*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)* It's an absolute pleasure to film these TH-cam videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together. I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions. Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024. To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together. Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc. ... *READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:* I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions. Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration. I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation. I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability. ... *HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH* Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense. This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months. If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes). These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my TH-cam videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship. If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me. I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path. I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations. I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required. By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations. I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together. TH-cam is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material. Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions. ... *SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:* The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time.
Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday. If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time. IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.
Found you recently. Really useful for me, struggling a lot quietly to myself. Carrying on. Watching all these bad things happen around me in my life at the moment. Some of them to me, some of them to others.
Welcome, and I’m glad to get connected in good timing. I don’t know your story, but I hope you find depth and truth in some of the resources shared on this channel - stay steady with the struggle, the clearing awaits ahead 🌲
Thank you, Jordan. Great video, but it was a tough watch. The first thing you discuss is something I’ve struggled with for a very long time. There are many elements of human experience that I find “unpalatable,” to put it mildly. For example, right now I’m struggling with the idea that my government is using my tax money to help carry out a massacre on the other side of the world. How is it possible to avoid adversarial symbiosis when humans are capable of -- and perpetrate -- so much evil? Not thinking about what's happening or trying to only focus on positive things just doesn’t work for me.
I completely understand your perspective, which is why we can’t really get to a full inner peace when we know that there are many unfortunate aspects to modern living. I think the gift is being at least 80% anchored into that accepting and otherwise non-reactive space, but always going to be moments of challenge. Appreciate you sharing.
With the exception of the last sign, I know every single one of them. And to maybe raise a bit of hope for those who ‚still hate children and are above 30 years old‘. It is still possible, yes it‘s not easy, but possible. I am still poisoning my body with smoking though (one left to go to work on I guess). But it was good to hear this list to see how much has changed so far. And I was especially surprised about the first sign. I used to hate people and I noticed that this has changed a lot. I love being around people and connecting with them and sometimes I wondered why this changed so much, but I never thought, that I was externalizing my self hatred before. Makes a lot of sense though. Thank you for the video and the insights.
Yes, back on track after being caught up in other aspects of work last week - first time having a week off in a very long time! Hope you enjoyed this one.
I love the long form of your videos Jordan, it really does feel like a deep dialogue. This topic should be taught in schools, it is so crucial. On my mother line, children have been despised for their authenticity, 'neediness' and 'selfishness.' In my 20s when friends started having kids, I realised I felt scared around them, so I decided to start working with children to overcome this. I was working as an artist as well at the time and the children I taught art to became my greatest teachers (especially 4-6 year olds), on how to reconnect with my spontaneity and joy and to switch off my judging mind when creating. Thank you sincerely for the copious amounts of work you put into these fantastic videos. There really isn't anything else like it on TH-cam 🙏🌟🪷
weird how it feels like you’re talking to me about things i’ve felt and thought for many years. like you were reading my mind and responding to it (analogy!) Not sure how you’re able to hit the nail on the head so much
To anyone saying that self hatred is needed for growth please read this. It's a rather long comment but I get you: I think you're conflating recognizing something negative about yourself with hating something about yourself. Those should be two different things. It's possible to look inward without internalizing contempt for your negative aspects. If you're saying what you are about self hatred being a vehicle for self-improvement there's an implication that you're a highly self-critical person like me. I've had to learn not to hate the things I'm critiquing about myself but now I can observe how I'm acting and change the things I dislike without a strong hatred. If perhaps you can not do that then you need to develop that ability. It might take time so don't get discouraged. For me it requires taking an outside approach, looking at myself as if I'm a stranger and my problems are someone else's. I personally wouldn't rip a stranger to shreds with criticisms, I'd just want to learn about who they are. That's a good place to start, observe but don't react. Make value judgements if you want about good and bad qualities but try to feel neutrally when doing so. It's better even to laugh at the negative qualities and embrace your imperfections if you can. They're like belly buttons, we all have them and they're kind of silly when you look too hard at them.
TLDR: Hating yourself is not a requirement for personal growth. In fact, it can actually hinder progress by causing shame, guilt, and low self-esteem. Recognizing negative patterns or behaviors without attaching judgment or self-loathing is key to effective self-improvement!
Ive hated myself for a long time but none of these ever applied to me. I was just aware of my self loathing and the guilt and shame I had towards myself.
