I'm 29, Still Never Had A Girlfriend and That's Okay!
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It is perfectly okay to be single. It's okay to want to be in a relationship. What's not okay is to be desperate for it, and it's not okay to have the feeling that you won't be happy until you get a girlfriend. You have to learn to love yourself first. That's where I'm at. Everyone is on their own path and we shouldn't judge each other based on who's single or who's a virgin etc.
I love you man, for real.
Your face is pretty, you need "Kontaktlinsen", get rid of your glasses, they makes you look weird to women.
only person who does @@user-ul7bv2gu9d 🤣🤣🤣
Tell me if you feel that way in 7 years.
I’m 27 and I’m single
Aye man, takes balls to post something like this online. We all proud of how far you've come bro.
and bros still searchin on hub
Hope he use those balls to get a job and stop using as a excuse he’s depress 🤣😂🤣🤣😂
Well said brother
He will never get laid 😂
poor bastard
Loser
This hit at home my brother is also 29 and he’s also never had a girlfriend. He had a tumor in his head when he was a child ( surgery caused him to lose function of certain areas of his face, paralyzed half of his face) as a result his physical appearance affected him and brought out a lot of insecurity. I remember in elementary school kids would mock him and tell him he looked like a monster, he acted tough ignoring them. He’d go home and lock himself in the room breaking down in tears thinking the world looked at him like a monster…. He’s now very successful in his work life bought himself a house. I love him to death and it honestly brings tears thinking about what he went through.
God bless you and your bro
God bless I pray that he will meet his wife
@@Millenium-ChristHe never will. At least he’s financially successful, though. He shouldn’t try, either, as women nowadays will accuse you of SH or SA if you approach them (unless you’re the sexiest man alive.)
@@channelmar15 Don't get your ideas about women from the internet. Plenty of women are normal and would love to be asked out.
I would recommend your brother becoming a passport bro.
I'm 39 and have always been single but I'm pretty cool with that. Saying that it's taken me nearly 40 years to find that inner peace and acceptance within myself. It's been a lifelong journey for me.
@@DerrickMarkleymusic I think we're very different people. It's worth baring in mind not everyone wants the same things in life. We all have different paths to follow. What brings me true happiness is being by myself. I've always been an introvert, outsider and loner so what you consider a good life is different from the way I see things. Peace and happiness! 😎
@@DerrickMarkleymusicOh, I've experienced it many times and love every moment however I can live with or without it!. It's not life threatening! 😅
Damn man. I am a guy who turned 23 just 13 days ago and I never had a girlfriend before. I had my first ever date over 3 months ago at the age of 22. She is 19(turning 20 after a week) and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and took some pics and hugged each other and I was pulling her cheeks a lot too. But 2 weeks after the date she turned out to be mean and toxic and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and take pics of her so she can post on social media. I also have a big crush on this girl who is in my class where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college like 5-6 months ago and now planning to study MBA. She is also 22(turning 23 in a few days). She has called me cute several times before and I pulled her cheeks too and gave her chocolates once but I mostly see her with her male friends and I am shy near her in person and she is the one who initiates conversations with me so it gets difficult.
Over 2 months ago, I went out with this another girl who is also 23 in that same classes. We roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant. I pulled her cheeks too while taking selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. She also has called me handsome before and even said I am an amazing person she met when wishing me on my birthday a few days ago and we may again go out somewhere this month but we are just friends now. I also follow several girls from our institute on Instagram and they are all within 21-25 age range but I am yet to message them. For several months I also have been chatting with this another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). She was in the same school as me but we didn't know each other that time. She is very sweet and we send each other virtual hugs daily and plan on meeting soon to eat somewhere as we are both foodies. But I am still single in the end.
@@manosijroy8282 I wish you the best of luck in your future romantic endevours. Never give up hope and stay positive! 😎
@@DerrickMarkleymusic that's just rude. I pretty much have never been in a long term relationship but thinking about all the effort and money needed to establish that, just gives me depression. Not everyone wants a relationship, a lot of people get into a relationship because of social pressure and are very unhappy. Ask yourself if you really want to be with someone or are you just doing it to fit in
I hate how society shames men for not having certain things, I thought we were able to think for ourselves.
Anyone who cares about what society preaches and affirms is already lost inside
Society has always shamed men
@@SesterSinmon True, and it has gotten worse now!
And society is ran/ controlled by men…. Hmm 😂.
I bumped into your video today about being 27 and never having a girlfriend and it brought tears to my eyes just seeing the state you were in and the battles you were facing on a daily basis . To my surprise later the same day TH-cam recommends your video and I clicked on it expecting something negative again but after watching it I’m so so happy to see how much better you are able to handle your struggles and how much you’ve grown as a person. Wishing you nothing but the best for you, Carey on doing what you doing it’s working.(Btw I also have GAD so I know how you feel in that regard)❤❤
I just got done watching the other video for the first time.
Meanwhile I’m happily single after being in a 4 year relationship and had sex with over 100 girls. Seriously get a grip and work on yourself
Same
Dude what stuggles could this guy in a first world country with an insanely high quality bed and phone and even microphone and camera and internet access be going through that he didn’t cause himself through sin or lack of self development/care
@@bradenwalker3923 people do everything for the sake of avoiding sufferings, no matter where and what conditions you live in, you cannot belittle mental health value in our lives
I'm 55 and I don't have a girlfriend, never been married, and never had kids. I lived with a woman in the 90s, but that was stressful and expensive. I own my own home and never have to go to work ever again. Pussy ain't everything.
Do you pay for the 🐱 now or do you just use your right hand? No disrespect, I’m just wondering how y’all survive without getting off… sometimes. It’s very stressful to be all backed up 💦 😂.
Also, dang that 90’s woman must have really messed with your head if the trauma from that relationship stayed with you til the point of you not ever trying again?
@@Leahmoonbeamflower When you get in your 50's pussy is not something that occupies your mind 24/7. A loyal dog brings more pleasure than chasing women with 50 years of baggage who are no longer even attractive anymore.
