Pretty Lonesome // EP 29 - delusion and self fulfilling prophecies

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  • In this episode of Pretty Lonesome, Madeline dives into the power of perspective and its influence on our lives. Sharing her own journey and insights, she explores how shifting mindsets can lead to positive changes. Madeline delves into the idea of self-fulfilling prophecies and their impact on our achievements and self-image. With a nod to self-respect, she reminds us to stay aware of how we treat ourselves daily. Wrapping up, Madeline ponders the idea of moving to Los Angeles, craving a warmer, more laid-back vibe.

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  • @ChuckleHead96
    @ChuckleHead96 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +105

    You’re speaking facts. We don’t have an identity, we have habits and traits that we develop over time due to circumstances, and we accept this as our identity. But nothing is set in stone.

    • @philipholding
      @philipholding 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Yes, but may I add to this. Our social identity is shaped/ conditioned by others, especially in our formative years, by significant others. That is how we create our own reality and see the world as we are, not as it is.

    • @nautica00
      @nautica00 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes! Identify can change by just changing what we do on a daily basis ❤

  • @m11010
    @m11010 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +198

    The way I’d follow every single advice you give is crazy😭😭😭

    • @madelineargy7946
      @madelineargy7946  16 วันที่ผ่านมา +193

      do not do that !

    • @m11010
      @m11010 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@madelineargy7946😃

    • @m11010
      @m11010 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@madelineargy7946😁💪🏼

    • @ashalmalik19
      @ashalmalik19 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@madelineargy7946instructions unclear, I’ve been arrested.

    • @epushzp
      @epushzp 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      me

  • @user-om6sp8nn2i
    @user-om6sp8nn2i 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +113

    Face card going insane 😍😍

  • @acharmedone
    @acharmedone 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +82

    Seeing your videos after a long week is like catching up with an old friend I love it

  • @aimsfabs6147
    @aimsfabs6147 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +59

    Watching this perspective as a religious person is honestly so interesting. I love to hear other people’s perspectives on things like this ❤️

    • @lisamujo287
      @lisamujo287 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same 💯

    • @ehams9527
      @ehams9527 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you

  • @Star-2619
    @Star-2619 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +64

    Honestly, when u went to LA you were so happy and it’s soooo your vibe. So move girl, I’m here for it!

    • @julialumina1615
      @julialumina1615 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      This!!

    • @kaylapittman
      @kaylapittman 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

      she also was so consistent too she seemed inspired

  • @caidencehurst9809
    @caidencehurst9809 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

    MADELINE im so happy u and brooke r friends now plssss make content together ILYYYY

  • @dmarie1928
    @dmarie1928 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

    You should check out San Clemente CA. It’s situation perfectly between San Diego and LA and it’s on the beach. Surprisingly, rent there is also cheaper than LA and the neighboring beach towns are fantastic (Carlsbad, Dana Point, Laguna Beach)

    • @miraclebox7798
      @miraclebox7798 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      i was gonna suggest other places in CA for the weather, but i didn’t actually know any places, so im going to just put a like on your suggestion to bump it up 😂😂

  • @user-np8yf8fj2w
    @user-np8yf8fj2w 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    yes! i hate when people complain about how unhappy they are with the way they look/their clothes/hair/being too pale when they have the means to change it, just change it!

  • @LeahKathleen
    @LeahKathleen 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    This was so insightful and validating. I grew up with an older sister who was praised for her intellect and I was always on the slower side. She bullied me into believing I was stupid and I still struggle with that to this day, even though I have a college degree and a great job that I excel at. Still learning how to self fulfill my prophecy but it’s in motion!