Thank you so much again for your insights Jordan. This was perfectly timed for me after having finished chapters 8 and 9 of "Meeting The Shadow" this week dealing with adversarial opposites and really examining that within myself and observing it in others. I actually did a short presentation on the concept of the shadow for my turn at taking the daily brief in work a couple of weeks ago, long story short it was a bit of a "risky" choice for the company I work for but it went down really well.
I’ve been thinking to myself all week, I really want to learn how to regulate my body using the internal family systems model. Thank you for the synchronistic book moment! Feels like I’m on the right path 😅☺️🙏
@@jordanthornton yes! Indeed. All of the internal family books- going deep. 🎣 wishing you all the best on your healing journey! Hopefully not as tumultuous as the journey with my actually family. Seriously they need a tv show just to air it all out.
I felt a little bit of shaming energy for the people who don't like children. This is funny because I was one of them almost all of my life up until some years ago. I hated children and funnily my hatred dissolved instantly when I saw a family that I started admiring, a family that changed the way I see children. They were not a burden as I got the message from the families around me that you can actually have fun with them :) It was a beautiful discovery every now and then I thank them for showing me the example of a cute family.
So pretty much if you have any feelings of hate it's literally a reflection of your own self your own feelings. Anything that isn't love. The whole life is a mirror idea and only you exist.
Hatred is a way to force opposition and separation. This is done out of fear and/or to fill a need. Separation is a temporary fix the ego loves but the soul suffers longing for connection.
Hi Jordan. Thanks for amazing video content. How can I pose specific questions to you, as suggestions for you to structure future videos? I want to ask you to address specific themes in future videos that would help both me but also I believe many other people facing similar circumstances
I feel like I've come a long way as someone who used to be an atheistic child-free anti-natalist a few years ago. I honestly didn't think that it would be possible once, but I can say with certainty that I don't hate myself anymore.
hey Jordan do you think not fully loving yourself could be considered the same as hating oneself?Could abuse of the self exist on a spectrum, or if you follow the thread will it inevitably lead to a home of hatred?
I think you're conflating recognizing something negative about yourself with hating something about yourself. Those should be two different things. It's possible to look inward without internalizing contempt for your negative aspects. If you're saying what you are about self hatred being a vehicle for self-improvement there's an implication that you're a highly self-critical person like me. I've had to learn not to hate the things I'm critiquing about myself but now I can observe how I'm acting and change the things I dislike without a strong hatred. If perhaps you can not do that then you need to develop that ability. It might take time so don't get discouraged. For me it requires taking an outside approach, looking at myself as if I'm a stranger and my problems are someone else's. I personally wouldn't rip a stranger to shreds with criticisms, I'd just want to learn about who they are. That's a good place to start, observe but don't react. Make value judgements if you want about good and bad qualities but try to feel neutrally when doing so. It's better even to laugh at the negative qualities and embrace your imperfections if you can. They're like belly buttons, we all have them and they're kind of silly when you look too hard at them. I hope this reply helps, I'm actually going to post it as a comment for anyone thinking the same way.
What do you mean about people taking advantage of you when you accept yourself? Maybe I can help you with that too but I get the sense that maybe you've been hurt before so maybe you're not open to discussing that. Anyways I just said the word maybe 3 times. I'd like to not have to speculate but I understand if you'd rather not talk about it.
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*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)*
It's an absolute pleasure to film these TH-cam videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together.
I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions.
Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024.
To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together.
Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc.
...
*READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:*
I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions.
Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration.
I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation.
I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability.
...
*HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH*
Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense.
This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months.
If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes).
These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my TH-cam videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship.
If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me.
I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path.
I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations.
I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required.
By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations.
I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together.
TH-cam is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material.
Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions.
...
*SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:*
The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time.
Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday.
If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time.
IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.
Straight to the point easy to understand mark my words this guy is changing our world 🙌🙌
Appreciate you, will keep doing my best.
Found you recently. Really useful for me, struggling a lot quietly to myself. Carrying on. Watching all these bad things happen around me in my life at the moment. Some of them to me, some of them to others.
Welcome, and I’m glad to get connected in good timing. I don’t know your story, but I hope you find depth and truth in some of the resources shared on this channel - stay steady with the struggle, the clearing awaits ahead 🌲
Thank you, Jordan. Great video, but it was a tough watch. The first thing you discuss is something I’ve struggled with for a very long time. There are many elements of human experience that I find “unpalatable,” to put it mildly. For example, right now I’m struggling with the idea that my government is using my tax money to help carry out a massacre on the other side of the world. How is it possible to avoid adversarial symbiosis when humans are capable of -- and perpetrate -- so much evil? Not thinking about what's happening or trying to only focus on positive things just doesn’t work for me.
