Hit the realization today as I was taking my daily walk; the progress I have made in the past 7 months is miraculous. It’s so good that I feel I am at the point in my life where I don’t think I want to date anyone right now, including my ex. I am enjoying the freedom of focusing on myself, on my own time, and with my own resources. It feels great to be selfish in a personal growth aspect. Rory, you have helped me so much through our coachings, the discord, and your videos. Brother, I don’t know where I would be at without your help. I am becoming the best version of myself every single day! I have hiked nearly every weekend, I’m working out everyday at home, I’m continuously journaling, growing in my faith, and learning about my wants and needs. I am a success story because I got myself back and let me tell you, I missed myself. If my ex comes back awesome, I’ll get to decide whether I want to continue a relationship with her but I’m at the point where I am solely focused on my personal growth. It gets easier and when you start to feel this you’ll never look back! Much love and god bless 🙏🏻
A daily reminder via a Post It note on my mirror... "When you're busy creating your own fulfillment, you won't feel the need to seek it from others". Thanks Rory for what you do.
Your videos have helped me mentally, emotionally, psychologically. I feel tons better knowing that I'm working on myself. Work and school keep me busy.. I don't think about her as much as I use to. I'm happy where I am.. I'm starting to value myself more as a man. Thank you please keep going with your work.
3rd week into the break up and just wanted to say thank you. It was one of your videos that made me start to see things from a different perspective. it isn't as painful anymore. I got a promotion at work when he broke up with me and it also helped me to feel my value again, since I get to focus on something. He's been contacting me since the breakup and insisting to be friends and I told him I couldnt settle. Now I'm at the point when I realized how much I lost myself, my identity because I cared too much for him when I was in the relationship and im focusing on me now, doing things I've never done is making me ask myself an impt question: "is that really the kind of man you want to be with?" The NO CONTACT is also helping me to rediscover the independent and confident woman I used to be. I never thought I would get to this point when all I wanted back then is getting him back. Thank you again Rory. Can't wait to hear your next video and I really hope you get to the point when you could do this full time 😊
This is happening to me right now. I gave him a lot, supported him in everyday he did, God I even changed the clothes I wore (I never thought I would have stooped to that for a man, disappointed in myself). He didn't support me going into the navy. Good riddance, its been a little over a week of no contact, realised how much of myself I'd given up. So glad he broke up with me. I can be me again.
One of the best things is give back to the needy .... I had a double whammy.... found out my ex had a one night stand ... 2 days later i was admitted to hospital for a lymphoma exploratory procedure .... Two weeks later Lymphoma was all clear ... The day after my results i booked plane tickets and flew to Tanzania to help with a charity for kids with cancer. Now setting up a charity of my own . GIVE BACK its great for the soul
Hi! I tried tango and it was tough because the control and pace was all about equal parts distance and closeness. It was eye opening to observe how relationship concepts apply to tango e.g. If someone is too pushy the partner pulls back and destroys the balance. Additionally, the couple needs to be in tune in order to know with a subtle shift when to start the ocho move. The tango requires trust so the leader sets the pace and the partner needs to believe that they are moving backwards without risk of crashing into someone. The tango is an intense dance because it reflects relationships.
Today was a weird day, I’ve felt an emptiness all day. It reminds me of my feelings when I was depressed from my parents divorce. I’m not sure why I’m feeling like this today because I’ve been improving so much and I’ve been enjoying life lately again. However, today sucked and I didn’t feel like going to the gym at all, but a crappy workout is a million times better than no workout.
Yes Rory! Love your channel. Finally putting it all into play. No more ex. All about rebuilding me. Spend way too much time obsessing over her. Gym, BJJ, Journaling, meditation, starting my apparel company and eating right. Never been this on point. What better project than yourself?! Bless ❤
Thank you for everything you do Rory! A couple of mates are really finding your videos helpful.. it has been 9 months and 7 months no contact for me and I just realised that I haven't even spared a small thought for him.. i would not take him back if he paid me.. it's CRAZY what time can do when you're USING it correctly and progressing in some way. I used to tend to throw myself into my work to distract from any issues and this time, I've purposely limited my work hours so I am feeling everything and working through why I am the way I am. So grateful for your advice Rory xx
My ex left me 4 months ago and for some reason today is kicking the crap out of me with anxiety. I think she left me for another guy and our relationship turned on a dime. I had no idea we were going to break up. She hasn't reached out in any way. I am craving just knowing I meant something to her. If I knew she was even just sad or missed me sometimes I would be okay. But instead, I feel like a ghost. I don't know why it's so hard today.