I actually just finished watching your "I'm 27" video and can't even believe you're the same person. You seem like you're in a much better place. You look better, seem happier, and you are much better at talking to the camera. This has definitely been an inspiration. Keep up the good work!
The Copium is real 😷
He looks exactly the same
People finding happiness without having a gf is a cope? Get a load of this guy, with that mentality i bet my savings you aren't getting any gf in your life @@jthatruth9975
proof that peace ultimately comes from within;
not from the random person that you met at the club 😉
Thanks for the positivity! Im 29 and struggle with social anxiety and depression. I never had a girlfriend. I finally got a job and was able to pay for my own xbox. Now thats progression
Video games will never leave you
@@GodzillathekingKongbane you lowkey right 🔥🔥🔥
Bruh an xbox😢 bruh I was able to get that as a teen your goal should be getting supercars or a nice house
@badge5575 I have severe depression so I couldn't work and I'm heavily medicated. I've seen lots of 30 year olds with shit average cars
@@badge5575 you must be young. Wait for the real world
Hi, I'm 32 years old and I've never had a girlfriend either. When I saw your first video I was moved and felt a certain comfort because I saw that I wasn't the only one in this situation! This year I started going to some rock shows, I know you also like this type of music like Paramore etc, and at one of these shows I managed to kiss a girl for the first time, I confess I expected more, but it was cool! Now I'm looking to improve myself, working out, getting a job, etc. I believe that one day you'll also get a girlfriend because you're a really cool guy! good luck!see you!
but sadly i'm going to assume you have not done anything more than kissing with a woman, and i assume losing your virginity to an escort or sex worker, paying for sex, is completely out of the question for you?
@@initiatorhater0688If he values his body, he won't care to pay for an escort. In due time, if he's doing what he says he's doing then he'll find someone really worth keeping around as a life partner.
no self respecting person would do any of that anyway.. anyone who has morals or something to live by would not indulge is something so obscene.. obv you can believe in whatever you want but i sincerely hope that you can understand what im talking about. @@initiatorhater0688
@@initiatorhater0688 Yes, I want to find the right person to have a relationship with, it's different when you just pay someone to have sex with you because a relationship goes far beyond sex, that's what I'm looking for at the moment!😅
@@initiatorhater0688Dont encourage that shit, if he still has virginity at that age then the right woman will find that as a rare special thing. Dont give it away to some meaningless floozy who just wants your money etc.
So I watched your video saying your 27 and no girlfriend. Your speech has unbelievably improved coming to this vid. Good for you
Takes guts to be able to speak about this kinda stuff openly to thousands of strangers online. Hope everything gets better for you and everyone else that‘s going through this kinda stuff.
I honestly don't think any of this shit takes guts lmao. What are strangers online gonna do? To me this isn't much different between venting on Reddit. I guess you lose anonymity? But it's not like any of us know this guy irl.
It doesn't really take any guts at all, he's just saying the truth and afterall, Having a girlfriend is nothing to flex with.
@@ConvictorofRage😂
I'm 34 and still didn't have a girlfriend or sex, that's life, I don't care anymore.
I've only had it once in my entire life when I was 22 and am now 26. This generation of women are pathetic
Never underestimate the positive effect you've had on other people by sharing your story and emotions so openly. It's a sign of great strength you're helping others to break through their own internalized stigma when it comes to mental health. Learning to love yourself is difficult and painful but probably the most rewarding thing you can do to improve your whole life, not just your relationships. We're all on the same path, all of us...whether we realize it or not :) 🙏
I’m going to turn 34 soon. I never experienced any kind of romantic contact through my life. I never had a hug, a date, a kiss, or something as a relationship. The depressing part is that I put myself out there: I asked women out, I signed up on dating sites or joined new groups to meet new people. But every girl rejected me before I had something as a date.
More and more I think it is due to my disability (Fetal alcohol spectrum disorder) I am suffering from. It seems that whenever I tell women, I only work minimum wage jobs, they seem to be less interested in me. Once a woman even told me, I am a loser for working as a dishwasher.
The older I get, the more depressed I have become. It feels devasting going though life without any kind of intimacy, being rejected over and over again, being told you are not even good enough to get on a date with…
Not even a kiss or hug? That is brutal. But yeah this all sounds wild man!
@@mitu123Copper Unfortunately not. Like I wrote, I did already get rejected for something trivial as a date...
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267Damn man that's sad. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before but I just had my first ever date 2 months ago. She is 19 and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and then took pics and we hugged too and I was pinching her cheeks a lot. But 2 weeks after the date, she became toxic to me after I texted her and she replied very rudely saying me to go to hell and leave her alone forever and then she blocked me. She basically used me for free lunch and take pics of her so she can post them on Instagram and other social media. I was shocked and lost hope.
Then few weeks ago, I went out with this another girl who is also either 22 or 23 now. We go to the same class for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 4 months ago and planning to study MBA next. We both roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and we had fun. I pinched her cheeks too while we took selfie but was a bit shy to ask her for a hug. We might hang out like this again. I also have crush on this another girl in that same class and she is also 22 but I am shy so she is the one who initiates conversations with me and last month she asked me how was she looking and I answered she looked cute and pinched her cheeks too which made her blush a bit. I also gave her a chocolate about 2 months ago. Sadly she has several male friends so I feel scared.
That’s a fatality Man
But just think about it : you could meet a maniac or sadisitic girl would you like to suffer ? Sometimes it's better to be alone
I'm a girl, 31 years old and never had a boyfriend. Thank you for this video
let's change that. Tomorrow at 8PM at the gift shop in Club Penguin. Bring pizza.
hey 😂
Date the guy in the video.
@@renegadeace1735no she should date me
Hey why don't both try it?
I like these videos because they make me realize that my situation is ok. I like knowing that I'm not the only one
I know some who are above 40 and still virgin
Same
@@nsa8225 haha same to you!
@@JosephJsjs Yep, I even talk to a guy who turned 48 recently and never had a GF and now claims he'll be lonely for the rest of his life.