I completely understand your perspective, which is why we can’t really get to a full inner peace when we know that there are many unfortunate aspects to modern living. I think the gift is being at least 80% anchored into that accepting and otherwise non-reactive space, but always going to be moments of challenge. Appreciate you sharing.
Great video Jordan. Thank you. It makes me realise just how far I have come in this lifetime. 💖
Well done on your progress so far, truly.
Glad to realize I’m a healthy person who loves herself very much lol
This is the BEST feeling to have after a video like this 🏆
With the exception of the last sign, I know every single one of them. And to maybe raise a bit of hope for those who ‚still hate children and are above 30 years old‘. It is still possible, yes it‘s not easy, but possible.
I am still poisoning my body with smoking though (one left to go to work on I guess).
But it was good to hear this list to see how much has changed so far.
And I was especially surprised about the first sign. I used to hate people and I noticed that this has changed a lot. I love being around people and connecting with them and sometimes I wondered why this changed so much, but I never thought, that I was externalizing my self hatred before. Makes a lot of sense though. Thank you for the video and the insights.
Sharing some of your story here is excellent, thanks for offering this guidance and example to anybody scrolling the comments today 🌲
i've been waiting for a new upload!
Yes, back on track after being caught up in other aspects of work last week - first time having a week off in a very long time! Hope you enjoyed this one.
The coffee cup scene is priceless. It nailed short videos. Especially some of the shorts I’m more familiar with.
Yeah, no more of that gameplaying haha
I love the long form of your videos Jordan, it really does feel like a deep dialogue. This topic should be taught in schools, it is so crucial. On my mother line, children have been despised for their authenticity, 'neediness' and 'selfishness.' In my 20s when friends started having kids, I realised I felt scared around them, so I decided to start working with children to overcome this. I was working as an artist as well at the time and the children I taught art to became my greatest teachers (especially 4-6 year olds), on how to reconnect with my spontaneity and joy and to switch off my judging mind when creating. Thank you sincerely for the copious amounts of work you put into these fantastic videos. There really isn't anything else like it on TH-cam 🙏🌟🪷
Trying to always keep this space alive, thanks for the heads up and likewise well done for aligning your own path.
weird how it feels like you’re talking to me about things i’ve felt and thought for many years. like you were reading my mind and responding to it (analogy!) Not sure how you’re able to hit the nail on the head so much
Humanity leaves clues and patterns! Happy to have landed in the right ways with this one - hope it helped 🌲
To anyone saying that self hatred is needed for growth please read this. It's a rather long comment but I get you:
I think you're conflating recognizing something negative about yourself with hating something about yourself. Those should be two different things. It's possible to look inward without internalizing contempt for your negative aspects. If you're saying what you are about self hatred being a vehicle for self-improvement there's an implication that you're a highly self-critical person like me. I've had to learn not to hate the things I'm critiquing about myself but now I can observe how I'm acting and change the things I dislike without a strong hatred. If perhaps you can not do that then you need to develop that ability. It might take time so don't get discouraged. For me it requires taking an outside approach, looking at myself as if I'm a stranger and my problems are someone else's. I personally wouldn't rip a stranger to shreds with criticisms, I'd just want to learn about who they are. That's a good place to start, observe but don't react. Make value judgements if you want about good and bad qualities but try to feel neutrally when doing so. It's better even to laugh at the negative qualities and embrace your imperfections if you can. They're like belly buttons, we all have them and they're kind of silly when you look too hard at them.
TLDR: Hating yourself is not a requirement for personal growth. In fact, it can actually hinder progress by causing shame, guilt, and low self-esteem. Recognizing negative patterns or behaviors without attaching judgment or self-loathing is key to effective self-improvement!
Beautifully articulated, thank you.
Ive hated myself for a long time but none of these ever applied to me. I was just aware of my self loathing and the guilt and shame I had towards myself.
Thank you so much again for your insights Jordan. This was perfectly timed for me after having finished chapters 8 and 9 of "Meeting The Shadow" this week dealing with adversarial opposites and really examining that within myself and observing it in others. I actually did a short presentation on the concept of the shadow for my turn at taking the daily brief in work a couple of weeks ago, long story short it was a bit of a "risky" choice for the company I work for but it went down really well.