You are very genuine Rory. Keep up the good work. If it’s been a long time from speaking your ex you should probably continue that time right. Your stance is usually always no matter what they have to reach out that’s that? Would be logical just more curious. At this point I really am accepting whether it’s true or not there not coming back. This is a good thing. Thanks Rory!
@@mamoud6648 9 months later and I'm ok with being alone. I'm ok with myself. I miss her still but I like my own company again and feel I'm getting stronger. I wish her and I could speak and ultimately get back together, but if that doesn't happen then at least I have myself. Thank you for commenting, I hope you're well 🙂
General Waste I would suggest maybe start dating again, see where things go. It will definitely help get some confidence back, I understand losing someone you love. Can hurt but ultimately you are the star of your own reality
@@mamoud6648 Not quite ready for that yet, got a couple of priorities to sort but once they're done I'll be ready then, I reckon. There's someone I'm quite attracted to, I've realised, but I can't work her out. And having that interest shows I'm starting to see the light again, eh? Thanks for replying! 🙂
Hi Rory! Just letting you know that your videos are helping me a lot on the path of getting over a breakup! I love your perspective on breakups and relationships; they are tremendously different from what I've seen from the other coaches like Brad Browning or Clay Andrew. Oh, and if you're looking for a recommendation for video topic, how about "My ex cheated on me and left me for that person"? Yes, I am going through it. But I'd love to hear your perspective on this particular topic! Thanks for reading and have a good day! :)
My ex and I have been broken up for 3 days. We had been dating on/off since October 2016. We were fine until recently. He had a family bereavement a few weeks ago. I sent his family members flowers, tried to be there for him and I know I have been! In the weekend his behaviour changed. He started to go cold, calling me names and snapping at me. On a drive he called me stupid. I asked him to not call me that because it hurts me so he had a go at me. I attended the funeral on Monday and I tried to offer as much kindness and support to everyone there as well as being upset myself. Two days after the funeral, he dumped me by text stating that he thought I was cold and I gave everyone half-arsed hugs and he can't date someone like that. He just kept saying I was cold, he finds me cold, all I care about is my car and he wishes I wasn't there (my car exhaust was hanging off but I still drove to the funeral because that was a bigger priority than my car). This was Valentine's Day when I text him saying happy V day and he said 'I'm not celebrating valentines day'. I said okay, I understand I hope you're okay, so I got that after. I was really hurt. Really hurt. I still am. I know I did everything I could that day. I love him and his family. I told him that. I did not beg for him to stay with me. I haven't contacted him since. I'm heartbroken. He didn't give me a chance to even explain. He's hurt me so much from this. I genuinely apologised and said I'm so sorry if he thought I was being cold. What do I do? I don't know what to do 😞. I spoke to his sister and she said that I was not cold, I've done so much for this guy. He dumped me before by text, but later regretted it and we got back together last year. This was after 4 months of LC, and he did some brutal things post-breakup. He broke up with me last time because he 'wasn't happy'. I did nothing but work on myself getting a good job, doing everything to better myself, and cried so much because he just treated me like crap. This time round, after him dumping me. I deactivated my Facebook. Within minutes he had done the same. I know he's hurting, but to call anyone cold who's literally been there for you I just.l can't comprehend 😕. I love him with all of my heart. It's totally broken. The last text he sent me was 'I don't want to be with you'. Just blunt. No dignity or respect to me, the relationship, no gratitude for me even being there by his side at the funeral, and I wanted to be. I asked if I could go. I'm a failure and I don't know how I'll ever fix this ☹️.
Two weeks on NC I’m really struggling I have no one to talk to that actually gives a crap I’m still hurting I’m emotional most days how to I get out of this funk 🥺🥺🥺🥺
your channel is one of the best ones in this respect that i have come across! v v organised and on point Pls continue making videos... and can u help me btw, in my particular situation? pls? Thanks!
after 2 months of no contact i managed to get over my ex i became a new person what i notice my ex started posting love and relationships regrets i am sure she is going to come back but i am confused whether i take her back or not?
