I've ben excited for this! John impressed me the moment he was introduced to Ramsey Solutions. A great addition to the team! Congratulations on the podcast John! Will be tuning in!
Dr. Delony you are so right when you say this man made no progress. He's not utterly repentant AT ALL. He's playing games with her. He's not ready to turn over everything, an apology, his credit cards, his paycheck, he's not admitting he was wrong and he's going to do it again.
It's also a trust issue. It's not healthy to be a doormat. He obviously only asked for forgiveness after he got caught. Hold him accountable for his actions. If he doesn't seek counseling, kick him to the curb.
Actually feel bad for this woman. What a shame. I've heard hundreds of people where I can see something like this happening to them but this girl sounds emotionally drained. There's someone out there that would genuinely appreciate her
There is never enough voices to show the love and the light that we need to be strong. I appreciate your passionate approach to serving and sharing your experiences. We all don't have to agree on everything but we need to master understanding and communication that will lead to love of each other. All the POWER My Brother !
Oh, Dr. John, you really nailed it in that she no longer trusts herself. I think that she likely feels that way. For me? I didn't trust my own judgement anymore. So I just never remarried. Now, I might. I'm finally over it.
RE: Estranged Dad's Funeral 1) If Stephanie decides to help, she can phone a crematory and have them pick up the body. Have him cremated, with no service. Then, when ready, hold a picnic in a park for his friends and your family. Call it a Celebration of Life. Hopefully, his Social Security will cover the cost of cremation. This is the least expensive way to do this, besides doing nothing. You might find out that there were people that appreciated him. Maybe he helped some people that needed it.
After being divorced for 5 years it is still tremendously helpful to hear this!! Thank you! If they really don’t apologize they don’t think they need to change. We were “in love”. And I had to walk away…it is still hard
You are a total gem!! I am sooo glad to have found you thru Dave Ramsey....your genuine love for your callers is palpable! Many blessings to you as this podcast and your fame grows.....
I was hoping I stumbled upon something that's been around a while so I could binge Dr. Delony content. Guess I'll have to wait and watch in real time. So glad this exists!
Great 1st episode!! I'm excited for your second episode! I'm glad you told that 1st caller the truth. I don't think her husband is being truthful and you're right - if she keeps sticking her hand in that bag - she's going to get the same outcome.
Good call. It's a sh!t situation but it's the high road with the love for someone that was struggling with addicting and communicating with words that are hard to explain.
I really thought this podcast would just be more finance but more emotional. I’m glad that it serves more the emotional side of life because I’ve always lacked the guidance and this is sort of filling in the gaps I’ve had in my upbringing.
call him. it all starts with you and get out of comfort zone important keep yourself healthy fit vary important just learn from your mistakes quit blaming people learn from your mistakes be strong❤
I needed this years ago before I married ( with undiagnosed adhd to someone who gave me a very unwanted twenty year education. In narcissism then set up his alibis before his big. dramatic discard ic me, that he made our teenagers watch). They will continue acting that way because it keeps people at a distance and keeps them from dealing with whatever madd them that way. Meanwhile. spouses, kids, etc. are churning in their wake as they hunt for another unwitting player.
You were talking about the best band and Poison came to my mind and then you said Poison!! Heck yeah!! Just saw them recently (2022) as a follow up to seeing them back in 1988!! Great band and great song to quote. Thank you for your words of wisdom🙏
I love this podcast Dr. John! I especially love your song of the days too, that's a great element, as I'm a music-fanatic! Dont' forget to reach down into the often-over-looked Contemporary Christian genre. That is a deep well of AMAZING songs, by artists who are in alignment with good values and higher purposes. Wishing you the best in this new journey, you are awesome!
@John Delony I recently moved out (into my camper relocated to a different location) after months in counseling with my partner. In March, an accident happened and caused me to spiral when feeling like I could be widowed for a second time in my life. 8 counseling sessions visibly unstable and the counselor’s responses was consistent “my priority is the relationship”. This resulted in no action or support and my decision for my own mental health was made. I have attempted to resolve our relationship while protecting my own mental health, but continue to be met with “I don’t know” after 6 months. Do you have recommendations for an individual to release this emotional attachment? I shared your “fire in the house” videos and was met with the response “it’s not my fault, I’m not the only person that should be making changes”
Funeral: there is an alternative. In Northern California, it's common to have the body cremated, and then to wait until spring or fall and have a get together, picnic style in a park, in order to show respect for the life that God gave the deceased. Often, it's called a "Celebration of life". A notice is put in a paper, or is done via phone! It's not expensive, and it doesn't have to be maudlin.