So glad you had this revelation Jaron! Im a female & personally i find you handsome, i feel like the growth and healing you've been experiencing this past year has made you so much more confident & it shows in ur demeanor ❤ confidendce is the key
I'm really sorry that you had to go through so much pain that you don't deserved. I'm 21 yrs old, and I also didn't have one or never had experience being in a relationship before. It really does sucks because when you use your energy to this one person you cared about and all the sudden, that person never appreciated your very best efforts or never looked up to you. Which made me realize that some people are not being thoughtful and they don't have the encouragement to giving them a chance. I hope you stay strong, brother, and one day you'll eventually get one who loves you first the way you are.
Comments like this get me to imagine myself reincarnating as an unattractive dude, and it scares the phoque out of me. There's definitely a strong physiological factor to attraction, and I hooked up with my childhood friend (sister's, in fact) with little effort, because I'm cute, but you just have to up your personality stat through attractive traits. If you don't look good, all you can do is behave well, speak well, carry yourself well, dress well, temper your physique, discipline yourself etc.
I don't usually comment in these types of videos, but it is refreshing to see someone work through their issues publicly. Great job! I think as you feel better you will also gain more confidence and attract people toward you. I saw your video about taking better care of yourself physically, and I want to do the same. Exercise is important as well as a morning routine. I wouldn't be surprise to see your appearance and grooming improve over the next couple of years as you see success on this platform and in life.
The video about meditation helped me realize how miserable and depressed I was and that there's possibility of improvement. Thank you!! I am also very proud of your progress.
Wow, what a turnaround! I haven't watched any of your other videos, except for the "27 Never Had a Girlfriend" one right before this one. Good on you. Your whole persona has changed, your tone of voice, your attitude, etc. Wonderful!
When your doing what you love in life and have everything you need on your own you will send out positive vibrations and start attracting the people that are meant to be in your life. Keep pushing through and dont stop challenging your self to break whatever limits you think might have. Rock on!
I just saw your 27 video today. I got married at 42.We have an 8 year old daughter. You still have time to develop yourself even more.
I assumed you had girlfriends in your twenties
@@nobodysperfect06no he lost his virginity in his 40's. That's why he telling him he still has tome
@@ilikegirlswholikegirls damn that's not how life is meant to be lived and I wonder how he feels about not having had sex for that long
Don't worry, we are at the highest rate of being single in the last century, you don't need someone to be happy, I haven't slept with a women in 5 years but after enough times it's same thing. I'm 28, but I have my dogs, family, and video games, so I'm happy and content with life
Exactly women these day have destroyed the dating scene in this country reason why men are becoming more and more single
Guys think they will get companionship, etc. from a woman. They will get headaches and stress most of the time.
There's a difference between having it and getting tired of it vs never having it at all and not even getting to make the choice.
Sorry but we have to fucking rock this society to its core it’s ridiculous that we have let average women be programmed by smartphones and algorithms into thinking that they’re took good to get fucked by the average male. We can literally fix this problem if we have the political will and wear with all to do it. Women cannot stop us because we are stronger than them
@@User-718_what’s your iq level?
Took me till I was 32 to finally be happy with being alone. In my late teens and 20's i was constantly down on myself about not having a girl but now I'm at a point where I don't want a gf anymore or even care about sex anymore. It also really helps that I have no interest in having kids and raising them. It's peaceful and I'm too used to it at this point and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Keep your head up.
I am a guy who turned 23 just 3 weeks ago and I never had a girlfriend before. I had my first ever date over 3 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 a few days ago) and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and took some pics and hugged each other and I was pulling her cheeks a lot too. But 2 weeks after the date she turned out to be mean and toxic and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and take pics of her so she can post on social media. I also have a big crush on this girl who is in my class where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college like 5-6 months ago and now planning to study MBA. She is also 22(turning 23 in a couple of days). She has called me cute several times before and I pulled her cheeks too and gave her chocolates once but I mostly see her with her male friends and I am shy near her in person and she is the one who initiates conversations with me so it gets difficult.
Over 2 months ago, I went out with this another girl who is also 23 in that same classes. We roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant. I pulled her cheeks too while taking selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. She also has called me handsome before and even said I am an amazing person she met when wishing me on my birthday a few days ago and we may again go out somewhere this month but we are just friends now. I also follow several girls from our institute on Instagram and they are all within 21-25 age range but I am yet to message them. For several months I also have been chatting with this another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). She was in the same school as me but we didn't know each other that time. She is very sweet and we send each other virtual hugs daily and plan on meeting soon to eat somewhere as we are both foodies. But I am still single in the end
Pulling cheeks like what ur grandma does when your a child ? Girls like this? Wtf lol
I’m 22 and never had a gf either. It’s never really bothered me but I do wanna find my soulmate as I move ahead on the right path for my life. I even made a video about it. So glad to see how much you’ve improved Jaron and we can all walk with confidence about ourselves and just go about our lives and find out where we’re supposed to be naturally and we’ll even find the right people for us sometime. Keep on rockin dude!
U just started go get laid jesus
I don't get it with you younger people in your early twentied thinking never having a girlfriend is abnormal. I'm 34 and never had a one neither, I'm also a virgin. I prefered to stay single for personal reasons. You have plenty of time!
@@obliqueparalells429 I used to think it was abnormal not having a gf back in high school. But I was young a didn’t know better then. Feels good to learn what we need.
@@Magulousmous A friend of mine back then got himself a GF at 22. You're closer to 20 than 30 at that age. I'm a decade older than you. Don't know why so many people find it to be abnormal. Where I am from, most people get married at 28 - 30+, they live with their families because we're more collectivistic than most western countries. Enjoy life, don't waste your time thinking about what you don't have. But be thankful for the good thingd you've.
Maybe this is an American thing, I don't know. I've been to America twice in my entire life, and that was within my own community, so I don't know if people are going look down on you there!
@@obliqueparalells429 I have the same mindset as you now. I didn’t always have it but this mindset feels so much better.