Hi Rory my ex dumped me then blocks me in all social media flatform and contacts # & told me not to get in touch with her anymore. I beg, plead for 2 days through her relatives soc media then going no contact till these days. Are there chances? Blocked me anywhere..
You remind me a lot of Sarah may, she makes podcasts called "Help me be me", U both are really sensible and I like ur attitudes, Im glad I found you :D , you should check her out
Love ya, Rory 😭😁. Video idea maybe? Being a rebound to my boyfriend after 2 and a half years of them breaking up. Fuck, this shit hurts on every level.
Do you think that these videos (which are great and have helped me out so freaking much) apply to marriages that deal with infidelity (she cheated) or just boyfriend / girlfriend situations ?
Hit the realization today as I was taking my daily walk; the progress I have made in the past 7 months is miraculous. It’s so good that I feel I am at the point in my life where I don’t think I want to date anyone right now, including my ex. I am enjoying the freedom of focusing on myself, on my own time, and with my own resources. It feels great to be selfish in a personal growth aspect. Rory, you have helped me so much through our coachings, the discord, and your videos. Brother, I don’t know where I would be at without your help. I am becoming the best version of myself every single day! I have hiked nearly every weekend, I’m working out everyday at home, I’m continuously journaling, growing in my faith, and learning about my wants and needs. I am a success story because I got myself back and let me tell you, I missed myself. If my ex comes back awesome, I’ll get to decide whether I want to continue a relationship with her but I’m at the point where I am solely focused on my personal growth. It gets easier and when you start to feel this you’ll never look back! Much love and god bless 🙏🏻
Inspirational
@@TRESHONCURRY crazy to revisit this and see how far I’ve come haha
@@charliemvrphy tell us, did she come back? did you rejected her? hope you are fine and still inspirational
A daily reminder via a Post It note on my mirror... "When you're busy creating your own fulfillment, you won't feel the need to seek it from others". Thanks Rory for what you do.
Your videos have helped me mentally, emotionally, psychologically. I feel tons better knowing that I'm working on myself. Work and school keep me busy.. I don't think about her as much as I use to. I'm happy where I am.. I'm starting to value myself more as a man. Thank you please keep going with your work.
pale horse any updates
3rd week into the break up and just wanted to say thank you. It was one of your videos that made me start to see things from a different perspective. it isn't as painful anymore. I got a promotion at work when he broke up with me and it also helped me to feel my value again, since I get to focus on something. He's been contacting me since the breakup and insisting to be friends and I told him I couldnt settle. Now I'm at the point when I realized how much I lost myself, my identity because I cared too much for him when I was in the relationship and im focusing on me now, doing things I've never done is making me ask myself an impt question: "is that really the kind of man you want to be with?" The NO CONTACT is also helping me to rediscover the independent and confident woman I used to be.
I never thought I would get to this point when all I wanted back then is getting him back.
Thank you again Rory. Can't wait to hear your next video and I really hope you get to the point when you could do this full time 😊
This is happening to me right now. I gave him a lot, supported him in everyday he did, God I even changed the clothes I wore (I never thought I would have stooped to that for a man, disappointed in myself). He didn't support me going into the navy. Good riddance, its been a little over a week of no contact, realised how much of myself I'd given up. So glad he broke up with me. I can be me again.
One of the best things is give back to the needy ....
I had a double whammy.... found out my ex had a one night stand ... 2 days later i was admitted to hospital for a lymphoma exploratory procedure ....
Two weeks later Lymphoma was all clear ...
The day after my results i booked plane tickets and flew to Tanzania to help with a charity for kids with cancer. Now setting up a charity of my own .
GIVE BACK its great for the soul
I love meditation. It's really healthy for your body, mind, and soul.
Hi! I tried tango and it was tough because the control and pace was all about equal parts distance and closeness. It was eye opening to observe how relationship concepts apply to tango e.g. If someone is too pushy the partner pulls back and destroys the balance. Additionally, the couple needs to be in tune in order to know with a subtle shift when to start the ocho move. The tango requires trust so the leader sets the pace and the partner needs to believe that they are moving backwards without risk of crashing into someone. The tango is an intense dance because it reflects relationships.
