I'm turning 27 this march! Never had a boyfriend and still a virgin too! Its great to see a lot of us that haven't given in to pressure of society on us and are going at our own pace because no one can decide our own journey for us, everything happens in its own time❤
I’m 31, I’m a virgin and I have never had a boyfriend🙋🏽♀️. My aunt told me during Christmas last year that I should go to a sperm bank and have a baby🤦🏽♀️. She said that I’m getting older and it’s going to be harder for me to get pregnant the more time I waist. She also said that if I have a baby it would make my mom happy. I told her respectfully, I don’t care about anyone’s happiness but my own. And why would you want me to be a single mother and go through the same things you, my mom, other aunts, and cousins have and still are going through. Because y’all’s way of dating and dealing with men ain’t working. Let👏🏾 me 👏🏾do 👏🏾me 👏🏾Please !!! Thank you for sharing and letting me know I’m not the only one 💛💛💛 Update: it’s been a week since I posted this comment and I’m still not changing my mind😂. If you don’t agree with me it’s ok, and I still respect your opinion, but I’m going to be me regardless 💅🏽. So if you disagree you can still comment but I’m not reading it respectfully. And for all the people who agree with me / support me Thank you sincerely 💛💛💛💛
Literally!!! Yes like just mind your business if you’re not going to say something positive or constructive 🤫 they want you to end up in the same situations they were in smh I talk about that in Part 2!
@@adoseofsymone Some of my friends are just as bad, they want me to just lose my v- card to anyone who gives me attention. And when I tell them that God didn’t put that in the plan for me they think I’m crazy and say it’s no big deal. They don’t understand that I’m in no rush and that I’m on God’s timing. I’m going to check out part 2 now 💛
Or they think that you’re trying to be “better than them” or something and I’m like I’m just doing things the way God wants me to 😭 I promise I’m not even thinking about you lol
@@adoseofsymone Yes, I think people fear that our way of waiting and choosing the right men might actually be the answer for the time and the world we live in today. And that would mean they would have to be disciplined (standing on business as the young kids say lol) and listen to God , let him guide you. They don’t want our way to work because their way of doing things is easier.
I don't think it's a bad thing.. 1 God is protecting you. 2 When you live in the world you will get consequences of the world. Many women and men have stepped out of God will and got pregnant or caught std's . That's something ppl don't talk about but it's happening and ppl want to pretend like it don't exist. 3 God has a special man for you. 4 Rejection is God protection and redirection. Don't feel like you missing out. Let me ask you a question, Does God exist? Does he not have wisdom? Waiting is hard because I'm there too, but we must remain faithful for his timing. Girl you are a gem. The guys who dont see your value is because they were not meant for you. God can hide precious things in plain sight.
PERFECTLY SAID!!! I’ve also never had a BF and everything you’ve said here has been revealed in my life many many times 🙌🏾🥹 I’m so happy to have seen this comment and come across this video 😭👏🏾
Oh my goodness. I’ll be turning 30 in April and I’m in the *exact* situation. Attractive, never been on a “real” date, virgin, never had a boyfriend, black woman. Never having a partner (which is different than just being single) sucks even more when you’re considered attractive, because people start asking questions the older you get. Thank you for uploading this, I’ve felt so alone for a very long time.
This is exactly WHY I uploaded! Thank you for watching 🥰 the sad thing is, if I was deemed “unattractive” then everyone would all of a sudden “get it”. They’d be like “aw that makes sense. Poor you” basically but because I’m perceived as conventionally attractive it’s “omg she must be crazy then” or something similar 🤦🏽♀️ people are weird girl lol don’t compromise yourself and your values for anyone. Ever. People are gonna talk crap either way honestly. But at least you’ll know the truth.
Girllllll you are literally so beautiful! It’s hard to believe you never have had a boyfriend! But God is really protecting you! I know God has the most amazing man for you! If I could go back in time I would have never rushed into relationships because I feel like I did so much unnecessary damage to myself and having to heal. I find myself yearning for a relationship so be glad you never made the same mistakes I did!
Aw thank you 🥹 I just know God is going to show off when it comes to my husband 😩 just trying to wait patiently haha but I’m glad you’re healing though girl! Thats not a small feat
I’m turning 27 this year and I’ve never had one either. In fact, I’m still a “v”. It almost seems as if no one takes me seriously. I’m considered too “boring” because I’m more introverted and a homebody. They all want one thing and I want someone who sees me more than what’s below. It gets lonely at times because I feel like I’m dependent on friends and family to keep me company which gets annoying I’m sure. I’m not asking for a lot from these men but dating has become extremely hard.
I understand all TOO well, but it will pay off in the end 🥰 you’re avoiding a bunch of unwanted struggle and heart break by waiting for and choosing the right partner.
I lost my "virginity" at 26 and I don't regret a thing. I'm glad I waited until I was ready and I was with someone I trusted and felt safe enough with. I'm 30 years old now and no longer with him but he was a gentleman.
I'm 28 turning 29 this year and I have never had a boyfriend and I'm a virgin. I'm glad there are others that are prioritizing themselves. What's for you is for you!
Keep on your path, loving yourself, and putting God first. You will be the voice for women in your generation when it is manifested! This is so refreshing! ❤️
I feel you sis, As a black man, I appreciate your vulnerability. Most definitely live your life, work on yourself, Put yourself in places were you would most likely find your soulmate, be you, You are a rare breed! If I had a daughter that is exactly what I’ll teach her which is to never compromise your values. Have so much respect for you!
Ain’t no fun in loving, if you loving alone. How does it feel to be useless? All alone … she said she wants a god fearing man. That type of guy doesn’t move in bad faith about relationships. He would never say, “be happy alone”. Instead, he would say “get married”!!!
I am also 30 and have the exact same experience. I thank you for putting this on the internet, to validate me not being the only one, cause ppl seem concerned when I tell them lol. It’s definitely gnna work out, like it always does.
@@adoseofsymone hmmm, God is not mocked, you can't see men as the problem and expect to get one. What you need is to work on your mind and if you are truly leaving it to the will of God and not some sort of idol you believe you deserve you would open yourself to the option of marrying outside your age range if that is the will of God for you as a Christian woman. You have to understand the reality also that the older you get as a woman, the tougher it becomes to get a man around your age because men are fertile for life and typically go for younger, fertile, feminine, and submissive women. It has been like that since Bible time, that is why Adam existed physically for a time before Eve.
I’m also 30 and never had a boyfriend! I honestly resonate with you so much. Gods timing is perfect and I know we will eventually find our other half ❤
why do you think you never had a BF? just asking because, i've always found it more shocking for a woman to have never had a relationship before by a certain age than the other way around, since women don't have to do the pursuing or asking out, approaching, like men always have.
I’m almost 40 and have never had a boyfriend.💯❤️💯 What’s for you will always find you so keep on living your best life until then.👌🏽💛💯 God has got us queen! 🙏🏽 Just subscribed 🙌🏽
What have YOU done to FIND that man??? GOD GIVES OPPORTUNITIES, 33 years later, talking bout GOD is preparing.....he's been giving you opportunities, DUMB BLACK WOMAN waiting on an idea to provide......DUMB BLACK WOMAN
cap and cope. the right one wont fall out of the sky on your lap just because you waiting. You have to go out and get yours, waiting wont work and hell never come
I don’t blame you girl! Although I’m still young I’m 23 but I never ever had a boyfriend or ever been in a date lol 😭 you’re def not alone! I think god just wants you to be aware and head straight to where u should be destined too! You’re very beautiful so it’s definitely just timing at this point! ❤❤
Girl you ain't missed nothing out here. It's a pure blessing to never had a boyfriend or have any kids. Overall peace without the emotional and mental baggage. Keep living in your peace of mind. There's nothing but crazy unemotional nut jobs out here.
