Alright ladies, since many of you asked for my client’s list, here it is. I hope it serves you as well as it did her. 1- Lack of emotional support during tough times. 2- Takes more than 24 hours to text me back. 3- Constant criticism disguised as "joking." 4- Stonewalling or giving the silent treatment after arguments. 4- Flirting with other women online or in person. 5- Disrespecting anyone in my family. 6- Dismissing my feelings as overreactions. 7- Refuses to define the relationship after 3 months of dating. 8- Displaying controlling tendencies over my time or appearance. 9- Drugs, smokes, gambling, heavy drinking, no, no no. 10- Physical or verbal aggression, even in "small" ways. 11- Maintains overly close ties with an ex. 12- Doesn't know how to manage his money responsibly. 13- Frequently lies about minor, insignificant things. 14- Doesn't like kids or animals. 15- Holds extremist views on political or religious topics.
Great deal breakers with the exception of #15. I like a man who is willing to stand out from the masses with what he believes in. If we believe the same, we can be a force to be reckoned with. If our beliefs contradict, that may be a deal breaker.
I love how you explain what “self-growth” really is. “It is not about destroying who you are. It’s about adding new dimension to your character.” So beautiful ❤
Yes I did notice the women that are very direct with men and are not willing to change their beliefs and WILL walk away are the ones men DO respect and love and are willing to stay and work it out not the woman that tries to always please him and do things his way. She knows her worth her value loves and respects herself. I really admire that type of woman cuz it shows she's not afraid to disagree or be speak her truth for fear of him leaving just because she doesn't want to be ALONE. Better to be alone and at peace then to be with😊 the wrong person.
The biggest power a woman has is the ability to walk away if he's not respecting you. If he thinks you won't or can't walk away, that can open the door to disrespectful behavior from an emotionally immature or abusive man. Keep your power to walk away!
Even as a young girl I always paid attention to the friends of other people. If their friends were weird I knew that I don`t want to hang out with people like that. Here in Switzerland most people have the same friends from childhood on until they get old, because it is such a small country and people do not move far away.
I like the points you've made in this clip and this applies to both men and women. Never give your power away to keep the peace in a relationship. Keep yourself who you are in your core being, and if that clashes with another, move on. Don't fault the other who you clash with. You can learn and grow from that experience. Forgiving them and forgiving yourself is powerful. Playing the victim to everyone about the wrongs someone else did to you in the past also drags on the other's soul. Especially, if they are empathetic to your struggles. Be a survivor who has learned not to give your power away anymore. We all have to learn this. Once you do, you'll attract and keep the more positive people in your life that you've been looking for.
Emotionally immature men won’t respect you whatever you do, you have to walk away. You can set your dealbreakers with them and more often than not they do it anyway. They have no understanding of respect and only work with woman who also don’t know it’s meaning. I only ever met an emotionally immature man in my 30s I was genuinely shocked these people are out there.
Spot on-emotional immaturity and lack of respect go together. Setting boundaries means nothing if they're ignored. Walking away is the best choice when respect isn't there.
yeah, I dont want to do it anymore. Im not interested in navigating a relationship, or worrying about any of it. I L❤VE living on my own. In times of being overwhelmed, I need more solitude, not less to work through it.
I agree with this. these coaches talk in terms of dating as though you're going to be doing that for years with someone and figuring things out with them in that dynamic.... when in reality you should not stick around longer than a year waiting to get married. after you do get married, you can't just up and leave when someone shows the slightest bit of disrespect toward you. like if you're someone who actually has respect for marriage that's not how it works. people are going to disappoint you and you need to figure out ways of dealing with your feelings about it and dealing with them. however, confusingly, I agree that men like to feel like they're on their toes all of the time and that they need to feel like they could lose you at any moment to behave.... which contradicts the terms of marriage in itself. marriage is set up to fail if it's supposed to be such a serious commitment only to operate like you would leave him at any moment. so to me, It's just like.... what are you supposed to do here? is there a way to escape all toxicity in a relationship?... because I really don't think so and I'm super tired and never treat myself as bad as men have. obviously you shouldn't date a guy that shows you any disrespect to set yourself up for a better marriage, but it's also disrespectful to yourself to date someone so long that you'll be 100% sure of every single little thing.... You've got to make the leap at some point if you are going to make it at all.
What I meant in my comment is mutual respect. Respect is not always given my ladies. You need some respect from your partner by accepting your values. If not there's no love or bond. My point here is if you need some respect and value from your partner you should respect his values. That's why I told respect should be earned. you'll reap what you sow.
I agree with youre tipps. But also i think this has so much to do with healing trauma, regulate youre nervous system. This is soo important if you are highly sensitive. What i am. also love yourself and respect yourself so much. And if you see the world with eyes of kindness and stay for your true values, who you want to be is the most important question i could ask myself. Because it always starts with yourself. A partner shouldn't be here to make you happy or complete you. A partner should be a support. He should support you to be and realise the best version you want to be❤ this is my opinion❤❤❤
Brother I really appreciate what you said, I am a teenager and I guess your content will really help me be the Real mature Woman with kindness and love etc. Thanks for your advice 🙏💛
Deep Self love of the innerchild existing out there in all dimensions now will attract this back to you. Thankyou for your insight into relationships ❤❤
I just come here to check if I am on right side of treating him right or not your videos are really helpful the best part I find is that you talk from the both prospective. Thank you so much love you lots 🎉
Soooooo spot on Ismael! Love the fact that you are Latino and speaking in such a thoughtful manner. These points you brought up will last a lifetime and bring true happiness.❤
I appreciate being able to learn from you. And I think it's sad how men have been treated the last several years just because they are me... I believe a respect for good men is on the horizon... thank you for the great things your doing in teaching women about men...🤗
Thanks Ismael...It was a lovely video... Required some validation for my thoughts about my relationship and there you are giving me a full clarity with what I am seeking in a relationship... Thanks Once Again ❤
I’m so glad to hear that the video provided you with the clarity you were seeking. It’s great to know it resonated with you and validated your thoughts. Thank you for sharing your feedback.
Been out of the dating scene for 2 decades. I must say that I'm very impressed with yoru suggestions and even more grateful for what I'm hearing. I admit that I stopped to watch this video to humor you LOL! I was like, I gotta hear this nonsense. Lo and behold, amazing! I fully agree with everything you said. I'm thrilled to hear what you had to say about highly respectable men.
