Y’all are fucking brave . These conversations are hard in private. Thank you for doing this. Maybe this is the direction humanity should go in. So loved what your dad said about “why wouldn’t you finish the trip”. I have spent my life running away. Jumping out of the boat . I applaud both of you.
I was just coming to the comments to say this same thing. Man these are hard with your partner, but to film it and then be willing to put it out there for others to benefit from is incredible. ❤❤
I love seeing a man show his emotions. You are lucky to have such a caring man Mel. And he lucky to have you. Don’t call him out about “here come the tears”.
Omg… I love the beautiful humanity and authenticity demonstrated here. A brave man bringing out his tears and how serious and heartfelt he is about that love shows. Completely appropriate in this heart work. I’m guessing Mel was trying to keep her tears at bay by saying that. Tears are a healthy expression and way more full of feel good chemicals than wine. Let’s normalize them as they are healthy and well….they’re needed.
Why the hell am I crying? What an incredibly beautiful episode, this is the most amazing thing you could do for your audience! Thank you immensely! Mel and Chris, thank you so much!
This couple is a true couple as in soul mates!!! I have no doubt a ton of hard work has gone into these 30 years. May God keep them strong in him and each other!!
34 years of marriage and Just realized I have not been in the boat.This was shocking to me but enlightening. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. It’s never too late to get back in the boat. 🙏
@universaltruth2025 Being intentional about REACHING YOUR Desired Goal. Any success requires hard work and effort to make it successful. To make it work asks for Determination and Commitment
Thank you Chris for sharing your authentic emotions! I was sitting in my car crying with you when you described…”being in the boat together, both rowing incredibly hard!”
I am 51. Married 8 years. Going through things with the wife. This video is absolutely amazing from the boat analogy all the way through the end. Solid gold nuggets of wisdom here. I can't wait to implement this in my marriage immediately.
This is such a brilliant, brilliantly honest conversation about the significant issues in relationships that NO ONE talks about, and we all struggle with, with no guidance or pathway forward, until now. I envy you, Mel, for having a beautifully sensitive, yet supportive man in your life, and for the balance that you both bring to your relationship/marriage with your different personalities and styles. Thank you for this deeply helpful and open conversation with each other, in front of us all. It's so helpful!
Wow… Chris… you make such a difference in this world.. to show MEN how you can have emotions and showing vulnerability to an audience on line who is crying just listening to you and loving your advice.. Thank You… So appreciate ❤ the love you are sharing! If I remember Mel once did an episode on The Five Languages of Love to know what each other definition of Love..Thank you!
I am 17 minutes in and you have me crying. I am hearing this as we want to be seen, heard and felt cared for. The rest of the household stuff can be shared. I lost my husband in 2020. Oh how I wish sometimes I could go back and be better. Thanks for doing this.
Challenges in relationships are a normal part of life, but there’s always a path forward. My marriage encountered major difficulties, but with proper guidance, my wife and I managed to resolve our issues and deepen our connection. If you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate, solutions are always within reach. Keep hope alive; there are answers out there.
Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
This is one episode that made me feel that I don’t want to skip because it’s like watching a love story in the real sense of the word. Thank you for sharing your story. I really appreciate both of you for giving your authenticity about how you navigate your boat. Ahhhh! I just love this episode😊❤️
Two healthy people in a marriage . Beautiful to witness. Yes,you worked at it but you BOTH worked at it, and that’s the difference . I consider that the grand prize in life.
I don’t often comment on videos but I need to this time and say THANK YOU to both of you. This is a video that I will add to multiple playlists and share with many people. So much wisdom, love, authenticity and vulnerability here! Thanks again!! ♥️♥️
Mel I have to say I have loved almost all, if not all, of your podcasts, videos, shows whatever all through the years but this for some reason just blew it out of the water for me. I loved how you both gave each other a chance to talk about stuff through the years. This was a beautiful rendition of what life is truly like and how easy it is to feel invisible, so that final idea of stopping and touching each other with eye contact even just for seconds, sounds like a wonderful idea for reconnecting with each other. We shouldn’t feel like roommates just doing our usual mundane things around the house where we each have our own stuff we look after. Stopping and doing a quick touch with eye contact, may be all it takes for a feeling of “oh hi, remember me”. We take for granted I believe as we live our daily lives that we don’t need a little extra touch to bring a minute of awareness. Thank you Chris for sharing that and I feel this could be a game changer for sure in many people’s lives, for the good! As always Mel thank you for sharing this today and I look forward to your next video….Lisa 🤗🙏💓
I learned that coming home after a work trip and my husband made sure that our kids were safe, happy and a clean house. …..are my flowers! I adore real flowers but I treasure having a partner who I know can step in and do the things needed to keep the family afloat and happy., as Marley sang” I can buy myself flowers 🌺 “ 🌺
Upon opening the episode when Chris said, “because I love you.” I felt it and within an instant, I had tears well. What a blessing these two are. Going back to my listen now..
That's the sweetest episode ever. It's nice to see Chris for the first time and listen to all these beautiful lessons. Is really a blessing to have someone that truly wants to be on the boat with you. Me and my partner are 12 years together, and to be honest it was never easy... But has ALWAYS been worth it.
Thank you, so many of us never saw a good marriage up close, our parents weren't in the boat and couldn't work through the storms or it was so egregiously bad they really shouldn't have. May your next 30 years be at least as blessed as the last
I loved this. It resonated on so many levels. At times I wanted to hear more from Chris...it made me aware of how often I cut my partner off and take the reins back wthout even realizing I'm doing it. I'm a therapist and I refer so many clients to your podcasts and books, Mel. You have found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow but you're still fresh, and vulnerable, and growing. Youi're a great role model for all of us.
I love seeing a man show his emotions. You are lucky to have such a caring man Mel. And he lucky to have you. Don’t call him out about “here come the tears”.
Mel, your father has obviously been a huge inspiration influence on you ! He’s extremely wise, so beautifully put: the metaphor of the boat and the journey to life’s relationships/marriage.