@@magnetcrusher1193 Ya’ll stay running that line but the truth is a good solid man is a unicorn these days, a vast collection of men in the west are pwrn addicts, no life no ambition having gamers, cheaters, have mental and emotions defects, live by the streets or street mentality, have LOW emotional intelligence and are on a mother to wife care taker pipeline. Tbh it is no real benefit being with men at this age in their personal and spiritual development because they are lagging heavily behind and need help A lot of men intuitively know what women bring to the table yet are never satisfied or expect more. Being with men is never 50/50 women always contribute more
That’s right! Don’t waste your time. I am celibate and the happiest I have ever been. I am divorced and tbh marriage was torture. Single women should save themselves and find joy in hobbies, activities and a great career! Don’t fall for the propaganda.
One reason why a man might not approach a woman is because he thinks she's so beautiful that she must already have a boyfriend or is way out of his league, so nothing ever happens. The women starts to wonder if there is something wrong with her. Of course, it could be that the man has little to no confidence in himself. Asking someone out takes a lot of guts and he needs to be ready for possible rejection. Men also might not know how to approach a woman since we don't want to come across as bothering you at work or be creepy.
in my experience, it's actually a blessing. You get to know yourself without another person influencing your sense of self and save your self from heartbreak. I know women who never recovered from heart break in their twenties.
I’ve never had a bf either at 36! It’s not hard to be partnered - I’m done with online. I have Decentered men and I am trusting Gid for whatever the path is. Ladies, keep your standards and center God and yourself! Love y’all ❤❤❤
Have you ever thought that maybe the reason you were unhappy married was because you were not in love with your husband. Or maybe he was boring as person
I love this! My daughter is almost 30 and never had a boyfriend either. She is very content, happy and is not in a rush. If only I had it to do all over again, lol.
Literally sameeee but I’m 28. I hate when people say “oh you must be picky or your standards are too high” but it’s really slim pickings out here and those pickings have been picked over. I’m sick of hearing the same things in different fonts in my dms! 😩😭
I’ll be 30 soon too. Completely understand your struggle. A lot of the men I’ve dated lack substance & leadership qualities. My barometer question is always, “If this man was my child’s father, would I be embarrassed 🙈?”
Gotta also ask yourself, "If I was the mother of this man's child, would he be embarrassed?". Even when someone seems right for you, the relationship can also fail if you're not right for them. Goes both ways, but people often tend to overlook that
thank you very much. I blame this on men not being picky, some women think they can have any man anytime they wish. The reality is WOMEN are known to have a hard time choosing anything until they're about to lose that choice/power.@@MusicLover-yo6uv
@@avidyoutubewatcherr Just because she has sense and people like to play reverse psychology when you do think. I also ask myself can I see myself having kids with a man.
Sis you are me 😂 I felt everything you said in this video! I'm about to be 31 next month, never had a bf & I have things that I want to do or accomplish while I'm single. Plus, the Bible tells women who are unmarried/virgins to dedicate their time to serving the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:34). Thanks for sharing your perspective on this. ❤
The first reason you gave I instantly subscribed. We are living the same life, except I am 26! Side note: YOU ARE STUNNING! Plus that dm started off so harmless then BAM! Men are so unserious, and they have gotten especially unserious in the last decade, and I simply don't tolerate it. My soul is as free and light as ever. I have no baggage, trauma; truly all I have is positive vibes. That's not to say my sis and bros that are carrying all that are to blame, but I truly believe you can avoid a lot of trauma by not jumping at every inkling of attention. I know people have a lot to say about me since they don't know much, but let them assume. Yes I am a nun, yes I'm approaching 30 and don't have no prospective men lined up or kids..assume away. Before I used to be bothered about people making their little comments; since turning 25 i don't give a rat's ass about what anyone has to chime in.
Girl good. I wish I was like you. I had my first bf when I was 18. First kiss at 18, baby by 19, single mom by 20. The next decade of my life was a struggle while bd was on to the next. All the men I met in my 20s were not close to my new Godly standards. I gave my life to God at 22. I cried to God for YEARS for a good husband. I finally met my hubs at 33, married at 34, pregnant again at 35. God is worth waiting on. My husband is worth more to me than gold. He’s perfect and I wish I waited for him. A good man is hard to come by. Wait on the Lord! It’s worth it!!!
Wow, your testimony is amazing. I’ll be 24 in March and have been a “v” my whole life. I used to feel like something was wrong w/ me because men don’t hit on me in real life. I see I’m not missing out on much. I want to wait for my husband, I don’t have time for regrets lol😂
Just turned 30 this year.. everything that you are saying is valid.. yes being by yourself can get lonely at times but it’s not worth sharing/wasting your energy with people who went on the same mindset/path that you are on..🥂 keep living Life💯🥂
34 still a virgin, had a gf once, but realized it wasn't the right time. Didn't look for another one, decided to focus on personal work, and it's looking good, best investment I've ever made.
All the things you said she “missed out on” are a part of Life. That is how you learn what to keep and what to throw out. Marriage is not bliss; it compromises and adjustments. If you have never had a serious relationship, how will you handle the stresses of the most important relationship you will have with another person?
@@crystalvouse6435 Life has suffering. There is no way to avoid it. Even if you have a loving relationship, one of you will die and leave the other. That is painful too. I just lost my wife of 33 years a few months ago.
@@sevenstarsofthedipper1047she doesnt want to go through the struggles that come with relationships thats why she is choosing to be single lol why cant yall grasp that simple concept . Ive dated and had relationships and im on that same wave , single . Im not built to deal with all that comes with a man so im choosing to be single . Problem solved
Same boat I’m 27 and Muslim and I believe in Gods timing. I feel the pressure but I’m okay and happy. Sometimes I get sad and lonely but I know I’m covered
This is why I’m happy I gave my life to God personally and that I’m continuing to remain a virgin until marriage. I made the mistake of telling a group of “peers” that I was a virgin and waiting, and they laughed at me. Audibly. The pickmeishas and the dusties. They told me that I need to ‘test the car before I buy’ or ‘settle for a average man’ or ‘you’ll get married by 40’. Conforming to wordly measures is no longer a priority to me. The Bible says that for men to love their wives like they love the church and God, wholeheartedly and strongly, and for the wives to respect their husbands. And until then, no man will have any part of my body or soul unless said man is a husband. Amen.
Nope! Your doing right love! by choosing to remain single until you find quality instead of just settling for who ever , remember misery loves company pickme women and dusties dont even value themselves.
The passage of scripture says husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church. More of us men need to know that virgins that are of marriage age still exist !
I'm 32 and I never had a boyfriend too. Because I have the same preferences as you sis. A man without God is a big No. I can live without a man but not without God ❤ And we have standards sis.... not just standards but godly standards. And also not desperate for a man. We will wait for our time I'm sure God's timing and plans are greater and wonderful than ours.
Alot of women in my family have been saying the same thing for years (in their 50s + its sad)...god has nothing to do with anything 😓..I hope black people wake up..😓😓
Girl you and me both. I turned 30 2 months ago and never had a boyfriend. People don't expect it because I'm an extrovert. Oh shoot I see you moved to Colombia, yusss 🙌🏾
It's so refreshing to see these kinds of conversations be normalized now. When I was in my 20s in the 2010s I felt like a freak. Like there was something wrong with me for never having been in a relationship. I mean.....movies where we laugh at people who never had sex like "The 40 Year Old Virgin" were normalized. I feel a lot less alone now.
I am 38 years old and I have never had a girlfriend in my whole life. Now, it's not as painful as before because I got used to it. But just few years ago I was suffering, it was hard for me to be alone. No one to hold your hand, no kisses, no love, no nothing. I thought there was a problem with me. In a period of my life I just wanted to have an experience with just any girl, but God stopped this project the same day and I finally did nothing. So, I knew that this is not for me, maybe God has an other much better plan for me. I pray that God will help me to strengthen my patience and self control. Glory to God. May God bless you all.