Silence is the best response but it's not possible.but i understand your points.if someone give silent treatment for years and disappears it creates an angriness in me.i can't be kind at that moment
I appreciate your feedback. I strive to keep my videos concise while still providing valuable insights. I'm glad you find them helpful. Thank you for watching.
Thank you for this helpful perspective. I think this applies to all relationships..not only romantic ones. How close do we get with friends??? Same principles would apply imo. Thx for the list too. Great. I fall short in my boundary settings. Wonderful guide. ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You're absolutely right-these principles apply to all relationships, not just romantic ones. Boundaries are so important in friendships too. Glad the guide was helpful.
There are exceptions to " respecting a man who raised you "...and damaged your Self Esteem,Your confidence, your Fragile Emotions.....so I believe a Blanket Statement in regards to that may not be advisable, because there was no Love and Resoect given ,when growing up. Be mindful that there are situations where Respect is n ot warranted and should not be given to Abusers/ Narcissists/ and the Like. I Undestood your basic premise , but as stated you cannot use Blanket advice, when it may not apply to everyone.... I'm sure you are aware of this, as are your Viewers ,but I dont agree with " Respecting " people just because they ' raised you ', but in a COMPLETELY Dysfunctional fashion. Overall, the other Points are Spot On.
Hi, i am raised in broken home family with narcissistic Mom and Dad. I think what he mean that you do not need to be badmouthing them. As their are part of us, if we badmouthing them, people will see as we disrespecting ourself.. I think what he said is good for people who want to create good image for themself (work, self branding, etc) . For close relationship it will be unreal to implement, especially for someone that raised in such chaos environment. It will take time for time to mature..
These principles go both ways!!! So before a man looks for these traits in a woman, he must make sure he has them first, since he is the authority figure in a couple and familly cell, thus an example to follow. it's not the other way around!!!
I have a problem with that! I have a few friends I hate and feel stuck with. I have to just walk away even though it it's not easy... Thank you Ismael! God bless❤❤❤ p.s. And you're right. You accept certain behavior and people pick up on it and many people can start treating you in badely.
@@SaveTheMessenger True! Thanks! It's also like, letting go of something like that is not easy to face maybe, if you understsnd what I'm saying? Btw, I only have red hearts on my phone which is what I use often in comments I write but I mean it in a friendly way. I use it for men, women, in a friendly way😃
Wow! This is a powerful one, thank you for sharing this, so we women could adjust to our partner's need and respect they have to have for their woman ❤
I’m glad this resonated with you. Understanding and respecting each other’s needs is key to a strong relationship. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.
Really, you are wise beyond your years 😊 ...this is great advice ! And you present it so well, kind, understanding and very analytical at the same time. A great relateable combination indeed. Thank you! 🎉
Thank you for such thoughtful words. I'm glad you find the advice helpful and relatable. It means a lot to me to be able to connect with you in a kind and understanding way. I appreciate your support.
You can do all these points and many others but at the end of the day, they won't respect you or love you the way you do, just because they can't, being selfish or thinking they are better than us. Don't waste your time trying to figure it out how love works for guys who don't even really care how to respect, love or satisfied women, use your power in yourselves, who cares how to get a man 🤷♀️
How should I handle my boyfriend telling me he feels embarrassed being with me because I’m younger and have gained some weight, while he’s now fit? He mentioned that he doesn’t see a future with me until I’m 21-22, and he feels awkward introducing me to friends or his mom. When we started dating, I was fit and he was obese, but now that he’s changed, he questions if he deserves me and thinks he has other options. He also dismissed my feelings when I reminded him how I accepted him at his worst. Additionally, when I asked about his female best friend, he said they’re just friends and that I have no right to question him about his relationships. He told me that my insecurities about his female friends are my problem, and if he ever likes someone else, he’ll tell me but won’t cheat. He ended by saying he doesn’t care about me or what I do. What should I do in this situation? And, hiw can i nurture my relationship with him? (We're in a long distance relationship). I really really need your help please 🥺
Here's my advice to you. The moment you put someone on a pedestal, you also give them the power to step on you. You have to keep them at eye level. Focus on you. Hit the gym, books, healthy diet...and then watch him crawl back asking for your attention. And when he does I hope you close the door on his face.
Never accept them at there worst ! Sadly you weee probably a placeholder until he got into a better position to find a woman that would only accept him at his best . Sorry if this is harsh but ask yourself if he met you as you are right now would he still want you and the answer might hurt but give you the answers you need
I have to admit, my response would have been “so you won’t be embarrassed anymore, then I guess we should go our separate ways.” Guys who do this will escalate verbal abuse if it is allowed. Definitely don’t let any guy (or friends) make you feel less than.
@@SaveTheMessenger but ismael....I really love him so much ....I could never think of hurting him, even in my dreams ..... I love him truly and I really wanna see him happy even at the cost of my life ...... "If you ever stab me because you were no more interested in me, I'll still be sorry, for you getting my blood on your clothes" this is actually how much I love him....and I really need your help, if you can help me restore our bond. Please ismael it's my only wish
Gurl,you need help.Yoi cannot love someone more than your life.If you cannot love yourself,then you cannot love others.Get some healing, therapy or watch some videos.But you need to always put yourself first above anything else.@@priyanshijain8435
I don't know if you can help, I feel I don't manage my emotions maturely and would like to learn how to do this. I have recently started going to the gym and find great comfort and relaxation in resistance training. I feel as though this might help ground me and release overwhelming tension. I like to listen to podcasts whilst doing this, are there some you can recommend? I hate being so out of control but the more I try to shut down my emotions, the more they seem to build up and explode.
2:10 deal breaker list ideas fo consider = yes please share the list or your own revised list of deal breakers not accepted for women to consider 😊 thank you ❤
Hi Mr. Gomez, I really like your guidelines and your way of explaining issues. My Question is Why a man ALLOWS himself to be Rude, Unpleasant and all bad behaviors you can think of with absolute NO LIMIT towards who has always been nice to him, being Forgiven, Supportive, Uplifting, Polite but the same man behaves like an angel towards who takes advantages of him, makes fun of him in public, and is a Control Freak woman. Also if a woman is Smart in what she is doing compare to him, a woman who has a better understanding on how to settle and Calm the situation he gets mad also if the same woman let him win still he behaves bad.