  • @aimsfabs6147
    @aimsfabs6147 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

    Fluent in Yapanese and I loved every second 😁❤️

  • @ELeigh573
    @ELeigh573 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This has come at the PERFECT time for me I can’t even explain. 🙏🏽

  • @owen5515
    @owen5515 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Madeleine as someone also newly diagnosed with adhd/add and going through college these videos are sooo helpful and validating ❤️

  • @alysaboada6933
    @alysaboada6933 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    This video was insanely helpful and eye-opening. My perspective on myself has genuinely changed, you don't understand how much hearing this helped me. Thank you Madeline

  • @liscassiaflower
    @liscassiaflower 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    17:20 I also have adhd and everything u said here was so relatable 😭 same thing with me, absolutely hated talking and answering in school as a child and honestly all throughout my life, I think it’s the energy it takes for our brain to focus on the information that we physically can’t talk on top (also prob social anxiety as well) but the hyperactive brain making us feel deeply about topics can cause feelings of unworthiness for kids with adhd :/ good to recognise these things though to understand and improve, for years I had no idea and was constantly worsening myself

  • @inomalika
    @inomalika 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    I'M SCROLLING THROUGH TH-cam AND IT WAS SO UNEXPECTED AND NICE TO SEE THIS NEW VIDEO. Of course you're shooting, smart girl! you inspire me, because I also want to start a channel
    I LOVEEE YOUUU💘

  • @julianaportillo3495
    @julianaportillo3495 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. Im currently anxious and I know all of this but in moments of extreme anxiety its hard to remember this THANK YOU

  • @arturgrigoryan6555
    @arturgrigoryan6555 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Madeline literally helped a lot of girls boost up their confidence and whoever is reading this ur very beautiful and everythiinnggg🎀✨

  • @inomalika
    @inomalika 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    your path is very similar to mine, sometimes I think how crazy the similarities are between us
    it's so cool to be heard, even through a screen

  • @Emeliaalkerson
    @Emeliaalkerson 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    This was soooo good. I can’t tell you how much I needed this.❤

  • @aurphoria
    @aurphoria 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Best episode you’ve done so far ❤

  • @melis7250
    @melis7250 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is the only thing that calms me down during final exams, love you for your videos 🫶🏼

  • @violetacoutinho
    @violetacoutinho 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    My favorite episode so far!!

  • @eustaquiozambrano2974
    @eustaquiozambrano2974 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Thanks for sharing.
    Have an amazing wonderful girl. ❤❤

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This resonated so strongly with me. I’ve always been a pessimist by default, but as I get older I understand that there is no value in that. So I’ve been actively trying to be more accepting when things don’t go as I initially expect. It’s the universe giving me a sign or an opportunity, rather than a hurdle or an attack on me. I’ve by no means mastered it, and pessimism is still my knee jerk reaction. But I’m learning to talk myself out of that and look at the other side. It’s not easy, but it’s getting easier every year. How you perceive your circumstances is fully up to you, and that’s so powerful!

    • @ehams9527
      @ehams9527 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I’m proud of you!

  • @aashley.aguilar
    @aashley.aguilar 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    thank you so much for this madz i love you

  • @faithharding8052
    @faithharding8052 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    LOVING the spiritual toneeeee magical girly

  • @danielasantana9256
    @danielasantana9256 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    omg this came at the PERFECT time, I have therapy tomorrow and I'm going to show her this because it's EXACTLY how I feel !!! I'm just not in the confidence part yet 😭😭

  • @TheAnnabaaanana
    @TheAnnabaaanana 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    You're definitely beautiful Madeline, don't ever doubt that🥰 You're also adorable, sweet smart & funny and very loved ❣

  • @Slaytron69
    @Slaytron69 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    learning russian because of villanelle is so real

    • @sahar719
      @sahar719 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Is that a movie character? Which movie plz 💕

    • @Slaytron69
      @Slaytron69 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@sahar719 she’s from a show called killing eve

  • @hayleyvantol7673
    @hayleyvantol7673 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    “Believe it and you will see it” + “if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change” I live by these Wayne Dyer quotes they go both ways too so I kinda feel like if I’m u at least aiming for neutral my experience is already elevated + more stable + a blank slate for anything good on top of that to be that and not just swallowed tying to cancel out the bad.