Your situation is a lot more common than you think. Some people just live in the moment and don't feel pressured to be in a relationship especially if they haven't come into contact with someone compatible.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm 33 and have never been in a relationship. You can feel so alone and like a freak of nature sometimes. I found you so relatable and I'm so grateful I stumbled across this video. God Bless❤
I find it so refreshing and honest to hear a young woman who isn’t feeling pressured by society! Truly a rarity today. I agree, there isn’t any rush like people say, no need to kiss a bunch of “frogs” to find your Prince Charming lol so keep your standards, stay lovely, and I’m looking forward to keeping up with your journey to see how things work out! 😊
YOU ARE ONE OF THE WISEST LADIES I HAVE SEEN ON TH-cam.... Being yourself should be something primitive in our lives...don't rush or be so desperate for a relationship because your friends are in relationships or the whole thing amuses you... Seriously a lot of ladies out there have to hear you out...I am going to share the link to the video around and oh...you just got one subscriber.. Listening to wise stuffs like these makes us informed...thanks...
the 'let me call god on his personal cell' is the perfect response! def stealing that lol. v refreshing video, halfway thru my 20s and feeling the pressure already smh
Yesss I completely agree with you I’m the same way and I’m 22. It’s a blessing to be single and learn yourself and know your standards. And it makes it easier to focus on God wholeheartedly. 🙏
I never had standards before so I’ve dated quite a few men but they all treated me like crap so myself esteem became lower than ever but now that I’ve been single for a few years I’m happier than ever before 🥰#selflovefirst#🥰
I'll be 27 in May and never had a girlfriend, it bothers me at times because I want to have that experience but I know when day I'll have that experience
Me neither, ive never found them to be relationship material, just wild animals lollll. However looking at other women's experiences you're not only dodging bullets but keeping your peace. Good luck girl!
Yes omg I was shocked how many people are relating in the comments actually lol like I knew we existed but the video is reaching it’s target audience lol
Love your sense of humor! And yes, stressing about waiting does no good. God doesn't withhold _any_ good thing from us, so faithfulness is the way👍He got us
Same. This message is hidden and it causes some to rush things as they feel like they are "missing" out. I am glad you had the courage to get this discussion in the public space. God bless
Lol men can't get no love or empathy? A man thats 30 and never had a girlfriend will get shit on by women 😂 y'all would say its because theres something wrong with them or they're gay 😂 I hear it all the time. "Oh you've never had a girlfriend? RED FLAG! You have commitment issues. Or you're undesirable you need to lower your standards" 😂 thats what I always hear lol
bro you a baddie & haven't been touched 😂you a rare gem. But facts with obedience i promise God gone send Mr. Right forsure. Patience is everything rn, just continue to live life sis. Real love through God gone be a magical feeling.
Same! I'm turning 30 in May (1994 Gang!) and I never had a boyfriend hell I never really been on a date either I never thought I would come across a video like this and others in comment going through the same thing! Thanks for this video.
I understand your sentiments completely. You often think something is wrong with because people see you, but you still feel hidden. Just know God is preparing an environment where you can thrive with your purpose partner. He's working on him just like he's working on you. Just continue to pour in to yourself as well as your relationship with God and those you care about (friends and family). And in the right time, you two will cross paths, and things will flow.
Since you started with religion I suggest you widen the net and try African and Caribbean churches. Finally you could make a trip to the continent. All the best dear and greetings from Ghana.
I got my first boyfriend at 30. And now we are married almost 4 years together. My husband- God fearing Christian, actually truly loves the Lord. Girl you are on the right path, may God send you him in the right time!!!
I’m praying to God to find a lady like Symone to be my future wife. I’m also 35 and in the military. I’m single with no children. My family keeps telling me I’m getting old and I should get married. I always tell them, I’m waiting on God’s time. My background is from Ghana 🇬🇭 west Africa but have been living in America almost half of my life. Y’all should keep me in your prayers .
Hey, just saying hello from one digital nomad to another (I'm a Black Brit based in Africa)! It's wild that you're 30 and have never had a boyfriend. I am beginning to notice this trend form among more women over time. I think that as more men continue to drop out of the mating market, more women find themselves accepting the role of sidechick or FB to what's left of the men in the market with dating potential. All of this equals fewer opportunities for women to find exclusive romantic partners. It first really hit me when I bumped into a 50-something British woman who was a lone-traveller, and she told me that she had her first experience living with a man when she was in her late 40s! Anyway, I wish you the best of luck in finding your match soon!
I think that it may be tied to a lack of exposure to positive male role models. A lot of these women grew up without fathers in their live and might be less familiar with the warm, non-sexual love and protection lots of dads provide.@@PeterSchramm3
Once you said God fearing man immediately your pool drops extremely low. I’m in the same boat with you! 😅 dating Gods way will have be you barely dating at all!
@@adoseofsymonearound 60 percent of the US is Christian(especially in the black community)...how is it a small pool?? ......now if ur a black athiest then its small ..😅 im a athiest and its tough😅😅
if 60% of the US is christian, for numbers sake, lets assume half of them are men. that's already only 30% of the population. then take out the people that are too young for you, too old for you, are already married or in relationships, take out the people that are "christians" but hate black people lol, take out some people who are gay, and some people that maybe just aren't interested and then you'll understand why the actual pool of available men that like women is so small lol plus a lot of people say they're christian but they're not actively living a Christ-like lifestyle and that's important too.
@@adoseofsymone you know how many women are twerkin on only fans saying God first on Sundays..lol..most women that say they are Christian aren't Christian-like themselves..lol everyone is becoming less religious.. the real reason it's hard to find a 100% Christian is because everyone men and women alike are waking up to the lie about a man walking on water... The black community is finally waking up.. There's so many women out there talking about i need a god fearing man ( its sad how many older black women are saying this while wasting away..) yall are missing out on so many marriage opportunities over an ideology that literaly doesn't have ANY empirical evidence to support it You go to any black church and all you'll see is divorced older women (waiting on God for their next husband) ill never understand how people can cling on to a book (white people gave them a while ago) so strongly...black women are mainly the only group of women running their husband's off in the name of religion 😓😓..and the stats blatantly reflect what I'm saying...🤷♂️
@@adoseofsymone you just highlighted the reason so many black women are in church divorced....almost all the women in my life say the same thing (waiting on God for my man) (or a god fearing man) how Christian does he have to be😅😅😅.. Its sad because black women specifically run their husband's away in the name of religion over a book ( that white people gave us a while ago) that has not an ounce of empirical evidence😐😐 The reason it's hard to find a "god fearing man" or women YES women also (twerkin on onlyfans claiming god first) is because everyone is becoming more educated Simply people are finally saying to themselves maybe just maybe.. the whole "a man walked on water" thing is made up and maybe a snake didn't talk eve God has nothing to do with it (just look at the divorce rates when it comes to Christian marriages (black women are the least likely to get/stay married yet the most religious) if that doesn't open ur eyes nothin will... religion really is man's most powerful creation..its so powerful that Muslim women are convinced that they have to cover their whole bodies while living in the middle eastern heat😐😐...wake up ya'll religion is a tool created by rulers long before u were born (by people with WAY higher IQs than you)🤷♂️🤷♂️.. Black people don't want to hear the Bible is fake tho.....like the 48 laws of power suggest...people are conformable with the lie, not the truth .....(the Bible was created for the majority not the minority rulers) and it was/is the most successful tool ever created.. good luck waiting on "God" for the perfect man tho😅😅
Men are just scary. I’m still young 23 haven’t been in a relationship but I can say I’ve been involved with a few men and I’m still healing from those few interactions from even associating with them. People call me picky and I’m like I really don’t require a lot but THESE men really aren’t even hitting the minimum requirementssss 😭😭😭
"Some reason", No one approaches because, most times as boys we be thinking 'damn she too hot, she'll regret me' or 'ohh she'll require high maintanance, I can't afford that' , 'I'm sacred of beautiful women', the most that makes us not approach, 'Arhh nah, she too beatiful to be single, so she's taken'. 😓, but eyy after watching this I think i'ma start approaching coz it seems like them most beautiful are single coz men don't wanna approach coz of those reasons.
