How to Handle Your Road Rage (Yes, You)
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- How to Handle Your Road Rage (Yes, You)
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I’m just going to play this on repeat while I drive home
Same!
Me too, I always get out of my car drained. I need to just calm down.
I will do the same 😩
Same!!
@@Memento_Mori3210 get off the internet what are you trying to prove?… your miserable af to be on the comments of a year ago…
"You can be right or you can just enjoy your life" choose Joy.
Obviously you do not understand the deep seeded issues some people have and project on others.
@@robertapascal6962 he makes a good point, not everybody is ready for it
I’ve done all those embarrassing things you mentioned. I’m a pretty easy going person EXCEPT when driving. I can lose my shot in a second
Fix it.
I just got a dash cam and started operating on "just because it almost happened, doesn't mean it did", and started practicing waving with all 5 fingers like "hey buddy, it's cool we're not hurt". My stress has gone way down driving like that and treating other people like that.
I’m the dude zooming past wondering why people go so slowly, it’s really dumb, thank you for the honesty
me too
I never would've thought this would be THE video I needed. I have struggled with intense road rage all of my life, I'm the driver pissed at all of the wreckless drivers and it completely grinds my gears. It's so bad I shake with anger, I've even followed people, thrown things at them out of my car. I realize this comes from me not dealing with childhood trauma as well as me always needing to be in control of everything that surrounds my life. I'm in counseling now and let me tell you! I have calmed down sooooooo much. Every single word he says in this video is the epitome of me, and I'm so glad that I'm able to write this comment because my behavior could've caused mine or someone else's life all because I didn't just "let it go!" We can't control other people's behavior or actions, only our own. I have had so much inner peace and calm since changing my mindframe and my attitude. Thank you so very much for this video!!❤️❤️❤️
you literally described exactly how i act when i road rage, i didn’t know anyone else felt this like i literally shake so bad i can’t control it 😭
Thankyou for sharing!
I'm so struggling with this right now. I was about to get in a massive car accident today because of my road rage and trying to "teach the other person a lesson." I haven't been able to work on this no matter how much therapy I take or how many videos I watch. Can you please share how you managed to create this environment of internal peace and calmness?
I road rage and over take in single lanes or even over speed bumps, feel like a total tool once I get home inside
I get so bad i shake in anger and i feel blood rushing to my head !!! I get this from my mom has always drove similarly and I've been this way since I started driving but it's only gotten worse as i've gotten older. I have considered counseling and I think I need it!!!
Thank you for this. I never get mad really except when driving. Today I was irritated by someone going 50 in a 55. I was already having a bad day. I got close to them, and they flipped me off and yelled out the window. I passed them and laid on the horn once I got a chance. I went from "how about drive the speed limit!" to "what is wrong with me" in a matter of minutes. I've been driving too fast for too long, and rarely has anyone done what that guy did, but I'm kind of glad now because I realize I need to start driving with some sense before something bad happens. I appreciate your video.
I’m glad you and the other person are okay and it didn’t quickly escalate
Be stoic on the road and you'll live to see another day
Had a situation happen today with my kids in the car. I hear everything you're saying, but nothing was said about PRIDE. It can be a man's worst downfall.
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As someone who lives in Vegas…this video was a God send ❤
A lot of this hit very close to home. I have an infant son, and I don't want to model bad behavior for him. I don't want him to deal with the same toxic rage that I do.
I feel u. I'm trying to stop road raging before I get my family or me hurt. RR is almost instant for me. You wrote this a month ago, have u improved? Do these vids work? Just wondering
@@audeybarrera It's been hit or miss. I have found that some days I just don't have the will to even try. I know this is just an excuse, because I CAN do it, and am choosing not to. I've definitely caught myself and been able to stop a fair few times though, which feels good.
I don't know if the content of any of the videos I've watched has helped as much a like, the act of watching them. Searching for information and trying to absorb it sort of solidified this as a commitment for me.
@@marcellom
Good point, if I'm searching for the content than I'm trying to commit.. Thanx
Wow I really needed to see this. I’m so short tempered on the road. I had like 4 close calls yesterday. I really need to take a step back abd calm down! 🙏your video made me laugh 😆 but for reals I need to calm down.
First, Accept that you can't control the behavior of others on the road. Then make the Accommodation for You to Let It Go. If you do this You Will Keep Your Peace 🙏 Have a nice day😁 and keep your Joy 😂!!!
The key 🔑 takeaway is to make empathy your default setting and not anger 😠
Thankyou so much for this! I will show this to my husband. He has serious road rage and I think it's a bomb waiting to explode it makes me feel scared for me and my daughter when we are with him in the car. Hopefully he gets the message!
I recently saw a relative have extreme road rage. It was scary, shocking and disturbing.