You’re awesome man! Also you are 100% correct in your assertion about the “needy and clingy’ mindset with woman. It actually pushes them away. I had that mentality after my dad died when I was 25yrs old. Thankfully a year later I met a girl (through a friend) who I just instantly loved and who instantly loved me back. We have been together 20yrs this year and have two sons.
Wish you all the best with your channel and life Jaren…I’m a subscriber so will follow you.
Sometimes it's not about what you don't have in life it's about what you do have. You can't control that girl's can't see what a great human being you are. You can control your feelings and emotions. No one deserves to be depressed let's end this together everyone! I'm done seeing all the great people in this world getting tormented the most. Fight back against this demonic world and prove to it you can be happy against all the odds.
"You can't control that girl's can't see what a great human being you are." Yes, but also no one is owed a relationship, just because he likes them doesn't mean they have to like him back, If I'm being brutally honest he needs a shave, and to start a physical hobby, running, swimming cycling, lifting, something that gets him up and outside and meeting people. Mental and emotional attraction follows physical improvement.
he needs to smarten himself up, get off the video games and broaden his personality. THEN the girls will come to him in a much more equal playing field. Wallowing in self pity isn't attractive
BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
Because you AREN’T ALONE!
Bc you are one of millions of ppl going thru very similar situations.
After reading your comment, I totally agree brother. You can’t chase love or relationships because when you finally get in one, it ends up being easily ruined. When you learn to love yourself first ,love will find you eventually in one or another. Keep your head up king 👑
Remember my brother: Being positive doesn’t mean you have to be happy all the time. Instead it means having a bright outlook no matter how shitty life can be. Comparing you previous video to this one is the perfect example.
I'm glad you posted this follow-up video, man. It's nice to see the growth you've undergone in the year and acknowledge the mistakes you made along the way. I hope your corrected mindset takes you far.
You’re on the right path. I’m proud of you brother.
Don't feel too bad, dude! I'm 57 and never had a serious girlfriend either! Oh but I have had several crushes! The more I look back, I don't think I've missed very much!
How do you cope with such a life?
@@camelcasee That's a great question!...It's kinda hard to explain! There are just several reasons why! Just to name a few, It just seems like all the "good" women are either married or have steady boyfriends! Also I live in a small town where they're even more scarce! In a nutshell, there's just too much going on in today's society nowadays! I'm really getting to find out there's really no single women out there because even if a woman were really single, their expectations have gone WAY over the roof big time and sometimes even when a woman is married or going steady, they would have at least a few more guys on the side just in case something would go wrong in the relationship so I think that pretty much explains to me why there's really no single women out there!
Damn man really at 57? I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before but went on my first ever date on 16th September 2023 which was just almost 2 month ago. She is 19 and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and we hugged and I was pinching her cheeks a lot. But 2 weeks after the date, she became toxic after I messaged her saying me to go to hell and said swear words and then blocked me on all social media apps. It looks like she just used me for free lunch and to take pics of her so she can post them on Instagram. I lost some hope.
But 3 weeks ago, I went out with this another girl who is also either 22 or 23 now. She is in my class where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 3-4 months ago and planning to study MBA next. We had a great day and I pinched her cheeks too while we took selfie and had lunch in a restaurant too. We are just friends tho and we might again go out on 22nd November. I also have big crush on this another girl in the same class who is also 22. I am kinda shy near her and usually she is the one who initiates conversations with me but 3 weeks ago she asked me how was she looking and I said she is cute and I pinched her cheeks too and she blushed a bit. Nowadays I noticed she smiles at me whenever I look at her and tells her friend about me while looking at me and smiling. But she has several male friends so idk whether I have any chance with her or not.
@@manosijroy8282 Yeah!! At 57!! I know that hard to believe dude!! Tell me about it!! I wish you the best of luck!
Jaron, You're seriously so awesome for doing this and putting yourself out there. I'm so glad you mention Dr. K. I'm happy you're getting positive feedback because this is an extremely important message these days. I wish you the absolute best, along with those who relate, and I'll be following along to see how you're doing. Keep going!
You seem so much more grounded and confident in this video, compared to the one you posted a year ago. Your story is truly moving, and inspires me to meditate more. I am genuinely happy for you.
Wishing you all the best my friend.
Prob because the feelings of depression and loneliness come in waves and you're seeing him in a lighter mood.
Thanks Chad
Man you're lucky. You're not missing out on anything but pain and regret. If I never had a girlfriend I'd have so much more money right now. I wish I had spent my 20s not worried about women at all.
Absolutely okay! I've never had a girlfriend either. I was jealous of everyone for years because of my insecurities and weaknesses. But then I made a New Year resolution to end it, because I realized something. I do not believe in society anymore. I say two words to ultimately eliminate the self-doubt that tries to attack me: screw norms.
I'm 27, still live at home, having _never_ moved out. I have never had a girlfriend or a date, and I don't even have a driver's license. I have both a learning disability and ASD, and sometimes I say unfiltered things or act weird in social moments. I assume my ASD makes me "less normal." I don't have too many friends now that I've graduated from college and most of my friends have left town. My coworkers all seem to fit in; I usually stand out. I used to feel like a misfit at work, but now I realize that it's not a big deal. It's just they're not my people, they're each other's only. If my ASD makes them not like me enough, that's their problem. Sure, I don't have a great filter, but it doesn't define me; nobody is perfect. I don't care if people find me weird or annoying. I don't care that my both my sisters have boyfriends and started dating at 16 while I've always been single. I don't care that I can't drive. I don't care that I appear dopey because of my learning disability. I don't care that I seem slow and helpless and do better with a guide than by myself (my boss basically said that to my face). I don't care that I still live with my mom. I don't care that I went to a small charter school than the "superior" public school that has many more activities, adventures, and organizations. I don't care about any of my weaknesses; I still have confidence in myself. It doesn't matter what others think of me, it's what I think of myself that matters. I will never fall for society's tricks again; society is buIIshit, and that would explain our government and political leaders. I say "SCREW NORMS!" I am absolutely fine the way I am, I say confidently. I am not a loser. A disabled man who doesn't match standards, yes, but not a loser. There is nothing wrong with being different. Different is good. Normal is boring.
