Self Worth: 3 Reasons You're Not Getting What You Want In 2024 - Inner Work Library [148/500]
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- How do you increase your self worth and develop high self esteem? Is there a correct way to improve your self worth without losing your authentic self? In this video we'll be answering an important self identity issues around increasing self esteem and low self worth with a key focus on trauma psychology, self love and self compassion, as well as exploring the difference between external validation and internal validation.
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⏱️ TIMESTAMPS ⏱️
00:00 Who Defines Your Worthiness?
01:43 The Psychology Of Self Worth
03:55 The World Is Not Enough
07:02 How To Improve Your Self Esteem
12:48 The Dark Night Of The Soul
15:55 What You Need To Do (Watch This)
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Topics explored: inner work; shadow work; self love; how to love yourself; self respect; self compassion; what is self love; self esteem; self esteem psychology; how to build self esteem; how to develop self esteem; self confidence; how to build self confidence; how to be more confident; how to be more powerful; how to be more charismatic; how to build charisma; high self esteem; high self esteem psychology; charisma psychology; false self; true self; authentic self; trauma psychology; low self esteem; how to fix low self esteem; self worth psychology; self worth; psychology of self worth; how to improve your self worth; low self worth; high self worth; how to feel worthy;
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I just found your channel today and I am completely hooked!
Welcome to the library! Prepare to get your shelve stacked hahah
it's remarkable how you've simplified such an important concept into three layers. Your insight into how safety forms the foundation of our self-worth resonates deeply, especially considering the unfortunate reality that many children grow up without this essential need met. May we all strive to cultivate that harmonious feeling within ourselves and others. And by the way, I liked your analogy with the tree!
Yes, it was challenging to try and condense so much information into 20 minutes and a ‘simple concept’ - thanks for noticing the work here!
This was excellent. Thank you!!!!
Thank you for being here!
Insanely comprehensive talk, going into real depth but presented in a framework that breaks it down manageably - what a skill! Thank you. Great video. 🌲
Thank you for always being here 🌲
Thank you, Jordan!
Of course!
Such a clear way of explanation. Thank you🙏
Thank you for being here and watching this one, appreciated the layers.
I'm longing for outdoor video talk, nature walk. Like your sobriety one, or forgiveness one.
They’re fun to film, and I likewise look forwards to shooting more in the future, but they unfortunately take a lot of logistics in terms planning, travel and time management… which is challenging while likewise making time for my client work and course management 🌲
Personally, I think it's something that needs to be worked through at the start. But in the end, self-worth feels like a distraction. We can say self-worth depends on where you place your value. So the more you've opened yourself to worldly affairs, there's more potential for attacks on your self-worth. But if you narrow it down to "I'm here to listen to my soul, and carry out what is needed from me", then you're fully interiorized as a person. And then, of course, praise from others happens naturally because people just reflect you.
Ah, yes - the ideal to be soul-led… although I’ve unfortunately never met anybody who can successfully pull-off this ‘interior only’ way of navigating the modern world. There is so much complexity, and even 80% interior with 20% awareness of social networks is a marvellous ideal to aim towards. We need another, and the external relationships and interconnected worthiness matrices are always important to keep healthy 🌲
@@jordanthornton 😅😅 I just realised yes, my original comment is coming from a time in my life where I have the privilege to really have control of what I let in my environment. But the way/information is there in all the arts practicing chi cultivation, that’s helped a lot.
thank you for sharing your experiences and insights.
Of course! Happy to be talking about this.
Really great video. This is what I was looking for.
Glad it was helpful brother, wishing you well!
Thank you! This clarified that distinction of what I’m going through at the moment as I have been trying to figure out where I belong in the world. I really appreciate the gentle nudge to continue on my own journey and my relationship with God first. 🥰 It’s been feeling lonely but now I can clearly see why! 🙏
Yes, we need those three types of company - Self, Other and God. Happy to be a reminder today.
This video brought the song Waste of Paint by Brighteyes to mind. It played in my imagination right after I watched it.
Thanks for another great video, hope you don’t mind a song suggestion lol.