  • @bluejeanzxx
    @bluejeanzxx 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    this is rlly helpful, i literally needed this rn

  • @miley7888
    @miley7888 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'll never miss an episode

  • @Shmellix
    @Shmellix 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is awesome. I've been deconstructing the internal beliefs and perceptions I have about myself, and other people, and the world for years now. Keep finding even deeper beliefs that cause suffering, and really curiously investigate them, why do I think this why, why do I believe this, who told me this etc... And it's a difficult journey, but it's so worth it. When you deconstruct these limiting beliefs, you get the opportunity to decide who you want to be. Right now I'm working through such a deep painful belief I've lived with my whole life. That I'm not good enough. It's such a fucker of a belief, it really messes with your experience of life in every way. But over this last year I've seen a huge shift in how I treat myself, how I show up in my relationships, and what I believe I'm worthy of. I'm starting to act like I am good enough. But really, the truth is, we are all far more than enough

  • @krustytheaustralian1095
    @krustytheaustralian1095 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    thank u so much 4 this i rly needed to hear it today

  • @rezigiuszofficial69
    @rezigiuszofficial69 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    i love you this video is like a gods gift ive been feeling so down lately and completely forgot i can just not feel like that

    • @igorfilin8342
      @igorfilin8342 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Congratulations

  • @nigeriijbol
    @nigeriijbol 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    your skin looks AMAZING

  • @DianaGarcia-ho7ir
    @DianaGarcia-ho7ir 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    loveddd this episode def my fav

  • @ryanwilkinsx7002
    @ryanwilkinsx7002 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    i needed to hear this rn

  • @thedinadiaries
    @thedinadiaries 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I think you should just do whatever makes you happy !! Don’t worry about how other people perceive you, you know you want to move to Los Angeles. You could also move to just another place in Cali if ur scared or the Los Angeles title. Thank u for this podcast ❤

  • @marylou281
    @marylou281 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    I love that mindset of having to be delusional to reach ur goals or move on in life, its actually what cench explained too at his chickenshop date

  • @that_biker_boy5550
    @that_biker_boy5550 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Everything about this girl is super charming! What a gem! 💎
    Great work as always, your content is refreshingly beautiful. ✨👌

  • @foyle2698
    @foyle2698 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for providing entertainment while I'm revising!!!!!!! listening to you yap is somewhat educational I can't lie

  • @marie_agg
    @marie_agg 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Girl ypur skin is GLOWINGGGGGGG

  • @spicyp8864
    @spicyp8864 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Haha, thanks for being candid and authentic. This episode will help the people it needs to

  • @cinnamonspider1
    @cinnamonspider1 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    17:00 that part gave me so much motivation i struggle with selective mutism and i hope i can be like that some day

    • @erinlafferty1447
      @erinlafferty1447 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      me too!!! love to see that im not alone with sm

  • @zariabernardd
    @zariabernardd 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Your best pod yet

  • @norah2116
    @norah2116 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    So much love Madeline ❤ your fans from Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦

  • @ariapest
    @ariapest 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    MAKE MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS PLEASEEE

  • @SageYourSolace
    @SageYourSolace 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    omg girl I am in love with your content
    your so real and inspiring fr
    and WERE SO SIMILAR LIKE OML
    i love it 🔥🔥🫶🏻🫶🏻🙌🏻

  • @bellella_6926
    @bellella_6926 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    There's no breathing app on the market that could make me as calm as listening to this podcast does. I literally save a new one for when I need to calm down

  • @Czypu
    @Czypu 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is powerful... the first part...

  • @enzojules4735
    @enzojules4735 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    why am i listening to madeline podcast like i have the same problem as her but im a 18yrs old straight white men 💀

    • @ehams9527
      @ehams9527 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You can do whatever you want

    • @enzojules4735
      @enzojules4735 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@ehams9527 i hope

    • @Shmellix
      @Shmellix 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Because it doesn't matter your gender or the colour of your skin, at the end of the day, underneath it all, we are all human. And we have a lot more in common than people like to believe.

  • @yasminwoolrich
    @yasminwoolrich 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    THIS IS THE EARLIEST I'VE EVER BEEN!