Normal IS boring, history is made by the misanthropic. Tesla, Diogenes, Lovecraft, and countless others. Keep up the art bro!
This ain’t it bro. You’re too comfortable. Strive to be better. You think you’re happy now but imagine how much happier you’d be if you were better. Imagine how much more confident you’d be if you were self sufficient, capable and trusted. Don’t feel comfortable where you are, strive to be better
@@edidiongmoses2889Well, it doesn't matter what you think of me; it only matters what _I_ think, and I don't think I need to "be better."
@@johnrainsman6650but when you change your mind and you’ve wasted your year and there’s no option of going back anymore… When your parents are dead and no one gives af about you anymore and you have no one and no option to gain anyone… Don’t settle. Strive for a self sufficient life.
@@MrMann-gt1ehWell, it doesn't matter if you think my life is pathetic, because I don't think it is, and that's enough for me
The sad truth is that some of us are just destined to be alone. You can waste the years of your life remaining lamenting that fact, or you can accept it, embrace it, and enjoy what you've got in your own little way. I'm 26 and have been alone pretty much my whole life, and I'm at a stage where I'm beyond the delusions of "it'll fix itself one day". I can quite clearly see how my life's going to pan out, and it looks like it's a path I'm going to take alone, until the day I die.
Alone doesn't have to mean friendless. As far as dating, I agree. I wish I had embraced the idea that I'd never have a girlfriend when I was 26.
But I had friends back then, and I took that for granted and I lost them all. I made many foolish decisions from aged 31 on. If you have some friends, don't move away from them to a place you are unfamiliar with. You may just not fit the culture of that new place and become friendless. And that sort of sucks. But it can be ok still if you make sure to rent only and minimize your possessions, and whatever you do, do NOT get a cat.
@@andrewphilpott3220 I must say that I do agree with you in that. Whilst female companionship is certainly absent from my life, I do still have a handful of friends whom I cherish greatly. I feel like losing them one day is an inevitability, though. We are only tenuously linked as is and half of them live very far away.
@@observer4916It doesn't have to be inevitable if you cherish them and nurture the friendships.
Dude don't give up. I'm also in the same boat being 28 and never having had a GF or sex or even holding hands. It affects my self confidence on a daily basis, but I refuse to believe it's my destiny just because it hasn't happened yet. Especially when there are identifiable reasons why it hasn't happened (I had no social skills, stayed at home all day playing video games etc). Your right in that it won't fix itself because I firmly believe that is up to us to fix it. The universe owes us nothing and we have to make it happen. If I do end up being alone for my whole life, I at least want to be able to say I tried.
Focus on yourself and the relationships that come are just a benefit. Nobody else can complete you if you don’t love yourself
I’ll most likely be in the same position when I’m your age. This is the way it is for some people, and things will never change.
Life isn't fair, that's just the way it is. Everyone is born with different privileges that are completely out of our control. There's a movie called "Falling Down" with Michael Douglas that really hits hard and drives home that reality.
Even he had an ex and kid@@GregoryAlanBaileygamereviews
Just wanted to say, I was in a rough spot mentally about my own lack of a dating life a couple weeks ago and I found your video. I related so heavily. So I watched some more of your videos and it’s honestly inspiring how open you are with your emotions and how you try to put yourself out there and face your fears. You’re awesome man, and clearly the rest of this comment section thinks so too. And I also have been getting into guitar so you seem like an older version of me. I also wanna say that the comment about getting in shape is true. I started hitting the gym a few months ago, and even though it hasn’t helped my dating life at all, it’s made me so much happier in my own skin and it’s honestly invaluable for your sense of self confidence. Even if you can’t join a gym, try doing callisthenics. Self care really really helps, because girls or no girls we all die alone and the only person you’ll always have is you. So it’s really very important to take care of yourself. But I know you know this, you started meditating and doing the hard work for a reason. Stay awesome man.
you mean women, not girls.
Focusing on self-improvement is the first step to finding somebody, keep at it!
Beautiful comment. Thank you!
I love this video. Proves that growth comes with accepting where you plant your seed.
Good for you man. Organic calm self analysis. Meditate, musical instrument, exercise, good diet, positive thinking. Look at what you have to be happy with instead of focus on what you don't have. Sounds like things are moving forward for you. Good luck and congrats.
So basically, don't obsess, fixate, and crave a relationship and try to make it the basis of your happiness? The "only once I have this, I will be happy"? And focus on what you love doing?
I think I understand what you're talking about because I think I'm going through the same thing.
I've been trying to let go of this fixation on being in a relationship and being okay with myself and accepting myself even if I'm not in a relationship. So that I can be more present in the moment and receptive to what I am experiencing and feel more happy and healthy in general.
Look I’m turning 29 soon and never had a girlfriend ever in my life but to actually feel sad about it at all is such a stupid and pathetic thing to be sad about at all. Just love life and do something that gives you gratification based on the skills and talents you have.
@francostevo9939 I think that it's okay to feel sad about it. I don't think that it is a pathetic or stupid thing to feel sad about. Why do you think so?
@@cristianlopez9997 Just keep focusing on improving yourself, that's all you can do
I'm 24 and I've never been in a relationship. Meditating has helped me so much with the feelings of shame as well, it's so powerful. I used to identify so much with the idea of myself as someone who is not good enough, who is undesirable, unlovable, etc. but now I can see that that is just a thought and is not what I am. The aim of life should be peace within yourself, not the acquiring of things which you think will finally make you a worthwhile person. A relationship will not make you happy forever, nothing can give you eternal happiness. It won't take away the feeling of not being good enough either. I don't know if this will resonate with you but I wish you the best
Man I really needed that like finding peace can be extremely difficult sometimes but relationships are honesty just free anxiety it’s not worth it until you’ve known someone long enough as best friends for years and really trust each other and then get with them and just honestly trust them. Like people should see it as picking a wife not a girl you look for peace in but a girl u feel peace thinking about
Why do people think its shameful if you're 24 and never had a girlfriend? Its such a stupid norm its unbelieveable
@@gjbsarmeri3957 I mean I don’t
@@gjbsarmeri3957 it is out of the ordinary but no it shouldn't be seen as shameful
@@gjbsarmeri3957i'm 24 and i never had a girlfriend too, but i'm schizophrenic.
