The secret to changing negative self-talk by renewing your mindset | Bruce Pulver | TEDxFlowerMound
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- How is your self-talk? Bruce is obsessed with words. After he was downsized in his career, Bruce had to change his mindset to navigate a new path. Bruce shares why the words you use matter and how changing your words can change your mindset. Bruce teaches how to alter your self-talk and be intentional with your words.TEDx is about ideas worth spreading. TEDx is a program of local events designed to bring people together to share a TED-like experience. Just like a TED event, the TEDx event is focused on bringing in live speakers to spark deep conversations and connections in a smaller group. Author/Speaker This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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“Do hard things. If you do hard things, hard things become easier to do.”
Damn, that was good.
Hello Mario. Thank you. I have found this statement to be so true in my life. Trying each day to make my comfort zone being comfortable not having one.
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Great quote to add on to it “it’s not the the nature of the task itself gets easier but our ability to do increases”
Wow! Wow! Wow! I needed this right now! I’ve been grieving the recent loss of my mother. She passed in April. Since her death, my battery has been low. Your carefully selected words have helped to recharged me. Your message has inspired me. I’m writing these words and will read them until I commit them to memory. I will use this as a compass to get back to enjoying my life. Thank you for sharing this message with the world. Words make a difference!
Thank you very much. These words are all contained in my book "Above the Chatter, Our Words Matter". I am so grateful for your kind words and so honored that these words I used during my talk have helped you.
Just like you drove your car the other day looking for a terrific day as you wrote, I opened TH-cam looking for energy to recharge my battery and pull me out of my depression ... I listened to your life changing speech.... can never thank you enough.
@@amalbahr4175 Thank you Amal. Our words really have in impact on the direction of our thoughts (positive or negative). We can choose which habits we want to develop and how our we choose our words, especially during challenging times. Thank you for your warm comments
How are things now
I'm the opposite Bruce. I became very negative and my attitude. Catastrophes started happening in my life,.. and more my negative attitude grew. I only had my great career job left... then my attitude created a foolish mistake and I lost my dream job of 20yrs. .... I tried SO hard to return.! I was given wrong information that prevented my ability to return and in lost it. I had blame, hate, regret, grief etc.... which made my situation worse. My mental and physical health declined. I have Chronic Stress, Anxiety, insomnia, and depression. My words were extremely bitter, and daily cursed myself and everyone who gave me wrong information. My situation is very serious now.... I've had many S.I. days and talked with professional counseling. Yet, still unable to accept and let it go. I started listening to podcasts like this...Im realizing, how my own negative thoughts and words, prophesied my demise. I'm totally devastated and alone. I'm just starting to think... it maybe possible, if I can somehow discipline my mind to think of positivity, aimist the tsunami of negativity that resides in my mind. It really is is a sliver of possibility. If I can just find a way, a daily formula.
It might save my life. ⛓️🙏
Your daily formula starts with going to the gym. Working out. Strength training.high nutrition. Being unconditional in your kindness to yourself and others. You have power . Go do this x
@alanamurray422 Wow,. Thanks alanamurray🙌 extremely great words. And formula.
I'm so at a loss, knowing my career job is over. I want my life back the way it was.... my future was with my job, I never wanted it to end. I loved the atmosphere, the coworkers and friends. I just loved my life so much because I had that job. The anxiety and depression I have now, is so debilitating. I barely can get up to brush my teeth. I'm in such bad shape now.
I wish I could forgive myself .
Unconditional kindness to myself?
Wow,... that is difficult. I feel so upset with myself, and the guilt, regret and shame. I did many more foolish mistakes prior to loosing my job. I had quit my favorite sport, because of my bad attitude I somehow got, then I didn't visit my grandma before she passed. She had been asking to see me , and I put it off. I had invested in a stock, and it skyrocketed from $10,000 investment to $779,000!!!. It was a dream come true. My son was saying "Dad", that's the house you always wanted!!! ... I said, I know..!! I'm going to wait till it goes higher...
The Co. Failed to submit paperwork? to the exchange?.. and it was suspended and crashed. Then, I made the foolish mistake.. and lost my job.
The Stress was SO bad for me.. it caused insomnia and anxiety. I was falling apart mentally.... I couldn't believe how disrupted my whole life became... I just spiraled into depression. I didn't know what depression really was, until it happened to me. It really is a illness. I feel apathy, and loss of interests...and no pleasure.
I really would like to somehow genuinely forgive myself, and start working out again, and working on my vw again, and calling up friends again, and going outside, being happy again!!!!!
But,.. im so down on my life now, I hate what's happened to me...