I am 32 and I never had anyone that sincerely love me, want to get to know or date me. I am a good person that don't have time for mess. I have goals and standards. #Just Fed up with games 🙄😒
GOD BLESS YOU! Don’t listen to anyone!!!! Seriously. You are good 👌🏾Do not listen to anyone about this life decision!!!! God will send you the person. Do not let people tell you what time certain things in life are supposed to happen. Others are jealous they didn’t do it like you are! I PROMISE YOU!!!
Are you me?! 😂Also turning 30 this year, no boyfriends, can count dates on one hand, and just haven't found anyone who appeals to me. While I'm open to a relationship, I'm starting to wonder if I'm even meant to be in one. I'd also like a God-fearing man, but I don't want kids. It's just not on my heart. So I don't mind if I never get married, and I know God will guide my steps toward what He wants for me, marriage or not.
I’m 34 and never had been in a relationship because these dudes out here…I’m going to be nice and say they lacking in a lot of areas and before I settle down, I want to make sure I don’t end up in divorce court a day after the wedding 🙃
I like how secure you are about your single and virgin status as a 30 yo. It’s nice to see that you know what kind of guy you want. I’m in my 30s, dated once and it was the worst experience. I rushed into it b/c I overlooked red flags and felt pressured to find someone by family. I also didn’t want to be like someone ik who’s 38 and never dated and feared ending up alone and society looking down on me. Be careful who you bring into your life and don’t rush.
I'm turning 27 this march! Never had a boyfriend and still a virgin too! Its great to see a lot of us that haven't given in to pressure of society on us and are going at our own pace because no one can decide our own journey for us, everything happens in its own time❤
I’ve known a couple other virgins irl but apparently there are A LOT of us lol
This is great, I wish there was more women like you and her when I was growing up, stay blessed.
God's gone strike you down at heaven gates talking you a virgin lol
I just turned 27, same
Ill be 27 this April, and Virgin..well i hv online bf n we r getting married this yr
I’m 31, I’m a virgin and I have never had a boyfriend🙋🏽♀️. My aunt told me during Christmas last year that I should go to a sperm bank and have a baby🤦🏽♀️. She said that I’m getting older and it’s going to be harder for me to get pregnant the more time I waist. She also said that if I have a baby it would make my mom happy. I told her respectfully, I don’t care about anyone’s happiness but my own. And why would you want me to be a single mother and go through the same things you, my mom, other aunts, and cousins have and still are going through. Because y’all’s way of dating and dealing with men ain’t working. Let👏🏾 me 👏🏾do 👏🏾me 👏🏾Please !!! Thank you for sharing and letting me know I’m not the only one 💛💛💛
Update: it’s been a week since I posted this comment and I’m still not changing my mind😂. If you don’t agree with me it’s ok, and I still respect your opinion, but I’m going to be me regardless 💅🏽. So if you disagree you can still comment but I’m not reading it respectfully. And for all the people who agree with me / support me Thank you sincerely 💛💛💛💛
Literally!!! Yes like just mind your business if you’re not going to say something positive or constructive 🤫 they want you to end up in the same situations they were in smh I talk about that in Part 2!
@@adoseofsymone Some of my friends are just as bad, they want me to just lose my v- card to anyone who gives me attention. And when I tell them that God didn’t put that in the plan for me they think I’m crazy and say it’s no big deal. They don’t understand that I’m in no rush and that I’m on God’s timing. I’m going to check out part 2 now 💛
Or they think that you’re trying to be “better than them” or something and I’m like I’m just doing things the way God wants me to 😭 I promise I’m not even thinking about you lol
@@adoseofsymone Yes, I think people fear that our way of waiting and choosing the right men might actually be the answer for the time and the world we live in today. And that would mean they would have to be disciplined (standing on business as the young kids say lol) and listen to God , let him guide you. They don’t want our way to work because their way of doing things is easier.
@@Blair16 couldn't have said it better 🖤
I don't think it's a bad thing..
1 God is protecting you.
2 When you live in the world you will get consequences of the world. Many women and men have stepped out of God will and got pregnant or caught std's . That's something ppl don't talk about but it's happening and ppl want to pretend like it don't exist.
3 God has a special man for you.
4 Rejection is God protection and redirection. Don't feel like you missing out. Let me ask you a question, Does God exist? Does he not have wisdom? Waiting is hard because I'm there too, but we must remain faithful for his timing. Girl you are a gem. The guys who dont see your value is because they were not meant for you. God can hide precious things in plain sight.
Agreed!!!
Im definitely screenshotting this
Isn't a pregnancy a gift from God?
PERFECTLY SAID!!! I’ve also never had a BF and everything you’ve said here has been revealed in my life many many times 🙌🏾🥹 I’m so happy to have seen this comment and come across this video 😭👏🏾
Amen to that 🙏🙏🙏🙌
Girl you got to LIVEEEE your 20s in peace no children no real heartbreak and that’s A WINNNN 🥇
Very true!! Traveling around to different places all over this beautiful earth just enjoying life 🫶🏽
Dating at 30 nowadays is not for 30 to 40 year old.15 to 25 years old is dating time period.So you can't find a man in your local church?
The no real heart break part for me swear !!!! ❤
@@razorsharplifestyle101hard9people shouldn’t date when they’re young.
This is the reason why so many women are in their 30’s and 40’s and still single and alone
No headaches, no arguments, nothing but peace.
Thank you! I am 38 and celibate 💛
@@-_Somebody_ wow, don't know too many
@@-_Somebody_ 👍👍👍
@@-_Somebody_ you welcome, take your time
Oh my goodness. I’ll be turning 30 in April and I’m in the *exact* situation. Attractive, never been on a “real” date, virgin, never had a boyfriend, black woman. Never having a partner (which is different than just being single) sucks even more when you’re considered attractive, because people start asking questions the older you get. Thank you for uploading this, I’ve felt so alone for a very long time.
This is exactly WHY I uploaded! Thank you for watching 🥰 the sad thing is, if I was deemed “unattractive” then everyone would all of a sudden “get it”. They’d be like “aw that makes sense. Poor you” basically but because I’m perceived as conventionally attractive it’s “omg she must be crazy then” or something similar 🤦🏽♀️ people are weird girl lol don’t compromise yourself and your values for anyone. Ever. People are gonna talk crap either way honestly. But at least you’ll know the truth.
Where are you
Girllllll you are literally so beautiful! It’s hard to believe you never have had a boyfriend! But God is really protecting you! I know God has the most amazing man for you! If I could go back in time I would have never rushed into relationships because I feel like I did so much unnecessary damage to myself and having to heal. I find myself yearning for a relationship so be glad you never made the same mistakes I did!
Aw thank you 🥹 I just know God is going to show off when it comes to my husband 😩 just trying to wait patiently haha but I’m glad you’re healing though girl! Thats not a small feat
@@adoseofsymonegirl wait! God’s timing is the best! No matter how long it takes!
😂😂😂😂😂😂 keep telling yourself that. Watch you ain't get shit. I bet 5 years from now. You're gonna be on here begging for help@@adoseofsymone
@@angelsweet9611 LOL 😂
@@adoseofsymone I luv u ,u r so beautiful and bold and speak out loud. I want us to b friends ,email me on lj767712@gmail.com. let's b friends
I’m turning 27 this year and I’ve never had one either. In fact, I’m still a “v”. It almost seems as if no one takes me seriously. I’m considered too “boring” because I’m more introverted and a homebody. They all want one thing and I want someone who sees me more than what’s below. It gets lonely at times because I feel like I’m dependent on friends and family to keep me company which gets annoying I’m sure. I’m not asking for a lot from these men but dating has become extremely hard.