Hey dude, i'm 43 and i NEVER HAD NO ONE EVER, i'm unemployed, i love to gaming, but my pc is from 2015, i love drumming, but i play on fucking air cuz i can't afford a drum kit..i live on a third world country...i'm fucking ugly...and i hate myself...
That's rough. I hope something changes for you. Stay strong, keep the Faith. All I can say is; try to find small rays of hope and happiness in the little things each day.
@@Lulu-xl5cm Thank you!
I'm you, but 10 years younger, w/o job record, 3rd world sh!thole, with only friend being my mom, cat and PC most of my life. Except it's from 2011 and instead of drumming my only somewhat persistent hobbies are amateur tech repair, books & videogames.
I seriously love to see people working on themself. Even life most of the time not fair, its just gives me hope on humanity. You were in a dark place in your viral video. Easy to manipulate these kind of struggling persons by radical ideologies. Im just so happy that you dont care you just work on yourself. Please keep up man and spread this positivty
Of course its okay dude as long as we are moving forward with life. Keep grinding 💪
No its not okay, the whole point in an animals life is to procreate. And for humans especially we need a partner, we are social beings.
He is clearly depressed about it as any human would be.
@@bollock1213 Its okay to be single, not okay to stay single. Two different things mi amigo
@@bollock1213he’s working on it and has clearly grown as a person and in his approach to the idea which is all that matters at this time and yea I get what you’re saying but hey he’s still working on it
@bollock1213 then you already recognize this poor guy is falling behind tremendously considering he's nearly 30 and still has yet even gets girl, c'mon man, our sole purpose as a species is to procreate, everything else is subjective
@@billiebob2211Some can't procreate at all and are still in a relationship.
Thinking life is only about procreating is a dumb mindset, with that mindset we would've still been in the stone ages discovering fire.
Yes we are meant to procreate but we are also meant to fight and survive as we have been doing for all of our existence, instead of always thinking about reproduction we need to think about the present.
That’s cute. I’m 36 😂 @ this point it’s over for me because I got NO credentials.
Bro, I feel ya. I went monk mode about 25 years ago, and I'll admit there were many times I really struggled with the consequences of that, but now in my 50s, as I see most my friends and co-workers miserably divorced, drowning in debt, paying alimony, and paying CS for a kid they never get to see, I realize it was the best decision regarding relationships I could have made.
Exactly.
Yea but then you see the people who have successful relationships without all the bullshit and envy them.
It’s not because all your friends made dumb relationship choices that relationships are dumb. You focusing way too much on shit relationships that shouldn’t even be considered relationships. They just jokes
@@Tarpull Yea too bad most relationships are as bad as he says. Just look at divorce rates.
@@WeebsArePathetic one thing is for sure, good relationships do not come to people who give up. You work on yourself, you get the reward of atleast saying you did your best and you didnt sit around and cry for the rest of your fucking life. Even if you don't get exactly what you want, its better to give your all anyways
Night and day difference man happy to see you doing better. What I got from this is you’ve taken back control of your life and own all of your failures and successes as one and come to peace with all the decisions you’ve made. Keep becoming the best Version of yourself!
you are in inspiration dude! being as open as you are is not easy at all. i have so much respect for you and i wish you the best.
Glad you are doing better bro. I dated an attractive girl for a couple years every guy I knew wanted to be with. She is the only girl ive dated or slept with. She had more issues than you could imagine so i broke up with her. Now I just concentrate on my hobbies and career goals. I'm ultimately looking for a wife and if that never happens, who cares. Being single gets lonely but it's better to live in peace than deal with a woman who brings misery.
Having your feeling revealed like in your previous video and keeping it online takes a lot of balls, man.
You've got it and you're on the right path. I believe in you and I believe you'll do great in the future, so keep on pushing forward! I like your current mindset. :)
I used to be skinny, ugly, wierd, annoying, the guy nobody wanted to be around of in my freshman year. People would tell me to eat more workout etc. I didn’t care and I made fun of my self which was a huge detriment to my ego. Later I decided to make some changes. I switched up the clothes I wear, changed how I act, worked out, ate more and boom. Now multiple girls want me. I have become one of the normal/popular guys. It took two years to change but now I am confident and have fun in life, go out on the weekends etc. you have to be confident and always keep improving
What a Chad
This sounds made up
Hope you have a stable mind
I just commented in another video about how much you had improved since I arrived to this channel through that "Never had a Girlfriend" video, I didn't know whether you had found a person or not but I could see you looked more confident and happy in your videos.
My case has been so similar, I was also very obsessed with finding a Partner since 2016, but since around 2019 I've been doing way better thanks to therapy and meds. Haven't found someone yet but now I'm happy for what I have, instead of being miserable for what I want to happen and hasn't happened yet.
Dude, this was so good to watch after the 27 years video! You've come a long way! Thumbs up and cheers!
I have been following your videos because of that video. It's really good to see your attitude is changed and you are on the right path.
There are really important things to deal with right now, like getting debt free and stable. Getting fit etc. Work out what you want to do now your mind is more free and do it a little bit at a time. A relationship is not as important as these baseline things.
Well done man
One thing I learnt in my life, is that, as soon as I got out of the "I need someone to love/love me" mentality, I realized that life is much more than that. Honestly, life is almost never about that now and my perspective on world improved so much its crazy. Now I get to do what I love, I woke up everyday to do exactly that, and I enjoyed every second of it.
You’re almost at wizard status
Never began.