You’ve help me realize that it solves nothing and I look worst then the person I was teaching a “lesson”. Plus it can turn fatal for so many in a heartbeat 😢
Thank you so much. This really helped. Need to watch this at least once a month.
You should do one for Facebook groups. That's where the real rage is.
Thank You for taking the time to record this video, edit and post it. Helped calm me down.
Major Takeaway amongst most - The only two things you control are your thoughts and your actions.
Yes, when these things happen it does make you feel small and powerless (this relates to the perception of disrespect) and this is an element that breed the rage.
Maybe they had rocket diarrhea
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Really needed this today. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this video. This REALLY helps me because my job is a bus driver. Driving is my job and sometimes my job can be really stressful
I’m not the type of person who road raging, but couple times this year, saw people flipping finger and get uncontrollably mad on the road for barely nothing. I was trying to understand them since I can’t really relate, but this video did it for me!!!! What a great channel, love your videos Dr.John!
I will continue to practice productive thoughts. Dr. John thank you for your advice, God bless.
Choose to be a great man in front of your family. It’s easy!
Why empathy? Why do I have to care about the other person? Like you said they aren’t thinking about me so why should I think about them I also feel like being this “positive” person toward people you don’t know I don’t just hand my kindness out to anyone that’s earned you piss me off I’ll let you know it
Thanks bro. I needed this today.
You’re a cool dude, thanks for the advice!
Why on Earth this has so little views?! Everyone who's driving anything be it car or a bike should watch your video.
Greetings from Ukraine )
Thank you. This video probably saved my life.
Wow! Great tips, didn’t know about this channel at all.
“That’s like punching yourself in the face and hope it breaks their nose”. Cracked me to the floor, golden.
I never swore in front of my parents. Even when home on leave from the service, where swearing is the norm, I never swore in front of my parents even as an adult.
When my son was growing up, even through college, he never swore at home.
Fast forward and now my son is on his own in his own house. When I heard him swear the first time, I was so relieved. I thought I failed in raising him, he's normal!
I really need to hear this thank you
Thank you, this is better for more than just my driving rage. I gotta chill out
I would send this to my mom who needs to hear this, but she would never watch it lol
Awesome message.
I just mad driving at college. I live here and I know the roads very well. So many cars go so slow and it’s so aggravating. Like BRUHHH IM TRYING TO GO HOME
When someone fly's by me in their car I usually say " see you at the scene of the accident".
Or see you at the next red light. 😂
@@Mag1c4lyfe hahaha so true!!!😂
My thought when someone goes by me fast, is that I just hope if that person gets in an accident he doesn't hurt someone else. The innocent are the ones that always get hurt or killed.
@@vickieclark5931 which is very unfortunate. Because us normal drivers are always looked at as "slow drivers" when we're driving the speed limit.
This video is exactly what I needed today. Thank you.
Hello John!! You’re awesome!
I can agree I’ve been an idiot I have to be more responsible when driving .
Me too😢
They cut me off at chick fil a because they had a sick kid in the car..... Okay that explains it! I was wondering about that, but it's all so clear now!
great video. thank you for the good advice
This is amazing !
Thank you 🙏🏻
What about people that get mad cuz u go around them. Or the asshole that brakes on purpose bcuz u went around
I Love you. I just had a plethora of epiphanies all at once. I needed to hear this. SUBSCRIBE
I always have my family ripping me a new one for my road rage & the amount i swear while driving lol, maybe i should take notes
My biggest thing is people who just whip around lanes without their turn signal like bro how complicated is it
You can't control others, only yourself
This helped me. Thank you.
This really helps thanks
I went looking for a video like this after dealing with road rage this morning. I have a big problem with getting upset at other drivers and calling them idiots. I'm just knowing Jesus does not want me yelling every two secs in my car. So thank you for taking the time to break it down and put us in check lol
Same. I feel like a different person behind the wheel. I'd never yell at a person in front of them.
Jesus had the advantage of not living in today’s world with all it’s stresses. Were he alive today, he’s be just as mad driving in slow idiot traffic to get home from a dead end job.
Cursing, flipping people off and taking his own name in vain, just like the rest of us.
Needed this. I’d love to include this in my next VIDS. ♥️
thank you for this Dr.D. i really needed this.