Thank you for your question. Sometimes, a man’s behavior may be rooted in unresolved personal issues, insecurities, or patterns from his past that lead him to take for granted those who treat him well. He might feel more comfortable being his unfiltered self around someone who is supportive but feel the need to impress or submit to someone who challenges or disrespects him. Insecure attachment styles, low self-esteem, or a need for control can also drive such behavior. It's important for both partners to recognize these patterns and address them through open communication or professional support if needed.
Hi again Mr. Gomez, Thank you so much for taking your time considering on my question and answering it. I really appreciate it. Yes that's exactly what it is. I keep asking myself why a person with 2 high degrees in science, having PHDs, behaves like he has been brought up in wilderness. Lots of Emotional Hurt needs to be open up but I know here is not the place. You cannot trust anyone and whomever you can trust are not expert to get help from them. Thank you again.
Hi, I have a question about the respect for men in our life. I've suffered from violence at home, so I can't speak many good things of my father, but I wouldn't say the bad things too to a guy I like, would that really prevent or stop him from being with me? I try hard not to think the worst of guys, because I know each person is different, and I shouldn't let my sad past ruin my present nor future. Or the fact that I don't have a good relationship with my father affect a future relationship? Thanks
Sorry to hear that It will not affect your relationships until you heal it internally because working on your traumas is as important as you want peace in your personal relationships Just bcoz your father was abusive it doesn't define other guys but that doesn't mean that you are going to ignore all the toxic traits bcoz your past made you wiser and able to look all these things more consciously thankyou hope it helps
I am watching from Nigeria 🇳🇬 please I would like a video where you talk about the list of deal breakers, I appreciate your videos and I have just subscribed ❤
Im french so TKS focr Understand my "not perfect english"** the last things you Said is funny cause i saw people treat me poorly, not cause i didnt set bondaries with others but as i was talking about the Fact that they treat me poorly, i walked away okay but in beeing again affected by it cause they matter for me. Is like, lot of people, as you still concerned about the behaviors of someone in your past you never accepted ( importants relatives ones at this Time) this people seem out of capacity to deal healthy about it and rather to listen they feel insecure and choose to be on the side of the opposant, like : Why he did ,IT? Like treat you poorly have maybe a reason and just in asking you that he do the same 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Perhaps it is just me, but I think a balance is lacking. I agree with much of what you say, but in the end I think that understanding many of these concepts is created naturally when you accept that you do not have to like a man just because you have been seeing him for a while, or vice versa. If you find that the relationship is not what you want, a no fault situation, be honest to yourself and the other person and say this. If they want to be friends, or friends in the future, fine. If not it's okay to say "This is not working for me.", and not have to itemize. Therein lies blaming, and often there is no blame, just a false start.
Nurturing is good thing though... cooking healthy food or some desert too. Pleasing means you have low energy mentally physically tired and you force yourself doing something for others while you feel like you have to spend more time with ourself to raise your energy, mentally physically. But if both have very high energy , pleasing ech other or cooking for one another and doing hobbies together is effotless.....because both raise the energy, and dont have to analyze who did what and when, because it comes effirtlessly equally from both, and for both.
Im 32 and single , i work in an IT firm , earn well but its just hard to find a man because my country is mostly about arranged marriages and i hate that concept and i dont think i can attract the right man for myself who can actually marry me also as per my values i cant sleep with a man before marriage. Its all complicated im tired. I have this nightmares where i end up alone . Binge watching these videos n taking notes is what im doing since 20's yet nothing i do wen time comes. 😕
girl honestly I'm super envious of that. I am a white girl from the middle of the US and I can tell you that these Western relationships are almost all doomed to fail. The only issue that I have seen with arranged marriages is where the woman isn't allowed to refuse a proposal (or obviously if she's too young or anything like that that's really heinous). they made all these movies and super cute songs on the radio about women being independent and about finding your own love being extremely romantic and rewarding.... however, after listening to like, what feels like thousands of women explain their horror stories with their boyfriends and husbands... Men really seem to need to be watched over and kept in line by several people not just a girlfriend or wife.... movies depicted parents that were choosing for their daughters as these hyper-controlling evil people but now I can actually see it for what it is.... your parents act as the bad guys for you. It's a total act of love and super sacrificial of your parents to do for you. so like, they'll demand that The guy not only tells them about a beautiful story of what your life will be like together but will also make the guy prove it with literal documents. so he will show his bank statements to prove that he has enough money to take care of you and he'll show your parents the deed to his house and car that he owns. he'll also need to go above and beyond to impress your parents likely with some really expensive gifts that you probably wouldn't get as a girlfriend in the West. and they will fully screen him to make sure that he has a good reputation amongst the community. these are all things that men get to lie about in the West and they take advantage of it to the moon girl. and if you ask about any of this stuff on your own by yourself, you get called a gold digger or youre gaslit into thinking that this is somehow wrong of you to ask that Even though it's an enormous financial and safety issue for you in a marriage. It's honestly too much to bare for women. like it's absolutely exhausting and considering that you're generally very young and naive when you start dating here, you get tricked and taken advantage of a lot. and that's why you have all these angry women with all these horrible back stories. I've only had two very serious boyfriends where the relationship lasted for several years. which is another thing that they try to make seem very normal and healthy in the West, but all it does is degrade a woman's expectations for herself as well as the respect the man has for her. everyone is doing it that way so you think it's normal but in reality if a man really wants to marry you and respects you, He will want to take you off the market as soon as possible .... so instead you've got all of these stupid couples playing house where the woman thinks that she's eventually going to end up with a ring, but in reality her boyfriend doesn't actually respect her and she's just basically getting used and wasting her time having no idea it's happening. if my parents were willing to put in this kind of effort to screen guys and find me men that suit me... I would absolutely take that deal. it really only works though if the parents are willing to listen to the daughter and dont just try to marry her off without some sort of consent. like obviously that would be very problematic. but literally from what I've seen, as long as the guy is financially prepared in life, has a good reputation in society, and is willing to put up with the challenge of impressing your parents to prove that he is ready for this type of commitment.... that everything else is just details. feelings develop over time. Men basically fall in love with a woman's looks and her energy immediately, but what's natural for