not one person has ever shown me love without pain. it seems like some of us are meant to suffer the heartlessness from others! most other people are just looking to use others
@@BiffJohnsonIII Long story. Short story…I had a child with multiple, physical disabilities, but highly intelligent & it was just too hard for them. 😢. Hope your life is going smoothly. 😊
I would rather be alone with no family than alone with estranged family (which is what I have now). Realizing you weren't as close as you thought were is a devastating betrayal. Sending love and light to all who relate.
My family is important to me, but seems like I am only important to them when they want money. I basically see them 2x a year. I would like it to be different, but don’t think it will change. They are too busy to see me .
I guess the algorithm is doing well. I’ve never shared this but this video made me. I am 58. In 2012 I had back and neck surgery followed by a motorcycle accident that would change my life. During recovery my mom was put in a home for dementia by my dad so I left the south and came north to spend from 2014 to 20 visiting and being with my mom until she passed. Week before that dad was diagnosed with lung cancer. I would stay to take care of him. I found out he was not my biological father although that did not bother me it seemed to be a problem for the rest of the family. No one ever showed up or helped. Nothing. When dad passed I never heard from anyone again and all my parents belongings were left for garbage. Since has been extremely traumatic and my mental shortcomings stood out like a sore thumb all the sudden. I lost everything and everyone. I love these videos as they help but life will never be the same for me although I am getting used to being alone slowly but I am not ok. Thanks for listening.
the only thing i need now is health and or wealth. health would allow me to do the things i need to do. wealth would allow me to hire up people to do those things.
I feel ya 💜 I'm 60 and I've grown a bit. It gets better but it's hard. I'm just really grateful for each step I can make. Hope you get ok soon. Each day may bring a sweet surprise you never know for sure.
I don’t know what to say after reading that. I thought I was good to my Parents but are an exceptionally kind Son and you deserve a break for all your love and Kindness. I hope life improves for you 😊
That's why funeral parlors are the ideal place to bump into relatives you don't care for, and haven't seen in a long time. You walk in, sign the book, say how great Uncle Albert looks laying there, and goodbye.
Phil, just look after Number 1 to hell with that family of yours..Lots of us out here, so you're not alone.Spend your money on yourself and your time.Let them all run along.Goals is a great focus.You take good care..❤
Spent my life believing family is everything, raising my 3 boys on my own. Making memories, family traditions, gatherings. Supporting my kids well into their 30s, rent free etc (my bad)and in the process not saving anything for myself. Now lost it all by being ejected by psychotic daughter in law. Unable to cope and accept that I have to move on and start a new life without my grandkids and my son who will not stand up for me. Its been a year ago today. I too have a bunch of family I will probably never hear from again.
It's more important that the people I spend time with treat me with the same respect and consideration, that I do them. Family, friends, aquaintences, I now measure people by the quality of their character NOW, not how long they have managed to hang around.
Hi Phil,I also tried to reach out to distant family on Facebook and they don't reciprocate.People are just not interested in socializing. Very strange. So many people complain they are lonely but don't reach out.
I had to cut ties with my siblings. I refuse to put up with any further egregious treatment from them. They treated me quite badly for years. I never stopped loving them, however . Family is and has always been very important to me.
This is a difficult question because it's very different for each person. Family dynamics are often very complicated and people don't love other people just because they have a certain title or relation to you. Ideally we'd all love to be very close with siblings and parents where you enjoy their company and they have been supportive of you in life. But that isn't the case for many people. For many people it's a mixed bag like with any other relationships in your life. The holidays are usually when people are forced to reflect on these relationships.
lol that is too funny because same for me but i've never heard anyone else say it!! :) Who cares...probably some distant realtive with money will step in. If not the government throws us into a heap so we'll never be alone? :)
Same here..I am more worried about my Cats, "Who are my Only Family" I still wear a mask every where I go as to never get sick..I have to out live them...Because I know they would end up in a shelter..😢
Hi Phil… New subscriber here … my parents used to have a summer house up in West Ossipee New Hampshire right on. Route 16… Beautiful area!… I am here in New Jersey… yes, all we can do is simply do the best we can… if people want to connect that’s great if not that’s ok too. Keep up the good programming sir!