Oh, wow. Mel, I've listened to many of your podcasts, not every single one, but I really appreciate that you are out there and that you're such a strong soul. I'm listening to you from Poland, from a little town in Poland, and I want to say that I've never been touched so much about intimacy, truth, honesty, vulnerability in a podcast. I appreciate you and your husband coming and speaking your truth, your boat sides, slides, mistakes and success, in this ride that a marriage is. In this sailboat that a marriage actually is. It's challenging more than just thrilling and happy, in my opinion, and to have your honest and nude perspective. Blessing. Thank you! Big applause. It's an amazing podcast, and I don't think I've ever recommended a podcast so often. I didn't send a link to my friends so often as this one. I think it's an amazing one for anybody in a relationship. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Angelika ♥️ I usually listen on Spotify but I came here to comment. 🙏🏻
I started crying within 5 minutes! Thank you for sharing the real, raw, and authentic relationship experiences over 30 years. I am so grateful to wake up to this episode today. Celebrating our 1st Wedding Anniversary today 10-28 and I feel empowered listening to your inspiring advice and journey. I Love your parent’s wisdom and honest example of how to handle the really tough times. With enthusiasm and excitement I choose to Stay in the Boat! Thank you Mel and Chris..I love you❤
I absolutely loved this episode. Please thank Chris for all of us. I cried when he cried and immediately sent a link to my husband to watch this the whole episode without his phone or the TV or any distractions. Look forward to implementing the ideas you put forth and fully agree About being in the boat. We celebrated 30 years this month and there were times I had 2 feet in the marriage 1 foot in the marriage and that was our analogy similar to a boat -You have to be all in. Thanks for the vulnerability and for the sharing your relationship I believe this episode will help us and many couples. And if anyone hasn’t told you today Mel, you are amazing and I love listening to you.
This was the most impactful video you have made. Thank you so much for sharing all this. As someone who has been married 37 years, this was beautiful and helpful to me.❤❤❤
Thank you for a great self reflective take on marriage. I always tell my boys, once you get married and have children everyone’s in. You can’t change who anyone is, but pick your fights. On the end your family unit is your tribe. Never break up the tribe!
I was keeping it together until all the way to the end where you said you were proud of the both of you and how excited you are for the next 30 years. ❤ so amazingly beautifully said. So this is love. ❤
My husband and I have been together 30 years just this past September and the boat analogy really hits home!!! Thank you for this! Just became an empty nester too and have to basically start over finding each other again. Downloaded this one too for the walk today!! Thank you for all you do!❤
I see the dead flowers in the vase as; that was the part of the household and the family that was missing. You, Mel, the feminine part who put the fresh flowers in the vase. He didn’t put them there. You did, and maybe they were left that way as a reminder to trigger thoughts that I miss her, the one who placed the fresh flowers in the vase. The feminine part of your connection to your marriage. When she returns we will have fresh flowers, (a fresh renewal of re-connection to the cohesiveness, the oneness of your bond. you share.
Mel...thank you and Chris for putting this conversation out there - all the bits: the good, the bad, the ugly...it really makes me feel less alone and very hopeful about my relationship and hard times we go through. You and Chris are just the best. Thank you both.
This has been absolutely helpful just at the right time. I’m celebrating 38 years of marriage in a few weeks. Why do I feel like I still have so much to learn? Thank you, Mel & Chris
Awwwww, you guys! Epic! keep looking into each other‘s eyes as much as possible for the next 30 years! Keep re-fueling each other. Thank you for this beautiful example of what a healthy, considerate, loving partnership can be. I’m still looking for my partner, and now I have a better compass point. Thank you 🙏🏼 I resonate so deeply with this conversation. ❤
Mel and Chris, thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability so openly. You both are beautiful beings, please share more of your challenges and adventures together!❤
Mel, I am a 68 year old woman with 7 children, 25 grands, 4 great grands.....a LOT of life under my belt. Woman!!!! You better hold on to such a precious soul!!! God has certainly blessed you.
I love how Chris is so connected with his emotions and open himself to get vulnerable this far, not only with you but in front of a camera. He is a really BRAVE man! Nowadays it is not easy to find such quality of partner. Thank you so much for this. Listening to him helped me to understand a lot of things from a men´s perspective and understand my own partner. You both are a strong, conscious and sensitive couple. Thank you Mel & Chris.
How honestly vulnerable is this episode, I just love it. I’m glad you think of each other during a day and showing it by just bringing a coffee or putting toilet seat down. I wish my partner of 20 year relationship would be at least remember how I take my coffee. Everyday common things are not important to him, 😢 which makes me feel invisible or invalid regardless of discussions about it.
My husband gets emotional every time a New England/Boston team wins-whether it’s the Patriots, Bruins, Red Sox, or Celtics. He also tears up listening to rock music! 😂 I, on the other hand, find myself moved by Mel Robbins’ videos and podcasts. I cry as well. Thank you for sharing this incredible video on surprising marriage lessons. As Pamela Anderson once said, 'Relationships are hard.' Profound. 😂😂😂 (P.S. This IS THE best marriage therapy session I've ever watched. THANK YOU for sharing your vulnerabilities.) 💜💞 #melrobbins #marriagecounseling #profound 💜💞
🥹🥹awww Mel you did it again!! I’ve watched twice on you tube and listened on Spotify. This episode is not only incredible but it’s so insightful and it resonates in me. Thank you to you and Chris for being so open and sharing with us. The boat analogy is such an amazing reminder about this journey. Why not continue to take this trip. Your dad was spot on too! ❤ I’ve shared with my wife and i do hope she takes time to listen. We are currently separated and to be honest some of the things you and Chris talk about hit home. It’s not easy but if your willing to do the work stay in the boat and recognize when your not so you can readjust as well. ❤
Tears are coming down my eyes right now. My son and daughter in-law were just were fighting. This information so good I will be sharing it with them. Thank you for being so honest.