women is for their love to evolve over a long period of time of the man proving he is a good husband. of course someone can have all of the right things and when you sit in a room with them you are like oil and water... or worse. which is why it's important to be able to tell your parents that there's something very wrong with the connection there spiritually is important. otherwise I honestly feel like it's going to work out 99% of the time wishes crazy compared to what's going on in the West. most people here in the West end up settling anyway with someone they don't truly feel some big romantic connection to anyway. and the way people try to date now.... It's obvious to me that they want to be able to screen people in the same way that parents used to do this for their kids. women want to know that their husbands will be financially prepared, that they are a safe person and they want a real solid commitment which men here don't really need to give because their lives are not as intertwined into their marriages like they are in the east. and men want to know that they are getting a woman who hasn't slept with a ton of men, who has a good reputation, comes from a family with a good support system, and that they're good looking. everything else is just kind of stupid details but yes, sometimes two souls are going to clash no matter what. I would absolutely take that deal though I literally fantasize about it all of the time. nothing is set up here though in the West for that to be a real reality. and the community here certainly isn't trying to keep track of your husband to make sure that he's acting right. fathers no longer do their duty for the most part. I remember finding out that a lot of women would go through their dads to get their husbands to show up for them... I definitely don't have that option... I can't tattle on my husband to my dad and have him come over and handle him. which may be sounds silly and backward but men really don't care to listen to women and deeply want the respect and approval of other men around. there's way too much pressure on the woman now and it's all honestly built to break. every once in awhile you hear of an anomaly type of idealistic relationship that just worked out but That's like winning the lottery. It's pure luck and nothing to do with anything that makes sense that can be applied to most people. if your parents are really loving people and they have a good handle on who you are to match you with someone you would find attractive.... girl just take it. there's really no better deal than that. and I apologize for how long and intense I am about this... I have literally no one to talk about it with and I've wanted to speak to someone who culturally does have this as an option very badly. Even though I'm so clear that I still believe there needs to be an element of consent, people want to dismiss this and treat me like I'm suggesting that parents marry their 10-year-old daughters to random 50-year-old men. like that's not at all what I'm saying
@@lindseyw9192 I get it , I read your whole comment even though it took me a while, again I say there are two sides to evry coin, in arranged marriages they chose pple only amongst their communities and caste systems , within that I get to chose and it's more like who earns more, who's family is doing well etc. Nothing on an emotional level but it's more like a business deal and In return girl gets to give dowry to the boys family , fulfil their desires n wishes interms of gifts n lands n gold anything expensive along with taking up all the wedding expenses amidst of all these you lose the true sense of marriage, its all about two understanding souls who vow to be together for a lifetime with love, this goes missing! I would say there are few pple who gets lucky with these arrangements but not everyone. It's the same as what's out there in west but in a different level and also because of this arranged marriage option, pple here love but end up marrying whom their parents show at the end, it gets really tough to play both of the games here because u ain't winning in any and these men want everything from a woman wen they r with her yet chose a woman who claims to be untouched. I personally didn't like anyone my parents shown me so far they all have big loop holes and none ticks my boxes and im not settling for anything less.. grass is greener on the other side that's the only thing I see , seems like I would write that if I were born in west n faced all those things u mentioned.. now I feel I'm in nothingness with not wanting both the options 😅 not traditional dating, not arranged setups.. God help me find a man and push me into the marriage loop without me knowing it 😂 ,im so sick n tired, trust me we gurls need to form a pack and bitch about the relationship issues we face all day.
I have deal breakers. I say no and walk away. I'm all with it but all my life I end up single. My equal never showed up. I totally let go and feel satisfied but am just feeling amused 😅
Alright ladies, since many of you asked for my client’s list, here it is. I hope it serves you as well as it did her.
1- Lack of emotional support during tough times.
2- Takes more than 24 hours to text me back.
3- Constant criticism disguised as "joking."
4- Stonewalling or giving the silent treatment after arguments.
4- Flirting with other women online or in person.
5- Disrespecting anyone in my family.
6- Dismissing my feelings as overreactions.
7- Refuses to define the relationship after 3 months of dating.
8- Displaying controlling tendencies over my time or appearance.
9- Drugs, smokes, gambling, heavy drinking, no, no no.
10- Physical or verbal aggression, even in "small" ways.
11- Maintains overly close ties with an ex.
12- Doesn't know how to manage his money responsibly.
13- Frequently lies about minor, insignificant things.
14- Doesn't like kids or animals.
15- Holds extremist views on political or religious topics.
Great deal breakers with the exception of #15. I like a man who is willing to stand out from the masses with what he believes in. If we believe the same, we can be a force to be reckoned with. If our beliefs contradict, that may be a deal breaker.
Thanks 💌
My ex had every single on except #4 (well as far as i know). Needless to say It didnt work out.
My ex had all of these except #11. He continually disparaged his ex to me and his adult children. Even after 12 years.
Great list! Very helpful. I have deal-breaker s, just not a list, which is a good idea.😊❤
I love how you explain what “self-growth” really is. “It is not about destroying who you are. It’s about adding new dimension to your character.” So beautiful ❤
I’m glad you found it meaningful. That perspective on self-growth is truly inspiring and highlights the beauty of evolving as a person.
So profound and such wisdom,I love how he explained it.
Yes I did notice the women that are very direct with men and are not willing to change their beliefs and WILL walk away are the ones men DO respect and love and are willing to stay and work it out not the woman that tries to always please him and do things his way. She knows her worth her value loves and respects herself. I really admire that type of woman cuz it shows she's not afraid to disagree or be speak her truth for fear of him leaving just because she doesn't want to be ALONE. Better to be alone and at peace then to be with😊 the wrong person.
Very true indeed !!! When in doubt, ALWAYS CHOOSE PEACE 😊
You are right 🎉
Do you have a degree.
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True! We work hard but we do not want to work alone in a relationship.
The biggest power a woman has is the ability to walk away if he's not respecting you. If he thinks you won't or can't walk away, that can open the door to disrespectful behavior from an emotionally immature or abusive man. Keep your power to walk away!
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Keeping a well respected network is something very important.
Even as a young girl I always paid attention to the friends of other people.
If their friends were weird I knew that I don`t want to hang out with people like that.
Here in Switzerland most people have the same friends from childhood on until they get old, because it is such a small country and people do not move far away.
I ❤Switzerland 🇨🇭
How can I come to Switzerland and live there?