Night big bad world! ❤❤
Haha endlessly listening to other people rather than just listening to yourself. That was a funny way to end that. Ty Jordan! That was super interesting since I'm healing trauma with a nervous system program it's been good to tap into different sensations of worthiness to oppose my previously wretched self worth. It's working. I have way more moments now where I. Integrated. But I do know that if I want to do what I feel like I want to do in the world it needs to be stronger.
I’m glad you’ve been making positive healing shifts recently - this is great news 🌲
@@jordanthornton ty!!!
The high self worth in the social realm/status in areas such as my work and my appearance,have happened and I have got appreciation in these areas that were quite the struggle.
But I have been feeling alone and fearful and I feel it's connected to my rejection of my body and silently feeling let down by it (I still have not gotten to the fat percentage I wanted to). They still continue to be active themes, even though the wider metaphysical perspective is really quite robust and secure.
If you’ve got social status and a good relationship with God you’re really in the best place possible. I’m not sure how much weight loss you have left, but 10lbs or 100lbs is still a much easier journey than figuring these two out. Calorie deficit and calorie tracking over the long term, likewise had to lose weight before - you’ve really got this, and it sounds like you’ve already been making progress! 🌲
Internal validation is the hardest of them all. By far...
As for external validation, it might be a bit hard to obtain these days, when people would rush to close a conversation just to peek at their phone. I have been struggling with it for years. So many people around me seem to be depressed by society, economy, politics and all of these things which are out of control, so much so that it is really hard to figure out what I could put out there that would be valuable. But there are hidden gems all the way, I sometimes find them and I have decided to do my part so that gem-people stay around.
Thank you, Jordan! By the way, I am sending my validation. Like, because already subscribed 😊
Very nicely phrased, and I agree that there are many issues with social communication these days... hard to get that validation balance right, but it sounds like you've found some answers already!
@@jordanthornton My inner work helps me find answers, but I could not ever do it alone. Thank you, you too are a gem-person to me, by TH-cam proxy 😊🌲
this has shown up when I exactly needed it. What can I do to get more people who see and validate my worth ? Self worth and God worth are in a good place .
It’s likely about positioning and value offering, sometimes we’re not in the right crowd or room, and sometimes we aren’t yet at our sharpest or kindest to be able to give the most to those spaces… wishing you well with building the other connections!
Have you ever thought about writing a book?
Of course, I’ll get around to it when I have enough of a business established which will allow me to take a massive income hit for 2-3 years while writing that book (books rarely make money, and they cost thousands of hours if you’re going to make it good lol)
Following on from this video, it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on how to overcome having grown up in, or living still within, a chronically invalidating environment.
What if the social one is just not possible? Lot of isolation going on in this world right now and it becomes harder every day to make friends IRL.
It might be challenging, but it's absolutely possible. I likewise have the majority of my friends being online and around the world due to the nature of the work I do, but we can become connected with these incredible tools.
I have never commented anywhere, not a social media person at all, lol.
It was great and hence forced me to engage.
Jordan - The entire explanation around 'Status' with others is not something that I personally agree to. And it is contradictory to the fact of having highest validation from inside, from our Soul. There will be people of different frequencies around us and if we teach, heal or proceed depending on the Status, so to say - the very purpose of healing ourselves/others seems defeated. I agree that a lot of people will come around eventually and start valuing what we give out, however personally I don't think it can be a lane to really look it, even in the modern world.
Firstly, I appreciate you showing up here in a comment if it's not your usual style - thank you!
My direct experience with finding a balance between internal- and external-validation is that we really shouldn't devalue the importance of being mirrored and acknowledged for our 'authentic selves' which is in then tied into issues of status. Building this channel, for example, has allowed me to 'increase my status' in a way that has helped me externalise who I perceive myself to be on the inside (teacher, thinker, feeler, etc) - so it's ultimately about going all the way into internal and external without sacrificing either.... they overlap and blend wonderfully together!
@@jordanthornton Thank you, that does make sense!! Appreciate you responding on this.
Your titles seem to go for the jugular 😊 I’m not sure I should click 😂
I’m glad they have that effect! Always looking for ways to make it more accessible than just ‘Self Worth Psychology’ etc etc
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Cheers!
i hope that you see my comment i dont know you but there some voice inside me that insist to tell you that you should read the holy Quoran it will help you a lot
God bless, wishing you well ✌🏻