This video relates to me a lot, I feel like I'm the victim a lot and I feel I always need to be in control, and "why isn't that person doing common sense stuff"
Fr it’s crazy people want you to be considerate of them but they just do what they like and cause traffic . No common sense
“Ima get my gun” lol
"Pew pew pew" 😂😂😂
You are an absolute genius sir, thank you so much! You’re absolutely right, we have absolutely no control over anything except for our own thoughts feelings and behaviours, every time we get into our car and drive we’re going to see stupid driving all around us and we have absolutely no control over that and we can never fix it, I’m not ashamed to admit this but before I don’t know why but I used to get triggered when someone beeped their horn at me and one time I was sat at a red traffic ligh and someone beeped me from behind and I got out of my car and had a go at them but does that solve anything? Absolutely not, getting angry and shouting doesn’t fix anything and plus, if you think about it, when you hear a car beeping their horn how do you know if it’s even aimed at you, 9 times out of 10 it probably isn’t but if it is so what, getting out of your car to have a go at someone honestly it makes you the worst person as you’re sinking down to their level, be the better person and ask yourself these 2 things..is there anything that I can do to make the situation better and do I know why they’re being such an idiot..the first one possibly, the second one absolutely not..we don’t know what people are doing through..it takes years to not let road rage get the better of you..if you don’t know what someone is going through then don’t get angry with them, chances are you’ll never see them again, try to help out if you can but don’t get angry at someone who you’ll probably more than likely never ever see again..just chill out and let it go, don’t let anyone take away your happiness and your positive thoughts. 🙃
Again, Dr John just being a person:
"we're not gonna take it" - Twisted Sister
Thank you sir
Honestly you’re right …. I’m going take what you saying with me ! People are sick and crazy
The one trigger for me i. road rage is definitely not people speeding past me, but rather people driving too slow. Literally cannot count the times I’ve been 5 to 15 plus minutes later getting home from work to my wife just because some dumb ass wanted to drive 5 miles under in the left lane and block/impede all of traffic..
Dude not even joking. You don't know what some people are capable of. Some people will lock a person in the basement and make them suffer for weeks.
A box of goat turds... lol 😆 you're such a dork but it's so awesome! Love you dr. D
I just wish slow drivers could be prosecuted 😂😂 its called traffic flow for a reason.
Some people go slow for a reason
Doesn't work for me, I get terrible anger in the car, but I'm afraid it's nothing to do with me. I get angry when a car skips a queue using my lane and cuts in another, he is actually getting out of my way and inconveniencing others, so this is not me being angry at injustice to myself. I have always been someone who has stood up to bullies and that is the part of me that struggles on the road. These people would not act like this in a shop, they wouldn't barge in at the front of a long queue, so why do we let them get away with it on the road? It's arrogant and inconsiderate and the gene pool would be better off without those kinds of people. And I'm sorry, the whole making excuses for people, rubbish, it might work for one or two on occasion, but when you are seeing 10 or 20 inconsiderate drivers during your commute, that tactic starts to fail very quickly, because the excuses you're making for them is just not true. Besides, since when did excuses hold up in court? Oh Mr J Bloggs had just been fired and was having a bad day, so it is fine that he killed that 5 year old girl... well that is what dangerous, selfish and inconsiderate drivers can do, so it should not be accepted.
What about when someone is tailgating?
That's not really defined as road rage. That's just people that don't know how to drive without being on top of other people.
For some reason I don’t care if somebody is riding real close behind me, if I’m going to slow you’re free to drive around pass me if you want, I won’t try to stop you. However, if I’m in the passenger seat and the person driving is very close behind somebody I get a little irritated, thinking to myself “like bro why are you on this persons ass like that?” 🤦🏿♂️
Thanks this was funny and informative
Thank you
“Hey we have rules here, you’re supposed to follow the rules. “ lmao , thank you for letting me know how much of a jerk I am in the best way possible. Thank you for the help.
Nowadays everybody thinks if they get from point A to point B going 100 mph that they'll be less miserable than they already are. And then they try to take it out on people who drive the speed limit because they managed to set their lives up properly where they don't have to rush everywhere like a dumbass
The only solution is to drive as seldom as possible. People disobeying the law and causing dangerous situations in traffic is a reflection of society.
Good stuff
Right!? I love "Waive at them...with all but ONE FINGER"...Ha!
I don't resonate with the psychological experience of the WHY I sometimes rage. It's not about feeling slighted or unseen or mistreated. It is about fear because I saw something unsafe. I learned defensive driving which requires hyper awareness of everything around you. And generally speaking, people aren't very safe drivers. They are easily distracted. They take unnecessary and unsafe risks. They don't anticipate or watch other cars. So the feeling I have is feeling unsafe and annoyed at the person who did the thing that made me feel that way. Because I'm a male and was never taught to process my feelings, that always comes out as anger/rage. I think some of this evolutionary response as well.
You are gem
Great content! Maybe i'll add that in my VIDS. 💪🏻
"Box of goat turds" I'm dead 😂😂😂
positive thoughts when a Karen calls you the N word who just passed you in a double lane when I’m doing 6 mph over the speed limits?!? Come on man
Can you talk on dealing with angry customers that are being unfair!!!!