Today was a weird day, I’ve felt an emptiness all day. It reminds me of my feelings when I was depressed from my parents divorce. I’m not sure why I’m feeling like this today because I’ve been improving so much and I’ve been enjoying life lately again. However, today sucked and I didn’t feel like going to the gym at all, but a crappy workout is a million times better than no workout.
Yes Rory! Love your channel. Finally putting it all into play. No more ex. All about rebuilding me. Spend way too much time obsessing over her. Gym, BJJ, Journaling, meditation, starting my apparel company and eating right. Never been this on point. What better project than yourself?!
Bless ❤
You got this!
@@TheLoveChat thank you!!!
Thank you for everything you do Rory! A couple of mates are really finding your videos helpful.. it has been 9 months and 7 months no contact for me and I just realised that I haven't even spared a small thought for him.. i would not take him back if he paid me.. it's CRAZY what time can do when you're USING it correctly and progressing in some way.
I used to tend to throw myself into my work to distract from any issues and this time, I've purposely limited my work hours so I am feeling everything and working through why I am the way I am. So grateful for your advice Rory xx
Just want to say thank you for your videos, you help me a lot
Your relationship channel is the best one on TH-cam
This video got me so motivated to start improving myself that I didn’t finish it. I have to research creative writing classes!
My ex left me 4 months ago and for some reason today is kicking the crap out of me with anxiety. I think she left me for another guy and our relationship turned on a dime. I had no idea we were going to break up. She hasn't reached out in any way. I am craving just knowing I meant something to her. If I knew she was even just sad or missed me sometimes I would be okay. But instead, I feel like a ghost. I don't know why it's so hard today.
C Turner any update?
Any update? Curious how the last year has been for you
Any update
@@AddictzAnt nope there was never any word.
Did you try stalking your ex? Or even her family member's facebook or soc med? Or mutual friends?
This video is really good. Thanks!
Please, make a video what to do with ourselves during the lockdown and quarantine ! Thank you!
meditation helped me a great deal, calms anxiety
This is just good advice generally haha- especially good in this context but solid in general.
Thanks again Rory~
Thank's I asked for this. Rory success to you a your channel.
Hey Coach Rory you're very authentic saying it like it's. .your videos keeps me going Broke up with my ex of 2 yrs 3 weeks ago . We've been in a LDR
You are very genuine Rory. Keep up the good work. If it’s been a long time from speaking your ex you should probably continue that time right. Your stance is usually always no matter what they have to reach out that’s that? Would be logical just more curious. At this point I really am accepting whether it’s true or not there not coming back. This is a good thing. Thanks Rory!
5 months on and still struggling. I can't forgive myself. 5 years thrown away. How do I get through this??
You will get through It, It take effort and time.
@@mamoud6648 9 months later and I'm ok with being alone. I'm ok with myself. I miss her still but I like my own company again and feel I'm getting stronger. I wish her and I could speak and ultimately get back together, but if that doesn't happen then at least I have myself.
Thank you for commenting, I hope you're well 🙂
General Waste I would suggest maybe start dating again, see where things go. It will definitely help get some confidence back, I understand losing someone you love. Can hurt but ultimately you are the star of your own reality
@@mamoud6648 Not quite ready for that yet, got a couple of priorities to sort but once they're done I'll be ready then, I reckon. There's someone I'm quite attracted to, I've realised, but I can't work her out. And having that interest shows I'm starting to see the light again, eh? Thanks for replying! 🙂
General Waste Anytime man, we’re a community
Hi Rory!
Just letting you know that your videos are helping me a lot on the path of getting over a breakup! I love your perspective on breakups and relationships; they are tremendously different from what I've seen from the other coaches like Brad Browning or Clay Andrew.
Oh, and if you're looking for a recommendation for video topic, how about "My ex cheated on me and left me for that person"? Yes, I am going through it. But I'd love to hear your perspective on this particular topic!
Thanks for reading and have a good day! :)
What you do say makes sense Rory. Like one night intimacies, smoking marijuana, ECT. will only give you temporary relief.