Thank you both for your transparency and your raw honesty. You may have done more for relationships in this episode than in the sum of all of them combined. So grateful for the way you lead the way in demonstrating what honest and real conversation looks like. Beautifully done, so proud of these two humans. And in case no one has told you, you are doing great and I love you. May your marriage and your love healthy, strong and long. I love you❤❤
Wow😂. So raw It was so special to see Chris bearing his soul ❤. Thank you. I have been married for 40 years. My hubby gives me flowers every Friday. He knows how much I love flowers. I love the boat analogy. We have been on the rocks many times 🎉
It's early Sunday morning and I'm ion bed with all my pets and I find myself watching this beautiful, loving, profound talk with you and Chris. The second he mentioned flower and choked back tears, I was right there with him. Tears. This is so touching and honest. My boat sank and thank goodness I was wearing a life jacket. I just had to tell you both, Thank you.
You are a very courageous couple. The willingness to have this conversation in front of viewers only proves how devoted you both actually are to the relationship. I think Chris is remarkable to do this for you & your show. It in turn helps us believe we all can do this in our own relationships. Obviously, you have been through the worst of it & deserve to live in peace & grace for the rest of your lives. Live with passion, sleep in peace.
By far one of the best podcasts you had Mel. Thank you for inviting the World to your very private conversation with Christopher Robbins❤👏 My intake: There is profound beauty in a relationship that weathers storms, endures trials, and yet remains steadfast-a testament to the strength of love, the resilience of connection, and the unyielding commitment to stand together against all odds."
I’m married 30years next July. Thank you for sharing this with me. How Special you spoke truthfully with each other in front of us. It was wonderful to hear and reflect on my relationship with my spouse.
It is so beautiful that you are both open to have honest desire to share your feelings and thoughts, thank you for the opportunity to listen. My dear husband passed away less than a year ago, and your conversation reminded me of so many things which I could not speak with him about but would have wished to. I cried throughout this episode, for the things I have not done too well, or I am not proud of and could never explain to him how I felt and why.
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Your Dads analogy about the boat and your deep honesty has opened up something in me I can’t explain. I listened to your episode with Steven Bartlett about a month ago where you mention the Yes Theory and not to sound dramatic but it changed my life - I’ve been in therapy for 18 months for a range of trauma and I truly feel that episode brought all of my therapy together in a way I haven’t understood before just when I thought it wasn’t working, I’ve been obsessed with your podcast since. I’ve realised that I’ve been so out of the boat my whole life and I genuinely feel I will take every point from this podcast and intently use it to improve my own relationship. Thank you so much to you both for being so open and honest and letting us into the intimacy between you both, it really does give another level of understanding to a commitment of a relationship.
❤ Wow Mel. This was powerful. How vulnerable and honest you and Chris were. So loving. I’m a 50-ish year old widow and hope to find a love like I had one day again. I wish I could have had some of your advice when he was still here. Next time, if I’m so lucky, I’ll have more tools in my box. If not, I’m lucky to have rowed in the boat of true love at least once. Thank you for all you do to help keep the wind in my sails of life whenever I need it. Huge hugs from me to you. Thank you. You bring joy to my life almost every day. You make a positive contribution to my happiness, or the pursuit of finding it again.
This was SO wonderful to listen to, and I'm not even in a relationship. Has barely had some as I've gone through most of my life as a loner - and now I'm in my late seventies. But I love listening to authentic people having an honest talk. And this was BEAUTIFUL. Thank you to both of you. And there is no doubt in my mind that your next 30 years together will be wonderful - even if the world goes crazy
What a beautiful encounter you had together and letting us know that we are not alone in this world. Praying for you two be together for many more years to come.
Mel, you helped me through a very hard time in my life, I divorced my husband last year. Not because I didn’t love him, but because he suffers from mental illness causing him to be verbally abusive towards me, hoarding, spending money with a plan, taking drugs and alcohol… it was all too much and I knew it would destroy if I kept him in my life. He would not seek help for his addictions and emotional problems, blaming everyone around him, especially me. So you can understand how listening to this podcast episode made me sad. Sad that I could not stay in the boat and instead had to jump ship and leave him on his own… which he then spiralled into a psychosis. My daughters no longer have a dad, I no longer have a husband. This episode made me feel guilty. I think it’s because we just don’t have the mental health resources we need still. Thx for listening.
I ran across your comment and just needed to let you know something. Consider that you might have just been on the wrong boat! I relate very much to what you've expressed. I left my husband almost 10 years ago for many of the same reasons you listed. He also spiraled and then put himself through even more hell after I left. But the choices he was making back then was like being determined to take a little leaky row boat out in the middle of the ocean during the storm of the century; it has holes in it and is falling apart because it isn't healthy, and it's destined to sink. Now is the time for therapy and healing for you and your daughters. I hope your ex-husband finds his way somehow too. But go easy on yourself for jumping off of a sinking boat in a storm. You did what you needed to do for you and your daughters' best interests and health. This will also help them make good choices with men in their futures and not stay on a sinking boat just trying to learn how to breathe under water. Best wishes to you and your family.