Great show. I don't know if you're better people than me for that, or if being poor and working so hard I risk illness is the reason, but if my father left me, gave me nothing but pain, I would forgive him, because he, too, was probably in pain. But I wouldn't pay for the funeral. I'd rather put that $2000 in the children's savings account of some sort. You didn't ask Tobe born. A parent who gives nothing but sperm and eggs isn't really a parent. Fluke of becoming pregnant is the reality, so the gift of life didn't come from him, but from some higher force or nature. I think that this country contributes to how healthy our society is. That's why the society as a whole should pay for funerals of our lost souls in this supposedly evolved society. This poor woman raised herself up from her pain. Congratulations, my lady. You owe no one nothing. My taxes pay for wars. So I don't mind at all paying alongside millions of other working Americans for the funeral of the man who had an ejaculations that started your life. I'm most interested in protecting the living and the life: you and your children. By the way, in case anyone needs to know, I had a truly amazing father who was terribly hurt as a child and throughout his life, and struggled also at times with an addiction. Yet he was a model father when he wasn't struggling, when he was struggling,and when he quit so that he can be a better father and a better man. So no, I am not a bitter child of another addict. I am a child of a loving traumatized man. Even if he didn't stop, I would forgive him, or if I had everything so much better than this lady, I believe I would have this same opinion. Maybe I would pay if I were rich and it meant absolutely nothing, but absolving the government of the burden, I hope you all are well. I love the show. Thank you all for this incredible work and material, and parts of your souls given to all for free.
My fiancée doesn’t know what he wants to do, and has not created any plan the past 8 years. He is responsible with money but he is selling his business soon with no plan on how he will earn money after that. Should I be worried? I graduated from college debt free and now pursuing my masters plus accounting certifications (that will be company paid) so I feel I have planned out my life. But he does not “like planning”. Is this a red flag? I don’t want to be controlling but I wish he had some sort of plan mapped out
I would leave the cheating man immediately. Don't put up with it. Are you not worried about catching diseases? Your children deserve a far better role model from a father.
If he has been with one women the marriage is over, if he’s been with 3 your completely naive and desperate if you think there is even .1 percent of him stopping, he will never stop no matter what he says he’s lying and if you believe him you deserve it, sorry to be so harsh and I know you have kids but it’s completely over
Im a senior highschool at my school..and in my class there so many toxic students..they like to tease me..i dont know whats to do..whether..should i just ignore them and let them be..even i feel hurt and sad because of their words?
Choose a hobby or a skill and Perfect it. If that’s a job, a hobby, a sport, college classes. Get great and leave them behind. Do u better and let them live in their misery. New friends will form with similar hobbies. Get a great job ( doesn’t mean high paying) and get friends there in same situation. Find a TH-cam channel and learn a. Skill or hobby. Start delivering food and groceries and smile and be professional and watch your bank account. Get creative and go for it. Be an adult and leave the children behind. U r ready. We are all valued, get in a situation where u r valued
I am a person who never knew how to or stood up for myself and in my older years I look back and regret it I realize now the best response to rude or cruel people picking on me is in a firm loud voice say - PLEASE JUST STOP I find now after doing this people are so taken aback to hear me speaking up they just shut up and respect me more!
Excited you’re starting this! Have really appreciated your wisdom on Dave Ramsey’s channel. In this video, unfortunate that you take God’s name in vain so much though. Otherwise, great start! Appreciate the righteous indignation with the ridiculous “he said he’s making progress” comment.
She already said she does not want to pay for the funeral it's more for the looks .what will people think of her..you know what you'll feel worst after paying for it if that was not your first instinct.The dead father knows himself what an asshole he was luckily I believe they are in the all knowing so no need for bullshit
The heck. Yeah she needs to leave her cheating husband. You don't think that's a health danger to herself and even her kids? I'd leave and not look a second back. If need help, churches are willing. If hers isn't, then find a church that actually does the Lord's work (taking care of widows/orphans/etc)
Super glad you started this podcast. You are appreciated and some wise and compassionate guidance can't ever hurt. Keep on...
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I've ben excited for this! John impressed me the moment he was introduced to Ramsey Solutions. A great addition to the team!
Congratulations on the podcast John! Will be tuning in!