And the Anxiety, insomnia, and depression added to my losses... makes my existence horrible.
I do like your formula! Though.
Thanks so much for caring about me.... I really appreciate you 🙌
You can change the past. You must let it go So you can be present. Take it one day at a time. Make small changes to change What you shared here share to a friend. Don’t isolate yourself. Reach out to friends and find counseling. I began a recovery program for people pleasing that has helps me immensely and brought awareness to how hard I am on myself. My mind is my worst enemy. That is what I am now focusing on. Faith & friends (mostly new - since enlisted my self plus didn’t bother to make any when we moved 4 years ago) has carried me through this very difficult time. 🙏 for you and your courage to embrace life again and be joyful for each day you are given. There’s a book Making Peach with your Past. It may help you. 💖 & 🙏
"Positivity can find a solution in every problem."
Indeed I believe it 100%. Thank you for your comment AmINotMerciful4
That's toxic positivity.
No matter what job, which industry or what area of your life you are in now, Bruce's TEDx talk is worth listening to until the end! Words matter: Bruce added emotion to the letters and by simply changing the letters he is changing negative to positive and inspiring. Thank you, Bruce, I'm buying your book next and then I'll spread the word for others to hear you!
Thank you Cokkie for your wonderful, warm and positive comments and for taking the time to write them. I am grateful. Thank you for spreading the word!
I'm so thankful for Ted Talks! The speakers r like the parents I always wanted. The wisdom, the insight, & the love that they all bring is wonderful. For the first time in years I'm hopeful, I feel good. Thank you so much for sharing such valuable lessons.
Blaise thank you for your comments. I agree the wisdom that can be obtained from Ted Talks is amazing. I feel so honored for the opportunity to share my life experience and the impact of the power of our words on ourselves and with others.
Love! Words change lives and save lives. Sometime's we have to use those words instead of waiting for someone else to give them to us. We can change our own lives.
Thank you Tiarra - Our Words Matter. Those we use with others and equally important, those we use with ourselves!
I try to encourage those that complain to me about another to see the other with compassion and empathy. "Take another tact. Maybe it's the best another can do at that moment."
Yes, Debra. We never know the depths from which another persons perspective, situation, thoughts, feelings and actions are coming. Sometimes just being there and being SILENT to LISTEN is the solution for the moment. Isn't it cool that SILENT and LISTEN have the same letters just rearranged?
ONE OF THE BEST MOTIVATING SPEECHES I HAVE EVER HEARD. SO CLEAN AND PRACTICAL
Thank you K. I sincerely appreciate your kind comments.
I agree and it's probably the first time my mind didn't drift during a speech. I was totally inspired. Thank you.
Clean?
Continue blessing the world in your mission
Thank you @rolettethomasjr.285. I appreciate your encouragement.
Powerful. Thank you for sharing Bruce!
Paul, Such a pleasure meeting you this week. Let's keep growing! Grateful to have met you
Thank you, Bruce! I’m going to work on my words.
One word at a time will add up to a major change.
Thanks for this Bruce! throughout this Pandemic times were tough and I realized that the words I say and use can inevitably affect the outcome of my success. Appreciate this talk!
Jaspreet. Thank you for such kind words. Yes. our words and our mindset have such a massive impact on our outcomes. Stay strong!!!
Wow. Very inspiring and the way he talked so calmy made it more impactful. Each words uttered mattered and always in a positive light. I thoroughly enjoyed this talk. He deserves more views!
Jasmin. Thank you for your warm and kind words. I sincerely appreciate you making the time to comment. Our words do matter and yours made an impact on me.
Imagine starting your day with this inspirational speech ❤
Thank you Adam. I appreciate your comment! Our Words Matter.
I love your message, mindset and the way you shared shifting our thinking! Thank you for a great talk!
Thank you Jenny. Shifting my Thinking has changed everything for me.
Thank you Bruce..Words can put someone down or life them up..So be mindful about what words you use when you speak to yourself as well as others
Thank you Malay. I appreciate you making the time to post your comments. You are so correct a single word can change a life.
Bruce, thank you for an inspiring lesson. It's very much needed for so many of us. I'm looking forward to reading your book too!
Thank you Beth. I appreciate your comment. I am so grateful this talk is helping others.
A great story and a great message! How amazing that the vision of the power of words came when you needed it. Thank you for sharing what you have learned!
Exactly when I needed it. Life often can work that way if we let it, Right?
yes indeed, the words and the thoughts matter a heck of a lot
Sow AG. Yes indeed. Especially those we speak to ourselves.