My ex and I have been broken up for 3 days. We had been dating on/off since October 2016. We were fine until recently. He had a family bereavement a few weeks ago. I sent his family members flowers, tried to be there for him and I know I have been! In the weekend his behaviour changed. He started to go cold, calling me names and snapping at me. On a drive he called me stupid. I asked him to not call me that because it hurts me so he had a go at me. I attended the funeral on Monday and I tried to offer as much kindness and support to everyone there as well as being upset myself. Two days after the funeral, he dumped me by text stating that he thought I was cold and I gave everyone half-arsed hugs and he can't date someone like that. He just kept saying I was cold, he finds me cold, all I care about is my car and he wishes I wasn't there (my car exhaust was hanging off but I still drove to the funeral because that was a bigger priority than my car). This was Valentine's Day when I text him saying happy V day and he said 'I'm not celebrating valentines day'. I said okay, I understand I hope you're okay, so I got that after. I was really hurt. Really hurt. I still am. I know I did everything I could that day. I love him and his family. I told him that. I did not beg for him to stay with me. I haven't contacted him since. I'm heartbroken. He didn't give me a chance to even explain. He's hurt me so much from this. I genuinely apologised and said I'm so sorry if he thought I was being cold. What do I do? I don't know what to do 😞. I spoke to his sister and she said that I was not cold, I've done so much for this guy. He dumped me before by text, but later regretted it and we got back together last year. This was after 4 months of LC, and he did some brutal things post-breakup. He broke up with me last time because he 'wasn't happy'. I did nothing but work on myself getting a good job, doing everything to better myself, and cried so much because he just treated me like crap.
This time round, after him dumping me. I deactivated my Facebook. Within minutes he had done the same. I know he's hurting, but to call anyone cold who's literally been there for you I just.l can't comprehend 😕. I love him with all of my heart. It's totally broken. The last text he sent me was 'I don't want to be with you'. Just blunt. No dignity or respect to me, the relationship, no gratitude for me even being there by his side at the funeral, and I wanted to be. I asked if I could go.
I'm a failure and I don't know how I'll ever fix this ☹️.
Emel do you have an update? Did you move on? Did he get back in touch?
Yeah give us an update
Two weeks on NC I’m really struggling I have no one to talk to that actually gives a crap I’m still hurting I’m emotional most days how to I get out of this funk 🥺🥺🥺🥺
We are here...never feel like you're alone...okay
My ex gf blocked me on everything & we was together for 5 years. It’s been almost 2 weeks I haven’t talk/seen her.. smh
your channel is one of the best ones in this respect that i have come across! v v organised and on point Pls continue making videos... and can u help me btw, in my particular situation? pls?
Thanks!
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after 2 months of no contact i managed to get over my ex i became a new person what i notice my ex started posting love and
relationships regrets i am sure she is going to come back but i am confused whether i take her back or not?
Good for you!! I think that is a question you should ask yourself if & when you're in that situation!
Please let us know when your ex comes back to you. We love to hear success stories.
i will do so bro
Well? 1 year later, what happened?
Richard Colwell lol everytime. Just silence....
Hi Rory my ex dumped me then blocks me in all social media flatform and contacts # & told me not to get in touch with her anymore. I beg, plead for 2 days through her relatives soc media then going no contact till these days. Are there chances? Blocked me anywhere..
You remind me a lot of Sarah may, she makes podcasts called "Help me be me", U both are really sensible and I like ur attitudes, Im glad I found you :D , you should check her out
Pacifica is a good app for rebuilding and working on yourself
A video idea for you ? Being the other man/woman in a relationship triangle.
Love ya, Rory 😭😁.
Video idea maybe? Being a rebound to my boyfriend after 2 and a half years of them breaking up. Fuck, this shit hurts on every level.
Do you think that these videos (which are great and have helped me out so freaking much) apply to marriages that deal with infidelity (she cheated) or just boyfriend / girlfriend situations ?
I broke with my ex ,now she posts her pictures as whatsap status ,this thing makes me jealous and feel pain,what should I do
what does that mean when your gf is in a rebound and tell me she still love me and wait me to change in the future , say we ll be together in 5 years
I sent u an email awhile ago
corona got me fucked up lmao
Before i met her i had no worth to begin with at least i felt like it, now that shes gone I definitely dont have any worth
save up money and go back to Cedar Point!
hi...i just sent u an email... thank u