Dr. Delony you are so right when you say this man made no progress. He's not utterly repentant AT ALL. He's playing games with her. He's not ready to turn over everything, an apology, his credit cards, his paycheck, he's not admitting he was wrong and he's going to do it again.
It's also a trust issue. It's not healthy to be a doormat. He obviously only asked for forgiveness after he got caught. Hold him accountable for his actions. If he doesn't seek counseling, kick him to the curb.
Actually feel bad for this woman. What a shame. I've heard hundreds of people where I can see something like this happening to them but this girl sounds emotionally drained. There's someone out there that would genuinely appreciate her
There is never enough voices to show the love and the light that we need to be strong. I appreciate your passionate approach to serving and sharing your experiences. We all don't have to agree on everything but we need to master understanding and communication that will lead to love of each other. All the POWER My Brother !
Oh, Dr. John, you really nailed it in that she no longer trusts herself. I think that she likely feels that way.
For me? I didn't trust my own judgement anymore.
So I just never remarried. Now, I might. I'm finally over it.
RE: Estranged Dad's Funeral
1) If Stephanie decides to help, she can phone a crematory and have them pick up the body. Have him cremated, with no service. Then, when ready,
hold a picnic in a park for his friends and your family.
Call it a Celebration of Life.
Hopefully, his Social Security will cover the cost of cremation.
This is the least expensive way to do this, besides doing nothing.
You might find out that there were people that appreciated him. Maybe he helped some people that needed it.
Can you address, bullies at work, looking for solutions, hard to go to management when it a very tight click of people.
Gary Thompson's book "when to walk away" is a must!
John is so right. Get your finances together, get a team behind you, plan your exit strategy and see a lawyer.
After being divorced for 5 years it is still tremendously helpful to hear this!! Thank you! If they really don’t apologize they don’t think they need to change. We were “in love”. And I had to walk away…it is still hard
You are a total gem!! I am sooo glad to have found you thru Dave Ramsey....your genuine love for your callers is palpable! Many blessings to you as this podcast and your fame grows.....
I was hoping I stumbled upon something that's been around a while so I could binge Dr. Delony content. Guess I'll have to wait and watch in real time. So glad this exists!
I listen everyday. And this one is the one I’ve been needing most. Thank you Dr. John.
Great 1st episode!! I'm excited for your second episode! I'm glad you told that 1st caller the truth. I don't think her husband is being truthful and you're right - if she keeps sticking her hand in that bag - she's going to get the same outcome.
She is trapped in a bad and situation.His advice is spot on.
Good call. It's a sh!t situation but it's the high road with the love for someone that was struggling with addicting and communicating with words that are hard to explain.
you're doing a great job, JD. You are in your element here!
Jessica got us all fired up 🔥
You rock Dr. John!
He is NOT changing. You aren't changing him. If you can live with that - stay :)
I really thought this podcast would just be more finance but more emotional. I’m glad that it serves more the emotional side of life because I’ve always lacked the guidance and this is sort of filling in the gaps I’ve had in my upbringing.
We appreciate you Dr. JOHN!
We need to hear the hard truth
And need to hear the honesry!
🙏🙏🙏
Thank you John. This is my new favourite channel. Thank you for your sound advice and empathy is delivering your advice. Thank you so much!
Congrats on your new podcast John! You are going to change so many lives for the better with this show!
I like this guy. I'd love for him to tell me like it is...I know I need it
call him. it all starts with you and get out of comfort zone important keep yourself healthy fit vary important just learn from your mistakes quit blaming people learn from your mistakes be strong❤
Seriously excited for this video. Could not be better timing!
Thank you Dr. John.
I'm so glad I discovered you and yourchannel! Wisdom, paired with keeping it real, makes it easy to listen and appreciate what you have to say.
Thank you Dr. Delony. I've shared with all my friends and family!
Great show today, and I still enjoy those 80’s-90’s rockers like Poison too.
This is so sad. I’m sorry, Jessica, that you are going through this. Protect yourself and leave.
Great Show John!
Always picking relevant helpful topics. Thank you.
Yes! I love Poison and the song “something to believe in”
What a great bio! I have been listening now for some time, what a great mission.
I needed this years ago before I married ( with undiagnosed adhd to someone who gave me a very unwanted twenty year education. In narcissism then set up his alibis before his big. dramatic discard ic me, that he made our teenagers watch).