I understand all TOO well, but it will pay off in the end 🥰 you’re avoiding a bunch of unwanted struggle and heart break by waiting for and choosing the right partner.
Omg! I read this and you and I literally are the same person. Lol 😂
@@rainbowchild550 aww, Twinsies. Praying we’ll find our person soon🙏🏾
@@kraziikiim Yes!!!! ❤️🙏🏾
I lost my "virginity" at 26 and I don't regret a thing. I'm glad I waited until I was ready and I was with someone I trusted and felt safe enough with. I'm 30 years old now and no longer with him but he was a gentleman.
I'm 28 turning 29 this year and I have never had a boyfriend and I'm a virgin. I'm glad there are others that are prioritizing themselves. What's for you is for you!
Keep on your path, loving yourself, and putting God first. You will be the voice for women in your generation when it is manifested! This is so refreshing! ❤️
Thank you! 🙏🏽
@@adoseofsymone take your time if its ment for you it will be .😊😊
I feel you sis, As a black man, I appreciate your vulnerability. Most definitely live your life, work on yourself, Put yourself in places were you would most likely find your soulmate, be you, You are a rare breed! If I had a daughter that is exactly what I’ll teach her which is to never compromise your values. Have so much respect for you!
I am a 30 year old black man and people are always telling us to settle for anything. I work in Corporate America and am pursuing a literary career.
@@mateaukalua4426why yall commenting under women videos just watch and move on do take up the comment section
U sound like a woman..😅😅😅
Your not missing out on shit enjoy waking up everyday happy to be alone
🤣 lollll stress freeeee
Ain’t no fun in loving, if you loving alone. How does it feel to be useless? All alone … she said she wants a god fearing man. That type of guy doesn’t move in bad faith about relationships. He would never say, “be happy alone”. Instead, he would say “get married”!!!
Swear !!!!!!!
@qbrown8753 you see all these bitter women they say be alone because they can't find no one loll ahh man it's so funny
@@GunsNGames248 exactly… they think one bad ex boyfriend is the same as every other man in the world.
I am also 30 and have the exact same experience. I thank you for putting this on the internet, to validate me not being the only one, cause ppl seem concerned when I tell them lol. It’s definitely gnna work out, like it always does.
Exactly! Why don’t they understand that MEN ARE THE PROBLEM?? 😂
@@adoseofsymone and your eyes are pretty.
thank you! @@chelseajohnson8254
@@adoseofsymone your welcome.
@@adoseofsymone hmmm, God is not mocked, you can't see men as the problem and expect to get one. What you need is to work on your mind and if you are truly leaving it to the will of God and not some sort of idol you believe you deserve you would open yourself to the option of marrying outside your age range if that is the will of God for you as a Christian woman. You have to understand the reality also that the older you get as a woman, the tougher it becomes to get a man around your age because men are fertile for life and typically go for younger, fertile, feminine, and submissive women. It has been like that since Bible time, that is why Adam existed physically for a time before Eve.
I’m also 30 and never had a boyfriend! I honestly resonate with you so much. Gods timing is perfect and I know we will eventually find our other half ❤
Thank you 😭🫶🏽 we will!
why do you think you never had a BF? just asking because, i've always found it more shocking for a woman to have never had a relationship before by a certain age than the other way around, since women don't have to do the pursuing or asking out, approaching, like men always have.
@@initiatorhater0688 watch part 2 👀 but also just because women get approached more doesn’t mean they’re approached by quality prospects haha
and you are still in your 20s?@@thelight1385
Same here I couldn’t agree more❗️❗️❗️
I’m almost 40 and have never had a boyfriend.💯❤️💯
What’s for you will always find you so keep on living your best life until then.👌🏽💛💯
God has got us queen! 🙏🏽
Just subscribed 🙌🏽
Thanks for the support 😊 and yes God always knows best 🙌🏽
Some women have never had a boyfriend but they have had a lotttttt of sex! Smh
this has nothing to do with God. What did your parents teach you abt these things? dating, sex and such@@adoseofsymone
That’s crazy
@@emmanuelallen4376God blessed her for sure ❤
Siiiiiiiiiiiiiis! You are me and I am you! 31 right now, about to turn 32 later in the year! I'm so glad to have come across this video!
The struggle is real!! lol just look at the comment section haha
Wow sister I am almost 30.5 and right behind you!
Not “you can not miss what you never had” lol
I meannnnn lol because can you REALLY?
33 yrs old.... same!!! God is preparing us for the right ONE
Amen 🙏🏽
What have YOU done to FIND that man??? GOD GIVES OPPORTUNITIES, 33 years later, talking bout GOD is preparing.....he's been giving you opportunities, DUMB BLACK WOMAN waiting on an idea to provide......DUMB BLACK WOMAN
nah your fucked, 33 years old ur eggs is gone, don't put god in this
Same 🤚
cap and cope. the right one wont fall out of the sky on your lap just because you waiting. You have to go out and get yours, waiting wont work and hell never come
Im 50 and never had one.. youll find someone when its time! No fear just remain kind and loving and manage yourself to the highest degree
a woman who is 50 or a man who is 50? i want to guess the latter, because its naturally easy to assume cases like this being male dominated
a man or a woman?@kendra4411
Damn, is it by choice?
I don’t blame you girl! Although I’m still young I’m 23 but I never ever had a boyfriend or ever been in a date lol 😭 you’re def not alone! I think god just wants you to be aware and head straight to where u should be destined too! You’re very beautiful so it’s definitely just timing at this point! ❤❤
Thank you! 🫶🏽 you too girl! I know it will happen. It’s just taking veryyyyy longggg 😅😂
Have you had sex tho?
Tell Me please, in which country are you living ?
Girl you ain't missed nothing out here. It's a pure blessing to never had a boyfriend or have any kids. Overall peace without the emotional and mental baggage. Keep living in your peace of mind. There's nothing but crazy unemotional nut jobs out here.
Picking the wrong guys are you
@@magnetcrusher1193
Ya’ll stay running that line but the truth is a good solid man is a unicorn these days, a vast collection of men in the west are pwrn addicts, no life no ambition having gamers, cheaters, have mental and emotions defects, live by the streets or street mentality, have LOW emotional intelligence and are on a mother to wife care taker pipeline.
Tbh it is no real benefit being with men at this age in their personal and spiritual development because they are lagging heavily behind and need help
A lot of men intuitively know what women bring to the table yet are never satisfied or expect more. Being with men is never 50/50 women always contribute more
Negative views about men because of the low hanging fruit you picked.🤣
That’s right! Don’t waste your time. I am celibate and the happiest I have ever been. I am divorced and tbh marriage was torture. Single women should save themselves and find joy in hobbies, activities and a great career! Don’t fall for the propaganda.
Lol, the moment she will step out reality will smack her into trauma.
One reason why a man might not approach a woman is because he thinks she's so beautiful that she must already have a boyfriend or is way out of his league, so nothing ever happens. The women starts to wonder if there is something wrong with her. Of course, it could be that the man has little to no confidence in himself. Asking someone out takes a lot of guts and he needs to be ready for possible rejection. Men also might not know how to approach a woman since we don't want to come across as bothering you at work or be creepy.
yea i hear that often or that they assumed i was already "taken"
@adoseofsymone I'm in the same boat, but 26. You are pretty 💕 Now I understand what people mean about men intimidated
@@izahra1997thank you ❤
@Ginza92 Work isn't an appropriate setting to approach someone about dating.