@@sheilamarangu get married to a swiss guy. ;-)
This is what I'm doing lately
I like the points you've made in this clip and this applies to both men and women. Never give your power away to keep the peace in a relationship. Keep yourself who you are in your core being, and if that clashes with another, move on. Don't fault the other who you clash with. You can learn and grow from that experience. Forgiving them and forgiving yourself is powerful. Playing the victim to everyone about the wrongs someone else did to you in the past also drags on the other's soul. Especially, if they are empathetic to your struggles. Be a survivor who has learned not to give your power away anymore. We all have to learn this. Once you do, you'll attract and keep the more positive people in your life that you've been looking for.
Clear dealbreakers
Emotional regulation
You speak highly of men
Courage to disagree respectfully
Keeping a well respected network
You're advice is SPOT ON, Ismael...
Glad the advice hit the mark. Appreciate your support.
Emotionally immature men won’t respect you whatever you do, you have to walk away. You can set your dealbreakers with them and more often than not they do it anyway. They have no understanding of respect and only work with woman who also don’t know it’s meaning. I only ever met an emotionally immature man in my 30s I was genuinely shocked these people are out there.
In college, I dated a guy who was a few years older yet he was emotionally immature. He constantly made promises that he never intended on keeping.
Spot on-emotional immaturity and lack of respect go together. Setting boundaries means nothing if they're ignored. Walking away is the best choice when respect isn't there.
Hahaha shocked, they are out there too.
yeah, I dont want to do it anymore. Im not interested in navigating a relationship, or worrying about any of it. I L❤VE living on my own. In times of being overwhelmed, I need more solitude, not less to work through it.
I agree with this. these coaches talk in terms of dating as though you're going to be doing that for years with someone and figuring things out with them in that dynamic.... when in reality you should not stick around longer than a year waiting to get married. after you do get married, you can't just up and leave when someone shows the slightest bit of disrespect toward you. like if you're someone who actually has respect for marriage that's not how it works. people are going to disappoint you and you need to figure out ways of dealing with your feelings about it and dealing with them. however, confusingly, I agree that men like to feel like they're on their toes all of the time and that they need to feel like they could lose you at any moment to behave.... which contradicts the terms of marriage in itself. marriage is set up to fail if it's supposed to be such a serious commitment only to operate like you would leave him at any moment. so to me, It's just like.... what are you supposed to do here? is there a way to escape all toxicity in a relationship?... because I really don't think so and I'm super tired and never treat myself as bad as men have. obviously you shouldn't date a guy that shows you any disrespect to set yourself up for a better marriage, but it's also disrespectful to yourself to date someone so long that you'll be 100% sure of every single little thing.... You've got to make the leap at some point if you are going to make it at all.
Thank you for caring about the woman out here in the world, much respect to you!
Thank you for your kind words. I’m grateful to be able to share and support.
i like how these lessons are not necessarily for us women to be likeable to men but also they make u a high value human
You are the best relationship advisor that I have found in YT. Keep Enlightening us ladies.❤ Thank you.
Thank you so much. I’m really glad to hear that. I’ll keep sharing what I can to help out.
Respect is something that you earn. If you don't like something happen to you in return, you shouldn't do it to your loved ones ❤
Respect should be given, trust to be earned
You're wrong, respect is given
What I meant in my comment is mutual respect. Respect is not always given my ladies. You need some respect from your partner by accepting your values. If not there's no love or bond. My point here is if you need some respect and value from your partner you should respect his values. That's why I told respect should be earned. you'll reap what you sow.
@@hashinithilakarathne729 You are telling the opposite 😑. What about the partner who abuse you and does not have values.
Yes! Post the deal breaker list! Thank you for all you do!
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Your videos never fail. 😊 thank you so much for the content you create to help us evolve ❤ Que tengas un lindo dia!
I agree with youre tipps. But also i think this has so much to do with healing trauma, regulate youre nervous system. This is soo important if you are highly sensitive. What i am. also love yourself and respect yourself so much. And if you see the world with eyes of kindness and stay for your true values, who you want to be is the most important question i could ask myself. Because it always starts with yourself. A partner shouldn't be here to make you happy or complete you. A partner should be a support. He should support you to be and realise the best version you want to be❤ this is my opinion❤❤❤
Brother I really appreciate what you said, I am a teenager and I guess your content will really help me be the Real mature Woman with kindness and love etc. Thanks for your advice 🙏💛
You are awesome Ismael !! 👌🏻👌🏻
Afyer applying Your opinions my life has become smoother than before.
So, TankQ a lot
Deep Self love of the innerchild existing out there in all dimensions now will attract this back to you. Thankyou for your insight into relationships ❤❤
Thank you for sharing that perspective. It’s amazing how inner work can really impact our relationships.
@@SaveTheMessenger once soul realise that everything outside of them is a mirror of soul. ❤️🪞
I just come here to check if I am on right side of treating him right or not your videos are really helpful the best part I find is that you talk from the both prospective.
Thank you so much love you lots 🎉
Soooooo spot on Ismael! Love the fact that you are Latino and speaking in such a thoughtful manner. These points you brought up will last a lifetime and bring true happiness.❤
I appreciate being able to learn from you. And I think it's sad how men have been treated the last several years just because they are me... I believe a respect for good men is on the horizon... thank you for the great things your doing in teaching women about men...🤗
I’m glad you find it helpful, and I agree: respect for good men is something we should all strive for.
Thanks Ismael...It was a lovely video... Required some validation for my thoughts about my relationship and there you are giving me a full clarity with what I am seeking in a relationship...
Thanks Once Again ❤
I’m so glad to hear that the video provided you with the clarity you were seeking. It’s great to know it resonated with you and validated your thoughts. Thank you for sharing your feedback.
I respect your brief and concise points about relationships. 👏
Been out of the dating scene for 2 decades. I must say that I'm very impressed with yoru suggestions and even more grateful for what I'm hearing. I admit that I stopped to watch this video to humor you LOL! I was like, I gotta hear this nonsense. Lo and behold, amazing! I fully agree with everything you said. I'm thrilled to hear what you had to say about highly respectable men.
Great video thank you for sharing. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there ❤️💥🩷💥💙💥
This young man is pretty wise for his age. Much more than many older men who have not yet grown up. How did he get this way?
A woman taught him😅
How smart and valuable your tips are, Ismael. God bless you
You're very welcome. Happy to help, and thanks for the kind words.
actually everyone must respect everyone else, be it man or woman or something else. your respect for others is a reflection of your own self respect.
Proud to be the first comment! (Love ur videos!)
Thank you Ismael , love your content!