  • @vertanine7870
    @vertanine7870 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    You said you hate the UK but i think it's a just matter of your perspective. Isn't it what your whole video is about? I think you should try to enjoy it, put aside your hatred and explore every corner of London, try every fucking restaurant there, travel around UK etc. We always think that grass is greener on the other side but it's not. We just don't know how (or want) to appreciate things.
    That being said, love your podcasts girl ❤️

  • @irenecorcione5254
    @irenecorcione5254 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    i feel you so much girl !! It's been 4 years that i moved to London, and the weather here is just depressing me. I am thinking of another plce where to go but i feel stuck because of my job.... I think you should try and move to LA, what can go wrong? You have nothing that is keeping you here in terms of house contract or job.. so you are pretty much free to explore. Even if it doesn't turn right, the worst that can happen is that you ome back to London in one year. You will find London exactly as it is now, don't worry, you will not miss out haha Also, I think that is even more intresting in your 20s to live in 4\5 different places. it brings out sides of you that you will never find out by staying in your old same comfort town. I am 26 now and have lived in 4 different places since i moved out of my parents house for uni when i was 18 and i can look back ans see all the different stages of my mind and life prosprective based on the place where i was and the people i met there... i actually mimss that so much :( !!! I think that since i am an "audlt" and i have a real job it is so much more difficult for me to take the decison to just leave. But I want to move, pls if you have any suggestion in how to not feel stuck and be brave to leave your job and start a new life sowhere else I am here to hear.

  • @user-me7cb1qm2s
    @user-me7cb1qm2s วันที่ผ่านมา

    thnx for this video it's amazing and best way to appear
    in the heart and significant talk .

  • @violetablock
    @violetablock 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    you are so funny even without trying omg, you gave me such a good time 😂❤

  • @saaranghaae
    @saaranghaae 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This was enlightening

  • @greypiquero9056
    @greypiquero9056 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    hope you get to keep that kind of flow in you and keep yourself healthy madz

  • @Slaytron69
    @Slaytron69 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    this is honestly the secret to life

  • @user-uw3og8th5i
    @user-uw3og8th5i 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This episode is everything you are such an intelligent bae

  • @kezziahhh
    @kezziahhh 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    this was so good and such a healthy episode, might be my fav from u so far

  • @haleynetwork
    @haleynetwork 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    u help me sm you dont understand i thank you sm I relate sm

  • @marylynn259
    @marylynn259 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I also loved Villanelle! Nice video thank youuuu

  • @4real464
    @4real464 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Cool stuff, it’s interesting how a mind can influence the rest of the body and things outside it. Have a good week!

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's incredible how our perspective can shape our reality and outlook on life. Believing in ourselves and maintaining a positive mindset truly opens doors to blessings we might not have noticed otherwise.

  • @madelinerose444
    @madelinerose444 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    We are so similar it’s scary lol same name, look alike, and I also had to drop out of high school because of constant panic attacks and the embarrassment of just existing lol

  • @alwaysachance217
    @alwaysachance217 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    😮 12:32 love all of this. Can hard relate. Love the vid. Liked

  • @alex-jp3tp
    @alex-jp3tp 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    the villanelle obsession was so real

  • @PansyChannel-WomansExcellence
    @PansyChannel-WomansExcellence 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    People with faith are strong; People who doubt a lot are weak. Strong belief surpasses great actions.

  • @abusiveteenager
    @abusiveteenager 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    also thank you for not making the title ugly it looks good like this

  • @AnnaJohansson-ws5wj
    @AnnaJohansson-ws5wj 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The way you said so gross and your laugh was so cute 😂❣️

  • @hayleyw9904
    @hayleyw9904 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I just went to LA too! And I thought I would love it but I didn’t 😭 made me appreciate London lols

  • @nicollerodriguezz
    @nicollerodriguezz 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I’m at work you just saved my life

  • @darartumunira93
    @darartumunira93 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Low key God heard your prayers and knew she wasn’t it and better was coming for you ❤

  • @Sofiaandbillie
    @Sofiaandbillie 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

    THIS IS THE EARLIEST EVER BEEN WHAT THE HECK

    • @Rugaya-Sureyya
      @Rugaya-Sureyya 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Same and I'm still in school😂

  • @maryamali6332
    @maryamali6332 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When I say we’re the same person I MEAN IT I swear I’m in university I’m studying English and just started linguistics and I just finished season two of killing eve and ofc I’m obsessed w villanelle not mentioning the shyness and adhd behaviors that I have since I was a kid and so many things I notice while watching ur episodes ,a lot of coincidences and I genuinely don’t know why?