@@soufwesthoustontx I agree that's why I said bothering and being creepy. Some men might be apprehensive and not know not to do that.
in my experience, it's actually a blessing. You get to know yourself without another person influencing your sense of self and save your self from heartbreak. I know women who never recovered from heart break in their twenties.
Exactly, I agree!
I’ve never had a bf either at 36! It’s not hard to be partnered - I’m done with online. I have Decentered men and I am trusting Gid for whatever the path is. Ladies, keep your standards and center God and yourself!
Love y’all ❤❤❤
Same here im choosing to be single and putting in God’s hand and loving the every minute of the journey
I support this message. Marriage is not for everyone and it was not for me. I am happier single than I ever was married. Stay blessed.
Have you ever thought that maybe the reason you were unhappy married was because you were not in love with your husband. Or maybe he was boring as person
I love this! My daughter is almost 30 and never had a boyfriend either. She is very content, happy and is not in a rush. If only I had it to do all over again, lol.
Im young in my 20s too. What do you wish you done differently?
Literally sameeee but I’m 28. I hate when people say “oh you must be picky or your standards are too high” but it’s really slim pickings out here and those pickings have been picked over. I’m sick of hearing the same things in different fonts in my dms! 😩😭
I’ll be 30 soon too. Completely understand your struggle. A lot of the men I’ve dated lack substance & leadership qualities.
My barometer question is always, “If this man was my child’s father, would I be embarrassed 🙈?”
Wait because that’s too good 😂
Gotta also ask yourself, "If I was the mother of this man's child, would he be embarrassed?". Even when someone seems right for you, the relationship can also fail if you're not right for them. Goes both ways, but people often tend to overlook that
@@MusicLover-yo6uvNow why would she ask herself that? Yall just be saying anything lmfaoooo😂😂
thank you very much. I blame this on men not being picky, some women think they can have any man anytime they wish. The reality is WOMEN are known to have a hard time choosing anything until they're about to lose that choice/power.@@MusicLover-yo6uv
@@avidyoutubewatcherr Just because she has sense and people like to play reverse psychology when you do think. I also ask myself can I see myself having kids with a man.
Sis you are me 😂 I felt everything you said in this video! I'm about to be 31 next month, never had a bf & I have things that I want to do or accomplish while I'm single. Plus, the Bible tells women who are unmarried/virgins to dedicate their time to serving the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:34). Thanks for sharing your perspective on this. ❤
I’m meeting a lot of “me’s” in the comment section 🤣 welcome to the show lol and thanks for the support!
@@adoseofsymone i am 28 guy never dated
Who is that in your profile pic?
The first reason you gave I instantly subscribed. We are living the same life, except I am 26! Side note: YOU ARE STUNNING! Plus that dm started off so harmless then BAM! Men are so unserious, and they have gotten especially unserious in the last decade, and I simply don't tolerate it. My soul is as free and light as ever. I have no baggage, trauma; truly all I have is positive vibes. That's not to say my sis and bros that are carrying all that are to blame, but I truly believe you can avoid a lot of trauma by not jumping at every inkling of attention. I know people have a lot to say about me since they don't know much, but let them assume. Yes I am a nun, yes I'm approaching 30 and don't have no prospective men lined up or kids..assume away. Before I used to be bothered about people making their little comments; since turning 25 i don't give a rat's ass about what anyone has to chime in.
Thank you so much 🥰 but exactly! You get to enjoy life carefree! (for the most part lol) people talk a lotttttt but 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Girl good. I wish I was like you. I had my first bf when I was 18. First kiss at 18, baby by 19, single mom by 20. The next decade of my life was a struggle while bd was on to the next. All the men I met in my 20s were not close to my new Godly standards. I gave my life to God at 22.
I cried to God for YEARS for a good husband.
I finally met my hubs at 33, married at 34, pregnant again at 35. God is worth waiting on. My husband is worth more to me than gold. He’s perfect and I wish I waited for him.
A good man is hard to come by. Wait on the Lord! It’s worth it!!!
Omg I love this 🥹♥️ I’m sorry that you had to struggle first but what a beautiful testimony!
Wow, your testimony is amazing. I’ll be 24 in March and have been a “v” my whole life. I used to feel like something was wrong w/ me because men don’t hit on me in real life. I see I’m not missing out on much. I want to wait for my husband, I don’t have time for regrets lol😂
Just turned 30 this year.. everything that you are saying is valid.. yes being by yourself can get lonely at times but it’s not worth sharing/wasting your energy with people who went on the same mindset/path that you are on..🥂 keep living Life💯🥂
34 still a virgin, had a gf once, but realized it wasn't the right time. Didn't look for another one, decided to focus on personal work, and it's looking good, best investment I've ever made.
You basically missed out on stress,betrayal and pain.Congratulatiobs ❤
All the things you said she “missed out on” are a part of Life. That is how you learn what to keep and what to throw out. Marriage is not bliss; it compromises and adjustments. If you have never had a serious relationship, how will you handle the stresses of the most important relationship you will have with another person?
You can date and no commitment, that's pain to
@@crystalvouse6435 Life has suffering. There is no way to avoid it. Even if you have a loving relationship, one of you will die and leave the other. That is painful too. I just lost my wife of 33 years a few months ago.
@@sevenstarsofthedipper1047she doesnt want to go through the struggles that come with relationships thats why she is choosing to be single lol why cant yall grasp that simple concept . Ive dated and had relationships and im on that same wave , single . Im not built to deal with all that comes with a man so im choosing to be single . Problem solved
Who betrayed my sis?
Same boat I’m 27 and Muslim and I believe in Gods timing. I feel the pressure but I’m okay and happy. Sometimes I get sad and lonely but I know I’m covered
You ain’t missing a thing. Fantasy is better than reality.
This is why I’m happy I gave my life to God personally and that I’m continuing to remain a virgin until marriage. I made the mistake of telling a group of “peers” that I was a virgin and waiting, and they laughed at me. Audibly. The pickmeishas and the dusties. They told me that I need to ‘test the car before I buy’ or ‘settle for a average man’ or ‘you’ll get married by 40’. Conforming to wordly measures is no longer a priority to me.
The Bible says that for men to love their wives like they love the church and God, wholeheartedly and strongly, and for the wives to respect their husbands. And until then, no man will have any part of my body or soul unless said man is a husband. Amen.
Nope! Your doing right love! by choosing to remain single until you find quality instead of just settling for who ever , remember misery loves company pickme women and dusties dont even value themselves.
The passage of scripture says husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church. More of us men need to know that virgins that are of marriage age still exist !
As I watch you, all I can think is God has protected you from so much bs, ain’t he good!
I'm 32 and I never had a boyfriend too. Because I have the same preferences as you sis. A man without God is a big No. I can live without a man but not without God ❤ And we have standards sis.... not just standards but godly standards. And also not desperate for a man. We will wait for our time I'm sure God's timing and plans are greater and wonderful than ours.
Yes yes and yes 🙌🏽 we have something great waiting for us 😊
Alot of women in my family have been saying the same thing for years (in their 50s + its sad)...god has nothing to do with anything 😓..I hope black people wake up..😓😓
Girl you and me both. I turned 30 2 months ago and never had a boyfriend. People don't expect it because I'm an extrovert. Oh shoot I see you moved to Colombia, yusss 🙌🏾
yes! it's way more common than people think!
Btw your personality is everything 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
thank you 🥰@@sonderexpeditions
That messageeee from the guy 😂😂😂🤣 like WHAT? Is that what’s out there?
Let me go thank God and kiss my husband because that was crazy
Tell me about it 😂
So proud of my cousin 🥹💕💕🙌🏽 that is all
Thank you 🥹🫶🏽
It's so refreshing to see these kinds of conversations be normalized now. When I was in my 20s in the 2010s I felt like a freak. Like there was something wrong with me for never having been in a relationship. I mean.....movies where we laugh at people who never had sex like "The 40 Year Old Virgin" were normalized.