I'm glad to see this man. I saw your other video the other day and I really felt for you.
I'm a guitar player myself and
I spent the majority of my 20's single. I just never knew how to approach girls in my youth. Once I became comfortable with myself, things changed. I'm 42 now and been with my wife since 2010.
You gotta find happiness within yourself and the good stuff will find you. Do your thing man & focus on doing the things you love. You're on the right path.
I’m so proud of you, Dude. Foreal. Keep going. I’m always rootin’ for yuh. 🍃
When your view to like ratio is this good, you know you've connected with people.
I'm proud of you dude.
Keep going man it only gets better from here. We’re with you👍🏾
Cudos to you my brother. You probably don't even realize but you are doing so much good for the world by sharing your story and being unashamedly vulnerable. I am almost 28 and I've also never had a girlfriend. I've gone through it all man.. suicidal ideation, overthinking spirals, private emotional breakdowns. One thing I've learned through it all is that mindset is most important. If you talk down about yourself, you will stay down. I'm so happy to see the positivity radiating from you now. Honestly dude, and I'm not even BS'ing, but you honestly aren't unattractive. Just by the way you're carrying yourself in this video is instantly better than how I perceived you in the last. You're not making excises for yourself and asking for pity. That right there is beautiful. You will find a woman who will be so lucky to have you someday. Just keep up the good work. I'm progressing along with you bro. Sending you my love and respect 🙏
You’re killing it homie. Glad to hear you find meditation!
Honestly bro, seeing your progress and how awesome you are now, is such an inspiring influence. Keep the good work bro.
I'm 27 and it's been 18 years since I've held a girls hand. That reality hit me really hard yesterday and I felt anxious, terrified that my legacy, my entire life would be forgotten... but your words of wisdom pulled me from the brink. Thank you for being a kind soul willing to sit with patience and speak the truth of the world and your life!!!
Your entire life will be forgotten anyways after a few generations. I don't even understand that logic.
At least you got to do that, most people can’t even say that
@@slapshotjack9806 Doesn't really matter at this point, if it is this long ago, plus if the guy is 27, that means since he was 9 that he held hands with a girl. At this point the sensation of it long forgotten!
@@obliqueparalells429 sounds like a personal problem then
Thank you for doing those videos man. When you post a video and i see you smiling i feel like we all gonna be ok.
Thank you again.
you're speaking facts bro. thats the only way to go honestly, go your way, be happy with your life, if something happens good, if nothing happens good too.
I really admire your realism in the words you speak. I hope life treats you well man, we all deserve what we dish out. And when it's positive it shall always return in positivity.
Great progress man! You're an inspiration for thousands of people for sure. All the best to you, keep building your happiness from within! That's what really matters.
Even though I have been in a relationship every word of this hit me like a freight train. I also struggle with letting others control my happiness and self-worth so it's comforting to know I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing your struggles and I'm so glad you are doing better!
Oh wow your improvement is awesome! The way you can look back and say how you struggled while also acknowledging your progress is something i want to achieve too👍
I'm glad you finally get it. Being in a relationship is not a vital need. However, following your dreams really is.
It is not particular about being in a realationship. But being able to experience romantic intmicacy. Nobody would want to have a life without that...
Wish you all the best man! I'm in similiar circumstances. Absolutely love the progress you are making. I hope you keep us updated in the future. You seem like a really great guy!
Glad to see that you're doing better, my friend! You look and sound so much better! I'm super happy that you started meditating and finding your inner peace! Many blessings and love to you!
The thing that I like about your videos and I’ve only watched two so far is that your a genuine and a honest person. That is what alot of people lack These days. Keep up the good work!
I’m proud of your progress too, as a casual viewer.
My experience is basically the opposite of yours…but I still related to you.
It just goes to show that its about doing the right thing, having self-care/self-respect and passion.
Stay away from those pills!! I am so happy to hear this.
You seem like a good person. Please keep that up.
What progress has he made? Depression pills? Meditation? He’s stagnant.
Wow you have made so much progress indeed ! Keep it up buddy many people think that being alone and having no relationship is bad which is father from the truth no one can make you happy no person whatsoever and it's about learning how to be comfortable on your own and gaining Self love. I've been on the similar journey and I'm so happy on my own that I don't even care if someone comes into my life I just don't care that much as I used to having said that I wish you all the best on your journey. Keep meditating and growing 👏😉
Thats the right attitude. Your not missing much!
I love this video man. Gives me hope and inspires me - I’m 28 and while I’ve had a small handful of short term romantic relationships, I’ve truly never had a true connection in my adult life. I sometimes feel that I’ll never be able to be in a relationship or find someone who will actually be into me in any romantic or sexual way. But I don’t want to lose self esteem and I also don’t want to be obsessed with attaining something I feel I lack. Thank you for sharing your experience
Wow you are so much more grounded and confident now. Good for you man! I really admire your courage for making these videos; It's really helpful to a lot of people.
I send you a hug from Italy. Stay strong man.
I really respect you for telling your story! Brothers gotta back each other up too! Your 29, i think you can get there buddy! But focus on you!!! Your the most important in your life! Subbed, and thanks!
You're awesome man, these are impressive words of wisdom. We need more people like you! Self love above everything!!
its so great to see that your doing so much better, i only watched the other video last night and the amount of emotion and sadness that you have thought for and now used ti make yourself stronger is inspirational
Hey man, just want to say it's very inspirational seeing you make that video. You're not the only person who hasn't had a girlfriend yet and i'm sure even a woman before has never gotten a boyfriend before in their 30's. You help other men going through this and help them cope. There was a monk who went through his whole life while never seeing, or heard of a woman before in his life, all he did was meditate.
a woman in her 30s who has never had a boyfriend? i find that very hard to believe, but very easily believable if a guy, man, has never had a girlfriend before by that decade
@@initiatorhater0688Same but anything’s possible there are 8 billion people in the world so at least one is bound to not date anyone you’d think at least!
@@initiatorhater0688this is why you should meet women irl. They also are single and lonely just like you.