Definitely going to try live an inspired life, great video. Thank you so much
Hello Rhyan: Hope your are making great progress. Thank you for your comment!
The character names his dad wrote were GENIUS I'd love to read his work
Thank you Igor.
Thnaks ! This is just what I needed to hear, it's one of the best speech.
Antonella, I am grateful my words have made an impact. Have a GREAT day and work to find and life your INSPIRED life.
This was a timely reminder. Thank you
We all need reminders from time to time!
Thank you.
I needed to hear all of these words.
Thank you Susan. I am grateful this message reached you. Our Words do Matter. Please take whatever nugget encourages and supports your walk!
Positive talks ,thoughts is very powerful ,impactful and inspiring, it influence the way behave ,act and perform in our daily lives and tasks.
Jamal: Thank you for making time and effort to post your comment about positive talks and thoughts! Stay Strong and Inspired!
I’m very happy to see the talk. I lost my job one month ago and was at the same state and I also put on my phone screen saver and wallpaper I am strong and I can do it. I’m really surprised to see that the speaker has also chosen these two. What a coincidence.I definitely understand the power of the words that we are talking to us and the images we create in our minds are powerful.
Alexander. I don't believe in coincidences. I am grateful you have found your words STRONG and I CAN DO IT to help you stay positive. Thank you for your kind words
Thank you.
Great great talk. Gratitude n positive mindset will definitely help you reach your dreams. Very inspiring. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
Arline. THANK YOU.May all your dreams come true as well.
Fantastic...Thank you so much for the power of positive wording....awesome speaker👏🙌🏾
Thank you Patty. I appreciate your kind comment!
One of the best if not the best TEDX Talk. Thank you so much for this Bruce. You are amazing!
That was a quite a clever, constructive tool! It applies creativity to really change perspective. Thank you!
Thank you I am grateful my message found you and you were kind to leave your comments.
The best speech I have ever heard !
Love the connections and fluidity of ideas. I'm working on being the same type of speaker. Not only the delivery, but the message is awesome 🎯
Jazz Head. Thank you and I appreciate you making time to comment. Please take what works for you from this message and PLEASE also, find and be your AUTHENTIC voice for yours. Grateful for the opportunity to share this message. Stay STRONG!
What an underrated piece of talk, these are really insightful! Mindset and how you interpret and approach something determines how you will walk the path.
Thank you so very much for your comments and for watching this talk. I sincerely appreciate you making the time to share your thoughts.
huge from you Bruce. Life changing thank you
B K. THANK YOU. this whole experience transformed my life. Our Words DO Matter!
Good Job Bruce!! I now have YES on my desk!!
You Expect Success
thank you. just what i needed to hear
Thank you Emily. Please share this to your community !
Thank you Bruce for such an inspiring talk
Ramadeep. Thank you. Please have an INSPIRED day today and everyday!!!
Excelllent talk. Much needed and feel revived with hope again. Deep gratitude 🙏
Lula, Thank you. I am so grateful my talk met a need for you! I am grateful!
Watching this video was the best way to start my day!!
Hello Flo. Thank you for your wonderful comment. I am grateful the video found you and had an impact. Have a great day.
Thank you thank you thank you!!!
HuDa. You are Welcome, You are Welcome, You are Welcome!
I loved the ending INSPIRED message!
Thank you Christina!
Your words definitely..inspired!
Tu, Thank you I am glad you are inspired. Stay at it and stay focused on your words.
It was really one of the best TED talks which I watched.👌
Thank you for watching AND commenting Majid. I appreciate your kind WORDS!
Third or Fourth time listening to This TedX Talks Words are powerful !!!!
Thank you Bill. I am so grateful that this talk resonates with you
this is one of the best ted talks i have ever heard.
Thank you Asad. I am grateful for your comments.
Really needed this today. Thank you
Hello @wacky2backy, I am grateful if my talk reached you in some way yesterday. Thank you for your comment!
One of the best TED Talks I watched. Amazing play with words.
Thank you Milos; I appreciate your kind words. Sincerely!
Your words matter! Loved it 🔥
Thank You Carlos. I appreciate your kind words. Yes Words are SO important to our Mindset and ultimately our outcomes.
Thank you...
Thank you for watching Ken!
I am a silent listener He don't know the strong impact of his words to my soul very inspiration it goes through my bones as I repeatedly silently listening to this inspirational speech
Thank you consro ma! I am honored that my words have impacted you AND that you took the time to post your comment! I am grateful. Stay strong (even if silent)
Just what I needed to hear at the moment. It inspired me to the core. Thanks a million times
thank you ishara!. I am grateful the message impacted you! Stay strong!