I feel a lot less alone now.
Yea so many people want to make it into something to be ashamed of and I’m just like 🤨 keep living in your truth!
I am 38 years old and I have never had a girlfriend in my whole life. Now, it's not as painful as before because I got used to it. But just few years ago I was suffering, it was hard for me to be alone. No one to hold your hand, no kisses, no love, no nothing. I thought there was a problem with me. In a period of my life I just wanted to have an experience with just any girl, but God stopped this project the same day and I finally did nothing. So, I knew that this is not for me, maybe God has an other much better plan for me. I pray that God will help me to strengthen my patience and self control. Glory to God. May God bless you all.
girl I’m 25 and that’s a mfn blessing because let me tell youu😮💨😮💨🙄dating hella young & for love can be overrated.
I wish I waited and had ur integrity and self love and care ❤ I also admire how ur not easily influenced by this crazy society we live in.
Thank you so much ♥️ it’s never too late to start a healing journey though 🥰
@@adoseofsymone that is the sweetest and yes sis I am starting to heal and I am in love with myself and know what love truly is and mean
Much love from Kenya. I pray that God may continue to protect and provide for you. May he keep you from trolls cos they are coming for you.
Thank you! And yes, they are!
Your situation is a lot more common than you think. Some people just live in the moment and don't feel pressured to be in a relationship especially if they haven't come into contact with someone compatible.
Thank you so much for this video! I'm 33 and have never been in a relationship. You can feel so alone and like a freak of nature sometimes. I found you so relatable and I'm so grateful I stumbled across this video. God Bless❤
Thank you for watching! I appreciate the kind words 💜
I find it so refreshing and honest to hear a young woman who isn’t feeling pressured by society! Truly a rarity today. I agree, there isn’t any rush like people say, no need to kiss a bunch of “frogs” to find your Prince Charming lol so keep your standards, stay lovely, and I’m looking forward to keeping up with your journey to see how things work out! 😊
Awww thank you so much 🥰 I agree! That’s just wasted time and energy and for what reason? Haha
Just do the right thing thats best for u good thing come when u wait god will bless u when the right time comes don't rush
YOU ARE ONE OF THE WISEST LADIES I HAVE SEEN ON TH-cam....
Being yourself should be something primitive in our lives...don't rush or be so desperate for a relationship because your friends are in relationships or the whole thing amuses you...
Seriously a lot of ladies out there have to hear you out...I am going to share the link to the video around and oh...you just got one subscriber..
Listening to wise stuffs like these makes us informed...thanks...
Thanks for watching and sharing! 😊 and for the support
@@adoseofsymone You are welcome please
the 'let me call god on his personal cell' is the perfect response! def stealing that lol. v refreshing video, halfway thru my 20s and feeling the pressure already smh
Cuz girl I just be like….how do yall expect me to answer that question? 🤨 lol but thank you! Stay strong girl 😎
Yesss I completely agree with you I’m the same way and I’m 22. It’s a blessing to be single and learn yourself and know your standards. And it makes it easier to focus on God wholeheartedly. 🙏
Exactly! I love that ♥️
I’m 22 to and the same way ,
also your so pretty.
Whats your ig ?
I never had standards before so I’ve dated quite a few men but they all treated me like crap so myself esteem became lower than ever but now that I’ve been single for a few years I’m happier than ever before 🥰#selflovefirst#🥰
So proud of you for the fresh start! 🫶🏽
u don't even know this person!@@adoseofsymone
Keep it up, ladies! Don't live according to society's standards! Seek first the Kingdom of GOD💪
I'll be 27 in May and never had a girlfriend, it bothers me at times because I want to have that experience but I know when day I'll have that experience
Me neither, ive never found them to be relationship material, just wild animals lollll. However looking at other women's experiences you're not only dodging bullets but keeping your peace. Good luck girl!
“Wild animals” 😭🤣 but yes peace is irreplaceable!
Phew 32 here and same! Dang I didn’t realize we rolled this deep 😂😂😅
Yes omg I was shocked how many people are relating in the comments actually lol like I knew we existed but the video is reaching it’s target audience lol
You are a very attractive woman.. my advice to you is to keep being an example to other women and stay pure. God will send you a good man
Love your sense of humor! And yes, stressing about waiting does no good. God doesn't withhold _any_ good thing from us, so faithfulness is the way👍He got us
Amen to that!
Same. This message is hidden and it causes some to rush things as they feel like they are "missing" out. I am glad you had the courage to get this discussion in the public space. God bless
You’re not missing anything Sis, I promise you.
These males are not worthy! ❤❤❤
Lol men can't get no love or empathy? A man thats 30 and never had a girlfriend will get shit on by women 😂 y'all would say its because theres something wrong with them or they're gay 😂 I hear it all the time. "Oh you've never had a girlfriend? RED FLAG! You have commitment issues. Or you're undesirable you need to lower your standards" 😂 thats what I always hear lol
I love your transparency ❤️ he’s out there sis and he’s looking for you!!!
He'll find me eventually! I just wish he would move faster 😩
bro you a baddie & haven't been touched 😂you a rare gem. But facts with obedience i promise God gone send Mr. Right forsure. Patience is everything rn, just continue to live life sis. Real love through God gone be a magical feeling.
ngl this made me laugh lol but yea my husband is out there somewhere just taking his sweet time 😅
Ew 🥴
@@NamasteInYourLane ew what ? 😂 i know you not talking bout Zane or Symone 🤔
“Baddie and untouched”🤢 you better be untouched too
"Untouched" you're sick🤮
94 baby here ❤️ much love to you. And girl you didn’t miss much
Same! I'm turning 30 in May (1994 Gang!) and I never had a boyfriend hell I never really been on a date either I never thought I would come across a video like this and others in comment going through the same thing! Thanks for this video.
Awww this is exactly why I did it! 🥹🫶🏽
I understand your sentiments completely. You often think something is wrong with because people see you, but you still feel hidden. Just know God is preparing an environment where you can thrive with your purpose partner. He's working on him just like he's working on you. Just continue to pour in to yourself as well as your relationship with God and those you care about (friends and family). And in the right time, you two will cross paths, and things will flow.
Since you started with religion I suggest you widen the net and try African and Caribbean churches. Finally you could make a trip to the continent. All the best dear and greetings from Ghana.
I got my first boyfriend at 30. And now we are married almost 4 years together. My husband- God fearing Christian, actually truly loves the Lord. Girl you are on the right path, may God send you him in the right time!!!
Thank you 😊
Seek ye the Lord with all your heart,the Lord know your in need of a husband.Matthew 6:33
I’m praying to God to find a lady like Symone to be my future wife. I’m also 35 and in the military. I’m single with no children. My family keeps telling me I’m getting old and I should get married. I always tell them, I’m waiting on God’s time. My background is from Ghana 🇬🇭 west Africa but have been living in America almost half of my life. Y’all should keep me in your prayers .
I'm 23 and I'm glad that God gave me a wonderful hubsand to be with. All glory to our heavenly father.
I’m so happy for you 🥰
Same here . About to turn 30 in June and I’m Still a virgin . Never had a boyfriend . People be so shocked when I say that ❤❤❤
you're not alone girl!
31.. In the same boat + anxiety about it ..i needed this vid n tha comments 2day🙏🏾🙏🏾..
I’m so glad it was helpful!
You’re absolutely gorgeous
Thank you!
Hey, just saying hello from one digital nomad to another (I'm a Black Brit based in Africa)!
It's wild that you're 30 and have never had a boyfriend. I am beginning to notice this trend form among more women over time.