Silence is the best response but it's not possible.but i understand your points.if someone give silent treatment for years and disappears it creates an angriness in me.i can't be kind at that moment
I enjoy that your videos are brief but detailed and helpful
I appreciate your feedback. I strive to keep my videos concise while still providing valuable insights. I'm glad you find them helpful. Thank you for watching.
Thank you for this helpful perspective. I think this applies to all relationships..not only romantic ones. How close do we get with friends??? Same principles would apply imo. Thx for the list too. Great. I fall short in my boundary settings. Wonderful guide. ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You're absolutely right-these principles apply to all relationships, not just romantic ones. Boundaries are so important in friendships too. Glad the guide was helpful.
There are exceptions to " respecting a man who raised you "...and damaged your Self Esteem,Your confidence, your Fragile Emotions.....so I believe a Blanket Statement in regards to that may not be advisable, because there was no Love and Resoect given ,when growing up. Be mindful that there are situations where Respect is n ot warranted and should not be given to Abusers/ Narcissists/ and the Like. I Undestood your basic premise , but as stated you cannot use Blanket advice, when it may not apply to everyone.... I'm sure you are aware of this, as are your Viewers ,but I dont agree with " Respecting " people just because they ' raised you ', but in a COMPLETELY Dysfunctional fashion.
Overall, the other Points are Spot On.
Hi, i am raised in broken home family with narcissistic Mom and Dad. I think what he mean that you do not need to be badmouthing them. As their are part of us, if we badmouthing them, people will see as we disrespecting ourself..
I think what he said is good for people who want to create good image for themself (work, self branding, etc) . For close relationship it will be unreal to implement, especially for someone that raised in such chaos environment. It will take time for time to mature..
wish ur videos were longer. u create valuable videos . keep up the amazing content!! i can tell you put in time and thought into it
Naah i absolutely love 8 minutes videos
@@wwhyk1459 People who were born before 1995 have a longer concentration span and can easily handle videos that last more than two hours. ;-)
@@marshaphonda7057 I listen 3 hours lecture straight. Truly I don't have enough time to watch dating videos for an hour.
@@wwhyk1459 that’s good!!
I think you should teach men to respect every woman 🙄
I agree with you 💯. It's always women who are being taught.
These principles go both ways!!! So before a man looks for these traits in a woman, he must make sure he has them first, since he is the authority figure in a couple and familly cell, thus an example to follow. it's not the other way around!!!
Excellent video, thank you Ismael.
I have a problem with that! I have a few friends I hate and feel stuck with. I have to just walk away even though it it's not easy... Thank you Ismael! God bless❤❤❤ p.s. And you're right. You accept certain behavior and people pick up on it and many people can start treating you in badely.
Sometimes we have to make difficult choices for our own well-being. Thanks for your comment.
@@SaveTheMessenger True! Thanks! It's also like, letting go of something like that is not easy to face maybe, if you understsnd what I'm saying? Btw, I only have red hearts on my phone which is what I use often in comments I write but I mean it in a friendly way. I use it for men, women, in a friendly way😃
Thank you for sharing
Wow! This is a powerful one, thank you for sharing this, so we women could adjust to our partner's need and respect they have to have for their woman ❤
I’m glad this resonated with you. Understanding and respecting each other’s needs is key to a strong relationship. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.
I love your channel, your videos have really helped me so thank you so much.
Thank you for your support. I'm really glad to hear that the videos have been helpful to you. Your feedback means a lot to me.
Really, you are wise beyond your years 😊 ...this is great advice ! And you present it so well, kind, understanding and very analytical at the same time. A great relateable combination indeed. Thank you! 🎉
Thank you for such thoughtful words. I'm glad you find the advice helpful and relatable. It means a lot to me to be able to connect with you in a kind and understanding way. I appreciate your support.
You can do all these points and many others but at the end of the day, they won't respect you or love you the way you do, just because they can't, being selfish or thinking they are better than us. Don't waste your time trying to figure it out how love works for guys who don't even really care how to respect, love or satisfied women, use your power in yourselves, who cares how to get a man 🤷♀️
I can see your experiences in relationships were pretty bad
i feel bad for you..
WISE WISE WISE! So true and spot on.
Thank you sir, I learn so much from you ❤ keep up with such great work. 😊 love you so much !❤
Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad to hear that you're learning and finding value in what I share. Your support means a lot to me.
Thank you so much sir ❤
It's a good list. I agree that all these things are important.
How should I handle my boyfriend telling me he feels embarrassed being with me because I’m younger and have gained some weight, while he’s now fit? He mentioned that he doesn’t see a future with me until I’m 21-22, and he feels awkward introducing me to friends or his mom. When we started dating, I was fit and he was obese, but now that he’s changed, he questions if he deserves me and thinks he has other options. He also dismissed my feelings when I reminded him how I accepted him at his worst. Additionally, when I asked about his female best friend, he said they’re just friends and that I have no right to question him about his relationships. He told me that my insecurities about his female friends are my problem, and if he ever likes someone else, he’ll tell me but won’t cheat. He ended by saying he doesn’t care about me or what I do. What should I do in this situation? And, hiw can i nurture my relationship with him? (We're in a long distance relationship). I really really need your help please 🥺
Here's my advice to you. The moment you put someone on a pedestal, you also give them the power to step on you. You have to keep them at eye level. Focus on you. Hit the gym, books, healthy diet...and then watch him crawl back asking for your attention. And when he does I hope you close the door on his face.
Never accept them at there worst ! Sadly you weee probably a placeholder until he got into a better position to find a woman that would only accept him at his best . Sorry if this is harsh but ask yourself if he met you as you are right now would he still want you and the answer might hurt but give you the answers you need
I have to admit, my response would have been “so you won’t be embarrassed anymore, then I guess we should go our separate ways.”
Guys who do this will escalate verbal abuse if it is allowed. Definitely don’t let any guy (or friends) make you feel less than.
@@SaveTheMessenger but ismael....I really love him so much ....I could never think of hurting him, even in my dreams
..... I love him truly and I really wanna see him happy even at the cost of my life ...... "If you ever stab me because you were no more interested in me, I'll still be sorry, for you getting my blood on your clothes" this is actually how much I love him....and I really need your help, if you can help me restore our bond. Please ismael it's my only wish
Gurl,you need help.Yoi cannot love someone more than your life.If you cannot love yourself,then you cannot love others.Get some healing, therapy or watch some videos.But you need to always put yourself first above anything else.@@priyanshijain8435
This was a great video thank you! 🎉
I don't know if you can help, I feel I don't manage my emotions maturely and would like to learn how to do this. I have recently started going to the gym and find great comfort and relaxation in resistance training. I feel as though this might help ground me and release overwhelming tension. I like to listen to podcasts whilst doing this, are there some you can recommend? I hate being so out of control but the more I try to shut down my emotions, the more they seem to build up and explode.
this format really suits me
Excellent advice. Thank you.🤙🏼
thank you! Really good concepts
You're welcome. I'm glad you liked the concepts.