Just found another utube channel yesterday talking about how it is better to NOT visit family & friends as much as we get older, esp during holidays. Watching u lament or at least justify 1st cousins absence makes me reflect on my family dynamics, which, is better in that my Uncle's passing of Covid brought us closer. I met my nephew for the 1st time and we all get together now & then. Just don't talk about politics, jeezus❤
we seem to be shifting away from the family as the basic unit of our society. At the same time we are seeing the demise of the middle class. This is not a coincidence. Who seem to be the beneficiaries of such a shift?
My family and the inlaws are so green with envy that all they do is try to knock me and the wife down to their level. The more we brush it off the worse they get
You put yourself out there and they had an opportunity. People are saying get some videos outside. NH has some nice parks and maybe show them sometime. White Mountains were nice when i lived there.
Less important, sadly. When you’re the only one trying to hold everybody else together, it gets exhausting. I want to make my last decade of life meaningful and enjoyable.
I feel the same way, tired of trying to fix everyone's problems. It is exhausting! So many new fights have cropped up over the last several years. I like staying away from it all as much as possible. Life is getting short at over 60 years old! I love peace and quiet!!
I think if you had children your notion of family is with your children and you lose sight of the rest of the family. The rest of the family notices that they’re being ignored and gives up…
It depends on how noxious or how pleasant they are. I don't need or have to stay in touch with unpleasant nieces. Life is better without them. Being fb friends is fine if they're okay it's better than no contact.
Hey, Phil. I thought you said you don't drink. You don't drink all that wine, or doesn't wine count as drinking? Just asking because I drink wine and when the doc asks if I drink, I say no.
Family is very important to me now that I'm pushing 60.....but the harsh reality is, when you're gay and voted for Kamala and your family is all hetero and republican, and they don't even invite you for Thanksgiving, then the hell with "family".
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Nothing is important to you when you are getting old except food and good bowel movement. Nothing is perhaps poetic exaggeration, but intensity of feelings, concerns and emotions naturally declines, your neural networks get old and don't fire up as they used to.
@littleredrose6254 No they are not. They are just called nephews and nieces. The children of the nephews and nieces are called great nephew and great nieces.
Family is anyone who shows you love. My family is cold and heartless. Life does go on.
@@1fatcat65 so true
not one person has ever shown me love without pain. it seems like some of us are meant to suffer the heartlessness from others! most other people are just looking to use others
What family I have left are important to me but I am not important to them.
@@bradlybradshaw5972 same here it’s sad
my family only cares about the use they can get out of me.
Become rich and famous and you’ll have friends and family coming out of the woodwork.
Recently broke all ties with family. They broke my heart. 💔
Oh that's too bad
Been 10 years for me but they broke more than my heart.
My family had broken me in many ways. I am slowly but surely getting stronger. It is a grieving process. A LONG process.
@@stoneneils what happened?
@@BiffJohnsonIII Long story. Short story…I had a child with multiple, physical disabilities, but highly intelligent & it was just too hard for them. 😢. Hope your life is going smoothly. 😊
Just reading some comments and listening makes me feel im socializing. I can definitely relate to a lot of it more than family.
I would rather be alone with no family than alone with estranged family (which is what I have now). Realizing you weren't as close as you thought were is a devastating betrayal. Sending love and light to all who relate.
I totally understand. Same situation here.
@@PamelaKaisner-wf5bx Really sorry you relate. It's definitely a unique pain.
You're too hot to have any problems.💋
You didn't know.....
Same here. Very tough. Kids alienated following divorce for 8 years and counting
The older I get, the more important family is to me. Unfortunately, the family doesn't think the same way about me and rarely ever thinks of me.
My family is important to me, but seems like I am only important to them when they want money. I basically see them 2x a year. I would like it to be different, but don’t think it will change. They are too busy to see me .