I'm sending this to Russell Crowe.
I live in south Florida and this advice is all fine and good if you are in a place where traffic laws are enforced to the degree where there is a functioning driving culture. Here, it is absolute mayhem. When do we stop taking this and step up and demand that something be done??!!
This one was fun
I love how straightforward and blunt you are, You just described me to a T!
Why are the most reckless drivers those with the most expensive cars? If I had an $80,000 BMW I'd be the most careful driver you've ever seen.
It's actually TRUE! There was a study done on this: the end result showed that people that drove cars that were BLUE in color were more aggressive drivers. It also showed that those driving more high-end vehicles, especially BMW's were also more likely to be less courteous on the roads. Maybe it just comes with the personality types of the people that are attracted to buying those types of cars. So now I always stay clear of BLUE Beamers, Lol...me and my GRAY Chevy
@@lauradiphlipo9332 I find that the car most likely to be driven by a lunatic is the Volkswagen Golf. At least, here in the UK.
I daily a Porsche and the cheaper the other car looks the more "after you good citizen" attitude I take, I'm not playing chicken with something that costs less than the wheels and tires on my car, or really with anyone. Plus it's super luxurious inside, I paid extra to enjoy my time in my car so it doesn't matter if I am in there 10 minutes longer... that stereo slaps lol
@@lauradiphlipo9332 Nah I drive a Camaro
I'm taking the "...rocket diarrhea" reasoning - made me laugh and probably will do at a time of need.
I learned all the German curse words before I was 10 years old by driving around in the car with my mom and her best friend 😂
People in the school lines are the worsttttt. Everyone is so rude and thinks what they have going on is so much more important than others.
It's hard not to road rage, when people drive side by side and go below the speed limit on the highway!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe they're some old timers and they didn't even realize lol. What if it was your grandpa? I'm sure you wouldn't be so mad
@@kairam5142He'd get the hell outta the way! Or I'd whoop his ole az
@@kairam5142grandpa need to get off the road too then
@@coolguy8473or how about you go around them tough guy. Use that nonexistent brain of yours and not your punches.
I get irritated when I’m in bumper-to-bumper traffic and people are going slow in the fast lane and not using their blinkers on top of not understanding how roundabouts work or when the light turns green and you’re making a left-hand turn only to have some idiot honk you for letting the right way traffic go first. this is why I have road rage. I can give two shits if someone’s texting and driving or is attempting to cut me off.
As a committed pedestrian, the main problem with Road Rage Drivers is a delusional belief that their own driving is without flaws, and everyone else is inferior to their driving skills.
The people who have the WORST driving skills also have the WORST road rage. They text while driving. They're looking at their phone, they're drinking and driving, they have the WORST habits any driver can have. They back out without looking at what others are doing around them, expecting them to watch out for them because, as you said at the beginning of the video, they are the Center of the Universe.
Now...
If your driver is upset with you, and you're in the passenger seat, these are the people who also like to engage in Abusive Driving.
"Look at me! I'm driving fast! I'm in control! You're in the passenger side! This is terrific! Bet you won't say anything negative to me now, will ya! Weeeeeeee!"
When this happens, I'll get out of that car and just start walking, whenever the vehicle stops, or I will open the door, and wait for the fear of getting pulled over to make them stop the vehicle, no matter where I am.
I refuse to tolerate this type of driver any. More.
I used to watch road rage videos on youtube all the time when I was younger and now I'm 30 years old and I'm terrified of driving on highways by myself cause I'm so scared someone will road rage on me for doing something wrong like an accidental cut off or something. I've totally learned to just let it go, But I need some serious therapy help with severe anxiety.
"MY CEILING FAN CAN MOVE FASTER THAN THIS -AND IT DOESNT EVEN WORK"🗣🗣
I didn’t have a ton of road rage until I relocated to the ATL metro area. OH Mylanta the these people are literally the worst drivers I’ve ever seen. I’ve lived in Miami and the tri-state so I went through NYC so many times I can’t even count.
Im watching this after flipping someone off for cutting me off only to have them pull the glock out.
It makes me so angry when I'm driving the speed limit and people either tailgate me or fly past me and or cut me off no signal the way I look at it I don't have a problem going the speed limit so they can too
A game I play is that I'm an Uber driver. If I drive with rage, will the passenger give me 5 stars?
Liked this video i liked it and subscribed 😀
You only controls your thoughts 💭 and your actions
Do you know what creates traffic rush hour ?
And also alot and all of this road rage doers are also having a bad day. It's not anything against u . It's just that they actually will Las out on others. And well 2 wrongs don't make it right
what if a person that almost killed you, just doing her makeup while driving. Am i allowed to think she is a idiot driver? Good message though..