You were in the boat by yourself trying to navigate the storm alone. Speaking from personal experience, you did the right thing for you and your children. I promise, one day you'll look back and see it very clearly. 💜
Greetings from Australia - What a beautiful heartfelt raw and honest podcast with your husband Chris. I loved what Chris said about staying to the END! This would mean a lot to me. And the flowers I got all teary because flowers mean so much to me. I have a few wishes I rather not say - but feel sad because I love LOVE, I love to feel loved and to be heard and not only that its weathering all storms in life. I read through the comments. I want to send a HUG out to everyone. Life is too short to keep on arguing and resent each other. We are all here to LOVE and ENJOY Life 💗💗
Oh my goodness!! This was absolutely pure gold and so truly beautiful. I think your relationship is so much like so many others of ours and it gives so much hope. And it is such a wonderful reminder to us… keep the one you love in mind… get in the freaking boat. I haven’t gotten all the way through, but I’m currently trying to decide what my husband’s “flowers” are. Because we all have that thing. And it takes thought and effort. And just because I’m doing important things doesn’t mean I’m doing the thing that makes HIM feel loved and appreciated and IMPORTANT. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing so generously about the challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve grown individually and together. I often feel like the nitty gritty of how real life changes and success gets washed over because the ‘before’ and ‘after’ seem so much more exciting. Breaking down so many phases and dynamics in your relationship showed me a map, a trajectory of what’s possible with genuine commitment and honesty to each other. You’ve done some amazing podcasts and talked with incredible people, Mel. But this sweet chat with your partner gave me tools and insights I’ve never accessed before. I came in trusting you two and, because of your generosity, left with personal assignments and things to explore that feel more grounding and hopeful than I’ve felt in a really long time. Thank you both so much.
Thank you both for your vulnerability and honesty. With marriage, we are sold a romantic fairytale of what marriage should be. The truth is that loving each other over the course of a lifetime takes intention and effort and nurturing. Thank you for your willingness to be raw and to share your own experience.
WOW. How powerful so much truth and honesty and transparency. That is extremely encouraging to see in action that’s what it’s all about. You can stop this video after a minute and a half and get so much value. Thank you very much for being there for us, and demonstrating how relationship works because most of us don’t have a clue, we weren’t raised with healthy role models so we went through life winging it and most of the time getting it wrong
Oh Wow! What a beautiful brave conversation! Mel you are so so lucky as indeed is Chris that you can both be so loving, honest & emotional together. It's such a gift & a Joy to behold. I haven't been so fortunate in my relationship, married 19 years divorced 32. I have never experienced that intimacy & Love but I can rejoice in its possibility. May you have many more long & happy years together ❤
Come on Mel! The guy showed up with the most original and funny costume that dinner during the pandemic, the one you all shared about one family episode… He definitely is the (silent) life of the party!! What an inspiring episode!! Thank you
Would love to hear more from Chris. My son is very similar to him. He is a stay at home husband and I see him struggling with the same issues. I applaud men who hold up their tornado wives. They are just as much of a force as their wives.
Here I am crying my heart out....and wishing that Ive had this type of conversation with my ex husbands. Im forwarding this to my married children. Thanks U2....you are an awesome couple
Both are so in love. The way they look at eachother. Beautifull how Mel appreciated the things like she could sleep longer, not play golf not skiing. Which would be a huge issue in most of the relationships. And how Chris has such huge soul what makes him a big man, besides other that only value material stuff. Beautiful conversation. Definitely should listen to it again when I will be in a relationship, as I am single for a while and miss exactly those values on most of the people I met in the past. Many are just looking for superficial qualities. The metaphor with the boat describes exactly what I miss and wish. But in the past one would jump out of the boat just because of a rain or foggy weather 😅 And by the way, I think the boat itself is built by both together 🙏
Love this so much!!!! It’s so beautiful and real!!! Thank you Both so much for sharing your inner thoughts about one another. It shows that we all need to find time to connect with one another in this busy world we live in. Love the boat analogy. Thank you so much. I Love you Mel and I thank you both for all you did. You both are amazing!!!🙏🏻🙌🏻🥰🥳
This was so true, we perceive that we've done our best from OUR perspective and yet it's not what the other person wants/needs/appreciates. I also wish I could go back and do 'better'.
Thank you so much Mel for sharing this personal and genuine love story. And thank you to your husband for showing up and participating in this podcast. So real. Lots of key nuggets of information people can take away from this ❤️
I am blessed with my own “Chris” called Marko ❤ now 40 years together. Married my best friend and my soulmate for life 🎉 thank you both for this episode 😊
Y’all are fucking brave . These conversations are hard in private. Thank you for doing this. Maybe this is the direction humanity should go in. So loved what your dad said about “why wouldn’t you finish the trip”.
I have spent my life running away. Jumping out of the boat . I applaud both of you.
Amen.
So glad to see this episode resonated with you!
I was just coming to the comments to say this same thing. Man these are hard with your partner, but to film it and then be willing to put it out there for others to benefit from is incredible. ❤❤
Thanks Mel & Chris,this was excellent!
So honest & Brave!
Well done to you both!
I love seeing a man show his emotions. You are lucky to have such a caring man Mel. And he lucky to have you. Don’t call him out about “here come the tears”.
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I agree. The “here come the tears” was her way of softening things it seems but it belittles a bit.
He seems secure enough to be fine with it and knows she loves him.
Omg… I love the beautiful humanity and authenticity demonstrated here. A brave man bringing out his tears and how serious and heartfelt he is about that love shows. Completely appropriate in this heart work. I’m guessing Mel was trying to keep her tears at bay by saying that. Tears are a healthy expression and way more full of feel good chemicals than wine. Let’s normalize them as they are healthy and well….they’re needed.
Why the hell am I crying? What an incredibly beautiful episode, this is the most amazing thing you could do for your audience! Thank you immensely! Mel and Chris, thank you so much!
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Only 8 minutes in and I can already tell you that THIS is without doubt, the most important, meaningful, powerful show you’ve ever done.
“We started this together and we’re gonna end it together” 😊melted my heart!
This couple is a true couple as in soul mates!!! I have no doubt a ton of hard work has gone into these 30 years. May God keep them strong in him and each other!!
What a beautiful person your husband is Mel! I loved seeing the raw emotion he expressed. You’re a beautiful couple xx
34 years of marriage and Just realized I have not been in the boat.This was shocking to me but enlightening. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. It’s never too late to get back in the boat. 🙏
Well it is just a metaphor. What does ‘being in the boat’ really mean? Trying harder to make it work?