@@brucepulver you are humble enough to reply all the people. That's really nice
Fantastic. Working on putting into action.
Thank you Janet! Keep going. You have all it talks already inside you!
Spirit guides guiding you through your words. It is in hard times that we listen.
Thank you Sandy. I appreciate you watching and commenting. Yes these words were definitely handed to me over the 420 day journey.
I love it. Thank you 😊
Thank you Sally, I am grateful you enjoyed my talk about how much our words matter.
*LOVE THIS! SO GOOD!*
Heather. You are such a great inspiration to so many, ME included. THANK YOU!
That was great. Thank you.
Hello Totus Tattoo Thank you for your comment. I appreciate you making the time to share!
Hay thật sự, cảm ơn Đức Phúc mang cho mình dòng cảm xúc này!
Thank you for your comment. Please share this message with your community.
Great lesson, I love it.
Thank you. Please spread the message by sharing my talk with your community.
Very good video.. Love your play on words.. You are right we are very much linked to words (good, bad! Can! Can't etc).
Do you have an audiobook /videos etc? Thanks
Love this talk
Thank you so very much! I am grateful and appreciate your kind words
Thanks Bruce !! The Words and thoughts which you mentioned are really Practical, Logical and Very Inspiring too. At First i m gonna to share this..... TO INSPIRE OTHERS and of course Apply the same to me as well. Once Again Thanks a Ton for a wonderful and thoughtful talk :)
Rejesh. I just saw your comment. Forgive my not responding sooner. THANK YOU for your kind words.
Thank you. good.
Hello UncompressedWAVmusic. Thank you for commenting.
Super!! Thank you so much for such a strong message, I am already in the process of changing self talk, and I really needed this now. I am so grateful to have watched this video.
Thank you Radhika. I am grateful for the opportunity to share my story and that it had an impact on you. PLEASE keep paying attention to your words (spoken outloud or to yourself.).
Bruce, this is beautiful! I had to write it down and I WILL be sharing this, distributing this to others. :) Thank you for sharing!
Hello Lisa. Thank you for you wonderful comment and for sharing this with others.
@@brucepulver5967 it’s truly my pleasure!!
Wow this was awesome!!
needed this video more than anything
Hey Brandon. I am grateful my message found you when you needed it. Have a great day and stay INSPIRED.
Thats really cool. Thank you
Thank you Stephanie. Thank you for watching and your kind comments!
Love the positivity quote, let’s go ❤️
Hello PaGus Music. Thank you for your comments. I appreciate you making time to leave your message.
@@brucepulver sure Bruce, thanks for replying! Great speech there, I really enjoyed it, I’ve been working on my motivation and renewing my own mindset so it came to my suggestions at the perfect time. I am reading ‘Talk Like Ted’ atm and watching lots of inspiring speeches, it’s my new morning ritual! Looking forward to hearing more of your talks! Take care!
Brilliant talk🙏
Joane. Thank you for making time to post your comment. I sincerely appreciate your kind words. (even if only two words!).
Great. Very inspired 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Abisola: Thank you I am grateful this message impacted you. stay INSPIRED, especially through the challenges! Blessings to you!
powerful words.
Thank you Aashaa! Our words are Powerful. My wish is that this message provides a word of encouragement and inspiration.
GREAT TALK!!
Than you Alopez 09. I appreciate you watching and taking a moment to comment!
Wow - that was great 👍
The greatest inspirational book in history is the bible. Basic Information Before Leaving Earth. A great phrase from it is 'renewing your mind'. Thousands of phrases from it are in daily language. Learning from history, wisdom in proverbs, realized predictions, immoral consequences, inspired messages from creator, and science facts; its all there between the pages. Forget climate change; the catastrophe is Moral Change. Its time for mom & dad to inspire their kids.
An amazing talk!
Thank you @orenrozanski4374. I appreciate your kind words!
Brilliant!
Thank you for watching and commenting. I appreciate you message.
His amazing made me laugh out loud . Paige turner lol x
Glad you liked the humor. I trust the message resonated in some way as well!
That was an inspiring talk!! Thanks. I’ll learn to talk about the good parts of my day now
Thank you Spaxx (great name). Yes I work daily to find the good nugget in each day. While not easy, so worth it go my mindset. Stay strong!
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Amazing!
Hello Nick. Thank you for your comment. My wish is you found a word or two of inspiration.
Great presentation
Bemnet:, Thank you for your kind comment. When awarded this opportunity to share my Idea of how a renewed mindset to focus on our self-talk four years ago. my goal was to simply talk about my experience openly and how a life challenge forced me to pay attention to my words. The talk was as much for me to seek clarity as it was to impart any special wisdom. I am still learning and I continue to seek the deeper meaning of the power of my words each day. Thank you
Inspiring!! Well done!!