They will continue acting that way because it keeps people at a distance and keeps them from dealing with whatever madd them that way. Meanwhile. spouses, kids, etc. are churning in their wake as they hunt for another unwitting player.
Coming back to these is so cool great job
Idk... Think young "Frasier" without Roz. Would love Dr D with a sidekick. Lol Great first episode! I look forward to the next episode! 😍
POISON!! YESSSSSS!!!!!!! Best band EVER!
Nope! Guns N Roses is the best Band ever!!!
You were talking about the best band and Poison came to my mind and then you said Poison!! Heck yeah!! Just saw them recently (2022) as a follow up to seeing them back in 1988!! Great band and great song to quote. Thank you for your words of wisdom🙏
You had me dying on the CrossFit article 🤣
Yep! The gravelly macho voice cracked me up.
Welcome and thank you.
Great, really great! Thank you so much!
Greetings from Belgium 💝🐴🌹
CAN’T WAIT!!!
Awesome show John! And Poison is one of the best bands ever (we must be about the same age, lol)! 👍
Digging the background wall
This is going to be amazing!
I was cracking up at the CrossFit part 🤣🤣
good stuff
I cant wait!
Bout to go visit family and saw this title and thought “I need this! How did he know?”
I love your podcast
Woah what a first call to kickoff.
I love this podcast Dr. John! I especially love your song of the days too, that's a great element, as I'm a music-fanatic! Dont' forget to reach down into the often-over-looked Contemporary Christian genre. That is a deep well of AMAZING songs, by artists who are in alignment with good values and higher purposes. Wishing you the best in this new journey, you are awesome!
Really cool guy! Great edition to the line up
Judging on how young John looks, he must have stated his counseling practice when he was 12!
I CANT WAIT!
He’s a modern day Frasier Crane!
Hahaha
Good podcast!!!
@John Delony I recently moved out (into my camper relocated to a different location) after months in counseling with my partner. In March, an accident happened and caused me to spiral when feeling like I could be widowed for a second time in my life. 8 counseling sessions visibly unstable and the counselor’s responses was consistent “my priority is the relationship”. This resulted in no action or support and my decision for my own mental health was made.
I have attempted to resolve our relationship while protecting my own mental health, but continue to be met with “I don’t know” after 6 months.
Do you have recommendations for an individual to release this emotional attachment? I shared your “fire in the house” videos and was met with the response “it’s not my fault, I’m not the only person that should be making changes”
Yes!!!!!
Please cut music sooner🥰🥰 great talk dr d!!
Right! Wht is it with the Dave Ramsey team that just LOVE to have super loud intro music!?!? Lol 😅🤦🏽♂️
I love your show. I absolutely wish you could council me and my daughter.
Your relationship advice is always helping and relating to me. Thank you
stay healthy dont do drugs or drink alot workout good for the mind
Everybody knows the best band is Iron Maiden ;-) Love the show!!!
Very helpful! Maybe I should have that in my VIDS🙂
I believe she KNOWS the right answer for her and her children. She just doesn't want or have the resources to do it. Still, that too is a choice.
Why??? Do these men get married and drag children into this then treat them like this stay single
For funeral costs pay your 1/3 or set amount. But yes you do not have to pay.
Thinking of all the questions I can ask you!
That's right she's not going anywhere.... sad
No forgiveness on cheating and abuse. The more you forgive the more you give up yourself, the more he will abuse/cheat you.
RUN and DIVORCE.
Funeral: there is an alternative. In Northern California, it's common to have the body cremated, and then to wait until spring or fall and have a get together, picnic style in a park, in order to show respect for the life that God gave the deceased.
Often, it's called a "Celebration of life". A notice is put in a paper, or is done via phone! It's not expensive, and it doesn't have to be maudlin.
he needs to go. no good sob. he will NOT. change no way i could be with him again start a new life ❤
John’s intro song is so much better than Baker Street
I lost everybody that I have known! This croon virus wiped everything I had!
I'll speak for John. This marriage is ruined and you should end it.
Great show.