@universaltruth2025 Being intentional about REACHING YOUR Desired Goal. Any success requires hard work and effort to make it successful. To make it work asks for Determination and Commitment
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Thank you Chris for sharing your authentic emotions! I was sitting in my car crying with you when you described…”being in the boat together, both rowing incredibly hard!”
I am 51. Married 8 years. Going through things with the wife. This video is absolutely amazing from the boat analogy all the way through the end. Solid gold nuggets of wisdom here.
I can't wait to implement this in my marriage immediately.
This is such a brilliant, brilliantly honest conversation about the significant issues in relationships that NO ONE talks about, and we all struggle with, with no guidance or pathway forward, until now. I envy you, Mel, for having a beautifully sensitive, yet supportive man in your life, and for the balance that you both bring to your relationship/marriage with your different personalities and styles. Thank you for this deeply helpful and open conversation with each other, in front of us all. It's so helpful!
Wow… Chris… you make such a difference in this world.. to show MEN how you can have emotions and showing vulnerability to an audience on line who is crying just listening to you and loving your advice.. Thank You… So appreciate ❤ the love you are sharing! If I remember Mel once did an episode on The Five Languages of Love to know what each other definition of Love..Thank you!
Aww my husband sometimes just stops and looks at me and smiles. That’s the best. It does refuel for sure.
Lucky you!
I am 17 minutes in and you have me crying. I am hearing this as we want to be seen, heard and felt cared for. The rest of the household stuff can be shared. I lost my husband in 2020. Oh how I wish sometimes I could go back and be better. Thanks for doing this.
Makes two of us!
I lost mine in 2020, too, and there are things I wish I could’ve done better, also.
Challenges in relationships are a normal part of life, but there’s always a path forward. My marriage encountered major difficulties, but with proper guidance, my wife and I managed to resolve our issues and deepen our connection. If you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate, solutions are always within reach. Keep hope alive; there are answers out there.
Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
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“We started this together and we’re gonna end it together” melted my heart!
This is one episode that made me feel that I don’t want to skip because it’s like watching a love story in the real sense of the word. Thank you for sharing your story. I really appreciate both of you for giving your authenticity about how you navigate your boat. Ahhhh! I just love this episode😊❤️
Two healthy people in a marriage . Beautiful to witness. Yes,you worked at it but you BOTH worked at it, and that’s the difference . I consider that the grand prize in life.
I don’t often comment on videos but I need to this time and say THANK YOU to both of you. This is a video that I will add to multiple playlists and share with many people. So much wisdom, love, authenticity and vulnerability here! Thanks again!! ♥️♥️
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Mel I have to say I have loved almost all, if not all, of your podcasts, videos, shows whatever all through the years but this for some reason just blew it out of the water for me. I loved how you both gave each other a chance to talk about stuff through the years. This was a beautiful rendition of what life is truly like and how easy it is to feel invisible, so that final idea of stopping and touching each other with eye contact even just for seconds, sounds like a wonderful idea for reconnecting with each other. We shouldn’t feel like roommates just doing our usual mundane things around the house where we each have our own stuff we look after. Stopping and doing a quick touch with eye contact, may be all it takes for a feeling of “oh hi, remember me”. We take for granted I believe as we live our daily lives that we don’t need a little extra touch to bring a minute of awareness. Thank you Chris for sharing that and I feel this could be a game changer for sure in many people’s lives, for the good! As always Mel thank you for sharing this today and I look forward to your next video….Lisa 🤗🙏💓
I learned that coming home after a work trip and my husband made sure that our kids were safe, happy and a clean house. …..are my flowers! I adore real flowers but I treasure having a partner who I know can step in and do the things needed to keep the family afloat and happy., as Marley sang” I can buy myself flowers 🌺 “
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This was probably the best show I have seen about real relationship issues… you are both amazing humans… here’s to another 30 years ❤❤
Upon opening the episode when Chris said, “because I love you.” I felt it and within an instant, I had tears well. What a blessing these two are. Going back to my listen now..
That's the sweetest episode ever. It's nice to see Chris for the first time and listen to all these beautiful lessons.
Is really a blessing to have someone that truly wants to be on the boat with you. Me and my partner are 12 years together, and to be honest it was never easy... But has ALWAYS been worth it.
Happy to hear that you enjoyed it!
Thank you, so many of us never saw a good marriage up close, our parents weren't in the boat and couldn't work through the storms or it was so egregiously bad they really shouldn't have. May your next 30 years be at least as blessed as the last
I loved this. It resonated on so many levels. At times I wanted to hear more from Chris...it made me aware of how often I cut my partner off and take the reins back wthout even realizing I'm doing it. I'm a therapist and I refer so many clients to your podcasts and books, Mel. You have found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow but you're still fresh, and vulnerable, and growing. Youi're a great role model for all of us.
Totally well said and I agree, Robyn.
Thanks! This episode saved my marriage. Thanks so much Mel for all that you do to help me improve myself, my relationships, and my life.
Congratulations on 30 years! This podcast is so real. This will help so many people. It is spot on. I have been married 47 years.
Such a lovely couple!! Please do not go out of the boat never, do the journey together! Your love story is really beatiful!
Mel you are a rock. And at the same time you are lucky having emotional and beautiful human creature without showing empty proud. ❤️❤️
I love seeing a man show his emotions. You are lucky to have such a caring man Mel. And he lucky to have you. Don’t call him out about “here come the tears”.
Mel is so committed to honest disclosure and helping others. It's courageous and beautiful.
Mel, your father has obviously been a huge inspiration influence on you ! He’s extremely wise, so beautifully put: the metaphor of the boat and the journey to life’s relationships/marriage.
Mel you are so very lucky to have a sensitive husband. To have someone who has the ability to genuinely express their emotions …priceless❤❤
Mel thank you for being raw and airing out your laundry for all of us to hear. I appreciated the conversation between you and your husband. Thank you.