I'm 21 and never had a boyfriend and I'm kinda lonely these days... It's hard for everyone!
@@Emma-vk9ts difference between 21 and 31 though lol
You’re a hero foreal. You are not alone. Do you. Keep improving. Your life is yours to live. Thx 4 the inspiration. I wish you nothing but the best. Much love & respect. Stay strong bro✊🏽
You’re channel came up in my recommended.
I can’t quite relate but I definitely know what it feels like to be alone dude.
Just got out of terrible breakup with a narcissist.
The depression was soul crushing. And I’m homeless as well so there’s that.
Amongst the worst I’ve ever experienced. I’m 32. Too young to be so jaded.
But then I realized that anyone willing to treat me like I’m nothing is not worth my time. Best to be alone. Try to make friends and restart my life.
I work on goals. Any little thing I can do every day. Because I made up my mind to continue living and not let the depression consume me. It’s hard though man.
What do I want to do for the rest of my life? What’s my passion? Im also an artist.
Stay positive dude. You’re a brave person.
Your progress and level of determination are admirable. You're on the right track, brother. Keep pushing! 💪
Progress? Really?
@@pawel1545 Yes, really. This man's mental progress from the original video to this one displays an increase in fortitude, perspective, and self-acceptance.
We're all just human beings trying to figure out our way in this world. He's not yet in his final form, but he IS making progress. That's what's important.
No rush for a girlfriend my friend it takes courage bc people expect men to be strong all the time but we are human beings! no one is programmed to be strong instead of bottling emotions & pain its better to let it out because lots of people can relate. Besides only god knows when your going to have a girlfriend! everyone is different who has different journeys, life wouldn't be interesting if everyone were the same. Keep pushing, moving forward, pray to god, talk to your family & close friends so you won't be alone during this journey may god bless brother.
"No rush for a girlfriend" lol thats such a cope
@@UserRobot215True but people should only look for a partner when they're ready and NOT because people around them have one so they feel the need to rush to try and be like the people around them.
Bro been Patient for 29 Years how Much More you could be Patient 💀
@@Skwtez so your supposed to be desperate & lose your dignity? lol you think everyone in this world is going to get married & have kids? Human beings are not robots & nobody is programmed to be the same & if it was like that these types of issues wouldn’t exist.
@@UserRobot215 no It’s not I’m just telling the truth. Human beings depend there happiness on a female and that’s bad bc what if she leaves you or cheats on you? Are you going to cry & commit suicide for her? Besides this isn’t the 1900s anymore! There isn’t no rule or date when you should have a girlfriend. That’s the problem with this society & people like you make it worse
Dont worry Im 57 yrs old and never had a girlfriend 😊There comes a time were you will realize that you are very fortunate not to have one!!! Freedom to go and do and noresponsibilities!!! Its great!!!
Massive Cope 😂😂
@@biglsmoke6164 well if your married or have a girlfriend write me back when you tell them you have a date, want to go out of town, dont want to fix something, want to hang out with friends, want to buy anything for yourself. If its all right if I dont go to your friends wedding etc.............. oh buy the way I am fully retired three yrs ago got no debts hundreds of thousands of dollars in the bank plus Im moving to another town and I dont have to drag anyone with me or ask to do it!
Damn man really at 57? I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before but went on my first ever date on 16th September 2023 which was nearly 2 months ago. She is 19 and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and we hugged and I was pinching her cheeks a lot. But 2 weeks after the date, she became toxic after I messaged her saying me to go to hell and said swear words and then blocked me on all social media apps. It looks like she just used me for free lunch and to take pics of her so she can post them on Instagram. I lost some hope.
But a bit over 2 weeks ago, I went out with this another girl who is also either 22 or 23 now. She is in my class where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 3-4 months ago and planning to study MBA next. We had a great day and I pinched her cheeks too while we took selfie and had lunch in a restaurant too. We are just friends tho and we might again go out on 22nd November. I also have big crush on this another girl in the same class who is also 22. I am kinda shy near her and usually she is the one who initiates conversations with me but 3 weeks ago she asked me how was she looking and I said she is cute and I pinched her cheeks too and she blushed a bit. Nowadays I noticed she smiles at me whenever I look at her and tells her friend about me while looking at me and smiling. But she has several male friends so idk whether I have any chance with her or not.
@@manosijroy8282 Dont over think it. Seems like you have had some good luck with women. Keep doing what your doing and let it happen naturally. My biggest problem was when I turned 21 I got desperate and was asking out anyone and everyone and all the girls I really didnt like but I was desperate. (Got rejected and or srood up by all of them which completly destroyed my cobfidence.) Biggest mistake I ever happened. Let it come to you!!!
57 damn lmao
6:50 so happy and kind of impressive that you mastered your emotions like that. What really sucks is it's normally the people who have gone through unsurmountable pain and mental confusion that come out on the other side stronger, like you have. Your words are proof.
I read something that said, "How can you become the person you wish to be... unless you live the life that you wish not to live? How can you be brave, unless you've felt fear? How can you be strong unless you were once weak?
Thank you for being you and inspiring people to live the life they wish to live. And when you do find love, which you will, it will be so genuine and mutual. And we can't wait to see it. 💎
I'm extremely proud of you! You are looking so damn strong, strong af.
Just jumped from the other video you made over a year ago and you seem so much more calm, collected and happy and it makes me incredibly glad to see that you seem te be doing much better. Keep doing what you’re doing man, it will only get better from here
It's almost as if our mood changes sometimes and a 20 minute video isn't the most accurate reflection of someone's life. Guy could be crying as I'm typing this for all we know.
Good for you man. Its this kind of self love and acceptance that is immediately apparent in your confidence and demeanor, and it can lead to the indifference that girls find much more attractive than the projections of the last video. Its great to see you growing man. Best wishes
One of the very few honest videos I was able to find! This is so impressive!
I do get the sense you're doing a lot better mentally and emotionally so good job on trying meditation. It's also good you realize the value in that old video, since you learned and grew from it. Keep up the good work