I don't know if you're better people than me for that, or if being poor and working so hard I risk illness is the reason, but if my father left me, gave me nothing but pain, I would forgive him, because he, too, was probably in pain. But I wouldn't pay for the funeral. I'd rather put that $2000 in the children's savings account of some sort. You didn't ask Tobe born. A parent who gives nothing but sperm and eggs isn't really a parent. Fluke of becoming pregnant is the reality, so the gift of life didn't come from him, but from some higher force or nature. I think that this country contributes to how healthy our society is. That's why the society as a whole should pay for funerals of our lost souls in this supposedly evolved society. This poor woman raised herself up from her pain. Congratulations, my lady. You owe no one nothing. My taxes pay for wars. So I don't mind at all paying alongside millions of other working Americans for the funeral of the man who had an ejaculations that started your life.
I'm most interested in protecting the living and the life: you and your children.
By the way, in case anyone needs to know, I had a truly amazing father who was terribly hurt as a child and throughout his life, and struggled also at times with an addiction. Yet he was a model father when he wasn't struggling, when he was struggling,and when he quit so that he can be a better father and a better man. So no, I am not a bitter child of another addict. I am a child of a loving traumatized man. Even if he didn't stop, I would forgive him, or if I had everything so much better than this lady, I believe I would have this same opinion. Maybe I would pay if I were rich and it meant absolutely nothing, but absolving the government of the burden, I hope you all are well.
I love the show. Thank you all for this incredible work and material, and parts of your souls given to all for free.
My fiancée doesn’t know what he wants to do, and has not created any plan the past 8 years. He is responsible with money but he is selling his business soon with no plan on how he will earn money after that. Should I be worried? I graduated from college debt free and now pursuing my masters plus accounting certifications (that will be company paid) so I feel I have planned out my life. But he does not “like planning”. Is this a red flag? I don’t want to be controlling but I wish he had some sort of plan mapped out
"progress"
I would leave the cheating man immediately. Don't put up with it. Are you not worried about catching diseases? Your children deserve a far better role model from a father.
If he has been with one women the marriage is over, if he’s been with 3 your completely naive and desperate if you think there is even .1 percent of him stopping, he will never stop no matter what he says he’s lying and if you believe him you deserve it, sorry to be so harsh and I know you have kids but it’s completely over
AND you appreciate Poison?!?! Sold.
Once a cheater always a cheater whether it’s a man or woman
I love your 'macho buzz" voice when reading that dumb, bozo brained iCross Fit thing.
i bet she takes him back. he will try to sweet talk and manipulate he WILL do it again move on honey
Im a senior highschool at my school..and in my class there so many toxic students..they like to tease me..i dont know whats to do..whether..should i just ignore them and let them be..even i feel hurt and sad because of their words?
Call the cops
Huh...
Choose a hobby or a skill and Perfect it. If that’s a job, a hobby, a sport, college classes. Get great and leave them behind. Do u better and let them live in their misery. New friends will form with similar hobbies. Get a great job ( doesn’t mean high paying) and get friends there in same situation. Find a TH-cam channel and learn a. Skill or hobby. Start delivering food and groceries and smile and be professional and watch your bank account. Get creative and go for it. Be an adult and leave the children behind. U r ready. We are all valued, get in a situation where u r valued
@@donotrobme9295 thank you i will take that advice
I am a person who never knew how to or stood up for myself and in my older years I look back and regret it I realize now the best response to rude or cruel people picking on me is in a firm loud voice say - PLEASE JUST STOP I find now after doing this people are so taken aback to hear me speaking up they just shut up and respect me more!
Hey bro .you know Dr joe beam? Hes good friends with dave ramsey
Isn’t immediate family legally obligated to pay for funeral costs?
Excited you’re starting this! Have really appreciated your wisdom on Dave Ramsey’s channel. In this video, unfortunate that you take God’s name in vain so much though. Otherwise, great start! Appreciate the righteous indignation with the ridiculous “he said he’s making progress” comment.
Not only is he bringing infidelity into the marriage, but also he is risking her life and health because of the risk of getting STDs from a prostitute
They really had you in a basement office huh Bud? 🤣
Jesus needs to watch 'Regarding Henry' , with Harrison Ford and Annette Bening.
❤️
I would not pay for the funeral!
She already said she does not want to pay for the funeral it's more for the looks .what will people think of her..you know what you'll feel worst after paying for it if that was not your first instinct.The dead father knows himself what an asshole he was luckily I believe they are in the all knowing so no need for bullshit
Leave
The heck. Yeah she needs to leave her cheating husband. You don't think that's a health danger to herself and even her kids? I'd leave and not look a second back. If need help, churches are willing. If hers isn't, then find a church that actually does the Lord's work (taking care of widows/orphans/etc)
13:10
Triggered!!!!