I think that as more men continue to drop out of the mating market, more women find themselves accepting the role of sidechick or FB to what's left of the men in the market with dating potential. All of this equals fewer opportunities for women to find exclusive romantic partners.
It first really hit me when I bumped into a 50-something British woman who was a lone-traveller, and she told me that she had her first experience living with a man when she was in her late 40s!
Anyway, I wish you the best of luck in finding your match soon!
I thought men were going girlfriend less or partnerless, so I was surprised to see a woman boyfriend less? It begs the question, what is going then?
I think that it may be tied to a lack of exposure to positive male role models. A lot of these women grew up without fathers in their live and might be less familiar with the warm, non-sexual love and protection lots of dads provide.@@PeterSchramm3
Once you said God fearing man immediately your pool drops extremely low. I’m in the same boat with you! 😅 dating Gods way will have be you barely dating at all!
Exactlyyyyyyy the pool is SO SMALL 😭
@@adoseofsymonearound 60 percent of the US is Christian(especially in the black community)...how is it a small pool?? ......now if ur a black athiest then its small ..😅 im a athiest and its tough😅😅
if 60% of the US is christian, for numbers sake, lets assume half of them are men. that's already only 30% of the population. then take out the people that are too young for you, too old for you, are already married or in relationships, take out the people that are "christians" but hate black people lol, take out some people who are gay, and some people that maybe just aren't interested and then you'll understand why the actual pool of available men that like women is so small lol plus a lot of people say they're christian but they're not actively living a Christ-like lifestyle and that's important too.
@@adoseofsymone you know how many women are twerkin on only fans saying God first on Sundays..lol..most women that say they are Christian aren't Christian-like themselves..lol everyone is becoming less religious..
the real reason it's hard to find a 100% Christian is because everyone men and women alike are waking up to the lie about a man walking on water...
The black community is finally waking up..
There's so many women out there talking about i need a god fearing man ( its sad how many older black women are saying this while wasting away..) yall are missing out on so many marriage opportunities over an ideology that literaly doesn't have ANY empirical evidence to support it
You go to any black church and all you'll see is divorced older women (waiting on God for their next husband) ill never understand how people can cling on to a book (white people gave them a while ago) so strongly...black women are mainly the only group of women running their husband's off in the name of religion 😓😓..and the stats blatantly reflect what I'm saying...🤷♂️
@@adoseofsymone you just highlighted the reason so many black women are in church divorced....almost all the women in my life say the same thing (waiting on God for my man) (or a god fearing man) how Christian does he have to be😅😅😅..
Its sad because black women specifically run their husband's away in the name of religion over a book ( that white people gave us a while ago) that has not an ounce of empirical evidence😐😐
The reason it's hard to find a "god fearing man" or women YES women also (twerkin on onlyfans claiming god first) is because everyone is becoming more educated
Simply people are finally saying to themselves maybe just maybe..
the whole "a man walked on water" thing is made up and maybe a snake didn't talk eve
God has nothing to do with it (just look at the divorce rates when it comes to Christian marriages (black women are the least likely to get/stay married yet the most religious) if that doesn't open ur eyes nothin will...
religion really is man's most powerful creation..its so powerful that Muslim women are convinced that they have to cover their whole bodies while living in the middle eastern heat😐😐...wake up ya'll religion is a tool created by rulers long before u were born (by people with WAY higher IQs than you)🤷♂️🤷♂️..
Black people don't want to hear the Bible is fake tho.....like the 48 laws of power suggest...people are conformable with the lie, not the truth .....(the Bible was created for the majority not the minority rulers) and it was/is the most successful tool ever created..
good luck waiting on "God" for the perfect man tho😅😅
Men are just scary. I’m still young 23 haven’t been in a relationship but I can say I’ve been involved with a few men and I’m still healing from those few interactions from even associating with them. People call me picky and I’m like I really don’t require a lot but THESE men really aren’t even hitting the minimum requirementssss 😭😭😭
I’m 29 and a virgin. Sure most wouldn’t believe it. It’s really hard out here to find someone serious.
idk why they never believe it girl 🤦🏽♀️
This is a beautiful message. good men are hard to find. But you be patient and don't never settle. God will bring him to you.
Turning 26 this year, same reality❤
Dam shy man throwing his heart out😂
"Some reason", No one approaches because, most times as boys we be thinking 'damn she too hot, she'll regret me' or 'ohh she'll require high maintanance, I can't afford that' , 'I'm sacred of beautiful women', the most that makes us not approach, 'Arhh nah, she too beatiful to be single, so she's taken'. 😓, but eyy after watching this I think i'ma start approaching coz it seems like them most beautiful are single coz men don't wanna approach coz of those reasons.
yea you can't assume!
Don’t worry. You will find a good man. Sometimes good things are hard to get but if you are sincere and believe and got chills you shall inherit it.
You’re gorgeous 🥰. Definitely not missing much.
Thank you 😊
👏👏👏👏 Great, learn yourself.. Don't mind the crowd, he'll show when it's time. Don't let anyone get in his way!
I am 32 and I never had anyone that sincerely love me, want to get to know or date me. I am a good person that don't have time for mess. I have goals and standards. #Just Fed up with games 🙄😒
Yeaaa I understand 😕 it’s annoying for sure
GOD BLESS YOU! Don’t listen to anyone!!!! Seriously. You are good 👌🏾Do not listen to anyone about this life decision!!!! God will send you the person. Do not let people tell you what time certain things in life are supposed to happen. Others are jealous they didn’t do it like you are! I PROMISE YOU!!!
You are so pretty, sis inside and out ❤ its not a reflection on your worth x
thank you 🥹
It's ok sista, you're not missing anything.
I’m 32 and the same. Doesn’t look like it’s going to happen anytime soon. Or ever
And you look at peace, happy for you! It really ain’t all that, I’m over it.
Are you me?! 😂Also turning 30 this year, no boyfriends, can count dates on one hand, and just haven't found anyone who appeals to me. While I'm open to a relationship, I'm starting to wonder if I'm even meant to be in one. I'd also like a God-fearing man, but I don't want kids. It's just not on my heart. So I don't mind if I never get married, and I know God will guide my steps toward what He wants for me, marriage or not.
I’m seeing that there are so many other people like me 🤣 there’s someone for us somewhere!
May God Bless you! I’m 21 and never had a girlfriend and ppl always ask “where’s your girlfriend” 😂
I’m 34 and never had been in a relationship because these dudes out here…I’m going to be nice and say they lacking in a lot of areas and before I settle down, I want to make sure I don’t end up in divorce court a day after the wedding 🙃
Yea you gotta be careful!
Check the guys who will do right by you in your friend zone.
@@emmanuelallen4376 They are gay 😅
That's why u look young and not stressing....u didn't miss out.
I like how secure you are about your single and virgin status as a 30 yo. It’s nice to see that you know what kind of guy you want. I’m in my 30s, dated once and it was the worst experience. I rushed into it b/c I overlooked red flags and felt pressured to find someone by family. I also didn’t want to be like someone ik who’s 38 and never dated and feared ending up alone and society looking down on me. Be careful who you bring into your life and don’t rush.
It’s definitely a delicate balance, but I know in my heart that I’m doing the right thing for me ♥️
You don't know how this comes as a relief to me. 26, and a guy and never even spoken to a lady about a relationship. I don't feel alone.
you're never alone!
@@adoseofsymone Thank you. That means a lot.
Most women are SINGLE THAT ARE SINGLE because THEY CHOOSE to be. It's VERY DIFFERENT for a MAN.
It’s more or less the same. At the end of the day they are single because the people they want don’t want them back/can’t find a suitable partner
@@Yng619You LOST ME on that one!
This is a joke right? 😅
@@victorvillalobos9681 I'm still lost! EXPLAIN how it's a JOKE?
@@victorvillalobos9681it is, because I too laughed.
You ain’t missing out on nothing except stress🎉