Oh, wow. Mel, I've listened to many of your podcasts, not every single one, but I really appreciate that you are out there and that you're such a strong soul. I'm listening to you from Poland, from a little town in Poland, and I want to say that I've never been touched so much about intimacy, truth, honesty, vulnerability in a podcast. I appreciate you and your husband coming and speaking your truth, your boat sides, slides, mistakes and success, in this ride that a marriage is. In this sailboat that a marriage actually is. It's challenging more than just thrilling and happy, in my opinion, and to have your honest and nude perspective. Blessing. Thank you!
Big applause. It's an amazing podcast, and I don't think I've ever recommended a podcast so often. I didn't send a link to my friends so often as this one. I think it's an amazing one for anybody in a relationship. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Angelika ♥️
I usually listen on Spotify but I came here to comment. 🙏🏻
I started crying within 5 minutes! Thank you for sharing the real, raw, and authentic relationship experiences over 30 years. I am so grateful to wake up to this episode today. Celebrating our 1st Wedding Anniversary today 10-28 and I feel empowered listening to your inspiring advice and journey. I Love your parent’s wisdom and honest example of how to handle the really tough times. With enthusiasm and excitement I choose to Stay in the Boat! Thank you Mel and Chris..I love you❤
2 mins in and I am already in tears
I absolutely loved this episode. Please thank Chris for all of us. I cried when he cried and immediately sent a link to my husband to watch this the whole episode without his phone or the TV or any distractions. Look forward to implementing the ideas you put forth and fully agree About being in the boat. We celebrated 30 years this month and there were times I had 2 feet in the marriage 1 foot in the marriage and that was our analogy similar to a boat -You have to be all in. Thanks for the vulnerability and for the sharing your relationship I believe this episode will help us and many couples.
And if anyone hasn’t told you today Mel, you are amazing and I love listening to you.
This was the most impactful video you have made. Thank you so much for sharing all this. As someone who has been married 37 years, this was beautiful and helpful to me.❤❤❤
Thank you for a great self reflective take on marriage. I always tell my boys, once you get married and have children everyone’s in. You can’t change who anyone is, but pick your fights. On the end your family unit is your tribe. Never break up the tribe!
I was keeping it together until all the way to the end where you said you were proud of the both of you and how excited you are for the next 30 years. ❤ so amazingly beautifully said. So this is love. ❤
My husband and I have been together 30 years just this past September and the boat analogy really hits home!!! Thank you for this! Just became an empty nester too and have to basically start over finding each other again. Downloaded this one too for the walk today!! Thank you for all you do!❤
I see the dead flowers in the vase as; that was the part of the household and the family that was missing. You, Mel, the feminine part who put the fresh flowers in the vase. He didn’t put them there. You did, and maybe they were left that way as a reminder to trigger thoughts that I miss her, the one who placed the fresh flowers in the vase. The feminine part of your connection to your marriage. When she returns we will have fresh flowers, (a fresh renewal of re-connection to the cohesiveness, the oneness of your bond. you share.
The bravest discussion, thank you. Allowing us to listen to a topic that is so private, for us to learn!!
Mel...thank you and Chris for putting this conversation out there - all the bits: the good, the bad, the ugly...it really makes me feel less alone and very hopeful about my relationship and hard times we go through. You and Chris are just the best. Thank you both.
This has been absolutely helpful just at the right time. I’m celebrating 38 years of marriage in a few weeks. Why do I feel like I still have so much to learn? Thank you, Mel & Chris
Awwwww, you guys! Epic! keep looking into each other‘s eyes as much as possible for the next 30 years! Keep re-fueling each other. Thank you for this beautiful example of what a healthy, considerate, loving partnership can be. I’m still looking for my partner, and now I have a better compass point. Thank you 🙏🏼 I resonate so deeply with this conversation. ❤
Mel and Chris, thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability so openly. You both are beautiful beings, please share more of your challenges and adventures together!❤
Mel, I am a 68 year old woman with 7 children, 25 grands, 4 great grands.....a LOT of life under my belt.
Woman!!!! You better hold on to such a precious soul!!! God has certainly blessed you.
I love how Chris is so connected with his emotions and open himself to get vulnerable this far, not only with you but in front of a camera. He is a really BRAVE man! Nowadays it is not easy to find such quality of partner. Thank you so much for this. Listening to him helped me to understand a lot of things from a men´s perspective and understand my own partner. You both are a strong, conscious and sensitive couple. Thank you Mel & Chris.
How honestly vulnerable is this episode, I just love it. I’m glad you think of each other during a day and showing it by just bringing a coffee or putting toilet seat down.
I wish my partner of 20 year relationship would be at least remember how I take my coffee. Everyday common things are not important to him, 😢 which makes me feel invisible or invalid regardless of discussions about it.
❤❤❤❤❤❤. This is the most amazing gift from Mel & Chris Robbins!! Do not miss listening, saving and refueling when ever needed! ❤❤❤
Every couple should do this…..their relationship will strengthen two-fold. 👍
What a wonderful episode! I learned so much and loved getting to know Chris better and how the two of you have navigated 30 years together!
My husband gets emotional every time a New England/Boston team wins-whether it’s the Patriots, Bruins, Red Sox, or Celtics. He also tears up listening to rock music! 😂 I, on the other hand, find myself moved by Mel Robbins’ videos and podcasts. I cry as well. Thank you for sharing this incredible video on surprising marriage lessons. As Pamela Anderson once said, 'Relationships are hard.' Profound. 😂😂😂 (P.S. This IS THE best marriage therapy session I've ever watched. THANK YOU for sharing your vulnerabilities.) 💜💞 #melrobbins #marriagecounseling #profound 💜💞
Omg you two are us! I loss my rock after 52 years, but my Dave was Chis all the way.. awesome. You’re an awesome couple.💕💫 Thank you for sharing.
Thanks!