Thank you so very much HTH MTV.
Bruce Pulver No, thank you Bruce👆✌️😄
Wow the best ted talk
Ghazal. THANK YOU. My greatest wish is that this message impacts how we use our words both in self-talk and in talk with others. Our Words Matter and make a HUGE impact on our outcomes. THANK YOU again for your your kind comment!
That balloon that has a face is freaking me out man
I was wondering if anyone else noticed🤣😭
Well done!!!
@shellonroach8093. Thank you for taking the time to write your comment. I appreciate your kind words.
I don’t know why that popped in my feed. I usually do positive self talk, sometimes I am criticized on that. So maybe just the wrong algorithms. 😇
Hello Adetare, Thank you for your comment. I don't understand the algorithms either. However thank you for commenting on your work with positive self-talk. For me it is a journey and some days are better than others. I do look every day to find some JOY in my JOurneY!
This was so inspiring! Thank you 😊
Thank you Susan! I am grateful the message was inspiring to you. Our Words are SO Powerful! Yours made my day!
Susan, Thank you for your comment
This is so stronggg!!!!
Silouane LM. Thank you. I am grateful for your comments
Talk’s why English’s one of most challenging languages for non-native speakers to learn
Yes, Paying attention to our words with intention! The Power of our words.
No it is not. Its grammar is utterly mediocre.
negative self talk is the least of my worries. If my mind doesn't beat me down, my body will gladly fill the gap. Ill health offers concessions to no man.
Flash! I understand. Ill health can get us all down. Unfortunately, my father who was my inspiration of the power of my words suffered failing health at a very early age of both physical and mental failure. I pray for your health.
@@brucepulver I am sorry to hear about your father. Seeming as such a pillar to you, it is unfortunate and cruel that he was afflicted in such a way. I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, your father seems to have passed on his virtue. Perhaps there is more to life than simply enjoying all its pleasures.
@@flashlife8256 Indeed I strongly believe there is MUCH more!
This talk is why books like Toxic Positivity exist.
Kam. My intention with the idea shared is to express a starting point around the impact of the words we use on our outlook about life. The only life I can use as a point of reference is my own. Behind the message have been years of my own doubt, "lack of" and "am I enough" thinking. All of this came to my realization on the day of that personal "BAM" moment. I was likely in some ways living in a setting of Toxic Positivity. My upbringing was positive. Not perfect but positive. My work environment was full of "overcomers". Sales professionals who were successful in highly competitive sales battles. It seemed like they were just "positiving" themselves to success. I didn't understand how could they be so positive all the time when my work cycle had years of great success as well as setbacks and losses. I also realized that, conversations with myself added to the doubt. The "BAM" moment, didn't change everything for me in an instant. What I realized was that, if I wanted better outcomes, I had to begin looking at myself and my mindset separate from the circumstances which had created a habit response of negative thinking. Thank you for your comment as I can now see where, including some of the background into my talk, might have provided a wider perspective for the audience. Thank you for helping me see a blind spot, I was missing.
I have an exercise,
Take a paper, a pen
And start writing words, write every word what come in mind,
If negative words out numbers positive words,
You need to change your mind set, your dictionary, and start adding more positive words to it.
Mr. Hmm. Yes writing our words is powerful. They help us understand what words we are speaking to ourself so often. Thank you for your advice and suggestions.
me-going to the comments for the main points
Thank you for checking out the message!
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Adrielly. I appreciate the claps! Thank you for watching and commenting! I appreciate you making the time!
When i take drugs for adhd i always vome up with a story but it seems that its just a byprodact of the i creased motivation (if the dose/med works)
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Lol I've always said me and Webster never had that spark ya know that connection. Bc I hate words I'm all numbers person
Cc. Numbers matter as well. The only place two negatives equal a positive is in Math Class (Multiplication), right?
Btw, cheesy as it may sound, every day say to myself over&over ‘something wonderful’s going to happen to me today!!’ Every day it DOES..tho also Itrains your mind to look for & identify what constitutes‘wonderful’...try it
Thank you for your comment Peter. I agree. Mindset is so important. So often we find that for which we are looking. MINDSET! Make it a great day!
Did his mom live for 22 years total? Or 22 yrs after his delivery?
Hello Nikki. She lived until I was 22 years old, passing at 53 years of age. Thank you for asking this qualifying question.
I appreciate your response! And I appreciate your Talk..!