  • @user-ze4oc8qo4p
    @user-ze4oc8qo4p 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Omg she is so pretty😮

  • @philipholding
    @philipholding 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Self fullfilling prophecy ( labelling theory) is an extremely potent construct. We are influenced by others a lot more than what we think or would admit to.

  • @lizziedeerest
    @lizziedeerest 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    omg I love Killing Eve and there's so much to love about Villanelle

  • @kezziahhh
    @kezziahhh 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    travel!! obviously only determines on how expensive it would be but if u think ur financially stable for it travelling around Europe and other places like the US would be so fun to watch icl and would help u with your issue about wanting to move and where :)

  • @liscassiaflower
    @liscassiaflower 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    LMAOO I feel like we all went through the phase of villanelle obsession I love jodie comer

  • @Fajrk.
    @Fajrk. 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    you're so pretty ! love the video

  • @caro5620
    @caro5620 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    15 seconds in but the how to be hot and confident video was my first one i saw of yours and it changed my life honestly and i’ve avidly watched everything of yours ever since. so this is full circle for me 🥲💜

  • @humzuh-ahmed
    @humzuh-ahmed 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    how to be hot and confident was uploaded over a year ago not 6 months ago madeline 😭

  • @abusiveteenager
    @abusiveteenager 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    this was the best one. i love manifestation and people need to talk about it more

  • @ehams9527
    @ehams9527 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Madz, ur amazing

  • @meghanathota3136
    @meghanathota3136 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I’m soo early I love it ❤

  • @Pourin_it_out
    @Pourin_it_out 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love the way you just talk non stop girl 😭😂 like breathe a little it’s fine 😘😅

  • @yunidelarte
    @yunidelarte 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This was so interesting 🤔👀👌

  • @Aronia222
    @Aronia222 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    you are right mady

  • @MayaMinards
    @MayaMinards 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Madeline is love you.❤❤❤ ever thought of Australia its warm,palm trees vibes nice people and its probably safer in Australia than in America

    • @MayaMinards
      @MayaMinards 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      La and Australia are very different vibes. You seem so happy in La so i think La is probably the best option.😊😊

  • @QuyLe-nj7of
    @QuyLe-nj7of 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I really love your video.... :))

  • @KonstantinPrydnikov1
    @KonstantinPrydnikov1 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Where are those lovely days when you were sitting in your cosy old car and talk in poisony-childish maner. I could watch you ten times per day) Something defenetly is going derail now, but what exactly? Don't miss the soul in a fuzzy mist of shitable stuff. Your speech so valuable for studying English, so natuaral, fluent and soulfulness, you even don't realize what a pure diamond you are as teacher, cathing attention by naturality) Be happy, beautiful and honest, darling Pretty)

  • @rudymartinez4996
    @rudymartinez4996 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very pretty, smart and good heart ❤❤❤❤

  • @hamesh3474
    @hamesh3474 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Mix the flat tire scenario with reading your daily horoscope... And it will definitely make sense..what mads is talking about is fates huge hands guiding us

  • @grateful.7918
    @grateful.7918 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    3:00 you are talking about an islamic phenomenon called taqwa, interesting to hear this from a non-muslim.

  • @inomalika
    @inomalika 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I have “Killing Eve” on my list to watch and when I heard this I was shocked hah.
    I could teach you Russian as soon as I improve my English

  • @localsugarpuff4698
    @localsugarpuff4698 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    i love when u yap its fun