🥹🥹awww Mel you did it again!! I’ve watched twice on you tube and listened on Spotify. This episode is not only incredible but it’s so insightful and it resonates in me. Thank you to you and Chris for being so open and sharing with us. The boat analogy is such an amazing reminder about this journey. Why not continue to take this trip. Your dad was spot on too! ❤
I’ve shared with my wife and i do hope she takes time to listen. We are currently separated and to be honest some of the things you and Chris talk about hit home. It’s not easy but if your willing to do the work stay in the boat and recognize when your not so you can readjust as well. ❤
I’m totally agree with your daughters… Where can we find someone like Chris.❤❤❤
Thanks
Tears are coming down my eyes right now. My son and daughter in-law were just were fighting. This information so good I will be sharing it with them. Thank you for being so honest.
Thank you both for your transparency and your raw honesty. You may have done more for relationships in this episode than in the sum of all of them combined. So grateful for the way you lead the way in demonstrating what honest and real conversation looks like. Beautifully done, so proud of these two humans. And in case no one has told you, you are doing great and I love you. May your marriage and your love healthy, strong and long. I love you❤❤
Wow😂. So raw
It was so special to see Chris bearing his soul ❤. Thank you. I have been married for 40 years. My hubby gives me flowers every Friday. He knows how much I love flowers. I love the boat analogy. We have been on the rocks many times 🎉
It's early Sunday morning and I'm ion bed with all my pets and I find myself watching this beautiful, loving, profound talk with you and Chris. The second he mentioned flower and choked back tears, I was right there with him. Tears. This is so touching and honest. My boat sank and thank goodness I was wearing a life jacket. I just had to tell you both, Thank you.
You are a very courageous couple. The willingness to have this conversation in front of viewers only proves how devoted you both actually are to the relationship. I think Chris is remarkable to do this for you & your show. It in turn helps us believe we all can do this in our own relationships. Obviously, you have been through the worst of it & deserve to live in peace & grace for the rest of your lives.
Live with passion, sleep in peace.
By far one of the best podcasts you had Mel. Thank you for inviting the World to your very private conversation with Christopher Robbins❤👏
My intake:
There is profound beauty in a relationship that weathers storms, endures trials, and yet remains steadfast-a testament to the strength of love, the resilience of connection, and the unyielding commitment to stand together against all odds."
I’m married 30years next July. Thank you for sharing this with me. How
Special you spoke truthfully with each other in front of us. It was wonderful to hear and reflect on my relationship with my spouse.
It is so beautiful that you are both open to have honest desire to share your feelings and thoughts, thank you for the opportunity to listen. My dear husband passed away less than a year ago, and your conversation reminded me of so many things which I could not speak with him about but would have wished to. I cried throughout this episode, for the things I have not done too well, or I am not proud of and could never explain to him how I felt and why.
Your Dads analogy about the boat and your deep honesty has opened up something in me I can’t explain. I listened to your episode with Steven Bartlett about a month ago where you mention the Yes Theory and not to sound dramatic but it changed my life - I’ve been in therapy for 18 months for a range of trauma and I truly feel that episode brought all of my therapy together in a way I haven’t understood before just when I thought it wasn’t working, I’ve been obsessed with your podcast since.
I’ve realised that I’ve been so out of the boat my whole life and I genuinely feel I will take every point from this podcast and intently use it to improve my own relationship. Thank you so much to you both for being so open and honest and letting us into the intimacy between you both, it really does give another level of understanding to a commitment of a relationship.
❤ Wow Mel. This was powerful. How vulnerable and honest you and Chris were. So loving. I’m a 50-ish year old widow and hope to find a love like I had one day again. I wish I could have had some of your advice when he was still here. Next time, if I’m so lucky, I’ll have more tools in my box. If not, I’m lucky to have rowed in the boat of true love at least once. Thank you for all you do to help keep the wind in my sails of life whenever I need it. Huge hugs from me to you. Thank you. You bring joy to my life almost every day. You make a positive contribution to my happiness, or the pursuit of finding it again.
Sending you so much love and strength!
Love this format! So moving
The hand on your shoulder look into your eyes trick...I feel like it helps ground you and bring you back to a shared reality.
Mel! You lovingly touched Chris, when he was being emotional, throughout the whole podcast. You both have the biggest hearts 💕
This video really touches my heart! Thank you for sharing this deep vulnerable conversation ❤I learn a lot here from you!
This was SO wonderful to listen to, and I'm not even in a relationship. Has barely had some as I've gone through most of my life as a loner - and now I'm in my late seventies. But I love listening to authentic people having an honest talk. And this was BEAUTIFUL. Thank you to both of you. And there is no doubt in my mind that your next 30 years together will be wonderful - even if the world goes crazy
What a beautiful encounter you had together and letting us know that we are not alone in this world. Praying for you two be together for many more years to come.
Wow, wow, wow. Extraordinary episode. No words. Simply THANK YOU BOTH.
I love how vulnerable Mel and Chris are during this show. You guys are inspiring and amazing ! Congratulations on 30 years and counting.
Mel, you helped me through a very hard time in my life, I divorced my husband last year. Not because I didn’t love him, but because he suffers from mental illness causing him to be verbally abusive towards me, hoarding, spending money with a plan, taking drugs and alcohol… it was all too much and I knew it would destroy if I kept him in my life. He would not seek help for his addictions and emotional problems, blaming everyone around him, especially me. So you can understand how listening to this podcast episode made me sad. Sad that I could not stay in the boat and instead had to jump ship and leave him on his own… which he then spiralled into a psychosis. My daughters no longer have a dad, I no longer have a husband. This episode made me feel guilty. I think it’s because we just don’t have the mental health resources we need still. Thx for listening.
I ran across your comment and just needed to let you know something. Consider that you might have just been on the wrong boat! I relate very much to what you've expressed. I left my husband almost 10 years ago for many of the same reasons you listed. He also spiraled and then put himself through even more hell after I left. But the choices he was making back then was like being determined to take a little leaky row boat out in the middle of the ocean during the storm of the century; it has holes in it and is falling apart because it isn't healthy, and it's destined to sink. Now is the time for therapy and healing for you and your daughters. I hope your ex-husband finds his way somehow too. But go easy on yourself for jumping off of a sinking boat in a storm. You did what you needed to do for you and your daughters' best interests and health. This will also help them make good choices with men in their futures and not stay on a sinking boat just trying to learn how to breathe under water. Best wishes to you and your family.