2:10 deal breaker list ideas fo consider = yes please share the list or your own revised list of deal breakers not accepted for women to consider 😊 thank you ❤
Thank u!😊
Yeah...sumtimes da truth is a hard pill to swallow..😮
well said Ismael 🙂
Please share that list you mentioned Ismael.
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As you mentioned about dealbreakers, If someone cross the boundary, how do I tell them? What should be my approach?
Yesss plz post the deal breaker
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Hi Mr. Gomez, I really like your guidelines and your way of explaining issues. My Question is Why a man ALLOWS himself to be Rude, Unpleasant and all bad behaviors you can think of with absolute NO LIMIT towards who has always been nice to him, being Forgiven, Supportive, Uplifting, Polite but the same man behaves like an angel towards who takes advantages of him, makes fun of him in public, and is a Control Freak woman. Also if a woman is Smart in what she is doing compare to him, a woman who has a better understanding on how to settle and Calm the situation he gets mad also if the same woman let him win still he behaves bad.
Thank you for your question. Sometimes, a man’s behavior may be rooted in unresolved personal issues, insecurities, or patterns from his past that lead him to take for granted those who treat him well. He might feel more comfortable being his unfiltered self around someone who is supportive but feel the need to impress or submit to someone who challenges or disrespects him. Insecure attachment styles, low self-esteem, or a need for control can also drive such behavior. It's important for both partners to recognize these patterns and address them through open communication or professional support if needed.
Hi again Mr. Gomez, Thank you so much for taking your time considering on my question and answering it. I really appreciate it. Yes that's exactly what it is. I keep asking myself why a person with 2 high degrees in science, having PHDs, behaves like he has been brought up in wilderness. Lots of Emotional Hurt needs to be open up but I know here is not the place. You cannot trust anyone and whomever you can trust are not expert to get help from them. Thank you again.
Please share the list.
Brilliant video, thank you😘😘😘
Thank you, glad you enjoyed the video. Appreciate your support.
Love this thank you!!!
6:49 ..... Feels soo me...😢
Graciasssss ❤❤❤
I totally agree and these are valid for both parties. I witnessed it the other day..
Glad you found it helpful. You're welcome.
Yes please share it
Hi, I have a question about the respect for men in our life. I've suffered from violence at home, so I can't speak many good things of my father, but I wouldn't say the bad things too to a guy I like, would that really prevent or stop him from being with me? I try hard not to think the worst of guys, because I know each person is different, and I shouldn't let my sad past ruin my present nor future. Or the fact that I don't have a good relationship with my father affect a future relationship? Thanks
Sorry to hear that
It will not affect your relationships until you heal it internally because working on your traumas is as important as you want peace in your personal relationships
Just bcoz your father was abusive it doesn't define other guys but that doesn't mean that you are going to ignore all the toxic traits bcoz your past made you wiser and able to look all these things more consciously thankyou hope it helps
Will you share the list you were talking about in the video, please 🙏🏻
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@@SaveTheMessenger TankQ so much
That was really good thank you
I’m glad you liked it. Thank you for watching.
I was just wondering Will this method works if women/ teenage girl are single?
I am watching from Nigeria 🇳🇬 please I would like a video where you talk about the list of deal breakers, I appreciate your videos and I have just subscribed ❤
Yes pls share
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Can someone tell me the name of the movie, please!
Thank you!
Thank you Ishmael for everything really thanks for the advise you give
Thank you so much for the kind words. Really appreciate it.
Im french so TKS focr Understand my "not perfect english"** the last things you Said is funny cause i saw people treat me poorly, not cause i didnt set bondaries with others but as i was talking about the Fact that they treat me poorly, i walked away okay but in beeing again affected by it cause they matter for me. Is like, lot of people, as you still concerned about the behaviors of someone in your past you never accepted ( importants relatives ones at this Time) this people seem out of capacity to deal healthy about it and rather to listen they feel insecure and choose to be on the side of the opposant, like : Why he did ,IT? Like treat you poorly have maybe a reason and just in asking you that he do the same 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Yes share everything
Good one and those Points as well
Perhaps it is just me, but I think a balance is lacking. I agree with much of what you say, but in the end I think that understanding many of these concepts is created naturally when you accept that you do not have to like a man just because you have been seeing him for a while, or vice versa. If you find that the relationship is not what you want, a no fault situation, be honest to yourself and the other person and say this. If they want to be friends, or friends in the future, fine. If not it's okay to say "This is not working for me.", and not have to itemize. Therein lies blaming, and often there is no blame, just a false start.
some good thoughts, except #3. №3 is about suppressing your anger? i dont wanna choose kindness all the time xD need a clarification about this one
This guy is a genius wow
That list will help me see if I miss something Ismael that might be helpful
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I will be who i am, if a man doesn't like me, by. I change for no one but myself!
Yes helpful
Guys who don't admit or apologize for their wrong actions & still want the relationship. What is the best advice?
Live your life without hurting anyone and not to please your partner. Noone can love you the way you love yourself.
Nurturing is good thing though...
cooking healthy food or some desert too.
Pleasing means you have low energy mentally physically tired and you force yourself doing something for others
while you feel like you have to spend more time with ourself to raise your energy, mentally physically.
But if both have very high energy , pleasing ech other or cooking for one another
and doing hobbies together is effotless.....because both raise the energy, and dont have to analyze who did what and when, because
it comes effirtlessly equally from both, and for both.
