Thank you Kristen! Only thing I might not do is sending something to my personal inbox/email. Because this can cause another issue and makes me vulnerable against them.
It's a very valid concern, and thank you for raising it. Unfortunately, as both an attorney and executive coach, I've seen too many emails that incriminated the other party disappear once the issue was escalated. It nearly cost one of my client's her tenure bid. So definitely save those email to an outside source. If you're uncomfortable sending it to a dropbox or your personal email, screenshot or take a picture with your phone - anything with a date/timestamp. And remember, this is not the first line of defense. That would be to save it to your work computer. This is a second line in case that email or slack message "accidentally" disappears...which, as mentioned, I've seen happen way too often. And finally, remember to save anything that makes you look good. Example, if the bully is trying to fire you or claims you're terrible at your job, make sure you're saving kind emails that praise you from other colleagues and clients. And, yes, I've seen those disappear, too. Bottom line, saving everything and back it up.
I agree with most of your guidance. Though involving HR is considered highly adversarial and should be a last resort used with receipts only. A tactic I’ve witnessed is killing the bully and all primary associates/ peers with kindness and forming strong networks with influential higher-ups. These provide a layer of protection and forces the bully to potentially risk their reputation by attacking you. This tactic works especially if you are outgoing and generally likable/ respectable (most people are).
Thank you Kristen! Only thing I might not do is sending something to my personal inbox/email. Because this can cause another issue and makes me vulnerable against them.
It's a very valid concern, and thank you for raising it. Unfortunately, as both an attorney and executive coach, I've seen too many emails that incriminated the other party disappear once the issue was escalated. It nearly cost one of my client's her tenure bid. So definitely save those email to an outside source. If you're uncomfortable sending it to a dropbox or your personal email, screenshot or take a picture with your phone - anything with a date/timestamp. And remember, this is not the first line of defense. That would be to save it to your work computer. This is a second line in case that email or slack message "accidentally" disappears...which, as mentioned, I've seen happen way too often.
And finally, remember to save anything that makes you look good. Example, if the bully is trying to fire you or claims you're terrible at your job, make sure you're saving kind emails that praise you from other colleagues and clients. And, yes, I've seen those disappear, too. Bottom line, saving everything and back it up.
@kristenbahbahani Incredible! Phone or screenshot is a good idea 👍 your experiences are priceless!
I agree with most of your guidance. Though involving HR is considered highly adversarial and should be a last resort used with receipts only.
A tactic I’ve witnessed is killing the bully and all primary associates/ peers with kindness and forming strong networks with influential higher-ups. These provide a layer of protection and forces the bully to potentially risk their reputation by attacking you. This tactic works especially if you are outgoing and generally likable/ respectable (most people are).
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