This is very cool to read, thanks for the update! And I'm happy to have been here in good timing - keep at it.
Referring in Rockport, Tx. USA. Much needed help thank you
Sending strength and support to the south! 🌲
Book recommendation time stamp - 6:55
Thank you Jordan for all you're doing 🩵
This video was amazing!
Appreciate you taking the time to let me know!
Thank you, Jordan.
Thank you for being here!
I’ve been thinking to myself all week, I really want to learn how to regulate my body using the internal family systems model. Thank you for the synchronistic book moment! Feels like I’m on the right path 😅☺️🙏
You'll love the book - have you purchased it yet?
@@jordanthornton yes! Indeed. All of the internal family books- going deep. 🎣 wishing you all the best on your healing journey!
Hopefully not as tumultuous as the journey with my actually family. Seriously they need a tv show just to air it all out.
Hmmm, very thought provoking....thank you X
Thank you for taking the time to consider this somewhat heavy and hard conversation - wishing you well.
Im free of those feelings and come long way.
Happy for you, something to be proud of.
I felt a little bit of shaming energy for the people who don't like children. This is funny because I was one of them almost all of my life up until some years ago. I hated children and funnily my hatred dissolved instantly when I saw a family that I started admiring, a family that changed the way I see children. They were not a burden as I got the message from the families around me that you can actually have fun with them :) It was a beautiful discovery every now and then I thank them for showing me the example of a cute family.
Glad to know you’ve been on this healing path - children are so much to celebrate 🕊️
I love this video 😭🫶🏼
Appreciate you being here and hope it works out!
So pretty much if you have any feelings of hate it's literally a reflection of your own self your own feelings. Anything that isn't love.
The whole life is a mirror idea and only you exist.
On those lines, wishing you well.
Hatred is a way to force opposition and separation. This is done out of fear and/or to fill a need. Separation is a temporary fix the ego loves but the soul suffers longing for connection.
Very nicely said, appreciate you being here.
Hi Jordan. Thanks for amazing video content. How can I pose specific questions to you, as suggestions for you to structure future videos? I want to ask you to address specific themes in future videos that would help both me but also I believe many other people facing similar circumstances
Comment just like this on any recent video! Keep it short and direct and I’ll be more likely to make a video - looking out for it, Sam!
That's good.
I feel like I've come a long way as someone who used to be an atheistic child-free anti-natalist a few years ago. I honestly didn't think that it would be possible once, but I can say with certainty that I don't hate myself anymore.
Great to read this today, thank for taking the time to watch and share - we really do have so much to keep learning and healing in this space.
hey Jordan do you think not fully loving yourself could be considered the same as hating oneself?Could abuse of the self exist on a spectrum, or if you follow the thread will it inevitably lead to a home of hatred?
Spectrum psychology is important to acknowledge, it's rarely a world of extremes.
Intentional non intentional ASMR
♥️
Appreciate you being here, cheers.
but if you hate yourself you can change, if you accept everything then people will take advantage of you
I’m not sure exactly what you’re referring to here, but I’m sending you my best. I hope the video proved helpful 🌲
I think you're conflating recognizing something negative about yourself with hating something about yourself. Those should be two different things. It's possible to look inward without internalizing contempt for your negative aspects. If you're saying what you are about self hatred being a vehicle for self-improvement there's an implication that you're a highly self-critical person like me. I've had to learn not to hate the things I'm critiquing about myself but now I can observe how I'm acting and change the things I dislike without a strong hatred. If perhaps you can not do that then you need to develop that ability. It might take time so don't get discouraged. For me it requires taking an outside approach, looking at myself as if I'm a stranger and my problems are someone else's. I personally wouldn't rip a stranger to shreds with criticisms, I'd just want to learn about who they are. That's a good place to start, observe but don't react. Make value judgements if you want about good and bad qualities but try to feel neutrally when doing so. It's better even to laugh at the negative qualities and embrace your imperfections if you can. They're like belly buttons, we all have them and they're kind of silly when you look too hard at them.
I hope this reply helps, I'm actually going to post it as a comment for anyone thinking the same way.
What do you mean about people taking advantage of you when you accept yourself? Maybe I can help you with that too but I get the sense that maybe you've been hurt before so maybe you're not open to discussing that. Anyways I just said the word maybe 3 times. I'd like to not have to speculate but I understand if you'd rather not talk about it.
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