I guess the algorithm is doing well. I’ve never shared this but this video made me. I am 58. In 2012 I had back and neck surgery followed by a motorcycle accident that would change my life. During recovery my mom was put in a home for dementia by my dad so I left the south and came north to spend from 2014 to 20 visiting and being with my mom until she passed. Week before that dad was diagnosed with lung cancer. I would stay to take care of him. I found out he was not my biological father although that did not bother me it seemed to be a problem for the rest of the family. No one ever showed up or helped. Nothing. When dad passed I never heard from anyone again and all my parents belongings were left for garbage. Since has been extremely traumatic and my mental shortcomings stood out like a sore thumb all the sudden. I lost everything and everyone.
I love these videos as they help but life will never be the same for me although I am getting used to being alone slowly but I am not ok.
Thanks for listening.
@@Steve-Skinner talking about it seems to help for me thanks for watching
@@Steve-Skinner talking about it seems to help
the only thing i need now is health and or wealth. health would allow me to do the things i need to do. wealth would allow me to hire up people to do those things.
I feel ya 💜 I'm 60 and I've grown a bit. It gets better but it's hard. I'm just really grateful for each step I can make. Hope you get ok soon. Each day may bring a sweet surprise you never know for sure.
I don’t know what to say after reading that. I thought I was good to my Parents but are an exceptionally kind Son and you deserve a break for all your love and Kindness. I hope life improves for you 😊
You’re not alone we’re all in this together
That's why funeral parlors are the ideal place to bump into relatives you don't care for, and haven't seen in a long time. You walk in, sign the book, say how great Uncle Albert looks laying there, and goodbye.
Great Video Phil!
Phil, just look after Number 1 to hell with that family of yours..Lots of us out here, so you're not alone.Spend your money on yourself and your time.Let them all run along.Goals is a great focus.You take good care..❤
Spent my life believing family is everything, raising my 3 boys on my own. Making memories, family traditions, gatherings. Supporting my kids well into their 30s, rent free etc (my bad)and in the process not saving anything for myself. Now lost it all by being ejected by psychotic daughter in law. Unable to cope and accept that I have to move on and start a new life without my grandkids and my son who will not stand up for me. Its been a year ago today. I too have a bunch of family I will probably never hear from again.
My spouse and kids is important to me.
The others not so much.
Protect your solitude at all costs…
You're very easy man to like Phil. I like you from the beginning of watching your pod cast. I wish you safety, peace and contentment.
It's more important that the people I spend time with treat me with the same respect and consideration, that I do them. Family, friends, aquaintences, I now measure people by the quality of their character NOW, not how long they have managed to hang around.
Hi Phil,I also tried to reach out to distant family on Facebook and they don't reciprocate.People are just not interested in socializing. Very strange. So many people complain they are lonely but don't reach out.
I had to cut ties with my siblings. I refuse to put up with any further egregious treatment from them. They treated me quite badly for years. I never stopped loving them, however . Family is and has always been very important to me.
This is a difficult question because it's very different for each person. Family dynamics are often very complicated and people don't love other people just because they have a certain title or relation to you. Ideally we'd all love to be very close with siblings and parents where you enjoy their company and they have been supportive of you in life. But that isn't the case for many people. For many people it's a mixed bag like with any other relationships in your life.
The holidays are usually when people are forced to reflect on these relationships.
I don't even know who will bury me when I'm gone!
lol that is too funny because same for me but i've never heard anyone else say it!! :) Who cares...probably some distant realtive with money will step in. If not the government throws us into a heap so we'll never be alone? :)
You could donate your body to science. That's my plan since my 2 children are @ odds.
Won’t be your problem
Thank you for the hint!@@denisewehling649
Same here..I am more worried about my Cats, "Who are my Only Family" I still wear a mask every where I go as to never get sick..I have to out live them...Because I know they would end up in a shelter..😢
Have a great day to you too.
Another good one ☝️
This guy is a piece of work
Not important. Haven't seen them in years. It was a toxic relationship with them. Life is much better without them.