You were in the boat by yourself trying to navigate the storm alone. Speaking from personal experience, you did the right thing for you and your children. I promise, one day you'll look back and see it very clearly. 💜
Please watch Mel's interview with Oprah. You will see that you did the right thing. Give yourself grace and time, and it will become clear.
Thank you Mel and Chris for one of the most beautiful, honest, raw and loving episodes!! ❤️
Greetings from Australia - What a beautiful heartfelt raw and honest podcast with your husband Chris. I loved what Chris said about staying to the END! This would mean a lot to me. And the flowers I got all teary because flowers mean so much to me. I have a few wishes I rather not say - but feel sad because I love LOVE, I love to feel loved and to be heard and not only that its weathering all storms in life. I read through the comments. I want to send a HUG out to everyone. Life is too short to keep on arguing and resent each other. We are all here to LOVE and ENJOY Life 💗💗
Mel and Chris, I am so inspired to make better choices. I'm single but am hopeful that l'll find my rock. ❤
Oh my goodness!! This was absolutely pure gold and so truly beautiful. I think your relationship is so much like so many others of ours and it gives so much hope. And it is such a wonderful reminder to us… keep the one you love in mind… get in the freaking boat. I haven’t gotten all the way through, but I’m currently trying to decide what my husband’s “flowers” are. Because we all have that thing. And it takes thought and effort. And just because I’m doing important things doesn’t mean I’m doing the thing that makes HIM feel loved and appreciated and IMPORTANT. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing so generously about the challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve grown individually and together. I often feel like the nitty gritty of how real life changes and success gets washed over because the ‘before’ and ‘after’ seem so much more exciting. Breaking down so many phases and dynamics in your relationship showed me a map, a trajectory of what’s possible with genuine commitment and honesty to each other. You’ve done some amazing podcasts and talked with incredible people, Mel. But this sweet chat with your partner gave me tools and insights I’ve never accessed before. I came in trusting you two and, because of your generosity, left with personal assignments and things to explore that feel more grounding and hopeful than I’ve felt in a really long time. Thank you both so much.
Thank you both for your vulnerability and honesty. With marriage, we are sold a romantic fairytale of what marriage should be. The truth is that loving each other over the course of a lifetime takes intention and effort and nurturing. Thank you for your willingness to be raw and to share your own experience.
That was so amazing to see, I especially enjoyed Chris' perspective. I have been married 31 years and these are such good tips.
WOW. How powerful so much truth and honesty and transparency. That is extremely encouraging to see in action that’s what it’s all about. You can stop this video after a minute and a half and get so much value. Thank you very much for being there for us, and demonstrating how relationship works because most of us don’t have a clue, we weren’t raised with healthy role models so we went through life winging it and most of the time getting it wrong
Oh Wow! What a beautiful brave conversation! Mel you are so so lucky as indeed is Chris that you can both be so loving, honest & emotional together. It's such a gift & a Joy to behold. I haven't been so fortunate in my relationship, married 19 years divorced 32. I have never experienced that intimacy & Love but I can rejoice in its possibility. May you have many more long & happy years together ❤
It’s so beautiful to see your genuine love & respect for each other. Allowing each other your voice and respectfully hearing one another.
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What a great man!What a great woman !Thank you Mel and Christopher, for sharing this conversation .Greatly appreciated!
Come on Mel! The guy showed up with the most original and funny costume that dinner during the pandemic, the one you all shared about one family episode… He definitely is the (silent) life of the party!! What an inspiring episode!! Thank you
Would love to hear more from Chris. My son is very similar to him. He is a stay at home husband and I see him struggling with the same issues. I applaud men who hold up their tornado wives. They are just as much of a force as their wives.
Beyond - what a beautiful interview. Together with my husband for 30 years and every bit of this resonates. Thank you for this❤
I could listen to you together like this for days and days. Please do this frequently with us ❤ this episode was AWESOME! 🤩
Here I am crying my heart out....and wishing that Ive had this type of conversation with my ex husbands. Im forwarding this to my married children. Thanks U2....you are an awesome couple
Both are so in love. The way they look at eachother. Beautifull how Mel appreciated the things like she could sleep longer, not play golf not skiing. Which would be a huge issue in most of the relationships. And how Chris has such huge soul what makes him a big man, besides other that only value material stuff. Beautiful conversation. Definitely should listen to it again when I will be in a relationship, as I am single for a while and miss exactly those values on most of the people I met in the past. Many are just looking for superficial qualities. The metaphor with the boat describes exactly what I miss and wish. But in the past one would jump out of the boat just because of a rain or foggy weather 😅
And by the way, I think the boat itself is built by both together 🙏
Love this so much!!!! It’s so beautiful and real!!! Thank you Both so much for sharing your inner thoughts about one another. It shows that we all
need to find time to connect
with one another in this busy
world we live in. Love the boat analogy. Thank you so much. I Love you Mel and I thank you both for all you did. You both are amazing!!!🙏🏻🙌🏻🥰🥳
I really loved this. Having been married for now 26 years, I felt every moment of this episode. ❤thank you
This was so true, we perceive that we've done our best from OUR perspective and yet it's not what the other person wants/needs/appreciates. I also wish I could go back and do 'better'.
Thank you so much Mel for sharing this personal and genuine love story. And thank you to your husband for showing up and participating in this podcast. So real. Lots of key nuggets of information people can take away from this ❤️
36:50 this!!! This whole thing is just amazing. Thank you both for sharing this so openly and frankly,
I am blessed with my own “Chris” called Marko ❤ now 40 years together. Married my best friend and my soulmate for life 🎉 thank you both for this episode 😊