Remember guys in order to receive respect from one you have to respect them too
Im 32 and single , i work in an IT firm , earn well but its just hard to find a man because my country is mostly about arranged marriages and i hate that concept and i dont think i can attract the right man for myself who can actually marry me also as per my values i cant sleep with a man before marriage. Its all complicated im tired. I have this nightmares where i end up alone . Binge watching these videos n taking notes is what im doing since 20's yet nothing i do wen time comes. 😕
girl honestly I'm super envious of that. I am a white girl from the middle of the US and I can tell you that these Western relationships are almost all doomed to fail. The only issue that I have seen with arranged marriages is where the woman isn't allowed to refuse a proposal (or obviously if she's too young or anything like that that's really heinous). they made all these movies and super cute songs on the radio about women being independent and about finding your own love being extremely romantic and rewarding.... however, after listening to like, what feels like thousands of women explain their horror stories with their boyfriends and husbands... Men really seem to need to be watched over and kept in line by several people not just a girlfriend or wife.... movies depicted parents that were choosing for their daughters as these hyper-controlling evil people but now I can actually see it for what it is.... your parents act as the bad guys for you. It's a total act of love and super sacrificial of your parents to do for you. so like, they'll demand that The guy not only tells them about a beautiful story of what your life will be like together but will also make the guy prove it with literal documents. so he will show his bank statements to prove that he has enough money to take care of you and he'll show your parents the deed to his house and car that he owns. he'll also need to go above and beyond to impress your parents likely with some really expensive gifts that you probably wouldn't get as a girlfriend in the West. and they will fully screen him to make sure that he has a good reputation amongst the community. these are all things that men get to lie about in the West and they take advantage of it to the moon girl. and if you ask about any of this stuff on your own by yourself, you get called a gold digger or youre gaslit into thinking that this is somehow wrong of you to ask that Even though it's an enormous financial and safety issue for you in a marriage. It's honestly too much to bare for women. like it's absolutely exhausting and considering that you're generally very young and naive when you start dating here, you get tricked and taken advantage of a lot. and that's why you have all these angry women with all these horrible back stories. I've only had two very serious boyfriends where the relationship lasted for several years. which is another thing that they try to make seem very normal and healthy in the West, but all it does is degrade a woman's expectations for herself as well as the respect the man has for her. everyone is doing it that way so you think it's normal but in reality if a man really wants to marry you and respects you, He will want to take you off the market as soon as possible .... so instead you've got all of these stupid couples playing house where the woman thinks that she's eventually going to end up with a ring, but in reality her boyfriend doesn't actually respect her and she's just basically getting used and wasting her time having no idea it's happening. if my parents were willing to put in this kind of effort to screen guys and find me men that suit me... I would absolutely take that deal. it really only works though if the parents are willing to listen to the daughter and dont just try to marry her off without some sort of consent. like obviously that would be very problematic. but literally from what I've seen, as long as the guy is financially prepared in life, has a good reputation in society, and is willing to put up with the challenge of impressing your parents to prove that he is ready for this type of commitment.... that everything else is just details. feelings develop over time. Men basically fall in love with a woman's looks and her energy immediately, but what's natural for women is for their love to evolve over a long period of time of the man proving he is a good husband. of course someone can have all of the right things and when you sit in a room with them you are like oil and water... or worse. which is why it's important to be able to tell your parents that there's something very wrong with the connection there spiritually is important. otherwise I honestly feel like it's going to work out 99% of the time wishes crazy compared to what's going on in the West. most people here in the West end up settling anyway with someone they don't truly feel some big romantic connection to anyway. and the way people try to date now.... It's obvious to me that they want to be able to screen people in the same way that parents used to do this for their kids. women want to know that their husbands will be financially prepared, that they are a safe person and they want a real solid commitment which men here don't really need to give because their lives are not as intertwined into their marriages like they are in the east. and men want to know that they are getting a woman who hasn't slept with a ton of men, who has a good reputation, comes from a family with a good support system, and that they're good looking. everything else is just kind of stupid details but yes, sometimes two souls are going to clash no matter what. I would absolutely take that deal though I literally fantasize about it all of the time. nothing is set up here though in the West for that to be a real reality. and the community here certainly isn't trying to keep track of your husband to make sure that he's acting right. fathers no longer do their duty for the most part. I remember finding out that a lot of women would go through their dads to get their husbands to show up for them... I definitely don't have that option... I can't tattle on my husband to my dad and have him come over and handle him. which may be sounds silly and backward but men really don't care to listen to women and deeply want the respect and approval of other men around. there's way too much pressure on the woman now and it's all honestly built to break. every once in awhile you hear of an anomaly type of idealistic relationship that just worked out but That's like winning the lottery. It's pure luck and nothing to do with anything that makes sense that can be applied to most people. if your parents are really loving people and they have a good handle on who you are to match you with someone you would find attractive.... girl just take it. there's really no better deal than that. and I apologize for how long and intense I am about this... I have literally no one to talk about it with and I've wanted to speak to someone who culturally does have this as an option very badly. Even though I'm so clear that I still believe there needs to be an element of consent, people want to dismiss this and treat me like I'm suggesting that parents marry their 10-year-old daughters to random 50-year-old men. like that's not at all what I'm saying
@@lindseyw9192 I get it , I read your whole comment even though it took me a while, again I say there are two sides to evry coin, in arranged marriages they chose pple only amongst their communities and caste systems , within that I get to chose and it's more like who earns more, who's family is doing well etc. Nothing on an emotional level but it's more like a business deal and In return girl gets to give dowry to the boys family , fulfil their desires n wishes interms of gifts n lands n gold anything expensive along with taking up all the wedding expenses amidst of all these you lose the true sense of marriage, its all about two understanding souls who vow to be together for a lifetime with love, this goes missing! I would say there are few pple who gets lucky with these arrangements but not everyone. It's the same as what's out there in west but in a different level and also because of this arranged marriage option, pple here love but end up marrying whom their parents show at the end, it gets really tough to play both of the games here because u ain't winning in any and these men want everything from a woman wen they r with her yet chose a woman who claims to be untouched. I personally didn't like anyone my parents shown me so far they all have big loop holes and none ticks my boxes and im not settling for anything less.. grass is greener on the other side that's the only thing I see , seems like I would write that if I were born in west n faced all those things u mentioned.. now I feel I'm in nothingness with not wanting both the options 😅 not traditional dating, not arranged setups.. God help me find a man and push me into the marriage loop without me knowing it 😂 ,im so sick n tired, trust me we gurls need to form a pack and bitch about the relationship issues we face all day.
Yess i also want to know what is deal breaker for her
Pls share the deal breaker
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you got a new sub!
I have deal breakers. I say no and walk away. I'm all with it but all my life I end up single. My equal never showed up. I totally let go and feel satisfied but am just feeling amused 😅
Wow🌸
really liked this video