Hi Phil… New subscriber here … my parents used to have a summer house up in West Ossipee New Hampshire right on. Route 16… Beautiful area!… I am here in New Jersey… yes, all we can do is simply do the best we can… if people want to connect that’s great if not that’s ok too. Keep up the good programming sir!
@@thomaschicino7257 thanks for joining the community
Just found another utube channel yesterday talking about how it is better to NOT visit family & friends as much as we get older, esp during holidays. Watching u lament or at least justify 1st cousins absence makes me reflect on my family dynamics, which, is better in that my Uncle's passing of Covid brought us closer. I met my nephew for the 1st time and we all get together now & then.
Just don't talk about politics, jeezus❤
we seem to be shifting away from the family as the basic unit of our society. At the same time we are seeing the demise of the middle class. This is not a coincidence. Who seem to be the beneficiaries of such a shift?
My family and the inlaws are so green with envy that all they do is try to knock me and the wife down to their level. The more we brush it off the worse they get
Isn't it sad how family can become so toxic!
Very important.
We have a simple family. We can have our family reunion in the back of a Volkswagen. 😅
Raised by wolves and thankful to create a wonderful family.
@@melvano4014 kool
You put yourself out there and they had an opportunity. People are saying get some videos outside. NH has some nice parks and maybe show them sometime. White Mountains were nice when i lived there.
Less important, sadly. When you’re the only one trying to hold everybody else together, it gets exhausting. I want to make my last decade of life meaningful and enjoyable.
Smart phones killed social skills
I feel the same way, tired of trying to fix everyone's problems. It is exhausting! So many new fights have cropped up over the last several years. I like staying away from it all as much as possible. Life is getting short at over 60 years old! I love peace and quiet!!
What family…
I think if you had children your notion of family is with your children and you lose sight of the rest of the family. The rest of the family notices that they’re being ignored and gives up…
Phil, please do a walk and talk outside.
@@zhugeliang3905 I try putting something together. Thanks
I'm considered less than the dog as a person. So I'm not important unless money was involved.
Collect? As I get older less value to collectibles
I wonder what your childhood and parents were like? How much do you remember?
@@ellenherman9543 a lot it was awesome
Principles of life are not static truths
It depends on how noxious or how pleasant they are. I don't need or have to stay in touch with unpleasant nieces. Life is better without them.
Being fb friends is fine if they're okay it's better than no contact.
If you don’t have family you don’t have anything. Only because they are family
Hey i've been riding my bikes out at nearby lake for over 20 years. Us Gen X rock, even if we are fat & fugly😂
Hey, Phil. I thought you said you don't drink. You don't drink all that wine, or doesn't wine count as drinking? Just asking because I drink wine and when the doc asks if I drink, I say no.
Good answer. Looks like a sheet he hangs up just honoring his Italian heritage…??? I think.
@@vzxvz9929 it’s not real
@@Philipbuono77 Thanks Phil.
@@Leann-uj9rg Boy do I feel dumb. Should have looked closer, and no, I wasn't drinling wine.
Family is very important to me now that I'm pushing 60.....but the harsh reality is, when you're gay and voted for Kamala and your family is all hetero and republican, and they don't even invite you for Thanksgiving, then the hell with "family".
I dont even know what to say. Come to Canada sometime
He should come here..he feels Canadain to me. He'll find a woman and get healthcare as a bonus. :)
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Do you deal with any depression or anxiety issues.
@@ellenherman9543 no
Nothing is important to you when you are getting old except food and good bowel movement. Nothing is perhaps poetic exaggeration, but intensity of feelings, concerns and emotions naturally declines, your neural networks get old and don't fire up as they used to.
Phil, you need a good friend in your life - a woman - but as Friends only!
Phil has an anti-women channel.
Take a tiny review of family get together
Come on seriously why do we do it
Not at all.
The children of your siblings are called great nephews and nieces.
@@littleredrose6254 thank you
@littleredrose6254 No they are not. They are just called nephews and nieces. The children of the nephews and nieces are called great nephew and great nieces.
@@theveganmenu8571 Correct.