a ton.
Great tips :)
+Titan Artist thank you! I love sharing with others!
Thank you for making these videos!
-A Teacher
My pleasure.
New subscriber! Needed this bad.. any tips for men.. it's hard enough for me as a mom to use these techniques, but finding it harder to get my husband to do it
LOVE this, omg, this are all incredible tips.
I love this!!!!
good
Aaron
How does love and logic come into play if you have a safety issue? ie. How does it help if you have a student that is hitting or kicking others students? I ask because I experienced this situation as a sub in kindergarten one time and had no idea what to do. I ended up having to call the office and they removed him from class for the day.
+Dan Gasior with huge behavior issues you really have to dive deep into the relationship building. Being a sub is hard because you do not have time to build relationships. I would say with kids who get violent, you have to look at what need they are trying to fill. For example, they may be trying to save face, defend themselves, gain control, lash out, etc. if you can find the need being filled you can address the issues before they explode. With the kids in my class, if I have an agree child I try and mirror their feelings with my voice (you look like this, and that tells me you are really upset, would you like some time away from the friends so you can calm down?).
I hope this is helpful. I plan on doing a behavior video about aggressive kiddos.
I personally don’t believe the book is a large book to read. It is a really easy read and has good tips.
I know the final quarter of the school year is crazy, but I was wondering if you know when you will be adding a behavior video about aggressive kiddos. I am currently gathering data to share with our school staff. I would love to have a school climate focused on Love and Logic. I need to have as many answers to their questions as I can before I present this. I have already read, "Teaching with Love and Logic" and have listened to the hours of audio provided on the cds that came with the Love and Logic package. With 'delayed consequences,' when we enforce these consequences how do we give the kids the ownership of these? Or do we just tell them what the logical consequence is and enforce it?
Any chance you have a copy of your poster you could share with us through Google Drive or Dropbox?? :)
+Victoria Kause I am so sorry it too so long to get back to you. I will look on Monday!
Here it is. You might need to format it.
docs.google.com/document/d/10BP13IEy_Wz1PyDzQ0CYBX3UxGxWA0bW53d2_ANULlQ
The doc is asking for permission to access. I would love to use this in my classroom. I love this video thank you!
This is very helpful. Do you use their long list of rules for your classroom, or do you have your own rules?
My expectations every morning were
1. Make smart choices
2. Use helpful hands and words
3. Always do your best
Also I said a lot -“do what you need as long it does not effect anyone else”
Thanks, Aaron. I like your channel because it shows your full life, not just your life pretty much devoted to teaching. For my class (Gr. 3-5 SPED) I will use number 3 and definitely use the Love and Logic "mantra" you mentioned. have a great school year!
Diane Liggett thank you for the positive feedback! Have a great school year!
Hi there! I'm a senior currently in my early field placement studying art education. I'm researching L&L (!) Do you think L&L could be just as effective/utilized in an art setting? Do you think there would be a different approach? Just wondering!
+David Lescallette L&L can be used in any setting. It works in classrooms, homes, and even with adults. The concepts are very general and something that everyone can use!
I used Love and Logic in an art setting and it worked amazing
These sound like the setting limits section of Love&Logic.
Teresa Robinson that’s exactly what they are!
@@AaronsHobbiesPresents, Awesome....I'm going to show this video during one of my presentations.
great tips, just wondering what class do you teach?
Sarah Abdullah I used to teach kindergarten. I taught all subjects. Now I teach other teachers how to use technology in the classroom
For the part of “what are you going to do” to the child, what if they get defensive and respond with “YOU NEVER DO HELP OR DO ANYTHING. Tell them something.” I
Always would get that in my teaching years and I would get annoyed with the child and would tell them to go sit down. I don’t teach lower grades anymore since I moved into university teaching, but what would you have done in that predicament. That one kid who questions every motive. Btw... I wish I would have found your videos when I worked with school aged children :) would have helped me a lot!
A way to respond to that depends on their motivation. My response would be something like “It sounds like you are really frustrated and would like some ideas to help with this problem. Would you like me to help you come up with some ideas to solve it?” But if they are doing it for control or to fight with me and they say that a lot, then it might sound like “nice try” or “nice try, I know you are smart enough to solve this. If you need help, feel free to come back after you have tried to solve it”
I hope that helps! Thank you for the kind feedback!
Wow thanks for replying. I love all the great advice you're giving out here on TH-cam!
Thank you for the support!
How would you handle a student who calls kids mother F under his breath, sticks his tongue out and teases them? Admin is not very responsive on this one. This is first grade.
It really depends on the kid. I might do a “bummer it looks like you are telling your friend you need to be by yourself” and move the child. I might work with the two kids on how to express anger and how to tell the kid you don’t like that. If it’s a problem that happens a lot, the kiddo might loose his trust from the class and have to sit by himself, line up by himself etc, until he earns the trust back.
* whose problem is it?
lorena5mash thank you!
Aaron's Hobbies Presents Haha sorry about that ;) I'm an ESL teacher, these things usually catch my eye immediately :p However I really liked your video and the poster as well! It's all very useful :)
+lorena5mash I don’t mind as all. Thanks for the support!
Love and Logic has many dubious practices. It advises parents to repeat, relentlessly, “one-liners” that are demeaning and doubtlessly disturbing to children, e.g. “It must be a bummer having a parent who doesn’t care.” This practice encourages parents to resist reasoning with children, but rather put off their children with snide remarks, like "Nice try." Jim Fay further recommends starting one-liners in infancy.
Parents are further advised to “go brain dead” when their child wants to discuss or argue with the parent. Love and Logic practices may lead children, especially young children, to believe they have been abandoned by their parents.
Love and Logic advises parents to send young children to school without clothes or lunch under certain circumstances, a practice that may invite Social Services to investigate the parents.
The Love and Logic website has claimed that their parenting methods have been researched, but that "research" amounts to nothing more than an in-house compilation of questionnaire answers parents gave at the end of a Love and Logic class. To my knowledge, there have been no published studies on the effectiveness and appropriateness of Love and Logic methods.
In short, L&L does not appear to be helpful to parents in understanding normal child development or their responsibilities to their children, but rather promotes a distant, inflexible and uninvolved style of parenting. These methods are unlikely to teach a child empathy, responsibility, and involvement.
Linda Rosa have you gone through a love and Logic training? I have done the training many times and no not agree with your comments, I am sorry you feel that love and Logic is dubious. I have used it in my classroom for 9 years and had had wonderful relationships with my students. The main point of love and logic is the build a relationship first. The examples you gave would be bad if there was not LOVE before the logic. Building a relationship and then allow students/children learn from their choices is an amazing way to teach and parent. You are not an absent parent, you remove yourself from the problem and help guide kids to problem solve and learn from their mistakes. The love and empathy are emphasized all the time in the trainings.